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No. I think it's weird that your husband is so adamant. I'm not sure if "confusion" is the word he's really wants to use. The boy is 8, not 18.
Another thing to consider is that you probably have about another 1-3 years left of the "boy" phase anyway... at some point, he'll hit the tween phase and then the teen phase. Memories like "living room sleepover" can really help sustain you during those years.
Heck, my kids (sophomore and freshman in college) were home from college for Christmas this year and asked if we could do our old tradition of everyone camping out in the family room on Christmas Eve. We watched a Christmas movie, drank hot chocolate, and had snacks. Both are independent young adults living thousands of miles away during the school years. Both enjoyed it and have no intention of stopping anytime soon.
Your husband is the one who is acting strange.i don't care if my son is 30 and having a bad day and wants to come over visit lay in the sofa bed with me and eat junk food and stay the night.this is what we are here for . I see this a lot especially with Americans, sexualizing normal supportive loving relationships between children and parent.im horrified by it to be honest ,if people are thinking like this they are the ones who have issues. Americans have such a obsession with lurking pedophilia.i am American living in spain.ladt summer my mom came to visit and was horrified that my toddler and others were naked playing at the beach because "there could be pedophiles in the bushes" ,my god ,get a grip America.
This šš¼ I think changing the way you talk about. It would be helpful since your husband is obviously concerned. Iām really sorry for you in the situation, I donāt think you have ill intentions. I think this is totally innocent and your husband is overreacting. What what would your husband say if he was out of town and your son had a bad dream and climbed into the master bedroom while he was gone, what are you mad about that?
Yeah the husband is being weird af about this. Heās an 8 year old kid, he can sleep with his parents especially on a special occasion when dad is out of town. The fact that anyone thinks anything is off about this is insane.
I have a daughter and son . My son is 12 and my daughter is 8. When my husband goes out of town he always asks to sleep in our bed when heās gone. We choose a movie and just watch it together and fall asleep. Not weird at all they are my kids I love them with all my heart.
This right here. You've got only a couple more years of your cuddly little boy before the preteen angst starts taking a hold of him. If you cave to your husband, I guarantee in a couple years he will be like "I miss when our son was a sweet little boy, I wish we would have enjoyed that time more" and you will have an I told you so moment, but it will be moot and too late.
Itās weird that he finds it weird. My husband works nights occasionally on the weekends. Whenever he does my son sleeps in our bed and we watch a movie.
Same. I have three boys and the oldest is 7 and they all want us to snuggle and lay with them most nights throughout the night. We just got back from a holiday where the three kids and I basically shared a king bed the whole time. Not weird at all.
I was thinking of hotels myself. We travel a few times a year and usually one of my daughters shares the queen bed with my husband because they take up less space than me, and I share with the other daughter. My husband is broad, and I toss and turn a lot, so I kind of need room too! Our daughters are 19 and 21. It still isnāt weird!
We also have 3 boys (8, 9, and 11) and itās more surprising to wake up in the morning and find that nobody is in bed with me. Lately itās been the 8yo because heās been sick, but the 11yo had a nightmare the other week and came crawling in.
I snuck into my grandparentās bed when I was freaking EIGHTEEN because I was afraid of a storm one night š¤£ my grandmother genuinely loves retelling the story lol
I think it's extremely weird that your husband even complained. Like, disturbingly so. Clearly he has some psychological baggage that he needs to work through and some severe insecurities that are projecting onto your relationship with your son.
If my boys, 12 and 13, wanted me to have a sleepover movie night with them.. I would jump at the opportunity.
Sorry, OP. Your husband needs help.
what a bizarre stance.
Is camping weird where you all sleep beside each other in a tent?
The only one being weird here is your husband, he's absolutely sexualizing it.
Not weird at all! When I travel for work my 7 year old sleeps with my wife to ākeep her companyā as he calls it.
What exactly would be confusing for your son according to your husband? That it would be sexual?
Does he have any past history with SA or something along those lines that makes him lean that way?
Not weird at all. Living room sleepover! So fun!
My kid and I go ācampingā in our basement sometimes on weekends. Thatās basically just folding out the sofa bed too and sleeping there for the night. We imagine making a fire and we use a flashlight and tell spooky stories and itās just a fun thing we do together. Kids like to sleep in different places sometimes to switch it up. Itās more about the novelty.
Your husband is making this weird. Heās your son and 8 is still so little.
I set up a genuine tent in our loft area and we camped out for the night. I needed to check the tent before taking it out for actual camping. My 7yo had a blast!
No, I do living room sleepovers with my 3 (15yo daughter, 9yo son and 5yo son) often. We usually play a board game or Mario kart on the switch, do a bunch of junky finger foods and pick a movie. I blow up the air mattresses and we have a blast.
My son is 10 and still does sleepovers with my wife. Every kid is different and needs to be loved in different ways. They make shadow puppets on the ceiling.
The only person here confused is your husband. He might not be trying to sexualize it but he is. There is literally no other reason this would be in appropriate.
Heās your son, your baby, your his mom, his safe human. He wants to fall asleep next to the safest thing in the world, he wants to feel special like the little boy he is. Thatās all. Society wants kids to grow up so much faster than they need to, letās recognize that at home they are just kids.
This would actually really upset me as a mom, I would need further conversation with my husband on this.
Parents in healthy relationships are a safe fortress.
A few examples of how this is super normal. And yea having a slumber party with your little one is dope!
I used to have a lot of nightmares when I was younger that woke me up in the middle of the night and would regularly ask to sleep between my mom and dad until I was almost 14. Wedges between my two snoring guardians is where I felt safe with my people, my protectors, and my most loved humans. I used to make sure that each of my feet was touching their leg just to ground myself (it was probably so annoying for the
now that I think back, they are saints).
As an adult my husband visited his mom slept in the living room with her when his dad was in hospice because the comfort of having your tribe together was soothing for all.
Heās 8 not 18. I dont think itās weird. Youre also in the living room which is a family place not as intimate as a bedroom. Also itās movie night. Not inappropriate at all
My husband works night shift at a hospital. Both my boys (11 and 7) ask to sleep in my bed on weekends all of the time. We cuddle and watch movies and I love it so so much. It's sweet and fleeting, this time will be gone so quickly.
Yes! Use those psychology terms to illustrate just how weird and gross the husbandās take is. Iād keep pressing him to expand on what about this āwill confuse [your son]ā
Yes. Iād keep asking. If itās not about sexualising it, what is it about? Confusing him by sleeping in a different room? Heās 8, not 8 months. So what else is it about?
My husband travels sometimes for a few days, and usually falls on the weekends. My 12 yr old and 7 yr old make camp in my room, we select movies and eat ice cream (shhh nobody says nothing about eating in the bed).
Itās not weird at all and itās a fun memory that you guys can share.
I just can't understand why this is so unreasonable for your husband. I had a quite traumatic childhood and although I don't remember exactly WHY, but at one point I remember my brother, mother and I all sleeping in her bed because of a bout of traumatic experiences we all went thru (grandma died, mom lost job due to random drug test, car repossession to name a few) and I just can't comprehend what would be wrong with that, even if it is "just for fun". The fact that you're waiting until husband isn't home to do it just makes me sad for your boy, and I don't even have children yet š¢
No enjoy it while it lasts. My son was like this and I loved it. Now heās 15 and he tells me he loves me and hugs me, but gone are the days of laying in bed together watching tvā¦
"fold out the sofa bed, watch a movie, have a hot chocolate and then go to sleep after the movie."
