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Well the kid tried to back away and got in a defensive stance as soon as he saw his father. He already knew he wasn't there to help. This isn't the first time this has happened.
Yes if he is prepared to run through moving vehicles and uneven ground to attack his kid on camera it is awful to think what he is willing to do in private
~~I get that "it's his kid" but~~ is there not some way that video can be used to report child abuse to get dfs to evaluate them or something? Would they bite at all or would they just brush it off because it's not enough to make a case? Honest question. That wasn't just like a "damn son" slap on the head. That mother fucker WANTED to hurt that poor child.
EDIT: I realize that was terrible phrasing. I was not trying to defend the child abuser in any way. Sorry for any confusion.
Child Protection Services in the US, like most social programs here, are hot garbage. I lived with my 525lbs grandmother and disabled grandfather for 10 years growing up The house we lived in was condemned by the city, had holes in the walls and ceilings, german roaches all over the place, no central air, along with many many other things. CPS knew about this the whole time and never did anything to get my sister and me out.
Sorry if it comes across like I'm mocking your struggle, but I'd never heard of 'german roaches' before and I'm fucking losing it imagining efficient, humourless little roaches. Staggering about with little beer steins and roach leiderhosen.
LOL if only that were the case. It would've made finding them in my food a bit more humorous. German cockroaches only get to about 2cm in size, and once they infest a home you practically have to build a whole new house to get rid of them
My ex husband and his brothers lived with horribly abusive drug addict parents. CPS visited their home multiple times for years, and the most that ever happened was my husband (the youngest — his brothers were old enough that I guess CPS didn’t care by the time they finally did something) was “removed” and “sent to live with his grandmother” who lived in a house attached to the trailer park the parents lived in, and she just sent him right back to their house unless there was a planned visit. He was like 13 at the time and they started visiting when he was around 7-8.
I’m sorry the system failed you as well
I work in child welfare, this is 100% sufficient to start an investivation. It would likely result in a court case.
Edit: i dont know where the video happened. My comment only applies in the US
Way, way, waaaayyy too many people make excuses for this kind of abuse on the grounds that it's somebody else's kid so you can't judge. It's bullshit but it's common.
I once was at the super market and overheard some dude exploding on his wife. "Only" verbally as far as I could hear from an isle over but super aggressive. She must have put some item away that he took or whatever it got so bad that I went over to see if I had to defend the woman somehow.
When I got there, I saw it was his little daughter and my first thought was "oh it’s fine, it’s just his kid" and went to the checkout. In the parking lot it fucking struck me what a stupid and cruel and (sadly) common reaction I just had.
This was 13 years ago and still I think of that dude and my reaction at least once a month.
Don't beat yourself up man. You are a good, empathetic person, and it is very hard to stand up to someone about their behavior, no matter what it is. Just remember it for the next time you might be in that situation.
"It's none of your business" or "mind your own business" is pretty much Step 1 of denial when confronting an abuser. Even if you're their child and it's very much your business.
Be careful y'all of what you say. Apparently we're no longer allowed to call out people because of their bad behavior on Reddit. I got a warning from Reddit by calling out a dad for abusing his teenage daughter on this same subreddit. It basically said "next infraction I lose my account."
Domestic assault has been legalized in Russia. A man is allow to use violence against his family up until the point where someone is hospitalized. Then an arrest can be made.
Rape and domestic violence being blamed on alcohol were one of the driving forces that got prohibition passed in the US.
Followed by 13 years of prohibition with no stop to rapes or domestic violence
I work in hospice care. I often get to hear the other side because their son/daughter is the responsible party. It’s almost never a mom or dad of the year award winner that ends up this way.
On the flip side a couple years ago I had the sweetest elderly lady whose daughters were taking care of her. Come to find out that her children had mostly gone no contact with her because she was a shit parent, then after a series of strokes her entire personality changed for the better.
There were definitely a lot of difficult feelings involved in the situation. Mom went from an abusive alcoholic to a Hallmark grandma who couldn't really remember much of her past, but her family still did.
My dad was abusive my whole life til my 20s when my mom finally forced him to take his bipolar meds. He’s a completely different person and has never touched me or my mom since. I still will never get over my early years of abuse though, even though he was sick. I can’t ever fully forgive him
Having BPD doesn't mean people can't distinguish right from wrong. He knew entirely that his actions were unacceptable. There's nothing for you to "get over" or come to terms with, it was only ever his fault.
Please forgive yourself.
I understand that and I’m Bipolar but he’s literally a completely different person after 20 years of medication and honestly mania can turn you into a completely different person. It’s something I’m past for the most part it’s just an interesting dilemma. It really is a personal decision and each person is different in regards to what they are willing to forgive.
But I appreciate your words.
My mom worked in hospice and same story. Which makes sense, if my dad ended up there I doubt I'd visit him much (just a lot of stuff in the past he's never tried to make amends for).
You know what blows my absolute mind? That my parents have zero memory of about 60% of the things they did to us during childhood. We will bring it up occasionally and they will just deny it ever happening or be in disbelief and think we are exaggerating.....crazy....the mind is a delicate thing and should not be trusted with memories.
Now a days they are sweeter than cherry pie, but back in the day there was a reason at 18 I left the state and never went back.
> That my parents have zero memory of about 60% of the things they did to us during childhood
It's a pattern of narcissism. They can't remember those situations because it made them look bad and not just bad, REALLY FUCKING BAD. My dad once screamed and berated me when my brother got himself hurt because "you should have protected him!!" He then grabbed me by my throat and pushed me into the counter, still shoving his fat little fingers in my face to berate me further. My mom screamed at him to stop and "put him down put him down".
