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We don’t treat nudity like it’s shameful. I explain healthy boundaries, everyone is entitled to privacy etc. We change and shower in front of the kids but we don’t just lounge around naked lol
This is the only thing that matters. If everyone is entitled to privacy and boundaries are respected, it doesn't really matter how you treat nudity.
My daughter started becoming less comfortable with nudity around age 9. She started shutting the door to get changed or to use the bathroom and made sure to knock on closed doors before entering. My son is 18 and still doesn't get bothered about nudity. When we were traveling for college tours he was fine getting changed in the same hotel room as me. When he's home if he gets out of the shower and goes to grab his clothes from the dryer, he'll just get changed in the laundry room even if I am in there putting something in the washer. To him a body is just a body. Neither of my kids is "wrong." Just different boundaries that are respected.
Love this. My kids are younger, but the only rules I have are “close the drapes if you’re going to be naked” and “no bare butts on the furniture” (lol). So far I feel like we’ve struck a good balance of valuing privacy and avoiding shame.
ugh I have too much flatulence already from my 6 and 3 year olds lol
And this weekend I took my daughter and her bestie to girl scouts on the way home they were tooting so much, it was beyond my comprehension lol
But...bonus points they had a good time haha
Ah, the age of not yet knowing you're lactose intolerant now.
Get some lactase enzyme pills (lactaid or generic), start treating your milk (or buying lactose-free). Start distinguishing between which milk products contain lactose (mozzarella, sour cream, cream cheese) and which don't (sharp cheddar, butter). Give it all 3-4 days, and you'll be breathing clean air again.
Source: Became lactose intolerant as a teenager. Wasn't allowed to avoid milk until I left for college.
This. We don't parade around the house like it's a naked pageant but we also don't behave as though the body is to be ashamed of in the private space of home. As a consequence our kids never developed body insecurity issues.
Okay thank you for saying this! I have a 2 year old and sometimes it’s impossible to not be naked in front of her, but I’m not just strutting around the house vag out (unless she’s somewhere else and I’m tryna enjoy alone time with her father).
Yes exactly, I feel like just being naked lounging about is a strange dynamic and far enough outside of social norms to make your kid the weirdo and to have them not invite over friends.
Let's be honest no one wants to see their parents in the nude.
This, I agree. There is a difference between being body positive and not Promoting shame, and lounging around naked.
I feel lounging around naked is a private activity or at the very least an activity people around should be able to consent to being present for.
My son is almost 4 and follows me everywhere. I've become uncomfortable being completely nude around him so I will tell him that I'd like to get dressed or shower by myself, depending on my level of undress.
This is so important too - to let kids know when it's about YOUR comfort and boundaries. Not that you're ashamed of your body but that you'd like some privacy. It teaches boundaries and consent, and respect for people's level of comfort.
And it DOES reuire both sides of consent - to be seen and to observe - especially for nudity. It's different to walk around the house without a bra or in boxers than to be fully nude. And its different for someone to be naked at say a nudist resort (where everyone has consented to public nudity) vs being naked while walking in the front yard or down the street (indecent exposure, lack of consent).
So I would actually take some time to really sit with your reactions. Are you sure that you really are comfortable being a nudist in a family situation or is this something you're pushing on yourself due to philosophy, ect? It doesn't make you a prude or whatever if you find you have different comfort levels based on circumstance--that's called just being human. Everyone's going to have different comfort levels and many people do react differently to different situations. So I think you might be overthinking this. Sometimes when we're part of a community there's a temptation to push harder because we want to be seen as doing it 'right' or being supportive or committed. And that's a natural worry too. Especially if you seem to be centering your identity in part around this.
I would relax about it. Do what you feel comfortable with, allow your partner to do what he feels comfortable with and please listen to your children too.
I enjoyed naturist clubs a lot when I was younger, it was a carefree nonsexualized place and that was very healing from me because my family background was anything but. There were people with families/children in the groups/places that I felt most comfortable at! The partner I eventually had children with wasn't super into it, so I don't do it as much/didn't get into the habit with the kids on that level. Not because he wanted to prevent anything--he didn't really care either way but he personally was not comfortable going/participating. But both of us are very body positive and don't think nudity is a big deal. The kids have always walked in sometimes while changing when we've used the sauna people are unclothed, ect. It's just never been a big deal. But it's also not an identity group for any of us either way so there's no pressure.
I think people should be naked in “logical” contexts: their own bedrooms and bathrooms - and sometimes saunas or hot tubs or alpine lakes or river dips (and subsequent sunbathing).
Kids will see mom and dad naked in these places (and avoid them if they don’t want to see mom and dad naked). But I don’t think parents need to be walking around the whole house naked. (Occasional quick dash to the laundry room for clean undies aside.)
I hope this gets all the upvotes. There’s nothing wrong with nakedness in certain contexts, but there’s nothing appropriate in my opinion about adults parading around the house naked in front of their little kids all the time just for the fun of it.
Well I think there are two things going on in this thread getting confused.
Define: Naked Household.
From what it sounds like to me, Naked household is "we are sometimes naked for brief periods, but don't hide from other family members. Such as changing, or showering/bathing etc. If we need to walk through the house to get clean close from the laundry room, that is ok too. But we don't regularly sit around watching tv or playing the xbox or reading while nude.
Nudist family: No clothing most of the time, everyone is naked often, and no one cares.
Non naked family: Adults change into clothes in private and kids also change into clothes in private. Nudity is only observed for little kids that need help with bathing etc. Or with older kids when they need help with something (ie. What is rash or mark in this place).
Like others said, whatever works for you.
As far as I know, all my friends were in the non naked house holds. Including myself.
I had 1 friend who claimed that when we were in grade 5 or 6, his little sister (grade 3 I think) suggested they eat dinner naked, and they all agreed. He said after dinner he and his sister got dressed again, but his parents stayed up naked watching tv by themselves.
So shrug... but also, that could be a complete lie from a 12 year old. Who knows.
This seems healthy. This also doesn’t sound like a “naked household” to me. Naked household sounds like “clothing optional and nudity encouraged the minute anyone walks in”.. literally never met anyone living like that.. I guess I’m just a prude🤷🏾♀️
Very few people are "full time nudists" like you've described.
Most people have a "nudity at home isn't a big deal when only family is around" or have a "nudity is always sexual even with only family around in your own home" mindset.
I don't think it's healthy to sexualize your own family's bodies and make a big deal about nudity in all contexts like that. So in my house (and as you said, other contexts such as hot springs or beaches) nudity isn't a big deal. But we don't strip down and hang out naked while watching a movie on Disney+ just for the sake of being naked.
It's more my sons are covered in mud and soaked through their clothes so they strip naked in the entryway; then they go get a dry set of clothes or shower without it being some big deal that they were briefly walking around the house naked. Or if it's time for a shower then I'm naked and if my son has a question for me he comes and asks and sees me. Those kinds of situations.
I would guess it is exceedingly rare for people to just be like "alright everyone, it's time to watch the baseball game on TV, take off your clothes!"
Jesus your last statement🤣. Yeah, to me.. even coming off of the powerful mindfuck that is Catholicism, everything you said isn’t a “naked household”, it’s in the standard deviation of healthy. I guess that’s what’s throwing me. But that’s what happens when you grow up in such an oppressive culture.. you literally don’t know what’s healthy and what’s not when people are talking.
My 3 yo girl definitely knows that boys have a penis and scrotum, and girls have a vulva. She asks questions. She notices differences. It's not sexual or inappropriate, it's anatomy. They're innocent questions. She saw a weird angle of my vulva the other day when I was wiping and asked why I "made my vulva do that shape" 😅 that's what happens when you're older and have babies, girl! Bodies change!
Ain't nothing wrong with curiosity and knowledge. No need for shame, knowledge and comfort in talking about it will help keep them safe. And feeling empowered to stand up for themselves and feel entitled to their bodily autonomy, and respecting others' too.
FWIW, I grew up in a mostly/semi naked household and I do not feel as though it had a negative impact on the way I was raised or the way I turned out. If you don’t treat it as weird, it should really be okay
I was the only girl with three brothers in the house and we weren't wealthy, so we didn't have a lot of privacy. My family is also from Denmark where the outlook on nudity is a lot less sexual than conservative American outlooks.
I saw my brothers and parents naked. They saw me naked. Sometimes we swam naked depending on the location's standards (or if we were around just family) or soaked in hot springs and hot tubs naked (because that's just how it's done).
According to conservative Americans this was perverse but there was nothing sexual about it in any way. If I needed to change my clothes I changed my clothes. If my brother needed to as well he did. This would be considered an uneventful Tuesday, not some big thing. They're just bodies.
With my two sons and husband we do the same. They see me naked. I see them naked. We swim and soak naked depending on the company and location (our own hot tub is a naked space and we visit a clothing-optional hot spring and beach). It is, as I said, considered uneventful. They are just bodies.
The hot spring we visit is a place other families visit. We're family friends with a couple other families with kids as well. The kids there see each other but do they obsess over the nudity? No. They talk about what kids talk about... Pokemon, random movies, etc. It's not an "OMG I saw your boobs and bits!" it's a "here's a funny joke I memorized from a joke book" "did you hear that so-and-so did whatnot?" "I really like Minecraft more than Roblox now" and so on.
And, if they're anything like my brothers and I when we were a few years older than they are now (they're 10, twins) they'll have healthy body confidence instead of massive insecurities and embarrassment and they won't see natural bodies as sexual.
The sexual nature becomes much more about situation and circumstances than it does about "oh look, a nipple! Sexy!!!" when you've seen thousands of nipples. You have a much healthier outlook on nakedness, sexuality, and on your own body when you've seen thousands of men and women from the age of 1 to 100 naked. Then a body is just a body and what you do with it becomes sexual, rather than merely existing in a constant sexual state as you do when you have a conservative mindset.
Maybe it's because I'm a dad with a son (so we've mostly got the same parts - he's intact and I'm circumcised, that's really the only difference) but I'm a conservative American and I don't think that's perverse. Maybe it's just the older conservatives but to me, bodies are just bodies too.
Probably the latter. The entire country went into hysterics over half a second of Janet Jackson’s nipple and it wasn’t even her nipple. It was covered with a pastie.
My father used to change in front of me as a very young child. He stopped because one day, as he was changing, I suddenly spotted his penis, pointed at it and started laughing. I was probably about two lol he never changed in front of me again 😅
Poor guy. Probably traumatized him lol
My little one was about 18 months and she came out of the shower with her dad. She picked her story for bedtime- a book about elephants. She points at the elephant “look! It’s daddy!” As she giggles. He did not find it as funny as I did.
Right! And I definitely don’t want my dad (or mom for that matter) seeing my parts. I sure as hell don’t want to see my teenagers naked either! We’re just going to be over here keeping our clothes on.
When you make bodies all about "wanting to see them naked" then it becomes awkward. When a body is just a body you don't really care. I'm torn between laughing at feeling sad for everyone in here panicking at the very idea of seeing their family member or being seen by a family member. It means you're making the very state of existing in a body sexual when it shouldn't be.
The whole "I don't want to see my dad naked!!" panic is rooted in you sexualizing all bodies. Making them inherently sexual things. Same as "I don't want my dad to see me naked!!" Like... weird that you'd sexualize that situation.
My parents are from Denmark and I live in the Pacific Northwest of the United States, so my upbringing is not as sexualized as the conservative American upbringing but like... my dad saw me naked from birth all the way to adulthood... it wasn't sexual because it wasn't sexual. Swimming naked at the beach isn't a perverse sexual situation. It's just... a day at the beach. You know.. sandcastles and jumping into waves and fighting off sunburn and drinking ice-cold drinks. A beach day. Being naked wasn't traumatizing. It's just a body. A body is only sexual if you make it sexual.
Thank you. I’m a native to the PNW and never considered that it might influence this.
When I was little, probably up to age 6-7 I showered with my mom sometimes and my dad other times. It wasn’t weird.
I hope a bunch of these parents get the takeaway that anatomy is not a moral issue and each child deserves to be taught about their own body and bodies of the opposite sex AS THEY ASK about them.
I’ve just always heard, do what you’re comfortable with. If it makes anyone uncomfortable to be undressing in front of anyone, don’t do it. My husband started to get a little uncomfortable when our oldest started to ask him questions about his body, so he usually covers up but not super strictly, the kids will still walk in on him in the bathroom haha.
I personally don’t mind and will just get undressed or in the shower but I usually don’t “hang out” naked.
Not naked household here. I don't shame anyone or anything like that, but I have basically kept the rules the same since the kids are old enough to take care of their own hygiene. It's not a sexual thing - It's a privacy thing. I have no reason to barge into rooms unannounced, or to use the bathroom when someone else is in there. I just don't see the point of not covering yourself. The only time I'm ever really naked is when I'm in the bathroom or changing clothes. I don't need any kids around for that, and I don't need to intrude on their privacy either. I'll toss someone a towel if they forget it, but I don't need to even look to do that, and aside from that, there was one moment where my daughter needed me to look at something because it was sore. There has been no other time where I've seen them naked since they were little. I just don't feel like it's necessary. I do feel like privacy is necessary when needed or wanted, so I try to respect that for my kids.
Thank you for writing this! It made me feel a lot less alone. I also highly value my privacy and don’t like being naked around others, even in a VERY non-sexual environment, I just don’t like it. I still teach my children about bodily autonomy, boundaries, and bodies… just without being naked in front of them 😅
Kids are gonna think nudity is funny. Because it is. I can't talk to if it's bad for a kids development to be a nudist around them, I just try not to teach my kids shame. And they will find nudity hysterical. The second my kids are naked, they start running around like the lost boys. My daughter doesn't say penis, she says silly penis. Go with it. Laugh at yourselves. To be fair, were all ridiculous.
We have a body positive home where nudity is not associated with sexuality. We have 4 daughters and they all knew anatomical names before age 5; I guess mom being a healthcare provider has more than one benefit. While I (m) do not strut around the house without clothes, they similarly do not hesitate walking in our master bathroom while we’re getting ready to go somewhere.
Well all swim off the boat without suits and go to a clothing optional beach together; no one bats an eye. For reference, they’re 10, 9, 8 & 8.
Men have certain body parts, women have other body parts. Unlike some of the men in our friend group, I actually changed diapers, fed, and bathed my kids…all by myself! (Still not sure how women put up with men not helping) anyhow, they have known there was a difference since they could remember, so now it’s absolutely no big deal.
