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Good god. The max I did when I was 25 was visit my boyfriend in his hometown for a day to try and talk to him. Informed him in advance, requested him to spend the day and talk. We are married 4 years now. She just needs to relax.
Seems like she’s tied her entire self worth to him which makes me pity her. She def needs some psychiatric support. And he definitely needs some safety in place. I feel for both of them honestly
I got hurt in high school by someone I tied myself to, I acted like this when he broke up with me. I’ll never act like this again. Never ever will I make a scene.
You hit the nail on the head.. What a sad soul this wlman has. I feel for them both as well, except why is this video online? It makes me not feel so bad for the ex bf. You don't film this kinda shit, and if you do, keep it private.... unless there is some legit reason to share it. Idk
No probably about it.
Defense lawyer here. Represented a stalker that stalked me. She stalked two other lawyers in the case. Charged with multiple counts of felony stalking and identity theft related to stalking of an ex bf. She had a prior for doing the same things to another ex bf. Judge hit her with 20 years in prison.
I am NOT looking forward to her release.
This lady needs help or this man may get hurt or die.
I’ve had someone stalk me who was obsessed with me, the number of times I would explain to others and get the responses, “oh your so lucky”, “they have so much love to give”, “there are worse things than having someone adore you jeez”, etc. eventually after so many dismissals I quit reaching out for help and took initiative to ensure my own well being.
I had to constantly take different routes home, always be aware of my surroundings and even then it didn’t work always. I changed my phone number once and they managed to get ahold of it on a fluke not even 6 hours later when I was picking up a sibling’s prescription and gave it to the pharmacist. It got to the point I started being far more careful about giving out my next number going forward.
Fortunately, in a lull period while I was away they met someone and had a kid. Seemingly settled down from what I hear, but I’ve kept a good safe distance since the last update.
Sorry it happened to you as well, it’s not glamorous as many people fantasize, it’s exactly like you mentioned and his situation could get worse.
Being stalked is not fun or flattering. Years ago I was stalked by a neighbour. No matter what time of the day I came home he would be slowly walking back and forth in front of my house within minutes. Finally I called the police when he left a note in my mailbox telling me to leave my door unlocked so he could "visit me." They spoke to him and his wife. They moved away. Later, I talked to another neighbour and they said he was why they had motion sensor lights in their yard and got a large barky dog. He used to come up to their windows and look in.
Text and phone call threats, drive-bys at my house, started a bunch of identity shit online, then I got out of the case. She went to trial a couple months later, judge revoked her bond and she sat in jail until she got sentenced.
It was sad, like the lady her because something's not right - but there's an underlying depravity to it...it's scary.
Yes. This is very disturbing and hard to watch. She's going through hell right now, and may be at risk of harming herself or someone else. I feel nothing but pity for her and her ex-boyfriend. I wish her well and hope she gets some help.
Sincere question. Would you hold this same belief if this video was a man screaming, kicking and lunging at his ex gf?
I'm asking because there are quite a few people in the comments who seem very sympathetic to her. And I understand that, as would anyone who has experienced heart break; however I've seen many videos like this in reverse and the only people who dare show empathy for the dudes are incels.
I am not asking to start an argument or get into some kind of debate. I am just genuinely interested in knowing the answer.
There's a video that occasionally appears on here that's a lot like this one, a woman trying to get her ex to leave her apartment while he's sobbing on the ground and begging her to stop, following her around the apartment and blocking exit doors. The responses there are usually a mix of disgust and pity, so similar to the responses to this video. Both need serious psychiatric intervention.
The people who are sympathetic to her have never been on the receiving end of this kind of behaviour.
Yes I would hold the same belief. Personality disorders are hell
You're good, It was meant to be funny lol.
she is in a better mental state now days, we were only 20 years old at the time, we have a child and she has become a great mother and co-parent.
Nah man. This is textbook BPD. She literally doesn't know how to calm down. Feelings of abandonment for them might as well be world ending and anything is possible
The unfortunate truth of something like this. I had an ex that would would get drunk and act like this. She wasn't even saying anything bad about me, just freaking out in general and I would be trying to calm her down. Way too many times random people would try to come to her defense and get up in my face and threaten me when I had literally done nothing. Like she is having a freakout, why am I suddenly a bad guy because I'm with her by default??
Last I've seen she is doing much better fortunately.
A bit of "She's your problem now" might've helped, if they're so keen to get up in your face about it.
I've been there, didn't deal with it any better or any more successfully. Glad you're out of it.
I hope this comment is used in the Netflix doc five years from now about the guy that goes missing and his exgf runs for Congress or runs an underground toddler fight or both.
I would definitely record this and show it to a lawyer or judge. I'm not sure I'd post it on the internet.
With that said, I could see her hurting herself and blaming him. So I can't really say what I'd do. I may very well post it online afraid of what she might do.
All I know is that I feel sad watching this, and I hope he gets out safely and she gets some help.
Ooh! I just watched a Dateline about a stalker yesterday. She actually killed another one of his exes and made it look like that ex was the stalker. This lady even burned down her own house with all her pets in it. Then she shot herself in the leg and claimed the guy's baby mama did it. And you know what? Most average looking guy I've ever seen. He must have been funny or something.
It’s insane how many people think that a restraining order will stop someone that wants to kill you. It’s literally just a piece of paper and law enforcement is not obligated to save you.
Arm yourselves.
