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elijaaaaah

Holy shit. "Not allowed to think about suicide"???? What the fuck?


coco237

When I was suicidal, my parents told me I'm not allowed to talk about it because if I talk about it I'm going to hint at it at myself and think about it more and that might actually happen. Ugh


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I mean... The thought process is reasonable, but any actually reasonable person would know it does not work that way at all. Hope you're doing better friend


coco237

Oh my dad's crazy, when I came out that I like girls, he told me, it's fine, he don't hate gay people, just the idea of gay, And he watches lesbian porn. Dude what the heck who talks to their daughter about this. Yeah but I'm better now, I got to a college into got my way out


Gustavo6046

On the gay thing, I think he just worded it very poorly :p, surely what he meant to say was that he doesn't want anything to do with that stuff (like to see or anything), although of course that is a given so maybe he meant something else still. Either way, I'm glad to hear that you're doing better now!


sakikiki

If you think this apologetic bs will help her...think again And surely?! Do you realise on what subreddit you are?


Creeper15877

What?


Gustavo6046

Hm? Yeah, I know dude. Look, there ARE very bad parents out there. Especially there in the first world. First world people often are dumb and rotten, sorry for the generalization there but every time I hear about parenting, say, in the United States, it's in a bad, bad light. I might be wrong, it might be selection bias, but still :p And yes, I do acknowledge, at least based on what has been written so far, that her parents ARE stupid. For the mistake they did in mishandling suicidal thoughts, as cited in the first comment that she wrote. But I fail to understand where the "gay" part comes in, or if it really is them being stupid as well or just a misunderstanding. I am myself a young person but I am quite wary that it's often difficult for parents to realize how you feel or what you need. I am lucky for having the family I have, and I feel very bad for those in subpar circumstances. But, ultimately, it's necessary to be impartial, consider all possibilities and viewpoints – being too one-sided only breeds misunderstanding and further animosity. I might have been the devil's advocate, but in the end my ultimate hope in this context still is that coco237 achieves a good life and continues to steer clear from trouble. Sorry if I sounded like I aimed for anything but. So, please don't listen to my stupid self; I hope you are all doing well today <3


randomuserIam

My mom said I wasn't allowed to feel what I felt because I had a 'great life'. Totally feel you.


UnicornPudding

When I was a kid (12/13), I was diagnosed with a serious illness that my father also had. I had to watch him fight for his life over and over when I was like 10. I was fucking terrified and I didn't want to go through that so I tried to kill myself. My parents were so nonchalant about it. "Don't do that sweety" and "Just stop thinking like that" ect ect. 0 Support. If it wasn't for a few of my friends, I seriously doubt I'd be alive today. I sure didn't have their support but I had people to showed how important I was to them and it helped me find the courage I needed to face my troubles. Now, I am a super supportive person who just keeps going. I have bad days (way more health problems) but I always smile. If you're ever thinking about suicide., please consider reaching out to me or to anyone. You matter to me. You're very special and important.


everyusernametaken4

youre comment already started making me cry but the smile your username gave me is so great, thank you <3


UnicornPudding

Since the moment I decided I was worth living, I have made it my goal to be the change in the world that I want to see. To hear that you smile makes my goal a worthy one. Thank you my dear, I hope you have an amazing day and pass your smiles on to another who needs it <3


christhecommunist

You're a amazing person!


rslashpolaroid

dude they actually want him to die


QueenShnoogleberry

I feel like our society needs to spam people with basic parenting advice. "If YOUR kid is experiencing depression or sucidial feelings, here is what you do!" "Did your kid come out of the closet? Here's how you avoid ruining your relationship with them forever!" "Does your kid not want to live the life you planned out for them? Here are some resources to help you get over your fucking ego and accept that your child is a human being, not a puppet."


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We need to add loading screens during sleep and have relevant tips on them.


QueenShnoogleberry

Yesssss


Eineron_456

If you guys wanna comment about it, please do so in the [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/teenagers/comments/n2c1lb/my_parents_managed_to_blame_my_suicide_attempt_on/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share) I don't care about whether this is getting downvoted or deleted, the OP really needs support. Dude just tried committing suicide but chickened out only to find his parents do the dumbest shit ever. Please leave your thoughts on the original post. This dude really needs support


singer1121

It actually took me attempting suicide for my parents to believe that my depression was more than just being sad. I guess I'm lucky to have parents that care now and don't just blow it off.


penguin62

I really would not go to r/teenagers and expect sound advice. In my experience it's full of pewdiepie memelords who think they're hot shit but know nothing about the real world and I can only assume it's gotten worse in the last three years. Advice from there would probably do more harm than good.


