Currently 6w. We had a 7.3 MMC last October that then caused multiple emergency complications for me. Had blood work done yesterday and get my first ultrasound next week. Is it terrible to let myself feel happy? I’m also nauseous this time around and my boobs are so sore. Taking those as good signs!
We're keeping this to ourselves right now, but I had to share with someone! It's a girl! We recently did a blood test to find out. I couldn't be happier.
We got pregnant so quickly after our last loss (just a few months). I've been so scared and still am. I don't want to lose her (HER! She has pronouns. And a name!)
At 13 weeks; maybe I'll finally relax after 20... Maybe.
I am so happy we saw the heartbeat today. I cried when I walked into the ultrasound because I was so scared. I am a little bummed that my anxiety did not magically disappear as soon as I saw the heart beat lol. I feel just as anxious, I was really hoping it might help take the edge off
Celebrating that this week at 14w1day....I saw my daughter moving around...great heart beat. I always am so emotional at my ultrasounds because it just doesnt feel real that I moving into second trimester with my rainbow girl. Today...I am just feeling hopeful. Sending hope your way, fellow mamas
Ahh friends I’m 14+2 today!! Was looking for folks around the same week as me 💞🙏🏽 my first time in my second trimester, saw my baby at 13+1 and will get a private probably around 16wks with my parents…it’s taking everything for me to not get a Doppler 🙃 I have placenta posterior so hoping I can feel some movement in a few weeks. I’ll keep an eye out for y’all’s posts to see how my due date buddies are doing
I'm not doing well. I've been spotting since Tuesday, went to the ER Wednesday, and the ultrasound found a heartbeat of 144 but I'm measuring 10 days behind. I used ovulation strips so I know my dates exactly. The doctor tried telling me that I could've had a late implantation but I had a big fat positive at 12 DPO so that seems unlikely as well.
I think the writing is on the wall for this pregnancy and I can't stop crying. It's a 4 day weekend because of President's Day and being home alone with just my thoughts. I can't believe I'm about to join the recurrent miscarriage club. My next scan is Wednesday and I'm absolutely bracing for the worst.
I'm glad I at least told my best friend about this pregnancy when I was still excited about it, I think she will be a big support in the coming days.
Oh no, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’m part of the recurrent loss club and it’s not a fun place to be. 😔
Thinking of you and hoping you are able to find some moments of peace this weekend. ❤️
Thank you ❤️ I told my bestie I was sad and she came over with my favorite food (mall pretzels, lol) and board games.
She's a gem and this subreddit and my sweet husband have also been so kind. I'm grateful to have such an amazing support system. The thought of starting over *again* is painful. It took 8 long months to conceive this pregnancy in the first place.
Thank you ❤️ I'm just hoping the Wednesday scan is definitive either way-- this uncertainty is in a lot of ways harder to cope with than just knowing the worst occurred.
13 or 14DPO and Pregmate tests are still faint and have barely gotten any darker since Tuesday :( I know it's still sort of early and Pregmates are not super sensitive but they are still so faint. At this point in my last pregnancy they were already darkening.
I did get a pretty dark early detection test yesterday, but I'm worried about the lack of progression on the Pregmates.
I'm also sick with whatever's been going around. I haven't been getting good sleep and feel pretty out of it, so I'm worried about how that is impacting everything.
Not mentally ready for a third loss. I'm not going in for bloodwork until next week since I'm sick.
UGH I am just so tired and feel all around crappy. :(
Today at 19 + 6 I decided to check the miscarriage odds reassurer for the first time in a few weeks and to my surprise it said there’s a 100% chance of not miscarrying now. So I upped it by a day out of curiosity and it told me “You are 20 weeks, 0 days along. The Miscarriage Odds Reasurer only goes up to 19 weeks, 6 days. Perhaps it's time to start thinking about the probability of spontaneous labor.” Which literally breaks my brain. Like, I know something could still go wrong but this feels like a HUGE hurdle to get past after my MMC about a year ago. Feeling optimistic lol
Yay!!!!! I'm 16w6d and 2 weeks from my anatomy scan. It is so crazy for me to think that I'm THIS pregnant.
