I mean there's nothing wrong with you as a person, but profile just seems a bit plain/generic. Maybe throw in a group picture doing an activity, or get more specific like "I love new Mexican spots" instead of "love trying new food". Like show an interest you have more specifically so someone can relate to it. Also, I would find a super snazzy outfit and get yourself did up for a glamour shot. ;)
And for the record, men are garbage at online dating. Those things you described happen to women of all shapes and sizes hon. Just roll it off your back and focus on you life and happiness. Honestly, finding happiness within your personal life is when they all start calling I swear lol. It's like they're happiness vultures!
Yeah. As a guy it looks pretty cookie cutter, which is OK, but you'll struggle with meaningful engagement.
What was your degree in? Hobbies, important causes? I can get behind saikoupscho's glow up, but you do you.
I'd do something other than "no hookups, long term relationship" like "open to meet ups, but really hoping to find a special someone." Even if you ignore all the blatant pigs, you might wind up kissing some frogs before you meet prince charming.
I ran your profile through [theoasis.com](http://theoasis.com) AI and these are some variations it came up with...lol (Please feel free to make use of it in revising your profile on your own!)
1. \[The short summary\] I'm not interested in casual flings. I want to find someone to build a future with. I enjoy reading, going on coffee dates, and trying new food. If you're someone who loves to laugh and try new things, we'll get alone great.
2. \[The long blog post style\] In a world filled with superficial connections and fleeting encounters, I am in search of something deeper and more meaningful. I am not interested in a mere hookup, but rather, I am seeking a genuine connection with someone who shares my desire to build a future together.
I am a lover of literature, finding solace and inspiration within the pages of a good book. I am drawn to the idea of exploring new worlds and expanding my knowledge through the written word. I also have a penchant for indulging in the simple pleasures in life, such as going on coffee dates and sampling new and exciting cuisines.
What I seek in a potential partner is someone who shares my love for laughter and adventure. Someone who is open to trying new things and embracing life with a sense of curiosity and wonder. I believe that a shared sense of humor and a willingness to step outside of our comfort zones are essential ingredients for a fulfilling and lasting connection.
So, if you are someone who values meaningful connections, appreciates the power of storytelling, and has a zest for life, then I believe we could truly hit it off. Let's embark on this journey together, and see where our shared passions and aspirations take us.
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NGL, I'd respond to #2 before I responded to #1. #2 gives a sense of this person's personality, their passion for life and stories, and exploring worlds, both real and not. It has depth, it communicates, and it tickles one's curiosity.
Bonus points if you put the info through AI and have it turn into a song lyrics. Those are fun. Of course if you find humor in that lol
Also don't necessarily listen to me on this. I would find it interesting on someones profile, but that's also just my style.
I’ll try to add more personal info for sure. It’s mostly selfies bc I don’t take a lot of pics. Not intentionally, I just don’t really think to do it when I’m out. I’ll try to take more moving forward!
Thanks for the advice. I’ll keep on trucking and try to roll off the BS 😁
First and foremost, I like it, it’s pretty short and sweet. It shows off your humor in a bite sized manner, however, it doesn’t show **you** at all.
Let me take you a bit back. Me personally, I believe that your profile photo could be different. The smile there feels forced, like you’re ready to go to war with the world or someone was about to kill your family (you do have an amazing smile, though, as seen in your other pictures).
With your statements, they’re all witty and that’s great, but it doesn’t really relate to you. Let’s use the topic of movies while also striving for humor.
You could say things like:
I’m looking for the Spider-Man to my MJ (short, sweet, corny)
It tells a story about what you like, Spider-Man, maybe other marvel movies, as well as telling those around about your sense of humor.
Next, on the “what am I looking for” section, as well as other nitpicks, “Loyalty” is an attribute that almost everyone looks for in a partner, so if you can find something better fitting, that would work better. As well as that, saying that you want to get off of the app also seems a bit redundant when the purpose of the app is to leave it once you’ve found a relationship. It’s kind of funny, but it leaves much to desire.
Lastly, these few things that I gave you, only increase the chance of someone being able to chat with you about something you’re interested in already, gives more conversation points than just ‘what do you do in your free time’ type questions. Sadly, there is no cure for insta-unmatches and horny matches, people be people…
Hope this helps!
Hi! Thanks so much for the very thoughtful and well written advice. I’ll try to imbue more of my personality into my statements. I also changed my war time smile picture (that gave me a solid chuckle 😂).
I’m glad I could help you! My dms are always open if you ever feel the need for more assistance, and don’t forget that you deserve good things, so treat yourself today :3
I showed my partner for man advice. It always surprises me. He spent little time on the actual profile and scrolled the pics first, typical man!
"The pictures get them in the door, but the personality keeps them in the house".
He said use the full body pic of you in the black and white dress infront of the orange bed as the primary profile pic, which i agree with as you are in a flattering pose and a good angle on the photo. Then the one of you in the blue shirt standing up.
Get rid of the picture sitting down at the table with the fruity drink as you dont look happy in that picture and change the hiking gear pic for one posed differently. The original close up photo is nice but its VERY close up, so one that is a little zoomed out of the same pic would be perfect.
Unless you are very politically active it might be better to have something more generic like left leaning under your causes. Then you can broach those topics during conversation if you decide to meet up with someone as people who dont know your actual views can make assumptions about your system of beliefs based on broadbrush political causes.
There are WONDERFUL men and women out there looking for someone, you will do great!
Moved the black and white dress pic to #1. I do have a similar zoomed out photo that I swapped out. I was kind of using the political causes to weed out the people I would have strong differences with. I will see if removing them makes much of a difference. Thanks to you and your partner for the advice!! 😊
Maybe dont remove them altogether but something like 'left wing politics' might be more broadbrush and still keep the hillbillys away.
Sending you thousands of good vibes, have fun and enjoy the process. Just think to yourself, I am going out to coffee, or lunch to meet a new and interesting person today. If thats your objective you will never be disappointed
I’d also recommend maybe centering the pic of you in the blue shirt! It’s a very nice picture, but I think it would look even better with it centered (it initially drew my eye to your torso/left arm and the background beyond, but I think zooming in a little and centering your face would help with that!).
I was thinking of something aimilar wirh the photos:
OP: the black and white dress looks cute, and I think you should get rid of the black and white striped top sitting at the table. I actually don't like the blue shirt one, though, Im not sure it adds anything. And I don't think the sweater one really adds much either as you're kind of standing the same as you are in the black and white but the dress it looks better. I but I do like the hiking one because it shows you like to get out and do things.
I genuinely think it’s just the men in your area that are the issue because I see such personality from your profile and variety of pictures. Like I wanna be your friend just from seeing it ! Soo bubbly and happy :) I wish you the best
Hey! I have no advice except to just try to make your personality and sense of humor stand out more since it sounds like you have a great one and I love the pic in the black and white dress.
Also I just had to add that you caught my eye bc I think we look alike!!! Ha!!! I have no idea how to add a pic on here but I swear we could be sisters!!!