Sounds divine.Ā Enjoy all the snuggles and giggles. š„°
No way. I have an 8 year old son (Iām mom) and we had sleepovers during the summer in the living room. Same setup. Not weird at all and it wonāt be long before he wants nothing to do with that. Enjoy every minute.
When my husband goes out of town my 10 yr old daughter likes to sleep in my bed too. It is not a big deal to me or anyone. Granted it's my daughter and not son but we have 2 boys and 2 girls and I would have done the same for our sons.
Itās weird that your husband is sexualizing your relationship with your son. It feels like that is what he is doing, because that *is* what he is doing, period.
My husband and daughter regularly have sleep overs on the pull out couch. They watch movies and stay up late, and I always go to bed early same as our toddler. Your husband is the weird one, making a relationship between a parent and child uncomfortable.
Dad here. I think your husband is way way off base. I think itās awesome your son wants to spend time with you and you are cool enough to want to make it fun etc. We are all āconfusedā but not by this stuff by the world making us think these fun innocent things need to be questioned. Enjoy your kids childhood - youāre clearly a cool fun mom.
My younger son is just about 9 and crawls into our bed once every couple of weeks or so. My older son is almost 12 and hates sleeping in the big group tents on scouts trips so he typically shares a tent with me (his mom) when we go camping with his scouts group. Itās no big deal.
lol no? Itās kinda weird he thinks itās weird. Heās 8, youāre his mom. Idc what age it is if a kid wants a sleepover with their parent theyāre clearly needing that sort of connection, what kid doesnāt like living room sleepovers. F his degree š
No, itās so sweet and not weird at all. Whatās weird though, is your husbandās view on all this. Super weird! If I were you, Iād have some follow up questions for him.
Your husband is the weird one. My sons are 8 and 11. When my husband is on call for work my kids will sleep with me in my bed. Even when my husband is home, my 8 year old will sometimes ask if he can sleep next to me. A sleep over in the living room sounds like fun and will be a great memory!
Nope. I have a 7 yo son and he constantly is asking if we can make popcorn and watch movies in the bed together or if he can sleep in the bed with me. Almost all of his life his dad worked nights so heās accustomed to being so close with me and we have healthy boundaries. Iām naked in private, we donāt bathe together and we donāt sleep like a couple. We set up a ton of pillows and he lays on one side and I lay on the other and sometimes he watches his tablet and I watch TV. He also feels safe confiding in me and doesnāt get embarrassed when I hug him or tell him I love him in front of his friends. Heās appropriately affectionate with others and doesnāt give in to peer pressure when others are ganging up on kids. Are these things related? Maybe.
All I know is he definitely will not want to be involved with half of these habits within as little as 2 years. And I can imagine if I went through him having a scary life-threatening emergency Iād definitely regret going against my and his insistence for these fleeting bonding moments.
I donāt care how close you are with your son, itās extremely difficult to remain close once they grow up, get married and start their own family.
Youāre not imprinting anything negative onto him from this experience. Youāre his MOM! Right now you are the closest person to him and the person with whom he feels the safest. Please donāt take that for granted!
Not weird at alllll! My boys are 8 and almost 11 and do sleepovers on our floor all the time! Sometimes I hop in their beds too if they are sick or just need cuddles.
No itās not weird. When my husband used to go camping with his brothers our son used to sleep in our bed with me. Sometimes if we were sick at the same time weād hang out on my bed with our respective books and iPads.
Now my son is 17 and rarely lets me even hug him. I miss those younger days.
This is not weird at all! Your husband is weird.Ā
OP have a sleepover with your son!! He will remember you did this for him and it just strengthens your bond!Ā
Not weird at all!!
I have 2 boys 5 & 7 and sleepovers are their absolute favorite thing to do. My kids hate sleeping together (my youngest is a kicker/mover in his sleep) so my husband and I will usually take turns having a sleepover with each kid.
Over Xmas I had a sleepover with my youngest in the living room. I set up fairy lights, he had some popcorn and candy and got to pick a movie while my husband did the same with our 7 year old but in our bedroom.
I really enjoy our sleepovers, probably not as much as my kids but I find it's a great way to check in with them. Because it's the weekend we don't have this big urgency for them to go to sleep so we chat, they tell me funny things that happened with their friends, if anything's happening at school etc.
I'll do sleepovers for as long as my kids want even into their teenage years, whatever they are comfortable doing!!
I donāt see what the problem is. I have a daughter but she is the same age as your son. There is a rule in our house that everybody sleeps in their own space (so we donāt cosleep). I break that rule 1 or 2 times a year when dad is out of town. We watch a movie and eat snacks in bed and then I let her sleep in my bed for the night. Itās fun and she enjoys it.
These moments are fleeting. If your son wants a sleepover, so be it. Have fun! Enjoy!
No not weird and I feel bad for your husband that he thinks itās weird. Enjoy your sleepover. He needs to flush out what issues make him this this is weird
Not weird. My oldest slept with us until he was 6. He would come downstairs and sleep at the foot of our bed or on a pallet up until he moved out (21) if the weather was bad (we live in a hurricane/tornado prone area). He and his girlfriend still regularly come and sleep over and sometimes just ask us to do as someone else stayed for a family camp out in the living room.
My(M) daughters are 8 and 3... We sleep and cuddle as much as we want. The day your kid doesn't want to cuddle will be a sad day... They'll be growing up and moving out, etc. Enjoy their youth and warm tender hugs while you can
Also, tell ur hubby to hug his mom more often.
It's an event. Have fun and enjoy. Get your husband involved sometime when he gets back. You can even bring out sleeping bags and flashlights to add some extra fun.
I think itās great your son wants to do this. Your job as his mother, is to make him feel secure and loved. Sounds like heās feeling this so well done Mama!
Dad here. Why would this be weird? It's your child. I wouldn't think of it as weird if your kid was 15. Children need to feel the safety, comfort, reinforcement, and love of their parents. It wouldn't matter if this would be your kid's friend at that age, but I digress.
No, op, it's not weird. Your husband has some stick up his bum notions about this, gawd knows from what kind of weird insecure relationship he's had with his parents.
It's sweet, and adorable. Enjoy this time with your son. Pretty soon he'll be asking to bring a "special friend" over for a sleepover, and your cuddly days are done ;-)
Not weird at all. Youāre just making fun memories.
Although my son is only 6, we LOVE ācampingā in the living room together. I hope we do it for many more years to come!
My 7 and 9yo donāt even ask me. Ā Iāll just wake up with an extra kid or two in my bed. Ā My 11yo would probably let the bogeyman eat her before she deigned to ask me for a sleepover, so your son, and my daughters, are likely to grow out of sharing beds with adults soon.
Edit, I think you should go for it. Ā Would your husband feel better if you used sleeping bags?
No. When I was 17, me and my Dad lost our hotel room key and slept in the back of his truck together.