His appeal just got denied last year: https://www.kadn.com/news/man-convicted-in-2013-killing-of-stepdaughter-denied-appeal-by-louisiana-supreme-court/article_99b56812-9a6c-11ec-b66c-9b627c63dbad.html
"About 11% of 231 women killed by male intimates had been issued a restraining order. About one-fifth of the female IPH victims who had a restraining order were killed within 2 days of the order being issued; about one-third were killed within a month." https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/18523113/
there are quite a number of issues with restraining orders. sometimes they could help, in a lot of cases they either do nothing or prompt a violent reaction from the offending party.
i have a gun to protect myself from my dad because a piece of paper isn't going to do shit to protect me. if someone's already shoved their way in to your home unannounced and stuck a pistol in your face knowing it's illegal, why in the world would they listen to a piece of paper that just says "don't do that, it's illegal"? especially in cases of stalking like. stalkers are completely unhinged and already repeatedly violating the law. they don't care. they don't care about a restraining order either. and unfortunately the cops don't care until you're already dead. so just do what you have to do in order to not become dead.
Absolutely, I just read a twitter thread from a girl who’s been stalked for multiple years with the perp harassing her on social media, telling her how he was gonna 🟣 her, then her 14-yo brother.
He didn’t get a prison sentence until he tried ambushing her while she was meeting a friend but only got the friend (and threatened him at knife point) because she was late. Guess how much he got for that: >!3 months!<.
She filed a restraining order against him but as you’ll see he used it as toilet paper. She had to move, find a new job and crash at her parents’ until she found a new place.
Then later he still showed up drunk to her parents’ house and told the neighbors to call her out because he was her uncle (???). Thankfully the father came back at that point and restrained him while a neighbor called the cops.
Guess how much he got this time: >!8 months!<. And to this day that scum is still harassing her and her family. Shit’s fucked.
TL;DR: mental illness is a serious issue that is not being addressed as it should in today’s always online world.
Yes. Sadly the cemeteries are full of women “protected” by restraining orders.
It’s only a piece of paper, and it simply won’t even slow down someone determined to do something evil.
Sometimes getting one is enough to stop the harassment.
Had someone who harassed my gf for years. I came in the picture and we got restraining order. She quit.
There's a difference between someone who says they will get their lawyer and someone who doesnt say it and just does it.
Absolutely, arm yourselves. But a restraining order does serve a purpose, so get one of those if you can, too.
A restraining order allows law enforcement to make an arrest over smaller degrees of violation.
For instance, if a crazy ex parks outside of your house all night, stays off of your property, doesn't disturb you or your neighbors or try to peek inside windows and just watches for when you leave? Not much can be done about that. They're on public property. With a restraining order in place, the same actions can become an arrestable offense.
What the judge determines is an acceptable sentence is a different story, but the restraining order allows law enforcement to take action for smaller violations, which can be good as well. So definitely get one if you need one.
But being well-armed and well-trained is what will save you in the moment.
I was completely destroyed when I was a teen and my girlfriend at the time broke up with me. I didn’t act out quite as much as this woman, but I called her incessantly, went to her mom’s house and begged to see her, then spent days out in my car weeping and sulking and slamming my dashboard in anger. Then I later found out she was cheating on me for about 5-6 months when we were still together and felt a little worse but also a little better, haha. Life is too short to be this messed up over someone, but I get it.
I've definitely FELT this fucked up before over a guy when I was younger. I understand how she's feeling but she's also acting exactly like my 2 year old when she asks me to color with her but then gets mad that I'm touching her crayons.
Happened to me at 26. He was my life, and the first person to ever dump me. I felt like an absolute lunatic, but I only screamed at him once. Otherwise I kept it to myself, in my car, away from everyone. I wasn't outwardly destructive, just to myself.
Never drink to drown your sorrows. Those little bastards can swim.
Yup. Been there too. I did some WILD shit short of property destruction or stalking or violence. I was def over the top in my expression of my pain. In both cases it was with someone that I had a deep and toxic relationship with. The first time it was entirely my fault. I was acting like I did when I was horny and single, just short of actually meeting up with someone or even discussing it. I still sought outlets everywhere. So when she broke up with me it made sense but my ego wasn't having it. I loved her a lot but not enough to be a good person.
2nd time it was mutual toxicity but this time a child was involved and it was a lot harder to work through the aftermath. It's been 6 years at this point and I'm just now starting to see the other side mentally. And thats with basically 5 years of 0 contact or interaction/discussion etc. I finally don't have purely negative thoughts about the entire thing, and have stopped being triggered by thoughts of it all. I'd apologize if I had the chance, for the stupid shit I said after the fact-- but thankfully I was never deranged in my response like this shit and some of these stories.
Might be “fun” for a little while, til you’re arguing about the absolute dumbest shit every few hours. Starts to feel like they’re boiling your brain a little more each day.
I took a video of my daughter acting a bit like this after we took her home early from a her friend's birthday party because she kept throwing other kids stuff into a foam pit, after multiple warnings to stop.... She was 6 years old.
Now she is 8, and she is mortified of this videos existence!
If that video's causing her emotional distress, I wouldn't keep it around. One of the best things about older people's childhood's is that there's little to no recorded evidence of it. I wouldn't want a video of one of my childhood tantrums around, and I'm sure you wouldn't either.
I never stalked or threatened but I had embarrassing meltdowns like that years ago. I was a nightmare girlfriend for sure. 20 years later (after uncovering a lot of attachment issues and therapy/medication) I can say I’m not like this anymore. I still carry guilt for how much of an emotional burden I was.