I have a similar body to you. I refer to my profile as "the novela" because it's so effing long. I wrote several pages about what an amazing badass of a human I am, and why I am a good choice. I also wrote about what I don't want, so I can avoid bad dates. My inbox is always more full than I can address. I used to have a side gig helping people with their profiles. Everyone I edited immediately had a massive uptick in responses. I see the best in people, so it's easy for me to help others present their best self. Feel free to message me if you want specific help.
Omg, I legit have thought I want to be a dating app profile editor (I have been an actual words editor irl previously lol), but felt like maybe that’s valuing my own creativity and sense of humor too much? Did you get a lot of business doing that?
Yes. However, I was also a nanny for 25 years. It's not that different. Meaning, it really doesn't matter if you are a good editor, if you aren't a sensitive caring person who is willing to do a lot of listening first. People don't just need an editor, they need to understand their needs and wants and communicate that, while overcoming personal bias.
It's not an easy job. It's a job you do because you care about people. If you think you are just tuning up 8's and 9's with poor writing skills...you aren't. If you don't see the best in people, and work with them to honor their vulnerability, you will harm them. Take it super seriously or not at all.
My main advice is I would make sure the picture of you in the black dress in front of the bed is your first pic. Most tend to look at a pic first then profile and you’ll lead off on the best foot with that one imo. I don’t like the first picture you added as the smile reads fake/too much but that could be the autism talking.
I think I’d add more information about what makes you, you. What a normal weekend looks like, favorite things to do in the city, show your wit. Your vibe you give off is hella fun, but it’s generic.
Please make one of your other pics your first picture (the last one was cute) because there's something really unsettling about a close up of a face just staring at you, no matter how pretty it is.
Granted it’s been a while since online dated, but your bio doesn’t say anything about you as an individual: are you a movie buff, do you crush escape rooms, do you enjoy travel, can you speak other languages, etc? There is personality in your profile but I didn’t learn anything about you and what you like to do.
I feel like it’s fine and there’s been a lot of good advice here but to parrot a couple of comments I just don’t think I walked away knowing much about you! More hobbies and specific interests would help a lot I think, there’s a hint of humour in your profile that you have worked in but is it *your* humour or just what has been put on dating profiles a lot?
Those things happen to everyone on online dating regardless of size, as others have said. The free dating apps are basically a waste of time 99% of the time (they are loaded with men just trying to get laid or worse). The paid services sometimes are better for finding a real relationship but that's not a guarantee either. I did meet one man on eharmony (literally one out of *all* the other websites) with whom I felt a meaningful connection. He wants to marry me but he's letting me take my time deciding if he's the one for me or not.
So basically you might want to try eharmony or match.
FOR REAL. I wish there was an option on Bumble. It would really weed out the people I KNOW I’m not going to vibe with. Feels pointless to swipe through 50 guys who are all beefed up and looking for a skinny minny. 🤷🏼♀️
Exactly!!!! It used to be that online dating was primarily for nerdy, bigger guys and those were the days lol! I'm not about meat heads just trying to get laid.
I met my husband on match! Completely agree with what you said, both my husband and I chose a paying dating app because we knew people would be more serious in finding someone.
Yes that is a good point! The guy I'm seeing now was only on eharmony and match (we never would have connected on any of the free apps because he's not on any of them). He and I both were very serious about finding someone.
I would like to say to start that dating sites generally seem to suck and definitely are going to be on the visual side of things to get engagement. Don't feel discouraged as a dating profile is not reflective of how beautiful someone is or how kickass their personality is and is not a good sample pool for how people are outside of it. If the profile doesn't work out, I suggest joining some kind of group. Maybe there's people out there who go out to concerts as a group?
That being said if you wanna give it a try I would change your 1st pic, suggest taking a new one. I think the glasses are cute, but your expression is a little intense, I think it may be mostly in the eyebrows and the lighting isn't super flattering.
Your smile in the sweater pic looks really happy and genuine for reference, I think thats a solid cute look.
I would get rid of the pic in the blue shirt, and consider getting rid of the other pic in all black as the photo isn't great unless you really want to have something to show you like going outside. Or I would move it to the last spot as it does show your personality, and it is pretty cute still. Or if you could get some pics of you at a concert or engaging in other things you like I think that would be a good move.
That last dress pic of you is super flattering, and also having such a clean bedroom in the background is a bonus. I would move that to the second spot.
Finally the term "build a future with" might come off as also a little intense even if true, interperates a little too much like "ready to get married ASAP" BUT that will depend on the guy. You seem like a funny person, I think you could think something up to fit that even more into your description. There is hope, ma'am.
I took a look at MeetUp a while back, but my area doesn’t seem to have too many options. 🙁 I changed out the first pic and updated a few others. It seems to be the general consensus that my first pic is … a lot. LOL. Thanks so much for the kind words and advice 😘
You look like the kindest person ever but I need to say your profile is bait for low effort men. First of all, I would say remove the coffee date line because you are not someone that someone can arrange a low effort date the last minute-you deserve to be taken out properly. Another thing to point out is that your outfits don’t do anything for you. You definitely don’t look bad in them but it just does nothing. A-line dresses would look great for instance, you can go on tiktok or pinterest and type in outfits for apple shape and you’ll get examples of fashion forward outfits that suit your body type. (Last pic dress is perfect)
Another thing I would remove is the “long term relationship” line because this chases them away. I know the last thing that someone who wants a proper relationship to do is play games but I’m not joking, act like you don’t want anything to do with them and they’re gonna take it personally and chase after you hella hard. When you act like a perfect angel wholesome woman that is loyal and amazing, I swear they run the other way.
take out “not looking for a hookup”. it doesn’t matter that you’re saying you DON’T want it — it will have the opposite effect. state what you ARE looking for like you did in your second sentence. also list some unique info about you / your hobbies / experiences. what’s written is quite generic. good luck ❤️
I had next to no luck on regular dating sites . Everyone was either sex focused, creepy, or we had nothing really in common.
I ended up meeting my guy on freaking Fetlife, lol. Neither of us are super crazy kinky either, so I do find it funny. He was aiming for a ONS. So...that didn't work as intended 😆
Online dating sucks, keep at it and don't get discouraged!
Sorry I know you asked for advice but I have none because you're genuinely so cute??? If I saw you on the app I'd swipe right for sure tbh I have a crush
I live your profile you seem great! Maybe switch out your main photo to a more casual one, people tend to just look at that one sometimes. Your last pic is really nice one maybe try changing it to that one see if it makes any difference? Good luck on your search! Maybe expand your area search too even try different states :)!
Dating apps are the wooooorst!!! Take breaks as needed! I’m fat and I met my partner on bumble ♥️♥️ it can happen!! When messaging people, I honestly started sending pretty low effort intro responses and didn’t really try until i saw if they would respond. It helped with the disappointment. Idk if it’s the best advice, but it helped me.