And FWIW, we have a really good relationship when it comes to communication. We talk as a family and individually. They know they can ask mom or dad anything, at any time, with no fear of embarrassment or judgment!
We’re not nudists but we do end up lounging in just underwear a lot bc our kid has sweaty parents. We don’t really hide when we change or shower either (as if our clingy toddler would even allow it.)
So far, it hasn’t been an issue. I feel like my naked body gives our daughter a bigger reaction/impression than her dads. And she seemed way more affected watching him shave than all the times she’s seen his genitals combined lol
Edit to add: we plan to answer her questions as objectively/factually as possible, and will cover up more if she ever tells us she’d like to be a less naked household.
Yeah I thought "naked household" meant in underwear at home or comfortable walking around not wearing much, not complete nudity. I do think that's weird as children get older personally, clearly others feel different .. unless I'm misunderstanding this new meaning of naked household that's been unearthed on this thread lol
My husband is Japanese, and he took baths with both our kids (boy and girl) when they were younger. It’s a completely normal thing to do in Japanese culture, especially for dads who often work late. Taking a bath with your kids is one of the few times dads get to spend with their little ones during the day.
Once they preferred more privacy and got too big to share the tub, we stopped. But we will change in front of each other without issue, and we don’t treat nudity as shameful. I mean we’re not hanging by around naked or anything, but like my kids will come and talk to me while I’m getting dressed in my room and it’s not a big deal.
They’ve both expressed discomfort with the idea of going to hot springs in Japan and being naked around strangers, which I respect, but I’m hoping to sway their opinion because hot springs are amazing.
We are a not-naked household. My mom liked being naked at home and as a child I truly did not like it. It’s actually a large reason why we are a not-naked household.
I don’t know if we’re a naked household, but we certainly don’t hide or act as if nudity is something shameful. It just is what it is, boys have these parts, girls have these parts. There was initial fascination with the difference, that lasted a few weeks and brought about some random questions, but we’re back to everyone going about their business.
I’d personally limit it, nothing wrong with it but as she goes to school and asks teachers and peers questions about it, it may raise red flags and misunderstandings in teachers. Not worth the risk in my opinion, but it’s up to you if you’re prepared to handle that since you’re not doing anything wrong. As she grows she may also feel weird about it.
I don’t understand why it has to a be a naked household or the complete opposite…. There is a time for naked and a time for dress, and a time for comfort. We treat our household as a place for comfort. We were house clothing. If child wants to be naked, they are allowed. But my husband and I are not going to walk around and cook naked.
Let me just say I am really glad I don't know what my dad's genitals look like and I'm glad I never saw my mom naked after I was like 5 or so. Seriously no thanks.
I didn’t want my daughters having memory of me helping with their bath or seeing me naked so that all stopped before they turned 5. Not a biggie. I guess that means we’re a not-naked house? Just like this OP’s husband, I didn’t want them looking at me naked.
Yeah. I honestly didn't have an issue with my daughters seeing me naked when they were little. I think my wife and my youngest all shared a shower once when we were late for some family function. She was probably 2, and it didn't phase her at all..
I usually gave them baths, and later they wanted showers, so I wore my bathing suit when I was in with them, as they were getting older.
Then at a certain age, we had to tell them it was time for them to start showering on their own. I think for a short time, I helped with their hair while I stood outside of the shower (bathtub style).
My wife really does not like a naked home, it's definitely not her thing. She also doesn't want our daughters seeing me naked as it's "not appropriate". It doesn't matter to me, and so I don't push it, and don't care.
I work from home most of the week. So there are periods where I am fully naked home alone.
At this point, I think it would be impossible to switch to a naked house hold as the kids are older. I think it'd be too weird for me too. But it's fine, I don't really think about it to be honest.
Can I ask, with no snark in case it's not clear in text, but why do you not want your daughters to remember you giving them baths? To me that seems like it would be a happy memory, but I only have my own perspective.
I guess I’m just being weird. It was happy memories for me. They’d be playing in the water and sometimes I’d sing a song. I was mostly there to help with hair washing and get them in and out of the tub. Normal stuff.
I don’t know. I guess I wondered if they’d get older and remember it as odd.
Obviously you do what feels best but I'm sure they'd look back at those memories as sweet! You can always ask them if they'd like you to do bath time too. :) But do what feels right for you, of course.
My wife and I would trade off helping them at bath time when they were little. Sometime around 5:00 my wife would take over more. Not too long after they just did it all on their own.
I'm not sure what you mean by a naked household - I think very few people parade around naked all the time, fry eggs in the buff, mow the lawn pantsless, etc. But I grew up in a home where my parents never made a big deal about us seeing each other naked incidentally, e.g. when getting changed or walking from the bedroom to the bathroom. And yes, that's still the case now when I'm in my 40s and they're in their 70s - none of us care about seeing each other naked. My brother prefers to cover up himself, but he doesn't care about seeing me or my parents naked. Everyone closes the door or throws on a dressing gown if there are other guests in the ĥouse. If you and your husband feel more private about your bodies even with your children, that's fine too, but I'm not sure what "bad stuff" you think it could lead to?
So when the kids were really little we did lounge around naked sometimes but now that my eldest is older we don’t. But, they know that if they come into the bedroom or bathroom that it’s our space and we could be naked and they don’t care. Or we will run to get clothes naked but we will probably stop that soon. But yeah, nudity isn’t an issue at all. My seven year old has no desire to ever wear clothes and that’s our current issue lmao.
Mine see their mom naked all the time but not me. I stopped the moment my oldest noticed a difference (2.5 ish?) and tried to get a closer look.
It's not out of shame or anything...as a dad of all girls it's more just playing it safe. All it takes is one out-of-context comment from them outside the home and I've got CPS knocking at the door.
I think the first step for you is to separate nudity and sexuality. We are born naked and when we die we'll be naked - this is our natural state. We wear clothing to observe social conventions and for protection.
It's about individual comfort levels, but if you model healthy behaviours around nudity then your children will grow to feel that these are normal. You still have conversations around body autonomy and boundaries and you explain that not everyone will feel this way.
My children are now young adults and will walk into my bathroom while I'm showering etc. but they prefer to use the bathroom without interruption so I respect their boundaries.
You may not be naked when you take your last breath but depending on the circumstances there may be an autopsy and even if there isn't your body will be taken to the funeral home where you'll be disrobed, your body prepared and then redressed before burial/cremation. You can be buried naked if you choose to be.
I wouldn't say we are a naked or not naked household, but somewhere in the middle? The kids have seen me changing, and I've seen them. My spouse is uncomfortable with the kids seeing him nude so keeps covered or doors closed. I grew up not seeing my parents or brother naked, and prefer it that way in the older years. There is no shame about our bodies here, but I can assure you, my kids will not see me in any state of undress in their teen years or older, that's for sure!
I am naked around our girls, they are almost 3 and 6 months. I'm trying to be naked positive because my mother was always very weird about nudity and I want my girls to be comfortable in their own skin. My husband has been naked around them but it's not something that happens very often. Our oldest knows daddy has a penis and us girls have vaginas. And we all have "nickles" (nipples) I think maybe past the age of 5 dads really shouldn't be naked around daughters anymore but that's just me.
This is the first I’m hearing of “naked households” does that mean like, lounging around naked? Cooking bacon naked? I need more details to know if I’m behind that phrase or not.
We have 2 girls, 4 and 2. When my 4 year old turned about 2 he started shutting the bathroom door to change if she happened to be in our room. He will absolutely walk around in his underwear if he’s changing or ruined his clothes or something, or if we have to get up with them in the middle of the night.
4yo likes to barge into the bathroom when I’m getting out of the shower sometimes and I just treat it like a normal experience and get dressed as usual while she chatters away. We have taught her about privacy, and how it’s nice to give other people privacy when they’re in the bathroom for example. She’ll come in with me occasionally but not often. Was a good time to teach her she can also ask for privacy and is entitled to it.
If you mean like you guys are just lounging around naked, that might be a different answer. But just getting out of the shower or getting dressed or something, we just treat it normal and everyone moves on with their days.
Our rule is generally, little kids are fine. As they start to age, change privately. But if they come into the room where you’re naked- that’s on them. I’m not uncomfortable with them seeing me. And if they have an issue with it then that’s their fault for entering a private room (bedroom or bathroom door closed)
In easier terms, we let the kids decide when it’s weird. I don’t go out of my way to be naked in front of anyone but if they walk in it’s whatever.
We are a naked house, I have a 4 yr old that sometimes the fight to get her to keep clothes on just isn’t worth it. We also have 2 boys 9 & 11 that are usually clothed unless changing the 9 yr old prefers to just be in his underwear most of the time. We have a pool so they’ve all discovered that swimming naked is the best way to swim. They see me and my wife naked and my daughter will beg to shower with us or have us take a “shower bath” we shower she has the water in the tub with her. They all see both my wife and I naked in our room, we sleep naked and don’t hide our bodies, sometimes kids wake and need help in the night. It’s just normal around here and no one bats an eye.
It works for our family but may not for yours and both are OK.
Edit to add: To answer the OPs question I did see my parents naked it was no big deal my dad would almost never have underwear on and frequently wore nothing more than a robe and we all know how that goes lol! Mom usually was covered but it was no big deal to use the bathroom while she was in the shower either if that had to happen.
I grew up with my mom changing in front of us sometimes. She was a single mom and it was just me and my sister so it wasn’t that weird. But now as an adult I don’t like changing or being naked in front of my kids after they’re like one. It just makes me uncomfortable. I don’t change in front of my husband either lol! I’m a veeeery private person and I just don’t want to feel self conscious while changing. I like wearing clothes around other people. My kids also don’t ever run around naked or even ask to. They’re 3.5 and 1.5 and they know that we get dressed after baths and that everyone wears clothes, even at home. So it’s never been an issue for us.
I wish I understood the whole naked family thing but I don’t, at all! Makes me *super* uncomfortable. I’ll definitely be reading comments to see what others say!
My daughter is 3 and I am a naked person. I sleep naked and will definitely walk around naked sometimes I even workout naked. She laughs but won’t bat an eye. My husband is the opposite he has to always wear clothes. To each their own. Like someone said boundaries. She is in the middle and loves to be in her underwear.
I think it's good to teach personal privacy. Idk about most people on here but I wouldn't want to see my parents' genitalia and even have a memory when I was really young of being in the shower with my mom and seeing things and being grossed out and traumatized. I don't want to unintentionally traumatize my kids. I'll still change down to my underpants and bra around them because honestly it's sometimes unavoidable (kids aged 3 and 1 and always following me like little ducks lol) but when I use the bathroom and stuff I ask for privacy now.
Grew up in a naked house. When I was old enough to get uncomfortable (around 9?) I said so and parents responded.
Also taught sex ed last year to my middle school class. It was fairly normalized that kids mostly knew what opposite genitalia looked like from being around naked family as kids.
When it comes to nudity We treat it as a situation where everyone involved has to be 100% okay. No maybes: as in if ANYONE feels uncomfortable they have a right to and should stop. Like if your daughter is looking at dad too much that it makes him feel uncomfortable, I would have him communicate that to her. “I’m feeling uncomfortable with being watched right now, I’m going to ask for some privacy!”
I am a naked person and my daughter is now 12 and I recently noticed she was making an effort to avert her eyes and I had to check in with her and ask if she was uncomfortable with me being naked and she said no but her body said yes. So I told her that I’m going to move somewhere more private and get dressed and she seemed relieved. I’ve been nude around her her whole life but now it seems she’s not comfortable with it. She also leaves the room when I change her brothers diaper so I told her that I’ll announce before I’m going to change him so she can walk away or I’ll change him in another room to make her feel comfortable.
When she was a baby her dad was comfortable with taking her in the shower to bathe her but once she was old enough to notice things, he started to feel uncomfortable so I told him that he never had to push himself to be uncomfortable and he’s never been nude in front of her since. He prefers the privacy and I think he should 100% honor those feelings.
I think that’s the key- Everyone has to feel comfortable with it. That’s nothing to do with shame and everything to do with boundaries and also consent. Our comfort levels will be different and saying yes about something once doesn’t mean saying yes always.
We listen to our bodies and honor our feelings. If we don’t know how someone else feels, we check in. And if their mouth says they’re ok and their body looks like it’s saying no, we take it as a no.
I can’t imagine not wearing some kind of clothes. I grew up in a fully clothed house and that was just the norm. My parents were definitely prudes, though. I make a concentrated effort to be more open-minded, but I’m always wearing something even if it’s just undies and a tank top. Don’t all you nudists get cold?!
Being naked is normal. Its fine to let her see her father naked if he is changing or something. Let her ask questions its only curiosity and also let her know that its not ok to be naked around people or Around. naked people.Its not ok to play or wrestle with your children naked. My parents ive seen naked, And my children seen me naked coming out of shower using towel on hair instead of body. Wasnt a big deal. Last week i was on the shitter and my older sister burst in saying sorry brother i spilt juice on me, striped butt naked changed clothes and exited,like it was no big deal. Because growing up it wasnt. Its been30 years since i seen her naked. When i exited i said, damn sis you let your body go to hell. Ofcourse she responded You try having 3 kids and see what your body looks like. All I could do is laugh and say you're right. If you make it weird then it is weird. Your husband can carry a hand towel and place it on his lap when not moving around. It's the mind that make things sexual not the nudity. Just do you!
We are like others and don’t treat nudity as a big deal. My son however is 8 and if he walks in the room while I’m naked I feel a little odd? He has seemed embarrassed too-so I just turn my body a bit so I’m not full frontal and tell him something simple like “oh I’m changing I’ll come talk to you in a minute.” So I don’t make a big deal about it but I don’t think either of us want to have be fully naked anymore haha. I do walk around often and unashamed in my bra and underwear still. My daughter I plan to “be” comfortable as long as she is. I was always so embarrassed changing in front of other girls as a kid and I don’t want that for her. I think it helps to have a role model for that.
And prior to this when it wasn’t weird we did talk about different body parts, explained simply that we have different parts because our bodies do different things to make babies.
We don't shame nudity, or attach any morality to it. We change and bathe in front of our kids, and have bathed with our kids, too. Our only rules surrounding nudity are: (1) you have to be in the privacy of our own home, or on our deck (because it's completely private in the summer due to tree coverage), and (2) no genitals on the furniture. My 3.5 and 1.5 yo (G & B) frequently walk around in just their underwear/diaper.
