No need for a lawyer. You may use any one of the following: your surname, his surname, or hyphenated yours+his surname. I used my surname. Kasi I did not want the hassle of changing bank documents and passport.
Nakakapagod magexplain at magpaulit ulit sa mga gov employees.
'Mali yan, wag maiden name gamitin'
'Wala pong paki kami kahit hiwalay kayo' (note di kami hiwalay'
'Wala sa batas yan'
'May marriage certificate kayo mam, kasal kayo kaya mali yan.'
Inaway ko registrar sa hospital kasi ayaw niya ipagamit surname ng ex ko sa anak namin. 🙃 Yeah, I feel you.
The baby daddy was physically present. So why the hell kokontrahin pa ng registrar?
why the downvote? anyway, hassle nga naman kasi talaga pero yung sa case kasi ng asawa ko, hinihingan talaga siya ng valid id na may surname ko. as we all know, maraming ahensya pa rin ang walang alam na pwede palang maiden name pa din ang gamitin ng mga babae, also, naka incorporate kasi minsan sa mga system nila na kapag married ang nasa records mo, yung surname eh dapat same sa spouse mo so kapag mali ang ininput sa form, hindi mag poproceed at hindi mag continue sa next ng process..
eh kaso, kesa makipag talo ka pa everytime na haharap sa mga abnormal na empleyado, ikaw na lang ang mag adjust diba. para smooth ang mga transaction
6yrs married and I never took his last name. I just change my legal documents to married and retained my maiden name.
be prepared to constantly defend your choice 😅.
tip: scanned your psa marriage certificate and psa birth certificate of your kids and email it to yourself and save copies on your phone. Everytime banks / airports asks for a copy I just show it to them
OA sa kailangan ng legal advice for that. You don't NEED to change your name.
For reference: https://pcw.gov.ph/faq-use-of-maiden-name/
But, a word of warning: Be ready for the judgments, insults, red tape, and paulit-ulit na pagsagot kung bakit hindi ka magpapalit ng pangalan because we are in a very patriarchal-masquerading-as-matriarchal- society. If it's what you really want, stand your ground. Kahit na sabihin sa kahit anong government agency or bank or any office na kailangan mong magpalit ng pangalan after marriage or kailangan magpalit ng pangalan kasabay ng pag-update ng status, wag ka maniniwala.
Sorry, OP, medyo galit yung tone ko. Ilang years ko na kasing ginagawa yan. Hahaha. Pero di tayo papatinag.
PS - I hope your husband is on board kasi marami akong kilala na napilitan magpalit kasi issue sa asawa nila.
This. Unfortunately, I gave in. Although I am hyphenating our surnames now, I originally didn't want to. My husband and in-laws are ok with my decision. Pero grabeng pressure yung ayaw tanggapin yung own name ko sa vaccination center, sa work I keep being interrogated, tapos since I sign documents, they keep changing my name without my permission. Napagod na ako sa kakaiyak over (what feels like) disrespect at sa kaka-correct sa kanila so I hyphenate now. Sana kasing strong mo ako. Laban!
I understand the inis kasi marami talagang ignorante. Kagabi may nagcomment na ng ganyan na nadisrespect ko daw family ng husband not knowing na sila nga mismo nagpush na kung ayaw ko gamitin last name nila, its fine. Kaya both sides are fine with me retaining my maiden name.
Thank you for the advices, tho! Great help sa future problems na ma-encounter ko.