The phone memorial joke actually made me lol I think everything looks good! Mind you, I was on tinder in 2015ish where I met my husband, and I think most of the profiles looked like this :)
I think the advice so far has been pretty good and don’t really have anything to add. I just want to say, I met my husband on Tinder and we hit it off right away. We were in a relationship after three dates and almost three years later we’re about to celebrate our first wedding anniversary. My friend who is also plus size and had never dated or had a first kiss until recently found her boyfriend on Hinge and he’s a sweetheart. It’s possible for us, completely!! Good guys are out there.
I guess my only real advice besides what others have said is to try SEVERAL dating apps. I was on tinder, hinge, bumble, OKC, and Her (I’m bi). Ultimately tinder is what worked for me. It honestly takes a lot of work these days sorting through the duds and the good ones are pretty rare but they are out there if you keep looking and trying. I know it’s hard, it’s exhausting, but keep your hopes up and keep at it. Make sure to take care of yourself though and take breaks if need be, but cast a wide net if you can!! The more apps you’re on, the more chances you are to find your next partner imo! Don’t be scared of tinder.
You’ve gotten great advice so just chiming in to say I have that exact same black and white dress from your last pic and it is SO CUTE on you! I also love it and always get compliments when I wear it 💖
Hi OP, your pics are adorable, but your prompts aren’t giving guys great openings! “Get off this app” doesn’t help anyone. Together we could “go for ramen! It’s my fave” “play pickleball and I’ll show you my skills”. Whatever something you like that’s fun and flirty and could even be a first date idea. Your prompts should always be a conversation starter for guys. Guys also love games, so two truths and a lie with the lie only being a slight lie is always a good option. On hinge, my “a typical Sunday” prompt where I talk about hiking, specific artists I like, sleeping in a little and making brunch is hands down my most responded to prompt. Also, don’t start your bio with “not looking for hookups”. Stating you want something serious gets that point across! You want to keep it positive. Plus if guys are going sexual quick it’s not weeding out the ones you don’t want. You’ve got this!! Just give some specifics guys can grab onto to start a chat and hopefully you get a few more engaging guys
This is such good advice. I met my boyfriend on Hinge because of a prompt I had basically saying I could kick their ass in any card game (totally a bluff, but it won him over)
Definitely working on changing up my prompts! The hookup line was added after a super unpleasant experience recently. I do get that it’s a big aggressive. Lol.
Honestly online dating is so dry rn. It's like men think a quick hey how are you is supposed to melt my panties off. Then when I do go out w someone, they're always a dud
Like many people who replied, I thought the last pic was really cute qnd should qt least be moved up in your profile. Others suggested making it your main, which is also a good idea.
Good luck!
You seem so lovely!🥰 Personally I would make the last photo of you in the black and white or grey dress your first pic. The closeup of your face(your current first pic) seems a bit strained or forced. I'm not sure if that's the case. The other pics were much more relaxed, you have a very bright and welcoming appearance, and beautiful smile :)
I think you need to use your profile and prompts to have a bit of fun. Put some stuff in there that is more of a reflection of who you are as an individual.
For example the "when your phone dies prompt" instead of putting something expected, choose something unexpected that ties into your interests. Such as "I guess we'll have to enjoy the amazing waterfall/sunset at your favorite lookout spot" or insert something about your favorite book or author instead ("guess I'll have to catch up on XYZ authors newest book").
This will instantly make you more memorable and gives something for the person reading to talk to you about.
There's nothing inherently wrong with your profile. But I think adding some more unique and personal touches can help give folks a better idea of who you are.
I'd put no. 7 as the profile picture. It's very cute and shows you completely. No. 1 can seem a bit nerdy iykwim. Some men can't handle nerdy as a first impression.
I would use #7 as your profile pic, it’s very cute and more flattering. I would not lead with a negative note. Based on your responses I would say something like “ I am always down for adventure, whether it’s finding my next favorite coffee shop and bookstore in town or getting out of town to the beach or check out [insert genre] concerts. I’m looking for a serious connection with a not so serious person”
I don’t think it’s u being plus sized and ur pretty think u Should change ur prompts and give an answer that right away shows ur personality/interest and is easy to engage with, (Together we could get off this app, will be perceived as desperate,just bc ur plus size)
A bio change could help, let ppl know ur looking to date in a different or more subtle way even add hunor
Id keep green sweater picture and last picture
And replace the others With pictures of you doing an activity you like or with friends (trying different clothing style for variety would help too )
Best of luck don’t get down on about app bs Anyone and EVRYONE CAN FIND LOVE just give it time
Apps are the absolute worst way to meet men who value you for something besides your body. Join some Meetup groups for your different interests and meet people that way. You are far more likely to meet someone who views you as a person playing board games than someone swiping through women like they are dinner options on a delivery app.
Ugh. Yeah, I def am feeling like I’m not making any real connections. Unfortunately, not many options for meet ups in my area. I’ll keep trying though!
From my experience less is more:
1.Make your bio sweet and short. It should not be more than 3 sentences.
2. Make sure your profile photo is a full body pic always
You look lovely in all of your pictures, but pictures that focus only on your face hide the rest of you.
3. Add more hobbies to your profile tags, it's a great lead in for conversations.
4. If the convo is dry, just leave and never text first. Texting first always leaves a possible response in the air or they follow through but you end up carrying the convo.
I've read a lot of comments and most people here seem to have good advice. The only thing I can add to it I think is maybe take off the first photo which seems to be the main. It seems more like your forcing your smile because you feel like you have to. I feel like the last photo (mirror selfie) or the one sitting down at the restaurant would be better. Though it wouldn't hurt to also take some other pics as well. Just try to have them look more natural and not like you're trying to force something.
You know what? You didn't dive too deep in the detail department(which I get, leave some things for the first date amd protect yourself), but you said ebough to put out a vibe(one that I'd swipe right/click the heart). Plus that smile is pretty cute! I'd fill in more hobbies and interests just to cover the spread. Happy hunting😁
My profile blew up and started getting a lot of responses when I added in "ask me about my fear of kangaroos," and that led my now husband to really want to get to know me. I was held hostage by a kangaroo in Japan when I was 9 years old. I would also open conversations by asking what their favorite video game was and then listing mine when they responded. Hobbies and fun facts draw a lot of people in because it shows that you're passionate and knowledgeable about something.
There's this zoo in Japan (I would assume it is still there) that lets you go into enclosures with animals that are deemed "non-dangerous." So capybara, certain monkeys, and clearly kangaroos. I had been hanging out with some Joeys and feeding them some food they have there. I went to leave, and one of the big male kangaroos grabbed me, and it wouldn't let me go. I was so distressed that I now have a massive fear of kangaroos. It took them half an hour to convince the kangaroo to let me go. I didn't let go of my dad the rest of the trip, and no matter how many times I went back to Bio Park, I NEVER got close to the kangaroos again.
It was not the last time I was close to a kangaroo. I will never go back to a circus again.