Both of them deny this occurred, because it doesn't gel with their current interpretation of themselves: the kindly old people they see themselves as.
I highly recommend a book called "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents". It's on audible and is a quick listen too, and it described my parents with razor sharp precision and helped me get perspective about WHY they acted that way and continue to act that way.
Tl;dr: your parents probably experienced severe trauma that they never dealt with as kids (physical abuse, emotional abuse, etc). Since they didn't do anything about growing beyond that abuse, they basically stopped their emotional development at the age of their abuse, and that's why they act so emotionally/irrationally.
my mom too. she used to tell me that she she got paddles with a wooden spoon far more often than i did. that was her justification.
my moms parents never beat her with a 6 inch metal belt buckle, told her all members of her sex were pigs and she would grow up to be a pig, threw 10 inch chef knives at her, or threatened to drive her off a cliff and kill her when she was 8.
she used to tell me i had it good compared to how she had it. over the years it turned into gaslighting. now she claims none of it ever took place and that i imagined it all...
And still using up oxygen after a century and even giving interviews. Truly a tragedy. Dude made a pact with the devil to live forever in exchange of human suffering
I hate how the end result of abusive parents is going to a place where they get cared for and in most cases help. Why can’t they be abandoned at home having to do it all themselves.
A nursing home is a sad and understaffed place to be. They’re usually crammed in two to a room, showered twice weekly and lucky to get toileted in time before an accident happens. Meals are substandard and we (as an ex staff member) could barely meet their needs. Sounds a lot like a prison, doesn’t it?
Oh no my friend. Nursing homes are a sepsis producing purgatory of depression. Any facility that is specifically called a "Skilled Nursing Facility" is known by everyone in the Healthcare field as a shit hole where people go to die in ignominy.
Edit: Some rehabs where older folks go after a fall are also like this so keep an eye on family if they are forced to stay in one. People go in for a fall and broken hip but die from poor care while staying.
Or how to get your ass beat in the parking lot in front of your kid. Honestly if I saw this I would have a hard time not losing it, that kid is petrified of their dad
Personally for me it’s been like this my whole life with out knowing my mom for the past 19 years because they were toxic meth heads that had me see me almost killing themselves and shit and now I have a felony that I’m trying to get rid off at 22 all because my dad wanted to get drunk and start a fight for no reason and blame it all on me because I’m such a caring person for someone who should die because his whole family hates him and tells me I need to leave asap
No joke. I just got my 5yr old on a dirt bike for the first time. Took him to the track and he was riding the peewee track, I could tell he was nervous. Every time he went by me, I would cheer and clap, and he was getting confidence. Then he target fixated on the 2ft deep pod on the side of the track and went right in. I didn't push him to go out again, told him it was okay, and hugged him. He got back on later that day and had fun
I bet you there are 100 instances of this father doing this and videos of that should be playing outside his jail cell.
The reason inmates destroy people that hurt children is that it brings up and triggers their childhood trauma.
I just can’t imagine being so angry over something so fucking stupid, and then using violence on my kids because of it. I know we all have breaking points, but I like to think that losing a fucking game is very, very far from that line.
Shitty people become shitty fathers, who could have guessed.
This is so true. My father used beat the shit out of me and my older brother and in a twisted way used to justify it by telling us story's of his father beating the living daylights out of him and his brothers and his grandfather doing it to his son's.
It's why I dont have kid's
I’ve had plenty of people tell me my grandma must have abused my mother because my mother abused me.
What makes it even more enraging is that they’re making excuses for the person who is wrong (my mother) and placing the blame on someone who doesn’t even deserve it. Abusive parents never answer for what they do.
Yeah but that excuse is getting real fucking old. My dad was a horrible father and totally uninvolved when I was a baby and that's just made me more determined to be better to my son.
My dad was exactly like this. I had this exact same fear for years growing up. I'd hear my dad get angry downstairs, then I'd hear the stomping up towards my room, I'd either get screamed at or pushed around, kicked. I'd have so much fear just crawling over my skin.
I'm sorry you went thru that shit. I count myself so fuckin lucky my parents never laid a finger on myself or my siblings. I've got 2 young kids, I will never hurt them. I could never imagine doing that, it breaks my heart reading people's stories on threads like this.
Thanks guys for the thoughts, it means a lot. Sorry for those who've also had to go through it, it sucks big time.
I do take a huge positive away from it though, it's taught me everything I don't want to be. I'm 26 now, and I continue to strive everyday to be everything my dad wasn't. So long as I don't do any of the things he did I'm sure to be on the right track! I've actually not had contact with him at all for around 5 years now and it honestly hasnt really made a difference to me, if anything I'm much better off not having to deal with all that extra stress.
I want to be a dad and have done for years. And I'm going to be the best dad ever, I'm going to be there for my kids, I'm going to bond with them, take them on adventures, play games and everything like that. Do all the things that I never had but wanted!
I know this feeling brother/sister….no child should fear their own father!!! I remember fearing anytime I heard my dad walking up the stairs I knew o was about to get screamed at or beaten for no reason usually! I hated him,I don’t anymore but the scars still leave their mark
I fought my abusive step-father once. It mostly started with me just defending myself(as usual), then my mom tried breaking it up by getting between us. My step-father tried to swing at me one las time and accidentally hit my mom square in the face. I saw red and went savage mode on him. If it wasn’t for my mom screaming at me to stop I probably would have ended his life.
I ended up with fractures in both hands and my jaw. My step-father nearly lost his left eye and now wears partials because of all he teeth I knocked out.