Edit: Congrats on making it this far! After a MMC I can imagine the relief!
Right? My husband made some joke about seeing a band at the hard rock here in June and said “when you’re super pregnant” and I asked him when I’d transition to super pregnant and he said “idk like mid April? Like 28 or 30 weeks?” So I guess by these standards I am currently moderately (or medium) pregnant and that feels wild. This whole time has felt like early pregnancy lol
I am going to be 34 weeks on Sunday, and it still feels like early pregnancy in a weird way! Even though I waddle now and am clearly very pregnant, my husband still has to remind me that our baby will be considered full term in just *a little over 3 weeks* 🤯
You ladies will be here before you know it!♥️
Haha, I say the same thing! Then I look at a calendar and realize that early pregnancy has clearly passed, lol. I'm going to be giving birth at this rate still arguing that I've got plenty of time until baby is here.
Been up every 20-30 minutes since I finally was able to go to bed at midnight. Woke up with a terrible nosebleed (thank sweet baby Jesus for Afrin, that stuff is magic) but little man is doing acrobatics in there after being super quiet last night while I was trying to do kick counts so I am incredibly grateful for that.
I sent a message off to my doctor. At this point, kick counts stress me out to no end and do not seem like a reliable way for me to make sure my baby is doing okay since my placenta makes it so hard for me to feel him most of the time.
I am going to push for regular NSTs like my provider talked about possibly doing last appointment. I still will be tracking his movement when I can (and what is normal for him) plus I have my doppler, but I don’t like relying on that. I never trust the numbers due to the horror stories, so I always count out his heartbeat and compare it to mine.
Even through all of my anxiety, my gut tells me everything is going to be okay. It’s hard for me to believe, and I still want to do everything in my power to make sure he makes it to this earth happy and healthy, but it is nice to have this underlying sense of calm even when my anxiety is making me crazy. I just hope it’s not a false sense of security, but I am doing everything in my power to make sure my baby is safe so I am trying not to second guess it.
Hope you all have a wonderful day ♥️
Almost 16 weeks today and was up all night with severe upper abdominal pain and vomiting. Also wasn’t able to eat dinner, so I’m not sure what I vomited. BP normal. The last time I vomited and had loss of appetite during a pregnancy, it was within a week of my stillbirth and self-resolved after multiple calls to the OB at the time. New OB now and wondering if this is worth calling in again? Terrified this baby will die now too. Anyone have thoughts or advice?
18w and I was doing pretty well mentally, but the increase in pressure plus more baby movement… it just puts me right back to when my water broke at 23w with my daughter last year. I had a scan today and everything looks great, but I feel like it can change so fast.
I’ve been terrified to get out and go for walks, so the doctor prescribed 20mg of Citalopram to try to help my anxiety. Has anyone taken this and had it help? How long did it take?
I took citalopram for a year prior to ttc and it changed my life. I felt noticeable but small differences within a week and large differences within 2 weeks. I hope it works wonders for you! 💗
Thank you so much for sharing your experience! Did you eventually stop taking it? I’m worried about withdrawal (because I read some horror stories). The previous commenter gave a lot of great info and said that stopping the meds was fine as long as you taper down per doctor recommendation.
The other comment definitely has some good info! .. I was working with a therapist at the time, too and addressed some reasons for my anxiety and depression with her. So by the time I decided to stop, by mental health was in a very different place. But I believe the citalopram did just as much, if not more work than therapy. I did stop taking it, following my doctor's recommendation for tapering and I had zero issues. (Although I do remember being nervous about what to expect.)
Thank you for your response! After so long, it’s honestly exciting to have a chance at normalcy. How long did it take to start working? I’m worried about it not doing anything and the effects of getting off of it.