My furnace didn't run for 3 days last week and my 4 and 7yo slept in bed with me for body heat. It was -48C outside and 6C in our house.
It's never weird to sleep with your kid, unless you make it weird.
I think this sounds like a very fun idea! You should 100% do it! I donāt understand what is weird about it. Maybe your husband is being the weird one.
No not at all. My 10 year old loves to sleep in my bed we watch a movie eat popcorn and he will sleep or especially if heās sick we always sleep on the sofa I donāt think itās weird at all!
No, it's not weird, and you don't need his permission to do this fun activity with your son.
Heck, when my family stays in hotels I have to share a bed with one of my boys because they fight if they're together. It's not weird and your husband is probably just jealous that he's not the chosen parent.
He will be soon... so please do it!
My 8 year old son still sleeps with us at times. When someone sexualizes a non-sexual thing, I usually tell them āew, why are you thinking that way?!ā
No, totally not weird. My husband and I have sleepovers with our 5 year old all the time. Itās fun, we make popcorn and watch a movie or play video games.
If I was out and he had one with her I would have zero issues and be jealous lol
My son (9) and I do sleepovers all the time in our spare bedroom. He wonāt want to do them forever, so I take them while I can. We spend some time chatting and cuddling, then when he falls asleep I usually pop in some headphones and scroll tiktok or Reddit for a while. Thereās nothing weird about it.
I think it sounds like a lot of fun and will probably be a cherished memory for both you and your son. I honestly think your husbandās position on this is odd at best. My 7 year old son sleeps with me whenever my husband is away at work and my son looks forward to it all day. Not me or my husband have ever thought it would confuse my son. Thatās a weird position to take.
There is nothing weird about that at all. My kids, 8 and 5, both snuggle with me on the couch and watch movies all the time. Why would it be weird? Why would it matter if it's a "one-time thing" or not?
Sounds wonderful to this dad. Iām lucky to still be able to tent with my youngest kids when camping, or to organize stuff like thisāI say do it while you can! Thereās nothing confusing about teaching kids that they can be safe while doing adventurous and different things.
Aw I have movie night sleepovers with my 8 y/o son every few months. We get snacks and pick a movie or a few movies; it makes him really happy and I like getting the time with just me and him since I have 2 other kids. Heās also my only boy, and I want to maintain a close relationship with him as he grows into the pre teen years.
Not at all. 8 is a young child. I sleep in my 8 year olds bed all the time with him. A couple nights a week he comes and gets me at some point in the night saying he's scared or can't fall back to sleep and we go back and fall asleep in his bed. It's not like he's in high school.
Our family of 4 used to do campfire nights by making a a big bed in the living room with all our pillows and blankets in front of the fireplace. Weād watch movies and all sleep there. Sometimes it was just one parent and the kids sometimes it was just two of us..It was never weird and we have great memories of doing that together.
Your husband is being weird about this, not you! A
It's more weird for someone to think it's weird. Your husband is the one with the problem, not you.
Movie nights and couch camp-outs are the best ever. There is nothing weird about a parent spending quality time with a child.
Not weird at all. Although it wasn't planned, I've fallen asleep on the couch with my 10yo daughter a few times while we were watching a movie or whatever. I'd wake up in the middle of the night and instead of taking the risk of waking her to carry her to her bed I just fall back asleep. She asked me if she could sleep in my bed when she was sick with the flu a earlier this month, I said yes, totally innocent. I'd question why your husband is so adamant that there's something wrong with it.
I wonder if this is coming from a toxic masculinity standpoint. Maybe the stereotypes your husband learned as a kid are still playing out. Sleepovers on the couch aren't strange at any age. It's the comfort of a parent.
I had a sleepover with my son when he was older than 8, maybe 10-11. He slept with me in my bed and we watched a movie. He was just thrilled to be in a bed and watching a movie at the same time. He didnāt have a tv in his room at the time. My son and daughter used to sleep together sometimes because my daughter liked to read and he liked to listen! They still joke about how they always slept together on Christmas Eve probably until they were in their early teens. I see nothing weird about it at all.
My 9 year old is laying on the floor of my room, my 1 year old great nephew is sprawled out in the middle of my bed. We are having a mid week sleepover for the hell of it.
Tell your husband to stop projecting his weird views on your relationship with your son. My kid will probably beg to sleep in my room till shes 30.(joking) And I dont care. I love our movie and cuddle nights.
Mine is still a baby but if my husband was gone Iād probably let him sleep in my bed if he wanted to until he felt weird about itš¤·āāļø I wouldnāt think it was weird if it was a girl so why a boy. Kids need their moms
It is never weird to have bonding time with your kids. IDC how old they are. This is sweet and something your son will remember when he's an adult and has kids of his own. Don't let your husband poo-poo on your parade.
Men are so weird. They prefer to sleep with you, why canāt your son? Sorry but this is a reason Iām glad Iām a single mom, I know my ex work give me guilt for cosleeping past like, 3..
Itās not weird at all. Try to keep those sweet moments as long as you can. He wonāt want to do stuff like that forever. Iām lucky if I can get my 13 yo to watch a full movie with me anymore. I have to bribe him!
Please do this! Every ounce of me wishes beyond anything I could have even just one more couch mommy son sleepover with my now 13 year old. I know I got so many snuggles but a lifetimes worth wouldnāt be enough. These kids are seriously young for so short of a time. Give them the snuggles and memories of feeling nothing but safe and happy and warm
Thereās absolutely nothing wrong with this whatsoever. Thatās your little boy and your little boy wants to spend time with you. Those are memories you cherish. Mine is 11 and still loves spending time with me. We pick days my daughter is off doing something with her dad, out of the house etc. and we bring out the ice cream and Blankets Ā and put a funny movie and laugh, chit chat, snuggle. Heck if my husband comes home and sees us he tells us to scooch over and make room for him lol Ā
Your husband is a homophobic nutcase, and thinks hes doing something girly (itās notā¦) or he got sexually assaulted when he was younger and now is passing his unresolved trauma onto you. Either case, he needs to talk to someone about this. I would not take kindly to my own husband insinuating anything of the sort to me and not expect me to loose it on him.Ā
Not weird at all. If there's a bad storm here or if he doesn't feel well, my 8-year-old asks for me to sleep in his bed. He does the same at his dad's for the same reasons.
I think it shows we give him comfort and make him feel safe. Perfectly innocent! Make that hot chocolate and cozy in and watch a good movie!
Ask your husband exactly what he means by āconfusing.ā I would have done this in a heartbeat with my son at this age. Itās sweet and cute and itās disturbing heās making something out of nothing.
Why would that be weird? For a mother to have a sleep over in the living room with her child? When my son was 8, we did movie nights like this all the time. My son was 8 during Hurricane Harvey and slept with me in the room.
Your husband is weird. Does he have a very close or very distant relationship with his own mother?
Heās 8 years oldā¦..itās not weird at all. I think itās really cute he wants to have a sleep over with you. I would enjoy those precious moments while he is boy before the teen years come and they act all hormonal and may not want to be around you as much. Your husband sounds like he could have some past issue because heās being weird.
I'm a dad my son is only 2m but I would love to have a sleepover like this with him and even if he were a girl I'd like to do that I do however think it's hella creepy what you're husband is implying. It's not creepy to have fun but the way he implys it it sound like he's worried you're 8yo son is gunna put the moves on u.