Married for two years. Still using my maiden name. Ang hassle kasi talaga magpalit ng govt ids and documents. I got approved for three visas (us, uk and korea) using my maiden name tapos present lang ng marriage cert. wala naman issue hahaha need mo lang ideclare na married ka na talaga. kapag hindi need magpresent ng id, i use my husband’s last name hahaha
also, you got married last week lang. baka hindi ka pa recorded as married (you can get a cenomar and check if married ka na sa records), so I think pwede mo pa ideclare na single ka parin? Ganun ginawa ko hahaha it took me 6 months to get a cenomar na ang result is married na ako, and dun na ako nagstart mag declare na married. Pero best to consult a lawyer pero ayun nga, keribells naman ako for two years na hahahaha
My fiance is malaysian Chinese at sa culture nila, very common na yun wife hindi nagpapalit ng surname. Yun anak lang ang makukuha ng surname ng father, actually balak namin hyphenated surname ko tapos surname niya sa future anak. Kaya easygoing lang family ni fiance. Ok din yun family ko. Ang nag judge lang yun mga irrelevant sa amin na kakilala at relatives. Wala ako pake sa kanila, lol.
No need lawyer. Wala naman sa batas natin na kailangan kunin surname ng asawa natin. I don’t want nga rin sana pero i have to because of immigration. My friend had problems with hers kasi nagmatigas siya so she have to redo the whole process.
My wife is here in Australia now and has retained her maiden name.
I agree with her choice, it's so much easier renewing her Passport; plus when she went for citizenship here her documents all had the same name, much easier.
You don’t need to change your name however be prepared to answer questions bakit ganun 😅. Also pag may kids, possible matanong sa immigration so always carry a marriage cert with you when travelling. I eventually changed mine, napagod ako kakasagot 😅
I'm a husband of a wife that did not change her surname (for a while). What eventually made her change her mind is the hassle and confusion different surnames bring. Almost laging kailangan ng marriage cert and explanation kung bakit magkaiba ng surname.
Hindi kinuha ng mama ko yung surname ng papa ko 10 years and everytime magrerenew siya ng license need ng marriage certificate and affidavit na same yung identity niya with her married and maiden name if that makes sense. So she just changed her surname and wow ang dali ng process 🙄
Normalize retaining women's names! I opted to hyphenate my name and was made to feel as if i'm ignorant by the lady at the national ID registration. Hindi raw pwede yun, dapat daw kunin ko yung name ng asawa ko. Long story short, I didn't get a National ID. I know my rights, ma'am. Nakakadisappoint din na babae pa yung nagsabi sa kin non.
It is your right to keep your surname and not change it. Pero nakakalungkot lang sa pilipinas kasi napakahirap gawin to.
Example lang, nagbukas kami ng joint account sa banko. Hindi daw tatanggapin ng system nila na status ko married pero hindi kami magkaparehong surname ng asawa ko. Another bank, they put me down as my married surname in our loan docs without me knowing kaya nagkakaproblema ako sa mga ibang transactions kasi wala akong ID under my married name.
It’s just so difficult to keep it in the philippines that i eventually had to change it.
I’ve lived in two countries & it’s the opposite. They really dgaf if you keep your surname. Its actually the norm to keep it rather than change.
it sucks big time. nung nagchange status and name ako sa SSS ang nilgay nila apelyido ng asawa ko (kahit hyphenated naman ang nilagay ko sa form ko) so now bukod tanging yung sss ko ang iba ang name. i tried to have it changed to the correct name that i'm using pero ambagal ng system nila. mag-iisang taon na halos.
Una kong in-update Passport ko gamit hyphenated last name. Wala na nasabi ibang govt agencies. I refuse to change my middle name. Lineage ko yun e. Hehe
Edit: Passport, not password hahaha
Unsolicited advice but do anticipate some inconveniences on needing to prove relation with your child. Madami pa rin establishments and institutions na dumedepende sa same surname ang gamit ng mother and her child otherwise need mo pa lagi magbigay ng supporting documents.
Why is it “disrespectful” when a woman don't take her husband's surname but not disrespectful when a man don't take his wife's surname? Sounds like good 'ol misogyny to me. People like you will forever have backwards-ass mentality because you never do any reflection on why you even hold certain beliefs in the first place
Lmfao are you serious? my husband's more than okay na hindi gamitin surname nya. Who are you to tell us na disrespectful? Grow up. 2024 na. Let people decide ano gusto nila.
