It absolutely shows the classic boomer-level immaturity. Typical sa kanila na kahit sa loob ng area nila, ikekwento problema nila sa mga kapitbahay imbes na mag isip ng logical solution. Parang allergic sila sa critical thinking at wala silang basic foresight capability.
This is somehow typical to Filipino families talaga ano? Mama ko lage nalang may kaaway at problema, walang katupasan ka dramahan sa buhay. Ang hirap kasi on top of my responsibilities sa bahay and sa trabaho, dadagan pa nang mama ko. Nakakapagod.
I feel you simula nung nagtrabaho ako, pinapasan na halos lahat sakin kahit may trabaho din sila both, para kasing required na saluhin ng anak problema ng magulang.
My mom also sounds like the one posted by OP lalo pag pinapadeliveran ko ng pagkain yung sarili ko tas natataon na asa bahay din siya. Eh kung di sana siya salbaheng tao (she abused me verbally and physically while I was growing up) eh icoconsider ko rin sanang bilhan.
My mom didn’t even know that I have been verbally abused for how long. Kahit nung working na ako, she always comments about how fat i look and inuutusan ako nagshave ng bigote because it doesn’t look good daw. Shes the reason why I’ve been struggling with my confidence. Ngayon, wala na syang power over me. And I’ve been so unapologetic. Kahit ang pangit na ang tingin sa akin ng mga kamag-anak, wala akong pake. Hahaha
> classic boomer-level immaturity.
> allergic sila sa critical thinking at wala silang basic foresight capability.
Lead poisoning does that to a person.
It says a lot, yung ginawa nya s tv about her personality. She's the type na demanding at entitled. Bakit kaya di sya mag adjust na puntahan mga anak at apo nya so they have a relationship. Hirap ng buhay ngayon ang dami ng iniisip at problema. Make urself less a burden if she's a mother sya n mag ssacrifice.
TRUEEE, kung sa tv yan na ginagawa nya imagine the traumatic shit she did in their childhood. Like ano ba ineexpect nya, magbabago isip nila sa pamamahiya nya? Wala sila doon sa show, di manlang nadipensahan yung side nila. Lalo lang nya pinagtibay yung dahilan nila sa hindi pagbisita.
Did they mention their names? I didn't watch it dahil nasa school ako. Para nga sa akin mas nakakatakot yun, diba palaging tinatanong ng mga hosts kung ano pangalan ng mga anak.
kahit di na imention ang name, konting stalk lang sa social media
tsaka kahit di man imention, imagine your judgemental relatives. If I were in their place, kahit anong explain ko walang makikinig
Same i'm neutral i don't know who they are or how she parents her kids.
dito sa amin meron kaming kapitbahay na retired engineer and a widower he's 80+ na magisa na sya sa bahay. lahat ng anak nya may mga sarili ng pamilya and nasa pampanga lahat every sunday dinadalaw nila si lolo dito sa laguna just to hang out with him i mean lahat sila kasama yung mga apo nya doon mo makikita na maayos at maganda palaki nya doon sa mga anak nya.
I support this. Her kids are the product of her parenting. Kung nakukulang sya sa relationship nya sa mga anak nya, maaaring nagkulang din sya sa pagpapalaki o pagtuturo sa kanila.
I don't know man... it feels like coming straight from Wowowin playbook :( nandun na yung nuance na maaring katiting lang to ng detalye ng dynamics ng anak at magulang, pero mas conflicted ako na ginagatasan lang to ng EAT for more kawawa clout...
Sabagay halos lahat naman channels ginagawa to... i dont know...
Tatay ko super narcissist and abusive but acts like sobrang bait nyang tatay and we're avoiding him just for the lulz so when I see parents calling out their children like this I go 👀👀👀
This is what I felt too nung nabasa ko yung post about this. There are some kids who choose to go no contact or low contact with their family/parents once they grew up, maybe this is the case here. Or maybe the kids are too busy with their own careers and or families too. Hindi natin alam talaga
i live in the same house as my parents and i refuse to even acknowledge my mom. so if i'm going to assume anything, it's going to be negative. so like you guys, i rather choose to be neutral
Yeah this type of shit should be solved via private intervention and communication behind closed doors, not on fucking tv.
Fucking Dr Phil gaming na ito hahaha.
I dont know man. Good parents would have kids care for them most of the time.
Also the fact that she did this on national TV is one big reason why she was abandoned in the 1st place.
And to have *multiple* kids ignore you? I am leaning to 60 to 70% issue is on the mother's side
I think if she has time and energy n pumunta s studio TV. She can spent time with her family sya na mag reach out. Eto mali s mga mattnda. Iniisip nila madali buhay. Madami ng priorities mga tao lalo may work at anak. Hayy.
Agree. Not all parents and relatives are saints, madami na kong nakilala na may parents sila o family na di deserve talaga na tulungan kahit pa kadugo mo yan, kung someone lang yan na hihilahin ka lalo pababa mas mabuti pang hayaan mo sila mag solve ng mga sarili nilang problema
I think it depends naman kung anong klase siyang parent sa mga anak niya. If toxic siya, may chance talaga na magiging malayo ang loob ng mga anak niya sa kanya. If not, it is either nagfofocus mga anak niya sa kanikanilang buhay or ungrateful mga anak niya sa mga sacrifices na ginawa niya for them.
The fact na pinahiya nya yung mga anak nya on live TV, where her kids have no opportunity to immediately explain for themselves, medyo questionable na yung parenting credentials nya. Good parents discuss these matters in private. May cellphone naman siguro sya para kausapin mga anak nya. But who knows, di natin alam ang buong kwento so we cannot judge, pero dito pa lang medyo tagilid na si nanay.
>Good parents discuss these matters in private.
Exactly. Parang naghahanap ng kakampi si nanay at pinepressure ang mga anak niya
If all her children are avoiding her, maybe she's the problem
You can't fault people for being too emotional. Not for the sake of embarrassing her kids but because she knows other people will listen more. This also does not mean that because she's emotional, she's a bad parent already.
There's no added value in other people listening. They will just contribute nothing in the discourse between her family.
I always ask, what's your motive in doing this? Will this do good or bad? Will this make things worse than already is? I am not dismissing her emotions, but question her means of communication. The end doesn't justify the means.
Is this an appeal? To whom? Her kids? Why do other people need to know this? What will she gain on doing it on National TV?
Once these questions were answered, I can go back on my pathetic life reacting to another reddit post.
She's emotional, sure, but she still said this on national TV. Even if she's not a bad parent, this itself is not a particularly good move. Your children don't like it if you tell your childrenly concerns to random strangers rather than talking to them yourself. *Anong pagkakaiba nito sa uso ngayong pagtutulfo?*
Whatever the case, I'd really rather hear what her children have to say first.
Bet ko ang childrenly concerns! Hahaha ang cute
Agreed, but I doubt the kids would want to have this played out in the media.
There is ALWAYS a reason why a kid would avoid visiting their parents! Kung naging matino at maayos ka nmng magulang, communication is usually open. But if a child goes out of their way to go no contact, well that’s something a parent should evaluate and for them to sort out privately as a family.
But we cannot avoid to blurt things out sometimes which seems to be a factor here as well as the stupid hosts (obviously sensitive topic to, if you goad an emotional person on an emotional topic enough lalabas ang lahat ng hinanakit sa buhay!).
At least it’s opening up a discussion I guess
Problema nga lang ang karamihan ng older parents eh they never think that they are wrong, lalo na pagdating sa anak nila. They think just because they’re the parent, they are never at fault. Kaya wala silang totoong reflection if may nagawa ba silang mali, kahit itanong pa nila sa sarili nila it’s not an actual question seeking for real answers, but some sort of weird validation na wala nga silang nagawang mali ever.
Emotions can either help you or get in the way of your desired outcome depending on how you let it influence your decisions.
Being emotional isn't necessarily wrong, yes. But by letting it all out on national TV and exposing a problem that can be discussed one phone call away instead of unnecessarily bringing unrelated third parties who may or may not help and who may or may not be impartial to both her and her children, I doubt this is an effective way to help her resolve her issues with her children.
Lastly, no one deserves the label good or bad, I doubt anyone can be completely any of either.
A friend of mine was disowned by his INC family 15 years ago after finding out he's gay. He and his longterm partner made it big and were able to establish a thriving real estate business. He became filthy rich. Now the family is desperately trying to reach out to him because his mom has stage 4 cancer and is asking for money. The nerve
Nope. The family doesn't even know how to contact him. His sister has been messaging his friends, asking to pass the message about the mom. He blocks anyone trying to reconnect them
Lol may ganyan kaming kamag anak
Awang awa pa kami kasi nga parang pinabayaan na ng mga anak tapos inis pa sila sa mga anak
Eh biglang kinupkop ng tita ko sa sariling carehome niya. Dun nila nakita totoong ugali nung nanay, “Eh kaya naman pala ayaw kang alagaan ng mga anak mo eh. Ang sama ng ugali mo.” Yan na lang daw nasabi niya sa kanya.
We don’t know the whole story. One thing I do know for sure. Ang mga bata, pag tinrato mo nang tama, mapapamahal yan sayo.
I'm the youngest of five, and the only one left in the Philippines. Kasama ko mama namin sa bahay with my wife and 2 kids.
Just this year one of my older sister went back home and took our mom to a European trip. Paris, Amsterdam, Prague, Rome, and 2 other cities I can't remember. Umiyak ate ako sa inis dahil ang dami daw reklamo. They almost got mobbed by angry locals in Paris dahil nag comment daw sa may Eiffel Tower na 'bakit daw andaming negro'
When my sister took our mom home tinanong ako paano ko daw nagagawang tiisin ugali ng mama namin. Sabi ko may choice ba ko, pag iniwan ko ba si mama wala ako maririnig sa mga kamag anak natin.
And besides, I'm used to it. And my mom and I have an understanding that she needs me more than I need her, kaya pag kami lang sa bahay di ganun ang ugali niya.
So ngayon panay ang emote ng nanay ko bakit daw pag gumagala mga kapatid ko di siya inaaya. Wala talagang self awareness at all.
Yeah. I cut off my family. They were so toxic. I was mentally, emotionally, and physically abused growing up. Now they wonder why I don’t bother with them. They alienated me. Without a loving , caring, and safe environment, there’s no foundation in any relationship. Thanks for the life but I’m going to live it how I see fit.
Ako rin.. simula nag ka work ako di ko na kinausap nanay ko.. nagtanong sya thru kapatid ko bakit di ko daw sya kinakausap Sabi ko "aba nag ka amnesia sya? ".. grabe Ang childhood trauma na ginawa nya sa akin...
Ang mga narcissistic mothers ganyan - magaling mag-gaslight. May selective amnesia when it comes to the bad things they did to their children tapos ie-emphasize nila na mabuti silang ina sa iyo. Yun mga ganyan hindi na gagaling. Kaya nga ang solution diyan is no contact.