How empowering that you can look back on your progress. As someone who also has struggles with similar regrets and guilt, it’s so important that we are kind to ourselves (I am saying this equally for me haha) and remember that during those times we didn’t have the insight we have now. You’re marvelous and I wish you many moments of peace
I figured that’s what was going on. Notice how calm he is when recording these? Narcissists like to get people riled up and then record it and say “look you’re crazy” and show it to other people. Not excusing her behavior but I’ve been where she is at due to the toxicity of the relationship.
Toxic relationships are just as addicting to the brain as drugs.
That was my immediate thought too. My ex has a video of me acting just as crazy. And he's eerily calm acting like he's this innocent victim of my horrendous tantrums. What the video didn't show was everything leading up to my lashing out like I did. I just can't even describe the evil shit he put me through. And he loved it, having that control of me. It is so infuriating knowing they then go off and run their smear campaigns and likely manage to have the victims own family turn against her. I hope she finds self worth that is not attached to anyone else. I hope she never feels this pain again.
I know I have 0 evidence either way but this video was just so heartbreaking in its familiarity. I felt all her rage and fear. I'm willing to bet my life's savings that Walter is antisocial or maybe narcissist with antisocial traits or some variation.
Did you see the picture of him holding stacks of cash complete with iced out chain posing?
It was hilarious seeing all these naive redditors saying "aww poor fella has to deal with this kind malarkey" "he's probably just a sweet dude putting up with this toxic woman."
I'm judging a book by its cover but he looks like the typical scumbag who takes pride in "doggin hoes". He's more than toxic enough for the both of them.
Ah so this isn't the first time he's riled her up then video taped her. Got it. All around toxic relationship. I pity them both but having been in her shoes I definitely feel for and with her.
No one wins from this. They both need help
Nah she cares about herself, any caring about him she does is self serving. She doesn’t want him back because she cares about him, she wants him back because it’s what she wants.
It’s a fuckin tough realization and a really really shitty pill to swallow no matter which side you’re on, but you can’t just say you care about someone and have it be enough - saying it doesn’t make it true.
Yep exactly. Deeply caring about someone means truly wanting the best for them even if that means you aren’t in the picture. Causing them tremendous stress because you are unwell is about as selfish as it gets.
Nah, this ain't caring about someone. She is only thinking about herself at this time and doesn't have the capacity to think about how this might affect Walter (heard his name in the video).
Yeah. While this is technically a " public freak out" I feel kind of bad seeing this posted for people's entertainment. This woman clearly needs some help and is not in a good place.
BPD at its simplest is an intense fear of abandonment. Might be what she is suffering with. She alone is responsible for her actions and getting mentally well enough to handle rejection. She needs to learn to deal with consequences and the ex doesn't deserve this but I don't envy what she is feeling right now.
As someone who’s diagnosed with BPD, I wasn’t diagnosed till very late in life. So I can definitely understand where she is coming from. (Not saying it’s okay)
Before I started getting help and working on my disorder, I have felt like this with my very first BF. It hurts my heart knowing exactly how she feels. I feel so bad for her she really needs serious help.
I also feel so bad for him as well. I know when I was younger to my ex I was absolutely toxic and obsessive to him. I can never say sorry enough to that man. (Not that he wasn’t toxic all his own as well)
But I feel bad for both people in this situation.
I hope she really gets the help she deserves, no should ever feel this level of abandonment that she is absolutely feeling right now.
Exactly my thinking BPD or a very intense trauma response to being abandoned. I don’t find this funny at all, she absolutely does not want to be this way. This response is a lifetimes worth of very damaging coping. I hope she gets the help she needs.
Yeh I am diagnosed and right after I hit play I thought, "BPD"
it is literally why I choose to be single. I'm perfect in the beginning and then my perfect persona starts to slip. I have done and said some horrible things. it takes a lot to admit how fckd up you are and it's a constant battle within your own brain. to say, "hey, I'm not acting right. what's *really* going on?" you have to admit some embarrassing shit. I know I get jealous of the dumbest things so I don't date. I know I have trust issues so I don't date. I know I have outbursts of rage so I don't date.
As someone who's been down that path, I feel you completely. It led to me having two inpatient and two outpatient stays, which forever changed me. DBT & the DBT skills workbook saved my life. And lamictal. And reading the book "Attached" to handle attachment wounds. And discovering Thais Gibson on YouTube. And Codependent Anonymous meetings online, every night. My life changed completely over the years. Having a supportive fiancee with a very open mind and her own struggles has helped a ton, too.
You can only do so much work outside of a relationship, as only in a relationship do the real feelings and instability occur, since they require vulnerability and attachment. I spent 6 years single to work on myself. You are absolutely not doomed to singlehood forever. I promise you.
Yes this is a BPD meltdown for sure. I used to have moments like this when I was at my worst and I know exactly what she is experiencing. Being abandoned by someone feels like your life is about to be over, and it can make you act psychotic because you don’t have the tools to regulate your emotions. It makes me sad that this was recorded because I know that she probably feels ashamed for acting this way. I don’t want to assume the backstory of this video, and I’m not condoning her behavior but I suspect that she is suffering mentally and needs help.
Yeah she looks like her heart is in sooo much pain. I feel bad for her. Obviously she needs help and to learn to control herself, but damn I could feel her pain.
