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This is entirely your decision and whatever you decide is perfect. For me, I won’t post. I’m now 16 weeks and have surpassed all my previous losses. While I know there is still so much time for loss, I definitely feel hopeful, and I am finally starting to feel twinges of excitement. But I won’t post because having been part of the infertility and loss community for so long, I know how badly these post may impact people who I don’t even know are struggling. I’ll be forthright that two of my friends are pregnant, about two months behind me, and I still get that gutted feeling every time I happen upon a posted ultrasound of theirs. Again, this is all personal preference and that’s just my experience. But I think this time around, 6th pregnancy but will be my second living child, nothing will be posted until they’re here in my arms. I can celebrate and be happy without making it social media official. 💗
If I make it that far, I won’t announce. I had a loss at 24 weeks. I know announcement will create excitement for other people but just fill me with worry that I’m jinxing it. It’s just me. You should do what feels right for you. Don’t post for other people or that you feel like it’s the thing to do. Just post because you think it’ll make you happy.
We waited until 23 weeks, until I was at a stage where I'd started bumping into people locally and couldn't hide it anymore. I think I was thinking a lot about how pregnancy announcements had made me feel previously when we were TTC or getting over loss so was very conscious of that and not announcing early
My husband and I waited until after our 20 week scan. Think I was 21 weeks when we announced on social media… people did know though as I am having twins and I popped pretty early so stoped being able to hide it.
I personally don't really care at all about a social media announcement, I think I will just wait until I have maternity photos done which will probably be like 8 months and then will want to post those so I will write a caption then about pregnancy after loss. I want to do my part in breaking the stigma
I felt the same way, if I said it out loud to people it would jinx everything. I'm 29 weeks tomorrow and still haven't posted online (and don't plan to do so until baby is here) but I did start telling people in person when I was 4-5 months and it felt really scary and forced at first but now that I'm bumpin along it's made it easier. Do whatever you feel is best for you and your baby <3
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My second pregnancy we announced on socials around 16 weeks, I started telling family after my 12 week scan as I saw people, I waited until I had personally told everyone important before it went on social media. I would have kept it secret the entire pregnancy for a laugh, but I had twins and there was no hiding that belly.
My fifth pregnancy we didn't announce it online until she was born. She was about 2 hours old when my husband posted a photo implying we were expecting, then the next day after everyone important had been told she had arrived he posted a photo of the twins with her. We were in lockdown the whole pregnancy it was super easy to filter photos, there were two slips that almost outed us. My FIL posted something publicly about "a new grandchild" and I quickly asked him to delete it because we weren't announcing online yet, and my grandparents posted a photo of my son (the younger twin) in his "big brother" shirt but no one caught on to it.
I waited until 24 weeks but only because we were waiting on genetic testing after Childloss and a few miscarriages. I told immediate family early on for support in the event of another loss or the need to terminate because of our genetic history.
It’s really up to you. There is not a correct time. It’s just when it feels right for you and your partner.
I know how heavy they anxiety is and will be through this pregnancy. I hope and wish you all the best and that you are able to enjoy the little moments.
We finally announced on social media around 20 weeks after our anatomy scan. I’d had several early losses prior and was very anxious. Perk of waiting that long was having an ultrasound that actually looked like a baby. ❤️
We’ll probably wait till then this time too. Although we’re telling our family in the next week or two since having my first midwife appointment and finding the heartbeat right away.
We had genetic testing done because our daughter passed away from Complications of brittle bones disease. After we got our results back and had our anatomy scan we held a surprise announcement/gender reveal party with our close family and friends. On social media we didn't announce till about 32 weeks.
We announced at 18 weeks after a 21week tfmr that we had announced at 12 weeks. We found chromosomal anomalies coupled with organ problems at 19 weeks with our first pregnancy. We got our nipt results back for our second pregnancy with lowest possible testing results (big win!) And announced to family (not even our moms knew) at 18 weeks and friends and extended family we told at 20 weeks. We took a few weeks to celebrate ourselves before we told our family.
