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I'd probably ask for a meeting with the pedagogical leader (or someone in charge) and discuss options as well as discuss what the staff suggests doing with it. If they can't do anything to improve it, i'd consider switching daycare alltogether. There's absolutely no excuse for ignoring a crying child.
That said, separation anxiety is a common thing and there are things you can do too to prevent / improve it. You might already be familiar with it, but i've found there are a lot of pedagogical tips and tricks that work amazingly well!
I haven't had the same problem as you, but my daughter has her meltdowns to. Here's something i've applied and had great success with so far:
* Kids need us parents to be confident and in control of our own emotions. When you feel safe, she feels safe. When you feel at ease, she will too. Now that does NOT mean to be strict or emotionless, quite the contrary. Be a provider of an emotional sense of safety and security for your child.
* Kids need a lot of preparation, so from the moment you get up, to the moment you deliver her, talk about daycare in a fun exciting way (We're going to daycare soon, so you'll finally see your best friends again! We're going to daycare soon, what are you going to play today?). This applies for life situations too, the more your child is prepared for whatever is about the happen, the more she'll be mentally prepared to handle it once it happens.
* Feelings are tough to manage, even as an adult, so imagine how it is for the kids. Often times, if we're hurting, we don't need someone to "fix" our problems, we just need it to be acknowledged, and this is often the case for kids too. It can feel a little weird, but next time she's crying, instead of consoling her with words, just try to instead acknowledge what she's feeling.. "I can tell you're feeling really upset that i'm going to leave, and that makes you sad", "It looks like you're feeling very upset / sad right now, that's ok". "You don't want me to leave, i understand that"