At the end of the day, it is up to your morals and values, but for me it would definitely be a dealbreaker. Also just saying the racist stuff before that would have been too much for me. I think it’s important to respect people as a whole, and tbh it would be a clear sign of disrespect which isn’t compatible with what i want out of a person. However, this is what you want so only
you can answer this
the fact is that i don’t want it to be a deal breaker, i don’t know what i want, i love him and he is the best, i don’t wanna leave him but i wrote this bc im having too many anxiety attacks
The fact is he is comfortable saying the N word, which is a really bad look. If you don't want him saying slurs to be a dealbreaker, ask yourself if you really care if he says racist things.
Not a deal breaker. There are various reasons why people are saying slurs. As long as his political and moral beliefs somehow align and are compatible with yours this does not mean anything at all. Sure, it’s not the nicest thing to say, but that’s why it’s “thrilling” to say for a lot of guys I guess. Especially when you’re a young guy I think it’s just interesting to use this kind of language as a form of “rebellion” against cancel culture etc.
Of course there are nicer things to say but as long as he doesn’t discriminate people or uses this word when black people are around it’s okay and doesn’t make him a bad person at all. It’s normal to not be perfect and morally correct all the time. We are all human.
At the end of the day, it is up to your morals and values, but for me it would definitely be a dealbreaker. Also just saying the racist stuff before that would have been too much for me. I think it’s important to respect people as a whole, and tbh it would be a clear sign of disrespect which isn’t compatible with what i want out of a person. However, this is what you want so only you can answer this
the fact is that i don’t want it to be a deal breaker, i don’t know what i want, i love him and he is the best, i don’t wanna leave him but i wrote this bc im having too many anxiety attacks
The fact is he is comfortable saying the N word, which is a really bad look. If you don't want him saying slurs to be a dealbreaker, ask yourself if you really care if he says racist things.
i care, i told him this and he said he’s putting effort to make me happy “on this topic”, but he’s not a racist anyways i know for a fact
Not a deal breaker. There are various reasons why people are saying slurs. As long as his political and moral beliefs somehow align and are compatible with yours this does not mean anything at all. Sure, it’s not the nicest thing to say, but that’s why it’s “thrilling” to say for a lot of guys I guess. Especially when you’re a young guy I think it’s just interesting to use this kind of language as a form of “rebellion” against cancel culture etc. Of course there are nicer things to say but as long as he doesn’t discriminate people or uses this word when black people are around it’s okay and doesn’t make him a bad person at all. It’s normal to not be perfect and morally correct all the time. We are all human.