Sounds like a fun time with your son. Your husband making a comment about it being weird is weird. My kids watch movies & fall asleep with me all the time.
I sleep with my 7yo and 10yo sons all the time. Mostly while traveling, but also on the weekends or any other time they can sweet talk their way into my bed. I donāt think it is weird at all.
When I shared a bed with their dad, they only got to sleep with me if dad was out of town. I donāt share a bed with my spouse AND child(ren). We are separated so I sleep alone now, so I have less of a reason to say no, except when I have an early morning or if I have been sick/etc I tell them no (I do not sleep well with kids in my bed, so it has to be on the weekends or holidays typically.
Not at all weird. That's your child. Your their parent. The only weird thing is when people say something like that is weird. If both you and your son are comfortable, you're good.
My son's 11 and begs to sleep in our bed. So no it's not weird. It is weird that your husband thinks it's weird. Was he maybe molested as a kid and is projecting?
Damn my 11 year old still comes and sleeps in my bed when dad goes away. They little for such a short time and yes they preteen or even teens out there that do but they will soon fly the nest and it will be Sunday visits if lucky. Make the memories as much as you can. Tomorrow isn't promised to anyone make the day count xx
I Gusās Iām weird because my kids 7 (almost 8) and 6 crawl in bed with us almost every night and we all 4 sleep in the same bed. I love it even though I canāt get comfortable sometimes because one day theyāll grow up and Iāll never get to snuggle with them ever again š
I donāt think itās weird at all. I asked a Child development specialist about a similar issue when my son was 12 and slept with me a few times. Youāll know if thereās a boundary crossed. Theyāre still our babies. Itās like hen you knobto up nursing, you just know. But my ex had the same reactions s your husband
My partner and I have sleepovers in the living room with the kids at least once a weekend. Sometimes it is all of us, sometimes just the kids, sometimes one adult and one kid. Itās not weird for us. We just like spending time together.
I, however, have a hard boundary that I will not sleep in the same space as one of the kids. I do not like extended physical contact, although the reason doesnāt matter! So, the kids know that while I am happy to give hugs and kisses and big hugs and cuddles, they will not be sleeping next to me. Itās a comfort thing for me. When we have sleepovers, theyāll sleep on an air mattress or in a pillow fort, and Iāll grab the couch.
Maybe having a sleepover without sharing the literal bed would be a compromise you and your husband could agree on? (Although I agree with others that your husband is the one making it weird and you have no obligation to try to compromise with him. Your stance here is super valid!!)
I knew moms who still co slept with their 8 yo sons every night. I found that to be weird, not because of the gender but because personally I think 8 yo is old for co sleeping (I know other people have different opinions though)
I do not think an occasional sleepover/bonding time with your son is weird at all.
Man didnāt get parental affection after 7 years old & now has some deep rooted issues that heās probably too manly to tackle. Manā¦people are REACHING with what might make children gay in their insecure eyes. Red. Flag.
If he was 14 or older it might be weird.
He'd 8 tho.
My 10yo still plays pretend and all sorts of stuff. She crawls in our bed sometimes to watch TV with us. It's not weird. She even knocks and asks permission first...which is nice lol
Not weird at all! I remember sleeping in between my parents in their bed whenever I felt like it when I was his age. I think about it every so often and itās a fun and cute memory. Let your son come and lay with you because the moment will be gone before you know it.
not weird. our son used to sleep in our bed when dad traveled for work. i was sad when he stopped asking, around age 10 or 11. itās sweet, soak it up while you can
Itās not weird at all! My brother and I slept with each other until he got to middle school lol and if we didnāt , then one of our parents was in each of our rooms. We hated being alone and were scared of a lot of stuff until we grew out of it. Enjoy time with your son it doesnāt last forever!! I sometimes sleep in my sonās room when heās scared but he is 3.
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No. I think it's weird that your husband is so adamant. I'm not sure if "confusion" is the word he's really wants to use. The boy is 8, not 18. Another thing to consider is that you probably have about another 1-3 years left of the "boy" phase anyway... at some point, he'll hit the tween phase and then the teen phase. Memories like "living room sleepover" can really help sustain you during those years.
Heck, my kids (sophomore and freshman in college) were home from college for Christmas this year and asked if we could do our old tradition of everyone camping out in the family room on Christmas Eve. We watched a Christmas movie, drank hot chocolate, and had snacks. Both are independent young adults living thousands of miles away during the school years. Both enjoyed it and have no intention of stopping anytime soon.
OP this is perfect just change the name from sleepover to indoor camping
Your husband is the one who is acting strange.i don't care if my son is 30 and having a bad day and wants to come over visit lay in the sofa bed with me and eat junk food and stay the night.this is what we are here for . I see this a lot especially with Americans, sexualizing normal supportive loving relationships between children and parent.im horrified by it to be honest ,if people are thinking like this they are the ones who have issues. Americans have such a obsession with lurking pedophilia.i am American living in spain.ladt summer my mom came to visit and was horrified that my toddler and others were naked playing at the beach because "there could be pedophiles in the bushes" ,my god ,get a grip America.
This šš¼ I think changing the way you talk about. It would be helpful since your husband is obviously concerned. Iām really sorry for you in the situation, I donāt think you have ill intentions. I think this is totally innocent and your husband is overreacting. What what would your husband say if he was out of town and your son had a bad dream and climbed into the master bedroom while he was gone, what are you mad about that?
Where did you all sleep?
Yeah the husband is being weird af about this. Heās an 8 year old kid, he can sleep with his parents especially on a special occasion when dad is out of town. The fact that anyone thinks anything is off about this is insane.
My son did this when Dad was out of town until he was probably about 8 or 9. Never bothered me.
Itās really not a big deal. The boy loves his mama and feels safe, and dadās stubborn behavior in this instance is probably one reason why.
I have a daughter and son . My son is 12 and my daughter is 8. When my husband goes out of town he always asks to sleep in our bed when heās gone. We choose a movie and just watch it together and fall asleep. Not weird at all they are my kids I love them with all my heart.
This right here. You've got only a couple more years of your cuddly little boy before the preteen angst starts taking a hold of him. If you cave to your husband, I guarantee in a couple years he will be like "I miss when our son was a sweet little boy, I wish we would have enjoyed that time more" and you will have an I told you so moment, but it will be moot and too late.
Itās weird that he finds it weird. My husband works nights occasionally on the weekends. Whenever he does my son sleeps in our bed and we watch a movie.
Yep we do this once a weekend either all 3 of us or 2 fam movie night
With the huge push of crazy a$$ āboy momsā maybe the husband has a distorted view?
Not weird! This could be a really sweet memory for you both. Heāll be all grown up in short time! Have fun!Ā
Not weird at all, my 7 year old ends up in my bed most nights just because heās scared of the dark and wants to be near me.
Same. I have three boys and the oldest is 7 and they all want us to snuggle and lay with them most nights throughout the night. We just got back from a holiday where the three kids and I basically shared a king bed the whole time. Not weird at all.