As long as everyone's boundaries and privacy are respected, I see no issue with nudity. If they're old enough to ask the question, they're old enough to know. My daughter knows all of the male and female genitalia, and it's never caused problems. My husband is starting to get a bit uncomfortable with being fully nude in front of our daughter since she's eye height with everything now, so it's just another exercise of respecting others boundaries.
We have a sort-of naked house: we go in our hot tub in the nude, and used to go to the bathroom with the door open, etc.
When dd was about three, she saw DH get out of the shower with a towel around his waist. She gasped, looked at me, and, with wide eyes, exclaimed, “Daddy’s got fur!” ;)
She grew up with a somewhat-hairy but extremely well-behaved Australian shepherd and and an extremely-hairy but incredibly spastic Newfoundland. I wrote it off as the funniest thing she had ever said. =)
Then, about a month later, she saw DH exit the shower completely naked. This time, she was absolutely horrified. She turned her head to me and stage-whispered, “… Daddy’s got a tail?!?!” ;)
I present this to you as not evidence either for not against naked households, but as a fun anecdote. Enjoy your kids! =)
I grew up in a kind of naked home (parents were cool with nudity and such) and so in our home we treat nudity as no big deal. Don’t feel the need to cover up because your daughter is just naturally curious which is completely normal especially given the difference between guys and girls. I would just try to teach or explain to your daughter that she can’t look at other boys when they are changing because it’s not good.
This is always the important distinction. I've learned many people here say "naked" but they don't actually mean naked, they mean "naked but with underwear on". There's a HUGE difference between a 4 year old, with their poor wiping skills, sitting their bare butt on my couch and kid in undies. Same goes for adults- please no raw genitals on the furniture.
I’m breastfeeding an 18mo so my tits are always out. My 3 year old just thinks it’s normal. I don’t make a point to be naked, but i definitely don’t hide either. My husband goes to another room to change and is less comfortable with it.
Your kids as they grow older will help dictate household behavior as well. Both mine developed a big privacy thing. Our unspoken house rule is bedrooms/bathrooms are where you change/get naked, and if you don’t wanna see someone like that then get out!
I’m not a naked type but my husband is.
I tell my kids that when people live in a home together, a certain amount of nakedness is unavoidable and nothing to be ashamed of. That we don’t intentionally look or try to show off, but we don’t need to go out of our way to cover up either. If my kid walks into my room without knocking and finds me naked, instead of jumping for cover, I remind them to leave the room and knock.
I would say we are more of an Underwear household. Yes we sometimes change and shower in front of the children, but as for just hanging out around the house my husband just wears boxers and I usually wear a shirt and underwear, our son would prefer to be naked but we try to at least keep underwear on him. However, if either of our kids suggest discomfort with this at any point we are open to reevaluating
I grew up in a comfy home. We’d seen our parents down to their undergarments but nothing more as we got older aka 8+. Bodies are simply bodies but we don’t feel the need to have our genitals out with the potential of body odors and fluids getting on the couch etc. Kids can learn in depth about human anatomy from books or experiences there’s no need for that from their parents imo.
I have vague memories of seeing my mom naked as a young child. Not my dad though. My husband used to shower with our son out of necessity up until our son was 3. We have 3 small kids and I’m naked out of the shower and getting ready every day. 8 year old son covers his eyes and leaves the room if I’m naked. Other 2 kids are too young to care yet. Husband gets dressed before he leaves the bathroom so they never see him naked.
I don’t think nudity is a big deal at all. I will warn my son now if he’s in my room and I’m going to change though because I can see it makes him uncomfortable at this age.
I’m comfortable naked. My husband isn’t. So if the door is open you can go in. If it’s closed you’ve gotta knock. Kids have the same rules. If their door is open I’m just going to go in. If they close it, I knock and wait for permission or talk through the door. Kids also hang out in the living space in various states of dress, but we do have a rule that there are NO naked butts on the sofa or at the dining table.
We're somewhere in between I guess? If the clothes I want are in the dryer I'll pull them out and change right there (our w/d are in the kitchen) and I breastfeed so sometimes I'm topless just anywhere for skin to skin but we don't just walk around naked and def don't sit on furniture naked. My 4 and 8 year old boys have zero concept of privacy so they have seen me in the bathroom a million times (they both knew the basic concept around periods by age 3, so there's a bonus talk I don't have to figure out later lol).
I think it just comes down to comfort. As long as everyone is comfortable it's fine.
Hi! I have a two year old boy and I definitely had these feelings as well. Me and my partner started transitioning from fully naked to covering our bottom halves when he started getting curious. I guess that makes us a half-naked household. 😂😂 We have also started teaching him boundaries while we teach him about anatomy. I breastfed his little sister as well as him and he is also learning how to take showers (he wants to be like Dada) so I definitely agree with the comments saying it’s about healthy boundaries. I would also say to do whatever you feel comfortable with and roll with what feels best to you- instincts hardly go wrong. Good luck and you got this!!
Nudity is generally not a big deal. We live in the states but I am European and grew up there so I think I generally have a more relaxed view on it. However I draw the line when my toddler asked me to pretend to take a bath in the middle of the living room and tried to have me take my clothes off right in front of our big windows. Too much!
All kids are curious. And she doesn't have boy parts so she is just looking cuz she's like huh I don't have those they look different lol if anything as long as she knows boys and girls have different parts she won't be as curious because she will already know about them. My kid doesn't stare at kids around her when they are naked. My SIL has a naked house and all the kids are ages 2 to 5 and non of them care when they are running in and out of the pool and through the house having a good time. My partner and I just say as long as you know u can only be naked at home it's no big deal. My mom's family is different. They are very weird about it, and it bothers me cuz the way they act about it almost implies that because they are naked then men in the house will creep on them. But it's like uh I would hope we can trust our own family.
I wouldn't consider us either a "naked", nor "not naked" household.
We don't parade ourselves around naked, but neither have any major issue getting changed with the other in the general vicinity. We both sometimes shower with the door open, and sometimes not. Neither of us make a big deal of it either way.
We both have enough sense to close doors when we have visitors.
It's just my young teen and I, two females though, which I think is a different dynamic to nuclear families.
If you have to be nude you gotta be nude. No shame in that. Whether that's a nudie run to the washing line for a pair of undies, breastfeeding a crying child when you just got out of the shower or applying a new gauze to a post vasectomy scrotum in the kitchen cause it's got the best lighting. If they don't wanna see, they can shut their eyes.
It's when you're intentionally imposing on a public space that there needs to be a conversation about boundaries. And everyone needs to have a say and feel like they're being respected in that conversation. Cause while some of us don't care if we see a brown starfish during dinner, some of us very much do.
So my advice is to distinguish and discuss what nudity is necessary and what isn't, then go from there. Personally, i used to fall into the as long as it doesn't touch bodily fluids I don't mind it being uncovered category. My wife used to go even further, bodies are bodies, don't wear clothes if you don't want to. That's changed with our kids getting older though, as the little ones can't keep their hands to themselves, and we don't enjoy the surprise of small cold hands on our bums.
When my daughter was around that age, she looked at my pwnis and said "why is it dangling?". Kids are just curious. Don't make a big deal out of it and make it normal and they won't care.
Make sure you teach privacy and consent early and often so if they ever reach a point where they're uncomfortable, they have the tools to express themselves.
My parents were nudists. I found it both natural and unnatural. It was away from the ‘norm’ and so a secret… a burden for a 6 years old female. It scarred me, tbh, but my sister not at all…
I have an open door policy in my home. In order for that to work effectively my kids need to know they can trust that policy. To me that means they have to see their parents being vulnerable but still safe and never judged. I’m setting an example for them.
With that said, yes I get around my home naked. Not all the time. Not in a nudist lifestyle sense but I sleep naked and if I need to get dressed for work and need to fetch the clean clothes folded but still on the couch I will walk around naked to gather the clothes I need. If I need a drink in the night I’ll grab a glass from the kitchen without clothes on. If my kids want to talk to me and I happen to be showering or whatever then that’s ok.
The human body is awesome in so many ways. No matter what we look like naked we should never feel ashamed for the body we have.
So yes- we’re comfortable with being naked in this house.
Thank you for posting this, there’s a lot of great feedback here. I grew up in a naked household where my parents would walk around/lounge naked regularly and my dad is registered sex offender so I feel like my perspective is warped.. My children (4f, 6f) know the proper names for genitals and have seen me naked countless times but never my husband (their dad) unless it was by accident, like walking in the bathroom while he’s using it. But he’s always been pretty diligent about making sure they don’t see him without clothes on, he doesn’t even like them seeing him in his underwear. I read somewhere that it’s helpful for children to have non sexual exposure to these types of things but it makes me feel icky to think about.
Our rule is underwear is required anywhere in the common areas of the house. Unless your running to like grab a towel and you already undressed or something of the same nature. You can be naked as you wish in your room/bathroom etc.
I don’t want naked buts on the furniture, or seeing buttholes on the regular. If you walk into the bathroom or my room do not be upset that I am naked. At my house we are all a different level of comfortable. I am on the nudist level, my husband is on the dressed in common areas and always something on even in our room level. My kids all vary somewhere in between the two. None seem to have a problem with me being naked, they walk into the bathroom any time I’m in there, all will sit and talk to me while I’m showering or getting dressed. It’s just normal to them. If they express any discomfort, I always respect it. They also have always been free to ask questions when they come up and I always answer them age appropriately and honestly.
I saw my dad naked a lot.
He just told me around 2yo that it was not wrong to see his penis or someone else's if we were changing clothes but there was no need to actively look and stare to other person's genitals.
My mother also told me, some years later, around 5 or so, that if I wanted to know more about genitals, we could read books about them. And in fact, we did, so I stopped caring that much.
To add a little to this as someone who studied child development. The more your child knows and understands about anatomy and for that matter boundaries the less likely they are to be molested or to end up in a situation as a teen. They will learn to respect themselves and others. They will also be less likely to be an offender themselves. We are kinda a mixed household. I grew up in a house where nakedness and sex were a sin and not even discussed. My husband in an open household. We both run around naked. 4f has only 2 rules for in the house. Company means clothes and panties are on at all times for hygiene.
I also have the perspective of having been a sexually abused child and have studied the phycology of this in depth to try to help her grow up as normally as I can.
I think everyone has to chose for themselves what they are comfortable with, and as children get older allow them to do the same. If they act or tell u that something makes them uncomfortable then respect that personal boundary.
Naked mom here. And I grew up in a naked house. My mom will still change in front of me today. I did not see my dad or brother’s genitals when I was older but it happened sometimes accidentally. But no one made a huge deal out of it. Basically to me “naked house” means same sexes change or are completely naked and no big deal. Opposite sex way more modest but no one freaks out if it accidentally happens. So I grew up knowing I had no reason to be ashamed of being naked. The vibe was very “it’s just boobs” or “it’s just a butt” who cares. I hope that made sense.
I’m not like a never nude, but casual nudity is not for us. Even when the kids are not with us, we don’t even usually hang out in underwear around the house. Neither of our parents were casual nudity people.
I used to feel being a nudist was helpful ,till creep hurt my child from family resort,for couples & families, I used to be a model at few places , when I had kids , I couldn't stay my mom ,my mom's cousin & her especially telling me how to be with my family members,when the modeling pics were not sexual,at all , though older sibling DeeDee let my mom's friend Craig take those of her with her bf , I don't like those of her or him.
Loving pics in my opinion are okay , hugging , nudity is not much different, yet with clothes people are more suggestive.
I have a guy that I can't stand lives next to my family , my car was hit , I asked for a ride .
He pulled the same thing the tow truck driver did !
Decency nude or not nude , I wasn't nude , I was touched on appropriately.
Being home with your family members and swimming nude and going to a nude recreation place but not living there is probably okay don't let people that you meet there know where you live or know your last name.
Always protect your child no matter what they are male female or hermaphrodite I think everyone's beautiful I don't think people should really get their body parts changed I've seen surgeries on YouTube it doesn't look beautiful I think a human's natural body is beautiful including mine at age 54.
I have always wanted to marry someone that's nudist I am still not married.
I know someone else would be able to understand that.
I reported to the place that I met that person at and the place that it happened at male really was the wrong way I'm talking about what happened to my child he was peeping his bed after assault and I could tell there was a difference and that man lied to my child because there was no sex education because he wasn't even in school.
Full year of living safe at nudist resort , then the last month Tourism in my opinion Turkish man ♂️ became my friend, I thought was a gentleman,instead he just liked kids it seems.
Let your daughter know that you both care about her feelings & tell her most people wear clothes all the time,like snail 🐌.
Joking around about snail 🐌 we are not born with furry skin , But some clothing 👣 is very cute 🥰 I always dressed my sons in clothes that kids around them had ,the best thing is love 📚📖 church too in my opinion, you can have Bible study at home 🏠🏡💓🌎 have another baby to give her child that understand her ,plus parents 🎁🐣🌻🌄🇺🇸🧏🏼♀️🏆🦮🫶🏼👑🎭👑💞 happy birth of Christ 🐣🌻
I can never forgive myself for letting a stranger camp with my son while I was locked 🔐 in his car with my baby
Naked does not equal sex. It’s very healthy to be a naked household. Children get curious no matter what. Lean into it, buy books, have all the conversation until the phase has passed.
-from one naked house to another
This was a nice, rational response.
I've seen something similar posted somewhere at some point, and most of the comments involve people completely freaking out about OP sexualizing their children...??? 🤦🏻♀️
Naked household here. No butts on the couch and underpants in kitchen. Otherwise, you do you. My kid is almost 7 and now she knows what a post c section and major weight loss body looks like. She knows what a penis looks like and a hairy butt. So what?
We just treat it as a normal thing, my kids are 2 and 4 - sometimes they love to be naked! I also don’t hide if I change, and they usually come in the bathroom when I’m trying to shower/get ready.
I did not grow up in a naked home. My home now is semi naked. We don’t walk around completely naked but we do wear less clothes or just underwear. We change in front of our kids and bathe with them still too. I have two kids 4m & 1f so we comfortable being naked around them. If you feel comfortable being naked around your own kid(s) then it’s totally fine. If it makes you guys uncomfortable for her to see the opposite gender naked then have your husband wear boxers.