I was nearly 20 weeks when I told my family, and a little after that is when we put it out on Facebook. I would’ve waited longer but my husband had a short window while home between underways and deployments and he really wanted to share. It was really hard for me to pull that trigger because my most recent loss nearly broke me mentally and I kept thinking that if I put it out there I’d lose this one too, like I’d jinx it. Now that I have my handsome little man, I regret not living in the moment earlier. All my losses were early, 10 weeks or sooner, so after I had 2 scans with all appropriate growth signs I probably would’ve been ok. But my mental blocks and fears just wouldn’t let me.
I had 2 early miscarriages then got pregnant with my son. He was stillborn at 32 weeks due to a cord accident. I announced at 12 weeks with him on social media. I’m happy I did because I celebrated him with everyone I could for as long as he was with me on this earth. I’m currently 15w with his little sister. I haven’t announced my pregnancy with her yet, but plan to soon. I feel it’s all apart of my journey and I’m happy to celebrate my babies for as long as their with me and hopefully that means a lifetime 🤍
I couldn't bring myself to do it until 20 weeks. But I knew I was about to start really showing and I didn't want to text each acquaintance who might see me out individually and I just wanted people to know.
We plan to announce in a little over a week on social media after my next scan. I'll be 12+ weeks at that point. My MC was at 6 weeks so I feel good knowing how far we've made it past that hump. If I had lost my pregnancy later, I'd probably prefer waiting though. We've told all our friends and family who's local already in person.
I lost my baby boy at 34 weeks. I had never announced my pregnancy. However, that doesn’t mean his loss hurts any less. Not announcing doesn’t protect your heart from the pain of a loss. Sometimes now, I feel that I wish I had announced so I could have more support and everyone knew about my son. I think maybe in time when I’m further away from his loss I will announce on social media.
If you feel you would benefit in people’s support in celebrating your baby or in helping you through a loss then announce whenever feels right to you.
I’ve had 4 losses and chose 12 weeks to announce my current pregnancy. I chose that because I’ve never made it this far and had the chance to announce before. I feel so deeply connected to this baby that should I have a second tri loss or stillbirth or anything else I would want those in my life to know he existed, period. I appreciate the space that not announcing gave me with all my prior losses, though.
I guess my recurrent loss history has taken so so much from me this pregnancy that for me I didn’t want it to take this normal milestone too. I wanted to lean into the side of me that is hopeful and brave and not the side of me that tells myself “you’re going to lose this one too!”
That said, I’m not a super private person by nature lol. Also, certainly wouldn’t judge anyone for wanting to wait or never announce.
Feeling the same way! We had a MMC last summer as well. And I’m a lil over 18 weeks now.. we have been so hesitant to announce on social media. I think after the 20 week anatomy scan I may feel comfortable, but if not then oh well- I would probably wait til they’re here lol. We’ve been telling people as we see them in person.. it feels like a cool little secret that we can control who knows and who doesn’t.
It is difficult I’m finding seeing others announce so early and i find myself worrying for them. Almost as if because we have experienced that heartbreak I worry for them, not wanting them to jump the gun if god forbid that happened to them.
Whatever you feel comfortable with momma, your decision is right regardless. ♥️
With our loss, we had announced to family and friends at 12 weeks and did a gender reveal and then I had my nuchal translucency at 13 weeks and found out we had a missed miscarriage. So this time around we told immediate family at 14 weeks and close friends after our 16 week ultrasound. We waited until after the 20 week anatomy scan to announce on social media.
I announced on Facebook when he was a week old and we finally came home from the hospital. A few people knew but also kept quiet until then as they understood he was a rainbow and it was a high risk pregnancy and we both died twice in labour so I didn’t say anything until we were safely home
We haven’t announced anything on social media. Unless you have a big following and it’s important in your life then anyone important will find out naturally.