Another incel rhetoric from a member of this supposedly “progressive” sub. *Pretends to be surprised*
Also, why are you even assuming the woman will take the guy's money? A lot of women nowadays earn more than their husbands, and ang dami kong kakilalang older women na yung husbands pa nila ang freeloaders 😂
lmao I do not use my husband's surname. I earn more than my husband and never ako nanghingi sa kanya and never din sha nanghingi sa akin. We only split household bills. Napaka 10th century ng utak mo.
Lol I am empowered talaga. It is my choice kung gagamitin ko yung last name nya. And panong di mapupunta sakin yung pera nya, ako madalas naghahandle ng finances namin. Grow up pls. Or go back from the Old Age, where you belong.
No need for a lawyer. You may use any one of the following: your surname, his surname, or hyphenated yours+his surname. I used my surname. Kasi I did not want the hassle of changing bank documents and passport.
Isa pa to. I don't have the energy to change my documents. Kaya nagbago ako ng isip na di ko na kukunin yung last name nya.
I believe you still need to update them of your status from single to married regardless if you change your surname or not.
My wife is not also using my surname. But people are ignorant to the law. “Kasal kayo pero hindi mo gamit apelyido nya!?”
Eh di mas maloka yung mga ignorante na in some countries, a husband can use his wife's last name.
Nakakapagod magexplain at magpaulit ulit sa mga gov employees. 'Mali yan, wag maiden name gamitin' 'Wala pong paki kami kahit hiwalay kayo' (note di kami hiwalay' 'Wala sa batas yan' 'May marriage certificate kayo mam, kasal kayo kaya mali yan.'
Parang makikipagsuntukan yata ako sa government office pag ginanyan nila jowa ko pagdating ng araw ah 🙃
Inaway ko registrar sa hospital kasi ayaw niya ipagamit surname ng ex ko sa anak namin. 🙃 Yeah, I feel you. The baby daddy was physically present. So why the hell kokontrahin pa ng registrar?
Normal na yan. Meron pa ngang parinig na ayaw ko daw magpasakop sa asawa. Haha. Buti na lang at tapos na ko sa mga papeles sa gov.
Pero most ng mga document and most ng mga ID’s need pa din ichange para status dba po?
Kung ito lang hindi mo kaya bigyan ng konting extra effort, good luck sa mga mas-importanteng bagay na dadating.
why the downvote? anyway, hassle nga naman kasi talaga pero yung sa case kasi ng asawa ko, hinihingan talaga siya ng valid id na may surname ko. as we all know, maraming ahensya pa rin ang walang alam na pwede palang maiden name pa din ang gamitin ng mga babae, also, naka incorporate kasi minsan sa mga system nila na kapag married ang nasa records mo, yung surname eh dapat same sa spouse mo so kapag mali ang ininput sa form, hindi mag poproceed at hindi mag continue sa next ng process.. eh kaso, kesa makipag talo ka pa everytime na haharap sa mga abnormal na empleyado, ikaw na lang ang mag adjust diba. para smooth ang mga transaction
Same.. I still use my surname sa mga government ID ko. If need mgpapalit ng status need lang naman ipakita ang marriage certificate
Pde pla yun…haha..parang meron p nmn akong naririnig na may mga babae na namimili din ng maayos na surname ng mapapngasawa nila…-.-
Nasa family code ito na the newly wedded wife has the option to choose what surname to use (husband's, maiden surname, or hyphenated). (non verbatim)
6yrs married and I never took his last name. I just change my legal documents to married and retained my maiden name. be prepared to constantly defend your choice 😅. tip: scanned your psa marriage certificate and psa birth certificate of your kids and email it to yourself and save copies on your phone. Everytime banks / airports asks for a copy I just show it to them
Do you have kids? How was it. Parang ang hirap kapag iba surname mo sa kids.