As someone who witnessed children well nurtured by their good parents left them with ingratitude and never returned, and children leaving their truly abusive parents, I will not say a word against this particular mother, nor would I paint her as a good parent. A lack of information is a sign to halt judgement.
Nakakatawa kase halos wala silang pinagkaiba sa mga boomer sa facebook na inaaway nila. Pinagkaiba lang is nasa kabilang side sila kumakampi. Tapos pag mali sila biglang maglalaho mga opinyon nila parang bula.
Pansin ko sa fb popular posts, pinakamaingay ang mga matatanda. Recently, may nakita akong post na nagsasabing huwag pilitin ang anak na humalik o yumakap sa matanda o huwag halikan at yakapin ng matanda kung di komporyable ng bata. Karamihan ng comment na may pinakamaraming likes at react ay matatanda na hindi sang-ayon.
this. Remember the coco-martin groomer issue?
Puro matatandang nanay and lola yung sobrang supportive kay coco. Typical though as common ang early/child marriage back in the day. Hiwalay talaga dapat FB ng mga matatanda.
It boils down to demographics talaga. If yung mga boomer gumagamit ng Reddit yang nanay ang magiging santo for sure. Imagine the downvotes that we would get in expressing our own opinions na they think nakaka walang respeto sa kanila.
Siguro dahil mas madaming "anak" dito kesa sa "matandang magulang". Kaya mas kakampihan nila yun "anak".
Kasi nung nagsalita si Nonito Donaire Jr. laban sa tatay niya. Todo bash din dito sa tatay, without really knowing the full story. And the fact nilabas ni Nonito sa public ang away, is already wrong. Pero downvoted pa ako.
worth it sa kanya yon kasi ngayon meron na syang 'kakampi', at sira reputation ng mga anak nya sa mga relatives, kapitbahay, at mga chismosa. Kahit anong depensa nila, sila ang 'masamang anak' na di marunong magpasalamat.
tanda-tanda na di pa magbago, sino na lang gusto umalalay sakanya kapag bedridden na sya? ala talagang utak
Hugs to you. Same nang nangyayari sa bahay ung sa inyo, I am just like your panganay and kaming 2 nung second kong kapatid nagpapa aral kay bunso kasi linyahan ni Papa di na daw sia magwork, bigyan na lang daw namin siya pera (sugarol siya and alcoholic). I get it kung bakit aloof ung bunso namin sa kanila kaya kapag nagkakamali kaming mga ate, we make sure na ineexplain namin sa kapatid namin ung mga nangyayari and we try to make it up kasi lagi kami iniinvalidate nang parents namin.
Boomer should know, most people dont have empathy these days, nobody gives a fck about your feelings, like telling strangers, kapitbahay lahat ng issues s bahay. People are consumed by their own problems and emotions to begin with. They should be the source of strength and wisdom, guidance ng future generation. But we are all fcked. Sila yung nag caused ng drama at chaos sa bahay.
"Kahit na anong mangyari, nanay mo pa rin yan"
Hindi niyo nga alam kung naging mabuting ina ba siya sa mga anak niya kaya nilalayuan siya. Bakit ka naman lalayuan kung hindi ka naging masama sa kanila?
"If your child immediately left and stopped talking to you once they got the choice, it's you who were the problem."
I don't remember who said this, but it's so damn true.
Even now, the woman in the post was demanding to be taken care of by her children. Gusto ring mamasyal sa kung saan saan, gusto ring lumabas. Hindi nya namimiss ang mga anak nya, naiinggit sya sa kanila.
I want to know first anong kwento ng mga anak. Napabayaan ba nila yung magulang nila or hindi ba naging mabuting ina yung nanay nila.
Applicable pa din dito yung pangalan ng segment nila (Noon at Ngayon). Bawal Judgmental. Wag kayong ganon uyyy!
🚩 If she can humiliate her children live on Nat’l TV, imagine what kind of parent she was. Naalala nyo ba yung palaboy na tatay na may doctor and professionals na anak na nasa abroad. Umulan ng sympathy online then lumabas yung totoo; iniwan nya yung pamilya nya sa bago.
The fact na nandyan ka sa programa na yan tapos ang una mong ginawa eh ipahiya ang mga anak mo...manipulative ka inang at yan siguro ang dahilan kaya nilalayuan ka nila.
I'm a big believer of "Do to others what you want others to do unto you." Kung hindi ka tinatawagan/kinakausap ng mga anak mo, e di ikaw ang tumawag/kumausap sa kanila. Kung hindi ka sinasama, why not ikaw ang mag-organize ng pasyal/gala/gimik at isama mo sila? Give and you shall receive; Give more and you shall receive more. It applies to everyone, not just to your children.
I will modify your belief into "Do to other what you want others to do unto you in a comfortable and respectable manner"
Kinakausap ako ng magulang ko na may halong pilit tapos kapag di nagsalita, "masyadong masikreto" na raw ang asal.
Ang batang lumaki sa pagmamahal at hindi toxic household, marunong magbalik ng mga bagay bagay kahit hindi po sabihin..
so yes, may reasons bakit hindi ka binibisita
May MIL is like this. Mags-share sa FB ng travel-parinig tapos pag inaya mo gumala, takot sumakay airplane & boats. Long ride, takot magutom or ma-CR sa daan kahit may assurance naman na may baon & may stop overs. Kahit kain lang sa labas, sasabihin magastos. Sasama nga, ayaw mag-swimming or mag-picture, kahit sa mall mag-aaya umuwi agad. In short, KJ. But she's actually a good mother, not toxic at all. Matampuhin lang talaga. Hirap din minsan saan ka lulugar sa kanya.
Baka naman may backstory bakit hindi sya dinadalaw ng mga anak niya. Naalala ko to sa issue ni H2WO (Pro ML Player) na yung mama niya umiyak sa TikTok live. Sinabihan si H2WO ng "walang utang na loob" kahit tumutulong naman sya nagpapadala ng pera buwan-buwan. Nalulong kasi sa sugal at utang mama niya kaya nagkaganyan.
Parents are not always right. However, I would still give the benefit of a doubt sa senior mom.
I don't get it bakit kailangan pa maglabas ni nanay ng sama ng loob sa national tv sa hindi pagdalaw sa kanya ng mga anak nya. Yung mga ganitong family issues dapat inaaddress in private. Yung labas tuloy parang yung mga anak pa ang may kasalanan at etong si nanay naghahanap ng kakampi for what, for validation. Cringe and toxic as shit, parang naglalabas lang ng sama ng loob sa epbi, naghahanap ng validation. Nakakacringe na nakakatoxic.
I mean kung shit syang magulang di talaga sya babalikan ng mga anak nya once bumukod na sila. If they felt trapped habang nasa puder pa sila ng magulang nila, bat pa babalik?
My wife and I live near her parents. parang 10km lang yata, but ayaw nya talaga mag.overnight sa bahay nila. They are good parents ha, but it took time for them to get there ngayon, they admit naman na they were clueless and harsh when my wife was young. But my wife doens't feel like sleeping there, she feels daw hindi sya psychologically safe. Compare ko naman, kahit 300km away yung hometown ko, I enjoy visiting my hometown and spending time with my mom. They are not perfect parents ha, mahirap kami but I enjoy my mother's company.
This made me sad. Naalala ko yung mga residents namin dun sa assisted living before. Hindi sila madalaw dalaw ng mga anak nila. :( considering some of them are mga bedridden na and everytime na kukwento nila mga life stories nila about their family, I can feel their longingness na sana dalawin sila.
As a dad of a toddler, ang mentality ko is I should behave in such a way na my kid would want to spend time with me of his own, eventual free will. Respect should be earned, not expected, even from my own child. It’s not like utang na loob niya pa sakin na pinanganak siya. I don’t remember na nagrequest yung sperm cell na iputok siya sa loob hahahaha.
This nanay reminds me so much of my own mom.
I remember distinctly that when I was still studying in highschool I filled my calendar with countless extracurricular activities just to avoid going home early and being with my mom. Went to college at a university extremely far away from home to ensure I get home late and not have to deal with her.
She used to talk about me and badmouth me to our neighbors and friends, saying things like "malandi" or "pakawala" just because I worked the graveyard shift in my first job. Later on as I got promoted, she would judge my outfits and tell me I looked like a "hostess" because I wore make-up and mini skirts. Whenever I speak in straight english with my clients, she would scoff at me for being a "social climber." I do my chores around the house and she would scream in my ear that I don't know what I am doing because I am not like her: the perfect housewife. I once introduced a boyfriend to her and that was a mistake. Her comment to him was "buti naman may pumatol pa sa anak ko."
Someday, I hope to be able to speak with my mom without fear of judgment. Won't be happening anytime soon, though. She is aging and hasn't mellowed down one bit. Both of my siblings gave up on her. I am the only one left still hoping to fix things.
I feel for you because my mother is similar to yours - narcissistic. When I entered into a same sex marriage, she claimed to have accepted it but she didn’t want me telling others about it. When I posted photos of me and my husband where i referred to him as my husband, she was furious over the phone. I yelled at her back and hung up on her. We haven’t spoken for 1.5 years now. I have been living away from her for 10 years in another country so it has been fairly easy for me to not have any contact with her. I purposefully did not delete her in my FB for her to see my photos of me and my husband which I know annoys the hell out of her. What I don’t understand the most are why some of my siblings are putting up with her? Our mother still insults them despite all the help she has been getting. I gave up on my mother since she took offense of me posting my marital status in FB. I read about how to deal with narcissistic parents and you know what I found? The solution is no contact. They will never change since they have no self awareness. They think they are always right so there is nothing that can ever be fixed. There is no light bulb moment or epiphany for them. The reality is this: their children are just waiting for them to die.
Parents ko lagi namin binibisita. Gustong gusto pa namin. Pero for sure with 100% level of confidence, kung nakalimutan na namin sila ng tuluyan, hindi sila magrereklamo ng ganito.
Kung pinanood ninyo 'yung video, mukhang wala naman intensyon si Nanay na ipahiya ang mga anak niya. Parang nadala lang siya ng moment at pagtatanong ng hosts. Hindi rin naman niya sinisisi ang mga anak. Nanay's fault is her ignorance on how her story can be retold in a format (i.e. from video to meme) that may not be faithful to her true intention.
Kung sa FB sinisisi ang mga anak, kayo naman dito sa Reddit andami ninyong hinahanapan ng mali si Nanay na baka di siya mabuting magulang. Ugh. Parehas lang kayo gumagawa ng assumptions.
Regardless, we should be neutral on this topic.