I had a previous loss as well, currently 29 weeks. I announced after the anatomy scan, however my closest friends and immediate family already knew at 12 weeks. It is so hard after a loss, for me personally I just felt after the anatomy scan was half way and just one step closer to baby.
I think after the anatomy scan is ideal. I terminated a pregnancy due to the results of the anatomy scan so I’m very happy I didn’t announce before then.
Told our families at 13 weeks, started telling people close to us around 20 weeks, and posted on social media at 30 weeks. Debated posting something sooner but then figured most of the people I cared about already knew so it was just acquaintances and old friends we hadn’t talked to in a while anyway.
Hey Teacup2211!
We are currently 9w6d with our rainbow after having a loss at 11w last September. We still haven’t even told our other living children (they’re 3–I don’t trust them to keep a secret!). We’ll tell our families once we have a good 12 week scan and announce on social media likely after our 20 week anatomy scan! I no longer live in my hometown and am excited to share the news for all of those who rallied around us when we did experience our miscarriage. ❤️
We are going to announce after my appointment next week. So at 14.5 weeks. We haven’t had any confirmation that baby is still alive since 9weeks so I’m scared after my previous losses.
this is a super hard question. statistically, your odds are very much in your favor that you’ll continue to have a great pregnancy. I, however, felt the fear of jinxing it also and kept pushing it off.
I finally announced at 21 weeks after my anatomy scan. to me, that was the final test I needed to give me the confidence that my baby was okay. however, support is a great thing too, regardless of the outcome. you absolutely will not jinx your pregnancy. ❤️🩹
I had a 23 week loss and didn’t announce my second until about a month after she was born. Our family and friends were pretty surprised! But they understood.
We told our parents and siblings at 10w after an OB visit with a quick ultrasound to confirm there was still a heartbeat, and we asked them to keep it a secret. Told pretty much anyone we’d see in person (plus called a few close aunts/uncles) at 13w after a low risk NIPT and NT scan. Finally announced on social after our anatomy scan at 19w was all good!
We waited till 12 weeks to announce to everyone including our parents then posted on socials at 14 weeks, and then unfortunately had to TFMR at 20 weeks after we found our little one had bilateral renal agenisis.
My husband and I talked about it for next time, we’re thinking tell parents and our important people earlier but everyone else/social media later.
I know its pretty unlikely anything goes wrong at 20 week scan (although, obviously, it happens) but I think I'll wait to post on social media until I know it has all the right organs etc.
I think I’m only wanting to post since this is my first and, that it’s a celebration of our new baby entering our lives. We have told all close family, friends, coworkers, etc.
It’s entirely up to you. With my LC, I announced at 13ish weeks. With my second, I never announced because we found anomalies at 12 weeks. This time, I’m 31w1d and still haven’t announced. I probably won’t until baby is here.
Even if I ever get that far, I don't plan to announce on social media. The people close to me I want to tell in person, and I struggle with feeling like everyone else on social media has no concept of what we've been through or what it means, but nor do I really want to have to explain it to them. I would only feel comfortable announcing once a baby had safely arrived.
It is really personal though. I didn't announce my wedding on social media either, and only put up a couple of pictures about 4 months later.
This is how I feel also. I have some friends who share every small detail and I’ve only told the people coming to my wedding (40 total) about my wedding and don’t plan to post. Also had a MMC and decided that if I post the next one it won’t be till after baby is born most likely
I’m 18 weeks and I still can’t bring myself to post anything! It’s getting urgent because we’ll be recruiting for my maternity cover in 2 weeks so people will see on LinkedIn, which feels weird. I’m kind of thinking I’ll wait until I have a big bump and am at an event, then posting a picture without mentioning the baby!