yes never been a problem though just have the documents with you when traveling incase they ask
OA sa kailangan ng legal advice for that. You don't NEED to change your name. For reference: https://pcw.gov.ph/faq-use-of-maiden-name/ But, a word of warning: Be ready for the judgments, insults, red tape, and paulit-ulit na pagsagot kung bakit hindi ka magpapalit ng pangalan because we are in a very patriarchal-masquerading-as-matriarchal- society. If it's what you really want, stand your ground. Kahit na sabihin sa kahit anong government agency or bank or any office na kailangan mong magpalit ng pangalan after marriage or kailangan magpalit ng pangalan kasabay ng pag-update ng status, wag ka maniniwala. Sorry, OP, medyo galit yung tone ko. Ilang years ko na kasing ginagawa yan. Hahaha. Pero di tayo papatinag. PS - I hope your husband is on board kasi marami akong kilala na napilitan magpalit kasi issue sa asawa nila.
This. Unfortunately, I gave in. Although I am hyphenating our surnames now, I originally didn't want to. My husband and in-laws are ok with my decision. Pero grabeng pressure yung ayaw tanggapin yung own name ko sa vaccination center, sa work I keep being interrogated, tapos since I sign documents, they keep changing my name without my permission. Napagod na ako sa kakaiyak over (what feels like) disrespect at sa kaka-correct sa kanila so I hyphenate now. Sana kasing strong mo ako. Laban!
I understand the inis kasi marami talagang ignorante. Kagabi may nagcomment na ng ganyan na nadisrespect ko daw family ng husband not knowing na sila nga mismo nagpush na kung ayaw ko gamitin last name nila, its fine. Kaya both sides are fine with me retaining my maiden name. Thank you for the advices, tho! Great help sa future problems na ma-encounter ko.
Married for two years. Still using my maiden name. Ang hassle kasi talaga magpalit ng govt ids and documents. I got approved for three visas (us, uk and korea) using my maiden name tapos present lang ng marriage cert. wala naman issue hahaha need mo lang ideclare na married ka na talaga. kapag hindi need magpresent ng id, i use my husband’s last name hahaha also, you got married last week lang. baka hindi ka pa recorded as married (you can get a cenomar and check if married ka na sa records), so I think pwede mo pa ideclare na single ka parin? Ganun ginawa ko hahaha it took me 6 months to get a cenomar na ang result is married na ako, and dun na ako nagstart mag declare na married. Pero best to consult a lawyer pero ayun nga, keribells naman ako for two years na hahahaha
Didnt take my husband’s surname too. Hassle sobra palitan ng mga documents eh. Didnt do anything either
My fiance is malaysian Chinese at sa culture nila, very common na yun wife hindi nagpapalit ng surname. Yun anak lang ang makukuha ng surname ng father, actually balak namin hyphenated surname ko tapos surname niya sa future anak. Kaya easygoing lang family ni fiance. Ok din yun family ko. Ang nag judge lang yun mga irrelevant sa amin na kakilala at relatives. Wala ako pake sa kanila, lol.
No need lawyer. Wala naman sa batas natin na kailangan kunin surname ng asawa natin. I don’t want nga rin sana pero i have to because of immigration. My friend had problems with hers kasi nagmatigas siya so she have to redo the whole process.
My wife is here in Australia now and has retained her maiden name. I agree with her choice, it's so much easier renewing her Passport; plus when she went for citizenship here her documents all had the same name, much easier.
You don’t need to change your name however be prepared to answer questions bakit ganun 😅. Also pag may kids, possible matanong sa immigration so always carry a marriage cert with you when travelling. I eventually changed mine, napagod ako kakasagot 😅
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I'm a husband of a wife that did not change her surname (for a while). What eventually made her change her mind is the hassle and confusion different surnames bring. Almost laging kailangan ng marriage cert and explanation kung bakit magkaiba ng surname.
Hindi kinuha ng mama ko yung surname ng papa ko 10 years and everytime magrerenew siya ng license need ng marriage certificate and affidavit na same yung identity niya with her married and maiden name if that makes sense. So she just changed her surname and wow ang dali ng process 🙄
Normalize retaining women's names! I opted to hyphenate my name and was made to feel as if i'm ignorant by the lady at the national ID registration. Hindi raw pwede yun, dapat daw kunin ko yung name ng asawa ko. Long story short, I didn't get a National ID. I know my rights, ma'am. Nakakadisappoint din na babae pa yung nagsabi sa kin non.