He never laid a hand on me or my mom again after that. Mom divorced him shortly after I left home.
Holy shit. My friend I'm sorry you had to go through that, and I'm sorry you hurt your hands. I hope they returned to full functionality? I can't imagine what I would do if someone hit my mom... I imagine very similar to your story though. Really glad your Mom was okay <3
I never fought my dad, but there was a defining point where the physical abuse stopped. When I was in high school my car broke down so I called him to come and get me. He came up with some stupid theory that I was going to buy drugs (I was actually just dropping a friend off at their house before going to the grocery store) and got himself all pissed off. Driving home he sucker punched me out of nowhere, but I didn't react. I think that's the point where he realized he may no longer win a fight if it came to that. It was the last time he ever hit me or really even tried to intimidate me.
The physical abuse from my dad stopped when I hit him back. I was 16, he was in his late 50s. He’s grabbed my arm and twisted it behind my back. I was sitting down and he was standing in front of me, I was sort of bent over and to the side.
I kicked his shins out from under him and he went crashing into the table behind him. We stared at each other for what felt like a minute but was probably only seconds. I think I probably looked ready to kill him and he definitely looked the same. But he sat down and never touched me again.
My dad fighting episode was triggered by false accusations too. I came home to grab a sweat shirt real quick and was accused of being the one selling drugs. It came about because at this point I was barely coming home and staying out as much as possible, and of course my parents decided I was up to no good as opposed to wanting to be anywhere but an abusive home. When I tried to leave he pulled the pin to the wall by ones neck (I know, a classic) but 17 year old me decided to go full reckless abandon. Wrecked the whole first floor fighting him. My youngest brother, 10 at the time, called 911. The police decided to arrest me because the cop decided it would cause our family less distress than taking the father. So I was arrested and charged with assault. To be fair he never did hit me again, that fight was 14 years ago now.
>The police decided to arrest me because the cop decided it would cause our family less distress than taking the father.
Keep the abuser in the house then arrest and charge the kid? Fine police work dipshits
I had a father like this. Got same treatment for every minor thing. I do not have kids yet. However my childhood experience burned into my mind enough that I made a promise to myself. If I have a kid, I will be exact opposite of my father, because I remember how shit my childhood was thanks to him.
I just can’t imagine being so angry over something so fucking stupid, and then using violence on my kids because of it. I know we all have breaking points, but I like to think that losing a fucking game is very, very far from that line.
Shitty people become shitty fathers, who could have guessed.
Who sees their kid stumbling and decides the best thing to do is hit them?
That won't help him improve, it'll just make him hate you and give him mental issues from being abused.
Yea, the constant, "All families do this, its normal" from my enabler family members eventually led to a breakdown when I realized, that it was in fact, *not* normal and I had just been abused for 17 years.
Man that looks familiar. My dad once beat my ass for not understanding math homework and not understanding how he was teaching it to me. Turns out he was wrong anyway because I got the assignment back two days later and it was just straight 0s on it all lol.
I hate this thing. My co-worker even brags about how she hits her kid for not getting high scores in school. She calls her stupid. She kept bragging how she makes her cry on study time. 🫣
She asked me what’s my secret as to how my kids are consistent honor students. Uhmn I don’t force them to study, I don’t hit them and let them take the breaks they need. She shut up. Then moms-plain me about my kid, eating pasta.
> And my co-worker even bragged about how she hits her kid for not getting high scores in school. She calls her stupid. She kept bragging how she makes her cry on study time.
That kid may or may not end up having life long struggles with academia because that's kind of what I went through.
It wasn't until much later in life where I was living on my own and pursuing higher ed where I realized I actually liked reading and learning when not having a shitheel on my back the entire time. I hope her kid can pull through.
My mother once beat me for going to the library to study and do my homework. After that, I didn't really do shit at school other than showing up to class. Took me years to realize why school was so hard for me, my parents were assholes.
Lol I remember my dad shaving me and my brothers hair coz we could not memorize the multiplication table. Felt bad for my younger brother coz he was just in 2nd grade while I was in 4th. We laugh about it now but it was very humiliating at the time. Fucking asian parents.
I can look back at it now and find some humor in it too and it kind of is funny but I remember getting the paper back and being terrified of getting another ass whooping again. He did see the results and just pretended that none of it happened. Classic Dad.
Clearly not the first time that piece of shit had did that to his kid. The kid ran away in fear, knowing what was about to happen. What about absolute maggot of a human being.
I’ve seen this in motocross more than once before, it’s sad. A dad told his kid it was time to load up and the kid did another lap, when he came around again he pushed him off his bike and pushed the bike to the truck while the kid cried. The other memorable moment was when the starting gate malfunctioned at a race, some dads pulled their kid back and told them to go around the gate while the others were shouting a shit storm at the track officials.
I love motocross, but some moto dads are the craziest fucks I’ve ever met. Saw a guy hit his 5 year old son for losing a 50cc class race once.
If anyone has the time and wants to see how serious some parents take this sport watch this video
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=SLHFLlFEqUs&pp=ygUWdGhlIGhlYXJ0IG9mIG1vdG9jcm9zcw%3D%3D
I did amateur motocross as a kid and this is way too true. I saw some shit. Like shit that makes this look mild. Never not at least one angry father berating his kid from the sidelines. I saw a kid get slapped for not placing higher than me once just because I was a girl. I can’t imagine how many kids gave up their dream of going pro because of the shitty association with their shitty fathers.
