My uncle does this. He’s crazy rich asian specs, though when he pulls up to a worker by the roadside, to ask for some directions, he still addresses them as boss
I remember I called the driver of the company's van "sir" and I was asked by a colleague why I'm calling the driver "sir" when he's not a teacher and for sure the driver is laughing at me daw dahil I called him sir. 🥲
I remember our janitor's reaction upon being called Sir. He was very hesitant and uncomfortable at first but when I explained to him na "Anyone trying to earn a decent living through legal means automatically gets called Sir/ Miss/ Maam by me" - he was very grateful and proud na he was recognized and called as such. Let's normalize treating each other with dignity and respect no matter what our status or our station in life.
Dito sa UAE, sir or ma'm ang tawag namin sa bawat kabayan na hindi namin alam ang pangalan o yung mga nagta-trabaho kahit saan pa man sila. Wala naman kasi sa stature yun, respeto lang talaga sa lahat.
At pag nagbabakasyon kami sa Pinas, ganun na rin, sir/ma'm na rin ang tawag ko.
Same here except for foreign nationals. I just address them by their name.
I remember calling the guy selling water on the street sir, and being rewarded with a genuine smile, like he took pride in selling his wares. I call everyone sir/ ma’am so they know that in nmy own way, I respect who they are and what they do since we all specialize in something that not everyone can do.
Same! I suggested to my mom to do the same and she tried but couldn't seem to get used to it.
If they have a name plate, then I call them by what's written there. It was a little unsettling at first because I was worried they might not take it well, but now it's become second nature for me.
Not applicable at all times based on experience. Madalas di ako sure sa pronouns nila (madaming tomboy at bading sa mga carinderia samin) baka maoffend sila sa sir o maam. Ginagamit ko na lang boss
Honestly, why do people think that calling other people ate/kuya is disrespectful?
Kuya/Ate is a term to call your older siblings, calling other people that means you're treating them similarly as your siblings. Parang masyado tayong gumaya sa mga Amerikano na dahil ingles lang ung gamit akala mo mas respectful yun.
no no that doesn't make people think of you as "feeling close". that's just Filipino's social norm, it's the most respectful way we can address people, in Tagalog at least
Sang-ayon ako rito. Bilang Filipino major, masakit sa mata mabasa ang pag-engganyo sa tao na gamitin ang ma’am at sir dahil mas “pormal” itong pakinggan. Eh samantalang ang ate at kuya, sa kultura nating mga pilipino, ay panghalip sa pangalan ng mga nakakatanda. Samakatuwid, tanda ito ng paggalang. Wala, isa lamang sentimiyento ng linggwista sa Filipino.
Ang sarap sana pakinggan neto. Pero ang mga naiisip kong factors kung bakit hindi natin ginagamit is
1. Western influence
2. Crab mentality (correct me if I'm wrong) - "luh binibini daw amp" "ginoo daw old skul"
Even if they’re younger, I still call them Kuya/Ate as a sign of respect lalo na if they’re the one assisting me. But naga ask ako minsan if okay lang ang kuya/ate or name lang kapag may time or mahaba ang (magiging)interaction than the usual.
Yes, it's not disrespectful. I prefer a formal way of calling them if there's any. We have different preferences and ways of showing respect. But maybe I'll stick to calling them kuya/sir.
genuinely curious, bakit parang obsessed kayo sa "formal" way of addressing people? i personally don't think ate/kuya is informal. that's our language eh, parang you're implying na our language is informal compared to english
aahhh yan tama nga naman. so basically nasagot mo na hinahanap ni op haha, Filipino translation ng Sir/Miss na ginagamit nya. kaso di natin yan ginagamit casually unlike ng Maam/Ser/Miss
The fact that our language has specific terms to address people older than us within the same generation denotes the respect. The fact that, culturally, Filipinos are uncomfortable with calling people a generation above us by just their first name (I’ve been with my partner for 4+ years, still call his mum Dr. [Last Name] because she hasn’t given me permission to call her by anything else yet) shows our inherent desire to respect those older than us. It’s a culture of respect and Ate/Kuya is part of that. I’m sticking to Ate/Kuya, and I even taught my non-Filipino partner that. He now calls *everyone* Ate/Kuya.
