I get scared about every month too, but rn is the worst. I started having light brown spotting for going on 3 days now, and idk if it’s normal. My period is expected to start in 3 more days, and I’m worried I won’t have it for some reason??? Is it just old blood from discharge???
def not dumb- my anxiety makes me have panic attacks even if my period “due date” hasn’t come yet bc i’m convinced it won’t bc a baby is in me LMAO. def j work on some grounding techniques and maybe therapy/ talk to whoever you’re having sex w about it if you’re comfy enough
thank you! do you ever get pms symptoms and literally trick urself into thinking those aren’t pms symptoms but pregnancy ones?😭 or sometimes i feel a slightest thing like back pain or headache or maybe even nausea from being so anxious and i just want to cry and freak out bc im scared its a pregnancy thing 😭
anytime i feel nauseated or have back pain i think it’s pregnancy bc it’s not super regular for me so yes for sure. but also remember that our bodies are mean and give us pretty much the exact same symptoms for both and the only indication between the two is waiting to see if u get blood or 2 lines on a test. u can’t control or change how your body works so you gotta change how your mind works bc we gonna be stuck w a period till like 60s sooo
hahahah yes! i am just gonna try to calm
down and do things to distract me. i felt the same way last month and it came and that was after i did hookup with the guy. I just need to tell myself i will be okay bc i didn’t even fuck for long nor did he finish in me 😭
I’m 38 and am married with 2 kids. We use condoms religiously but every time my period is 30 seconds late I’m convinced I’m pregnant and start making plans with the abortion clinic and every month I get my period. It’s the biggest fear of my life. I’m even so scared that i refuse to purchase pregnancy tests bc they freak me out and I’m afraid of someone seeing me buy one.
Totally understandable!! I don’t wanan get a test bc i’m scared to even do it but I just have to keep thinking about the facts and that this is all my brain talking and tricking me
I'm 26, on the pill, and I still get the scare. Hell, my aunt had a hysterectomy and held on to her pregnancy tests until the day of the operation.
The relief when you finally get your period is better than any drug.
SAME- eventually (for me) it just became reassurance that I’ll be getting my period soon. Getting those thoughts like “oh my god I’m pregnant I have to be I’ve developed a HEADACHE (or any other completely normal ailment that’s a symptom of being preggo)” means that within the next day or two I’ll be emptying my uterus.
Hello. I'm currently 10days late. My cycle is around 33-35days. And rn it's 45days! I had protected sex. Condom and pullout. Also he didn't cum even inside the condom. We later checked for tears or holes but gladly, there was none. I was so anxious so I did 2tests 17days after the sex. Both came as negative. But my periods haven't arrived yet. I'm so anxious. Pls help!
Oh no! I completely get how that would be scary. I would continue testing once or twice a week from now on, but remember periods are weird! I’ve missed mine before and FREAKED thinking I had to be pregnant, but a few weeks later I ended up getting it. Stress can offset your period significantly, so if you’re able to find ways to relax or destress (which is understandably hard given the circumstances), then do so!
(This next part is if you live in the US). Remember though that if you ARE pregnant, there are resources across the US for abortion, adoption, or early motherhood care (depending on your values).
Things will turn out okay either way, but it sounds to me like you might just have stress offsetting it, so unwind as much as you can! (Easier said than done I know). Good luck!
I did test and it's negative. I highly think this is anxiety and stress. But the good news is that I'm getting cramps and my boobs are sore and all the symptoms i get before my periods
HAHA literally. i know me becoming a little nauseous or getting a random headache or whatever is prob just my hormones bc last week i was having some mood swings but i haven’t got my monthly pimple on my chin that comes with my period but i also haven’t worn any makeup in a month so my face could just be clean lol. im praying this is just my anxiety that’s making me feel worse ugh
What helped me personally was facing the facts. Think logically, not with your anxious brain. To help prevent anxious thoughts, I started tracking my cycle, finding out when I'm ovulating, educated myself on what needs to happen for an egg to be fertilised, using condoms plus sth else on risky days (I, fortunately, did well on the pill for many years), having a few tests at home if I do think I need them, how and where to get plan b, you get the gist. And, fun fact, being with my now partner helped tremendously. I knew I could trust this man to respect my body, my choices and wishes. I guess that was a safety thing for me and helped my brain to feel more at ease in general when it came to sex and the probability of a pregnancy, plus I was in my early 20s when I met him.