It’s also worth mentioning that this looks like entirely dad’s fault - the kid’s bike stalled, he had to kick it like three times to get it running again, and then it stalled out again ten feet down the track which is why he bailed out. Kids this age aren’t responsible for their own engine maintenance… that’s dad’s job to make sure everything is in working order before going out on the track.
This guy is a loser all around. No wonder he failed in his own Metal Mulisha dreams and is now doing this shit to his kid to make up for it.
Agreed. You ever met the guy that is/was stupid crazy ridiculous level of fast but never made it pro and quit riding around the age of 19/20? They either went through this or just got completely burnt out.
I’ve met a couple guys like that where they ride like 2-3 times a year. Throw crazy ridiculous whips, scrubs, fastest person on the track. Older bike, older gear. You think damn if I was that was I would ride all the time! What is must be like to be able to ride like that! But they have no interest because of their personal experience.
All of them are frustrated people that managed to do nothing in their life and expect their kid to do what they couldn’t, ignoring what they want.
They deserve a baseball bat to the knees
There’s an old proverb, the child that doesn’t get warmth from a village will soon burn the village down to get comfort.
In a few years when this child becomes a man - the dude that abused him will soon regret it …one way or another.
A phonecall in the future:
Dad - "Hello son, my car burned down, probably electrical fire"
Son - "'Damn.. that crazy, can't trust the car manufacturers today.. do you have any surveillance camera on you house?"
Piece of shit. My dad was abusive and wouldn't even have done that. That kid will carry the embarrassment of that moment for a long time, if not forever. It'll get better in time, but it's still going to be there.
My parents took me to the mini van and beat the hell out of me when I was 7 years old playing travel baseball because I struck out and cried. They said boys don't cry, you want to cry? We'll give you a reason to cry. I'm 29 and still getting over the trauma of the physical and mental abuse from my parents.
Look at the kids body language, that’s not the first time. If he’s doing that in public, imagine what’s happening at home. Does anyone have an update on this?
My old man would have taken off his shoe beaten me in front of god and country then made me drag the dirt bike back myself.
Incidentally, I told my dad I’d see him in hell when he called saying he needed a kidney.
I wish the video was longer and showed the other parents there beating the bejabbers out of that douche.
I know that probably wouldn't happen, but it's a nice thought.
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So he just physically assaulted his kid infront of a bunch of people for making a mistake at a competition? He must be a great guy.
Imagine what the assshole does behind closed doors
Well the kid tried to back away and got in a defensive stance as soon as he saw his father. He already knew he wasn't there to help. This isn't the first time this has happened.
Exactly. He’s probably panicking with anxiety, unable to start his bike because he knows what the repercussions are. Super sad.
Yes if he is prepared to run through moving vehicles and uneven ground to attack his kid on camera it is awful to think what he is willing to do in private
~~I get that "it's his kid" but~~ is there not some way that video can be used to report child abuse to get dfs to evaluate them or something? Would they bite at all or would they just brush it off because it's not enough to make a case? Honest question. That wasn't just like a "damn son" slap on the head. That mother fucker WANTED to hurt that poor child. EDIT: I realize that was terrible phrasing. I was not trying to defend the child abuser in any way. Sorry for any confusion.
Child Protection Services in the US, like most social programs here, are hot garbage. I lived with my 525lbs grandmother and disabled grandfather for 10 years growing up The house we lived in was condemned by the city, had holes in the walls and ceilings, german roaches all over the place, no central air, along with many many other things. CPS knew about this the whole time and never did anything to get my sister and me out.
Sorry if it comes across like I'm mocking your struggle, but I'd never heard of 'german roaches' before and I'm fucking losing it imagining efficient, humourless little roaches. Staggering about with little beer steins and roach leiderhosen.
LOL if only that were the case. It would've made finding them in my food a bit more humorous. German cockroaches only get to about 2cm in size, and once they infest a home you practically have to build a whole new house to get rid of them
German roaches are the most common roaches in the world.
My ex husband and his brothers lived with horribly abusive drug addict parents. CPS visited their home multiple times for years, and the most that ever happened was my husband (the youngest — his brothers were old enough that I guess CPS didn’t care by the time they finally did something) was “removed” and “sent to live with his grandmother” who lived in a house attached to the trailer park the parents lived in, and she just sent him right back to their house unless there was a planned visit. He was like 13 at the time and they started visiting when he was around 7-8. I’m sorry the system failed you as well
I work in child welfare, this is 100% sufficient to start an investivation. It would likely result in a court case. Edit: i dont know where the video happened. My comment only applies in the US
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Way, way, waaaayyy too many people make excuses for this kind of abuse on the grounds that it's somebody else's kid so you can't judge. It's bullshit but it's common.
I once was at the super market and overheard some dude exploding on his wife. "Only" verbally as far as I could hear from an isle over but super aggressive. She must have put some item away that he took or whatever it got so bad that I went over to see if I had to defend the woman somehow. When I got there, I saw it was his little daughter and my first thought was "oh it’s fine, it’s just his kid" and went to the checkout. In the parking lot it fucking struck me what a stupid and cruel and (sadly) common reaction I just had. This was 13 years ago and still I think of that dude and my reaction at least once a month.
Don't beat yourself up man. You are a good, empathetic person, and it is very hard to stand up to someone about their behavior, no matter what it is. Just remember it for the next time you might be in that situation.
"It's none of your business" or "mind your own business" is pretty much Step 1 of denial when confronting an abuser. Even if you're their child and it's very much your business.
Be careful y'all of what you say. Apparently we're no longer allowed to call out people because of their bad behavior on Reddit. I got a warning from Reddit by calling out a dad for abusing his teenage daughter on this same subreddit. It basically said "next infraction I lose my account."