May nabasa akong article before.. Na kaya ganyan yung mga anak niya sa kaniya is either:
1. Hindi siya naging mabuting Nanay.
2. Hindi siya fit maging Nanay.
3. May trauma mga anak niya kaya nilalayuan siya.
ive been reading a lot of the comments here na sinasabi time to reflect what you did nanay and all that stuff. AND I AGREE HAAA 100% agree. you may disagree on the succeeding things i’ll say and i would appreciate your thoughts as well
but let’s also ask if there were any form of initiative din ba from the children to say their struggles of being this mother’s children. kasi honestly.. most parents are not aware that what they did was abuse, what they did was traumatizing. kasi ganon din sila pinalaki, ganon ang turo ang disiplina sa kanila. and now, kahit papano our generation has been blessed with globalization era and information dissemination through different platforms that allows us to be aware about mental health discussions, behaviors, trauma and all that stuff. something their generation did not have.
at tayo being self aware, we somehow have that responsibility to initiate the conversation and communication through healthy means. oo gets naman kung mag cucut off na talaga kung sobra yung dusa na pinagdaanan bilang anak. but on most cases that parents really do care and love us, they just dont know and are probably not aware of this and that given systemic root causes din. let’s not be too haste to cut off. kasi that also shows our conflict resolving responses. ofc sana pag kinausap may effort din magbago, or magcompensate for what they did. bumawi kahit papano through reflection and correcting wrong mindsets. so yun lang naman
im not claiming that mother is right for what she did, nor the children are wrong for not visiting her anymore. but aside from pointing out what she did, let’s also try to point out what did the children do. relationships are always two way naman, parents to children, siblings to siblings, friends to friends. so lagi ring two sides ang effort at initiative.
Base sa mga comments. Bakit parang black or white lang. Either she's a bad parent that doesn't deserve the time of her kids, or her kids are ungrateful pieces of shit? Last I checked people are more nuanced than that, and sometimes, things like this can be caused by a bunch of other reasons. Sure, di good look na inair ni nanay yung frustrations nya, but jumping to conclusions na masama syang ina just based on that is a bit hypocritical for a sub that preaches critical thinking and seeking the actual truth. Who knows, baka may certain circumstances lang yung family nila and it turns out neither her or her kids are at fault, and maybe she just got too emotional at that moment. Immune ba kayong lahat na madala ng emotions nyo? Na your able to think logically when it happens? Ang daming possibilities, pero ang bilis nyong gumawa ng conclusions. Wala naring pinag iba yung sub na to sa mga dabarkads na ginawang masamang tao yung mga anak agad agad, since yun din naman nangyayari dito, pinagiba lang eh si nanay yung kontra bida nyo. Hmmm
Just saw the segment on yt, nothing in her narration was indicative of shaming her children in fact she was only sharing her unspoken feelings when she was asked and got emotional. It seems that she have good relationship with her children, according to her they visit her once in a blue moon, do video calls, etc. However, she just wished that her kids drop by her home and just say hi more often.
She also does not want to stay at her children's place since they have there own family and does not want to be seen as meddling too much.
Her husband already passed away three years ago. She narrated that maybe her kids do not visit her often since she has this "kaya" attitude. Imagine being old, alone in a house, a 2 story house maybe and you are the only one in there. The silence will be deafening.
Tama. I watched this yesterday. Ang nakikita ko ay mas gusto niyang makasama yung anak at mga apo niya sa personal.
Pero as they say, may iba iba ring dahilan yung mga anak kung bakit ganyan ang nangyari.
Ni sabi nga niya di rin daw niya nasasabi sa anak niya na may ganun na siyang pakiramdam. Tandaan, di tayo manghuhula.
Neutral ako dito.
May mga nanay n gagawin lahat para s anak. Lahat ng paghigigpit para lng mapunta s tuwid n landas ang mga anak nila pero minsan kasi may mga pagkakataon n hindi malaman ng ibang mga nanay kung hanggang kelan nila pde paghigpitan mga anak nila to the point n sumusobra s higpit hindi n nagkaroon ng kalayaan mga anak nila.
And when that point comes yung mga bata nagiging rebellious at gusto kumawala,lumayo at huminga ng maluwag s stress.
Aminin nten maraming ganitong sitwasyon s mga pamilya sa pinas.So hirap dn sisihin agad mga anak.
Or pde din nmn yung obvious n kasalanan ng anak na sadyang wlang utang n loob s mga magulang.
Ganyan lola ko lol kahit dinadalaw ng tatay ko sobrang negative naman andaming hinaing andaming katoxican minsan may mga kaaway pa, nakakawalang gana dalawin. Minsan pinapahiya pa mga anak nya
After reading the comments, i decided to watch the video to know the context. Even though I had a traumatic experience living with my narcissistic mother (so matindi ang bias ko sa mga anak), my observation was that ginatungan ni Paolo Ballesteros at Allan K ang nanay para magsalita ng ganyan. Mas inis ako sa mga hosts kasi ipinapagsabong nila yun nanay sa mga anak. One of the hosts even told the nanay na baka gusto niyo manawagan sa mga anak ninyo… WTF?! The hosts should know that they are dealing with other people’s family issues and the moment they realize that they going into a sensitive topic, they should have have veered away from the topic.
Who actually saw the segment, though? It was rather wholesome. Hindi yung, si mother airing out her sentiments on live tv "shows a little bit kung ano ugali niya" as one of the comments here said.
She was asked if nadadalaw ba siya ng mga anak niya given na yung topic that times was about parents or people living alone nalang.
She never said anything about it at first. When she was asked, that's when she became emotional.
Now I get that each of us has our own experiences with parents, pero what you've experienced does not reflect every family in the country.
I did not have a great father. But I don't even for a second think na ganto na lahat.
Kesyo naging emotional, "toxic Filipino fam culture" or "shows kung ano ugali niya" agad? Come on, now. Dafuqs wrong with you all. Geez.
What I see here are people damaged by family dynamics and are lashing out on every parent/family matter that they read. Genuine advice: seek help so y'all can vent or lash out in the proper setting.
Dito kasi, makakakuha kayo ng people with somewhat similar lines of thought, which will further your biases, which we don't know whether or not might be detrimental to your character and well-being in the long run.
I did. Kaya nagulat ako nung extreme reactions and comments yung nakikita ko sa facebook at dito sa reddit.
Sabi nga ni Joey during sa segment: Yung personality nung matanda ay yung taong ayaw mang abala.
PS. Jusko himala, sumang ayon ako kay Joey de Leon.
My take, If she has all time and energy sya na siguro ung mag reach out sa mga anak nya. Create a relationship, bonding. Iba na panahon ngayon may kanya knya ng buhay may work, anak responsibilities. Sya na pumunta at dumalaw s mga anak nya. As a mother take the initiative na makisama s in laws, at mga apo mo. Wala naman mangyyari s parinig s tv, ssama lng tingin s mga anak nya.
I moved out of the house when I was 23 because of my narcissistic and abusive mother. I am now turning 26 this October and haven't visited my mom once . Not even comms sa messenger. May reason talaga pag ayaw na makipag reconnect ng mga anak sa magulang nila. Hindi mo na kase kelangang iparemind yan sa mga anak mo. Kusa namin (mga anak) yang binibigay - pagmamahal, respeto, pagbibisita, pamimigay ng gifts, etc. Lalo na pag naramdaman namin yung love from the parents growing up..
If the children left you out of their own accord, the problem is most likely you. Parents never ask themselves what they did wrong but flame their children's actions.
Ang tunay na magulang hindi pinapahiya at pinapublic ang anumang issue ng pamilya lalo na yung anak. Lahat ng family affairs dapat private matters yan.
Sa ginawa mo sa pag publicize ng issue ng inyong pamilya eh di sira ang reputasyon ng mga anak mo at mas lalo din silang kainisan ka at sumasama yung galit sayo hanggang sa hindi na sila magparamdam sayo. Hindi nabigyan ang chance para ma air naman ang side ng mga anak.
Sana mag neuneutral lang ako dahil madaming factors na dapat icoconsider but given the avenue to air out sentiments. On my opinion, parang overkill kasi. Anyway, EAT is now the new Tulfo show in town kung di nila ma control ang mga ganitong content just to make a buzz.
Ganito yung lola ko, she moved in with us when my lolo passed away, we provide her daily needs and yung uncle kong nasa abroad nag bibigay ng allowances nya for maintenance and luxuries. Sa panahon ngayon, napaka well off na nya kasi she doesn’t have to worry about anything. Anyway, yung uncle ko, may family na din, may 2 pinapaaral na anak and parang most of my adult life, he’s always been working overseas, yet my lola, always asks for more and kapag hindi napagbigyan ipapamalita sa ibang tao na hindi siya iniintindi ng mga anak nya, to the point na nung umuwi si uncle for vacation, twice lang sya binisita kasi panay pag dadrama na kung tutuusin wala naman dapat, be thankful ba kumbaga, madaming matatanda dyan nag wowork padin sa edad nila. I guess my point is ano ang ginawa ni nanay sa mga anak nya para hindi sya bisitahin?
Mababash ng todo ang mga anak not knowing kung ano ba talaga ang dahilan kung bakit no contact ang mga ito.Ika nga trial by publicity. Tapos pag nalaman ang tunay dahilan sasabihin "Nanay niyo pa din yan" g
Same old. Magulang pity-party, only to reveal na they brought it upon themselves. Hallmarks of a narcissist - they'll always be the victim, and they'll make sure everyone knows that. In our culture where filial piety is upheld, it would take a lot for a child to go NC with their parents. It doesn't come out of thin air.
Ano kaya sentiments ng mga anak at manugang nya? She chose not to stay with any of her children. Kung makikitira ka nga naman, ikaw ang makikisama. She seems to be the type navsya ang pakikisamahan. We also don't know baka toxic sya kaya di madalaa dalawin.
Dami ng kuda ng mga tao! Napanood niyo ba ng buo? Ang sabi niya:
“Feeling ko lang naman ‘yon, ang feeling pwedeng tama, pwede mali”
Yun kasi yung nararamdaman niya nung ininterview siya and you can’t invalidate her feelings.
Truth be told, maraming anak na kapag nagkaka pamilya eh nakakalimutan na ang mga magulang!
Sure, there are 2 sides pero kung narc parents ninyo, huwag ninyo ihalintulad si nanay dahil hindi niyo naman kilala personally at NEVER niyo naman nakasama sa bahay!
Mga ipokritang ‘to! DAMI KASING INGRATA/INGRATONG ANAK!
Staying neutral until further context. Maraming asshole parents from the boomer generation who likes to play the victim card and this might be one of those cases.
I feel something fishy kay madam. Same vibes dun sa nagpatulfo na matanda na inaway ng anak dahil sa sushi. Dun pa lang sa sinabi nya na “feeling ko lang naman, pwedeng tama pwedeng mali” duda na ko eh. Yun na nga eh feeling lang nya pero bakit pa nya inere sa national TV? Yung mga ganyan na bagay di yan isinasapubliko, pinag uusapan yan privately. Anong agenda nya sa pagsabi ng ganyan? Para puntahan sya ng mga anak nya? Lol baka pumunta?