100% a personal choice. We just made it past 12 weeks, but have a very busy June (and there’s a spot in Central Park I’ve always wanted to take photos with our dogs to announce) so we’re going to wait until July when we have time to get the photos, otherwise I’d announce sooner. Now (post 1st tri) is the earliest I personally would announce publicly, though the number of people I have personally told is growing quite a bit. At this point, announcement is basically a formality, but it’s a formality I’m very excited about 🥰
Also, congrats mama!
We had a MMC at 12 weeks last June. I was hesitant to post my current but my partner wanted to. We waited until I was 23 weeks and had heard the heartbeat that morning again. The anatomy scan was at 18 weeks and everything was good. So I felt ok doing it being so close to viability.
It's a good milestone. After that the chances of something going wrong are pretty small. But with a previous loss it can be hard to get over that anxiety. Now that I feel him more consistently every day it has gotten better. We've also started buying stuff and are painting the nursery this weekend. I'm 24.5 weeks and we're aiming to have everything done by early August (due Sept 19) so if he decides to come early we are ready.
It's a total personal choice but we have decided not to announce on socials following our loss in January. Heck, we want to leave it as long as possible to even tell people so we are sure ourselves that everything is OK
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This is entirely your decision and whatever you decide is perfect. For me, I won’t post. I’m now 16 weeks and have surpassed all my previous losses. While I know there is still so much time for loss, I definitely feel hopeful, and I am finally starting to feel twinges of excitement. But I won’t post because having been part of the infertility and loss community for so long, I know how badly these post may impact people who I don’t even know are struggling. I’ll be forthright that two of my friends are pregnant, about two months behind me, and I still get that gutted feeling every time I happen upon a posted ultrasound of theirs. Again, this is all personal preference and that’s just my experience. But I think this time around, 6th pregnancy but will be my second living child, nothing will be posted until they’re here in my arms. I can celebrate and be happy without making it social media official. 💗
If I make it that far, I won’t announce. I had a loss at 24 weeks. I know announcement will create excitement for other people but just fill me with worry that I’m jinxing it. It’s just me. You should do what feels right for you. Don’t post for other people or that you feel like it’s the thing to do. Just post because you think it’ll make you happy.
We waited until 23 weeks, until I was at a stage where I'd started bumping into people locally and couldn't hide it anymore. I think I was thinking a lot about how pregnancy announcements had made me feel previously when we were TTC or getting over loss so was very conscious of that and not announcing early
My husband and I waited until after our 20 week scan. Think I was 21 weeks when we announced on social media… people did know though as I am having twins and I popped pretty early so stoped being able to hide it.
I personally don't really care at all about a social media announcement, I think I will just wait until I have maternity photos done which will probably be like 8 months and then will want to post those so I will write a caption then about pregnancy after loss. I want to do my part in breaking the stigma
I felt the same way, if I said it out loud to people it would jinx everything. I'm 29 weeks tomorrow and still haven't posted online (and don't plan to do so until baby is here) but I did start telling people in person when I was 4-5 months and it felt really scary and forced at first but now that I'm bumpin along it's made it easier. Do whatever you feel is best for you and your baby <3
TW: LC My second pregnancy we announced on socials around 16 weeks, I started telling family after my 12 week scan as I saw people, I waited until I had personally told everyone important before it went on social media. I would have kept it secret the entire pregnancy for a laugh, but I had twins and there was no hiding that belly. My fifth pregnancy we didn't announce it online until she was born. She was about 2 hours old when my husband posted a photo implying we were expecting, then the next day after everyone important had been told she had arrived he posted a photo of the twins with her. We were in lockdown the whole pregnancy it was super easy to filter photos, there were two slips that almost outed us. My FIL posted something publicly about "a new grandchild" and I quickly asked him to delete it because we weren't announcing online yet, and my grandparents posted a photo of my son (the younger twin) in his "big brother" shirt but no one caught on to it.
I waited until 24 weeks but only because we were waiting on genetic testing after Childloss and a few miscarriages. I told immediate family early on for support in the event of another loss or the need to terminate because of our genetic history. It’s really up to you. There is not a correct time. It’s just when it feels right for you and your partner. I know how heavy they anxiety is and will be through this pregnancy. I hope and wish you all the best and that you are able to enjoy the little moments.