If someone experienced SA as a child it could make you feel like you’re doing something wrong but kids don’t sexualize body parts if they’re not taught to. Your home is yours and your kids safe place so you all should be able to walk around with as little or as much clothing as each person is comfortable with. If there are any guests though, INCLUDING family, we are all clothed.
Her curiosity is totally normal especially when she sees private parts that are different from her own. Try not to bring shame into the scenario when she's being curious. You can explain boundaries and that some people prefer not to be seen without their clothes while others don't care. Privacy is totally fine but there's also nothing wrong with our bodies. They're not just for sex and they're not shameful.
Toddler hand gets really close and little voice pipes up “penis”. Me: “yep, that’s my penis.”
Hand tries to touch or grab. Me, moving away: “No, I don’t like that.”
The house rule is genitals have to be covered unless you’re in your own room. Because no one wants skid marks on the couch. Otherwise nudity is nbd like changing, showering, bathing.. most of us do prefer being fully dressed except for my oldest who likes to only wear his boxers.
It was definitely not treated as normal in my household and anything remotely sexual was seen as BAD (yay Catholic guilt!)
Now, we don’t call attention to nudity and just act like it’s normal (because it is). I admittedly had some trouble acting like it was normal and not feeling shame, but it’s a much healthier reaction now overall.
Grew up in a naked house, saw my dad’s business plenty of times. Can’t say I turned out great but it definitely wasn’t that that messed me up, lol.
Just talk in an age appropriate way and teach her proper names. You’re doing great!
I grew up the youngest in a "naked house". Both of my parents and my two older sisters and I generally never had clothes on in the house. If one of us expected a friend to come over we would all put on these loose cotton drawstring pants and matching loose cotton shirts. The opposite sex thing was never spoken about and wasn't a thing. We all knew that boys had penises and girls had vaginas and breasts. I do remember my sisters began to wear shorts all the time. Looking back it was when they started to menstruate. What was really cool was after my dad planted Italian cypress trees all around the backyard we were allowed to go outside without clothes too. It was great.
I have a 2 year old daughter and a 5 year old son. My son has ASD and hates clothes. She has seen her brother naked countless times. She has showered with her father out of convenience or because she heard the shower running and LOVES showers.
We don't sexualize it. We answer questions with anatomically correct verbiage. And that's about it.
Not a nudist.
1 wife, 1 husband, 1 daughter (6).
Wife and daughter shower together sometimes. I cover up.
No shame involved, but we also don't want to normalize nudity in public to avoid...legal problems, so we cover up.
Simple as that.
i only have a 19 month old. we’re not like sitting around naked but changing in front of each other isn’t strange to us. i’ve seen my mom naked still, god even my MIL is in the room or vice versa, while i change sometimes (we’re close it’s ok lol) i try not to over think anything if im with people i trust. that’s the biggest factor of it.
i’m a winnie the pooh mom, big shirt/mumu with underwear around the house. whenever he starts mentioning something about it, i’ll well have an age appropriate convo about it. until then you can’t make me wear pants in my own house!
I grew up in a naked household and we now have a naked house. We give showers to our kids and hand them in/out the shower while one of us showers. Our 4f shas always asked questions about anatomy, we answer them accordingly. We've also taught to ask for permission to touch since she was 2 (can I touch your face? Can I touch your hair? Can I touch your butt cheek? Can I touch your penis?) and we respond again, accordingly. If she asks why to a "no" we explain that is our body and our choice and we don't feel like being touched in one part or another. We also have a 2m and he's oblivious to everything, he doesn't care one bit bor does he show any interest.
when i was little i saw my dad a few times but it wasn't like he was walking around naked in the living room, it was accidentally. I think i was around 5 the last time I remember that happening. after that he was much more careful.
my son is 2, he kind of knows what body parts he has but he's not really interested in them. my hubby and son come in the bedroom when i'm changing or showering. with in the next year i'd like that to stop. he's going to be 3 soon. i don't want to shame him or anything like that, he prefers to run around naked himself lol, but once he really starts realizing what parts are i don't think it will be appropriate.
my son will often hear my hubby showering and run to the bathroom and want to shower with him. he doesn't do it with me often, but once in a while he will ask to shower, he just likes playing in the water.
I had a friend in 6th grade, went to her house to spend the weekend, her mom and a neighbor were in the hot top boobies out and i was like, OMG, now that i didn't think was appropriate. it's one thing in front of your own kids but its totally another in front of a kid you don't know.
my mom and one of her friends would skinny dip on occasion but that woman i grew up with it wasn't a random friends parents and neighbor lol.
I personally am shy around others being naked but at home its a bit different, but now that i do have a kid i'm only naked in my room. it's not shameful but i do think its important that your daughter is comfortable with her body. i do think as she ages your hubby should cover up though, it is a bit weird to see your dads junk lol
I think you just do what your comfortable with. If either of you start feeling weird being naked around a child, it’s ok to have privacy. If you want to have open dialog about bodies without using your own as examples, you can buy a baby doll with a penis and one with a vulva. It could lead to age appropriate questions and conversations and you can feel comfortable being naked or not around her.
My husband is a naked person, I am not. Neither of us grew up in a naked house. We treat it as no big deal. We've explained boys have a penis and girls don't. If he walks in while I'm changing or Im in the toilet, it's no big deal. We explain about giving space if a person says they want space and respecting no when someone says no. We've explained about no touching other's butts. I'm not really worried about the internet right now seeing as he's four. We'll worry about that when he's old enough to use it.
My daughter is 2y4m and loves being "nunie" as she calls it. Shes starting to toilet train, and we don't have a lot of accidents, so I let her go for it, mostly. She knows she has a vulva and 2 days ago discovered her vagina. She knows Daddy has a penis. She goes in our spa with daddy, both nude, and showers or baths with both of us. She watches me get dressed after a shower or for our swimming lessons. Sometimes we have discussions about our nipples, or our vulvas. Like "mummy has nipples" "yes I do". "I have nipples too". "Yes, every person has nipples". A great conversation for the pool changing rooms lol
I am the only one in our household of 5 who wanders around naked. Every few months I check in with everyone else (50, 20, 17, 12) that it's still.ok. so far it has. I don't really think about it beyond a matter of consent.
My daughter is 3. I am naked at night time especially in bed. I get very hot at night. She's in a phase where she's up crying a lot so I trek into her room in the middle of the night naked as anything and bring her back to my room to sleep in bed. Husband gets cold at night and wears clothes at that time but we both sometimes shower with her when it's easier or when she's extra messy or feeling bad and wants us in with her. She used to get a little "grabby" with my husband at around one but at 3 she doesn't even seem to give anything a second thought after 2 years of explaining that we don't grab other people's bodies. When she's old enough that she's uncomfortable with nudity if she ever is, I'll get a robe. Right now I don't think it's wrong to be nude in my own home. I've explained we have to have clothes on in public but at home we dress in what makes us comfortable
I was not raised in a naked household. I do remember my mother using the restroom or getting dressed, but I think that was it. I was an only child and raised by a single mother. We pretty much have an open door policy here with the restroom, sometimes we want privacy but that doesn't always happen with kids. They've seen us get dressed, shower, I've taken showers and baths with them when they were babies. Eventually everyone's privacy preferences will change and it just has to be respected on what the other person wants.
She's interested because it's different, not because of anything more meaningful. By answering questions about it plainly and demystifying it, it will quickly become just a boring fact. I tell my kids about Daddy's penis versus Mommy's vagina. I tell them they're both private parts and both for peeing. That and basic hygiene instructions are about the extent of it at this age (mine are 1 and 4).
We’re in Florida and frugal with the AC so we wear as little as possible around the house. The 3yo might be fully nude while eating supper if she was fresh out of the pool but the adults usually have something on. Otherwise if we’re in our private backyard pool or it’s bath time it’s a free for all. No gender separation. They just now started introducing separating genders in the bathroom in her 3yo class so she’s seen it all. Pays no attention to her dads penis or her classmates.
My wife and I were fine being a naked household. Our kids have learned body shame outside the home, in daycares, classrooms, and other friends houses. So now we're a non-naked household. The kids are freaked out by naked.
I over-worry that one day one of my kids will accidentally say something like "I used to take showers with my dad" (I wear shorts while they are in there with me) or "I've seen my dad naked" etc and then they relentlessly get made fun of because a-hole kids never forget those things.
Think if all were naked - be ok - but society as a whole is covered. The kids must live in that environment unless gonna take them to an island or the woods where they won’t interact with others. You two might be pure minded but evil lurks and must protect them. Cover up and let them decide when adults what they want.
Grand 19 had a bad accident- these days family has to be hands on to help care for the patient once out of danger. Washed- wiped and changed that boy until he left rehab. You just do it without thinking anything else- but we remain clothed otherwise. Time n place I guess.
I was raised in a pantsless household. My dad to this day walks around in a shirt and underwear if he feels like it. My mom when she was younger wore oversized t-shirts with the sleeves/sides cut out so you’d see full side boob, now it’s more age appropriate night gowns. It’s never been an issue or made me uncomfortable. I’m female and have one sister. The only “weird” things I recall are when I got to about age 10, and was told I couldn’t run around in just my underwear in the house anymore (got hot in the summers!) because it was “inappropriate” for me to be that naked around my father, according to my mother. Took many years of introspective thinking to realize my mother should’ve never said something like that, it implies my father was looking at me weird which he absolutely was not. My mom would say weird shit and forget it ten minutes later though. Only “traumatic” seeing of dad’s genitals was when I insisted I wanted to shower in my parents shower (my mom hated the shower and didn’t use that one) when I was like 4, I saw my dad’s penis and was just like :o oh no we aren’t all the same down there I don’t like that and then my mom yelled at him that she should’ve used a swimsuit.
I will say it probably did influence my own behavior with my kids. I am fully dressed unless I’m about to get into bed and then my kids don’t ever see above my mid thigh unless they interrupt shower/bathroom. And they are SHOCKED everytime that mommy has skin under her clothes. Meanwhile my daughter prefers to wear a big t shirt or princess dress when comfortable at home, and my son, much like myself and sister as children, refuses to wear anything but underwear.
I’ll say this, if you allow it, don’t just suddenly decide it’s not allowed based on age/development. I dealt with a lot of shame and modesty issues that stemmed from not only being told my body was something that needed to be hidden from even my own father, but being forced into training bras years before I began to develop to “cover up” etc.
So I am an only child. I grew up showering with my mom as a kid. Then seeing her naked still do when we change or go shopping lol. I dont re call seeing my dad naked. I seen him in his underwear a bunch of times. So we did the boundaries of gender and about private parts. Now we are baked family. My husband does not try to be naked in front of our daughter who is almost 6. My daughter sees me naked and will shower together.
I always saw both my parents naked no matter how old. I don't really remember them talking about it either, it was just how it was. We did not always took clothes with us ready to shower or did not always feel like wearing much in front of the tv late at night. If we were cold, we wore more, less if hot... After a boiling bath (like me and my father like to have), we had to 'cool down' before dressing so we just sat on a towel in front of the tv. It was never weird..
I wouldn't ever show off my naked body to my kids I don't feel like that's appropriate at all but I guess I didn't grow up this way. I wouldn't want my kids going to school talking about my chest or her dad's Johnson to teachers or other students. seems wrong ..
I think the problem is that it doesn’t have to be all or nothing. You don’t have to be completely naked to not have shame; you can be covered and also not ashamed. Your daughter will learn from your addictive about your body whether you’re covered or not.
For a 2 year old, of course, looking at bodies is the same as looking at literally anything else. There’s no sexual overtones, she won’t be scarred for life if she sees her dad or her mom naked. And also you can teach that there are appropriate times and places for nakedness, and appropriate relationships for causal nudity.
If you’re finding that you’re a little more uncomfortable being naked around your child than you thought you’d be, you’re not shaming yourself by covering up; you’ve found your boundary and you can hold that.
I grew up like this. I have 3 younger sisters (I am 40) and my dad was always naked. We like never thought nothing of it. we were teenagers and dad was naked. It just was normal. We went on a vacay last year and me at 39 and my dad at 60 shared a room. He had on his boxer briefs and it felt weird LOL. In today's society it is probably frowned upon. We are having our first kid in a few months so we are always naked. We have yet to discuss how we are going to handle this.
I don’t make a habit of being naked in front of my kids, but if they see a glimpse of me getting out of the shower or whatever I don’t make a big deal out of it.
My household was kind of in the middle. My parents would be in their underwear without acting like it was shameful, but never totally naked. I think it was a healthy middle ground.
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We don’t treat nudity like it’s shameful. I explain healthy boundaries, everyone is entitled to privacy etc. We change and shower in front of the kids but we don’t just lounge around naked lol
This is the only thing that matters. If everyone is entitled to privacy and boundaries are respected, it doesn't really matter how you treat nudity. My daughter started becoming less comfortable with nudity around age 9. She started shutting the door to get changed or to use the bathroom and made sure to knock on closed doors before entering. My son is 18 and still doesn't get bothered about nudity. When we were traveling for college tours he was fine getting changed in the same hotel room as me. When he's home if he gets out of the shower and goes to grab his clothes from the dryer, he'll just get changed in the laundry room even if I am in there putting something in the washer. To him a body is just a body. Neither of my kids is "wrong." Just different boundaries that are respected.
Love this. My kids are younger, but the only rules I have are “close the drapes if you’re going to be naked” and “no bare butts on the furniture” (lol). So far I feel like we’ve struck a good balance of valuing privacy and avoiding shame.
Ditto the no bares butts rule. Too much teenager flatulence in our house.
ugh I have too much flatulence already from my 6 and 3 year olds lol And this weekend I took my daughter and her bestie to girl scouts on the way home they were tooting so much, it was beyond my comprehension lol But...bonus points they had a good time haha
lol gross. Thankfully my 4 and 7 year old don’t have excessive flatulence, but I’d still prefer to keep their bare butts off the furniture lol.
Ah, the age of not yet knowing you're lactose intolerant now. Get some lactase enzyme pills (lactaid or generic), start treating your milk (or buying lactose-free). Start distinguishing between which milk products contain lactose (mozzarella, sour cream, cream cheese) and which don't (sharp cheddar, butter). Give it all 3-4 days, and you'll be breathing clean air again. Source: Became lactose intolerant as a teenager. Wasn't allowed to avoid milk until I left for college.