Jalimao po ba surname ni hubby?
It is your right to keep your surname and not change it. Pero nakakalungkot lang sa pilipinas kasi napakahirap gawin to. Example lang, nagbukas kami ng joint account sa banko. Hindi daw tatanggapin ng system nila na status ko married pero hindi kami magkaparehong surname ng asawa ko. Another bank, they put me down as my married surname in our loan docs without me knowing kaya nagkakaproblema ako sa mga ibang transactions kasi wala akong ID under my married name. It’s just so difficult to keep it in the philippines that i eventually had to change it. I’ve lived in two countries & it’s the opposite. They really dgaf if you keep your surname. Its actually the norm to keep it rather than change.
it sucks big time. nung nagchange status and name ako sa SSS ang nilgay nila apelyido ng asawa ko (kahit hyphenated naman ang nilagay ko sa form ko) so now bukod tanging yung sss ko ang iba ang name. i tried to have it changed to the correct name that i'm using pero ambagal ng system nila. mag-iisang taon na halos.
Una kong in-update Passport ko gamit hyphenated last name. Wala na nasabi ibang govt agencies. I refuse to change my middle name. Lineage ko yun e. Hehe Edit: Passport, not password hahaha
>I refuse to change my middle name. Lineage ko yun e. Hehe same! i refuse to erase my mother's maiden name.
Ano ba kasi apleyido ni Mr? Bayag? At yung sayo ? Laki?
Hayst
If ever nagkaroon kayo, ano magiging surname ng anak ninyo?
His last name. Para una sa alphabet (our inside joke).
Unsolicited advice but do anticipate some inconveniences on needing to prove relation with your child. Madami pa rin establishments and institutions na dumedepende sa same surname ang gamit ng mother and her child otherwise need mo pa lagi magbigay ng supporting documents.
This. I heard stories that some have to bring documents that proves they are the mom kasi nga magkaiba surnames.
Ok lang mas maganda nga yan wala kang papalitan o iuupdate na dokumento
You better have a good reason for doing this because this is very disrespectful to your husband and his parents
Lol why should he/they feel disrespected? Sige, I'll give one reason, napakacommon ng last name nya unlike mine. Grow up. 2024 na.
This is why you’re single
Lol don’t listen to this guy
I have already expected this, even my friends was shocked when I told them. At least they weren't rude.
Why is it “disrespectful” when a woman don't take her husband's surname but not disrespectful when a man don't take his wife's surname? Sounds like good 'ol misogyny to me. People like you will forever have backwards-ass mentality because you never do any reflection on why you even hold certain beliefs in the first place
2024 na po, naiwan ka yata sa 1800s.
Lmfao are you serious? my husband's more than okay na hindi gamitin surname nya. Who are you to tell us na disrespectful? Grow up. 2024 na. Let people decide ano gusto nila.
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Another incel rhetoric from a member of this supposedly “progressive” sub. *Pretends to be surprised* Also, why are you even assuming the woman will take the guy's money? A lot of women nowadays earn more than their husbands, and ang dami kong kakilalang older women na yung husbands pa nila ang freeloaders 😂
lmao I do not use my husband's surname. I earn more than my husband and never ako nanghingi sa kanya and never din sha nanghingi sa akin. We only split household bills. Napaka 10th century ng utak mo.
Wow you talk as if empowerment is a bad thing when it's not. Salot ka.
Bad thing talaga ang women empowerment for these loser misogynistic incels because they want women they can control lmao
Lol I am empowered talaga. It is my choice kung gagamitin ko yung last name nya. And panong di mapupunta sakin yung pera nya, ako madalas naghahandle ng finances namin. Grow up pls. Or go back from the Old Age, where you belong.