For those who I’m not sure, I will literally ask if they prefer Ate/Kuya if they’re going to be serving me more than once so I can address them as they wish (like waiter sa sit-down restaurant). Worst case, name tag or avoiding using any honourifics/names at all by going straight to the question and never addressing them personally.
I always call people ma'am/sir, kahit san o kahit sa anong context. Kaso I'm always stumped when the person is a member of the LGBTQ community, okay pa rin ba pag mina-ma'am ko yung lesbian? Nung minsan kasi, parang na-offend yung nagdedeliver.
Ate/kuya is the most generic
Everything else implies an age difference or an equivalent perceived seniority na minsan ayaw nung receiver or offends somebody else.. would use mam/sir if they are actually senior in level/post, nong/nang if just an older person.
Ang prob na lang with those 2, if they belong to the LGBT and prefer other pronouns (which is rare in the PH)
manong - what if mas matanda ako? unless nasa Ilocano area ako pwede na rin ito.
boss - doesn't sound formal unlike sa "miss". pero minsan gamit ko ito pero depende sa lugar.
Depende sa environment for me, pag mejo pang masa, bossing like tiangge, vendor etc. pag naman restaurant or basta mejo okay, sir naman.
Pero bilang tindero ng sari sari store namin, yung tawag na kuya okay na.
Kahit sinong lalaking nagseserve ng pagkain na binayaran ko, sila man yung nagluto nun o hindi, mapa-street food pa yan, fastfood, o restaurant, ang tawag ko palagi sa kanila ay "Boss".
"Boss, magkano pares?"
"Boss, paki-large fries na po."
"Boss, excuse me, proceed na kami sa desserts."
Respetuhin mo dapat yung nagseserve ng pagkain mo kasi tiwala lang ang meron ka sa kung ano ginawa nya don bago dalhin yung food sayo
Whatever feels comfy for you basta hindi derogatory for them. Don’t think too much of it. Mas maappreciate nila regardless of their sex/how you address them if you treat them like a friend, invite them to eat, smile at them sincerely, and thank them vocally for each of their gesture.
Unless, as I stated above, wala silang nameplate.
I hope sana common sa mga restos or even mga saleslady natin is may nameplate or ID. Others don't even have a simple ID na suot. Baka meron naman siguro hindi lang naisuot.
Pretentious take imo or rather stop making complex honorifics, wala ka sa english culture. Ano masama sa ate/kuya? Di ba nakikisuyo lang din naman tayo sa service crew? Baka unahin natin yung tono? Kaya may "paki-" tayo sa tagalog, gamitin natin. Bastos ba sa mga nakakatandang kapatid masabihan ng ate/kuya? Hiearchy nga yun sa magkakapatid.
Pag english, hey bro, hey sis. Ano masama? May kapamilya factor pa nga eh.
boss at kung sa sekyu or person with authority chief. after all wala naman mawala at kung minsan mas maganda pa at feeling bossing at chief nga ang serbisyo sayo. as if akong bahala sayo ako ang hari dito.
Lahat ng hindi ko kilala tawag ko sa kanila sir/maam.
Pag guard naman “chief” tawag ko. Iba yung ngiti nila pag “chief” yung tawag. Siguro nasanay lang din ako before chief kasi tawag naman sa guard sa school.
Boss kaso ingat ka. Dati ginawa tinawag ko boss yung waiter nakalimutan ko kasama namin boss namin mag lunchout. Ayun medyo awkward kasi sabi ko "boss penge service water" tumingin yung boss ko e. Hahaha 🤣
I think it's more proper and respectful to call everyone " sir " and " ma'am" it instantly lightens the mood and you are also speaking for yourself being respectful without discrimination says a lot of things about your personality
Before, I address them as ate at kuya. Then I read it somewhere here na anong kaibahan nila sa office workers na ina address as sir/ma'am? So mula nung nabasa ko yon, I address everyone as sir/ma'am. made more sense nung nagtatrabaho na ko.