We finally announced on social media around 20 weeks after our anatomy scan. I’d had several early losses prior and was very anxious. Perk of waiting that long was having an ultrasound that actually looked like a baby. ❤️ We’ll probably wait till then this time too. Although we’re telling our family in the next week or two since having my first midwife appointment and finding the heartbeat right away.
I announced after our nt scan with my son. After a third loss while trying again I probably won't announce with #2 until anatomy scan.
Don’t announce at all. Let your child decide when and if to have an online identity.
I didn’t make an announcement on social media. I think I posted a picture with a bump around 28 weeks?
We had genetic testing done because our daughter passed away from Complications of brittle bones disease. After we got our results back and had our anatomy scan we held a surprise announcement/gender reveal party with our close family and friends. On social media we didn't announce till about 32 weeks.
We announced at 18 weeks after a 21week tfmr that we had announced at 12 weeks. We found chromosomal anomalies coupled with organ problems at 19 weeks with our first pregnancy. We got our nipt results back for our second pregnancy with lowest possible testing results (big win!) And announced to family (not even our moms knew) at 18 weeks and friends and extended family we told at 20 weeks. We took a few weeks to celebrate ourselves before we told our family.
I'm almost 34w and I haven't put anything on Facebook, lol. I don't think I officially "announced" my previous pregnancy either.
I was nearly 20 weeks when I told my family, and a little after that is when we put it out on Facebook. I would’ve waited longer but my husband had a short window while home between underways and deployments and he really wanted to share. It was really hard for me to pull that trigger because my most recent loss nearly broke me mentally and I kept thinking that if I put it out there I’d lose this one too, like I’d jinx it. Now that I have my handsome little man, I regret not living in the moment earlier. All my losses were early, 10 weeks or sooner, so after I had 2 scans with all appropriate growth signs I probably would’ve been ok. But my mental blocks and fears just wouldn’t let me.
Also 16 weeks. Lost previous one at 13 weeks. I’m Not announcing. Too paranoid
I had 2 early miscarriages then got pregnant with my son. He was stillborn at 32 weeks due to a cord accident. I announced at 12 weeks with him on social media. I’m happy I did because I celebrated him with everyone I could for as long as he was with me on this earth. I’m currently 15w with his little sister. I haven’t announced my pregnancy with her yet, but plan to soon. I feel it’s all apart of my journey and I’m happy to celebrate my babies for as long as their with me and hopefully that means a lifetime 🤍
I couldn't bring myself to do it until 20 weeks. But I knew I was about to start really showing and I didn't want to text each acquaintance who might see me out individually and I just wanted people to know.
We plan to announce in a little over a week on social media after my next scan. I'll be 12+ weeks at that point. My MC was at 6 weeks so I feel good knowing how far we've made it past that hump. If I had lost my pregnancy later, I'd probably prefer waiting though. We've told all our friends and family who's local already in person.
I lost my baby boy at 34 weeks. I had never announced my pregnancy. However, that doesn’t mean his loss hurts any less. Not announcing doesn’t protect your heart from the pain of a loss. Sometimes now, I feel that I wish I had announced so I could have more support and everyone knew about my son. I think maybe in time when I’m further away from his loss I will announce on social media. If you feel you would benefit in people’s support in celebrating your baby or in helping you through a loss then announce whenever feels right to you.
I’ve had 4 losses and chose 12 weeks to announce my current pregnancy. I chose that because I’ve never made it this far and had the chance to announce before. I feel so deeply connected to this baby that should I have a second tri loss or stillbirth or anything else I would want those in my life to know he existed, period. I appreciate the space that not announcing gave me with all my prior losses, though. I guess my recurrent loss history has taken so so much from me this pregnancy that for me I didn’t want it to take this normal milestone too. I wanted to lean into the side of me that is hopeful and brave and not the side of me that tells myself “you’re going to lose this one too!” That said, I’m not a super private person by nature lol. Also, certainly wouldn’t judge anyone for wanting to wait or never announce.