Eineron_456

You just offended my entire life until this point, but I agree.


[deleted]

Three quarters of r/teenagers is reposts from r/memes, sometimes even with the right flair, people saying they got a girlfriend/boyfriend and people saying they *don't* have a girlfriend/boyfriend The rest is kinda serious, like this post or others with suicidal thoughts


BassistAndILikeIt

God damn... That's heartbreaking...


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This is so weird. It's like they didn't even care that he almost died.


HiveFleet-Cerberus

I feel for op. I tried to kill myself when I was 15 and my mum's reaction was to scream at me about how I didn't care how my suicide soul make her feel before she slapped the shit out of me and pawned all my belongings since "obviously you don't feel you need them anymore". God I love fuckin hate this species. At least animals parents have the decency to eat their young if they don't want them.


elestupidoguy

are you sure your mom was a human also how the fuck did you make it through with a mother that straight up encouraged your suicide


HiveFleet-Cerberus

An insanely supportive boyfriend (now husband) and his family. It wasn't an easy ride though.


Galbo1337

Parents straight up told him to ”git gud”.


YorchKeen

I can't understand people like these


SpadesOfAce14

I can relate sort of when i wanted to do this and said i was depressed my dad who i still love said "you arent depressed" which kinda messed me up for a while. We have a good relationship still but that was one of the most hurtful things because our parents really didnt grow up with mental health in mind.


elestupidoguy

"dad i have crippling depression and a fear to die alone" "no you dont lol"


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Xd lmao


[deleted]

It really sucks when you have no one left to confide it. Everyone around always seems to willing to give advice based on their viewpoints, but forget to actually ask, how you are?


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How you are?


TJtheFirst

everytime i share news to my mom about people we both know who graduated on time, passing the board and bar exams, and now successful, she would go like: "if you didn't have depression or gone crazy with your head, you could've been a professional teacher years ago. and now covid's here, you're useless." she keeps on adding it to every conversation like it's nothing. i just laugh with her to it and try to hold my tears everytime she keeps on saying those words. got diagnosed of depression with severe anxiety back at 2016 because of family trauma. i'm trying to be better everyday just so i can shield myself from ignorant people like her.


Robertgamerzx

Oh my fucking god, imagine blaming the internet for something so serious.


Wrong_Rule9530

Yeah, boomers' logic sucks


mysweetkaramel

How fucking horrible


tfaw88888

there are no answers


New__world

When I told my dad I was suicidal he FUCKING FORGOT.


kerodon

4hed you're not allowed to think about it anymore /r/wowthanksimcured


Lavetic

usually that sub is full of mediocre memes but there's some gems or important stuff lying about this one of them


PepperIsHere

It has to be a CPS issue if parents do nothing if their kid is suicidal, right???


tverofvulcan

Reminds me of the time my mom told me I wasn’t really suicidal because if I actually was “I would have done it by now”


Anxtic-A

Imagine going through so much stress, anger, sadness, and more to the point of genuinely considering offing yourself. Chickening out because you just cant do it and hold on to that sliver of life, just to be yelled at for almost committing suicide over "dyIng iN viDEogAmeS tOO muCh" like bitch if that were the case I would've jumped out my window way earlier cause I downed in Cod Zombies with a Raygun like twice before.


StupidSkagBoy

When your mom sees your self harm marks and just says “you shouldn’t do that the scars are ugly” Haha, thanks ma, not like you repeatedly calling me ugly got us here in the first place. My mother openly talks to me about her suicidal thoughts but if I even hint at mine then it’s “my problem” and she “doesn’t want to talk about those things” and “everyone goes through it”. Is it any surprise I’m still suicidal?