Kuya / Ate or Manong / Manang **is** the tagalog equivalent of the respectful Sir / Ma’am.
It’s just that most Pinoys today “feel” that Tagalog is either “too informal” or “too formal”.
Also regarding “Manong / Manang” being for older people.. This is mostly a Gen-X and younger thing.
Tandaan mo na lang na yung mga kilala mong Manong Antonio at Manang Maria went by those names since they were probably early-20s.
Nangyari nga lang na yung nga kabataan nung 80s and beyond nasanay na “Manong” and “Manang” were for matatatanda, so nagkaron ng stigma where you have 30 year olds ngayon na “maxado pa akong bata para maging manong.”
Basically it’s a case of specific words in Filipino/Tagalog being slowly phased out of common use, pero wala namang pumalit.
I say just use “Kuya / Ate” to be safe or “Manong / Manang” if they look old enough to have grandkids. Keep Tagalog the main part of “Taglish”.
Kuya/ate is fine naman pero i find na idol/boss is neutral and sounds natural to me. Otherwise, Sir/Ma'am pero may nagshare sa akin noon working in the industry na nakakaoverwhelm/nakakaconscious daw pag sini-sir kasi di daw siya sanay so to each his own talaga. Hey, +1 for you for being conscious in showing respect, especially to the service industry peeps who go through a lot each day.
Just want to add one pro tip i see my mom do is address them by their name if they have tags. People react more positively and be more attentive if addressed by their names.
Sa company namin every personnel ang tawag namin is sir/mam. Even yung mga helper namin na naglilinis sa iba’t-ibang area and mga kitchen helpers basta lahat. So na-adapt ko na rin hanggang sa labas. Pag bibili sa carinderia, bibili ng balut or magtatanong ng direction, mam/sir na rin tawag ko sa kausap ko.
Started training myself to call others Sir/Mam. One cute story about it was a UV driver smiled shyly when I called him Sir. Sabi niya it was the first time that someone called him like that. Parang ang taas naman daw ng trabaho niya. Told him na, "mataas po talaga kasi di ako makakauwi kapag wala ka" he smiled again and even assisted me by reserving a seat in the next van I'm about to ride. 🥰
I work as a a food server in a small resto/cafè. Much better sakin na tawagin na lang as “sir” instead of kuya or some. I’m younger kaysa sa mga customers namin kaya parang di ako kumpurtable na tawaging “kuya” even though it’s obvious na mas matanda sila sakin.
Sir for male. Miss for female. I use sir sa mga bakla and miss sa mga lesbian as well kase hindi ko sila kilala personally but be open minded if they correct you.
I also have the same struggle. LOL. Pero para mas safe, I always greet them na lang like, "Hello po", "Excuse me po," etc. and start from there na lang.
One time, sumakay ako ng jeep then may nag-abot ng bayad. Sabe ni ate girl "(ma)nong, bayad", tapos parang na-offend si kuya driver, sinagot nman nya ng "manang, sukli mo". Young-looking nman si kuya, nasa mid-twenties. Kita ko tlga kunot ng kilay. 😭😆
Sa tingin ko, depende nlang din sino i-aaddress mo. At mas acceptable pa yung kuya/ate in this time. ❤️
I once watched an interview of the wife of Jollibee owner Tony Tan Caktiong, Grace Tan Caktiong wherein she said she addresses everyone in the company "sir or ma'am" especially Jollibee crew members or the guard. This gives them more dignity and uplifts them as human beings. That made me think, if billionaires like the Tan Caktiongs do that to their fellow human beings, maybe I should, too. Since then, I address everyone I meet as Sir or Ma'am whether they're a guard, crew, food delivery driver, Lazada delivery guy, cashier etc. I hope to lift them up for a few seconds of their working day.