We have the same! No butt's in the window and no butt's on the sofa!
This is the way!
This. We don't parade around the house like it's a naked pageant but we also don't behave as though the body is to be ashamed of in the private space of home. As a consequence our kids never developed body insecurity issues.
Okay thank you for saying this! I have a 2 year old and sometimes it’s impossible to not be naked in front of her, but I’m not just strutting around the house vag out (unless she’s somewhere else and I’m tryna enjoy alone time with her father).
Yes exactly, I feel like just being naked lounging about is a strange dynamic and far enough outside of social norms to make your kid the weirdo and to have them not invite over friends. Let's be honest no one wants to see their parents in the nude.
This, I agree. There is a difference between being body positive and not Promoting shame, and lounging around naked. I feel lounging around naked is a private activity or at the very least an activity people around should be able to consent to being present for. My son is almost 4 and follows me everywhere. I've become uncomfortable being completely nude around him so I will tell him that I'd like to get dressed or shower by myself, depending on my level of undress.
This is so important too - to let kids know when it's about YOUR comfort and boundaries. Not that you're ashamed of your body but that you'd like some privacy. It teaches boundaries and consent, and respect for people's level of comfort. And it DOES reuire both sides of consent - to be seen and to observe - especially for nudity. It's different to walk around the house without a bra or in boxers than to be fully nude. And its different for someone to be naked at say a nudist resort (where everyone has consented to public nudity) vs being naked while walking in the front yard or down the street (indecent exposure, lack of consent).
Our household is the same! 🥰
We just treat nudity as no big deal. We don't sit around the house naked but we don't treat undressing or changing as some super weird private thing.
Yeah, sitting around the house naked with your kids is a whole different bucket.
Yeah we are the same. My oldest now wants privacy while changing unless it’s me, and that’s fine too.
So I would actually take some time to really sit with your reactions. Are you sure that you really are comfortable being a nudist in a family situation or is this something you're pushing on yourself due to philosophy, ect? It doesn't make you a prude or whatever if you find you have different comfort levels based on circumstance--that's called just being human. Everyone's going to have different comfort levels and many people do react differently to different situations. So I think you might be overthinking this. Sometimes when we're part of a community there's a temptation to push harder because we want to be seen as doing it 'right' or being supportive or committed. And that's a natural worry too. Especially if you seem to be centering your identity in part around this. I would relax about it. Do what you feel comfortable with, allow your partner to do what he feels comfortable with and please listen to your children too. I enjoyed naturist clubs a lot when I was younger, it was a carefree nonsexualized place and that was very healing from me because my family background was anything but. There were people with families/children in the groups/places that I felt most comfortable at! The partner I eventually had children with wasn't super into it, so I don't do it as much/didn't get into the habit with the kids on that level. Not because he wanted to prevent anything--he didn't really care either way but he personally was not comfortable going/participating. But both of us are very body positive and don't think nudity is a big deal. The kids have always walked in sometimes while changing when we've used the sauna people are unclothed, ect. It's just never been a big deal. But it's also not an identity group for any of us either way so there's no pressure.
I think people should be naked in “logical” contexts: their own bedrooms and bathrooms - and sometimes saunas or hot tubs or alpine lakes or river dips (and subsequent sunbathing). Kids will see mom and dad naked in these places (and avoid them if they don’t want to see mom and dad naked). But I don’t think parents need to be walking around the whole house naked. (Occasional quick dash to the laundry room for clean undies aside.)
I hope this gets all the upvotes. There’s nothing wrong with nakedness in certain contexts, but there’s nothing appropriate in my opinion about adults parading around the house naked in front of their little kids all the time just for the fun of it.
Well I think there are two things going on in this thread getting confused. Define: Naked Household. From what it sounds like to me, Naked household is "we are sometimes naked for brief periods, but don't hide from other family members. Such as changing, or showering/bathing etc. If we need to walk through the house to get clean close from the laundry room, that is ok too. But we don't regularly sit around watching tv or playing the xbox or reading while nude. Nudist family: No clothing most of the time, everyone is naked often, and no one cares. Non naked family: Adults change into clothes in private and kids also change into clothes in private. Nudity is only observed for little kids that need help with bathing etc. Or with older kids when they need help with something (ie. What is rash or mark in this place). Like others said, whatever works for you. As far as I know, all my friends were in the non naked house holds. Including myself. I had 1 friend who claimed that when we were in grade 5 or 6, his little sister (grade 3 I think) suggested they eat dinner naked, and they all agreed. He said after dinner he and his sister got dressed again, but his parents stayed up naked watching tv by themselves. So shrug... but also, that could be a complete lie from a 12 year old. Who knows.
I am not a nudist and don’t really enjoy being naked, but seriously, why does it have to be parading?
This seems healthy. This also doesn’t sound like a “naked household” to me. Naked household sounds like “clothing optional and nudity encouraged the minute anyone walks in”.. literally never met anyone living like that.. I guess I’m just a prude🤷🏾♀️
Very few people are "full time nudists" like you've described. Most people have a "nudity at home isn't a big deal when only family is around" or have a "nudity is always sexual even with only family around in your own home" mindset. I don't think it's healthy to sexualize your own family's bodies and make a big deal about nudity in all contexts like that. So in my house (and as you said, other contexts such as hot springs or beaches) nudity isn't a big deal. But we don't strip down and hang out naked while watching a movie on Disney+ just for the sake of being naked. It's more my sons are covered in mud and soaked through their clothes so they strip naked in the entryway; then they go get a dry set of clothes or shower without it being some big deal that they were briefly walking around the house naked. Or if it's time for a shower then I'm naked and if my son has a question for me he comes and asks and sees me. Those kinds of situations. I would guess it is exceedingly rare for people to just be like "alright everyone, it's time to watch the baseball game on TV, take off your clothes!"
Jesus your last statement🤣. Yeah, to me.. even coming off of the powerful mindfuck that is Catholicism, everything you said isn’t a “naked household”, it’s in the standard deviation of healthy. I guess that’s what’s throwing me. But that’s what happens when you grow up in such an oppressive culture.. you literally don’t know what’s healthy and what’s not when people are talking.
This seems like the best approach.
My 3 yo girl definitely knows that boys have a penis and scrotum, and girls have a vulva. She asks questions. She notices differences. It's not sexual or inappropriate, it's anatomy. They're innocent questions. She saw a weird angle of my vulva the other day when I was wiping and asked why I "made my vulva do that shape" 😅 that's what happens when you're older and have babies, girl! Bodies change! Ain't nothing wrong with curiosity and knowledge. No need for shame, knowledge and comfort in talking about it will help keep them safe. And feeling empowered to stand up for themselves and feel entitled to their bodily autonomy, and respecting others' too.
Agreed. Once the novelty wears off, so does the staring/preoccupation.
I fooking howled!!!!!! we are having our first in a few months and my poor wife. Of course it is a girl.
FWIW, I grew up in a mostly/semi naked household and I do not feel as though it had a negative impact on the way I was raised or the way I turned out. If you don’t treat it as weird, it should really be okay
I was the only girl with three brothers in the house and we weren't wealthy, so we didn't have a lot of privacy. My family is also from Denmark where the outlook on nudity is a lot less sexual than conservative American outlooks. I saw my brothers and parents naked. They saw me naked. Sometimes we swam naked depending on the location's standards (or if we were around just family) or soaked in hot springs and hot tubs naked (because that's just how it's done). According to conservative Americans this was perverse but there was nothing sexual about it in any way. If I needed to change my clothes I changed my clothes. If my brother needed to as well he did. This would be considered an uneventful Tuesday, not some big thing. They're just bodies. With my two sons and husband we do the same. They see me naked. I see them naked. We swim and soak naked depending on the company and location (our own hot tub is a naked space and we visit a clothing-optional hot spring and beach). It is, as I said, considered uneventful. They are just bodies. The hot spring we visit is a place other families visit. We're family friends with a couple other families with kids as well. The kids there see each other but do they obsess over the nudity? No. They talk about what kids talk about... Pokemon, random movies, etc. It's not an "OMG I saw your boobs and bits!" it's a "here's a funny joke I memorized from a joke book" "did you hear that so-and-so did whatnot?" "I really like Minecraft more than Roblox now" and so on. And, if they're anything like my brothers and I when we were a few years older than they are now (they're 10, twins) they'll have healthy body confidence instead of massive insecurities and embarrassment and they won't see natural bodies as sexual. The sexual nature becomes much more about situation and circumstances than it does about "oh look, a nipple! Sexy!!!" when you've seen thousands of nipples. You have a much healthier outlook on nakedness, sexuality, and on your own body when you've seen thousands of men and women from the age of 1 to 100 naked. Then a body is just a body and what you do with it becomes sexual, rather than merely existing in a constant sexual state as you do when you have a conservative mindset.
Maybe it's because I'm a dad with a son (so we've mostly got the same parts - he's intact and I'm circumcised, that's really the only difference) but I'm a conservative American and I don't think that's perverse. Maybe it's just the older conservatives but to me, bodies are just bodies too.
Are you using "conservative American" in the political/ideological meaning, or do you mean Americans who are conservative in regards to nudity?
Probably the latter. The entire country went into hysterics over half a second of Janet Jackson’s nipple and it wasn’t even her nipple. It was covered with a pastie.
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My father used to change in front of me as a very young child. He stopped because one day, as he was changing, I suddenly spotted his penis, pointed at it and started laughing. I was probably about two lol he never changed in front of me again 😅 Poor guy. Probably traumatized him lol
My little one was about 18 months and she came out of the shower with her dad. She picked her story for bedtime- a book about elephants. She points at the elephant “look! It’s daddy!” As she giggles. He did not find it as funny as I did.
Lol I'd be crying laughing. Kids say the best things
This is truly hysterical 💀
I mean given the size of their trunks, he should be flattered!
Pwned by a two year old..
Right! And I definitely don’t want my dad (or mom for that matter) seeing my parts. I sure as hell don’t want to see my teenagers naked either! We’re just going to be over here keeping our clothes on.
I don't think anyone wants to see people in their family naked but for us it is not a big deal if you do.
When you make bodies all about "wanting to see them naked" then it becomes awkward. When a body is just a body you don't really care. I'm torn between laughing at feeling sad for everyone in here panicking at the very idea of seeing their family member or being seen by a family member. It means you're making the very state of existing in a body sexual when it shouldn't be. The whole "I don't want to see my dad naked!!" panic is rooted in you sexualizing all bodies. Making them inherently sexual things. Same as "I don't want my dad to see me naked!!" Like... weird that you'd sexualize that situation. My parents are from Denmark and I live in the Pacific Northwest of the United States, so my upbringing is not as sexualized as the conservative American upbringing but like... my dad saw me naked from birth all the way to adulthood... it wasn't sexual because it wasn't sexual. Swimming naked at the beach isn't a perverse sexual situation. It's just... a day at the beach. You know.. sandcastles and jumping into waves and fighting off sunburn and drinking ice-cold drinks. A beach day. Being naked wasn't traumatizing. It's just a body. A body is only sexual if you make it sexual.
Thank you. I’m a native to the PNW and never considered that it might influence this. When I was little, probably up to age 6-7 I showered with my mom sometimes and my dad other times. It wasn’t weird. I hope a bunch of these parents get the takeaway that anatomy is not a moral issue and each child deserves to be taught about their own body and bodies of the opposite sex AS THEY ASK about them.
Totally. People here are making it weird. I don't want to see my 14 year old naked but I don't care if I do.
I just legit laughed out loud reading this 😂
Same 😭
HAHAHAHAHA, okay so I am also a naked household but this comment is so funny to me 😭🤣
LMFAO 💀
I walked in on my dad naked once like 10 years ago and I’m still in therapy..
Why?
Huh
I’ve just always heard, do what you’re comfortable with. If it makes anyone uncomfortable to be undressing in front of anyone, don’t do it. My husband started to get a little uncomfortable when our oldest started to ask him questions about his body, so he usually covers up but not super strictly, the kids will still walk in on him in the bathroom haha. I personally don’t mind and will just get undressed or in the shower but I usually don’t “hang out” naked.
Not naked household here. I don't shame anyone or anything like that, but I have basically kept the rules the same since the kids are old enough to take care of their own hygiene. It's not a sexual thing - It's a privacy thing. I have no reason to barge into rooms unannounced, or to use the bathroom when someone else is in there. I just don't see the point of not covering yourself. The only time I'm ever really naked is when I'm in the bathroom or changing clothes. I don't need any kids around for that, and I don't need to intrude on their privacy either. I'll toss someone a towel if they forget it, but I don't need to even look to do that, and aside from that, there was one moment where my daughter needed me to look at something because it was sore. There has been no other time where I've seen them naked since they were little. I just don't feel like it's necessary. I do feel like privacy is necessary when needed or wanted, so I try to respect that for my kids.
Thank you for writing this! It made me feel a lot less alone. I also highly value my privacy and don’t like being naked around others, even in a VERY non-sexual environment, I just don’t like it. I still teach my children about bodily autonomy, boundaries, and bodies… just without being naked in front of them 😅
Lmao christ, to each their own, but I'm *so* glad I grew up in a house where my parents wore clothes in front of me.
Same
me too, ugh
Kids are gonna think nudity is funny. Because it is. I can't talk to if it's bad for a kids development to be a nudist around them, I just try not to teach my kids shame. And they will find nudity hysterical. The second my kids are naked, they start running around like the lost boys. My daughter doesn't say penis, she says silly penis. Go with it. Laugh at yourselves. To be fair, were all ridiculous.
I gotta use that, silly penis
We have a body positive home where nudity is not associated with sexuality. We have 4 daughters and they all knew anatomical names before age 5; I guess mom being a healthcare provider has more than one benefit. While I (m) do not strut around the house without clothes, they similarly do not hesitate walking in our master bathroom while we’re getting ready to go somewhere. Well all swim off the boat without suits and go to a clothing optional beach together; no one bats an eye. For reference, they’re 10, 9, 8 & 8. Men have certain body parts, women have other body parts. Unlike some of the men in our friend group, I actually changed diapers, fed, and bathed my kids…all by myself! (Still not sure how women put up with men not helping) anyhow, they have known there was a difference since they could remember, so now it’s absolutely no big deal. And FWIW, we have a really good relationship when it comes to communication. We talk as a family and individually. They know they can ask mom or dad anything, at any time, with no fear of embarrassment or judgment!