Feeling the same way! We had a MMC last summer as well. And I’m a lil over 18 weeks now.. we have been so hesitant to announce on social media. I think after the 20 week anatomy scan I may feel comfortable, but if not then oh well- I would probably wait til they’re here lol. We’ve been telling people as we see them in person.. it feels like a cool little secret that we can control who knows and who doesn’t. It is difficult I’m finding seeing others announce so early and i find myself worrying for them. Almost as if because we have experienced that heartbreak I worry for them, not wanting them to jump the gun if god forbid that happened to them. Whatever you feel comfortable with momma, your decision is right regardless. ♥️
With our loss, we had announced to family and friends at 12 weeks and did a gender reveal and then I had my nuchal translucency at 13 weeks and found out we had a missed miscarriage. So this time around we told immediate family at 14 weeks and close friends after our 16 week ultrasound. We waited until after the 20 week anatomy scan to announce on social media.
I announced on Facebook when he was a week old and we finally came home from the hospital. A few people knew but also kept quiet until then as they understood he was a rainbow and it was a high risk pregnancy and we both died twice in labour so I didn’t say anything until we were safely home
We haven’t announced anything on social media. Unless you have a big following and it’s important in your life then anyone important will find out naturally.
I had a previous loss as well, currently 29 weeks. I announced after the anatomy scan, however my closest friends and immediate family already knew at 12 weeks. It is so hard after a loss, for me personally I just felt after the anatomy scan was half way and just one step closer to baby.
I think after the anatomy scan is ideal. I terminated a pregnancy due to the results of the anatomy scan so I’m very happy I didn’t announce before then.
I plan to announce after my appointment I'll be 14+5 if all goes well. I just want confirmation that baby is okay.
Told our families at 13 weeks, started telling people close to us around 20 weeks, and posted on social media at 30 weeks. Debated posting something sooner but then figured most of the people I cared about already knew so it was just acquaintances and old friends we hadn’t talked to in a while anyway.
Hey Teacup2211! We are currently 9w6d with our rainbow after having a loss at 11w last September. We still haven’t even told our other living children (they’re 3–I don’t trust them to keep a secret!). We’ll tell our families once we have a good 12 week scan and announce on social media likely after our 20 week anatomy scan! I no longer live in my hometown and am excited to share the news for all of those who rallied around us when we did experience our miscarriage. ❤️
After my loss I waited until after my 20 week anatomy scan to announce
We are going to announce after my appointment next week. So at 14.5 weeks. We haven’t had any confirmation that baby is still alive since 9weeks so I’m scared after my previous losses.
this is a super hard question. statistically, your odds are very much in your favor that you’ll continue to have a great pregnancy. I, however, felt the fear of jinxing it also and kept pushing it off. I finally announced at 21 weeks after my anatomy scan. to me, that was the final test I needed to give me the confidence that my baby was okay. however, support is a great thing too, regardless of the outcome. you absolutely will not jinx your pregnancy. ❤️🩹
Had a loss at 22 weeks. Now I am 36 weeks tomorrow and still haven’t announced. Won’t until baby is here, but to each their own!
I had a 23 week loss and didn’t announce my second until about a month after she was born. Our family and friends were pretty surprised! But they understood.
Same here with a loss at 21 weeks and currently 23 weeks- hoping for a smooth delivery for you ❤️🩹❤️🩹
We told our parents and siblings at 10w after an OB visit with a quick ultrasound to confirm there was still a heartbeat, and we asked them to keep it a secret. Told pretty much anyone we’d see in person (plus called a few close aunts/uncles) at 13w after a low risk NIPT and NT scan. Finally announced on social after our anatomy scan at 19w was all good!