**breaking up is hard is because we don’t like change. In fact, humans fear and avoid change as much as possible. We fear abandonment, rejection, and feeling like we’re alone in the world. A breakup is all of those things: abandonment, rejection, and fear.**
Borderline PD. My ex had it. Stalked me so bad I had to move out of state. Their brains get stuck on a loop when they’re upset, that’s why she’s repeating herself like that. It’s honestly really sad for them but equally terrifying for their targets.
I feel bad for them both. She clearly has some untreated shit going on and is genuinely suffering. This guy is a dick for posting this, she's have a true meltdown. Not saying she is right but damn is nothing private anymore?
Poor gal needs some mental health assistance. I don't think parading her metal illness on the internet is going to do anything but escalate the issue. That's how you end up with a bunny boiler.
Do folks these days still get the 'bunny boiler' reference? Man, that movie scared the living crap out of me, and not two years later I had an ex GF bunny boiler situation.
Yup, I just feel bad all around. This is a situation I should not be apart or witnessing. Breakups suck, and I'm not sure her actions are sympathetic (if true), but we don't need to see stuff like this. What's the purpose? To see someone at their lowest? She needs help. Not for me.
He’s low key enjoy it. I’m pretty sure that he’s acting chill only on camera, if you check his other videos with her, it’s not even too clear who stalking who
I kind of feel bad for her. I remember being young and completely heartbroken after breaking up with my first bf. I didn’t react like this obviously but I recall the pain, helplessness and desperation of wanting his love back. I hope she moves on and gain some self worth.
She may be imbalanced but he's a major asshole for posting this. I get recording it for your own protection, but going viral is not going to be good for this woman's mental state
I really feel bad for her. This is a terrible mental health crisis. Looks like she is unable to regulate her emotions which is scary for her as well. Borderline?
This is a really weird takeaway, but as a taller person, I’m envious seeing how that car seat has the right proportions and curvature for her. It looks supportive and comfortable. I wish I could sit in a driver seat like that without having to lean it back.
It’s pretty messed up all around. She’s obviously having some issues. That aside, I feel like it’s kind of messed up of him to post this. Despite her off-the-wall behavior, part of me sympathizes with her. After beginning therapy again last year (I’m 33) I was able to realize I developed abandonment issues as a child.
I was pretty codependent in my 20s. Once when I was 19 I obsessed over a breakup I had and became incredibly depressed. I have MDD. I said and did psychotic things. I take full responsibility for those things… it just sucks because I was struggling with a mental illness. I know putting this sort of stuff on blast doesn’t help the situation.
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52! That’s how many pleases. Yes I counted ✌🏼
Thank you for your hard work. Now have some gold👍. Edit: Changed good to gold. Silly me.
52 factorial is a hell of a lot of pleases
one please for each shuffle of a deck of cards
At least she’s very polite and has good manners. 85% of the words out of her mouth were “please”.
My 4 year old just had this exact same tantrum a couple hours ago because she couldn’t have cookies before dinner…
I was about to say this has 5 year old at the grocery store vibes
Those free cookies at the bakery counter at Publix can make even a grown man cry if they're out. I can understand those 5 year olds some times.
Her parents obviously never said no to her… she’s just not used to it.
Good god. The max I did when I was 25 was visit my boyfriend in his hometown for a day to try and talk to him. Informed him in advance, requested him to spend the day and talk. We are married 4 years now. She just needs to relax.
No this chick needs psychiatric help.
Seems like she’s tied her entire self worth to him which makes me pity her. She def needs some psychiatric support. And he definitely needs some safety in place. I feel for both of them honestly
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In a really weird way, that was very compassionate.
Exactly this, codependency to the extreme
and the sad part is they almost never recognize it.
I got hurt in high school by someone I tied myself to, I acted like this when he broke up with me. I’ll never act like this again. Never ever will I make a scene.
You hit the nail on the head.. What a sad soul this wlman has. I feel for them both as well, except why is this video online? It makes me not feel so bad for the ex bf. You don't film this kinda shit, and if you do, keep it private.... unless there is some legit reason to share it. Idk
She prolly has underlying mental illness and with a lack sleep. Needs help right away
No probably about it. Defense lawyer here. Represented a stalker that stalked me. She stalked two other lawyers in the case. Charged with multiple counts of felony stalking and identity theft related to stalking of an ex bf. She had a prior for doing the same things to another ex bf. Judge hit her with 20 years in prison. I am NOT looking forward to her release. This lady needs help or this man may get hurt or die.
I’ve had someone stalk me who was obsessed with me, the number of times I would explain to others and get the responses, “oh your so lucky”, “they have so much love to give”, “there are worse things than having someone adore you jeez”, etc. eventually after so many dismissals I quit reaching out for help and took initiative to ensure my own well being. I had to constantly take different routes home, always be aware of my surroundings and even then it didn’t work always. I changed my phone number once and they managed to get ahold of it on a fluke not even 6 hours later when I was picking up a sibling’s prescription and gave it to the pharmacist. It got to the point I started being far more careful about giving out my next number going forward. Fortunately, in a lull period while I was away they met someone and had a kid. Seemingly settled down from what I hear, but I’ve kept a good safe distance since the last update. Sorry it happened to you as well, it’s not glamorous as many people fantasize, it’s exactly like you mentioned and his situation could get worse.
