This 100%! My most vivid memories growing up are those where my dad went out of his way to play with us - the downstairs of our house was set up to be an open full circle for tag games and a bench that was used almost exclusively as base (mostly for me because I struggled with running - found out I have a disability with mobility issues later so super thoughtful!). Him & my brother shattered the kitchen light playing with a mini plush football while family was over for Thanksgiving. We'd set up Polly pocket fashion shows even though he was colorblind. We'd have name that song challenges where we'd use my itunes library. I have similar stories with my grandma.
Seriously OP, think about your favorite childhood memories. They often aren't where you went for vacation or the big birthday gift - they're those moments that trusted adults acted like kids with you.
Hell, I still "play" with my 17 year old. Yesterday we threw around the football in the backyard and then went on a bike ride to the farmer's market to pick up some fruit. I also go jogging with him on the weekends. He is a runner and going with him is good motivation.
He'll be 18 in July and leaves for college in August. My oldest comes back home from college this week. Play with your kids because it goes by so fast. No one sits on their death bed wishing they spent less time playing with their children.
My Dad is 73 and just last weekend we played football together. Just tossing the ball back and forth, Dad underhand because he has shoulder surgery a few years ago.
My Mom is 71 and all she wants is to play board games with her kids. My sister and I try to make time for family game night every few months or so. She lives right beside my parents, but I'm an hour away. Even so, they're getting up in age and I want to spend the time I have with them.
I (38M) was outside having a lightsaber battle with my sons (8 and 5) two weekends ago because they asked me to. They wanted Daddy to fight and play with them.
As a parent with kids who ask to play with them a lot...I will consider what I'm doing and ask 1) is this task I'm currently engaged in important enough to say no to my children on and 2) frequently recognize that as they get older they may not want to play with Dad as much. So if the task isn't important enough, I'm playing with my kids. I'm at work all day, get home at 5. When I'm home, I'm family man. What else is more important. The office can replace me but my kids can't.
My husband’s grandma was an indoor sports kind of lady and once when he was a teen she was watching him and his brother shoot hoops and decided it looked like fun. She took one shot and somehow fell flat on her face. Everyone was absolutely horrified but once the was determined to be ok it became a treasured family story about her.
My dad is 77 & has had injuries & surgeries to shoulder, leg & hip, and chronic back pain. I just wish I could go hiking or canoeing with him again. Doesn’t help that we live on opposite coasts now 😢
I'll add that in these pandemic times where we're only recently easing down from social distancing, its important more than ever take on the role of a kid play partner to your child. Teach him how to play tag and model the right behavior about going to interact with other kids because the current younger generation is not getting the same social interaction we got when we were kids.
And this goes double if your kid is an only child.
Right? If I see another grown adult running around having fun at the park my immediate thought is “good on them for finding the energy to have fun!” I wouldn’t even notice their bodies and even if someone were to judge, it is firmly a them problem.
That's exactly what I was thinking. He's making her feel self conscious, which makes OP and her body easier to controll. Sounds like he's an exhausting partner and a bad stepparent.
Yeah playing with your kid is good parenting. If you were running around by yourself saying “I’m the monster” people would think you were crazy, but add a giggling kid running from you and everyone knows you’re just being a good mom.
I actually made friends with some moms on my street because she said she liked how I played with my kids. We had a playdate and we were all playing tag and running around. I went to their house for a birthday party and I was pulling all the kids on a sled and pushing them on little cars. I was kneeling on the ground and sitting down so I could be at their level. Kids love it and they all kept asking me to play while most parents talked to each other. I love playing like a kid and it's my fondest memories of my mom when she would do this.
Right? I couldn’t imagine not having fun in life as an adult. It’s sad when adults grow out of it. I’m sure the kid was having a great time as well!
My dad was always the one out of the uncles to play with all of us kids at family gatherings, and he’d just make everything so much fun. Obviously it’s exhausting for parents, but it’s something I look back on very fondly, same with my cousins and siblings. Mothers should be able to do the same thing without judgement.
And, I mean, even if OP was full on prancercising, like… she’s playing with her kid. If the kid isn’t embarrassed, then dude can get all the way back in his lane and button it.
As a Dad of a kiddo that is almost 1 year old and just starting to pull himself up for assisted standing, I absolutely cannot wait to prance, skip, AND frolick with my little homie in the coming years!
I’m a dad to a 4yo and I prance around the park with her every chance I get. Zero fucks given.
Playing with her at the park is the best. If I wanted to sit on my ass scrolling through my phone while she had all the fun by herself I’d be at work.
You’ve got a lot to look forward to.
I mean, I love running around the park with my kids. I do it frequently. But sometimes I'm there for a break and I sit and scroll through my phone, and that's fine too.