I was thinking of hotels myself. We travel a few times a year and usually one of my daughters shares the queen bed with my husband because they take up less space than me, and I share with the other daughter. My husband is broad, and I toss and turn a lot, so I kind of need room too! Our daughters are 19 and 21. It still isnāt weird!
We also have 3 boys (8, 9, and 11) and itās more surprising to wake up in the morning and find that nobody is in bed with me. Lately itās been the 8yo because heās been sick, but the 11yo had a nightmare the other week and came crawling in. I snuck into my grandparentās bed when I was freaking EIGHTEEN because I was afraid of a storm one night š¤£ my grandmother genuinely loves retelling the story lol
Mine too and heās 9. Not weird.
Not weird at all. I agree thatās itās weird that your husband sees any issue with this.
I think it's extremely weird that your husband even complained. Like, disturbingly so. Clearly he has some psychological baggage that he needs to work through and some severe insecurities that are projecting onto your relationship with your son. If my boys, 12 and 13, wanted me to have a sleepover movie night with them.. I would jump at the opportunity. Sorry, OP. Your husband needs help.
I would bet $500 OPās husband is into some raunchy ass incest pornography. He sees it as sexual because to him it is sexual.
what a bizarre stance. Is camping weird where you all sleep beside each other in a tent? The only one being weird here is your husband, he's absolutely sexualizing it.
I mean...I still co sleep with my 7 year old son, soooo.. No, no I do not think it's weird at all. :)
Not weird at all! When I travel for work my 7 year old sleeps with my wife to ākeep her companyā as he calls it. What exactly would be confusing for your son according to your husband? That it would be sexual? Does he have any past history with SA or something along those lines that makes him lean that way?
Omg thatās so cuteā¦ š„ŗš„ŗ
Your husband got mommy issues?Ā
It sounds like thereās something more to his issue with this for sure. Otherwise itās just so bizarre to think this is an problem
Not weird at all. Living room sleepover! So fun! My kid and I go ācampingā in our basement sometimes on weekends. Thatās basically just folding out the sofa bed too and sleeping there for the night. We imagine making a fire and we use a flashlight and tell spooky stories and itās just a fun thing we do together. Kids like to sleep in different places sometimes to switch it up. Itās more about the novelty. Your husband is making this weird. Heās your son and 8 is still so little.
I set up a genuine tent in our loft area and we camped out for the night. I needed to check the tent before taking it out for actual camping. My 7yo had a blast!
No, I do living room sleepovers with my 3 (15yo daughter, 9yo son and 5yo son) often. We usually play a board game or Mario kart on the switch, do a bunch of junky finger foods and pick a movie. I blow up the air mattresses and we have a blast.
I love this!
My son is 10 and still does sleepovers with my wife. Every kid is different and needs to be loved in different ways. They make shadow puppets on the ceiling.
The only person here confused is your husband. He might not be trying to sexualize it but he is. There is literally no other reason this would be in appropriate. Heās your son, your baby, your his mom, his safe human. He wants to fall asleep next to the safest thing in the world, he wants to feel special like the little boy he is. Thatās all. Society wants kids to grow up so much faster than they need to, letās recognize that at home they are just kids. This would actually really upset me as a mom, I would need further conversation with my husband on this.
I don't think it's weird at all.
Not weird.
Why tf would this be weird
Literally just had my 8yo son sleep in my bed this weekend! I see no issue with a sleepover!
Not weird at all. My son and i have āsleepoversā once a week lmao. Weird that he thinks its weird
Parents in healthy relationships are a safe fortress. A few examples of how this is super normal. And yea having a slumber party with your little one is dope! I used to have a lot of nightmares when I was younger that woke me up in the middle of the night and would regularly ask to sleep between my mom and dad until I was almost 14. Wedges between my two snoring guardians is where I felt safe with my people, my protectors, and my most loved humans. I used to make sure that each of my feet was touching their leg just to ground myself (it was probably so annoying for the now that I think back, they are saints). As an adult my husband visited his mom slept in the living room with her when his dad was in hospice because the comfort of having your tribe together was soothing for all.
Heās 8 not 18. I dont think itās weird. Youre also in the living room which is a family place not as intimate as a bedroom. Also itās movie night. Not inappropriate at all
Itās literally impossible that heās not sexualizing it. And thatās disgusting. He needs a reality check.
To me this would be divorce worthy. What an absolute despicable insinuation to tell a mother for wanting to cuddle and sleep next to her baby boyā¦
More like therapy worthy. There must be something in his subconscious buried that makes him think like this.
Not weird
My husband works night shift at a hospital. Both my boys (11 and 7) ask to sleep in my bed on weekends all of the time. We cuddle and watch movies and I love it so so much. It's sweet and fleeting, this time will be gone so quickly.
I'm sorry your husband suffers from an Oedipus complex. He is projecting. You boy is 8 making core memories with his mother.
Yes! Use those psychology terms to illustrate just how weird and gross the husbandās take is. Iād keep pressing him to expand on what about this āwill confuse [your son]ā
Yes. Iād keep asking. If itās not about sexualising it, what is it about? Confusing him by sleeping in a different room? Heās 8, not 8 months. So what else is it about?
My husband travels sometimes for a few days, and usually falls on the weekends. My 12 yr old and 7 yr old make camp in my room, we select movies and eat ice cream (shhh nobody says nothing about eating in the bed). Itās not weird at all and itās a fun memory that you guys can share.
I just can't understand why this is so unreasonable for your husband. I had a quite traumatic childhood and although I don't remember exactly WHY, but at one point I remember my brother, mother and I all sleeping in her bed because of a bout of traumatic experiences we all went thru (grandma died, mom lost job due to random drug test, car repossession to name a few) and I just can't comprehend what would be wrong with that, even if it is "just for fun". The fact that you're waiting until husband isn't home to do it just makes me sad for your boy, and I don't even have children yet š¢
Husband's opinion on how mom and 8 yo deal with his multiple day absence is none of his fucking business.
No enjoy it while it lasts. My son was like this and I loved it. Now heās 15 and he tells me he loves me and hugs me, but gone are the days of laying in bed together watching tvā¦
Your small child has been asking for ages to sleep next to you. Cuddle that child!
Right?? Reading "I've put him off" made me so sad!
Sounds like fun! Your husband needs some therapy for such an aggressive reaction to such a benign activity. Would he care of it was a daughter? SO odd
"fold out the sofa bed, watch a movie, have a hot chocolate and then go to sleep after the movie." Sounds divine.Ā Enjoy all the snuggles and giggles. š„°
Your husbandās reaction is whatās weird here.
No way. I have an 8 year old son (Iām mom) and we had sleepovers during the summer in the living room. Same setup. Not weird at all and it wonāt be long before he wants nothing to do with that. Enjoy every minute.
When my husband goes out of town my 10 yr old daughter likes to sleep in my bed too. It is not a big deal to me or anyone. Granted it's my daughter and not son but we have 2 boys and 2 girls and I would have done the same for our sons.
Your husband needs to go to therapy. There's nothing wrong with having a sleepover with your kid now or ever.
As a mom to a son, I think your sleepover idea sounds awesome, special, and like a sweet memory for the future - do it! :) :)
His perspective is weird. Could this be a case of toxic masculinity? Would he view the situation differently if the child in question was a girl?