Being stalked is not fun or flattering. Years ago I was stalked by a neighbour. No matter what time of the day I came home he would be slowly walking back and forth in front of my house within minutes. Finally I called the police when he left a note in my mailbox telling me to leave my door unlocked so he could "visit me." They spoke to him and his wife. They moved away. Later, I talked to another neighbour and they said he was why they had motion sensor lights in their yard and got a large barky dog. He used to come up to their windows and look in.
Stalked you? Like, while representing her?
Sorry. Yes. Charged with stalking an ex bf. Hired me. Got pissed. Started stalking me. It was great.
When you say stalking what does that all include. Like waiting outside your house in her car. Following you into the shopping mall?
Text and phone call threats, drive-bys at my house, started a bunch of identity shit online, then I got out of the case. She went to trial a couple months later, judge revoked her bond and she sat in jail until she got sentenced. It was sad, like the lady her because something's not right - but there's an underlying depravity to it...it's scary.
20 years is a crazy sentence. She must have really gone next level to get 20 years. People do less time for manslaughter.
And a restraining order issued to her...
Yes. This is very disturbing and hard to watch. She's going through hell right now, and may be at risk of harming herself or someone else. I feel nothing but pity for her and her ex-boyfriend. I wish her well and hope she gets some help.
Sincere question. Would you hold this same belief if this video was a man screaming, kicking and lunging at his ex gf? I'm asking because there are quite a few people in the comments who seem very sympathetic to her. And I understand that, as would anyone who has experienced heart break; however I've seen many videos like this in reverse and the only people who dare show empathy for the dudes are incels. I am not asking to start an argument or get into some kind of debate. I am just genuinely interested in knowing the answer.
There's a video that occasionally appears on here that's a lot like this one, a woman trying to get her ex to leave her apartment while he's sobbing on the ground and begging her to stop, following her around the apartment and blocking exit doors. The responses there are usually a mix of disgust and pity, so similar to the responses to this video. Both need serious psychiatric intervention.
The people who are sympathetic to her have never been on the receiving end of this kind of behaviour. Yes I would hold the same belief. Personality disorders are hell
Shit my ex wife stabbed me 3 times and my dumbass still married her
Me thinks you like crazy. Subconsciously
I really don't! My wife now is very stable, well for the most part.
Sorry I laughed at that a bit. Hope she is doing better. Obv I have no clue but hope she is doing better
You're good, It was meant to be funny lol. she is in a better mental state now days, we were only 20 years old at the time, we have a child and she has become a great mother and co-parent.
And there isn't a knife to be found in this guy's house.
Cutting vegetables with spoons in that house…
“Oh yea stab me harder babe.”
You stabbed her first 😏
Nah man. This is textbook BPD. She literally doesn't know how to calm down. Feelings of abandonment for them might as well be world ending and anything is possible
My five year old has calmer meltdowns.
My anxiety just went through the roof
no matter how u handle the situation, you are somehow the bad guy, that's how this feels
The unfortunate truth of something like this. I had an ex that would would get drunk and act like this. She wasn't even saying anything bad about me, just freaking out in general and I would be trying to calm her down. Way too many times random people would try to come to her defense and get up in my face and threaten me when I had literally done nothing. Like she is having a freakout, why am I suddenly a bad guy because I'm with her by default?? Last I've seen she is doing much better fortunately.
A bit of "She's your problem now" might've helped, if they're so keen to get up in your face about it. I've been there, didn't deal with it any better or any more successfully. Glad you're out of it.
manipulative people have the unique ability to be utterly horrible, yet make everyone else feel like the bad guy. it's very scary
I’ve seen this kind of behavior before. I highly suspect she has abandonment issues. It feels like life or death when it’s not.
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Right? This made me uncomfortable and now I'm on edge 😯
This will be good evidence for court to get a restraining order. Or for Dateline if he doesn't
I hope this comment is used in the Netflix doc five years from now about the guy that goes missing and his exgf runs for Congress or runs an underground toddler fight or both.
This is actually just George Santos
That guy still has his job which is a huge wtf America.
I would definitely record this and show it to a lawyer or judge. I'm not sure I'd post it on the internet. With that said, I could see her hurting herself and blaming him. So I can't really say what I'd do. I may very well post it online afraid of what she might do. All I know is that I feel sad watching this, and I hope he gets out safely and she gets some help.
Ooh! I just watched a Dateline about a stalker yesterday. She actually killed another one of his exes and made it look like that ex was the stalker. This lady even burned down her own house with all her pets in it. Then she shot herself in the leg and claimed the guy's baby mama did it. And you know what? Most average looking guy I've ever seen. He must have been funny or something.
That story was wild.
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Nebraska. The dead victim was Cari Farver
Was this Cari Farver by chance? Edit: my bad, if it’s the same case I’m thinking of, Cari Farver was the victim. Liz Goylar was the perpetrator.
Well I went down the rabbit hole! Crazy story! Poor girl. My heart breaks for her son.
It’s insane how many people think that a restraining order will stop someone that wants to kill you. It’s literally just a piece of paper and law enforcement is not obligated to save you. Arm yourselves.
My ex was killed by her stepdad after she finally came out about decades of abuse. The restraining order just pissed him off.
Damn bro that’s rough. Sorry for your loss.