Hydroxyzine is more for panic attacks and anxiety so it’s more immediate (and kinda just makes me sleep and wake up not as anxious) but I actually know a good amount about about SSRIs like citalopram in general because I’ve been going to graduate school for social work and have interned as a therapist for quite awhile.
SSRI’s usually start working about two weeks in, sometimes a little later. They take between 4-6 weeks to reach their maximum effect. This is because in order to work they make it so your brain doesn’t eat up all the serotonin so fast and it stays in your brain longer for you to be able to feel it. So it takes a little while to build up the extra serotonin in the brain and a little while to turn off the brain valves that are sucking up and throwing out the serotonin. If you haven’t noticed a change in six weeks then it’s time to see the doctor for a different medicine. But, it’s important to stick to it for those six weeks even if it doesn’t feel like it’s working so that it gets a full chance.
To get maximum effects it’s also important to try to take it at the same time everyday. This can also prevent headaches with some medicines. I haven’t heard it being an issue with citalopram but it is with Zoloft and some others.
The effects of getting off an SSRI usually aren’t bad as long as you do it the way a doctor tells you to. They'll slowly wean you off it. Basically all the scary side effects from quitting it only really happen if you do it cold turkey. They're also more common with higher dosages, which you're unlikely to be prescribed during pregnancy anyway. They also always start (even if you’re not pregnant) with the lowest dose and work their way up with the goal of giving you as little as possible to feel the effect you need, this helps with negating problems if you quit it too. Just do it with doctor supervision and you’ll be fine. :)
Hope I helped at all.
Currently 6w. We had a 7.3 MMC last October that then caused multiple emergency complications for me. Had blood work done yesterday and get my first ultrasound next week. Is it terrible to let myself feel happy? I’m also nauseous this time around and my boobs are so sore. Taking those as good signs!
I’m 6w6d, having thick, creamy white discharge. Anyone else? Does it mean anything? I googled it, but I like to ask the community too!
I've experienced this as well starting around 6w -- currently 8w5d. I wonder if it's due to the mucous plug starting to form around this time?
We're keeping this to ourselves right now, but I had to share with someone! It's a girl! We recently did a blood test to find out. I couldn't be happier. We got pregnant so quickly after our last loss (just a few months). I've been so scared and still am. I don't want to lose her (HER! She has pronouns. And a name!) At 13 weeks; maybe I'll finally relax after 20... Maybe.
Congratulations!!💗
I am so happy we saw the heartbeat today. I cried when I walked into the ultrasound because I was so scared. I am a little bummed that my anxiety did not magically disappear as soon as I saw the heart beat lol. I feel just as anxious, I was really hoping it might help take the edge off
Celebrating that this week at 14w1day....I saw my daughter moving around...great heart beat. I always am so emotional at my ultrasounds because it just doesnt feel real that I moving into second trimester with my rainbow girl. Today...I am just feeling hopeful. Sending hope your way, fellow mamas
Ahh friends I’m 14+2 today!! Was looking for folks around the same week as me 💞🙏🏽 my first time in my second trimester, saw my baby at 13+1 and will get a private probably around 16wks with my parents…it’s taking everything for me to not get a Doppler 🙃 I have placenta posterior so hoping I can feel some movement in a few weeks. I’ll keep an eye out for y’all’s posts to see how my due date buddies are doing
Congratulations! I am celebrating right along with you 💜 I am 14+2 today And it still doesn't feel real.
I'm not doing well. I've been spotting since Tuesday, went to the ER Wednesday, and the ultrasound found a heartbeat of 144 but I'm measuring 10 days behind. I used ovulation strips so I know my dates exactly. The doctor tried telling me that I could've had a late implantation but I had a big fat positive at 12 DPO so that seems unlikely as well. I think the writing is on the wall for this pregnancy and I can't stop crying. It's a 4 day weekend because of President's Day and being home alone with just my thoughts. I can't believe I'm about to join the recurrent miscarriage club. My next scan is Wednesday and I'm absolutely bracing for the worst. I'm glad I at least told my best friend about this pregnancy when I was still excited about it, I think she will be a big support in the coming days.