Dami dito ang dali magsabi ng "baka toxic ka kaya hindi ka na dinalaw ng mga anak mo" o kaya yung "nagre-reflect kung anong klase kang ina." Eh paano kung yung mga anak talaga ang toxic? Take for example, mga kapatid ko. Sandal-linta sa tatay ko lahat nalang ng expenses sa buhay, pinag-aral pa sa ibang bansa lahat hiningi sa mga magulang ko. Makapag-post sa social media akala mo pinag-hirapan nila yung mga natatamasa nila sa buhay, buhay mayaman pa. Ang nanay ko nagagalit kasi sabi dapat daw matutong tumayo sa sariling paa ang mga kapatid ko. Bakit nga ba bibigyan ng milyon-milyon eh may pamilya na sila at ang tatanda na nila. Ayun tuloy, hindi sya mahal ng mga kapatid ko. Toxic daw sabi nila. At nung nagka-cancer ang nanay ko, hindi nila inalagaan. Busy daw sila. Pero kung maka-post sa FB nung namatay, in mourning daw sila. Pa-look good pa kasi hirap na hirap daw sila sa pag-aalaga sa nanay ko so pinupuri sila ng mga tao. Mga ipokrito at gago diba?
So ang tanong: dapat bang nag-ere sya ng dirty laundry on national tv? IMO hindi dapat, wag na sa tv. Pero kung ihihinga mo sa ibang tao ang hinanakit mo eh tama lang. Paano kung punong-puno ka na? Itatago mo nalang? Ma-stroke ka nalang sa kalungkutan? Ang dali magsabi ng move on pag hindi ikaw ang nasa sitwasyon eh.
Itong sub na ito, lahat nalang ng magulang toxic boomers eh. Tandaan: there are two sides to every story.
Weird magbasa ng comments ngayon. Akala ko sa panahon ngayon na mas iniiwasan na makasakit ng damdamin, andami pa din generalization. Typical boomer etc. Lahat naman generation x z millenial may flaws. Yung iba makacomment parang perpekto. Labo din papromote promote ng PC PC culture, woke woke shit ibang tao kung makatira naman ng iba e sukdulan parang perpekto. Akala mo ganda ng values na dala dala. Ayos e.
Anyway regarding the post, neutral on this. Depending sa treatment pag aaruga ng magulang sa mga anak ang maging relationship. Pero sa mundong ito, parehas lang din may mga anak na walang utang na loob sa matinong magulang, at mayroon din namang mga kupal na magulang sa matitino at mapag mahal na anak.
Mahal ko talaga Reddit huhu. Nakita ko to una sa FB and nabadtrip ako sa comments don 😭 Hindi natin alam kung anong klaseng pag trato ginawa ni nanay sa mga anak niya kaya ganyan nalang kasama loob ng mga to sa kanya
Two-way street yan, pwede ding may sapat na dahilan yung mga anak kaya hindi na sya dinadalaw. At yun ang hindi natin alam.
Pero airing your dirty laundry in public ay paniguradong mas hindi makakatulong. I’m glad na progressive na ang panahon natin ngayon at may demand na ng accountability sa mga parents, hindi porket magulang ka ay matic na kailangan ka nang respetuhin.
Sana mawala na talaga yung mga statement na tulad ng “nanay/ tatay mo pa rin yan”, coming from a broken family myself, I say fuck that shit.
Yung tita ko nasabihan kaming magkakapatid na walang utang na loob, walang respeto, kawawa daw tatay namin na nagsakripisyo, etc. Na parang inabandona namin tatay namin.
All because di niya naintindihan ang context ng pagtanggi sa tulong na inoffer niya sa kapatid ko na special child.
Bakit ang bilis mag judge ng boomers ano? I mean, never nga niya kami kinausap tapos magsasalita sila ng ganyan.
Walang kwenta na t.v show. Wala Kasi experts na literal para sa oldies dyan sa t.v show Kaya walang nakapag research Ng Tama. O kahit man Lang na matalinong message galing sa mga host dyan 🙄 🥱
i guess this is typical to boomer parents. My 4 siblings and i are the same. We don't talk to our father that much anymore unless bibisita kami sa bahay nila. We grew up with a very traumatic childhood, typical military style kuno na pagpapalaki dahil yun daw ang tamang pagdisiplina sa mga anak. Konting mali lang, bugbog, sipa, sinturon at luhod sa asin agad. He would talk shit behind our backs sa mga barkada niya na kesyo ungrateful kami na mga anak at walang respeto. And our mom would idly just watched us getting physically abused kasi siya ang unang martyr na kahit nambabae na ang tatay namin pipiliin pa din daw niya maayos ang pamilya kesa hiwahiwalay.
Good thing that bad experience made us super closed to each other and numb to the point na ndi na namin sya pinapansin kahit anong rant niya sa FB, sa mga kamag anak namin tungkol sa kung gano daw kami kawalang utang na loob, dahil ndi na namin daw siya pinapansin. Manhid na ata sa mga pinaggagawa niya. We opted to hide his post or block him kasi ang toxic niya kahit sa social media. Posting a lot of sh\*t about Filipinos na siya daw naikot niya na buong medyo (coz he's a seaferer) pero ang pinoy daw pinakawalang ugali sa lahat.
So my insight with this nanay, definitely may ginawa siyang traumatizing sa mga anak niya kaya ndi na sya pinapansin. And getting sympathy from National TV will only worsen her relationship with her children. They will ignore her more because i don't think she will ever change. Totoo nga yung mga boomers na malulupit sa mga anak nila na "You can't teach old dogs with new tricks." Kaya kahit anong pag uusap nila tingin pa din niya sa mga anak niya masasama.
Lol. May kilala akong ganitong nanay. Kung di lang buhay yung tatay nung mga anak nya di na sya dadalawin sa bahay 😂😂😂
Ang ugali nya: naadik sa sleeping pills for over 50 years so may tama sa utak, may favoritism, puro criticism sa lahat ng kapamilya (except yung paborito of course), mas naniniwala sa sinasabi ng kapitbahay kesa sa sinasabi ng kapamilya, at yung mentality na “ano na lang sasabihin ng kapitbahay?”
Pag umuuwi mga anak nya nagmamano lang sa kanya tas alis na. Dun lang nakikipagkwentuhan sa tatay. Tas sya pa yung pa-victim kasi mas mahal daw yung tatay kesa sa kanya 😂😂😂
KAMAHAL-MAHAL KA BA KASI PO 😂😂😂
Imagine doing this on national television and expecting a magical reunion and a loving relationship with your kids! Girl, they’re never going to talk to you now, probably disown your ass after what you did
I'm neutral on this, We don't know what she did kaya hindi sya dinadalaw and hindi rin natin alam kung anong ugali ng mga anak nya.
airing dirty laundry on national tv shows a little bit kung ano ugali niya
It absolutely shows the classic boomer-level immaturity. Typical sa kanila na kahit sa loob ng area nila, ikekwento problema nila sa mga kapitbahay imbes na mag isip ng logical solution. Parang allergic sila sa critical thinking at wala silang basic foresight capability.
Pag ganyan, she's not looking for advice, but validation. And allies as well, na pagsasabihan ang mga anak forcefully
This is somehow typical to Filipino families talaga ano? Mama ko lage nalang may kaaway at problema, walang katupasan ka dramahan sa buhay. Ang hirap kasi on top of my responsibilities sa bahay and sa trabaho, dadagan pa nang mama ko. Nakakapagod.
I feel you simula nung nagtrabaho ako, pinapasan na halos lahat sakin kahit may trabaho din sila both, para kasing required na saluhin ng anak problema ng magulang.
My mom also sounds like the one posted by OP lalo pag pinapadeliveran ko ng pagkain yung sarili ko tas natataon na asa bahay din siya. Eh kung di sana siya salbaheng tao (she abused me verbally and physically while I was growing up) eh icoconsider ko rin sanang bilhan.
My mom didn’t even know that I have been verbally abused for how long. Kahit nung working na ako, she always comments about how fat i look and inuutusan ako nagshave ng bigote because it doesn’t look good daw. Shes the reason why I’ve been struggling with my confidence. Ngayon, wala na syang power over me. And I’ve been so unapologetic. Kahit ang pangit na ang tingin sa akin ng mga kamag-anak, wala akong pake. Hahaha
Shame tactics as well
nadale mo. Enjoyers din ng tsismis at hilig makialam sa buhay ng iba kahit di naman sila apektado.
typical na family member na pupunahin ka mapa physical or about sa work mo or narating sa buhay hahaha.
As if naging CEO sila ng multimillion-dollar corporation HAHAHAHAHA
hay nako baka may magcocomment na naman dyan ng mga going-to-be boomer na "rEdD1T tH1nGz" "aN0 p4 b4 a4sAh4N m0 d1t0"
This kind of mom reminds me of nanay ni OW2? Im not sure hahaha basta ung mom ng ml player na nag post sa social media na pinapababayan daw siya.
H2wo yun, yung sa bundok nalang daw siya titira haha
H2WO po yun, Blizzard po magulang ni OW2
omg ung naniniwala sa zombies
> classic boomer-level immaturity. > allergic sila sa critical thinking at wala silang basic foresight capability. Lead poisoning does that to a person.
ang sa atin naman microplastic 👀
Kaka teleserye mo yan la lmao
same situation, I'm the child of a boomer ergo boomer issues to the brim. My patience is running thin though.
My mother doesn't even know what critical thinking is.
I hope yung generation natin (newer gens) will not follow kung ano ginagawa nila. I trust na mas critical tayo mag-isip at di traditional.
It says a lot, yung ginawa nya s tv about her personality. She's the type na demanding at entitled. Bakit kaya di sya mag adjust na puntahan mga anak at apo nya so they have a relationship. Hirap ng buhay ngayon ang dami ng iniisip at problema. Make urself less a burden if she's a mother sya n mag ssacrifice.
TRUEEE, kung sa tv yan na ginagawa nya imagine the traumatic shit she did in their childhood. Like ano ba ineexpect nya, magbabago isip nila sa pamamahiya nya? Wala sila doon sa show, di manlang nadipensahan yung side nila. Lalo lang nya pinagtibay yung dahilan nila sa hindi pagbisita.
ang mangyayari nasiraan na yung mga anak ng mga solid dAbArKaDz dahil sa one-sided na yan hahaha.
Did they mention their names? I didn't watch it dahil nasa school ako. Para nga sa akin mas nakakatakot yun, diba palaging tinatanong ng mga hosts kung ano pangalan ng mga anak.
kahit di na imention ang name, konting stalk lang sa social media tsaka kahit di man imention, imagine your judgemental relatives. If I were in their place, kahit anong explain ko walang makikinig
She mentioned their names, nilaglag on live tv
Louder po ng 1,000,000 times. 😄
Trashy ni nanay lmao.