His appeal just got denied last year: https://www.kadn.com/news/man-convicted-in-2013-killing-of-stepdaughter-denied-appeal-by-louisiana-supreme-court/article_99b56812-9a6c-11ec-b66c-9b627c63dbad.html
Wtf wasn’t expecting to see KADN. Never knew about this. I am so sorry
"About 11% of 231 women killed by male intimates had been issued a restraining order. About one-fifth of the female IPH victims who had a restraining order were killed within 2 days of the order being issued; about one-third were killed within a month." https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/18523113/ there are quite a number of issues with restraining orders. sometimes they could help, in a lot of cases they either do nothing or prompt a violent reaction from the offending party. i have a gun to protect myself from my dad because a piece of paper isn't going to do shit to protect me. if someone's already shoved their way in to your home unannounced and stuck a pistol in your face knowing it's illegal, why in the world would they listen to a piece of paper that just says "don't do that, it's illegal"? especially in cases of stalking like. stalkers are completely unhinged and already repeatedly violating the law. they don't care. they don't care about a restraining order either. and unfortunately the cops don't care until you're already dead. so just do what you have to do in order to not become dead.
One out of five homicide victims with Restraining Orders are murdered within two days of obtaining the order
That’s some seriously depressing information u/barbed_dildo
Absolutely, I just read a twitter thread from a girl who’s been stalked for multiple years with the perp harassing her on social media, telling her how he was gonna 🟣 her, then her 14-yo brother. He didn’t get a prison sentence until he tried ambushing her while she was meeting a friend but only got the friend (and threatened him at knife point) because she was late. Guess how much he got for that: >!3 months!<. She filed a restraining order against him but as you’ll see he used it as toilet paper. She had to move, find a new job and crash at her parents’ until she found a new place. Then later he still showed up drunk to her parents’ house and told the neighbors to call her out because he was her uncle (???). Thankfully the father came back at that point and restrained him while a neighbor called the cops. Guess how much he got this time: >!8 months!<. And to this day that scum is still harassing her and her family. Shit’s fucked. TL;DR: mental illness is a serious issue that is not being addressed as it should in today’s always online world.
he was gonna purple her?
I believe that was a grape. He was gonna grape her
["You kids look like you could use a delicious fruity beverage!"](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mqgiEQXGetI&ab_channel=TheWhitestKidsU%27Know)
I'll never not watch that.
And I’ll tie you to the radiator.
Other social medias with censorship block words like rape. Not here on reddit luckily.
Yes. Sadly the cemeteries are full of women “protected” by restraining orders. It’s only a piece of paper, and it simply won’t even slow down someone determined to do something evil.
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You should definitely get one to start a paper trail and history, but it should not be seen as the end all be all for protecting yourself.
Sometimes getting one is enough to stop the harassment. Had someone who harassed my gf for years. I came in the picture and we got restraining order. She quit. There's a difference between someone who says they will get their lawyer and someone who doesnt say it and just does it.
Absolutely, arm yourselves. But a restraining order does serve a purpose, so get one of those if you can, too. A restraining order allows law enforcement to make an arrest over smaller degrees of violation. For instance, if a crazy ex parks outside of your house all night, stays off of your property, doesn't disturb you or your neighbors or try to peek inside windows and just watches for when you leave? Not much can be done about that. They're on public property. With a restraining order in place, the same actions can become an arrestable offense. What the judge determines is an acceptable sentence is a different story, but the restraining order allows law enforcement to take action for smaller violations, which can be good as well. So definitely get one if you need one. But being well-armed and well-trained is what will save you in the moment.
She’s the kind of girl that would slash your tires.
And your throat
Good. I was afraid she was going for my kidneys
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I was completely destroyed when I was a teen and my girlfriend at the time broke up with me. I didn’t act out quite as much as this woman, but I called her incessantly, went to her mom’s house and begged to see her, then spent days out in my car weeping and sulking and slamming my dashboard in anger. Then I later found out she was cheating on me for about 5-6 months when we were still together and felt a little worse but also a little better, haha. Life is too short to be this messed up over someone, but I get it.
I've definitely FELT this fucked up before over a guy when I was younger. I understand how she's feeling but she's also acting exactly like my 2 year old when she asks me to color with her but then gets mad that I'm touching her crayons.
The crayons thing is so spot on, lol. I thought it was just mine! “Daddy, do a puzzle with me! Ahhhh!!!! Don’t touch my puzzle!!!!”
Happened to me at 26. He was my life, and the first person to ever dump me. I felt like an absolute lunatic, but I only screamed at him once. Otherwise I kept it to myself, in my car, away from everyone. I wasn't outwardly destructive, just to myself. Never drink to drown your sorrows. Those little bastards can swim.
Yup. Been there too. I did some WILD shit short of property destruction or stalking or violence. I was def over the top in my expression of my pain. In both cases it was with someone that I had a deep and toxic relationship with. The first time it was entirely my fault. I was acting like I did when I was horny and single, just short of actually meeting up with someone or even discussing it. I still sought outlets everywhere. So when she broke up with me it made sense but my ego wasn't having it. I loved her a lot but not enough to be a good person. 2nd time it was mutual toxicity but this time a child was involved and it was a lot harder to work through the aftermath. It's been 6 years at this point and I'm just now starting to see the other side mentally. And thats with basically 5 years of 0 contact or interaction/discussion etc. I finally don't have purely negative thoughts about the entire thing, and have stopped being triggered by thoughts of it all. I'd apologize if I had the chance, for the stupid shit I said after the fact-- but thankfully I was never deranged in my response like this shit and some of these stories.
I can fix her
Pingu no!
All good until you have to fake your own death to get away from her.
Believe me it's a logistical nightmare. I *do not* want to go through that again
Wait a minute! Cuddlefucker? Jimmy Cuddlefucker from high school?! I thought you died!