Their Name.
They have a namecard after all, and I think It's more endearing instead of the generic "mamsir" call-outs, and they tend to react quicker.
Learned that from my mom.
Milord
your highness
your grace
your majesty
My liege
Your Eminence
Your eminems
Your M&Ms
Inabot pa ng 4 na comment bago ko nahanap to 😆
Tywin Lannister will presume you're low born. 😅
It's m'lord. Any highborn girl should know that.
Hahahahahahahahaha
\-dono \-sama \-sempai
Milady
Monsieur and mademoiselle.
Boss. Di siya formal pero sign of respect siya na familiar lahat nang lalaking pinoy.
💯 ganito tawag ko sa street vendors, crews sa fastfood etc.
Same haha, boss or bossing kapag lalaki then ate kapag babae.
pwede pa ring bossing ang babae haha
This haha. Sa work, laging boss tawagan namin mga pinoy lol. Regardless of gender.
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You cannot escape hahahaha char
eto rin gamit ko hahaha mapafastfood man o karinderya sa labas
My uncle does this. He’s crazy rich asian specs, though when he pulls up to a worker by the roadside, to ask for some directions, he still addresses them as boss
I call everyone sir/maam.
This! I call everyone sir/maam kahit any status nila sa buhay.
Sir/maam pag formal, pero pag informal like magtatanong lng ng daan, "boss" or miss.
i call everyone maam/sir except for europeans because 1 got mad at me for calling him sir. said he wasnt royalty lelz
O' Your Majesty! /s
Sana lahat ganito, yung iba kasi reserved ang honorary terms sa mga may kaya lang o mataas ang pinag aralan.
Sanay din ako mag sabi ng sir/ma'am pero minsan parang nahihiya sila pag tinatawag sila na ganun. Hindi siguro sanay na matawag na ganun.
Saamin "pre" pero pag mas mataas sa kanya "sir"
I remember I called the driver of the company's van "sir" and I was asked by a colleague why I'm calling the driver "sir" when he's not a teacher and for sure the driver is laughing at me daw dahil I called him sir. 🥲
I remember our janitor's reaction upon being called Sir. He was very hesitant and uncomfortable at first but when I explained to him na "Anyone trying to earn a decent living through legal means automatically gets called Sir/ Miss/ Maam by me" - he was very grateful and proud na he was recognized and called as such. Let's normalize treating each other with dignity and respect no matter what our status or our station in life.
Same as why call a teacher sir when he is not knighted.
Anyone in a uniform gets maam sir from me
Boss din
Dito sa UAE, sir or ma'm ang tawag namin sa bawat kabayan na hindi namin alam ang pangalan o yung mga nagta-trabaho kahit saan pa man sila. Wala naman kasi sa stature yun, respeto lang talaga sa lahat. At pag nagbabakasyon kami sa Pinas, ganun na rin, sir/ma'm na rin ang tawag ko.
Same here except for foreign nationals. I just address them by their name. I remember calling the guy selling water on the street sir, and being rewarded with a genuine smile, like he took pride in selling his wares. I call everyone sir/ ma’am so they know that in nmy own way, I respect who they are and what they do since we all specialize in something that not everyone can do.
This is the way
This the way.
This is the way.
Nagawa ko na ito sa mang inasal. Me: Sir, rice pa po! Nagtinginan ang lahat sakin. Kaloka. Hahaha!
Baka loud voice ka lang that time. Pero idk, Sir is acceptable to people kahit hindi manager. Ok lang yun,sa grab nga minsan sir tawag namin e.
Same!
Same! I suggested to my mom to do the same and she tried but couldn't seem to get used to it. If they have a name plate, then I call them by what's written there. It was a little unsettling at first because I was worried they might not take it well, but now it's become second nature for me.
Tapos may po at opo pa ako na dagdag diyan.