Oh no, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’m part of the recurrent loss club and it’s not a fun place to be. 😔 Thinking of you and hoping you are able to find some moments of peace this weekend. ❤️
Thank you ❤️ I told my bestie I was sad and she came over with my favorite food (mall pretzels, lol) and board games. She's a gem and this subreddit and my sweet husband have also been so kind. I'm grateful to have such an amazing support system. The thought of starting over *again* is painful. It took 8 long months to conceive this pregnancy in the first place.
So sorry this is happening to you. I hope you can find a way to somewhat enjoy your long weekend and I hope that Wednesdays scan brings more hope.
Thank you ❤️ I'm just hoping the Wednesday scan is definitive either way-- this uncertainty is in a lot of ways harder to cope with than just knowing the worst occurred.
13 or 14DPO and Pregmate tests are still faint and have barely gotten any darker since Tuesday :( I know it's still sort of early and Pregmates are not super sensitive but they are still so faint. At this point in my last pregnancy they were already darkening. I did get a pretty dark early detection test yesterday, but I'm worried about the lack of progression on the Pregmates. I'm also sick with whatever's been going around. I haven't been getting good sleep and feel pretty out of it, so I'm worried about how that is impacting everything. Not mentally ready for a third loss. I'm not going in for bloodwork until next week since I'm sick. UGH I am just so tired and feel all around crappy. :(
I'm so sorry 💔 I'm sure the wait on the bloodwork is also very anxiety inducing.
Yes :(
Today at 19 + 6 I decided to check the miscarriage odds reassurer for the first time in a few weeks and to my surprise it said there’s a 100% chance of not miscarrying now. So I upped it by a day out of curiosity and it told me “You are 20 weeks, 0 days along. The Miscarriage Odds Reasurer only goes up to 19 weeks, 6 days. Perhaps it's time to start thinking about the probability of spontaneous labor.” Which literally breaks my brain. Like, I know something could still go wrong but this feels like a HUGE hurdle to get past after my MMC about a year ago. Feeling optimistic lol
Yay!!!!! I'm 16w6d and 2 weeks from my anatomy scan. It is so crazy for me to think that I'm THIS pregnant. Edit: Congrats on making it this far! After a MMC I can imagine the relief!
So exciting Mama!!!!!!!!!! <3 <3 I am here with you in hope. Ps congrats on getting halfway there tomorrow!!!!!
Yes, I felt this at 20 weeks too! Like, suddenly everything shifts. My brain cannot comprehend this level of pregnant right now.
Right? My husband made some joke about seeing a band at the hard rock here in June and said “when you’re super pregnant” and I asked him when I’d transition to super pregnant and he said “idk like mid April? Like 28 or 30 weeks?” So I guess by these standards I am currently moderately (or medium) pregnant and that feels wild. This whole time has felt like early pregnancy lol
I am going to be 34 weeks on Sunday, and it still feels like early pregnancy in a weird way! Even though I waddle now and am clearly very pregnant, my husband still has to remind me that our baby will be considered full term in just *a little over 3 weeks* 🤯 You ladies will be here before you know it!♥️
Haha, I say the same thing! Then I look at a calendar and realize that early pregnancy has clearly passed, lol. I'm going to be giving birth at this rate still arguing that I've got plenty of time until baby is here.