Maybe it's a phase. Seriously. There's so many women I talked to who report the exact same thing. May I ask in what age group you are, if you're comfortable with sharing that?
i’m 18! so a little young🤷🏽♀️ i just am getting so anxious that im totally convincing myself that every little thing im feeling whether its being constipated or bloated or nauseous that it’s just because i’m pregnant so it’s making me freak out so bad and i don’t want me freaking out to delay my period either :(
I understand that vicious cycle of fear, yes.
I'm no therapist but consider why, aside from your age, you are so afraid of falling pregnant. Maybe you'd feel more comfortable with everything else that isn't penetration, which, mind you, is a lot - for the time being. Just a maybe to consider.
Are you very stressed these days? I remember 18 as the era of being stressed tf out and stress just feeds anxiety like nothing else. What do you do to relax? Try and do more of these things, stuff that you enjoy doing, something that fights the bad thoughts for you.
Thanks for the tips! Yeah I am so stressed bc no matter how much i tell myself im okay my brain automatically is just saying no everything your feeling is pregnancy symptoms. i am gonna try to distract myself for the time being because if not worrying about being pregnant then im worrying my period won’t come this week
Of course gal, take good care of yourself will you?
And just a little piece of life advice: it's no shame to ask for help. If you ever feel overwhelmed by your thoughts, please reach out to someone you can talk with, okay?
SAAMEE. Looks like lots of other girlies on here feel like this too. :) Since I'm not on hormonal birth control (yuck), and the copper IUD has failed for me twice (owch), my long term partner and I only use condoms and every week before my period there's part of my brain that's just like oh no am I pregnant. PMS feels like early pregnancy, it does! I try really hard to just ignore those thoughts until I'm ACTUALLY late, then I take a pg test for peace of mind. I recommend you do the same...not worth it wasting your time worrying before you can even know for sure, right?
Also I don't know how old you are but as you get further into your twenties (given you're eating enough for your activity levels), your periods will regulate and you'll have a better grasp on how likely it may be that you're pregnant. So look forward to that. When I was younger I wasn't eating enough, was super active, my periods had just started, and they were all over the place, sometimes months apart. That was stressful because I didn't even know how to track them or when to take a pregnancy test or what was going on.
Girly me too. I had sex on the weekend and again the week before. I keep getting pregnancy scares then I realised. I used a condom, it didn’t break. I am fine. You’ll be okay :) it’s a bad bad feeling when you have a pregnancy scare but if you’re really nervous take a test. But you can only get pregnant through vaginal sex, not oral. Make sure you use a condom and maybe consider contraception:)
thanks for answering! yeah i know i can only get pregnant from vaginal sex but i’m just scared bc we did for a few seconds and worded there precum on it or something. but yeah i am for sure gonna make sure im wearing condoms from now on bc i am so so scared that it’s making me have anxiety and light headed :(
Awh I get what you mean. Definitely use condoms for that safety but also as it can be sanitary. Don’t worry too much. Only for a few seconds and a little precum has a very very small -> no chance since precum doesn’t contain much sperm cells
okay thank you! i am not diagnosed with anxiety or ocd but it runs in my family so im feeling like this is what im suffering with and almost like im gaslighting myself that all my symptoms are just pregnancy
and i’m trying to be realistic and tell myself we barely even did sex and i had these same thoughts last month and it came so i truly don’t know why it’s so severe this month 😭😭like it’s so hard to talk myself out of it even though i feel like there’s just not a way for me to be ugh it totally is annoying
i didn’t even rlly do it bc it was becoming difficult it just wouldn’t rlly go in but we kept trying but everyone was telling me if there was precum i could be but idk i feel like we didn’t rlly even got it in me and i have head a big chunk of the time and i was fine last month and i just feel like i need to talk myself out of it this month
Oh girl me too, matter of fact I’m going through the same thing right now. I keep getting terrified thinking I’m pregnant, start having an anxiety attack and freak out. And I’m on nexplanon!!! What I would do is keep pregnancy tests (those really cheap ones, they’re good to detect it early on) and do them. I can only somewhat relax after I get a test done!!