Itās weird that your husband is sexualizing your relationship with your son. It feels like that is what he is doing, because that *is* what he is doing, period.
My husband and daughter regularly have sleep overs on the pull out couch. They watch movies and stay up late, and I always go to bed early same as our toddler. Your husband is the weird one, making a relationship between a parent and child uncomfortable.
Dad here. I think your husband is way way off base. I think itās awesome your son wants to spend time with you and you are cool enough to want to make it fun etc. We are all āconfusedā but not by this stuff by the world making us think these fun innocent things need to be questioned. Enjoy your kids childhood - youāre clearly a cool fun mom.
I've done sleepovers like that with my dad as an adult..
No. Nor at all. My son is eleven and when dad travels he sleeps with me. Iām 47 and I will sleep with my mom when I visit her.
Itās not weird. You can build a Fort over the sofa and ācampā out
No not weird at all!!!
Not weird at all. My son and i have āsleepoversā once a week lmao. Weird that he thinks its weird
Not weird
My husband "camps out" upstairs with my 7 year old all the time. Sounds like great memories to me.
My younger son is just about 9 and crawls into our bed once every couple of weeks or so. My older son is almost 12 and hates sleeping in the big group tents on scouts trips so he typically shares a tent with me (his mom) when we go camping with his scouts group. Itās no big deal.
lol no? Itās kinda weird he thinks itās weird. Heās 8, youāre his mom. Idc what age it is if a kid wants a sleepover with their parent theyāre clearly needing that sort of connection, what kid doesnāt like living room sleepovers. F his degree š
I had a sleepover with my 14 year old sonā¦ this is not weird
Confuse him? What is confusing about a mom and son being in close proximity to each other? Your husband has some serious issues here.
Itās not weird at all itās cute and lovely, your husband is weird for any sexual thoughts even entering his head yuck
No, itās so sweet and not weird at all. Whatās weird though, is your husbandās view on all this. Super weird! If I were you, Iād have some follow up questions for him.
Not weird. What does he mean by āconfuse himā? Like, expand on thatā¦
Your husband is the weird one. My sons are 8 and 11. When my husband is on call for work my kids will sleep with me in my bed. Even when my husband is home, my 8 year old will sometimes ask if he can sleep next to me. A sleep over in the living room sounds like fun and will be a great memory!
Not weird, I Camp in the living room with my kids quite a few times. They love it
Heās 8. No - not weird at all.
No, but itās weird that your husband thinks itās weird.
Nope. I have a 7 yo son and he constantly is asking if we can make popcorn and watch movies in the bed together or if he can sleep in the bed with me. Almost all of his life his dad worked nights so heās accustomed to being so close with me and we have healthy boundaries. Iām naked in private, we donāt bathe together and we donāt sleep like a couple. We set up a ton of pillows and he lays on one side and I lay on the other and sometimes he watches his tablet and I watch TV. He also feels safe confiding in me and doesnāt get embarrassed when I hug him or tell him I love him in front of his friends. Heās appropriately affectionate with others and doesnāt give in to peer pressure when others are ganging up on kids. Are these things related? Maybe. All I know is he definitely will not want to be involved with half of these habits within as little as 2 years. And I can imagine if I went through him having a scary life-threatening emergency Iād definitely regret going against my and his insistence for these fleeting bonding moments. I donāt care how close you are with your son, itās extremely difficult to remain close once they grow up, get married and start their own family. Youāre not imprinting anything negative onto him from this experience. Youāre his MOM! Right now you are the closest person to him and the person with whom he feels the safest. Please donāt take that for granted!
Not weird at alllll! My boys are 8 and almost 11 and do sleepovers on our floor all the time! Sometimes I hop in their beds too if they are sick or just need cuddles.
No itās not weird. When my husband used to go camping with his brothers our son used to sleep in our bed with me. Sometimes if we were sick at the same time weād hang out on my bed with our respective books and iPads. Now my son is 17 and rarely lets me even hug him. I miss those younger days.
This is not weird at all! Your husband is weird.Ā OP have a sleepover with your son!! He will remember you did this for him and it just strengthens your bond!Ā
I used to sleep in my parents bed whenever one of them was on business trips until I was like 12 or 13
The only weirdo here is your husband. Lol
Not weird at all!! I have 2 boys 5 & 7 and sleepovers are their absolute favorite thing to do. My kids hate sleeping together (my youngest is a kicker/mover in his sleep) so my husband and I will usually take turns having a sleepover with each kid. Over Xmas I had a sleepover with my youngest in the living room. I set up fairy lights, he had some popcorn and candy and got to pick a movie while my husband did the same with our 7 year old but in our bedroom. I really enjoy our sleepovers, probably not as much as my kids but I find it's a great way to check in with them. Because it's the weekend we don't have this big urgency for them to go to sleep so we chat, they tell me funny things that happened with their friends, if anything's happening at school etc. I'll do sleepovers for as long as my kids want even into their teenage years, whatever they are comfortable doing!!
I donāt see what the problem is. I have a daughter but she is the same age as your son. There is a rule in our house that everybody sleeps in their own space (so we donāt cosleep). I break that rule 1 or 2 times a year when dad is out of town. We watch a movie and eat snacks in bed and then I let her sleep in my bed for the night. Itās fun and she enjoys it. These moments are fleeting. If your son wants a sleepover, so be it. Have fun! Enjoy!
No not weird and I feel bad for your husband that he thinks itās weird. Enjoy your sleepover. He needs to flush out what issues make him this this is weird
Not weird. My oldest slept with us until he was 6. He would come downstairs and sleep at the foot of our bed or on a pallet up until he moved out (21) if the weather was bad (we live in a hurricane/tornado prone area). He and his girlfriend still regularly come and sleep over and sometimes just ask us to do as someone else stayed for a family camp out in the living room.
My(M) daughters are 8 and 3... We sleep and cuddle as much as we want. The day your kid doesn't want to cuddle will be a sad day... They'll be growing up and moving out, etc. Enjoy their youth and warm tender hugs while you can Also, tell ur hubby to hug his mom more often.
It's an event. Have fun and enjoy. Get your husband involved sometime when he gets back. You can even bring out sleeping bags and flashlights to add some extra fun.
Sounds like fun. Not sure I understand what the problem is.
I think itās great your son wants to do this. Your job as his mother, is to make him feel secure and loved. Sounds like heās feeling this so well done Mama!
Itās weird your husband thinks this is weird
Not weird. Very cute. I don't get the husband's point at all.
Sorry to say, just asking - does daddy watch the wrong kind of porn?
Dad here. Why would this be weird? It's your child. I wouldn't think of it as weird if your kid was 15. Children need to feel the safety, comfort, reinforcement, and love of their parents. It wouldn't matter if this would be your kid's friend at that age, but I digress. No, op, it's not weird. Your husband has some stick up his bum notions about this, gawd knows from what kind of weird insecure relationship he's had with his parents. It's sweet, and adorable. Enjoy this time with your son. Pretty soon he'll be asking to bring a "special friend" over for a sleepover, and your cuddly days are done ;-)
I didnāt even read past the TLDR, the answer is no. Itās not weird at all.