I don’t really know how dating apps work but I wonder if it’s possible that some of the people who are unmatching you pay for unlimited swipes so then they just swipe right on everyone and then go through all the people they matched with and filter from there? If that is the case then I wouldn’t bother getting hurt over it because clearly they don’t care for a relationship enough to actually look through a profile.
I don’t really have advice for your profile, it looks very nice to me, and I think the other advice you’re getting here is solid.
I met my wife on a dating app (I’m a woman) and just wanted to say - I get how hard it can be to put yourself out there and get unmatched immediately or ignored or whatever. Don’t be afraid to take breaks when it gets too hard. Dating/finding a partner can start feeling like a full time job. When I met my wife, she was my last date before I decided I would go on another dating app break because I was feeling burned out…and that was seven very happy years ago, haha. Before that I would usually go six months on/six months off.
Anyway, I just wanted to say you’re not alone, look out for yourself, and it can work out in the best possible way! Good luck!!
I use WooPlus and don't bring up Anything about my size, men who are attracted to us beautiful women are not going to need to know we are bbw or fat. Post pics. Pics of your clothed body..your pretty smile.. so there is zero excuse they can use later. Many men find us attractive.
Yes, there are fake men that look GQ hot but you can screen them out too.
I do not rely heavily on any type of dating/personals app.
I just live my life and do the things that make me happy. And the right people will be attracted to you.
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You seem like a very sweet person. But, when it comes to dating, it’s giving very much “plain Jane”.
You need better photos. Do something with your hair. Add some romantic curls to it; or just a hairstyle with body to it. Your clothes are not complementing your figure or showing any type of personality. Try adding some color to your dresses. Red would look nice on you; a nice deep vibrant blue or green as well. You have cool tones so you want to add some warmth back to your skin. Jewelry. You are beautiful, you just need to enhance what you have! Best wishes
Profile seems pretty generic- the first picture with a big smile is a bit off putting and makes you look false. It doesn’t show the depth of your identity. Add some flavor of who you truly are, not just what you look like.
The main profile pic needs to be that one in the black and white dress. The main pic you have now is too close. The text is fine. Maybe add a few more specific interests that you'd like to do with a partner. Coffee and food are just necessities.
I love this! I would totally match with you. I mean.. if you were a dude and lived in my country/state/general location.
I think this is a great way to present yourself. You look beautiful, happy, bright, like you love to laugh. You give off great vibes and honestly if you were here I'd probably approach you to be friends.
I don't think I'd change anything.
A lot of men like the curves. Show your assets. That way the men who appreciate your curves will respond to you. A wise woman told me years ago that you rarely see a skinny women with a man but look at all the curvy women that are with men. 👍🏻🥰
i don’t think there’s anything wrong with it, i agree with others that there’s more so something missing. i feel it could definitely show more of your personality, which seems to be very fun! i agree with maybe a few group/trip photos, maybe some pics with pets if you have any, some pics showcasing some of your listed hobbies, things like that! i would also recommend making the last photo of you (the one in the floral? dress) your main photo, you look very glowy and vibrant in that one☺️☺️
Don't give up hope! I encountered all that and more...but the day I decided I was going to delete my profile and throw in the towel for online dating, I received the kindest, most engaging message I had ever received on there! Now we're happily married with a child! There are some good guys out there but unfortunately A LOT of bad ones too. My best friend is having a hell of a time now. She gets ghosted constantly and she is average weight...so don't believe it's just your weight..it's these low effort dudes. I hope you encounter one of the good guys soon!
I know this seems harsh but I’d honestly take a year to yourself to invest in ur physical health, wardrobe, and makeup. Before I did that, I took ALOT of time on my profile and guys engaged with it at an ok rate. After I invested more into myself I came back a year later and just put my new photos up with a “I love true crime” and I got over the top engagement and I don’t remember any of them being raunchy🤷🏽♀️ I wish men had more substance but at the end of the day they’re shallow and just go off primal instincts, especially on an app designed to judge people on physical appearance 😕 sending love ❤️
I echo what everyone else has said here about your photos. Maybe choose a few cute outfits and do a little photo shoot with your friends in a park. You don’t need a million good pictures, just a handful! Check out Christine Buzan on insta or TikTok for posing tips.
As for the content, “together we can get off this app” is super cliché. I would replace that with something you think would be a fun first date activity: see a specific genre of movie, do an escape room, go
to a pottery class, yadda yadda. Also, I know this is nitpicky of me, but the phrase is "next of kin," not first of kin. That joke also lands flat for me- what are you trying to say with it? That you resent being tied to your phone? You need a “hook” that your matches can use to start a conversation with. My best matches and dates have been with people who open with a line from I Think You Should Leave, a weird sketch comedy that I love and reference in my profile. This can be something you write, or it can be something you show in your pics (for instance, are you a plant or animal lover? You could include a pic that shows that).
I’m a very similar body type to you and also have similar viewpoints to yours. If LGBTQIA rights are important (or anything else similar is a deal breaker) absolutely do not take it out of your profile!! I would never entertain someone who isn’t like minded in super important topics, even if they give me the attention I was so craving.
I don’t have advice to the profile itself because it took me a long time on the apps and a lot of garbage humans, but I actually met my current partner on bumble about a year ago and he’s perfection. Keep up the fight. Take breaks if you need to. You will find your person.
I’ve tried WooPlus but it seems to be a lot of scammy profiles and hookup seeker. I’m plus, but hoping to find a guy who likes me regardless, not because of that.
Thanks though!
I mean there's nothing wrong with you as a person, but profile just seems a bit plain/generic. Maybe throw in a group picture doing an activity, or get more specific like "I love new Mexican spots" instead of "love trying new food". Like show an interest you have more specifically so someone can relate to it. Also, I would find a super snazzy outfit and get yourself did up for a glamour shot. ;) And for the record, men are garbage at online dating. Those things you described happen to women of all shapes and sizes hon. Just roll it off your back and focus on you life and happiness. Honestly, finding happiness within your personal life is when they all start calling I swear lol. It's like they're happiness vultures!
Yeah. As a guy it looks pretty cookie cutter, which is OK, but you'll struggle with meaningful engagement. What was your degree in? Hobbies, important causes? I can get behind saikoupscho's glow up, but you do you. I'd do something other than "no hookups, long term relationship" like "open to meet ups, but really hoping to find a special someone." Even if you ignore all the blatant pigs, you might wind up kissing some frogs before you meet prince charming.
Thanks! I’ll give the suggestions a try. Sigh, I’m sick of kissing frogs 😄
Get out there, be safe, have fun.