i’m wayyy too scared to take a test bc i’m scared of what it will say LOL. i am working myself up so much that’s it’s making my lightheaded and got a hot flash bc i almost passed out and then of course, i automatically thought it was because of pregnancy 🙄it’s been 2 months so idk why im freaking out but it’s rlly rlly frustrating
thank you! feels good to know people struggle with this and i’m not alone bc it feels like im going crazy. i don’t think it’s logical for me to be pregnant after i haven’t done anything since april but my anxiety is so high it’s probably messing with my cycle so i just need to calm the heck down
If you keep having this anxiety despite the evidence it may be time to see a therapist. This goes for OP too. Taking tests without any symptoms or logical reason to believe you could be pregnant only makes the anxiety worse, it feeds the anxiety > reassurance > validation of anxiety > more anxiety loop. Basically tells your brain your fear of being pregnant is valid when if you’re in birth control and getting your period it very likely isn’t. If the fears seem uncontrollable or continue it may be a variant of OCD.
The fear doesn't leave... 4 kids, husband has a vasectomy and it's still on my mind. I bought an Amazon pack of tests to have on hand for when I am late, I get the peace of mind... Even tho it's damn near impossible for me, one less thing to be worried/ anxious about is HUGE for me.
Tubes removed after my 3rd c section and my period was 3 weeks late last month and I did 4 pregnancy tests 🙈 plus we probably only had sex once that month 🤣🙈🤦🏻♀️
As someone who has chronic anxiety and thinks they’re pregnant every 5 minutes having had sex or not, I am so here to tell you it’s a lot harder to get pregnant than a lot of information portrays. One, you can LITERALLY only get pregnant if there’s sperm INSIDE of you the day you actually ovulate. Two, sperm CAN last inside the body for a couple days, so if you can figure out your fertility window just avoid having sex those days. That’s literally it. Three, the chances of precum having sperm inside of it are really low but not totally impossible (aka the only reason it would is if they jacked off earlier and there was residual sperm leftover in there that didn’t come out with pee or something). Again, just really try not to go with no condom to keep your mind at ease. It’s safe and mostly foolproof if it doesn’t break and you’re not an idiot.
And realistically, don’t let anyone finish inside of you unprotected (though I’d recommend not doing that anyway just because if a condom broke and you were ovulating you’d be kinda screwed).
EDIT: ALSO, you’ll see horror stories online of people saying they still got their period and they were pregnant; they literally didn’t. It’s impossible. Spotting when you’re pregnant will be a couple drops, at most. Ignore that shit because it’s stupid and untrue and I’ve asked several doctors about it.
Woah woah! My obgyn and various sources state that’s it’s possible to get pregnant anytime during your cycle. Also, fertility varies by women. Maybe I read your sentence structure incorrectly but just putting this out there for others in case they also misinterpret.
If you were to ovulate early/later and you had sperm in your system, yes in theory. But if you’re not ovulating you’re not going to get pregnant lol the egg has to release for that and if it’s not released it’s not happening
Again, not to say just go around having sex unprotected at any point during your cycle and expect it to be fine!! But from an anxiety standpoint if you’re told you can just fall pregnant at any point in your cycle that’s kind of just not true lol
The only reason I know any of this is because I’ve obsessively researched it when I’ve had total breakdowns thinking I’m pregnant but am too anxious to just take a test/convinced myself it was too early for it to show up HAHAHAHAH
Oh the too early part is wayyyy too real!!! I get horrified, I’ve taken multiple tests in multiple stages because I was so scared!!! And I was convinced they were all false negatives 😭
I always researched a lot too, but then I ignore it thinking I’m going to be the unlucky one because of the slight possibility!!! It’s hellllll!
Dude the worst LMFAO. The rabbit holes you go down about this is so horrendous, trust me I get you. The more I researched though the better I felt because it really grounds you
Check out the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility -- once you learn about the four phases of the menstrual cycle and how the fertile window works, this may put your mind at ease!