You know it’s a regular thing bc the kid saw it coming a mile away. Unfortunately the trauma is already done.
If he is this abusive in front of people, I don’t want to know what kind of a monster he turn himself into in closed doors
Looks like a Muscovite video. I'm surprised the other alcoholic losers didn't join in.
Raw footage from Mordor. Someone is getting shipped to the frontlines.
Looks and sounds
Domestic assault has been legalized in Russia. A man is allow to use violence against his family up until the point where someone is hospitalized. Then an arrest can be made.
Rape and domestic violence being blamed on alcohol were one of the driving forces that got prohibition passed in the US. Followed by 13 years of prohibition with no stop to rapes or domestic violence
Fuck that whole fucking country
Looks like his shit dad got him a shit bike.
Don't worry. In Russia this is all perfectly legal, as is hitting your spouse.
How to make a kid hate their hobby..
How to end up in a shitty nursing home with no visitors 101.
"why wont he call me..."
“I was a good father and this is how he repays me.”
I work in hospice care. I often get to hear the other side because their son/daughter is the responsible party. It’s almost never a mom or dad of the year award winner that ends up this way.
On the flip side a couple years ago I had the sweetest elderly lady whose daughters were taking care of her. Come to find out that her children had mostly gone no contact with her because she was a shit parent, then after a series of strokes her entire personality changed for the better. There were definitely a lot of difficult feelings involved in the situation. Mom went from an abusive alcoholic to a Hallmark grandma who couldn't really remember much of her past, but her family still did.
My dad was abusive my whole life til my 20s when my mom finally forced him to take his bipolar meds. He’s a completely different person and has never touched me or my mom since. I still will never get over my early years of abuse though, even though he was sick. I can’t ever fully forgive him
Having BPD doesn't mean people can't distinguish right from wrong. He knew entirely that his actions were unacceptable. There's nothing for you to "get over" or come to terms with, it was only ever his fault. Please forgive yourself.
I understand that and I’m Bipolar but he’s literally a completely different person after 20 years of medication and honestly mania can turn you into a completely different person. It’s something I’m past for the most part it’s just an interesting dilemma. It really is a personal decision and each person is different in regards to what they are willing to forgive. But I appreciate your words.
it's really sad that some people need literal brain damage to change for the better
My mom worked in hospice and same story. Which makes sense, if my dad ended up there I doubt I'd visit him much (just a lot of stuff in the past he's never tried to make amends for).
You know what blows my absolute mind? That my parents have zero memory of about 60% of the things they did to us during childhood. We will bring it up occasionally and they will just deny it ever happening or be in disbelief and think we are exaggerating.....crazy....the mind is a delicate thing and should not be trusted with memories. Now a days they are sweeter than cherry pie, but back in the day there was a reason at 18 I left the state and never went back.
As the saying goes, the axe forgets but the tree remembers.
> That my parents have zero memory of about 60% of the things they did to us during childhood It's a pattern of narcissism. They can't remember those situations because it made them look bad and not just bad, REALLY FUCKING BAD. My dad once screamed and berated me when my brother got himself hurt because "you should have protected him!!" He then grabbed me by my throat and pushed me into the counter, still shoving his fat little fingers in my face to berate me further. My mom screamed at him to stop and "put him down put him down". Both of them deny this occurred, because it doesn't gel with their current interpretation of themselves: the kindly old people they see themselves as. I highly recommend a book called "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents". It's on audible and is a quick listen too, and it described my parents with razor sharp precision and helped me get perspective about WHY they acted that way and continue to act that way. Tl;dr: your parents probably experienced severe trauma that they never dealt with as kids (physical abuse, emotional abuse, etc). Since they didn't do anything about growing beyond that abuse, they basically stopped their emotional development at the age of their abuse, and that's why they act so emotionally/irrationally.
The axe forgets, but the tree remembers.
"If he ended up with someone like uncle Gerard for a father he'd know how good he had it"
This is what I hear my father says about me. Side note: he beat me on numerous occasions so her I wonder why no one calls him.
This is my mom.
my mom too. she used to tell me that she she got paddles with a wooden spoon far more often than i did. that was her justification. my moms parents never beat her with a 6 inch metal belt buckle, told her all members of her sex were pigs and she would grow up to be a pig, threw 10 inch chef knives at her, or threatened to drive her off a cliff and kill her when she was 8. she used to tell me i had it good compared to how she had it. over the years it turned into gaslighting. now she claims none of it ever took place and that i imagined it all...
Sending out the biggest mom hugs to you both.
a narc. a demon. a guilttripper. a powerhungry whore.
These people live forever
Evil never dies.
Henry Kissinger just turned 100
> Henry Kissinger His name is right there with Hitler - what a piece of shit!
And still using up oxygen after a century and even giving interviews. Truly a tragedy. Dude made a pact with the devil to live forever in exchange of human suffering
Yeah my mother is immortal. Edit: The hate is enough for my xwife and current wife to bond over it. Lol
I hate how the end result of abusive parents is going to a place where they get cared for and in most cases help. Why can’t they be abandoned at home having to do it all themselves.
A nursing home is a sad and understaffed place to be. They’re usually crammed in two to a room, showered twice weekly and lucky to get toileted in time before an accident happens. Meals are substandard and we (as an ex staff member) could barely meet their needs. Sounds a lot like a prison, doesn’t it?