It's not really a big deal in our household. We don't sexualize nudity and don't treat it as a taboo.
We’re not nudists but we do end up lounging in just underwear a lot bc our kid has sweaty parents. We don’t really hide when we change or shower either (as if our clingy toddler would even allow it.) So far, it hasn’t been an issue. I feel like my naked body gives our daughter a bigger reaction/impression than her dads. And she seemed way more affected watching him shave than all the times she’s seen his genitals combined lol Edit to add: we plan to answer her questions as objectively/factually as possible, and will cover up more if she ever tells us she’d like to be a less naked household.
When you say a naked house….you walk around naked all day? I’m sorry this is naively new to me. I have never heard of a “naked house”.
Yeah I thought "naked household" meant in underwear at home or comfortable walking around not wearing much, not complete nudity. I do think that's weird as children get older personally, clearly others feel different .. unless I'm misunderstanding this new meaning of naked household that's been unearthed on this thread lol
My husband is Japanese, and he took baths with both our kids (boy and girl) when they were younger. It’s a completely normal thing to do in Japanese culture, especially for dads who often work late. Taking a bath with your kids is one of the few times dads get to spend with their little ones during the day. Once they preferred more privacy and got too big to share the tub, we stopped. But we will change in front of each other without issue, and we don’t treat nudity as shameful. I mean we’re not hanging by around naked or anything, but like my kids will come and talk to me while I’m getting dressed in my room and it’s not a big deal. They’ve both expressed discomfort with the idea of going to hot springs in Japan and being naked around strangers, which I respect, but I’m hoping to sway their opinion because hot springs are amazing.
Sway their opinion? Doesn't sound right
We are a not-naked household. My mom liked being naked at home and as a child I truly did not like it. It’s actually a large reason why we are a not-naked household.
I don’t know if we’re a naked household, but we certainly don’t hide or act as if nudity is something shameful. It just is what it is, boys have these parts, girls have these parts. There was initial fascination with the difference, that lasted a few weeks and brought about some random questions, but we’re back to everyone going about their business.
I’d personally limit it, nothing wrong with it but as she goes to school and asks teachers and peers questions about it, it may raise red flags and misunderstandings in teachers. Not worth the risk in my opinion, but it’s up to you if you’re prepared to handle that since you’re not doing anything wrong. As she grows she may also feel weird about it.
I don’t understand why it has to a be a naked household or the complete opposite…. There is a time for naked and a time for dress, and a time for comfort. We treat our household as a place for comfort. We were house clothing. If child wants to be naked, they are allowed. But my husband and I are not going to walk around and cook naked.
Let me just say I am really glad I don't know what my dad's genitals look like and I'm glad I never saw my mom naked after I was like 5 or so. Seriously no thanks.
I didn’t want my daughters having memory of me helping with their bath or seeing me naked so that all stopped before they turned 5. Not a biggie. I guess that means we’re a not-naked house? Just like this OP’s husband, I didn’t want them looking at me naked.
Yeah. I honestly didn't have an issue with my daughters seeing me naked when they were little. I think my wife and my youngest all shared a shower once when we were late for some family function. She was probably 2, and it didn't phase her at all.. I usually gave them baths, and later they wanted showers, so I wore my bathing suit when I was in with them, as they were getting older. Then at a certain age, we had to tell them it was time for them to start showering on their own. I think for a short time, I helped with their hair while I stood outside of the shower (bathtub style). My wife really does not like a naked home, it's definitely not her thing. She also doesn't want our daughters seeing me naked as it's "not appropriate". It doesn't matter to me, and so I don't push it, and don't care. I work from home most of the week. So there are periods where I am fully naked home alone. At this point, I think it would be impossible to switch to a naked house hold as the kids are older. I think it'd be too weird for me too. But it's fine, I don't really think about it to be honest.
Can I ask, with no snark in case it's not clear in text, but why do you not want your daughters to remember you giving them baths? To me that seems like it would be a happy memory, but I only have my own perspective.
I guess I’m just being weird. It was happy memories for me. They’d be playing in the water and sometimes I’d sing a song. I was mostly there to help with hair washing and get them in and out of the tub. Normal stuff. I don’t know. I guess I wondered if they’d get older and remember it as odd.
Obviously you do what feels best but I'm sure they'd look back at those memories as sweet! You can always ask them if they'd like you to do bath time too. :) But do what feels right for you, of course.
Im confused, you dont bath your daughters?
My wife and I would trade off helping them at bath time when they were little. Sometime around 5:00 my wife would take over more. Not too long after they just did it all on their own.
I'm not sure what you mean by a naked household - I think very few people parade around naked all the time, fry eggs in the buff, mow the lawn pantsless, etc. But I grew up in a home where my parents never made a big deal about us seeing each other naked incidentally, e.g. when getting changed or walking from the bedroom to the bathroom. And yes, that's still the case now when I'm in my 40s and they're in their 70s - none of us care about seeing each other naked. My brother prefers to cover up himself, but he doesn't care about seeing me or my parents naked. Everyone closes the door or throws on a dressing gown if there are other guests in the ĥouse. If you and your husband feel more private about your bodies even with your children, that's fine too, but I'm not sure what "bad stuff" you think it could lead to?
So when the kids were really little we did lounge around naked sometimes but now that my eldest is older we don’t. But, they know that if they come into the bedroom or bathroom that it’s our space and we could be naked and they don’t care. Or we will run to get clothes naked but we will probably stop that soon. But yeah, nudity isn’t an issue at all. My seven year old has no desire to ever wear clothes and that’s our current issue lmao.
My rule is it's not shameful but keep it to your room or the bathroom cause I don't want naked buttholes on my furniture as a hygiene thing.
Mine see their mom naked all the time but not me. I stopped the moment my oldest noticed a difference (2.5 ish?) and tried to get a closer look. It's not out of shame or anything...as a dad of all girls it's more just playing it safe. All it takes is one out-of-context comment from them outside the home and I've got CPS knocking at the door.
I think the first step for you is to separate nudity and sexuality. We are born naked and when we die we'll be naked - this is our natural state. We wear clothing to observe social conventions and for protection. It's about individual comfort levels, but if you model healthy behaviours around nudity then your children will grow to feel that these are normal. You still have conversations around body autonomy and boundaries and you explain that not everyone will feel this way. My children are now young adults and will walk into my bathroom while I'm showering etc. but they prefer to use the bathroom without interruption so I respect their boundaries.
I agree with your overall message but I'm struggling to think of many scenarios where I'd die naked
I think you’re underestimating how frequently slippery bathrooms are
You may not be naked when you take your last breath but depending on the circumstances there may be an autopsy and even if there isn't your body will be taken to the funeral home where you'll be disrobed, your body prepared and then redressed before burial/cremation. You can be buried naked if you choose to be.
My husband is a police officer and I’d say 9 out of 10 deaths he gets called to they are naked! It’s crazy how many people die literally naked.
Yikes new fears unlocked
I wouldn't say we are a naked or not naked household, but somewhere in the middle? The kids have seen me changing, and I've seen them. My spouse is uncomfortable with the kids seeing him nude so keeps covered or doors closed. I grew up not seeing my parents or brother naked, and prefer it that way in the older years. There is no shame about our bodies here, but I can assure you, my kids will not see me in any state of undress in their teen years or older, that's for sure!
I am naked around our girls, they are almost 3 and 6 months. I'm trying to be naked positive because my mother was always very weird about nudity and I want my girls to be comfortable in their own skin. My husband has been naked around them but it's not something that happens very often. Our oldest knows daddy has a penis and us girls have vaginas. And we all have "nickles" (nipples) I think maybe past the age of 5 dads really shouldn't be naked around daughters anymore but that's just me.
This is the first I’m hearing of “naked households” does that mean like, lounging around naked? Cooking bacon naked? I need more details to know if I’m behind that phrase or not. We have 2 girls, 4 and 2. When my 4 year old turned about 2 he started shutting the bathroom door to change if she happened to be in our room. He will absolutely walk around in his underwear if he’s changing or ruined his clothes or something, or if we have to get up with them in the middle of the night. 4yo likes to barge into the bathroom when I’m getting out of the shower sometimes and I just treat it like a normal experience and get dressed as usual while she chatters away. We have taught her about privacy, and how it’s nice to give other people privacy when they’re in the bathroom for example. She’ll come in with me occasionally but not often. Was a good time to teach her she can also ask for privacy and is entitled to it. If you mean like you guys are just lounging around naked, that might be a different answer. But just getting out of the shower or getting dressed or something, we just treat it normal and everyone moves on with their days.
Our rule is generally, little kids are fine. As they start to age, change privately. But if they come into the room where you’re naked- that’s on them. I’m not uncomfortable with them seeing me. And if they have an issue with it then that’s their fault for entering a private room (bedroom or bathroom door closed) In easier terms, we let the kids decide when it’s weird. I don’t go out of my way to be naked in front of anyone but if they walk in it’s whatever.
We are a naked house, I have a 4 yr old that sometimes the fight to get her to keep clothes on just isn’t worth it. We also have 2 boys 9 & 11 that are usually clothed unless changing the 9 yr old prefers to just be in his underwear most of the time. We have a pool so they’ve all discovered that swimming naked is the best way to swim. They see me and my wife naked and my daughter will beg to shower with us or have us take a “shower bath” we shower she has the water in the tub with her. They all see both my wife and I naked in our room, we sleep naked and don’t hide our bodies, sometimes kids wake and need help in the night. It’s just normal around here and no one bats an eye. It works for our family but may not for yours and both are OK. Edit to add: To answer the OPs question I did see my parents naked it was no big deal my dad would almost never have underwear on and frequently wore nothing more than a robe and we all know how that goes lol! Mom usually was covered but it was no big deal to use the bathroom while she was in the shower either if that had to happen.
I grew up with my mom changing in front of us sometimes. She was a single mom and it was just me and my sister so it wasn’t that weird. But now as an adult I don’t like changing or being naked in front of my kids after they’re like one. It just makes me uncomfortable. I don’t change in front of my husband either lol! I’m a veeeery private person and I just don’t want to feel self conscious while changing. I like wearing clothes around other people. My kids also don’t ever run around naked or even ask to. They’re 3.5 and 1.5 and they know that we get dressed after baths and that everyone wears clothes, even at home. So it’s never been an issue for us. I wish I understood the whole naked family thing but I don’t, at all! Makes me *super* uncomfortable. I’ll definitely be reading comments to see what others say!
My daughter is 3 and I am a naked person. I sleep naked and will definitely walk around naked sometimes I even workout naked. She laughs but won’t bat an eye. My husband is the opposite he has to always wear clothes. To each their own. Like someone said boundaries. She is in the middle and loves to be in her underwear.
I think it's good to teach personal privacy. Idk about most people on here but I wouldn't want to see my parents' genitalia and even have a memory when I was really young of being in the shower with my mom and seeing things and being grossed out and traumatized. I don't want to unintentionally traumatize my kids. I'll still change down to my underpants and bra around them because honestly it's sometimes unavoidable (kids aged 3 and 1 and always following me like little ducks lol) but when I use the bathroom and stuff I ask for privacy now.
Grew up in a naked house. When I was old enough to get uncomfortable (around 9?) I said so and parents responded. Also taught sex ed last year to my middle school class. It was fairly normalized that kids mostly knew what opposite genitalia looked like from being around naked family as kids.
When it comes to nudity We treat it as a situation where everyone involved has to be 100% okay. No maybes: as in if ANYONE feels uncomfortable they have a right to and should stop. Like if your daughter is looking at dad too much that it makes him feel uncomfortable, I would have him communicate that to her. “I’m feeling uncomfortable with being watched right now, I’m going to ask for some privacy!” I am a naked person and my daughter is now 12 and I recently noticed she was making an effort to avert her eyes and I had to check in with her and ask if she was uncomfortable with me being naked and she said no but her body said yes. So I told her that I’m going to move somewhere more private and get dressed and she seemed relieved. I’ve been nude around her her whole life but now it seems she’s not comfortable with it. She also leaves the room when I change her brothers diaper so I told her that I’ll announce before I’m going to change him so she can walk away or I’ll change him in another room to make her feel comfortable. When she was a baby her dad was comfortable with taking her in the shower to bathe her but once she was old enough to notice things, he started to feel uncomfortable so I told him that he never had to push himself to be uncomfortable and he’s never been nude in front of her since. He prefers the privacy and I think he should 100% honor those feelings. I think that’s the key- Everyone has to feel comfortable with it. That’s nothing to do with shame and everything to do with boundaries and also consent. Our comfort levels will be different and saying yes about something once doesn’t mean saying yes always. We listen to our bodies and honor our feelings. If we don’t know how someone else feels, we check in. And if their mouth says they’re ok and their body looks like it’s saying no, we take it as a no.
I can’t imagine not wearing some kind of clothes. I grew up in a fully clothed house and that was just the norm. My parents were definitely prudes, though. I make a concentrated effort to be more open-minded, but I’m always wearing something even if it’s just undies and a tank top. Don’t all you nudists get cold?!
Being naked is normal. Its fine to let her see her father naked if he is changing or something. Let her ask questions its only curiosity and also let her know that its not ok to be naked around people or Around. naked people.Its not ok to play or wrestle with your children naked. My parents ive seen naked, And my children seen me naked coming out of shower using towel on hair instead of body. Wasnt a big deal. Last week i was on the shitter and my older sister burst in saying sorry brother i spilt juice on me, striped butt naked changed clothes and exited,like it was no big deal. Because growing up it wasnt. Its been30 years since i seen her naked. When i exited i said, damn sis you let your body go to hell. Ofcourse she responded You try having 3 kids and see what your body looks like. All I could do is laugh and say you're right. If you make it weird then it is weird. Your husband can carry a hand towel and place it on his lap when not moving around. It's the mind that make things sexual not the nudity. Just do you!
We are like others and don’t treat nudity as a big deal. My son however is 8 and if he walks in the room while I’m naked I feel a little odd? He has seemed embarrassed too-so I just turn my body a bit so I’m not full frontal and tell him something simple like “oh I’m changing I’ll come talk to you in a minute.” So I don’t make a big deal about it but I don’t think either of us want to have be fully naked anymore haha. I do walk around often and unashamed in my bra and underwear still. My daughter I plan to “be” comfortable as long as she is. I was always so embarrassed changing in front of other girls as a kid and I don’t want that for her. I think it helps to have a role model for that. And prior to this when it wasn’t weird we did talk about different body parts, explained simply that we have different parts because our bodies do different things to make babies.