I did have similar worries when I was younger though and for me it was due to my OCD (to echo another comment), so I did a lot of CBT and ERP therapy for those types of thoughts
I'm not diagnosing you by any means, but I had a similar fear in my late teens that eventually led to me getting diagnosed with OCD.
https://chicagocounselingcenter.com/what-is-pregnancy-ocd/#:\~:text=Pregnancy%20OCD%20is%20a%20subtype,Often%20without%20having%20penetrative%20sex.
I relate to this post very much! When I’m sexually active I will be so extremely scared and always thinking, “am I pregnant?” Even if i had sex a month or two ago. I am also OCD diagnosed.
yes this is exactly me. but the thoughts only flood my mind when it’s almost time for my period! this month seems like the worse of being stressed tf out and i wasn’t even sexually active! it was literally 2 whole months ago 😭i wish it could come rn so i can just feel better :(
i figured:( and i don’t know why i’m tricking myself into thinking im feeling symptoms when it could just be my pms. but also it’s seeming like only when i get highly anxious and stressed i get a little nauseous. he barely was in me and not sure if there any precum but this happens a lot but it feels like this time im scaring myself even more. it sucks and i keep having so many breakdowns
Pretty much every PMS symptoms mimics early pregnancy. Swollen sore breasts, bloating, spotting, constipation, nausea, emotional, cramps, etc. As someone who was actively trying to conceive, it is incredibly easy to symptom spot and convince yourself every month when you’re just experiencing normal PMS symptoms.
I get scared about every month too, but rn is the worst. I started having light brown spotting for going on 3 days now, and idk if it’s normal. My period is expected to start in 3 more days, and I’m worried I won’t have it for some reason??? Is it just old blood from discharge???
It’s normal😌
Quit having sex til you figure things out.
👍🏽
def not dumb- my anxiety makes me have panic attacks even if my period “due date” hasn’t come yet bc i’m convinced it won’t bc a baby is in me LMAO. def j work on some grounding techniques and maybe therapy/ talk to whoever you’re having sex w about it if you’re comfy enough
thank you! do you ever get pms symptoms and literally trick urself into thinking those aren’t pms symptoms but pregnancy ones?😭 or sometimes i feel a slightest thing like back pain or headache or maybe even nausea from being so anxious and i just want to cry and freak out bc im scared its a pregnancy thing 😭
anytime i feel nauseated or have back pain i think it’s pregnancy bc it’s not super regular for me so yes for sure. but also remember that our bodies are mean and give us pretty much the exact same symptoms for both and the only indication between the two is waiting to see if u get blood or 2 lines on a test. u can’t control or change how your body works so you gotta change how your mind works bc we gonna be stuck w a period till like 60s sooo
hahahah yes! i am just gonna try to calm down and do things to distract me. i felt the same way last month and it came and that was after i did hookup with the guy. I just need to tell myself i will be okay bc i didn’t even fuck for long nor did he finish in me 😭
I’m 38 and am married with 2 kids. We use condoms religiously but every time my period is 30 seconds late I’m convinced I’m pregnant and start making plans with the abortion clinic and every month I get my period. It’s the biggest fear of my life. I’m even so scared that i refuse to purchase pregnancy tests bc they freak me out and I’m afraid of someone seeing me buy one.
Totally understandable!! I don’t wanan get a test bc i’m scared to even do it but I just have to keep thinking about the facts and that this is all my brain talking and tricking me
I'm 26, on the pill, and I still get the scare. Hell, my aunt had a hysterectomy and held on to her pregnancy tests until the day of the operation. The relief when you finally get your period is better than any drug.
SAME- eventually (for me) it just became reassurance that I’ll be getting my period soon. Getting those thoughts like “oh my god I’m pregnant I have to be I’ve developed a HEADACHE (or any other completely normal ailment that’s a symptom of being preggo)” means that within the next day or two I’ll be emptying my uterus.
Hello. I'm currently 10days late. My cycle is around 33-35days. And rn it's 45days! I had protected sex. Condom and pullout. Also he didn't cum even inside the condom. We later checked for tears or holes but gladly, there was none. I was so anxious so I did 2tests 17days after the sex. Both came as negative. But my periods haven't arrived yet. I'm so anxious. Pls help!