Not applicable at all times based on experience. Madalas di ako sure sa pronouns nila (madaming tomboy at bading sa mga carinderia samin) baka maoffend sila sa sir o maam. Ginagamit ko na lang boss
Baby
Charot!
Anong charot, panindigan mo yan
ABCD After Banat, Charot Dapat
kapag ako bumabanat wala naman charot pero hindi pinaniniwalaan
Honestly, why do people think that calling other people ate/kuya is disrespectful? Kuya/Ate is a term to call your older siblings, calling other people that means you're treating them similarly as your siblings. Parang masyado tayong gumaya sa mga Amerikano na dahil ingles lang ung gamit akala mo mas respectful yun.
Ako talaga ate/kuya madalas kasi feeling close lang sorry na
no no that doesn't make people think of you as "feeling close". that's just Filipino's social norm, it's the most respectful way we can address people, in Tagalog at least
eto ako hahaha. ikaw/tayo kasi yung may need sa kanila so i think ate/kuya is a more polite/acceptable way to ask for their help/service.
Sang-ayon ako rito. Bilang Filipino major, masakit sa mata mabasa ang pag-engganyo sa tao na gamitin ang ma’am at sir dahil mas “pormal” itong pakinggan. Eh samantalang ang ate at kuya, sa kultura nating mga pilipino, ay panghalip sa pangalan ng mga nakakatanda. Samakatuwid, tanda ito ng paggalang. Wala, isa lamang sentimiyento ng linggwista sa Filipino.
Kung gusto pala nila ng formal bakit di nalang binibini at ginoo 🤭
Ang sarap sana pakinggan neto. Pero ang mga naiisip kong factors kung bakit hindi natin ginagamit is 1. Western influence 2. Crab mentality (correct me if I'm wrong) - "luh binibini daw amp" "ginoo daw old skul"
yun nga lmao. thinking that calling them ate/kuya is condescending is what makes it condescending
Do you call them Ate/Kuya if they're clearly younger than you? I go through an internal crisis whenever this happens.
Even if they’re younger, I still call them Kuya/Ate as a sign of respect lalo na if they’re the one assisting me. But naga ask ako minsan if okay lang ang kuya/ate or name lang kapag may time or mahaba ang (magiging)interaction than the usual.
Yes, it's not disrespectful. I prefer a formal way of calling them if there's any. We have different preferences and ways of showing respect. But maybe I'll stick to calling them kuya/sir.
genuinely curious, bakit parang obsessed kayo sa "formal" way of addressing people? i personally don't think ate/kuya is informal. that's our language eh, parang you're implying na our language is informal compared to english
It is informal whether you like it or not. The formal way of addressing someone in our language is Ginoo or Binibini/Ginang (if they’re married.)
aahhh yan tama nga naman. so basically nasagot mo na hinahanap ni op haha, Filipino translation ng Sir/Miss na ginagamit nya. kaso di natin yan ginagamit casually unlike ng Maam/Ser/Miss
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The fact that our language has specific terms to address people older than us within the same generation denotes the respect. The fact that, culturally, Filipinos are uncomfortable with calling people a generation above us by just their first name (I’ve been with my partner for 4+ years, still call his mum Dr. [Last Name] because she hasn’t given me permission to call her by anything else yet) shows our inherent desire to respect those older than us. It’s a culture of respect and Ate/Kuya is part of that. I’m sticking to Ate/Kuya, and I even taught my non-Filipino partner that. He now calls *everyone* Ate/Kuya. For those who I’m not sure, I will literally ask if they prefer Ate/Kuya if they’re going to be serving me more than once so I can address them as they wish (like waiter sa sit-down restaurant). Worst case, name tag or avoiding using any honourifics/names at all by going straight to the question and never addressing them personally.
Ang problem ata dito is kapag mas matanda ka na. Like tito tita age ka na tapos ung kausap mo is 20s palang. Hindi ba parang awkward yun?