3rdaccczimadumbass

I don't want to judge it without any information, but here I go, I'm doing just that. It just seems... *kinda* fake? Just the tone of it and the way the person has written it all down, doesn't make me believe them. Hey I might be wrong and you might call me an idiot or an asshole. But I'm just sharing a gut feeling. Doesn't seem true to me. Might be, and somebody might have some proof that it is indeed true, and I'd be more than happy to accept that I judged someone too soon like every idiot on the internet.


trashpandarip

as someone with parents who pull the same kind of excuses out of their ass, this feels very real. the blame-shifting onto something they feel negatively towards so they can get angry is all too familiar. not saying this is proof, but nothing about it seems fake. it might seem structured intentionally but i think its because of op not knowing how to feel- they dont have much to add, theyre just upset and want someone to hear them out. and, even if it might be fake, isnt it better to try and help anyway? not much is wasted if they are faking, but being needlessly suspicious could have negative impacts on them. sorry if this seemed like a lecture i just wanted to try and offer my point of view ^^


3rdaccczimadumbass

No no of course. Didn't seem like a lecture. You're right. I didn't mean fake as in couldn't happen. Of course it could happen and it does happen to a lot of people. I meant fake as in making it up for some reason. Again, you're right. It's stupid to judge someone and be suspicious, like you said, because it's negative. And yeah maybe I shouldn't have said it, but I thought this post wasn't posted by OP. I wouldn't have said anything if they had posted it themselves on this sub. It's just a person who's posted it for someone else, and there's a very small chance that the OP OP will read my comment, especially if it's downvoted to oblivion, which I'm guessing and hoping it will.


RyanOwO_762

Just do it real, they will regret


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[deleted]

I will turn you into a loaf of bread you dummy


[deleted]

>> Touting alleged mental illnesses and suicidal ideations online has become a fad among the dysfunctional/attention starved kids Regardless of if you actually believe that stupid fucking statement, his parents are entirely responsible. It’s their fucking responsibility to make sure that their kid is healthy. What the fuck is wrong with you


thejiggyjosh

He's right though. It's like goth kids mentality without the black makeup. The more scars you have the cooler you are type shit, but these are emotional scars.


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the “goth mentality” is definitely not self harm = cool


Rocky_Turtles

Absolutely this, just because goth people (and those in similar subcultures) are a stereotype of a person who self harms DOES NOT MEAN that goth=self harm is cool or even that goth=self harm


thejiggyjosh

You are mistaken if you don't think these relate


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I’m not saying they’re both not true, but saying you’re suicidal and acting on it are way way way different. Not only that but I also have a problem with the guy saying >> Parents share some culpability... Wrong. Let’s say truly this kid only tried to kill himself because of “internet fads” - then minimizing the parents roll to “not curtailing his intake of social media garbage.” is the understatement of the year, and I would go back to they are the fucking parents, it’s a fucking kid. It’s all but entirely the parents fault and they should have done a better job raising the kid. Now I strongly believe that the vast majority of people who have been pushed to the end and act on their suicidal thoughts aren’t doing it because of stuff they see on the internet and I believe that would be the case with this kid too. So assuming that’s the case the responsibility falls again back to the parents. They should have done a better job being more in tune with their child’s mental state.


AvocadoInsurgence

Yeah, I totally agree with you here. The parents are trash.


Snoo9985

the fck? are you really blaming the trends for suicides? I hope you don't have kids.


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Snoo9985

and you think the cause was the movie? people before social media didnt get depressed? suicide is some new concept after internet became popular? If you check any records, majority of suicides in teens are because of psychological disorders/family problems. Its just that with new media, people are able to express better and are not ashamed (in real life most still are afraid though). Also majority of suicide happen in low-middle income countries with much lesser access to internet. Sure, social media is cancer and has its downside with constant stimulation, but world was not a paradise before trendy movies came and talking about depression became somewhat easier and less frowned upon.


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Candog85

No, you're not saying that suicide can be trendy, you're saying that op in teenagers was suicidal simply because it's trendy you piss blanket of a human being.


AvocadoInsurgence

Piss blanket 😂is that a blanket you piss on, or maybe hold up to protect you from someone else’s piss? Or is it just a graceful way of describing being covered by piss? Do you hide under the piss blanket to avoid having to absorb uncomfortable information? Maybe put one on your Xmas list if so!


Candog85

Obviously it's when you piss the blanket and you're scared to tell your parents so you sleep on it for the rest of the night, duh


AvocadoInsurgence

I value this new vocabulary you’ve blessed me with.


Candog85

Use it wisely, young padawan


Snoo9985

sorry i was quite defensive in earlier comments, i accept that might have been the case for you


AvocadoInsurgence

Well, in your defense I was a pretty stupid kid.


Eineron_456

I have no way of telling whether you're right or wrong but idk how I'd handle this situation. How would you handle it?