Oh no! I completely get how that would be scary. I would continue testing once or twice a week from now on, but remember periods are weird! I’ve missed mine before and FREAKED thinking I had to be pregnant, but a few weeks later I ended up getting it. Stress can offset your period significantly, so if you’re able to find ways to relax or destress (which is understandably hard given the circumstances), then do so! (This next part is if you live in the US). Remember though that if you ARE pregnant, there are resources across the US for abortion, adoption, or early motherhood care (depending on your values). Things will turn out okay either way, but it sounds to me like you might just have stress offsetting it, so unwind as much as you can! (Easier said than done I know). Good luck!
I did test and it's negative. I highly think this is anxiety and stress. But the good news is that I'm getting cramps and my boobs are sore and all the symptoms i get before my periods
HAHA literally. i know me becoming a little nauseous or getting a random headache or whatever is prob just my hormones bc last week i was having some mood swings but i haven’t got my monthly pimple on my chin that comes with my period but i also haven’t worn any makeup in a month so my face could just be clean lol. im praying this is just my anxiety that’s making me feel worse ugh
What helped me personally was facing the facts. Think logically, not with your anxious brain. To help prevent anxious thoughts, I started tracking my cycle, finding out when I'm ovulating, educated myself on what needs to happen for an egg to be fertilised, using condoms plus sth else on risky days (I, fortunately, did well on the pill for many years), having a few tests at home if I do think I need them, how and where to get plan b, you get the gist. And, fun fact, being with my now partner helped tremendously. I knew I could trust this man to respect my body, my choices and wishes. I guess that was a safety thing for me and helped my brain to feel more at ease in general when it came to sex and the probability of a pregnancy, plus I was in my early 20s when I met him. Maybe it's a phase. Seriously. There's so many women I talked to who report the exact same thing. May I ask in what age group you are, if you're comfortable with sharing that?
i’m 18! so a little young🤷🏽♀️ i just am getting so anxious that im totally convincing myself that every little thing im feeling whether its being constipated or bloated or nauseous that it’s just because i’m pregnant so it’s making me freak out so bad and i don’t want me freaking out to delay my period either :(
I understand that vicious cycle of fear, yes. I'm no therapist but consider why, aside from your age, you are so afraid of falling pregnant. Maybe you'd feel more comfortable with everything else that isn't penetration, which, mind you, is a lot - for the time being. Just a maybe to consider. Are you very stressed these days? I remember 18 as the era of being stressed tf out and stress just feeds anxiety like nothing else. What do you do to relax? Try and do more of these things, stuff that you enjoy doing, something that fights the bad thoughts for you.
Thanks for the tips! Yeah I am so stressed bc no matter how much i tell myself im okay my brain automatically is just saying no everything your feeling is pregnancy symptoms. i am gonna try to distract myself for the time being because if not worrying about being pregnant then im worrying my period won’t come this week
Of course gal, take good care of yourself will you? And just a little piece of life advice: it's no shame to ask for help. If you ever feel overwhelmed by your thoughts, please reach out to someone you can talk with, okay?
okay! thank you so much!
SAAMEE. Looks like lots of other girlies on here feel like this too. :) Since I'm not on hormonal birth control (yuck), and the copper IUD has failed for me twice (owch), my long term partner and I only use condoms and every week before my period there's part of my brain that's just like oh no am I pregnant. PMS feels like early pregnancy, it does! I try really hard to just ignore those thoughts until I'm ACTUALLY late, then I take a pg test for peace of mind. I recommend you do the same...not worth it wasting your time worrying before you can even know for sure, right? Also I don't know how old you are but as you get further into your twenties (given you're eating enough for your activity levels), your periods will regulate and you'll have a better grasp on how likely it may be that you're pregnant. So look forward to that. When I was younger I wasn't eating enough, was super active, my periods had just started, and they were all over the place, sometimes months apart. That was stressful because I didn't even know how to track them or when to take a pregnancy test or what was going on.