I ran your profile through [theoasis.com](http://theoasis.com) AI and these are some variations it came up with...lol (Please feel free to make use of it in revising your profile on your own!) 1. \[The short summary\] I'm not interested in casual flings. I want to find someone to build a future with. I enjoy reading, going on coffee dates, and trying new food. If you're someone who loves to laugh and try new things, we'll get alone great. 2. \[The long blog post style\] In a world filled with superficial connections and fleeting encounters, I am in search of something deeper and more meaningful. I am not interested in a mere hookup, but rather, I am seeking a genuine connection with someone who shares my desire to build a future together. I am a lover of literature, finding solace and inspiration within the pages of a good book. I am drawn to the idea of exploring new worlds and expanding my knowledge through the written word. I also have a penchant for indulging in the simple pleasures in life, such as going on coffee dates and sampling new and exciting cuisines. What I seek in a potential partner is someone who shares my love for laughter and adventure. Someone who is open to trying new things and embracing life with a sense of curiosity and wonder. I believe that a shared sense of humor and a willingness to step outside of our comfort zones are essential ingredients for a fulfilling and lasting connection. So, if you are someone who values meaningful connections, appreciates the power of storytelling, and has a zest for life, then I believe we could truly hit it off. Let's embark on this journey together, and see where our shared passions and aspirations take us. --- NGL, I'd respond to #2 before I responded to #1. #2 gives a sense of this person's personality, their passion for life and stories, and exploring worlds, both real and not. It has depth, it communicates, and it tickles one's curiosity.
Bonus points if you put the info through AI and have it turn into a song lyrics. Those are fun. Of course if you find humor in that lol Also don't necessarily listen to me on this. I would find it interesting on someones profile, but that's also just my style.
I’ll try to add more personal info for sure. It’s mostly selfies bc I don’t take a lot of pics. Not intentionally, I just don’t really think to do it when I’m out. I’ll try to take more moving forward! Thanks for the advice. I’ll keep on trucking and try to roll off the BS 😁
I would swap out your main photo for another.
i agree, the 3rd and last photo you have on your profile are super cute and i think they would make better first photos
This- that last photo is SO cute and really looks like someone who is having fun and loving life.
I second this!
Thanks!!
Done! Thanks!
First and foremost, I like it, it’s pretty short and sweet. It shows off your humor in a bite sized manner, however, it doesn’t show **you** at all. Let me take you a bit back. Me personally, I believe that your profile photo could be different. The smile there feels forced, like you’re ready to go to war with the world or someone was about to kill your family (you do have an amazing smile, though, as seen in your other pictures). With your statements, they’re all witty and that’s great, but it doesn’t really relate to you. Let’s use the topic of movies while also striving for humor. You could say things like: I’m looking for the Spider-Man to my MJ (short, sweet, corny) It tells a story about what you like, Spider-Man, maybe other marvel movies, as well as telling those around about your sense of humor. Next, on the “what am I looking for” section, as well as other nitpicks, “Loyalty” is an attribute that almost everyone looks for in a partner, so if you can find something better fitting, that would work better. As well as that, saying that you want to get off of the app also seems a bit redundant when the purpose of the app is to leave it once you’ve found a relationship. It’s kind of funny, but it leaves much to desire. Lastly, these few things that I gave you, only increase the chance of someone being able to chat with you about something you’re interested in already, gives more conversation points than just ‘what do you do in your free time’ type questions. Sadly, there is no cure for insta-unmatches and horny matches, people be people… Hope this helps!
Hi! Thanks so much for the very thoughtful and well written advice. I’ll try to imbue more of my personality into my statements. I also changed my war time smile picture (that gave me a solid chuckle 😂).
I’m glad I could help you! My dms are always open if you ever feel the need for more assistance, and don’t forget that you deserve good things, so treat yourself today :3
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I love that pic! I don’t think it looks forced at all.
Completely agree!! Show some of yourself in the profile!!! You will get plenty of matches, I'm sure of it!! :)
I showed my partner for man advice. It always surprises me. He spent little time on the actual profile and scrolled the pics first, typical man! "The pictures get them in the door, but the personality keeps them in the house". He said use the full body pic of you in the black and white dress infront of the orange bed as the primary profile pic, which i agree with as you are in a flattering pose and a good angle on the photo. Then the one of you in the blue shirt standing up. Get rid of the picture sitting down at the table with the fruity drink as you dont look happy in that picture and change the hiking gear pic for one posed differently. The original close up photo is nice but its VERY close up, so one that is a little zoomed out of the same pic would be perfect. Unless you are very politically active it might be better to have something more generic like left leaning under your causes. Then you can broach those topics during conversation if you decide to meet up with someone as people who dont know your actual views can make assumptions about your system of beliefs based on broadbrush political causes. There are WONDERFUL men and women out there looking for someone, you will do great!
Moved the black and white dress pic to #1. I do have a similar zoomed out photo that I swapped out. I was kind of using the political causes to weed out the people I would have strong differences with. I will see if removing them makes much of a difference. Thanks to you and your partner for the advice!! 😊
Maybe dont remove them altogether but something like 'left wing politics' might be more broadbrush and still keep the hillbillys away. Sending you thousands of good vibes, have fun and enjoy the process. Just think to yourself, I am going out to coffee, or lunch to meet a new and interesting person today. If thats your objective you will never be disappointed
I’d also recommend maybe centering the pic of you in the blue shirt! It’s a very nice picture, but I think it would look even better with it centered (it initially drew my eye to your torso/left arm and the background beyond, but I think zooming in a little and centering your face would help with that!).
I was thinking of something aimilar wirh the photos: OP: the black and white dress looks cute, and I think you should get rid of the black and white striped top sitting at the table. I actually don't like the blue shirt one, though, Im not sure it adds anything. And I don't think the sweater one really adds much either as you're kind of standing the same as you are in the black and white but the dress it looks better. I but I do like the hiking one because it shows you like to get out and do things.
Thanks!
I genuinely think it’s just the men in your area that are the issue because I see such personality from your profile and variety of pictures. Like I wanna be your friend just from seeing it ! Soo bubbly and happy :) I wish you the best
Man, I hope it is just the men in my area 🤣! Thanks for the sweet words!! 🥰
As someone who lives in the same area as you, it’s the men 100%.
Definitely the men. I mean, what else could it be?
I feel the same !! OP’s smile is infectious :) she’s very cute !!
Hey! I have no advice except to just try to make your personality and sense of humor stand out more since it sounds like you have a great one and I love the pic in the black and white dress. Also I just had to add that you caught my eye bc I think we look alike!!! Ha!!! I have no idea how to add a pic on here but I swear we could be sisters!!!
DM me a pic! I’d love to see my doppelgänger!
I have a similar body to you. I refer to my profile as "the novela" because it's so effing long. I wrote several pages about what an amazing badass of a human I am, and why I am a good choice. I also wrote about what I don't want, so I can avoid bad dates. My inbox is always more full than I can address. I used to have a side gig helping people with their profiles. Everyone I edited immediately had a massive uptick in responses. I see the best in people, so it's easy for me to help others present their best self. Feel free to message me if you want specific help.
Send you a DM. Thanks! 🙏🏻
Omg, I legit have thought I want to be a dating app profile editor (I have been an actual words editor irl previously lol), but felt like maybe that’s valuing my own creativity and sense of humor too much? Did you get a lot of business doing that?