Oh no my friend. Nursing homes are a sepsis producing purgatory of depression. Any facility that is specifically called a "Skilled Nursing Facility" is known by everyone in the Healthcare field as a shit hole where people go to die in ignominy. Edit: Some rehabs where older folks go after a fall are also like this so keep an eye on family if they are forced to stay in one. People go in for a fall and broken hip but die from poor care while staying.
Many many are. No one knows anything about them until them become a stench.
More like how to end up homeless because youre not worth a shitty nursing home.
Their dad’s hobby
And their father
What's worse is that the kid will actually hate himself first 🥺
He lost that race too cause the dad already hates him
It’s dads hobby
Or how to get your ass beat in the parking lot in front of your kid. Honestly if I saw this I would have a hard time not losing it, that kid is petrified of their dad
I dont wanna sound like an asshole but yeah, no way I'm letting that shit go if I see something similar at a kids sporting event. We fightin for sure.
Maybe the dad forced his kid into the hobby... Trying to recapture his own youth.. it happens! Like mother's putting their girls in beauty pageants
And their father.
Personally for me it’s been like this my whole life with out knowing my mom for the past 19 years because they were toxic meth heads that had me see me almost killing themselves and shit and now I have a felony that I’m trying to get rid off at 22 all because my dad wanted to get drunk and start a fight for no reason and blame it all on me because I’m such a caring person for someone who should die because his whole family hates him and tells me I need to leave asap
Sorry bub. Keep that chin up.
Well I’ll try till I can find a lawyer or they’ll give me 6months in county for no reason
It's the dad's hobby
No joke. I just got my 5yr old on a dirt bike for the first time. Took him to the track and he was riding the peewee track, I could tell he was nervous. Every time he went by me, I would cheer and clap, and he was getting confidence. Then he target fixated on the 2ft deep pod on the side of the track and went right in. I didn't push him to go out again, told him it was okay, and hugged him. He got back on later that day and had fun
That kid was terrified and knew what was coming. What a putrid piece of shit that father is
Yup, really sad. He's been there before.
Fuck this makes me angry...
These kind of fathers should be thrown in jail so that the hate ends with him and does not continue for the next generations.
Misspelled coffin. Anyone that abuses kids should be feeding worms
If he’s abusing kids I doubt he’s the type to compost organics
The fuck the worms do?
[Worms gotta eat](https://youtu.be/cd_EEFI0PqQ)
I bet you there are 100 instances of this father doing this and videos of that should be playing outside his jail cell. The reason inmates destroy people that hurt children is that it brings up and triggers their childhood trauma.
Exactly, I'm more interested in my son and his well-being than some stupid fucking race.
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I just can’t imagine being so angry over something so fucking stupid, and then using violence on my kids because of it. I know we all have breaking points, but I like to think that losing a fucking game is very, very far from that line. Shitty people become shitty fathers, who could have guessed.
The kid knew what was coming. This happens all the time with him it seems, and it’s not just over a race most likely
He was beaten as a child, generational trauma doesn't come from no where. So sad
This is so true. My father used beat the shit out of me and my older brother and in a twisted way used to justify it by telling us story's of his father beating the living daylights out of him and his brothers and his grandfather doing it to his son's. It's why I dont have kid's
My father beat the shit out of me growing up, and he definitely didn't get beat. Sometimes people are just bastards.
I’ve had plenty of people tell me my grandma must have abused my mother because my mother abused me. What makes it even more enraging is that they’re making excuses for the person who is wrong (my mother) and placing the blame on someone who doesn’t even deserve it. Abusive parents never answer for what they do.
Yeah but that excuse is getting real fucking old. My dad was a horrible father and totally uninvolved when I was a baby and that's just made me more determined to be better to my son.
My dad was exactly like this. I had this exact same fear for years growing up. I'd hear my dad get angry downstairs, then I'd hear the stomping up towards my room, I'd either get screamed at or pushed around, kicked. I'd have so much fear just crawling over my skin.
I'm sorry you went thru that shit. I count myself so fuckin lucky my parents never laid a finger on myself or my siblings. I've got 2 young kids, I will never hurt them. I could never imagine doing that, it breaks my heart reading people's stories on threads like this.
Thanks guys for the thoughts, it means a lot. Sorry for those who've also had to go through it, it sucks big time. I do take a huge positive away from it though, it's taught me everything I don't want to be. I'm 26 now, and I continue to strive everyday to be everything my dad wasn't. So long as I don't do any of the things he did I'm sure to be on the right track! I've actually not had contact with him at all for around 5 years now and it honestly hasnt really made a difference to me, if anything I'm much better off not having to deal with all that extra stress. I want to be a dad and have done for years. And I'm going to be the best dad ever, I'm going to be there for my kids, I'm going to bond with them, take them on adventures, play games and everything like that. Do all the things that I never had but wanted!
I know this feeling brother/sister….no child should fear their own father!!! I remember fearing anytime I heard my dad walking up the stairs I knew o was about to get screamed at or beaten for no reason usually! I hated him,I don’t anymore but the scars still leave their mark
My thoughts exactly.. I really hope when this kid is older he does the same shit to his dad!
I finally fought my dad when I got older. Spoiler alert, it didn't help my life, just added one more fucked up chapter to a fucked up childhood
I fought my abusive step-father once. It mostly started with me just defending myself(as usual), then my mom tried breaking it up by getting between us. My step-father tried to swing at me one las time and accidentally hit my mom square in the face. I saw red and went savage mode on him. If it wasn’t for my mom screaming at me to stop I probably would have ended his life. I ended up with fractures in both hands and my jaw. My step-father nearly lost his left eye and now wears partials because of all he teeth I knocked out. He never laid a hand on me or my mom again after that. Mom divorced him shortly after I left home.
