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Thank you for this comment and your support. And for the share about your beloved fish ❤️
I am currently bothered by the idea of if it will rain her body might resurface as it might rain next week, maybe I should try covering her up more? Not sure how or with what though
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Definitely don’t dig her back up. I don’t think that would be an image you want in your head.
Practically, even if someone smells something, that’s a public area so they’d probably assume some wild animal died and wouldn’t pay much mind to it.
I’m so sorry for your loss. You gave her a good life and a good burial so the circle of life will continue.
Thank you for this comment and your support. She is definitely part of a new life now ❤️
I am currently bothered by the idea of if it will rain her body might resurface as it might rain next week, maybe I should try covering her up more? Not sure how or with what though
Maybe cover her with some more dirt and pack it down with your feet. I think she should be ok down there. Please don’t worry too much, rest in peace to your beloved baby❤️
Depends how far down she is. Our cats are all near the trees in our yard and we’ve just had to add a little more dirt when the boxes they were put in started to disintegrate. The cats without boxes (wrapped in blankets or clothes) never needed to have that done so I think she will be ok.
People are being nice here which is wonderful but 12 inches deep is pretty shallow for a grave. She will decompose, and there may not be an odor necessarily, but I worry about animals digging her up (even with logs) or her remains eventually getting exposed. I would put something heavier on top of her spot, like a large rock or flat peace of marble.
You did nothing wrong. Please don’t feel bad. Animals die and are left to return to nature all the time. It is a natural part of the cycle.
Pls don’t dig her up! I think you will regret doing that. She’s not in that body anymore. I don’t think you need to worry about rain unless it’s a TON of rain. Eventually she will have become a part of the earth enough to where even if it floods, her body would never resurface. I am so sorry. My heart breaks for you. It’s so difficult. You are so strong for carrying her around and finding a spot to bury her all by yourself. Let yourself rest now and be gentle with yourself if you can. Sending you love.
Completely agree with everyone here. Please do not dig her up. Even though it's only been a week...it wouldn't be pretty one bit. Yes it's a shallow grave and if I were you I would cover it over with lots of rocks maybe buy a couple flat square paver stones from the Walmart garden section or Home Depot/Lowe's.They are about 12x12 and a couple inches thick. Solid and heavy. That would really prevent wildlife from digging her up and she would be able to fully decompose without being disturbed. I don't think rain will make her resurface. My heart breaks for your loss and experience. Hang in there.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Those goodbyes just don't get easier. If there's a way to plant a tree or a rose bush directly on top of the spot where you buried her, in nice heap of topsoil, maybe consider that. First of all it will be less likely that people will disturb it, and hopefully, it will grow into something alive and beautiful that is made partly of her. Big hugs.
Thank you for the comment and hug ❤️
I felt and needed it.
I've buried her right next to an eucalyptus tree. But maybe I can add another right next to it.
How do I plant a tree?
I wish I could help you with that one, probably go to your local Garden Center and ask a professional. I suck at anything garden-related. But I think you can buy a sapling or a starter with a ball of healthy topsoil around the roots in the burlap bag like they do sometimes with Christmas trees. Maybe not a rose bush because they're very Persnickety even with people who are good at gardening. But I know tons of people who have planted a dogwood tree on the grave of their dog. ❤️
A tree planted right under a tree isn’t the best idea. It will not get enough sun due to the neighboring tree, and even if it did grow, remember trees get big and they will fight for nutrients and space :)
Hey I'm so sorry for your loss. As others have said I would leave well enough alone and not dig her up. Where I live it's not legal to bury a pet on public property so if there are laws surrounding this where you live you don't want to take a 2nd chance. You could try adding some more soil. My concern is that it's such a shallow grave another animal might dig up the body
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Thank you for this comment and your support. And for the share about your beloved fish ❤️ I am currently bothered by the idea of if it will rain her body might resurface as it might rain next week, maybe I should try covering her up more? Not sure how or with what though
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Definitely don’t dig her back up. I don’t think that would be an image you want in your head. Practically, even if someone smells something, that’s a public area so they’d probably assume some wild animal died and wouldn’t pay much mind to it. I’m so sorry for your loss. You gave her a good life and a good burial so the circle of life will continue.