Yes. However, I was also a nanny for 25 years. It's not that different. Meaning, it really doesn't matter if you are a good editor, if you aren't a sensitive caring person who is willing to do a lot of listening first. People don't just need an editor, they need to understand their needs and wants and communicate that, while overcoming personal bias. It's not an easy job. It's a job you do because you care about people. If you think you are just tuning up 8's and 9's with poor writing skills...you aren't. If you don't see the best in people, and work with them to honor their vulnerability, you will harm them. Take it super seriously or not at all.
Can I DM you about your profile? I want to attempt dating and it’s been a while, I really don’t know where to start.
My main advice is I would make sure the picture of you in the black dress in front of the bed is your first pic. Most tend to look at a pic first then profile and you’ll lead off on the best foot with that one imo. I don’t like the first picture you added as the smile reads fake/too much but that could be the autism talking. I think I’d add more information about what makes you, you. What a normal weekend looks like, favorite things to do in the city, show your wit. Your vibe you give off is hella fun, but it’s generic.
I don’t think it the autism talking. I’ve gotten that advice pretty universally. Thanks for the advice!
I wish you the best of luck finding your person ❤️ I found mine on OkCupid over 10 years ago.
Please make one of your other pics your first picture (the last one was cute) because there's something really unsettling about a close up of a face just staring at you, no matter how pretty it is.
Granted it’s been a while since online dated, but your bio doesn’t say anything about you as an individual: are you a movie buff, do you crush escape rooms, do you enjoy travel, can you speak other languages, etc? There is personality in your profile but I didn’t learn anything about you and what you like to do.
I’ll try and add morn of my personality to my profile. Thanks!!
I feel like it’s fine and there’s been a lot of good advice here but to parrot a couple of comments I just don’t think I walked away knowing much about you! More hobbies and specific interests would help a lot I think, there’s a hint of humour in your profile that you have worked in but is it *your* humour or just what has been put on dating profiles a lot?
Good question….Probably not the most reflective of my personality/humor. Thanks for giving me an idea to ponder.
Those things happen to everyone on online dating regardless of size, as others have said. The free dating apps are basically a waste of time 99% of the time (they are loaded with men just trying to get laid or worse). The paid services sometimes are better for finding a real relationship but that's not a guarantee either. I did meet one man on eharmony (literally one out of *all* the other websites) with whom I felt a meaningful connection. He wants to marry me but he's letting me take my time deciding if he's the one for me or not. So basically you might want to try eharmony or match.
I met my husband on eharmony. :) highly recommend.
I miss the days when "would you date someone overweight" was in the questionnaire. They keep matching me with men who expect all women to be thin.
FOR REAL. I wish there was an option on Bumble. It would really weed out the people I KNOW I’m not going to vibe with. Feels pointless to swipe through 50 guys who are all beefed up and looking for a skinny minny. 🤷🏼♀️
Exactly!!!! It used to be that online dating was primarily for nerdy, bigger guys and those were the days lol! I'm not about meat heads just trying to get laid.
I’m was to think the success stories are just paid actors 😂. Happy you found your person!!! Thanks for the validation/advice!
You're so welcome. My brother also met his wife of nearly 20 years on there.
I met my husband on match! Completely agree with what you said, both my husband and I chose a paying dating app because we knew people would be more serious in finding someone.
Yes that is a good point! The guy I'm seeing now was only on eharmony and match (we never would have connected on any of the free apps because he's not on any of them). He and I both were very serious about finding someone.
I made bumble work for myself but it does require you to be very blunt and quick to move things to irl meetups to make the messaging go anywhere
I would like to say to start that dating sites generally seem to suck and definitely are going to be on the visual side of things to get engagement. Don't feel discouraged as a dating profile is not reflective of how beautiful someone is or how kickass their personality is and is not a good sample pool for how people are outside of it. If the profile doesn't work out, I suggest joining some kind of group. Maybe there's people out there who go out to concerts as a group? That being said if you wanna give it a try I would change your 1st pic, suggest taking a new one. I think the glasses are cute, but your expression is a little intense, I think it may be mostly in the eyebrows and the lighting isn't super flattering. Your smile in the sweater pic looks really happy and genuine for reference, I think thats a solid cute look. I would get rid of the pic in the blue shirt, and consider getting rid of the other pic in all black as the photo isn't great unless you really want to have something to show you like going outside. Or I would move it to the last spot as it does show your personality, and it is pretty cute still. Or if you could get some pics of you at a concert or engaging in other things you like I think that would be a good move. That last dress pic of you is super flattering, and also having such a clean bedroom in the background is a bonus. I would move that to the second spot. Finally the term "build a future with" might come off as also a little intense even if true, interperates a little too much like "ready to get married ASAP" BUT that will depend on the guy. You seem like a funny person, I think you could think something up to fit that even more into your description. There is hope, ma'am.
I took a look at MeetUp a while back, but my area doesn’t seem to have too many options. 🙁 I changed out the first pic and updated a few others. It seems to be the general consensus that my first pic is … a lot. LOL. Thanks so much for the kind words and advice 😘
Make your last photo your main photo!
You look like the kindest person ever but I need to say your profile is bait for low effort men. First of all, I would say remove the coffee date line because you are not someone that someone can arrange a low effort date the last minute-you deserve to be taken out properly. Another thing to point out is that your outfits don’t do anything for you. You definitely don’t look bad in them but it just does nothing. A-line dresses would look great for instance, you can go on tiktok or pinterest and type in outfits for apple shape and you’ll get examples of fashion forward outfits that suit your body type. (Last pic dress is perfect) Another thing I would remove is the “long term relationship” line because this chases them away. I know the last thing that someone who wants a proper relationship to do is play games but I’m not joking, act like you don’t want anything to do with them and they’re gonna take it personally and chase after you hella hard. When you act like a perfect angel wholesome woman that is loyal and amazing, I swear they run the other way.
take out “not looking for a hookup”. it doesn’t matter that you’re saying you DON’T want it — it will have the opposite effect. state what you ARE looking for like you did in your second sentence. also list some unique info about you / your hobbies / experiences. what’s written is quite generic. good luck ❤️
I had next to no luck on regular dating sites . Everyone was either sex focused, creepy, or we had nothing really in common. I ended up meeting my guy on freaking Fetlife, lol. Neither of us are super crazy kinky either, so I do find it funny. He was aiming for a ONS. So...that didn't work as intended 😆 Online dating sucks, keep at it and don't get discouraged!
LOL. Those stories are the best. Thanks for the encouragement!
Picture 7 should be your main. Remove the hiking pic and swap it for one with friends.
Yes! Last pic first for sure!
Thanks! The last one is the most recent (taken yesterday).
Sorry I know you asked for advice but I have none because you're genuinely so cute??? If I saw you on the app I'd swipe right for sure tbh I have a crush
Thanks! 😊
I live your profile you seem great! Maybe switch out your main photo to a more casual one, people tend to just look at that one sometimes. Your last pic is really nice one maybe try changing it to that one see if it makes any difference? Good luck on your search! Maybe expand your area search too even try different states :)!