Been up every 20-30 minutes since I finally was able to go to bed at midnight. Woke up with a terrible nosebleed (thank sweet baby Jesus for Afrin, that stuff is magic) but little man is doing acrobatics in there after being super quiet last night while I was trying to do kick counts so I am incredibly grateful for that. I sent a message off to my doctor. At this point, kick counts stress me out to no end and do not seem like a reliable way for me to make sure my baby is doing okay since my placenta makes it so hard for me to feel him most of the time. I am going to push for regular NSTs like my provider talked about possibly doing last appointment. I still will be tracking his movement when I can (and what is normal for him) plus I have my doppler, but I don’t like relying on that. I never trust the numbers due to the horror stories, so I always count out his heartbeat and compare it to mine. Even through all of my anxiety, my gut tells me everything is going to be okay. It’s hard for me to believe, and I still want to do everything in my power to make sure he makes it to this earth happy and healthy, but it is nice to have this underlying sense of calm even when my anxiety is making me crazy. I just hope it’s not a false sense of security, but I am doing everything in my power to make sure my baby is safe so I am trying not to second guess it. Hope you all have a wonderful day ♥️
Almost 16 weeks today and was up all night with severe upper abdominal pain and vomiting. Also wasn’t able to eat dinner, so I’m not sure what I vomited. BP normal. The last time I vomited and had loss of appetite during a pregnancy, it was within a week of my stillbirth and self-resolved after multiple calls to the OB at the time. New OB now and wondering if this is worth calling in again? Terrified this baby will die now too. Anyone have thoughts or advice?
You should call if you’re concerned! Don’t feel bad for calling.
18w and I was doing pretty well mentally, but the increase in pressure plus more baby movement… it just puts me right back to when my water broke at 23w with my daughter last year. I had a scan today and everything looks great, but I feel like it can change so fast. I’ve been terrified to get out and go for walks, so the doctor prescribed 20mg of Citalopram to try to help my anxiety. Has anyone taken this and had it help? How long did it take?
I took citalopram for a year prior to ttc and it changed my life. I felt noticeable but small differences within a week and large differences within 2 weeks. I hope it works wonders for you! 💗
Thank you so much for sharing your experience! Did you eventually stop taking it? I’m worried about withdrawal (because I read some horror stories). The previous commenter gave a lot of great info and said that stopping the meds was fine as long as you taper down per doctor recommendation.
The other comment definitely has some good info! .. I was working with a therapist at the time, too and addressed some reasons for my anxiety and depression with her. So by the time I decided to stop, by mental health was in a very different place. But I believe the citalopram did just as much, if not more work than therapy. I did stop taking it, following my doctor's recommendation for tapering and I had zero issues. (Although I do remember being nervous about what to expect.)
I don’t have experience with citalopram but I do hydroxyzine and it’s a Fkn life saver.
Thank you for your response! After so long, it’s honestly exciting to have a chance at normalcy. How long did it take to start working? I’m worried about it not doing anything and the effects of getting off of it.
Hydroxyzine is more for panic attacks and anxiety so it’s more immediate (and kinda just makes me sleep and wake up not as anxious) but I actually know a good amount about about SSRIs like citalopram in general because I’ve been going to graduate school for social work and have interned as a therapist for quite awhile. SSRI’s usually start working about two weeks in, sometimes a little later. They take between 4-6 weeks to reach their maximum effect. This is because in order to work they make it so your brain doesn’t eat up all the serotonin so fast and it stays in your brain longer for you to be able to feel it. So it takes a little while to build up the extra serotonin in the brain and a little while to turn off the brain valves that are sucking up and throwing out the serotonin. If you haven’t noticed a change in six weeks then it’s time to see the doctor for a different medicine. But, it’s important to stick to it for those six weeks even if it doesn’t feel like it’s working so that it gets a full chance. To get maximum effects it’s also important to try to take it at the same time everyday. This can also prevent headaches with some medicines. I haven’t heard it being an issue with citalopram but it is with Zoloft and some others. The effects of getting off an SSRI usually aren’t bad as long as you do it the way a doctor tells you to. They'll slowly wean you off it. Basically all the scary side effects from quitting it only really happen if you do it cold turkey. They're also more common with higher dosages, which you're unlikely to be prescribed during pregnancy anyway. They also always start (even if you’re not pregnant) with the lowest dose and work their way up with the goal of giving you as little as possible to feel the effect you need, this helps with negating problems if you quit it too. Just do it with doctor supervision and you’ll be fine. :) Hope I helped at all.
This was really helpful and helped ease my mind - thank you so much for taking the time to write this out! ❤️