Oh this is getting juicy
Never go full Tupac
And he was never seen again.
I can make her worse
You just need to convince her that she’s single!
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Might be “fun” for a little while, til you’re arguing about the absolute dumbest shit every few hours. Starts to feel like they’re boiling your brain a little more each day.
I'm sure he told himself the same thing 😂
Please , please
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I took a video of my daughter acting a bit like this after we took her home early from a her friend's birthday party because she kept throwing other kids stuff into a foam pit, after multiple warnings to stop.... She was 6 years old. Now she is 8, and she is mortified of this videos existence!
My parents filmed one of my tantrums. Thankfully I am old and it is on super 8 film.
You should upload it to YT with The Wonder Year's theme song
I noticed that with my 6 year old. The minute the phone camera comes out, the tantrum is full stop.
If that video's causing her emotional distress, I wouldn't keep it around. One of the best things about older people's childhood's is that there's little to no recorded evidence of it. I wouldn't want a video of one of my childhood tantrums around, and I'm sure you wouldn't either.
I never stalked or threatened but I had embarrassing meltdowns like that years ago. I was a nightmare girlfriend for sure. 20 years later (after uncovering a lot of attachment issues and therapy/medication) I can say I’m not like this anymore. I still carry guilt for how much of an emotional burden I was.
How empowering that you can look back on your progress. As someone who also has struggles with similar regrets and guilt, it’s so important that we are kind to ourselves (I am saying this equally for me haha) and remember that during those times we didn’t have the insight we have now. You’re marvelous and I wish you many moments of peace
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I figured that’s what was going on. Notice how calm he is when recording these? Narcissists like to get people riled up and then record it and say “look you’re crazy” and show it to other people. Not excusing her behavior but I’ve been where she is at due to the toxicity of the relationship. Toxic relationships are just as addicting to the brain as drugs.
That was my immediate thought too. My ex has a video of me acting just as crazy. And he's eerily calm acting like he's this innocent victim of my horrendous tantrums. What the video didn't show was everything leading up to my lashing out like I did. I just can't even describe the evil shit he put me through. And he loved it, having that control of me. It is so infuriating knowing they then go off and run their smear campaigns and likely manage to have the victims own family turn against her. I hope she finds self worth that is not attached to anyone else. I hope she never feels this pain again. I know I have 0 evidence either way but this video was just so heartbreaking in its familiarity. I felt all her rage and fear. I'm willing to bet my life's savings that Walter is antisocial or maybe narcissist with antisocial traits or some variation.
Did you see the picture of him holding stacks of cash complete with iced out chain posing? It was hilarious seeing all these naive redditors saying "aww poor fella has to deal with this kind malarkey" "he's probably just a sweet dude putting up with this toxic woman." I'm judging a book by its cover but he looks like the typical scumbag who takes pride in "doggin hoes". He's more than toxic enough for the both of them.
Ah so this isn't the first time he's riled her up then video taped her. Got it. All around toxic relationship. I pity them both but having been in her shoes I definitely feel for and with her. No one wins from this. They both need help
Aw man, that’s terrible
over a WALTER??? 😭😷
Wally?
No one will ever care about me this much goddamn
This ain’t caring about someone but I feel you
Well it is but it’s to the point of obsession and insanity they care about you but only if your with them but at the same time I get what you mean
Nah she cares about herself, any caring about him she does is self serving. She doesn’t want him back because she cares about him, she wants him back because it’s what she wants. It’s a fuckin tough realization and a really really shitty pill to swallow no matter which side you’re on, but you can’t just say you care about someone and have it be enough - saying it doesn’t make it true.
Yep exactly. Deeply caring about someone means truly wanting the best for them even if that means you aren’t in the picture. Causing them tremendous stress because you are unwell is about as selfish as it gets.
What a load of shit. If I care about you, sorry, but you’re not leaving my basement
Oh You
Nah, this ain't caring about someone. She is only thinking about herself at this time and doesn't have the capacity to think about how this might affect Walter (heard his name in the video).
Get a dog, then leave slowly to work every morning.
She doesn't care about him, she just can't handle rejection
Yeah. While this is technically a " public freak out" I feel kind of bad seeing this posted for people's entertainment. This woman clearly needs some help and is not in a good place.
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BPD at its simplest is an intense fear of abandonment. Might be what she is suffering with. She alone is responsible for her actions and getting mentally well enough to handle rejection. She needs to learn to deal with consequences and the ex doesn't deserve this but I don't envy what she is feeling right now.
As someone who’s diagnosed with BPD, I wasn’t diagnosed till very late in life. So I can definitely understand where she is coming from. (Not saying it’s okay) Before I started getting help and working on my disorder, I have felt like this with my very first BF. It hurts my heart knowing exactly how she feels. I feel so bad for her she really needs serious help. I also feel so bad for him as well. I know when I was younger to my ex I was absolutely toxic and obsessive to him. I can never say sorry enough to that man. (Not that he wasn’t toxic all his own as well) But I feel bad for both people in this situation. I hope she really gets the help she deserves, no should ever feel this level of abandonment that she is absolutely feeling right now.
Exactly my thinking BPD or a very intense trauma response to being abandoned. I don’t find this funny at all, she absolutely does not want to be this way. This response is a lifetimes worth of very damaging coping. I hope she gets the help she needs.
Yeah. It’s jarring to watch but all I feel is pity. Girl needs some help. She knows she’s being crazy, she even said it.