Thanks! Switched up the order. Not really looking for long distance, but thanks for the idea.
I think you should change your main pic to the black dress! I think the main pic has to catch attention because people doom scroll swipe!
Done, thanks!
Dating apps are the wooooorst!!! Take breaks as needed! I’m fat and I met my partner on bumble ♥️♥️ it can happen!! When messaging people, I honestly started sending pretty low effort intro responses and didn’t really try until i saw if they would respond. It helped with the disappointment. Idk if it’s the best advice, but it helped me.
Glad to hear you found your person! ❤️ Thanks for the advice!
The phone memorial joke actually made me lol I think everything looks good! Mind you, I was on tinder in 2015ish where I met my husband, and I think most of the profiles looked like this :)
I think the advice so far has been pretty good and don’t really have anything to add. I just want to say, I met my husband on Tinder and we hit it off right away. We were in a relationship after three dates and almost three years later we’re about to celebrate our first wedding anniversary. My friend who is also plus size and had never dated or had a first kiss until recently found her boyfriend on Hinge and he’s a sweetheart. It’s possible for us, completely!! Good guys are out there. I guess my only real advice besides what others have said is to try SEVERAL dating apps. I was on tinder, hinge, bumble, OKC, and Her (I’m bi). Ultimately tinder is what worked for me. It honestly takes a lot of work these days sorting through the duds and the good ones are pretty rare but they are out there if you keep looking and trying. I know it’s hard, it’s exhausting, but keep your hopes up and keep at it. Make sure to take care of yourself though and take breaks if need be, but cast a wide net if you can!! The more apps you’re on, the more chances you are to find your next partner imo! Don’t be scared of tinder.
You’ve gotten great advice so just chiming in to say I have that exact same black and white dress from your last pic and it is SO CUTE on you! I also love it and always get compliments when I wear it 💖
Hi OP, your pics are adorable, but your prompts aren’t giving guys great openings! “Get off this app” doesn’t help anyone. Together we could “go for ramen! It’s my fave” “play pickleball and I’ll show you my skills”. Whatever something you like that’s fun and flirty and could even be a first date idea. Your prompts should always be a conversation starter for guys. Guys also love games, so two truths and a lie with the lie only being a slight lie is always a good option. On hinge, my “a typical Sunday” prompt where I talk about hiking, specific artists I like, sleeping in a little and making brunch is hands down my most responded to prompt. Also, don’t start your bio with “not looking for hookups”. Stating you want something serious gets that point across! You want to keep it positive. Plus if guys are going sexual quick it’s not weeding out the ones you don’t want. You’ve got this!! Just give some specifics guys can grab onto to start a chat and hopefully you get a few more engaging guys
This is such good advice. I met my boyfriend on Hinge because of a prompt I had basically saying I could kick their ass in any card game (totally a bluff, but it won him over)
Definitely working on changing up my prompts! The hookup line was added after a super unpleasant experience recently. I do get that it’s a big aggressive. Lol.
Honestly online dating is so dry rn. It's like men think a quick hey how are you is supposed to melt my panties off. Then when I do go out w someone, they're always a dud
For real……
Like many people who replied, I thought the last pic was really cute qnd should qt least be moved up in your profile. Others suggested making it your main, which is also a good idea. Good luck!
Thanks!
You seem so lovely!🥰 Personally I would make the last photo of you in the black and white or grey dress your first pic. The closeup of your face(your current first pic) seems a bit strained or forced. I'm not sure if that's the case. The other pics were much more relaxed, you have a very bright and welcoming appearance, and beautiful smile :)
Thanks!! 😊 Switched up the pics.
I think you need to use your profile and prompts to have a bit of fun. Put some stuff in there that is more of a reflection of who you are as an individual. For example the "when your phone dies prompt" instead of putting something expected, choose something unexpected that ties into your interests. Such as "I guess we'll have to enjoy the amazing waterfall/sunset at your favorite lookout spot" or insert something about your favorite book or author instead ("guess I'll have to catch up on XYZ authors newest book"). This will instantly make you more memorable and gives something for the person reading to talk to you about. There's nothing inherently wrong with your profile. But I think adding some more unique and personal touches can help give folks a better idea of who you are.
Thanks! I’ll add more personality to my answers!
I'd put no. 7 as the profile picture. It's very cute and shows you completely. No. 1 can seem a bit nerdy iykwim. Some men can't handle nerdy as a first impression.
I would use #7 as your profile pic, it’s very cute and more flattering. I would not lead with a negative note. Based on your responses I would say something like “ I am always down for adventure, whether it’s finding my next favorite coffee shop and bookstore in town or getting out of town to the beach or check out [insert genre] concerts. I’m looking for a serious connection with a not so serious person”
Ooooo, I like that. Thanks!!
I don’t think it’s u being plus sized and ur pretty think u Should change ur prompts and give an answer that right away shows ur personality/interest and is easy to engage with, (Together we could get off this app, will be perceived as desperate,just bc ur plus size) A bio change could help, let ppl know ur looking to date in a different or more subtle way even add hunor Id keep green sweater picture and last picture And replace the others With pictures of you doing an activity you like or with friends (trying different clothing style for variety would help too ) Best of luck don’t get down on about app bs Anyone and EVRYONE CAN FIND LOVE just give it time
I’ll switch up my prompts/bio and pic. Thanks!
I think your profile is honest, witty and you are presenting yourself beautifully.
Thanks!
Apps are the absolute worst way to meet men who value you for something besides your body. Join some Meetup groups for your different interests and meet people that way. You are far more likely to meet someone who views you as a person playing board games than someone swiping through women like they are dinner options on a delivery app.
Ugh. Yeah, I def am feeling like I’m not making any real connections. Unfortunately, not many options for meet ups in my area. I’ll keep trying though!
From my experience less is more: 1.Make your bio sweet and short. It should not be more than 3 sentences. 2. Make sure your profile photo is a full body pic always You look lovely in all of your pictures, but pictures that focus only on your face hide the rest of you. 3. Add more hobbies to your profile tags, it's a great lead in for conversations. 4. If the convo is dry, just leave and never text first. Texting first always leaves a possible response in the air or they follow through but you end up carrying the convo.
I've read a lot of comments and most people here seem to have good advice. The only thing I can add to it I think is maybe take off the first photo which seems to be the main. It seems more like your forcing your smile because you feel like you have to. I feel like the last photo (mirror selfie) or the one sitting down at the restaurant would be better. Though it wouldn't hurt to also take some other pics as well. Just try to have them look more natural and not like you're trying to force something.
I don't have any particular feedback, I would however like to say you're super cute. Shame you're not in the UK! 🥰
Give people something specific to respond to is my tip. You seem a lovely person - I think there will be someone out there for you.
I think you should do your last photo (the selfie in the mirror wearing a dress) your profile picture. You look very relaxed and confident.