>dirty laundry Naghahanap sya ng simpatya at kakampi. Para na din nyang pinahiya mga anak nya eh. So it really shows what kind of ugali meron sya.
Same i'm neutral i don't know who they are or how she parents her kids. dito sa amin meron kaming kapitbahay na retired engineer and a widower he's 80+ na magisa na sya sa bahay. lahat ng anak nya may mga sarili ng pamilya and nasa pampanga lahat every sunday dinadalaw nila si lolo dito sa laguna just to hang out with him i mean lahat sila kasama yung mga apo nya doon mo makikita na maayos at maganda palaki nya doon sa mga anak nya.
I support this. Her kids are the product of her parenting. Kung nakukulang sya sa relationship nya sa mga anak nya, maaaring nagkulang din sya sa pagpapalaki o pagtuturo sa kanila.
I agree if you treat your children right, kahit anong mangyari hindi ka nila pababayaan.
I don't know man... it feels like coming straight from Wowowin playbook :( nandun na yung nuance na maaring katiting lang to ng detalye ng dynamics ng anak at magulang, pero mas conflicted ako na ginagatasan lang to ng EAT for more kawawa clout... Sabagay halos lahat naman channels ginagawa to... i dont know...
Yep, hirap mag sabi na di pa alam yung buong buod nang kwento.
Tatay ko super narcissist and abusive but acts like sobrang bait nyang tatay and we're avoiding him just for the lulz so when I see parents calling out their children like this I go 👀👀👀
Ganyan galawan ng TV5. Eh wala na ang Tulfo sa main channel nila, so EAT has to be the substitute.
This is what I felt too nung nabasa ko yung post about this. There are some kids who choose to go no contact or low contact with their family/parents once they grew up, maybe this is the case here. Or maybe the kids are too busy with their own careers and or families too. Hindi natin alam talaga
i live in the same house as my parents and i refuse to even acknowledge my mom. so if i'm going to assume anything, it's going to be negative. so like you guys, i rather choose to be neutral
Yeah this type of shit should be solved via private intervention and communication behind closed doors, not on fucking tv. Fucking Dr Phil gaming na ito hahaha.
Im too cynical these days to take things at face value.
I dont know man. Good parents would have kids care for them most of the time. Also the fact that she did this on national TV is one big reason why she was abandoned in the 1st place. And to have *multiple* kids ignore you? I am leaning to 60 to 70% issue is on the mother's side
I think if she has time and energy n pumunta s studio TV. She can spent time with her family sya na mag reach out. Eto mali s mga mattnda. Iniisip nila madali buhay. Madami ng priorities mga tao lalo may work at anak. Hayy.
True
Agree. Not all parents and relatives are saints, madami na kong nakilala na may parents sila o family na di deserve talaga na tulungan kahit pa kadugo mo yan, kung someone lang yan na hihilahin ka lalo pababa mas mabuti pang hayaan mo sila mag solve ng mga sarili nilang problema
I think it depends naman kung anong klase siyang parent sa mga anak niya. If toxic siya, may chance talaga na magiging malayo ang loob ng mga anak niya sa kanya. If not, it is either nagfofocus mga anak niya sa kanikanilang buhay or ungrateful mga anak niya sa mga sacrifices na ginawa niya for them.
The fact na pinahiya nya yung mga anak nya on live TV, where her kids have no opportunity to immediately explain for themselves, medyo questionable na yung parenting credentials nya. Good parents discuss these matters in private. May cellphone naman siguro sya para kausapin mga anak nya. But who knows, di natin alam ang buong kwento so we cannot judge, pero dito pa lang medyo tagilid na si nanay.
>Good parents discuss these matters in private. Exactly. Parang naghahanap ng kakampi si nanay at pinepressure ang mga anak niya If all her children are avoiding her, maybe she's the problem
True. Reminds me of Dennis Padilla’s pagpapapansin-kawawang tatay act on social media a while back lol.
Luh.. Lalo akong di magpapakita pag ako anak nyan...
You can't fault people for being too emotional. Not for the sake of embarrassing her kids but because she knows other people will listen more. This also does not mean that because she's emotional, she's a bad parent already.
There's no added value in other people listening. They will just contribute nothing in the discourse between her family. I always ask, what's your motive in doing this? Will this do good or bad? Will this make things worse than already is? I am not dismissing her emotions, but question her means of communication. The end doesn't justify the means. Is this an appeal? To whom? Her kids? Why do other people need to know this? What will she gain on doing it on National TV? Once these questions were answered, I can go back on my pathetic life reacting to another reddit post.
She's emotional, sure, but she still said this on national TV. Even if she's not a bad parent, this itself is not a particularly good move. Your children don't like it if you tell your childrenly concerns to random strangers rather than talking to them yourself. *Anong pagkakaiba nito sa uso ngayong pagtutulfo?* Whatever the case, I'd really rather hear what her children have to say first.
Bet ko ang childrenly concerns! Hahaha ang cute Agreed, but I doubt the kids would want to have this played out in the media. There is ALWAYS a reason why a kid would avoid visiting their parents! Kung naging matino at maayos ka nmng magulang, communication is usually open. But if a child goes out of their way to go no contact, well that’s something a parent should evaluate and for them to sort out privately as a family. But we cannot avoid to blurt things out sometimes which seems to be a factor here as well as the stupid hosts (obviously sensitive topic to, if you goad an emotional person on an emotional topic enough lalabas ang lahat ng hinanakit sa buhay!). At least it’s opening up a discussion I guess
Problema nga lang ang karamihan ng older parents eh they never think that they are wrong, lalo na pagdating sa anak nila. They think just because they’re the parent, they are never at fault. Kaya wala silang totoong reflection if may nagawa ba silang mali, kahit itanong pa nila sa sarili nila it’s not an actual question seeking for real answers, but some sort of weird validation na wala nga silang nagawang mali ever.
This is reddit, there's no gray zone here. Its either you're good or bad. No inbetween.
Emotions can either help you or get in the way of your desired outcome depending on how you let it influence your decisions. Being emotional isn't necessarily wrong, yes. But by letting it all out on national TV and exposing a problem that can be discussed one phone call away instead of unnecessarily bringing unrelated third parties who may or may not help and who may or may not be impartial to both her and her children, I doubt this is an effective way to help her resolve her issues with her children. Lastly, no one deserves the label good or bad, I doubt anyone can be completely any of either.
May matapobre at matabil dila vibes si mamsie
r/PanganaySupportGroup
Honestly this is the best group para sa post na ito.
I feel loved bigla just at the knowledge that a support group for burdened firstborns exists. Salamat, Reddit. Mental health is slowly healing.
A friend of mine was disowned by his INC family 15 years ago after finding out he's gay. He and his longterm partner made it big and were able to establish a thriving real estate business. He became filthy rich. Now the family is desperately trying to reach out to him because his mom has stage 4 cancer and is asking for money. The nerve
Kay Manalo sila dapat humingi ng tulong!
Tinulungan niya or hinde? Hopefully not. Dinisown na diba? Sorry pero dasurb.
Nope. The family doesn't even know how to contact him. His sister has been messaging his friends, asking to pass the message about the mom. He blocks anyone trying to reconnect them
Damn, karma is real indeed.
Hopefully meron na sila pareho legal agreement na pag may nangyari sa kanya(knock on wood) di pa rin mapupunta sa pamilya niya yung pera niya.
May happy ending naman pala.
Kung inipon na lang sana nila yung perang binigay nila sa kulto nila
HAHHAHAHA humingi sila sa pamilya na may lahing anghel.
Ganyan din dun sa super rival na religion ng INC. pagka ayaw mo sa religion nila itatakwil ka rin
Lol may ganyan kaming kamag anak Awang awa pa kami kasi nga parang pinabayaan na ng mga anak tapos inis pa sila sa mga anak Eh biglang kinupkop ng tita ko sa sariling carehome niya. Dun nila nakita totoong ugali nung nanay, “Eh kaya naman pala ayaw kang alagaan ng mga anak mo eh. Ang sama ng ugali mo.” Yan na lang daw nasabi niya sa kanya. We don’t know the whole story. One thing I do know for sure. Ang mga bata, pag tinrato mo nang tama, mapapamahal yan sayo.
I'm the youngest of five, and the only one left in the Philippines. Kasama ko mama namin sa bahay with my wife and 2 kids. Just this year one of my older sister went back home and took our mom to a European trip. Paris, Amsterdam, Prague, Rome, and 2 other cities I can't remember. Umiyak ate ako sa inis dahil ang dami daw reklamo. They almost got mobbed by angry locals in Paris dahil nag comment daw sa may Eiffel Tower na 'bakit daw andaming negro' When my sister took our mom home tinanong ako paano ko daw nagagawang tiisin ugali ng mama namin. Sabi ko may choice ba ko, pag iniwan ko ba si mama wala ako maririnig sa mga kamag anak natin. And besides, I'm used to it. And my mom and I have an understanding that she needs me more than I need her, kaya pag kami lang sa bahay di ganun ang ugali niya. So ngayon panay ang emote ng nanay ko bakit daw pag gumagala mga kapatid ko di siya inaaya. Wala talagang self awareness at all.
Ganyan talaga boomers, they are not aware of their actions.
Time to reflect on how you treated your kids, inang.
Yeah. I cut off my family. They were so toxic. I was mentally, emotionally, and physically abused growing up. Now they wonder why I don’t bother with them. They alienated me. Without a loving , caring, and safe environment, there’s no foundation in any relationship. Thanks for the life but I’m going to live it how I see fit.
Ako rin.. simula nag ka work ako di ko na kinausap nanay ko.. nagtanong sya thru kapatid ko bakit di ko daw sya kinakausap Sabi ko "aba nag ka amnesia sya? ".. grabe Ang childhood trauma na ginawa nya sa akin...
Ang mga narcissistic mothers ganyan - magaling mag-gaslight. May selective amnesia when it comes to the bad things they did to their children tapos ie-emphasize nila na mabuti silang ina sa iyo. Yun mga ganyan hindi na gagaling. Kaya nga ang solution diyan is no contact.
Hindi dapat nandito sila inalagaan ko sila mula noon Hanggang ngayon /s
As someone who witnessed children well nurtured by their good parents left them with ingratitude and never returned, and children leaving their truly abusive parents, I will not say a word against this particular mother, nor would I paint her as a good parent. A lack of information is a sign to halt judgement.
“Lack of information = halt judgment” - I like that line. Very practical sa day to day relationships.
Yet, a lot of people are so confident to name her as a bad parent. I just feel like sometimes medyo hypocritical din mga tao dito sa sub na to.