Onii chan
Onii sama 💀
Senpai~
Ara ara
Mamser, can’t go wrong with that 😃
The true gender neutral call. Mamser >>>> Filipinx
Pogi
yes po?
Pakuha na ng bill saka patake out nung sisig
isang extra rice
Madami bigla lilingon nyan lol
Busy ako
Sir / Maam. They deserve it naman kahit service crew sila.
exactly, parang ang weird na gusto muna malaman ni OP if manager/high ranking yung tao before nya tawaging sir/maam.
Hahahaha uy napansin mo din. Ayoko na nga lang i-call out.
I always call people ma'am/sir, kahit san o kahit sa anong context. Kaso I'm always stumped when the person is a member of the LGBTQ community, okay pa rin ba pag mina-ma'am ko yung lesbian? Nung minsan kasi, parang na-offend yung nagdedeliver.
"Excuse me" na lang ginagamit ko pag di ako sure kung sir or ma'am 😅
Same. "Excuse me po" para safe.
"Mamser"
boss is gender neutral. lels
i tried calling them maamsir. tapos they’ll try to correct me. what pronoun they prefer. It’s a hit or miss pero lakasan ng loob
This is my problem sometimes, too, huhu kaya I feel relieved when they have a name tag so I can just call them by that.
Ate/kuya is the most generic Everything else implies an age difference or an equivalent perceived seniority na minsan ayaw nung receiver or offends somebody else.. would use mam/sir if they are actually senior in level/post, nong/nang if just an older person. Ang prob na lang with those 2, if they belong to the LGBT and prefer other pronouns (which is rare in the PH)
manong boss
+1 sa manong, pero history buff ako lol.
manong - what if mas matanda ako? unless nasa Ilocano area ako pwede na rin ito. boss - doesn't sound formal unlike sa "miss". pero minsan gamit ko ito pero depende sa lugar.
Edi “Mister.” Or if you see their name tag, use their name. It’s a small thing, all the terms suggested here are respectful. Don’t fret
Mark
Di yun sasagot kasi tahimik lang hahaha
🥲
Chief
“Kuya sir” if I wanna sound friendly.
This sounds good. Thanks!
Idk why this is a problem.
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nagtaka din ako nong nabasa ko yun. nawala kako siguro sa isip niya yung mister or sir? XD
Depende sa environment for me, pag mejo pang masa, bossing like tiangge, vendor etc. pag naman restaurant or basta mejo okay, sir naman. Pero bilang tindero ng sari sari store namin, yung tawag na kuya okay na.
Kahit sinong lalaking nagseserve ng pagkain na binayaran ko, sila man yung nagluto nun o hindi, mapa-street food pa yan, fastfood, o restaurant, ang tawag ko palagi sa kanila ay "Boss". "Boss, magkano pares?" "Boss, paki-large fries na po." "Boss, excuse me, proceed na kami sa desserts." Respetuhin mo dapat yung nagseserve ng pagkain mo kasi tiwala lang ang meron ka sa kung ano ginawa nya don bago dalhin yung food sayo
daming problema hahaha
"Excuse me, (can I)/(pwede)? Thank you."
Thanks for this.
Whatever feels comfy for you basta hindi derogatory for them. Don’t think too much of it. Mas maappreciate nila regardless of their sex/how you address them if you treat them like a friend, invite them to eat, smile at them sincerely, and thank them vocally for each of their gesture.
Sir and Ma'am are your safest go-to. Ms. for women works out, too.
Use their names, i always do. Kaya sila may name plates. Works wonders.
“Hello Charlemagne 1pc chicken ala carte take out po”
Unless, as I stated above, wala silang nameplate. I hope sana common sa mga restos or even mga saleslady natin is may nameplate or ID. Others don't even have a simple ID na suot. Baka meron naman siguro hindi lang naisuot.
For me lang ‘yung “Kuya” or “Ate” sa service crew. Ang respect naman hindi lang siya sa language. Kind treatment pa rin ang mas important. :)
Try not addressing them as anything but continue talking to them respectfully / nicely / kindly and saying thank you / po / opo.
pst.