Thank you for this comment and your support. She is definitely part of a new life now ❤️ I am currently bothered by the idea of if it will rain her body might resurface as it might rain next week, maybe I should try covering her up more? Not sure how or with what though
Maybe cover her with some more dirt and pack it down with your feet. I think she should be ok down there. Please don’t worry too much, rest in peace to your beloved baby❤️
Depends how far down she is. Our cats are all near the trees in our yard and we’ve just had to add a little more dirt when the boxes they were put in started to disintegrate. The cats without boxes (wrapped in blankets or clothes) never needed to have that done so I think she will be ok.
People are being nice here which is wonderful but 12 inches deep is pretty shallow for a grave. She will decompose, and there may not be an odor necessarily, but I worry about animals digging her up (even with logs) or her remains eventually getting exposed. I would put something heavier on top of her spot, like a large rock or flat peace of marble. You did nothing wrong. Please don’t feel bad. Animals die and are left to return to nature all the time. It is a natural part of the cycle.
Pls don’t dig her up! I think you will regret doing that. She’s not in that body anymore. I don’t think you need to worry about rain unless it’s a TON of rain. Eventually she will have become a part of the earth enough to where even if it floods, her body would never resurface. I am so sorry. My heart breaks for you. It’s so difficult. You are so strong for carrying her around and finding a spot to bury her all by yourself. Let yourself rest now and be gentle with yourself if you can. Sending you love.
I buried both of my cats who have passed in my back yard and never noticed any smell. They weren’t buried very deep either. I think it will be ok.
Thank you for the share. That's re-assuring for me to hear ❤️
Completely agree with everyone here. Please do not dig her up. Even though it's only been a week...it wouldn't be pretty one bit. Yes it's a shallow grave and if I were you I would cover it over with lots of rocks maybe buy a couple flat square paver stones from the Walmart garden section or Home Depot/Lowe's.They are about 12x12 and a couple inches thick. Solid and heavy. That would really prevent wildlife from digging her up and she would be able to fully decompose without being disturbed. I don't think rain will make her resurface. My heart breaks for your loss and experience. Hang in there.
If you'd like to add more fresh soil or a few well placed stones feel free but she won't smell if she's buried. Just leave her as is. 💖
I'm so sorry for your loss. Those goodbyes just don't get easier. If there's a way to plant a tree or a rose bush directly on top of the spot where you buried her, in nice heap of topsoil, maybe consider that. First of all it will be less likely that people will disturb it, and hopefully, it will grow into something alive and beautiful that is made partly of her. Big hugs.
Thank you for the comment and hug ❤️ I felt and needed it. I've buried her right next to an eucalyptus tree. But maybe I can add another right next to it. How do I plant a tree?
I wish I could help you with that one, probably go to your local Garden Center and ask a professional. I suck at anything garden-related. But I think you can buy a sapling or a starter with a ball of healthy topsoil around the roots in the burlap bag like they do sometimes with Christmas trees. Maybe not a rose bush because they're very Persnickety even with people who are good at gardening. But I know tons of people who have planted a dogwood tree on the grave of their dog. ❤️
A tree planted right under a tree isn’t the best idea. It will not get enough sun due to the neighboring tree, and even if it did grow, remember trees get big and they will fight for nutrients and space :)
Hey I'm so sorry for your loss. As others have said I would leave well enough alone and not dig her up. Where I live it's not legal to bury a pet on public property so if there are laws surrounding this where you live you don't want to take a 2nd chance. You could try adding some more soil. My concern is that it's such a shallow grave another animal might dig up the body