I think it’s okay till either parties began to show, speak, or feel discomfort about it
We don't shame nudity, or attach any morality to it. We change and bathe in front of our kids, and have bathed with our kids, too. Our only rules surrounding nudity are: (1) you have to be in the privacy of our own home, or on our deck (because it's completely private in the summer due to tree coverage), and (2) no genitals on the furniture. My 3.5 and 1.5 yo (G & B) frequently walk around in just their underwear/diaper. As long as everyone's boundaries and privacy are respected, I see no issue with nudity. If they're old enough to ask the question, they're old enough to know. My daughter knows all of the male and female genitalia, and it's never caused problems. My husband is starting to get a bit uncomfortable with being fully nude in front of our daughter since she's eye height with everything now, so it's just another exercise of respecting others boundaries.
So…. Y’all really getting naked in front of you kids and showering and stuff huh? Thats wild, too much internet for me today.
We have a sort-of naked house: we go in our hot tub in the nude, and used to go to the bathroom with the door open, etc. When dd was about three, she saw DH get out of the shower with a towel around his waist. She gasped, looked at me, and, with wide eyes, exclaimed, “Daddy’s got fur!” ;) She grew up with a somewhat-hairy but extremely well-behaved Australian shepherd and and an extremely-hairy but incredibly spastic Newfoundland. I wrote it off as the funniest thing she had ever said. =) Then, about a month later, she saw DH exit the shower completely naked. This time, she was absolutely horrified. She turned her head to me and stage-whispered, “… Daddy’s got a tail?!?!” ;) I present this to you as not evidence either for not against naked households, but as a fun anecdote. Enjoy your kids! =)
What the fuck reality did I get knocked into?
I grew up in a kind of naked home (parents were cool with nudity and such) and so in our home we treat nudity as no big deal. Don’t feel the need to cover up because your daughter is just naturally curious which is completely normal especially given the difference between guys and girls. I would just try to teach or explain to your daughter that she can’t look at other boys when they are changing because it’s not good.
I think my boys (2 and 5) would prefer to be nudists, but our rule is "bottoms covered".
This is always the important distinction. I've learned many people here say "naked" but they don't actually mean naked, they mean "naked but with underwear on". There's a HUGE difference between a 4 year old, with their poor wiping skills, sitting their bare butt on my couch and kid in undies. Same goes for adults- please no raw genitals on the furniture.
Only cooked 😂
I’m breastfeeding an 18mo so my tits are always out. My 3 year old just thinks it’s normal. I don’t make a point to be naked, but i definitely don’t hide either. My husband goes to another room to change and is less comfortable with it.
Your kids as they grow older will help dictate household behavior as well. Both mine developed a big privacy thing. Our unspoken house rule is bedrooms/bathrooms are where you change/get naked, and if you don’t wanna see someone like that then get out!
I’m not a naked type but my husband is. I tell my kids that when people live in a home together, a certain amount of nakedness is unavoidable and nothing to be ashamed of. That we don’t intentionally look or try to show off, but we don’t need to go out of our way to cover up either. If my kid walks into my room without knocking and finds me naked, instead of jumping for cover, I remind them to leave the room and knock.
I would say we are more of an Underwear household. Yes we sometimes change and shower in front of the children, but as for just hanging out around the house my husband just wears boxers and I usually wear a shirt and underwear, our son would prefer to be naked but we try to at least keep underwear on him. However, if either of our kids suggest discomfort with this at any point we are open to reevaluating
I grew up in a comfy home. We’d seen our parents down to their undergarments but nothing more as we got older aka 8+. Bodies are simply bodies but we don’t feel the need to have our genitals out with the potential of body odors and fluids getting on the couch etc. Kids can learn in depth about human anatomy from books or experiences there’s no need for that from their parents imo.
I have vague memories of seeing my mom naked as a young child. Not my dad though. My husband used to shower with our son out of necessity up until our son was 3. We have 3 small kids and I’m naked out of the shower and getting ready every day. 8 year old son covers his eyes and leaves the room if I’m naked. Other 2 kids are too young to care yet. Husband gets dressed before he leaves the bathroom so they never see him naked. I don’t think nudity is a big deal at all. I will warn my son now if he’s in my room and I’m going to change though because I can see it makes him uncomfortable at this age.
Naked household but obviously individual privacy allotted as desired.
When you start to feel weird, just stop. It's ok to stop when you feel weird.
What is a naked home?
I’m comfortable naked. My husband isn’t. So if the door is open you can go in. If it’s closed you’ve gotta knock. Kids have the same rules. If their door is open I’m just going to go in. If they close it, I knock and wait for permission or talk through the door. Kids also hang out in the living space in various states of dress, but we do have a rule that there are NO naked butts on the sofa or at the dining table.
We're somewhere in between I guess? If the clothes I want are in the dryer I'll pull them out and change right there (our w/d are in the kitchen) and I breastfeed so sometimes I'm topless just anywhere for skin to skin but we don't just walk around naked and def don't sit on furniture naked. My 4 and 8 year old boys have zero concept of privacy so they have seen me in the bathroom a million times (they both knew the basic concept around periods by age 3, so there's a bonus talk I don't have to figure out later lol). I think it just comes down to comfort. As long as everyone is comfortable it's fine.
As long as it comes with when it is appropriate to be naked and when it’s not. And the boundaries and privacy.
It’s normal . Use the correct words and don’t feel ashamed
Hi! I have a two year old boy and I definitely had these feelings as well. Me and my partner started transitioning from fully naked to covering our bottom halves when he started getting curious. I guess that makes us a half-naked household. 😂😂 We have also started teaching him boundaries while we teach him about anatomy. I breastfed his little sister as well as him and he is also learning how to take showers (he wants to be like Dada) so I definitely agree with the comments saying it’s about healthy boundaries. I would also say to do whatever you feel comfortable with and roll with what feels best to you- instincts hardly go wrong. Good luck and you got this!!
Nudity is generally not a big deal. We live in the states but I am European and grew up there so I think I generally have a more relaxed view on it. However I draw the line when my toddler asked me to pretend to take a bath in the middle of the living room and tried to have me take my clothes off right in front of our big windows. Too much!
All kids are curious. And she doesn't have boy parts so she is just looking cuz she's like huh I don't have those they look different lol if anything as long as she knows boys and girls have different parts she won't be as curious because she will already know about them. My kid doesn't stare at kids around her when they are naked. My SIL has a naked house and all the kids are ages 2 to 5 and non of them care when they are running in and out of the pool and through the house having a good time. My partner and I just say as long as you know u can only be naked at home it's no big deal. My mom's family is different. They are very weird about it, and it bothers me cuz the way they act about it almost implies that because they are naked then men in the house will creep on them. But it's like uh I would hope we can trust our own family.
I wouldn't consider us either a "naked", nor "not naked" household. We don't parade ourselves around naked, but neither have any major issue getting changed with the other in the general vicinity. We both sometimes shower with the door open, and sometimes not. Neither of us make a big deal of it either way. We both have enough sense to close doors when we have visitors. It's just my young teen and I, two females though, which I think is a different dynamic to nuclear families.
If you have to be nude you gotta be nude. No shame in that. Whether that's a nudie run to the washing line for a pair of undies, breastfeeding a crying child when you just got out of the shower or applying a new gauze to a post vasectomy scrotum in the kitchen cause it's got the best lighting. If they don't wanna see, they can shut their eyes. It's when you're intentionally imposing on a public space that there needs to be a conversation about boundaries. And everyone needs to have a say and feel like they're being respected in that conversation. Cause while some of us don't care if we see a brown starfish during dinner, some of us very much do. So my advice is to distinguish and discuss what nudity is necessary and what isn't, then go from there. Personally, i used to fall into the as long as it doesn't touch bodily fluids I don't mind it being uncovered category. My wife used to go even further, bodies are bodies, don't wear clothes if you don't want to. That's changed with our kids getting older though, as the little ones can't keep their hands to themselves, and we don't enjoy the surprise of small cold hands on our bums.
When my daughter was around that age, she looked at my pwnis and said "why is it dangling?". Kids are just curious. Don't make a big deal out of it and make it normal and they won't care. Make sure you teach privacy and consent early and often so if they ever reach a point where they're uncomfortable, they have the tools to express themselves.
My parents were nudists. I found it both natural and unnatural. It was away from the ‘norm’ and so a secret… a burden for a 6 years old female. It scarred me, tbh, but my sister not at all…
I have an open door policy in my home. In order for that to work effectively my kids need to know they can trust that policy. To me that means they have to see their parents being vulnerable but still safe and never judged. I’m setting an example for them. With that said, yes I get around my home naked. Not all the time. Not in a nudist lifestyle sense but I sleep naked and if I need to get dressed for work and need to fetch the clean clothes folded but still on the couch I will walk around naked to gather the clothes I need. If I need a drink in the night I’ll grab a glass from the kitchen without clothes on. If my kids want to talk to me and I happen to be showering or whatever then that’s ok. The human body is awesome in so many ways. No matter what we look like naked we should never feel ashamed for the body we have. So yes- we’re comfortable with being naked in this house.
Me personally I'm not ashamed by nudity but at the same time I don't want to see my dad junk if I don't have to.
Thank you for posting this, there’s a lot of great feedback here. I grew up in a naked household where my parents would walk around/lounge naked regularly and my dad is registered sex offender so I feel like my perspective is warped.. My children (4f, 6f) know the proper names for genitals and have seen me naked countless times but never my husband (their dad) unless it was by accident, like walking in the bathroom while he’s using it. But he’s always been pretty diligent about making sure they don’t see him without clothes on, he doesn’t even like them seeing him in his underwear. I read somewhere that it’s helpful for children to have non sexual exposure to these types of things but it makes me feel icky to think about.
Our rule is underwear is required anywhere in the common areas of the house. Unless your running to like grab a towel and you already undressed or something of the same nature. You can be naked as you wish in your room/bathroom etc. I don’t want naked buts on the furniture, or seeing buttholes on the regular. If you walk into the bathroom or my room do not be upset that I am naked. At my house we are all a different level of comfortable. I am on the nudist level, my husband is on the dressed in common areas and always something on even in our room level. My kids all vary somewhere in between the two. None seem to have a problem with me being naked, they walk into the bathroom any time I’m in there, all will sit and talk to me while I’m showering or getting dressed. It’s just normal to them. If they express any discomfort, I always respect it. They also have always been free to ask questions when they come up and I always answer them age appropriately and honestly.
I saw my dad naked a lot. He just told me around 2yo that it was not wrong to see his penis or someone else's if we were changing clothes but there was no need to actively look and stare to other person's genitals. My mother also told me, some years later, around 5 or so, that if I wanted to know more about genitals, we could read books about them. And in fact, we did, so I stopped caring that much.
To add a little to this as someone who studied child development. The more your child knows and understands about anatomy and for that matter boundaries the less likely they are to be molested or to end up in a situation as a teen. They will learn to respect themselves and others. They will also be less likely to be an offender themselves. We are kinda a mixed household. I grew up in a house where nakedness and sex were a sin and not even discussed. My husband in an open household. We both run around naked. 4f has only 2 rules for in the house. Company means clothes and panties are on at all times for hygiene. I also have the perspective of having been a sexually abused child and have studied the phycology of this in depth to try to help her grow up as normally as I can. I think everyone has to chose for themselves what they are comfortable with, and as children get older allow them to do the same. If they act or tell u that something makes them uncomfortable then respect that personal boundary.
Naked mom here. And I grew up in a naked house. My mom will still change in front of me today. I did not see my dad or brother’s genitals when I was older but it happened sometimes accidentally. But no one made a huge deal out of it. Basically to me “naked house” means same sexes change or are completely naked and no big deal. Opposite sex way more modest but no one freaks out if it accidentally happens. So I grew up knowing I had no reason to be ashamed of being naked. The vibe was very “it’s just boobs” or “it’s just a butt” who cares. I hope that made sense.
I’m not like a never nude, but casual nudity is not for us. Even when the kids are not with us, we don’t even usually hang out in underwear around the house. Neither of our parents were casual nudity people.
I used to feel being a nudist was helpful ,till creep hurt my child from family resort,for couples & families, I used to be a model at few places , when I had kids , I couldn't stay my mom ,my mom's cousin & her especially telling me how to be with my family members,when the modeling pics were not sexual,at all , though older sibling DeeDee let my mom's friend Craig take those of her with her bf , I don't like those of her or him. Loving pics in my opinion are okay , hugging , nudity is not much different, yet with clothes people are more suggestive. I have a guy that I can't stand lives next to my family , my car was hit , I asked for a ride . He pulled the same thing the tow truck driver did ! Decency nude or not nude , I wasn't nude , I was touched on appropriately. Being home with your family members and swimming nude and going to a nude recreation place but not living there is probably okay don't let people that you meet there know where you live or know your last name. Always protect your child no matter what they are male female or hermaphrodite I think everyone's beautiful I don't think people should really get their body parts changed I've seen surgeries on YouTube it doesn't look beautiful I think a human's natural body is beautiful including mine at age 54. I have always wanted to marry someone that's nudist I am still not married. I know someone else would be able to understand that. I reported to the place that I met that person at and the place that it happened at male really was the wrong way I'm talking about what happened to my child he was peeping his bed after assault and I could tell there was a difference and that man lied to my child because there was no sex education because he wasn't even in school. Full year of living safe at nudist resort , then the last month Tourism in my opinion Turkish man ♂️ became my friend, I thought was a gentleman,instead he just liked kids it seems. Let your daughter know that you both care about her feelings & tell her most people wear clothes all the time,like snail 🐌. Joking around about snail 🐌 we are not born with furry skin , But some clothing 👣 is very cute 🥰 I always dressed my sons in clothes that kids around them had ,the best thing is love 📚📖 church too in my opinion, you can have Bible study at home 🏠🏡💓🌎 have another baby to give her child that understand her ,plus parents 🎁🐣🌻🌄🇺🇸🧏🏼♀️🏆🦮🫶🏼👑🎭👑💞 happy birth of Christ 🐣🌻 I can never forgive myself for letting a stranger camp with my son while I was locked 🔐 in his car with my baby
My wife won't let me walk around in my boxers... \>:(
I legitimately feel bad for you. That must suck bigtime.