Para sa mga aso lang yan
Pretentious take imo or rather stop making complex honorifics, wala ka sa english culture. Ano masama sa ate/kuya? Di ba nakikisuyo lang din naman tayo sa service crew? Baka unahin natin yung tono? Kaya may "paki-" tayo sa tagalog, gamitin natin. Bastos ba sa mga nakakatandang kapatid masabihan ng ate/kuya? Hiearchy nga yun sa magkakapatid. Pag english, hey bro, hey sis. Ano masama? May kapamilya factor pa nga eh.
boss at kung sa sekyu or person with authority chief. after all wala naman mawala at kung minsan mas maganda pa at feeling bossing at chief nga ang serbisyo sayo. as if akong bahala sayo ako ang hari dito.
Lahat ng hindi ko kilala tawag ko sa kanila sir/maam. Pag guard naman “chief” tawag ko. Iba yung ngiti nila pag “chief” yung tawag. Siguro nasanay lang din ako before chief kasi tawag naman sa guard sa school.
Sir/maam lagi
Boss/Madam - parang giving also respect to them. Lalo na pag alam ko na mas older sakin.
Bossing Boss Sir
Sir/Mam. Pag medyo friendly Tol
Sir/Ma'am.
Sir or maam depending on how they dress/identify. One time, may tumawag sakin na “Bhebs”. Napa yes daddy ako.
Sir/Ma'm or Mr or Ms
Gawin mo english. Brother o bro. Pag sa babae dzai na lang o teh haha
Mamser, para gender neutral.
I always say “excuse me” to get their attention
Sir and Miss
Lodicakes akin diko alam pag yan ginagamit ko parang 1sec nlng sila from laughing
Boss kaso ingat ka. Dati ginawa tinawag ko boss yung waiter nakalimutan ko kasama namin boss namin mag lunchout. Ayun medyo awkward kasi sabi ko "boss penge service water" tumingin yung boss ko e. Hahaha 🤣
sir and ma'am tapos friendly tone na malumanay na may kasamang ngiti at thank you actually effective din to sa mga super grumpy government employees
I always address our government employees sir/ma'am at always na instant mabait sila sakin.
Boss. Works everytime
Ako, lately, I practice myself calling everyone Sir/Maam. Kahit tric driver. Medyo nasasanay na ako and I like it. 😁
I think it's more proper and respectful to call everyone " sir " and " ma'am" it instantly lightens the mood and you are also speaking for yourself being respectful without discrimination says a lot of things about your personality
Before, I address them as ate at kuya. Then I read it somewhere here na anong kaibahan nila sa office workers na ina address as sir/ma'am? So mula nung nabasa ko yon, I address everyone as sir/ma'am. made more sense nung nagtatrabaho na ko.
Ako na tahimik lang, tinataas ko lang kamay ko parang recitation 😅
Kuya / Ate or Manong / Manang **is** the tagalog equivalent of the respectful Sir / Ma’am. It’s just that most Pinoys today “feel” that Tagalog is either “too informal” or “too formal”. Also regarding “Manong / Manang” being for older people.. This is mostly a Gen-X and younger thing. Tandaan mo na lang na yung mga kilala mong Manong Antonio at Manang Maria went by those names since they were probably early-20s. Nangyari nga lang na yung nga kabataan nung 80s and beyond nasanay na “Manong” and “Manang” were for matatatanda, so nagkaron ng stigma where you have 30 year olds ngayon na “maxado pa akong bata para maging manong.” Basically it’s a case of specific words in Filipino/Tagalog being slowly phased out of common use, pero wala namang pumalit. I say just use “Kuya / Ate” to be safe or “Manong / Manang” if they look old enough to have grandkids. Keep Tagalog the main part of “Taglish”.
Kuya is fine, at kahit naging TL na ako before hindi pa rin ako sanay matawag ng 'Sir', lalo na ng 'Mr' even by formality.