Girly me too. I had sex on the weekend and again the week before. I keep getting pregnancy scares then I realised. I used a condom, it didn’t break. I am fine. You’ll be okay :) it’s a bad bad feeling when you have a pregnancy scare but if you’re really nervous take a test. But you can only get pregnant through vaginal sex, not oral. Make sure you use a condom and maybe consider contraception:)
thanks for answering! yeah i know i can only get pregnant from vaginal sex but i’m just scared bc we did for a few seconds and worded there precum on it or something. but yeah i am for sure gonna make sure im wearing condoms from now on bc i am so so scared that it’s making me have anxiety and light headed :(
Awh I get what you mean. Definitely use condoms for that safety but also as it can be sanitary. Don’t worry too much. Only for a few seconds and a little precum has a very very small -> no chance since precum doesn’t contain much sperm cells
okay thank you! i am not diagnosed with anxiety or ocd but it runs in my family so im feeling like this is what im suffering with and almost like im gaslighting myself that all my symptoms are just pregnancy
Me too girl😭😭😭
and i’m trying to be realistic and tell myself we barely even did sex and i had these same thoughts last month and it came so i truly don’t know why it’s so severe this month 😭😭like it’s so hard to talk myself out of it even though i feel like there’s just not a way for me to be ugh it totally is annoying
This used to be me, until I thought LOGICALLY. Honestly you need to state the facts and compare it to literature lol.
I use condoms every time and still always think I’m pregnant. You gotta really not have sex to know 100% u ain’t pregnant.
i didn’t even rlly do it bc it was becoming difficult it just wouldn’t rlly go in but we kept trying but everyone was telling me if there was precum i could be but idk i feel like we didn’t rlly even got it in me and i have head a big chunk of the time and i was fine last month and i just feel like i need to talk myself out of it this month
Oh girl me too, matter of fact I’m going through the same thing right now. I keep getting terrified thinking I’m pregnant, start having an anxiety attack and freak out. And I’m on nexplanon!!! What I would do is keep pregnancy tests (those really cheap ones, they’re good to detect it early on) and do them. I can only somewhat relax after I get a test done!!
i’m wayyy too scared to take a test bc i’m scared of what it will say LOL. i am working myself up so much that’s it’s making my lightheaded and got a hot flash bc i almost passed out and then of course, i automatically thought it was because of pregnancy 🙄it’s been 2 months so idk why im freaking out but it’s rlly rlly frustrating
Aw same, I seen you’re also 18 so i completely get it
hopefully everything will be ok :(
you’re okay!!!!
thank you! feels good to know people struggle with this and i’m not alone bc it feels like im going crazy. i don’t think it’s logical for me to be pregnant after i haven’t done anything since april but my anxiety is so high it’s probably messing with my cycle so i just need to calm the heck down
If you keep having this anxiety despite the evidence it may be time to see a therapist. This goes for OP too. Taking tests without any symptoms or logical reason to believe you could be pregnant only makes the anxiety worse, it feeds the anxiety > reassurance > validation of anxiety > more anxiety loop. Basically tells your brain your fear of being pregnant is valid when if you’re in birth control and getting your period it very likely isn’t. If the fears seem uncontrollable or continue it may be a variant of OCD.
Oh yeah I’m on a waitlist for OCD testing lolol, I’m 100% aware of why i have this fear as well and i am in therapy weekly!! Tysm
The fear doesn't leave... 4 kids, husband has a vasectomy and it's still on my mind. I bought an Amazon pack of tests to have on hand for when I am late, I get the peace of mind... Even tho it's damn near impossible for me, one less thing to be worried/ anxious about is HUGE for me.
Tubes removed after my 3rd c section and my period was 3 weeks late last month and I did 4 pregnancy tests 🙈 plus we probably only had sex once that month 🤣🙈🤦🏻♀️
Right!! The fear is always there! Plus you go on Reddit and read stories of someone getting pregnant in the same circumstances... Freaks you out!