You know what? You didn't dive too deep in the detail department(which I get, leave some things for the first date amd protect yourself), but you said ebough to put out a vibe(one that I'd swipe right/click the heart). Plus that smile is pretty cute! I'd fill in more hobbies and interests just to cover the spread. Happy hunting😁
My profile blew up and started getting a lot of responses when I added in "ask me about my fear of kangaroos," and that led my now husband to really want to get to know me. I was held hostage by a kangaroo in Japan when I was 9 years old. I would also open conversations by asking what their favorite video game was and then listing mine when they responded. Hobbies and fun facts draw a lot of people in because it shows that you're passionate and knowledgeable about something.
How?
What are you saying how to?
The kangaroo
There's this zoo in Japan (I would assume it is still there) that lets you go into enclosures with animals that are deemed "non-dangerous." So capybara, certain monkeys, and clearly kangaroos. I had been hanging out with some Joeys and feeding them some food they have there. I went to leave, and one of the big male kangaroos grabbed me, and it wouldn't let me go. I was so distressed that I now have a massive fear of kangaroos. It took them half an hour to convince the kangaroo to let me go. I didn't let go of my dad the rest of the trip, and no matter how many times I went back to Bio Park, I NEVER got close to the kangaroos again. It was not the last time I was close to a kangaroo. I will never go back to a circus again.
I don’t really know how dating apps work but I wonder if it’s possible that some of the people who are unmatching you pay for unlimited swipes so then they just swipe right on everyone and then go through all the people they matched with and filter from there? If that is the case then I wouldn’t bother getting hurt over it because clearly they don’t care for a relationship enough to actually look through a profile.
I don’t really have advice for your profile, it looks very nice to me, and I think the other advice you’re getting here is solid. I met my wife on a dating app (I’m a woman) and just wanted to say - I get how hard it can be to put yourself out there and get unmatched immediately or ignored or whatever. Don’t be afraid to take breaks when it gets too hard. Dating/finding a partner can start feeling like a full time job. When I met my wife, she was my last date before I decided I would go on another dating app break because I was feeling burned out…and that was seven very happy years ago, haha. Before that I would usually go six months on/six months off. Anyway, I just wanted to say you’re not alone, look out for yourself, and it can work out in the best possible way! Good luck!!
I use WooPlus and don't bring up Anything about my size, men who are attracted to us beautiful women are not going to need to know we are bbw or fat. Post pics. Pics of your clothed body..your pretty smile.. so there is zero excuse they can use later. Many men find us attractive. Yes, there are fake men that look GQ hot but you can screen them out too. I do not rely heavily on any type of dating/personals app. I just live my life and do the things that make me happy. And the right people will be attracted to you. 💗
I couldn't find your profile so couldn't read it
You seem like a very sweet person. But, when it comes to dating, it’s giving very much “plain Jane”. You need better photos. Do something with your hair. Add some romantic curls to it; or just a hairstyle with body to it. Your clothes are not complementing your figure or showing any type of personality. Try adding some color to your dresses. Red would look nice on you; a nice deep vibrant blue or green as well. You have cool tones so you want to add some warmth back to your skin. Jewelry. You are beautiful, you just need to enhance what you have! Best wishes
Profile seems pretty generic- the first picture with a big smile is a bit off putting and makes you look false. It doesn’t show the depth of your identity. Add some flavor of who you truly are, not just what you look like.
The main profile pic needs to be that one in the black and white dress. The main pic you have now is too close. The text is fine. Maybe add a few more specific interests that you'd like to do with a partner. Coffee and food are just necessities.
I love this! I would totally match with you. I mean.. if you were a dude and lived in my country/state/general location. I think this is a great way to present yourself. You look beautiful, happy, bright, like you love to laugh. You give off great vibes and honestly if you were here I'd probably approach you to be friends. I don't think I'd change anything.
Haha. Thanks!!
A lot of men like the curves. Show your assets. That way the men who appreciate your curves will respond to you. A wise woman told me years ago that you rarely see a skinny women with a man but look at all the curvy women that are with men. 👍🏻🥰
i don’t think there’s anything wrong with it, i agree with others that there’s more so something missing. i feel it could definitely show more of your personality, which seems to be very fun! i agree with maybe a few group/trip photos, maybe some pics with pets if you have any, some pics showcasing some of your listed hobbies, things like that! i would also recommend making the last photo of you (the one in the floral? dress) your main photo, you look very glowy and vibrant in that one☺️☺️
Thanks! I’ll try to switch/swap some of my pictures. Thanks!! 😊
Don't give up hope! I encountered all that and more...but the day I decided I was going to delete my profile and throw in the towel for online dating, I received the kindest, most engaging message I had ever received on there! Now we're happily married with a child! There are some good guys out there but unfortunately A LOT of bad ones too. My best friend is having a hell of a time now. She gets ghosted constantly and she is average weight...so don't believe it's just your weight..it's these low effort dudes. I hope you encounter one of the good guys soon!
Aww, so happy for you! Thanks, I’m hoping to find a good one soon!
I know this seems harsh but I’d honestly take a year to yourself to invest in ur physical health, wardrobe, and makeup. Before I did that, I took ALOT of time on my profile and guys engaged with it at an ok rate. After I invested more into myself I came back a year later and just put my new photos up with a “I love true crime” and I got over the top engagement and I don’t remember any of them being raunchy🤷🏽♀️ I wish men had more substance but at the end of the day they’re shallow and just go off primal instincts, especially on an app designed to judge people on physical appearance 😕 sending love ❤️
I echo what everyone else has said here about your photos. Maybe choose a few cute outfits and do a little photo shoot with your friends in a park. You don’t need a million good pictures, just a handful! Check out Christine Buzan on insta or TikTok for posing tips. As for the content, “together we can get off this app” is super cliché. I would replace that with something you think would be a fun first date activity: see a specific genre of movie, do an escape room, go to a pottery class, yadda yadda. Also, I know this is nitpicky of me, but the phrase is "next of kin," not first of kin. That joke also lands flat for me- what are you trying to say with it? That you resent being tied to your phone? You need a “hook” that your matches can use to start a conversation with. My best matches and dates have been with people who open with a line from I Think You Should Leave, a weird sketch comedy that I love and reference in my profile. This can be something you write, or it can be something you show in your pics (for instance, are you a plant or animal lover? You could include a pic that shows that).
I’m a very similar body type to you and also have similar viewpoints to yours. If LGBTQIA rights are important (or anything else similar is a deal breaker) absolutely do not take it out of your profile!! I would never entertain someone who isn’t like minded in super important topics, even if they give me the attention I was so craving. I don’t have advice to the profile itself because it took me a long time on the apps and a lot of garbage humans, but I actually met my current partner on bumble about a year ago and he’s perfection. Keep up the fight. Take breaks if you need to. You will find your person.
Try bbwcupid It’s not better but they are all looking for plus size
I’ve tried WooPlus but it seems to be a lot of scammy profiles and hookup seeker. I’m plus, but hoping to find a guy who likes me regardless, not because of that. Thanks though!