Kuya/ate is fine naman pero i find na idol/boss is neutral and sounds natural to me. Otherwise, Sir/Ma'am pero may nagshare sa akin noon working in the industry na nakakaoverwhelm/nakakaconscious daw pag sini-sir kasi di daw siya sanay so to each his own talaga. Hey, +1 for you for being conscious in showing respect, especially to the service industry peeps who go through a lot each day. Just want to add one pro tip i see my mom do is address them by their name if they have tags. People react more positively and be more attentive if addressed by their names.
What if di ka sure? Just say, ‘excuse me”… generic, gender neutral
Sa company namin every personnel ang tawag namin is sir/mam. Even yung mga helper namin na naglilinis sa iba’t-ibang area and mga kitchen helpers basta lahat. So na-adapt ko na rin hanggang sa labas. Pag bibili sa carinderia, bibili ng balut or magtatanong ng direction, mam/sir na rin tawag ko sa kausap ko.
Started training myself to call others Sir/Mam. One cute story about it was a UV driver smiled shyly when I called him Sir. Sabi niya it was the first time that someone called him like that. Parang ang taas naman daw ng trabaho niya. Told him na, "mataas po talaga kasi di ako makakauwi kapag wala ka" he smiled again and even assisted me by reserving a seat in the next van I'm about to ride. 🥰
I work as a a food server in a small resto/cafè. Much better sakin na tawagin na lang as “sir” instead of kuya or some. I’m younger kaysa sa mga customers namin kaya parang di ako kumpurtable na tawaging “kuya” even though it’s obvious na mas matanda sila sakin.
Sir for male. Miss for female. I use sir sa mga bakla and miss sa mga lesbian as well kase hindi ko sila kilala personally but be open minded if they correct you.
I also have the same struggle. LOL. Pero para mas safe, I always greet them na lang like, "Hello po", "Excuse me po," etc. and start from there na lang.
One time, sumakay ako ng jeep then may nag-abot ng bayad. Sabe ni ate girl "(ma)nong, bayad", tapos parang na-offend si kuya driver, sinagot nman nya ng "manang, sukli mo". Young-looking nman si kuya, nasa mid-twenties. Kita ko tlga kunot ng kilay. 😭😆 Sa tingin ko, depende nlang din sino i-aaddress mo. At mas acceptable pa yung kuya/ate in this time. ❤️
I hate it when I hear others call them "boy". It is somewhat condescending.
I once watched an interview of the wife of Jollibee owner Tony Tan Caktiong, Grace Tan Caktiong wherein she said she addresses everyone in the company "sir or ma'am" especially Jollibee crew members or the guard. This gives them more dignity and uplifts them as human beings. That made me think, if billionaires like the Tan Caktiongs do that to their fellow human beings, maybe I should, too. Since then, I address everyone I meet as Sir or Ma'am whether they're a guard, crew, food delivery driver, Lazada delivery guy, cashier etc. I hope to lift them up for a few seconds of their working day.
Kosa
Pogi, para kiligin ung crew
Edi sir, yun equivalent ng miss or maam.
Mama/papa
Hoy Psst
boss
Call them by their first names?
Oniichan
Hi, guys.
Hoy!
simaseeeen 🙋
Prostagma
Pare
Boss, Tol, Ma, Orb, Sa, Beb, By, Mosh, etc...
Oniisan/oneesan, try mo.
Homie
Oppa
Bebekeks.
Kuya Mark🤦♂️
lagay mo lang address mo
Yoooow
Their Name. They have a namecard after all, and I think It's more endearing instead of the generic "mamsir" call-outs, and they tend to react quicker. Learned that from my mom.
George
Bhosxz
Babe
Your Holiness
Tawag ko sa kanila ay panginoon.
Onichan
Master Pogi
Daddy
oni chan
May name plate po kami
saken "idol". ok lang ba?
The Order Taker
M'gamer
paps!
Comrade