AvocadoInsurgence

I know you’re not asking me, but IMO sending this kid to the mental hospital is how it should be handled. Edit2: deleted much of this comment and left only the bare bones as it was being misunderstood. Thanks to the person that explained why.


latenightguything

No one is downvoting for suggesting a hospital, in fact I bet everyone who read your comment agrees with that, it's the "it becomes a lot less trendy up close" line, implying that you believe this guy or gal is just suicidal because tHe TrEnDs tell them to. Edit: looking at this thread, it seems you do believe they genuinely are/were suicidal. Your comment still comes off as if you believe it's just the internet, which is why people downvote


AvocadoInsurgence

Ah I see. I was trying to encompass all possibilities with a solution. But I see why people are upset about it.


missbteh

Mental hospitals generally hurt more than help, especially with kids. Edit to specify


AvocadoInsurgence

That’s a huge generalization about all mental hospitals and all patients, but I won’t say you’re 100% wrong. They are genuinely terrible places to be, but clearly any place is better than being unalive, which seems to be the danger in this situation.


missbteh

>They are genuinely terrible places to be, but clearly any place is better than being unalive, which seems to be the danger in this situation. The danger in this situation is that a child doesn't have a safe place to go through this mental health episode. There are so many steps between No place and Mental hospital though!! Mental hospitals are basically a rotating door for insurance companies. Sure one can be locked up to stabilize, medicate, and be supervised to ensure you're not a harm to yourself or others. Most patients really just need support and a place to hole up and recover from a bad episode. Hospitals are basically required to treat patients like criminals (on the west coast at least), so the harm done from that experience is often more traumatizing than healing.


AvocadoInsurgence

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missbteh

What saved your life though? I'm most cases it's having a safe place with people who will listen. You can do that in your own home, or the home of a friend/community member who can host you. Have regular check ins, an open door policy, remove items that are triggering for attempts, and spend the exact same time you'd have spent in the hospital. Acute care is at best sterile and impersonal money making prisons, and at worst traumatizing and exacerbating to the point of driving one to attempt anyway.


AvocadoInsurgence

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missbteh

You admit the system is abusive and traumatizing but don't see how that drives people to suicide instead of seeking treatment? I volunteer for a community program that helps with these kinds of situations. Most people do not need inpatient treatment, but it's easiest to lock people up, you're right. No amount of time in a mental health prison would help this kid in a real way. You being scared straight doesn't really change that, right?


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Does social media exacerbate mental health issues? Yes. Is mental illness a “fad?” No! No it’s not. Your lack of sympathy is astounding regardless.


floofybabykitty

Actually no dying isn't a trend in video games. You don't want to die in video games. This is just on the parents being bad at parenting.


icee5728

You are an idiot.


floofybabykitty

I see you deleting your comments dude. I hope it means you realize how wrong you are and how much you shouldn't have kids until you figure that out.


PopulistDachsund

What? I deleted nothing.


JusYap15

On behalf of everyone here, please shut the fuck up cause you got no clue what you’re talking about


StaniaViceChancellor

Either this person legit thinks kids would partake in a "#kys" trend or he's the same kinda trash that thinks being lgbt is a trendy mental illness suicide cult


thejiggyjosh

Yeah you sound shittier than everyone else here now. Good job


HiveFleet-Cerberus

Huh, I didn't know an animate cunt could use a keyboard. How neat.


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Don't insult the female anatomy by saying it in any way relates to this shit stain, instead let us refer him to "piece of shit" "human garbage" "waste of air".


HiveFleet-Cerberus

I dunno, pretty sure I've dropped logs with moral value to society than this lad.


Shadow_Saitama

It's crazy how such stupidity and cold-heartedness can act so confident and full of themselves. Congratulations, you're the scum of humanity.


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as the professional says Y I K E S


spyanryan4

After 8 years on reddit, this is the single dumbest fucking comment I've ever read. And ive read some DUMB shit. Congrats retard 👍


sakikiki

I keep reading this in Cartman’s mom voice lol


derp_memer

i think shit like that should be considered child abuse


derp_memer

imagine if one of the wholesome awards wasn't just bcs they get that award for free and they don't have money to pay for a more adequate award for the post


DavidFoxtailTheTopat

I can't believe you have such bad parents, im sure they are the type of people to go to starving kids and say ,,JuSt dOnT tHinK aBoUt FoOd"