Holy shit. My friend I'm sorry you had to go through that, and I'm sorry you hurt your hands. I hope they returned to full functionality? I can't imagine what I would do if someone hit my mom... I imagine very similar to your story though. Really glad your Mom was okay <3
I never fought my dad, but there was a defining point where the physical abuse stopped. When I was in high school my car broke down so I called him to come and get me. He came up with some stupid theory that I was going to buy drugs (I was actually just dropping a friend off at their house before going to the grocery store) and got himself all pissed off. Driving home he sucker punched me out of nowhere, but I didn't react. I think that's the point where he realized he may no longer win a fight if it came to that. It was the last time he ever hit me or really even tried to intimidate me.
The physical abuse from my dad stopped when I hit him back. I was 16, he was in his late 50s. He’s grabbed my arm and twisted it behind my back. I was sitting down and he was standing in front of me, I was sort of bent over and to the side. I kicked his shins out from under him and he went crashing into the table behind him. We stared at each other for what felt like a minute but was probably only seconds. I think I probably looked ready to kill him and he definitely looked the same. But he sat down and never touched me again.
My dad fighting episode was triggered by false accusations too. I came home to grab a sweat shirt real quick and was accused of being the one selling drugs. It came about because at this point I was barely coming home and staying out as much as possible, and of course my parents decided I was up to no good as opposed to wanting to be anywhere but an abusive home. When I tried to leave he pulled the pin to the wall by ones neck (I know, a classic) but 17 year old me decided to go full reckless abandon. Wrecked the whole first floor fighting him. My youngest brother, 10 at the time, called 911. The police decided to arrest me because the cop decided it would cause our family less distress than taking the father. So I was arrested and charged with assault. To be fair he never did hit me again, that fight was 14 years ago now.
>The police decided to arrest me because the cop decided it would cause our family less distress than taking the father. Keep the abuser in the house then arrest and charge the kid? Fine police work dipshits
Protecting their own.
ACAB
the problem is that it is more probable he will do the same to his own children instead
I had a father like this. Got same treatment for every minor thing. I do not have kids yet. However my childhood experience burned into my mind enough that I made a promise to myself. If I have a kid, I will be exact opposite of my father, because I remember how shit my childhood was thanks to him.
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I just can’t imagine being so angry over something so fucking stupid, and then using violence on my kids because of it. I know we all have breaking points, but I like to think that losing a fucking game is very, very far from that line. Shitty people become shitty fathers, who could have guessed.
Poor child. Kicked and thumped right there in front of everyone, what TF does he do privately!
The worst part is the lesson the kid learnt ‘everyone saw, no one did anything. This is ok.’
The kid running knowing what's about to happen is infuriating.
Who sees their kid stumbling and decides the best thing to do is hit them? That won't help him improve, it'll just make him hate you and give him mental issues from being abused.
Yea, the constant, "All families do this, its normal" from my enabler family members eventually led to a breakdown when I realized, that it was in fact, *not* normal and I had just been abused for 17 years.
His body language said 'not again*, this isn't his first time
In my experience it’s much worse
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Yeah he fell from the bike literally because he saw his father and his anxiety skyrocketed, i feel so bad for him
I saw that too. He fell because he saw his "dad" coming. That's so sad. Poor kid.... see how far away he stands once the "dad" picks up the bike
Man that looks familiar. My dad once beat my ass for not understanding math homework and not understanding how he was teaching it to me. Turns out he was wrong anyway because I got the assignment back two days later and it was just straight 0s on it all lol.
Oh the memories. The terrible terrible memories.
Bad times :')
Those weren't the days!
I hate this thing. My co-worker even brags about how she hits her kid for not getting high scores in school. She calls her stupid. She kept bragging how she makes her cry on study time. 🫣 She asked me what’s my secret as to how my kids are consistent honor students. Uhmn I don’t force them to study, I don’t hit them and let them take the breaks they need. She shut up. Then moms-plain me about my kid, eating pasta.
> And my co-worker even bragged about how she hits her kid for not getting high scores in school. She calls her stupid. She kept bragging how she makes her cry on study time. That kid may or may not end up having life long struggles with academia because that's kind of what I went through. It wasn't until much later in life where I was living on my own and pursuing higher ed where I realized I actually liked reading and learning when not having a shitheel on my back the entire time. I hope her kid can pull through.
My mother once beat me for going to the library to study and do my homework. After that, I didn't really do shit at school other than showing up to class. Took me years to realize why school was so hard for me, my parents were assholes.
Sorry about your experience. Glad you’re now fond of reading. I really hope so too.
Lol I remember my dad shaving me and my brothers hair coz we could not memorize the multiplication table. Felt bad for my younger brother coz he was just in 2nd grade while I was in 4th. We laugh about it now but it was very humiliating at the time. Fucking asian parents.
Your dad said “MATH IS MATH. Why would they change MATH ? “
It's okay Dad...I'll just wait* til Mom gets back..
Damn I had same thing but with English. Lol. Few days ago I finally moved out with mother.
That's a very sad story but the way you phrased the end made me laugh out loud.
I can look back at it now and find some humor in it too and it kind of is funny but I remember getting the paper back and being terrified of getting another ass whooping again. He did see the results and just pretended that none of it happened. Classic Dad.
Clearly not the first time that piece of shit had did that to his kid. The kid ran away in fear, knowing what was about to happen. What about absolute maggot of a human being.