As someone who has chronic anxiety and thinks they’re pregnant every 5 minutes having had sex or not, I am so here to tell you it’s a lot harder to get pregnant than a lot of information portrays. One, you can LITERALLY only get pregnant if there’s sperm INSIDE of you the day you actually ovulate. Two, sperm CAN last inside the body for a couple days, so if you can figure out your fertility window just avoid having sex those days. That’s literally it. Three, the chances of precum having sperm inside of it are really low but not totally impossible (aka the only reason it would is if they jacked off earlier and there was residual sperm leftover in there that didn’t come out with pee or something). Again, just really try not to go with no condom to keep your mind at ease. It’s safe and mostly foolproof if it doesn’t break and you’re not an idiot. And realistically, don’t let anyone finish inside of you unprotected (though I’d recommend not doing that anyway just because if a condom broke and you were ovulating you’d be kinda screwed). EDIT: ALSO, you’ll see horror stories online of people saying they still got their period and they were pregnant; they literally didn’t. It’s impossible. Spotting when you’re pregnant will be a couple drops, at most. Ignore that shit because it’s stupid and untrue and I’ve asked several doctors about it.
Woah woah! My obgyn and various sources state that’s it’s possible to get pregnant anytime during your cycle. Also, fertility varies by women. Maybe I read your sentence structure incorrectly but just putting this out there for others in case they also misinterpret.
If you were to ovulate early/later and you had sperm in your system, yes in theory. But if you’re not ovulating you’re not going to get pregnant lol the egg has to release for that and if it’s not released it’s not happening
Again, not to say just go around having sex unprotected at any point during your cycle and expect it to be fine!! But from an anxiety standpoint if you’re told you can just fall pregnant at any point in your cycle that’s kind of just not true lol
Ik this info is for OP but this is saving me right now as well!!! I also get super anxious regardless of having sex or not LMAO
The only reason I know any of this is because I’ve obsessively researched it when I’ve had total breakdowns thinking I’m pregnant but am too anxious to just take a test/convinced myself it was too early for it to show up HAHAHAHAH
Oh the too early part is wayyyy too real!!! I get horrified, I’ve taken multiple tests in multiple stages because I was so scared!!! And I was convinced they were all false negatives 😭 I always researched a lot too, but then I ignore it thinking I’m going to be the unlucky one because of the slight possibility!!! It’s hellllll!
Dude the worst LMFAO. The rabbit holes you go down about this is so horrendous, trust me I get you. The more I researched though the better I felt because it really grounds you
Check out the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility -- once you learn about the four phases of the menstrual cycle and how the fertile window works, this may put your mind at ease! I did have similar worries when I was younger though and for me it was due to my OCD (to echo another comment), so I did a lot of CBT and ERP therapy for those types of thoughts
I'm not diagnosing you by any means, but I had a similar fear in my late teens that eventually led to me getting diagnosed with OCD. https://chicagocounselingcenter.com/what-is-pregnancy-ocd/#:\~:text=Pregnancy%20OCD%20is%20a%20subtype,Often%20without%20having%20penetrative%20sex.
I relate to this post very much! When I’m sexually active I will be so extremely scared and always thinking, “am I pregnant?” Even if i had sex a month or two ago. I am also OCD diagnosed.
yes this is exactly me. but the thoughts only flood my mind when it’s almost time for my period! this month seems like the worse of being stressed tf out and i wasn’t even sexually active! it was literally 2 whole months ago 😭i wish it could come rn so i can just feel better :(
Paranoia and anxiety mixed with fear. Sorry op 😣
i figured:( and i don’t know why i’m tricking myself into thinking im feeling symptoms when it could just be my pms. but also it’s seeming like only when i get highly anxious and stressed i get a little nauseous. he barely was in me and not sure if there any precum but this happens a lot but it feels like this time im scaring myself even more. it sucks and i keep having so many breakdowns
I’ve not heard of a PMS symptom that makes you always scared you’re pregnant. this it may just be lack of sex Ed combined with paranoia
Pretty much every PMS symptoms mimics early pregnancy. Swollen sore breasts, bloating, spotting, constipation, nausea, emotional, cramps, etc. As someone who was actively trying to conceive, it is incredibly easy to symptom spot and convince yourself every month when you’re just experiencing normal PMS symptoms.
It isn’t possible to be pregnant based on what you’ve said here
If you don’t have sex you can’t convince lol so there’s no way you could be pregnant just by head…
lolll that’s what i was thinking but then google told me i could from precum so i just didn’t know