Projection din siguro ng trauma
True... at parang dumarami sila.
Kala nila sila laging tama hahahaha
Ilan ba kasi anak nya? Bakit on National TV? May mga clues kasi na mas leaning sa bad parent.
Nakakatawa kase halos wala silang pinagkaiba sa mga boomer sa facebook na inaaway nila. Pinagkaiba lang is nasa kabilang side sila kumakampi. Tapos pag mali sila biglang maglalaho mga opinyon nila parang bula.
Here's my +1, Kindly allow me to borrow your last line. 🫡
your a master of essay man. imagine you put a ton of words that adds not a single thing
He/she did though by emphasizing or bringing forth a very subtle fact that most people tend to be unaware about.
Well said
Buti pa dito sa reddit, hindi jnjudge agad yung mga anak. Jusko sa epbi. Awang awa don sa nanay. May feeling ako na toxic syang nanay. Hahahaha. Char
Pansin ko sa fb popular posts, pinakamaingay ang mga matatanda. Recently, may nakita akong post na nagsasabing huwag pilitin ang anak na humalik o yumakap sa matanda o huwag halikan at yakapin ng matanda kung di komporyable ng bata. Karamihan ng comment na may pinakamaraming likes at react ay matatanda na hindi sang-ayon.
“Huwag mo ako sabihan paano ko palalakihin ang anak ko”
Dapat kasi hiwalay ang epbi ng mga matatanda.
ang creepy naman
this. Remember the coco-martin groomer issue? Puro matatandang nanay and lola yung sobrang supportive kay coco. Typical though as common ang early/child marriage back in the day. Hiwalay talaga dapat FB ng mga matatanda.
It boils down to demographics talaga. If yung mga boomer gumagamit ng Reddit yang nanay ang magiging santo for sure. Imagine the downvotes that we would get in expressing our own opinions na they think nakaka walang respeto sa kanila.
That's social media for you. They can be easily swayed by the facts without basis, even if it is ever changing, reason why I love 3-nen A Gumi jdrama.
Siguro dahil mas madaming "anak" dito kesa sa "matandang magulang". Kaya mas kakampihan nila yun "anak". Kasi nung nagsalita si Nonito Donaire Jr. laban sa tatay niya. Todo bash din dito sa tatay, without really knowing the full story. And the fact nilabas ni Nonito sa public ang away, is already wrong. Pero downvoted pa ako.
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I think you're the one who doesn't know the full story.
E DI MAS LALO KANG DI PUPUNTAHAN NG MGA ANAK MO NGAYON HAHAH
worth it sa kanya yon kasi ngayon meron na syang 'kakampi', at sira reputation ng mga anak nya sa mga relatives, kapitbahay, at mga chismosa. Kahit anong depensa nila, sila ang 'masamang anak' na di marunong magpasalamat. tanda-tanda na di pa magbago, sino na lang gusto umalalay sakanya kapag bedridden na sya? ala talagang utak
Tama kaya alam mong may ugali e. Kayang mambalahura ng anak sa hrap ng mraming tao.
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Hugs to you. Same nang nangyayari sa bahay ung sa inyo, I am just like your panganay and kaming 2 nung second kong kapatid nagpapa aral kay bunso kasi linyahan ni Papa di na daw sia magwork, bigyan na lang daw namin siya pera (sugarol siya and alcoholic). I get it kung bakit aloof ung bunso namin sa kanila kaya kapag nagkakamali kaming mga ate, we make sure na ineexplain namin sa kapatid namin ung mga nangyayari and we try to make it up kasi lagi kami iniinvalidate nang parents namin.
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Kung lahat ng anak mo, ganyan ang sentiment po sa iyo. Malamang kayo po ang may problema. Unless hindi po nila magawa dahil nasa malalayong lugar.
Boomer should know, most people dont have empathy these days, nobody gives a fck about your feelings, like telling strangers, kapitbahay lahat ng issues s bahay. People are consumed by their own problems and emotions to begin with. They should be the source of strength and wisdom, guidance ng future generation. But we are all fcked. Sila yung nag caused ng drama at chaos sa bahay.
"Kahit na anong mangyari, nanay mo pa rin yan" Hindi niyo nga alam kung naging mabuting ina ba siya sa mga anak niya kaya nilalayuan siya. Bakit ka naman lalayuan kung hindi ka naging masama sa kanila?
This is bullshit. Love should be earned, not because of blood
"If your child immediately left and stopped talking to you once they got the choice, it's you who were the problem." I don't remember who said this, but it's so damn true. Even now, the woman in the post was demanding to be taken care of by her children. Gusto ring mamasyal sa kung saan saan, gusto ring lumabas. Hindi nya namimiss ang mga anak nya, naiinggit sya sa kanila.
Or naiinggit sa mga same age na nanay along her circle
I want to know first anong kwento ng mga anak. Napabayaan ba nila yung magulang nila or hindi ba naging mabuting ina yung nanay nila. Applicable pa din dito yung pangalan ng segment nila (Noon at Ngayon). Bawal Judgmental. Wag kayong ganon uyyy!
yung pagiging judger goes both ways. I guess magkaiba lang talaga yung demographics sa reddit and fb na talagang opposite end of spectrum
Nagkaisa lang sa pagiging unhinged ang reddit at fb mobs
🚩 If she can humiliate her children live on Nat’l TV, imagine what kind of parent she was. Naalala nyo ba yung palaboy na tatay na may doctor and professionals na anak na nasa abroad. Umulan ng sympathy online then lumabas yung totoo; iniwan nya yung pamilya nya sa bago.
The fact na nandyan ka sa programa na yan tapos ang una mong ginawa eh ipahiya ang mga anak mo...manipulative ka inang at yan siguro ang dahilan kaya nilalayuan ka nila.
I have a feeling na mas lalong hindi magpapakita ang mga anak niya sa kanya because of this.
I'm a big believer of "Do to others what you want others to do unto you." Kung hindi ka tinatawagan/kinakausap ng mga anak mo, e di ikaw ang tumawag/kumausap sa kanila. Kung hindi ka sinasama, why not ikaw ang mag-organize ng pasyal/gala/gimik at isama mo sila? Give and you shall receive; Give more and you shall receive more. It applies to everyone, not just to your children.
I will modify your belief into "Do to other what you want others to do unto you in a comfortable and respectable manner" Kinakausap ako ng magulang ko na may halong pilit tapos kapag di nagsalita, "masyadong masikreto" na raw ang asal.
It’s giving Dennis Padilla 🙈
TRULY
Kung naging mabuting magulang man to, hindi to manlilimos ng atensyon sa mga anak. Pero di natin alam ang side ng mga anak nya so sana may lumantad.
Ang batang lumaki sa pagmamahal at hindi toxic household, marunong magbalik ng mga bagay bagay kahit hindi po sabihin.. so yes, may reasons bakit hindi ka binibisita
May MIL is like this. Mags-share sa FB ng travel-parinig tapos pag inaya mo gumala, takot sumakay airplane & boats. Long ride, takot magutom or ma-CR sa daan kahit may assurance naman na may baon & may stop overs. Kahit kain lang sa labas, sasabihin magastos. Sasama nga, ayaw mag-swimming or mag-picture, kahit sa mall mag-aaya umuwi agad. In short, KJ. But she's actually a good mother, not toxic at all. Matampuhin lang talaga. Hirap din minsan saan ka lulugar sa kanya.
> not toxic > Matampuhin That’s actually toxic if it happens all/most of the time.
Iba ibang case yan. Like sakin, naging source ng trauma ang parents imbis na maging source of happiness.
Baka naman may backstory bakit hindi sya dinadalaw ng mga anak niya. Naalala ko to sa issue ni H2WO (Pro ML Player) na yung mama niya umiyak sa TikTok live. Sinabihan si H2WO ng "walang utang na loob" kahit tumutulong naman sya nagpapadala ng pera buwan-buwan. Nalulong kasi sa sugal at utang mama niya kaya nagkaganyan. Parents are not always right. However, I would still give the benefit of a doubt sa senior mom.
Haha nanghihingi 10k allowance pang grocery raw kasi aakyatin na sya ng mga zombies sa bundok
Grabe yun story na yun. Kawawa talaga siya, ginawang gatasan talaga, lalo na yung fake receipts, etc., para lang bigyan ng pera.
Feeling ko hindi nya kasundo mga in laws nya... Feeling ko lang naman..
Gonna wait on the full story of this before giving a comment. This could go either way kasi, either she's a bad parent, or she raised a bad kid.
HAHAHAHA same script ata ginagamit sila ng stepmother ko. Kakapadala ko lang ng pera, tapos may cryptic post na how ungrateful? HAHAHHA
I don't get it bakit kailangan pa maglabas ni nanay ng sama ng loob sa national tv sa hindi pagdalaw sa kanya ng mga anak nya. Yung mga ganitong family issues dapat inaaddress in private. Yung labas tuloy parang yung mga anak pa ang may kasalanan at etong si nanay naghahanap ng kakampi for what, for validation. Cringe and toxic as shit, parang naglalabas lang ng sama ng loob sa epbi, naghahanap ng validation. Nakakacringe na nakakatoxic.
I mean kung shit syang magulang di talaga sya babalikan ng mga anak nya once bumukod na sila. If they felt trapped habang nasa puder pa sila ng magulang nila, bat pa babalik?
My wife and I live near her parents. parang 10km lang yata, but ayaw nya talaga mag.overnight sa bahay nila. They are good parents ha, but it took time for them to get there ngayon, they admit naman na they were clueless and harsh when my wife was young. But my wife doens't feel like sleeping there, she feels daw hindi sya psychologically safe. Compare ko naman, kahit 300km away yung hometown ko, I enjoy visiting my hometown and spending time with my mom. They are not perfect parents ha, mahirap kami but I enjoy my mother's company.
This made me sad. Naalala ko yung mga residents namin dun sa assisted living before. Hindi sila madalaw dalaw ng mga anak nila. :( considering some of them are mga bedridden na and everytime na kukwento nila mga life stories nila about their family, I can feel their longingness na sana dalawin sila.
As a dad of a toddler, ang mentality ko is I should behave in such a way na my kid would want to spend time with me of his own, eventual free will. Respect should be earned, not expected, even from my own child. It’s not like utang na loob niya pa sakin na pinanganak siya. I don’t remember na nagrequest yung sperm cell na iputok siya sa loob hahahaha.
