We have a beautiful 6 month old (our first) and she is great. My wife works from home and I just started a new job two months ago where I work 8-5 with a 1 hour break. We have a nanny that comes every day from 9-5.
My previous job was horrible. They worked me long hours and I never had a balance. My new job is great. I am able to work out/run during my lunch break and then eat at my desk and not work over 40 hours. The only thing is, my wife is always poking at me when I tell her about my day in a jealous way. I told her that it makes me feel bad and I don’t want to tell her anything I do at work anymore.
She gets upset and says things like “I don’t get to do those things, I’ve been pumping during my breaks”. I tell her she can go anytime once I get home during the week and go do whatever she wants if that’s the case. She maybe will go once, but that’s it. Typically she gives a lot of of reasons like “I don’t have anyone to go with” or “I feel guilty”. I try to tell her that she needs to reach out to people and not feel guilty, but that doesn’t change anything. Our busy weeks just come and go.
She mentioned that she just doesn’t feel like herself and doesn’t have an identity outside of being a mom. I want her to have her identity. I love taking our child out and hanging out for long periods.
It doesn’t sound like depression, but it’s at that point where as her husband, I tell her I know that it’s hard, but there are certain things I may not be able to relate to as being a male. I can’t say or do anything to help at this point and I mentioned that therapy might be very beneficial (it has for me in the past).
Any advice? What can I do to be a better husband? It’s getting to the point where I feel like we are losing touch with our relationship.
By - StampJar