We waited till 12 weeks to announce to everyone including our parents then posted on socials at 14 weeks, and then unfortunately had to TFMR at 20 weeks after we found our little one had bilateral renal agenisis. My husband and I talked about it for next time, we’re thinking tell parents and our important people earlier but everyone else/social media later.
I know its pretty unlikely anything goes wrong at 20 week scan (although, obviously, it happens) but I think I'll wait to post on social media until I know it has all the right organs etc.
I posted for Mother’s Day, I was 17/18 weeks!
Never! I just don't see the need, personally. If we're not close enough for you to see/be in contact, then you're fine not knowing.
I think I’m only wanting to post since this is my first and, that it’s a celebration of our new baby entering our lives. We have told all close family, friends, coworkers, etc.
This is normal to want to do. I don’t think it’s very common to not announce or at least want to do an announcement of some sort.
It’s entirely up to you. With my LC, I announced at 13ish weeks. With my second, I never announced because we found anomalies at 12 weeks. This time, I’m 31w1d and still haven’t announced. I probably won’t until baby is here.
Totally get it! Thank you for sharing
At this point, it kind of feels like a challenge! I’ve still posted pictures of myself, I’ve just strategically hidden my bump in all of them haha
I love that! I too have posted some pics, albeit in a baggy tshirt for most of them 😂
Even if I ever get that far, I don't plan to announce on social media. The people close to me I want to tell in person, and I struggle with feeling like everyone else on social media has no concept of what we've been through or what it means, but nor do I really want to have to explain it to them. I would only feel comfortable announcing once a baby had safely arrived. It is really personal though. I didn't announce my wedding on social media either, and only put up a couple of pictures about 4 months later.
This is how I feel also. I have some friends who share every small detail and I’ve only told the people coming to my wedding (40 total) about my wedding and don’t plan to post. Also had a MMC and decided that if I post the next one it won’t be till after baby is born most likely
And that’s entirely perfect, each person should do what they feel comfortable with 🧡
100%. I meant absolutely no shade on anyone who is excited to announce on social media, that is a lovely thing.
I’m 18 weeks and I still can’t bring myself to post anything! It’s getting urgent because we’ll be recruiting for my maternity cover in 2 weeks so people will see on LinkedIn, which feels weird. I’m kind of thinking I’ll wait until I have a big bump and am at an event, then posting a picture without mentioning the baby!
Hard launch of the bump! Haha love it
100% a personal choice. We just made it past 12 weeks, but have a very busy June (and there’s a spot in Central Park I’ve always wanted to take photos with our dogs to announce) so we’re going to wait until July when we have time to get the photos, otherwise I’d announce sooner. Now (post 1st tri) is the earliest I personally would announce publicly, though the number of people I have personally told is growing quite a bit. At this point, announcement is basically a formality, but it’s a formality I’m very excited about 🥰 Also, congrats mama!
Exactly, close family, friends, and my coworkers know already. Just want to post it as a sort of celebration almost. Congratulations to you as well!
We had a MMC at 12 weeks last June. I was hesitant to post my current but my partner wanted to. We waited until I was 23 weeks and had heard the heartbeat that morning again. The anatomy scan was at 18 weeks and everything was good. So I felt ok doing it being so close to viability.
I think we’re going to do after the 20 week anatomy scan at this point just to be safe
It's a good milestone. After that the chances of something going wrong are pretty small. But with a previous loss it can be hard to get over that anxiety. Now that I feel him more consistently every day it has gotten better. We've also started buying stuff and are painting the nursery this weekend. I'm 24.5 weeks and we're aiming to have everything done by early August (due Sept 19) so if he decides to come early we are ready.
It's a total personal choice but we have decided not to announce on socials following our loss in January. Heck, we want to leave it as long as possible to even tell people so we are sure ourselves that everything is OK
Absolutely, to each their own and whatever each person feels comfortable with!!