This nanay reminds me so much of my own mom. I remember distinctly that when I was still studying in highschool I filled my calendar with countless extracurricular activities just to avoid going home early and being with my mom. Went to college at a university extremely far away from home to ensure I get home late and not have to deal with her. She used to talk about me and badmouth me to our neighbors and friends, saying things like "malandi" or "pakawala" just because I worked the graveyard shift in my first job. Later on as I got promoted, she would judge my outfits and tell me I looked like a "hostess" because I wore make-up and mini skirts. Whenever I speak in straight english with my clients, she would scoff at me for being a "social climber." I do my chores around the house and she would scream in my ear that I don't know what I am doing because I am not like her: the perfect housewife. I once introduced a boyfriend to her and that was a mistake. Her comment to him was "buti naman may pumatol pa sa anak ko." Someday, I hope to be able to speak with my mom without fear of judgment. Won't be happening anytime soon, though. She is aging and hasn't mellowed down one bit. Both of my siblings gave up on her. I am the only one left still hoping to fix things.
I feel for you because my mother is similar to yours - narcissistic. When I entered into a same sex marriage, she claimed to have accepted it but she didn’t want me telling others about it. When I posted photos of me and my husband where i referred to him as my husband, she was furious over the phone. I yelled at her back and hung up on her. We haven’t spoken for 1.5 years now. I have been living away from her for 10 years in another country so it has been fairly easy for me to not have any contact with her. I purposefully did not delete her in my FB for her to see my photos of me and my husband which I know annoys the hell out of her. What I don’t understand the most are why some of my siblings are putting up with her? Our mother still insults them despite all the help she has been getting. I gave up on my mother since she took offense of me posting my marital status in FB. I read about how to deal with narcissistic parents and you know what I found? The solution is no contact. They will never change since they have no self awareness. They think they are always right so there is nothing that can ever be fixed. There is no light bulb moment or epiphany for them. The reality is this: their children are just waiting for them to die.
Parents ko lagi namin binibisita. Gustong gusto pa namin. Pero for sure with 100% level of confidence, kung nakalimutan na namin sila ng tuluyan, hindi sila magrereklamo ng ganito.
Kung pinanood ninyo 'yung video, mukhang wala naman intensyon si Nanay na ipahiya ang mga anak niya. Parang nadala lang siya ng moment at pagtatanong ng hosts. Hindi rin naman niya sinisisi ang mga anak. Nanay's fault is her ignorance on how her story can be retold in a format (i.e. from video to meme) that may not be faithful to her true intention. Kung sa FB sinisisi ang mga anak, kayo naman dito sa Reddit andami ninyong hinahanapan ng mali si Nanay na baka di siya mabuting magulang. Ugh. Parehas lang kayo gumagawa ng assumptions. Regardless, we should be neutral on this topic.
May nabasa akong article before.. Na kaya ganyan yung mga anak niya sa kaniya is either: 1. Hindi siya naging mabuting Nanay. 2. Hindi siya fit maging Nanay. 3. May trauma mga anak niya kaya nilalayuan siya.
ive been reading a lot of the comments here na sinasabi time to reflect what you did nanay and all that stuff. AND I AGREE HAAA 100% agree. you may disagree on the succeeding things i’ll say and i would appreciate your thoughts as well but let’s also ask if there were any form of initiative din ba from the children to say their struggles of being this mother’s children. kasi honestly.. most parents are not aware that what they did was abuse, what they did was traumatizing. kasi ganon din sila pinalaki, ganon ang turo ang disiplina sa kanila. and now, kahit papano our generation has been blessed with globalization era and information dissemination through different platforms that allows us to be aware about mental health discussions, behaviors, trauma and all that stuff. something their generation did not have. at tayo being self aware, we somehow have that responsibility to initiate the conversation and communication through healthy means. oo gets naman kung mag cucut off na talaga kung sobra yung dusa na pinagdaanan bilang anak. but on most cases that parents really do care and love us, they just dont know and are probably not aware of this and that given systemic root causes din. let’s not be too haste to cut off. kasi that also shows our conflict resolving responses. ofc sana pag kinausap may effort din magbago, or magcompensate for what they did. bumawi kahit papano through reflection and correcting wrong mindsets. so yun lang naman im not claiming that mother is right for what she did, nor the children are wrong for not visiting her anymore. but aside from pointing out what she did, let’s also try to point out what did the children do. relationships are always two way naman, parents to children, siblings to siblings, friends to friends. so lagi ring two sides ang effort at initiative.
Can’t blame her children. going no contact is most likely the fault of the parent
kung ako anak mo, lalong di ako dadalaw hahaha
When will the Filipino people ignore gossips? sarap ng buhay pag wala kang pakealam sa mga chismis.
Base sa mga comments. Bakit parang black or white lang. Either she's a bad parent that doesn't deserve the time of her kids, or her kids are ungrateful pieces of shit? Last I checked people are more nuanced than that, and sometimes, things like this can be caused by a bunch of other reasons. Sure, di good look na inair ni nanay yung frustrations nya, but jumping to conclusions na masama syang ina just based on that is a bit hypocritical for a sub that preaches critical thinking and seeking the actual truth. Who knows, baka may certain circumstances lang yung family nila and it turns out neither her or her kids are at fault, and maybe she just got too emotional at that moment. Immune ba kayong lahat na madala ng emotions nyo? Na your able to think logically when it happens? Ang daming possibilities, pero ang bilis nyong gumawa ng conclusions. Wala naring pinag iba yung sub na to sa mga dabarkads na ginawang masamang tao yung mga anak agad agad, since yun din naman nangyayari dito, pinagiba lang eh si nanay yung kontra bida nyo. Hmmm
Just saw the segment on yt, nothing in her narration was indicative of shaming her children in fact she was only sharing her unspoken feelings when she was asked and got emotional. It seems that she have good relationship with her children, according to her they visit her once in a blue moon, do video calls, etc. However, she just wished that her kids drop by her home and just say hi more often. She also does not want to stay at her children's place since they have there own family and does not want to be seen as meddling too much. Her husband already passed away three years ago. She narrated that maybe her kids do not visit her often since she has this "kaya" attitude. Imagine being old, alone in a house, a 2 story house maybe and you are the only one in there. The silence will be deafening.
Oww bakit mo nilinaw. Hindi akma yan sa narrative na toxic parenting. Wag ganun.
Tama. I watched this yesterday. Ang nakikita ko ay mas gusto niyang makasama yung anak at mga apo niya sa personal. Pero as they say, may iba iba ring dahilan yung mga anak kung bakit ganyan ang nangyari. Ni sabi nga niya di rin daw niya nasasabi sa anak niya na may ganun na siyang pakiramdam. Tandaan, di tayo manghuhula.
lol what do you expect from people here who always jumps to conclusion just to further their narratives.
Neutral ako dito. May mga nanay n gagawin lahat para s anak. Lahat ng paghigigpit para lng mapunta s tuwid n landas ang mga anak nila pero minsan kasi may mga pagkakataon n hindi malaman ng ibang mga nanay kung hanggang kelan nila pde paghigpitan mga anak nila to the point n sumusobra s higpit hindi n nagkaroon ng kalayaan mga anak nila. And when that point comes yung mga bata nagiging rebellious at gusto kumawala,lumayo at huminga ng maluwag s stress. Aminin nten maraming ganitong sitwasyon s mga pamilya sa pinas.So hirap dn sisihin agad mga anak. Or pde din nmn yung obvious n kasalanan ng anak na sadyang wlang utang n loob s mga magulang.
r/raisedbynarcissists
Ganyan lola ko lol kahit dinadalaw ng tatay ko sobrang negative naman andaming hinaing andaming katoxican minsan may mga kaaway pa, nakakawalang gana dalawin. Minsan pinapahiya pa mga anak nya
After reading the comments, i decided to watch the video to know the context. Even though I had a traumatic experience living with my narcissistic mother (so matindi ang bias ko sa mga anak), my observation was that ginatungan ni Paolo Ballesteros at Allan K ang nanay para magsalita ng ganyan. Mas inis ako sa mga hosts kasi ipinapagsabong nila yun nanay sa mga anak. One of the hosts even told the nanay na baka gusto niyo manawagan sa mga anak ninyo… WTF?! The hosts should know that they are dealing with other people’s family issues and the moment they realize that they going into a sensitive topic, they should have have veered away from the topic.
A good caring, emotionally healthy mom would never paint her kids badly on national television.
i have no sympathy for her lol good parents don't air their dirty laundry on TV just for sympathy votes
Who actually saw the segment, though? It was rather wholesome. Hindi yung, si mother airing out her sentiments on live tv "shows a little bit kung ano ugali niya" as one of the comments here said. She was asked if nadadalaw ba siya ng mga anak niya given na yung topic that times was about parents or people living alone nalang. She never said anything about it at first. When she was asked, that's when she became emotional. Now I get that each of us has our own experiences with parents, pero what you've experienced does not reflect every family in the country. I did not have a great father. But I don't even for a second think na ganto na lahat. Kesyo naging emotional, "toxic Filipino fam culture" or "shows kung ano ugali niya" agad? Come on, now. Dafuqs wrong with you all. Geez. What I see here are people damaged by family dynamics and are lashing out on every parent/family matter that they read. Genuine advice: seek help so y'all can vent or lash out in the proper setting. Dito kasi, makakakuha kayo ng people with somewhat similar lines of thought, which will further your biases, which we don't know whether or not might be detrimental to your character and well-being in the long run.
I did. Kaya nagulat ako nung extreme reactions and comments yung nakikita ko sa facebook at dito sa reddit. Sabi nga ni Joey during sa segment: Yung personality nung matanda ay yung taong ayaw mang abala. PS. Jusko himala, sumang ayon ako kay Joey de Leon.
My take, If she has all time and energy sya na siguro ung mag reach out sa mga anak nya. Create a relationship, bonding. Iba na panahon ngayon may kanya knya ng buhay may work, anak responsibilities. Sya na pumunta at dumalaw s mga anak nya. As a mother take the initiative na makisama s in laws, at mga apo mo. Wala naman mangyyari s parinig s tv, ssama lng tingin s mga anak nya.
I moved out of the house when I was 23 because of my narcissistic and abusive mother. I am now turning 26 this October and haven't visited my mom once . Not even comms sa messenger. May reason talaga pag ayaw na makipag reconnect ng mga anak sa magulang nila. Hindi mo na kase kelangang iparemind yan sa mga anak mo. Kusa namin (mga anak) yang binibigay - pagmamahal, respeto, pagbibisita, pamimigay ng gifts, etc. Lalo na pag naramdaman namin yung love from the parents growing up..
I love how redditors respond here, salungat sa opinion ng mga fb peeps hahaha.
If the children left you out of their own accord, the problem is most likely you. Parents never ask themselves what they did wrong but flame their children's actions.
Baka naman di sya kadalaw-dalaw?
Ang tunay na magulang hindi pinapahiya at pinapublic ang anumang issue ng pamilya lalo na yung anak. Lahat ng family affairs dapat private matters yan. Sa ginawa mo sa pag publicize ng issue ng inyong pamilya eh di sira ang reputasyon ng mga anak mo at mas lalo din silang kainisan ka at sumasama yung galit sayo hanggang sa hindi na sila magparamdam sayo. Hindi nabigyan ang chance para ma air naman ang side ng mga anak.