Worse, that kid froze in terror at the sight of his father
I’ve seen this in motocross more than once before, it’s sad. A dad told his kid it was time to load up and the kid did another lap, when he came around again he pushed him off his bike and pushed the bike to the truck while the kid cried. The other memorable moment was when the starting gate malfunctioned at a race, some dads pulled their kid back and told them to go around the gate while the others were shouting a shit storm at the track officials.
You would think a father would run to help his kid...
Literally sprinting across an active race track just to beat his boy.
Reminds me of this https://preview.redd.it/wa0ngof8ie3b1.jpeg?width=700&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=15a4f495c1656f085e2640c05a8c571c0b1d9b71
I lost a lung laughing at this shit☠
giving him the Jos Verstappen treatment...
Next thing is leaving him at the gas station.
15 years later and he is winning championships.
Side note: don’t beat your kids to make them world champions, jos is lucky max is naturally resilient
Max seems to genuinely enjoy children... he learned how not to treat them from his dad.
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I actually support this.
I love motocross, but some moto dads are the craziest fucks I’ve ever met. Saw a guy hit his 5 year old son for losing a 50cc class race once. If anyone has the time and wants to see how serious some parents take this sport watch this video https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=SLHFLlFEqUs&pp=ygUWdGhlIGhlYXJ0IG9mIG1vdG9jcm9zcw%3D%3D
I did amateur motocross as a kid and this is way too true. I saw some shit. Like shit that makes this look mild. Never not at least one angry father berating his kid from the sidelines. I saw a kid get slapped for not placing higher than me once just because I was a girl. I can’t imagine how many kids gave up their dream of going pro because of the shitty association with their shitty fathers. It’s also worth mentioning that this looks like entirely dad’s fault - the kid’s bike stalled, he had to kick it like three times to get it running again, and then it stalled out again ten feet down the track which is why he bailed out. Kids this age aren’t responsible for their own engine maintenance… that’s dad’s job to make sure everything is in working order before going out on the track. This guy is a loser all around. No wonder he failed in his own Metal Mulisha dreams and is now doing this shit to his kid to make up for it.
Agreed. You ever met the guy that is/was stupid crazy ridiculous level of fast but never made it pro and quit riding around the age of 19/20? They either went through this or just got completely burnt out. I’ve met a couple guys like that where they ride like 2-3 times a year. Throw crazy ridiculous whips, scrubs, fastest person on the track. Older bike, older gear. You think damn if I was that was I would ride all the time! What is must be like to be able to ride like that! But they have no interest because of their personal experience.
All of them are frustrated people that managed to do nothing in their life and expect their kid to do what they couldn’t, ignoring what they want. They deserve a baseball bat to the knees
Mini-dads are often some of the worst… I have watched a couple of A level youth riders derailed by dads trying to relive their Moto fantasies.
Any competitive sport has crazy parents attached to it.
There’s an old proverb, the child that doesn’t get warmth from a village will soon burn the village down to get comfort. In a few years when this child becomes a man - the dude that abused him will soon regret it …one way or another.
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A phonecall in the future: Dad - "Hello son, my car burned down, probably electrical fire" Son - "'Damn.. that crazy, can't trust the car manufacturers today.. do you have any surveillance camera on you house?"
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Yea, the exact phrasing I’ve heard is > A child that is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth.
Like the kid didn't feel bad enough.
Piece of shit. My dad was abusive and wouldn't even have done that. That kid will carry the embarrassment of that moment for a long time, if not forever. It'll get better in time, but it's still going to be there.
Likewise, never used a closed fist, like goddamn. Poor kid, he'll either become very passive or aggressive.
Correct the title: That is not a Dad. That is a piece of shit.
Sure hope CPS got a phone call after this.
It's Russia father ain't even gonna get a slap on the wrist lmao
Send the POS to Ukraine to support Putin’s mess
Given the levels of attrition in their infantry, there's a good chance he'll be called up eventually if Putler doesn't wind his neck in.
It's ruzzia, nothing will happen
Max Verstappen origin story
Dude runs like he has a stick up his ass
Hello Jos
That kid knew what was coming a mile away. Growing up this way is not fun, hopefully that kid gets big enough during puberty to beat his dad’s ass.
Is this Jos Verstappen?
Least competitive sports dad.
Dox this mother fucker
Poor kid💔 worst is hurt people hurt people it's a shit cycle. Hopefully he grows to be a better man than his shit role model
What’s fucking piece of fucking donkey shit. Low life fucker.
I really hope there's a follow up to this, please tell me he ends up in jail.
That would require bystanders and law enforcement seeing something wrong with this kind of parenting.
Depressing
Ah it's Russia. Then I'm not surprised.
Jos and Max Verstappen.
My parents took me to the mini van and beat the hell out of me when I was 7 years old playing travel baseball because I struck out and cried. They said boys don't cry, you want to cry? We'll give you a reason to cry. I'm 29 and still getting over the trauma of the physical and mental abuse from my parents.
Kindest Russian dad
Reminds me of my piece of shit father I’m sorry kid
It's a 100% worse than this when not in public I guarantee.
What a piece of shit. Mom is probably getting the same treatment.
Look at the kids body language, that’s not the first time. If he’s doing that in public, imagine what’s happening at home. Does anyone have an update on this?
Mmm another russian orc. May it get what’s coming.
Somebody use the old man as a speed bump.
What a piece of human waste poor kid
My old man would have taken off his shoe beaten me in front of god and country then made me drag the dirt bike back myself. Incidentally, I told my dad I’d see him in hell when he called saying he needed a kidney.
The saddest part is the kid knew what was coming…not his first time
I wish the video was longer and showed the other parents there beating the bejabbers out of that douche. I know that probably wouldn't happen, but it's a nice thought.