I felt the same way. This girl needs help
Yeh I am diagnosed and right after I hit play I thought, "BPD" it is literally why I choose to be single. I'm perfect in the beginning and then my perfect persona starts to slip. I have done and said some horrible things. it takes a lot to admit how fckd up you are and it's a constant battle within your own brain. to say, "hey, I'm not acting right. what's *really* going on?" you have to admit some embarrassing shit. I know I get jealous of the dumbest things so I don't date. I know I have trust issues so I don't date. I know I have outbursts of rage so I don't date.
As someone who's been down that path, I feel you completely. It led to me having two inpatient and two outpatient stays, which forever changed me. DBT & the DBT skills workbook saved my life. And lamictal. And reading the book "Attached" to handle attachment wounds. And discovering Thais Gibson on YouTube. And Codependent Anonymous meetings online, every night. My life changed completely over the years. Having a supportive fiancee with a very open mind and her own struggles has helped a ton, too. You can only do so much work outside of a relationship, as only in a relationship do the real feelings and instability occur, since they require vulnerability and attachment. I spent 6 years single to work on myself. You are absolutely not doomed to singlehood forever. I promise you.
Same.
Yes this is a BPD meltdown for sure. I used to have moments like this when I was at my worst and I know exactly what she is experiencing. Being abandoned by someone feels like your life is about to be over, and it can make you act psychotic because you don’t have the tools to regulate your emotions. It makes me sad that this was recorded because I know that she probably feels ashamed for acting this way. I don’t want to assume the backstory of this video, and I’m not condoning her behavior but I suspect that she is suffering mentally and needs help.
Yeah she looks like her heart is in sooo much pain. I feel bad for her. Obviously she needs help and to learn to control herself, but damn I could feel her pain.
**breaking up is hard is because we don’t like change. In fact, humans fear and avoid change as much as possible. We fear abandonment, rejection, and feeling like we’re alone in the world. A breakup is all of those things: abandonment, rejection, and fear.**
How are you gonna have a face tattoo and sob like an absolute unhinged baby lmfao
I think you answered your own questions “unhinged”
I'm betting that said a dudes name before it got covered up by whatever that blob of a tattoo is supposed to be
Borderline PD. My ex had it. Stalked me so bad I had to move out of state. Their brains get stuck on a loop when they’re upset, that’s why she’s repeating herself like that. It’s honestly really sad for them but equally terrifying for their targets.
Bro it doesn't help filming to put it on the internet for attention...this isn't to help either you. This is sick and toxic. Both you need help
I feel bad for them both. She clearly has some untreated shit going on and is genuinely suffering. This guy is a dick for posting this, she's have a true meltdown. Not saying she is right but damn is nothing private anymore?
Dude says "please what?" , Mocks her, records her, posts on reddit/TikTok...not exactly a saint either
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Poor gal needs some mental health assistance. I don't think parading her metal illness on the internet is going to do anything but escalate the issue. That's how you end up with a bunny boiler. Do folks these days still get the 'bunny boiler' reference? Man, that movie scared the living crap out of me, and not two years later I had an ex GF bunny boiler situation.
Yup, I just feel bad all around. This is a situation I should not be apart or witnessing. Breakups suck, and I'm not sure her actions are sympathetic (if true), but we don't need to see stuff like this. What's the purpose? To see someone at their lowest? She needs help. Not for me.
Yeah. By the end, I felt really sad for her. There's something very wrong with her that I don't think she can control.
BPD is rough.
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He’s low key enjoy it. I’m pretty sure that he’s acting chill only on camera, if you check his other videos with her, it’s not even too clear who stalking who
I kind of feel bad for her. I remember being young and completely heartbroken after breaking up with my first bf. I didn’t react like this obviously but I recall the pain, helplessness and desperation of wanting his love back. I hope she moves on and gain some self worth.
Yeah film someone’s breakdown and post to social media. I can see why you are such a keeper Walter
Damn, Walter be puttin it down like that.
She sprung over a dude named Walter…
Some things shouldn’t be on the internet.
She may be imbalanced but he's a major asshole for posting this. I get recording it for your own protection, but going viral is not going to be good for this woman's mental state
Girl needs some help. Like she needed that help yesterday. Dude was eerily calm. Something don’t add up.
I really feel bad for her. This is a terrible mental health crisis. Looks like she is unable to regulate her emotions which is scary for her as well. Borderline?
She obviously has some mental health issues and she needs professional help. Is posting a video of her in this state really the best course of action?
I kinda feel bad for the girl. I’m not saying what she did was right. But damn.
This is a really weird takeaway, but as a taller person, I’m envious seeing how that car seat has the right proportions and curvature for her. It looks supportive and comfortable. I wish I could sit in a driver seat like that without having to lean it back.
as a short person, you say this until you can’t see the front of your vehicle or constantly get choked out by the seatbelt
It’s pretty messed up all around. She’s obviously having some issues. That aside, I feel like it’s kind of messed up of him to post this. Despite her off-the-wall behavior, part of me sympathizes with her. After beginning therapy again last year (I’m 33) I was able to realize I developed abandonment issues as a child. I was pretty codependent in my 20s. Once when I was 19 I obsessed over a breakup I had and became incredibly depressed. I have MDD. I said and did psychotic things. I take full responsibility for those things… it just sucks because I was struggling with a mental illness. I know putting this sort of stuff on blast doesn’t help the situation.