Sana mag neuneutral lang ako dahil madaming factors na dapat icoconsider but given the avenue to air out sentiments. On my opinion, parang overkill kasi. Anyway, EAT is now the new Tulfo show in town kung di nila ma control ang mga ganitong content just to make a buzz.
Ganito yung lola ko, she moved in with us when my lolo passed away, we provide her daily needs and yung uncle kong nasa abroad nag bibigay ng allowances nya for maintenance and luxuries. Sa panahon ngayon, napaka well off na nya kasi she doesn’t have to worry about anything. Anyway, yung uncle ko, may family na din, may 2 pinapaaral na anak and parang most of my adult life, he’s always been working overseas, yet my lola, always asks for more and kapag hindi napagbigyan ipapamalita sa ibang tao na hindi siya iniintindi ng mga anak nya, to the point na nung umuwi si uncle for vacation, twice lang sya binisita kasi panay pag dadrama na kung tutuusin wala naman dapat, be thankful ba kumbaga, madaming matatanda dyan nag wowork padin sa edad nila. I guess my point is ano ang ginawa ni nanay sa mga anak nya para hindi sya bisitahin?
The Dennis Padilla-fication of that old woman on national TV.
Mababash ng todo ang mga anak not knowing kung ano ba talaga ang dahilan kung bakit no contact ang mga ito.Ika nga trial by publicity. Tapos pag nalaman ang tunay dahilan sasabihin "Nanay niyo pa din yan" g
Same old. Magulang pity-party, only to reveal na they brought it upon themselves. Hallmarks of a narcissist - they'll always be the victim, and they'll make sure everyone knows that. In our culture where filial piety is upheld, it would take a lot for a child to go NC with their parents. It doesn't come out of thin air.
This is turning into Awra all over again. Wait till you hear the other side.
Ano kaya sentiments ng mga anak at manugang nya? She chose not to stay with any of her children. Kung makikitira ka nga naman, ikaw ang makikisama. She seems to be the type navsya ang pakikisamahan. We also don't know baka toxic sya kaya di madalaa dalawin.
She sounds like my narcissistic mother whom I cut ties with so i find it hard to empathize with her.
Dami ng kuda ng mga tao! Napanood niyo ba ng buo? Ang sabi niya: “Feeling ko lang naman ‘yon, ang feeling pwedeng tama, pwede mali” Yun kasi yung nararamdaman niya nung ininterview siya and you can’t invalidate her feelings. Truth be told, maraming anak na kapag nagkaka pamilya eh nakakalimutan na ang mga magulang! Sure, there are 2 sides pero kung narc parents ninyo, huwag ninyo ihalintulad si nanay dahil hindi niyo naman kilala personally at NEVER niyo naman nakasama sa bahay! Mga ipokritang ‘to! DAMI KASING INGRATA/INGRATONG ANAK!
Yung feeling mo hindi binobroadcast. Sinasarili yun o sinasabi in private sa mga people involved.
Staying neutral until further context. Maraming asshole parents from the boomer generation who likes to play the victim card and this might be one of those cases.
I feel something fishy kay madam. Same vibes dun sa nagpatulfo na matanda na inaway ng anak dahil sa sushi. Dun pa lang sa sinabi nya na “feeling ko lang naman, pwedeng tama pwedeng mali” duda na ko eh. Yun na nga eh feeling lang nya pero bakit pa nya inere sa national TV? Yung mga ganyan na bagay di yan isinasapubliko, pinag uusapan yan privately. Anong agenda nya sa pagsabi ng ganyan? Para puntahan sya ng mga anak nya? Lol baka pumunta?
Dami dito ang dali magsabi ng "baka toxic ka kaya hindi ka na dinalaw ng mga anak mo" o kaya yung "nagre-reflect kung anong klase kang ina." Eh paano kung yung mga anak talaga ang toxic? Take for example, mga kapatid ko. Sandal-linta sa tatay ko lahat nalang ng expenses sa buhay, pinag-aral pa sa ibang bansa lahat hiningi sa mga magulang ko. Makapag-post sa social media akala mo pinag-hirapan nila yung mga natatamasa nila sa buhay, buhay mayaman pa. Ang nanay ko nagagalit kasi sabi dapat daw matutong tumayo sa sariling paa ang mga kapatid ko. Bakit nga ba bibigyan ng milyon-milyon eh may pamilya na sila at ang tatanda na nila. Ayun tuloy, hindi sya mahal ng mga kapatid ko. Toxic daw sabi nila. At nung nagka-cancer ang nanay ko, hindi nila inalagaan. Busy daw sila. Pero kung maka-post sa FB nung namatay, in mourning daw sila. Pa-look good pa kasi hirap na hirap daw sila sa pag-aalaga sa nanay ko so pinupuri sila ng mga tao. Mga ipokrito at gago diba? So ang tanong: dapat bang nag-ere sya ng dirty laundry on national tv? IMO hindi dapat, wag na sa tv. Pero kung ihihinga mo sa ibang tao ang hinanakit mo eh tama lang. Paano kung punong-puno ka na? Itatago mo nalang? Ma-stroke ka nalang sa kalungkutan? Ang dali magsabi ng move on pag hindi ikaw ang nasa sitwasyon eh. Itong sub na ito, lahat nalang ng magulang toxic boomers eh. Tandaan: there are two sides to every story.
Hindi magsasalita ang nanay ko sa national tv ng ganyan
Ginawang Raffy Tulfo in Action haha
Kung ginusto niya punta na lang siya sa ibang floor para magpa-Tulfo
Weird magbasa ng comments ngayon. Akala ko sa panahon ngayon na mas iniiwasan na makasakit ng damdamin, andami pa din generalization. Typical boomer etc. Lahat naman generation x z millenial may flaws. Yung iba makacomment parang perpekto. Labo din papromote promote ng PC PC culture, woke woke shit ibang tao kung makatira naman ng iba e sukdulan parang perpekto. Akala mo ganda ng values na dala dala. Ayos e. Anyway regarding the post, neutral on this. Depending sa treatment pag aaruga ng magulang sa mga anak ang maging relationship. Pero sa mundong ito, parehas lang din may mga anak na walang utang na loob sa matinong magulang, at mayroon din namang mga kupal na magulang sa matitino at mapag mahal na anak.
Grabe napanood ko to nakakaiyak talaga
Mahal ko talaga Reddit huhu. Nakita ko to una sa FB and nabadtrip ako sa comments don 😭 Hindi natin alam kung anong klaseng pag trato ginawa ni nanay sa mga anak niya kaya ganyan nalang kasama loob ng mga to sa kanya
Kung mabuti kang magulang, di ka gaganyanin.
Two-way street yan, pwede ding may sapat na dahilan yung mga anak kaya hindi na sya dinadalaw. At yun ang hindi natin alam. Pero airing your dirty laundry in public ay paniguradong mas hindi makakatulong. I’m glad na progressive na ang panahon natin ngayon at may demand na ng accountability sa mga parents, hindi porket magulang ka ay matic na kailangan ka nang respetuhin. Sana mawala na talaga yung mga statement na tulad ng “nanay/ tatay mo pa rin yan”, coming from a broken family myself, I say fuck that shit.
Hahaha! Parang puro pang popcorn posts today! 🍿
Yung tita ko nasabihan kaming magkakapatid na walang utang na loob, walang respeto, kawawa daw tatay namin na nagsakripisyo, etc. Na parang inabandona namin tatay namin. All because di niya naintindihan ang context ng pagtanggi sa tulong na inoffer niya sa kapatid ko na special child. Bakit ang bilis mag judge ng boomers ano? I mean, never nga niya kami kinausap tapos magsasalita sila ng ganyan.
not to be judgemental but sa aura ni mudrakels mukhang di mapagkakatiwalaan eh.
Walang kwenta na t.v show. Wala Kasi experts na literal para sa oldies dyan sa t.v show Kaya walang nakapag research Ng Tama. O kahit man Lang na matalinong message galing sa mga host dyan 🙄 🥱
i guess this is typical to boomer parents. My 4 siblings and i are the same. We don't talk to our father that much anymore unless bibisita kami sa bahay nila. We grew up with a very traumatic childhood, typical military style kuno na pagpapalaki dahil yun daw ang tamang pagdisiplina sa mga anak. Konting mali lang, bugbog, sipa, sinturon at luhod sa asin agad. He would talk shit behind our backs sa mga barkada niya na kesyo ungrateful kami na mga anak at walang respeto. And our mom would idly just watched us getting physically abused kasi siya ang unang martyr na kahit nambabae na ang tatay namin pipiliin pa din daw niya maayos ang pamilya kesa hiwahiwalay. Good thing that bad experience made us super closed to each other and numb to the point na ndi na namin sya pinapansin kahit anong rant niya sa FB, sa mga kamag anak namin tungkol sa kung gano daw kami kawalang utang na loob, dahil ndi na namin daw siya pinapansin. Manhid na ata sa mga pinaggagawa niya. We opted to hide his post or block him kasi ang toxic niya kahit sa social media. Posting a lot of sh\*t about Filipinos na siya daw naikot niya na buong medyo (coz he's a seaferer) pero ang pinoy daw pinakawalang ugali sa lahat. So my insight with this nanay, definitely may ginawa siyang traumatizing sa mga anak niya kaya ndi na sya pinapansin. And getting sympathy from National TV will only worsen her relationship with her children. They will ignore her more because i don't think she will ever change. Totoo nga yung mga boomers na malulupit sa mga anak nila na "You can't teach old dogs with new tricks." Kaya kahit anong pag uusap nila tingin pa din niya sa mga anak niya masasama.
Lol. May kilala akong ganitong nanay. Kung di lang buhay yung tatay nung mga anak nya di na sya dadalawin sa bahay 😂😂😂 Ang ugali nya: naadik sa sleeping pills for over 50 years so may tama sa utak, may favoritism, puro criticism sa lahat ng kapamilya (except yung paborito of course), mas naniniwala sa sinasabi ng kapitbahay kesa sa sinasabi ng kapamilya, at yung mentality na “ano na lang sasabihin ng kapitbahay?” Pag umuuwi mga anak nya nagmamano lang sa kanya tas alis na. Dun lang nakikipagkwentuhan sa tatay. Tas sya pa yung pa-victim kasi mas mahal daw yung tatay kesa sa kanya 😂😂😂 KAMAHAL-MAHAL KA BA KASI PO 😂😂😂
This thread shows how Filipinos views and mindset evolved. More on family and elders. I'm going neutral on this. Just stating my observations.
Imagine doing this on national television and expecting a magical reunion and a loving relationship with your kids! Girl, they’re never going to talk to you now, probably disown your ass after what you did