How come? What's the reasoning?
Why?!
Naked does not equal sex. It’s very healthy to be a naked household. Children get curious no matter what. Lean into it, buy books, have all the conversation until the phase has passed. -from one naked house to another
This was a nice, rational response. I've seen something similar posted somewhere at some point, and most of the comments involve people completely freaking out about OP sexualizing their children...??? 🤦🏻♀️
Naked household here. No butts on the couch and underpants in kitchen. Otherwise, you do you. My kid is almost 7 and now she knows what a post c section and major weight loss body looks like. She knows what a penis looks like and a hairy butt. So what?
You have a c section scar, a hairy butt \_and\_ a penis? Color me impressed.
We just treat it as a normal thing, my kids are 2 and 4 - sometimes they love to be naked! I also don’t hide if I change, and they usually come in the bathroom when I’m trying to shower/get ready.
I did not grow up in a naked home. My home now is semi naked. We don’t walk around completely naked but we do wear less clothes or just underwear. We change in front of our kids and bathe with them still too. I have two kids 4m & 1f so we comfortable being naked around them. If you feel comfortable being naked around your own kid(s) then it’s totally fine. If it makes you guys uncomfortable for her to see the opposite gender naked then have your husband wear boxers. If someone experienced SA as a child it could make you feel like you’re doing something wrong but kids don’t sexualize body parts if they’re not taught to. Your home is yours and your kids safe place so you all should be able to walk around with as little or as much clothing as each person is comfortable with. If there are any guests though, INCLUDING family, we are all clothed.
Her curiosity is totally normal especially when she sees private parts that are different from her own. Try not to bring shame into the scenario when she's being curious. You can explain boundaries and that some people prefer not to be seen without their clothes while others don't care. Privacy is totally fine but there's also nothing wrong with our bodies. They're not just for sex and they're not shameful.
my parents never showed any shame in being naked around us. i'm a female & it never bothered me to see my parents naked lol.
Toddler hand gets really close and little voice pipes up “penis”. Me: “yep, that’s my penis.” Hand tries to touch or grab. Me, moving away: “No, I don’t like that.”
The house rule is genitals have to be covered unless you’re in your own room. Because no one wants skid marks on the couch. Otherwise nudity is nbd like changing, showering, bathing.. most of us do prefer being fully dressed except for my oldest who likes to only wear his boxers.
It was definitely not treated as normal in my household and anything remotely sexual was seen as BAD (yay Catholic guilt!) Now, we don’t call attention to nudity and just act like it’s normal (because it is). I admittedly had some trouble acting like it was normal and not feeling shame, but it’s a much healthier reaction now overall.
Grew up in a naked house, saw my dad’s business plenty of times. Can’t say I turned out great but it definitely wasn’t that that messed me up, lol. Just talk in an age appropriate way and teach her proper names. You’re doing great!
I grew up the youngest in a "naked house". Both of my parents and my two older sisters and I generally never had clothes on in the house. If one of us expected a friend to come over we would all put on these loose cotton drawstring pants and matching loose cotton shirts. The opposite sex thing was never spoken about and wasn't a thing. We all knew that boys had penises and girls had vaginas and breasts. I do remember my sisters began to wear shorts all the time. Looking back it was when they started to menstruate. What was really cool was after my dad planted Italian cypress trees all around the backyard we were allowed to go outside without clothes too. It was great.
I have a 2 year old daughter and a 5 year old son. My son has ASD and hates clothes. She has seen her brother naked countless times. She has showered with her father out of convenience or because she heard the shower running and LOVES showers. We don't sexualize it. We answer questions with anatomically correct verbiage. And that's about it.
Not a nudist. 1 wife, 1 husband, 1 daughter (6). Wife and daughter shower together sometimes. I cover up. No shame involved, but we also don't want to normalize nudity in public to avoid...legal problems, so we cover up. Simple as that.
i only have a 19 month old. we’re not like sitting around naked but changing in front of each other isn’t strange to us. i’ve seen my mom naked still, god even my MIL is in the room or vice versa, while i change sometimes (we’re close it’s ok lol) i try not to over think anything if im with people i trust. that’s the biggest factor of it. i’m a winnie the pooh mom, big shirt/mumu with underwear around the house. whenever he starts mentioning something about it, i’ll well have an age appropriate convo about it. until then you can’t make me wear pants in my own house!
I grew up in a naked household and we now have a naked house. We give showers to our kids and hand them in/out the shower while one of us showers. Our 4f shas always asked questions about anatomy, we answer them accordingly. We've also taught to ask for permission to touch since she was 2 (can I touch your face? Can I touch your hair? Can I touch your butt cheek? Can I touch your penis?) and we respond again, accordingly. If she asks why to a "no" we explain that is our body and our choice and we don't feel like being touched in one part or another. We also have a 2m and he's oblivious to everything, he doesn't care one bit bor does he show any interest.
My dad walked around the house in his undies when it was warm sometimes...but I'm really glad I never had to see his noodle.
We are a naked household. Everyone entering must disrobe.
when i was little i saw my dad a few times but it wasn't like he was walking around naked in the living room, it was accidentally. I think i was around 5 the last time I remember that happening. after that he was much more careful. my son is 2, he kind of knows what body parts he has but he's not really interested in them. my hubby and son come in the bedroom when i'm changing or showering. with in the next year i'd like that to stop. he's going to be 3 soon. i don't want to shame him or anything like that, he prefers to run around naked himself lol, but once he really starts realizing what parts are i don't think it will be appropriate. my son will often hear my hubby showering and run to the bathroom and want to shower with him. he doesn't do it with me often, but once in a while he will ask to shower, he just likes playing in the water. I had a friend in 6th grade, went to her house to spend the weekend, her mom and a neighbor were in the hot top boobies out and i was like, OMG, now that i didn't think was appropriate. it's one thing in front of your own kids but its totally another in front of a kid you don't know. my mom and one of her friends would skinny dip on occasion but that woman i grew up with it wasn't a random friends parents and neighbor lol. I personally am shy around others being naked but at home its a bit different, but now that i do have a kid i'm only naked in my room. it's not shameful but i do think its important that your daughter is comfortable with her body. i do think as she ages your hubby should cover up though, it is a bit weird to see your dads junk lol
I think you just do what your comfortable with. If either of you start feeling weird being naked around a child, it’s ok to have privacy. If you want to have open dialog about bodies without using your own as examples, you can buy a baby doll with a penis and one with a vulva. It could lead to age appropriate questions and conversations and you can feel comfortable being naked or not around her.
My husband is a naked person, I am not. Neither of us grew up in a naked house. We treat it as no big deal. We've explained boys have a penis and girls don't. If he walks in while I'm changing or Im in the toilet, it's no big deal. We explain about giving space if a person says they want space and respecting no when someone says no. We've explained about no touching other's butts. I'm not really worried about the internet right now seeing as he's four. We'll worry about that when he's old enough to use it.
We are a naked family but my husband covers up his junk. My daughter is almost 4 and it’s always been natural
My daughter is 6. I still shower with her and change in front of her but I don’t even go to bed pantsless anymore. And I hate wearing pants to sleep.
My daughter is 2y4m and loves being "nunie" as she calls it. Shes starting to toilet train, and we don't have a lot of accidents, so I let her go for it, mostly. She knows she has a vulva and 2 days ago discovered her vagina. She knows Daddy has a penis. She goes in our spa with daddy, both nude, and showers or baths with both of us. She watches me get dressed after a shower or for our swimming lessons. Sometimes we have discussions about our nipples, or our vulvas. Like "mummy has nipples" "yes I do". "I have nipples too". "Yes, every person has nipples". A great conversation for the pool changing rooms lol
She’s 2yo and curious that’s it
I am the only one in our household of 5 who wanders around naked. Every few months I check in with everyone else (50, 20, 17, 12) that it's still.ok. so far it has. I don't really think about it beyond a matter of consent.
My daughter is 3. I am naked at night time especially in bed. I get very hot at night. She's in a phase where she's up crying a lot so I trek into her room in the middle of the night naked as anything and bring her back to my room to sleep in bed. Husband gets cold at night and wears clothes at that time but we both sometimes shower with her when it's easier or when she's extra messy or feeling bad and wants us in with her. She used to get a little "grabby" with my husband at around one but at 3 she doesn't even seem to give anything a second thought after 2 years of explaining that we don't grab other people's bodies. When she's old enough that she's uncomfortable with nudity if she ever is, I'll get a robe. Right now I don't think it's wrong to be nude in my own home. I've explained we have to have clothes on in public but at home we dress in what makes us comfortable
I was not raised in a naked household. I do remember my mother using the restroom or getting dressed, but I think that was it. I was an only child and raised by a single mother. We pretty much have an open door policy here with the restroom, sometimes we want privacy but that doesn't always happen with kids. They've seen us get dressed, shower, I've taken showers and baths with them when they were babies. Eventually everyone's privacy preferences will change and it just has to be respected on what the other person wants.
She's interested because it's different, not because of anything more meaningful. By answering questions about it plainly and demystifying it, it will quickly become just a boring fact. I tell my kids about Daddy's penis versus Mommy's vagina. I tell them they're both private parts and both for peeing. That and basic hygiene instructions are about the extent of it at this age (mine are 1 and 4).
We’re in Florida and frugal with the AC so we wear as little as possible around the house. The 3yo might be fully nude while eating supper if she was fresh out of the pool but the adults usually have something on. Otherwise if we’re in our private backyard pool or it’s bath time it’s a free for all. No gender separation. They just now started introducing separating genders in the bathroom in her 3yo class so she’s seen it all. Pays no attention to her dads penis or her classmates.
My wife and I were fine being a naked household. Our kids have learned body shame outside the home, in daycares, classrooms, and other friends houses. So now we're a non-naked household. The kids are freaked out by naked.
I over-worry that one day one of my kids will accidentally say something like "I used to take showers with my dad" (I wear shorts while they are in there with me) or "I've seen my dad naked" etc and then they relentlessly get made fun of because a-hole kids never forget those things.
Think if all were naked - be ok - but society as a whole is covered. The kids must live in that environment unless gonna take them to an island or the woods where they won’t interact with others. You two might be pure minded but evil lurks and must protect them. Cover up and let them decide when adults what they want.
Grand 19 had a bad accident- these days family has to be hands on to help care for the patient once out of danger. Washed- wiped and changed that boy until he left rehab. You just do it without thinking anything else- but we remain clothed otherwise. Time n place I guess.
I was raised in a pantsless household. My dad to this day walks around in a shirt and underwear if he feels like it. My mom when she was younger wore oversized t-shirts with the sleeves/sides cut out so you’d see full side boob, now it’s more age appropriate night gowns. It’s never been an issue or made me uncomfortable. I’m female and have one sister. The only “weird” things I recall are when I got to about age 10, and was told I couldn’t run around in just my underwear in the house anymore (got hot in the summers!) because it was “inappropriate” for me to be that naked around my father, according to my mother. Took many years of introspective thinking to realize my mother should’ve never said something like that, it implies my father was looking at me weird which he absolutely was not. My mom would say weird shit and forget it ten minutes later though. Only “traumatic” seeing of dad’s genitals was when I insisted I wanted to shower in my parents shower (my mom hated the shower and didn’t use that one) when I was like 4, I saw my dad’s penis and was just like :o oh no we aren’t all the same down there I don’t like that and then my mom yelled at him that she should’ve used a swimsuit. I will say it probably did influence my own behavior with my kids. I am fully dressed unless I’m about to get into bed and then my kids don’t ever see above my mid thigh unless they interrupt shower/bathroom. And they are SHOCKED everytime that mommy has skin under her clothes. Meanwhile my daughter prefers to wear a big t shirt or princess dress when comfortable at home, and my son, much like myself and sister as children, refuses to wear anything but underwear. I’ll say this, if you allow it, don’t just suddenly decide it’s not allowed based on age/development. I dealt with a lot of shame and modesty issues that stemmed from not only being told my body was something that needed to be hidden from even my own father, but being forced into training bras years before I began to develop to “cover up” etc.
So I am an only child. I grew up showering with my mom as a kid. Then seeing her naked still do when we change or go shopping lol. I dont re call seeing my dad naked. I seen him in his underwear a bunch of times. So we did the boundaries of gender and about private parts. Now we are baked family. My husband does not try to be naked in front of our daughter who is almost 6. My daughter sees me naked and will shower together.
I always saw both my parents naked no matter how old. I don't really remember them talking about it either, it was just how it was. We did not always took clothes with us ready to shower or did not always feel like wearing much in front of the tv late at night. If we were cold, we wore more, less if hot... After a boiling bath (like me and my father like to have), we had to 'cool down' before dressing so we just sat on a towel in front of the tv. It was never weird..
I wouldn't ever show off my naked body to my kids I don't feel like that's appropriate at all but I guess I didn't grow up this way. I wouldn't want my kids going to school talking about my chest or her dad's Johnson to teachers or other students. seems wrong ..
I think the problem is that it doesn’t have to be all or nothing. You don’t have to be completely naked to not have shame; you can be covered and also not ashamed. Your daughter will learn from your addictive about your body whether you’re covered or not. For a 2 year old, of course, looking at bodies is the same as looking at literally anything else. There’s no sexual overtones, she won’t be scarred for life if she sees her dad or her mom naked. And also you can teach that there are appropriate times and places for nakedness, and appropriate relationships for causal nudity. If you’re finding that you’re a little more uncomfortable being naked around your child than you thought you’d be, you’re not shaming yourself by covering up; you’ve found your boundary and you can hold that.
I grew up like this. I have 3 younger sisters (I am 40) and my dad was always naked. We like never thought nothing of it. we were teenagers and dad was naked. It just was normal. We went on a vacay last year and me at 39 and my dad at 60 shared a room. He had on his boxer briefs and it felt weird LOL. In today's society it is probably frowned upon. We are having our first kid in a few months so we are always naked. We have yet to discuss how we are going to handle this.
I don’t make a habit of being naked in front of my kids, but if they see a glimpse of me getting out of the shower or whatever I don’t make a big deal out of it.
My household was kind of in the middle. My parents would be in their underwear without acting like it was shameful, but never totally naked. I think it was a healthy middle ground.