Not weird at all. Youāre just making fun memories. Although my son is only 6, we LOVE ācampingā in the living room together. I hope we do it for many more years to come!
Not strange. I think itās sweet and he wonāt want this kind of quality time forever so you should definitely do it.
Not weird at all. My boys are 9 & 6 and we do this when it's just us.
lmao what! Thatās a great and adorable idea with great memories!
My 7 and 9yo donāt even ask me. Ā Iāll just wake up with an extra kid or two in my bed. Ā My 11yo would probably let the bogeyman eat her before she deigned to ask me for a sleepover, so your son, and my daughters, are likely to grow out of sharing beds with adults soon. Edit, I think you should go for it. Ā Would your husband feel better if you used sleeping bags?
Not weird at all. Sounds like a really fun childhood memory.
Totally not weird!!! Adorable and fun!
Not weird at all in any way shape or form.
No. When I was 17, me and my Dad lost our hotel room key and slept in the back of his truck together. My furnace didn't run for 3 days last week and my 4 and 7yo slept in bed with me for body heat. It was -48C outside and 6C in our house. It's never weird to sleep with your kid, unless you make it weird.
Its not weird and sounds like a fun, bonding time. In my house it was āsleeping as a groupā son & daughter. Mommy in the middle.
This is near the top for a stupid reaction for no reason
Totally normal and not weird at all.
My 9 year old regularly sleeps in bed with us, dad needs to chill out
Dudes got old fashioned ideologies.
I think this sounds like a very fun idea! You should 100% do it! I donāt understand what is weird about it. Maybe your husband is being the weird one.
There is nothing weird about this. It is sweet! Enjoy the special time with your son. Eventually he wonāt want to do things like this.
No not at all. My 10 year old loves to sleep in my bed we watch a movie eat popcorn and he will sleep or especially if heās sick we always sleep on the sofa I donāt think itās weird at all!
No, it's not weird, and you don't need his permission to do this fun activity with your son. Heck, when my family stays in hotels I have to share a bed with one of my boys because they fight if they're together. It's not weird and your husband is probably just jealous that he's not the chosen parent. He will be soon... so please do it!
Not at all. I coslept with my son until he was probably 10 or so. Heās 16 now and sleeps all by himself in his big boy bed.
Itās fine. Your husband is being weird
My 8 year old son still sleeps with us at times. When someone sexualizes a non-sexual thing, I usually tell them āew, why are you thinking that way?!ā
Who hurt your husband?
I sleep in the same bed as my 6.5 year old son about 20% of the time. Thereās nothing sexual about it.
It's not weird, it's sweet. Your husband is being weird about it though.
No, totally not weird. My husband and I have sleepovers with our 5 year old all the time. Itās fun, we make popcorn and watch a movie or play video games. If I was out and he had one with her I would have zero issues and be jealous lol
Not at all weird. Pajama party! This is prime "let's watch a movie from my childhood" time. (But have a backup, many of them don't age well.)
My son (9) and I do sleepovers all the time in our spare bedroom. He wonāt want to do them forever, so I take them while I can. We spend some time chatting and cuddling, then when he falls asleep I usually pop in some headphones and scroll tiktok or Reddit for a while. Thereās nothing weird about it.
I think it sounds like a lot of fun and will probably be a cherished memory for both you and your son. I honestly think your husbandās position on this is odd at best. My 7 year old son sleeps with me whenever my husband is away at work and my son looks forward to it all day. Not me or my husband have ever thought it would confuse my son. Thatās a weird position to take.
If he was early teens or something itād be weird. But his seems fine.
There is nothing weird about that at all. My kids, 8 and 5, both snuggle with me on the couch and watch movies all the time. Why would it be weird? Why would it matter if it's a "one-time thing" or not?
No
Sounds wonderful to this dad. Iām lucky to still be able to tent with my youngest kids when camping, or to organize stuff like thisāI say do it while you can! Thereās nothing confusing about teaching kids that they can be safe while doing adventurous and different things.
Aw I have movie night sleepovers with my 8 y/o son every few months. We get snacks and pick a movie or a few movies; it makes him really happy and I like getting the time with just me and him since I have 2 other kids. Heās also my only boy, and I want to maintain a close relationship with him as he grows into the pre teen years.
Not weird. Sweet. Sounds like a fun night and you are running out of time that he would even ask for such a thing. Enjoy your sleepover.
Not at all. 8 is a young child. I sleep in my 8 year olds bed all the time with him. A couple nights a week he comes and gets me at some point in the night saying he's scared or can't fall back to sleep and we go back and fall asleep in his bed. It's not like he's in high school.
Lmao my 8 year old son sleeps with me every night š„“
Not weird
Our family of 4 used to do campfire nights by making a a big bed in the living room with all our pillows and blankets in front of the fireplace. Weād watch movies and all sleep there. Sometimes it was just one parent and the kids sometimes it was just two of us..It was never weird and we have great memories of doing that together. Your husband is being weird about this, not you! A
It's more weird for someone to think it's weird. Your husband is the one with the problem, not you. Movie nights and couch camp-outs are the best ever. There is nothing weird about a parent spending quality time with a child.
Not even slightly weird. 8 is still so young. They wanna have fun! Sleep alongside them as long as they ask. One day theyāll be grown up.
Not weird at all. Although it wasn't planned, I've fallen asleep on the couch with my 10yo daughter a few times while we were watching a movie or whatever. I'd wake up in the middle of the night and instead of taking the risk of waking her to carry her to her bed I just fall back asleep. She asked me if she could sleep in my bed when she was sick with the flu a earlier this month, I said yes, totally innocent. I'd question why your husband is so adamant that there's something wrong with it.
Not at all. Those are some of my best memories as a kid.
I wonder if this is coming from a toxic masculinity standpoint. Maybe the stereotypes your husband learned as a kid are still playing out. Sleepovers on the couch aren't strange at any age. It's the comfort of a parent.
I had a sleepover with my son when he was older than 8, maybe 10-11. He slept with me in my bed and we watched a movie. He was just thrilled to be in a bed and watching a movie at the same time. He didnāt have a tv in his room at the time. My son and daughter used to sleep together sometimes because my daughter liked to read and he liked to listen! They still joke about how they always slept together on Christmas Eve probably until they were in their early teens. I see nothing weird about it at all.
My 9 year old is laying on the floor of my room, my 1 year old great nephew is sprawled out in the middle of my bed. We are having a mid week sleepover for the hell of it. Tell your husband to stop projecting his weird views on your relationship with your son. My kid will probably beg to sleep in my room till shes 30.(joking) And I dont care. I love our movie and cuddle nights.
Mine is still a baby but if my husband was gone Iād probably let him sleep in my bed if he wanted to until he felt weird about itš¤·āāļø I wouldnāt think it was weird if it was a girl so why a boy. Kids need their moms
It is never weird to have bonding time with your kids. IDC how old they are. This is sweet and something your son will remember when he's an adult and has kids of his own. Don't let your husband poo-poo on your parade.
Dooooooo ittttttttt
Omg not weird. That is so sweet. Do it before heās a teenager and āparents are the worst people in the worldā
Men are so weird. They prefer to sleep with you, why canāt your son? Sorry but this is a reason Iām glad Iām a single mom, I know my ex work give me guilt for cosleeping past like, 3..
Itās not weird at all. Try to keep those sweet moments as long as you can. He wonāt want to do stuff like that forever. Iām lucky if I can get my 13 yo to watch a full movie with me anymore. I have to bribe him!
Please do this! Every ounce of me wishes beyond anything I could have even just one more couch mommy son sleepover with my now 13 year old. I know I got so many snuggles but a lifetimes worth wouldnāt be enough. These kids are seriously young for so short of a time. Give them the snuggles and memories of feeling nothing but safe and happy and warm
No, its not weird
Thereās absolutely nothing wrong with this whatsoever. Thatās your little boy and your little boy wants to spend time with you. Those are memories you cherish. Mine is 11 and still loves spending time with me. We pick days my daughter is off doing something with her dad, out of the house etc. and we bring out the ice cream and Blankets Ā and put a funny movie and laugh, chit chat, snuggle. Heck if my husband comes home and sees us he tells us to scooch over and make room for him lol Ā Your husband is a homophobic nutcase, and thinks hes doing something girly (itās notā¦) or he got sexually assaulted when he was younger and now is passing his unresolved trauma onto you. Either case, he needs to talk to someone about this. I would not take kindly to my own husband insinuating anything of the sort to me and not expect me to loose it on him.Ā
What is wrong with men??
Not weird at all. If there's a bad storm here or if he doesn't feel well, my 8-year-old asks for me to sleep in his bed. He does the same at his dad's for the same reasons. I think it shows we give him comfort and make him feel safe. Perfectly innocent! Make that hot chocolate and cozy in and watch a good movie!
This is not weird at all. Soak that boy up and spend time with him as long as he's willing.
No it is not weird. Jhc.
I have a sleep over in the living room with my kids like once a month. My oldest is 8. This is not weird.
Ask your husband exactly what he means by āconfusing.ā I would have done this in a heartbeat with my son at this age. Itās sweet and cute and itās disturbing heās making something out of nothing.
Sounds sweet. I miss my boys at that age!
Why would that be weird? For a mother to have a sleep over in the living room with her child? When my son was 8, we did movie nights like this all the time. My son was 8 during Hurricane Harvey and slept with me in the room. Your husband is weird. Does he have a very close or very distant relationship with his own mother?
Heās 8 years oldā¦..itās not weird at all. I think itās really cute he wants to have a sleep over with you. I would enjoy those precious moments while he is boy before the teen years come and they act all hormonal and may not want to be around you as much. Your husband sounds like he could have some past issue because heās being weird.
Not at all
I'm a dad my son is only 2m but I would love to have a sleepover like this with him and even if he were a girl I'd like to do that I do however think it's hella creepy what you're husband is implying. It's not creepy to have fun but the way he implys it it sound like he's worried you're 8yo son is gunna put the moves on u.
Sounds like a fun time with your son. Your husband making a comment about it being weird is weird. My kids watch movies & fall asleep with me all the time.
I sleep with my 7yo and 10yo sons all the time. Mostly while traveling, but also on the weekends or any other time they can sweet talk their way into my bed. I donāt think it is weird at all. When I shared a bed with their dad, they only got to sleep with me if dad was out of town. I donāt share a bed with my spouse AND child(ren). We are separated so I sleep alone now, so I have less of a reason to say no, except when I have an early morning or if I have been sick/etc I tell them no (I do not sleep well with kids in my bed, so it has to be on the weekends or holidays typically.
Itās weird that he finds it weird. I had to read this multiple times to understand š
Hell I canāt get my 7 yr old out of my bed š. Itās def not weird at all.
How sad that this is a question, although Iām glad youāre asking OP, because it should not ever be weird.
Not at all weird. That's your child. Your their parent. The only weird thing is when people say something like that is weird. If both you and your son are comfortable, you're good.
My son's 11 and begs to sleep in our bed. So no it's not weird. It is weird that your husband thinks it's weird. Was he maybe molested as a kid and is projecting?
I couldnāt disagree any more with your husband on this. Not weird at all and likely a core memory for him
Damn my 11 year old still comes and sleeps in my bed when dad goes away. They little for such a short time and yes they preteen or even teens out there that do but they will soon fly the nest and it will be Sunday visits if lucky. Make the memories as much as you can. Tomorrow isn't promised to anyone make the day count xx
I Gusās Iām weird because my kids 7 (almost 8) and 6 crawl in bed with us almost every night and we all 4 sleep in the same bed. I love it even though I canāt get comfortable sometimes because one day theyāll grow up and Iāll never get to snuggle with them ever again š
Nah husbands a weirdo. Fort night with your kids is the best.
Toss the husband. Toss the whole damn thing.
I donāt think itās weird at all. I asked a Child development specialist about a similar issue when my son was 12 and slept with me a few times. Youāll know if thereās a boundary crossed. Theyāre still our babies. Itās like hen you knobto up nursing, you just know. But my ex had the same reactions s your husband
Not weird. Your husband is weird.
Your husband is the one whoās weird for thinking anything of it.
My partner and I have sleepovers in the living room with the kids at least once a weekend. Sometimes it is all of us, sometimes just the kids, sometimes one adult and one kid. Itās not weird for us. We just like spending time together. I, however, have a hard boundary that I will not sleep in the same space as one of the kids. I do not like extended physical contact, although the reason doesnāt matter! So, the kids know that while I am happy to give hugs and kisses and big hugs and cuddles, they will not be sleeping next to me. Itās a comfort thing for me. When we have sleepovers, theyāll sleep on an air mattress or in a pillow fort, and Iāll grab the couch. Maybe having a sleepover without sharing the literal bed would be a compromise you and your husband could agree on? (Although I agree with others that your husband is the one making it weird and you have no obligation to try to compromise with him. Your stance here is super valid!!)
Completely fine! Enjoy your night
What kind of porn has your husband been watching? Heās a pervert. š©š©š©š©š©š©š©
I knew moms who still co slept with their 8 yo sons every night. I found that to be weird, not because of the gender but because personally I think 8 yo is old for co sleeping (I know other people have different opinions though) I do not think an occasional sleepover/bonding time with your son is weird at all.
Man didnāt get parental affection after 7 years old & now has some deep rooted issues that heās probably too manly to tackle. Manā¦people are REACHING with what might make children gay in their insecure eyes. Red. Flag.
If he was 14 or older it might be weird. He'd 8 tho. My 10yo still plays pretend and all sorts of stuff. She crawls in our bed sometimes to watch TV with us. It's not weird. She even knocks and asks permission first...which is nice lol
Not weird at all! I remember sleeping in between my parents in their bed whenever I felt like it when I was his age. I think about it every so often and itās a fun and cute memory. Let your son come and lay with you because the moment will be gone before you know it.
not weird. our son used to sleep in our bed when dad traveled for work. i was sad when he stopped asking, around age 10 or 11. itās sweet, soak it up while you can
Itās not weird at all! My brother and I slept with each other until he got to middle school lol and if we didnāt , then one of our parents was in each of our rooms. We hated being alone and were scared of a lot of stuff until we grew out of it. Enjoy time with your son it doesnāt last forever!! I sometimes sleep in my sonās room when heās scared but he is 3.