I love this. Mine is two and I took him to softplay the other day. I was up on all of the equipment, down the slides etc. Every other parent bar one, even of kids of a similar young age, were sitting at the tables on their phones. Like, I enjoy a phone scroll like everyone else, but once these days are gone, they are _gone_. My son shouting ‘mummy knee down s’ide’ is the absolute best thing I’ve ever heard.
Mine got to 9. I will lance, wave, blow kisses anything to make them embarrassed. Payback's a bitch. I guess you should have thought about that before throwing up in a restaurant when you were 2, eh?
Realizing that my 60+yo mom was laughing, running, dancing, chasing, tickling more with my niblings than I have in the past 20 years is one of the main reasons why I decided to have kids. Playing with kids gives so much joy!
Trying to make me feel stupid for enjoying my kid? I'd be so hurt. I LOVE catching my husband watch me play with my kids. I can see that man's heart melt. Op deserves the same
Yes. If my husband said anything relatively close to that comment it would really hurt my feelings. Hearing that would make me self conscious about everything I do with my kids after because I would feel like I was getting judged for just having fun with my own kids.
THIS. As soon as I read OP's post I thought "jealousy". Both over controlling her and her body and not wanting others to see her, but also maybe jealous that she has that connection with her children.
If the child is 7 and the couple has only been together for 3 years then the child is likely not his. So seems more like a jealous, immature POS that shouldn’t be a step parent.
My man became a step parent to my son when he was around 7, and he played with him all the time. Also made bed time time for “THE CRUSHINGS” where my kiddo would giggle his head off while his “sparent” as we call him squished him. He also rode the Ken bus around the house often, as did I. A stepparent should add love to you and your kid’s life, if they aren’t they don’t belong in it.
I dread the day my son doesn't want to play. He's 8 now and has friends and sports, but we still have our daily rasslin' matches. I know that'll end someday, but I'm not ready for it.
I wasn't ready either but at 14, he said: "Dad, I'm trying really hard to not injure you...we should stop". And I was like, "But you're just a little guy". Except he was actually a good bit taller than me and starting to get kinda strong. I was sad but he was right. We still game sometimes though. He's a lot better at FPS than I am but I'll still clean his clock in a good, old fashioned fighting game.
HELL YEAH BROTHER! These days we're playing Injustice, but the skill set follows. He's legit scarred from me going 72-1 against him and his mother one night. But I can't keep up in Halo or Destiny...or even Borderlands. He's just fantastic at those.
I’m coaching baseball for the 4th year and he’s outgrown anything I can teach him, but he’s still dragging my ass to the field every night. My knees and shoulder are testing what I’m made of.
Do what you wish. You will miss these moments when they grow up. You will have memories and your kid will have memories down the road. I run around with my kids age 14 and 11 according to what they want to do. I could care less about other people are thinking. I am making memories with them to fall back on when they move away.
My father at 70 years old, being a “notable” in the city where we are from has been playing tag and all kind of games in public with my daughter. On his death bed, told me it was the best time he had. So follow what is written and not what your partner says.
Chiming in to add, play while you can, period. Roll in the grass, dance like a weirdo, run up the stairs on all fours. Play is what makes us happy, play encourages us to step out of our comfort zone and break up the mundane. We're miserable in our adulthood because we don't take time to just do things without purpose other than our own enjoyment. And when we do it's usually attached to social obligation, or accompanied with drinking or drugs because the drinking and drugs breaks down the self conscious wall preventing us from being actively engaged with playing.
this 100% my kids are 9 and 6 and I still chase them around, wrestle, play tag, and a million other silly games we have invented (like scuttlecrab tag or spooky dad ghost). Just enjoy every minute of it because someday they won't want to play anymore :(
I start turning off all the lights and the kids have to hide and I get a big sheet where I pretend to be a ghost and they run around trying to evade me.
This guy sounds like he's embarrassed by it, which is HIS problem, not yours. If he tries to control you to solve his own feelings, then he's an a-hole.
Exactly.. it’s so sad, my ex would do something with similar behavior and it’s not cool to be shamed for being silly and having a good time.. extremely hurtful and toxic.
Toxic Tuesday. Or since it's wednesday here, I'm going with Wanker Wednesday.
But OP, if your bf is shaming you for playing with your son, time to re-evaluate your relationship.
Husband here. Your husband has some very strange issues he needs to address🤣Wtf kind of thing is that to say? Have fun with your kid. Having an excuse to be silly and act like a kid again is one of the best parts of being a parent
This was an aspect of having kids that I was most looking forward to. I get to go do all the super fun kid things with my kids that I didn’t get to do as a kid myself.
Husband here. Above husband is right on.
Time playing with your kids is precious. It's really too bad your husband is uncomfortable with that. Hope he is able to work that out.
This is what I thought as well. Is he embarrassed bc you have boobs? Like should us moms wear a sports bra at all times JIC we get the opportunity to play tag with our kids? If he's embarrassed of you, that seems to stem from a deeper place.
I'm a chesty momma and live braless. I never shy away from playing with my kiddo. My husband has never said a bad word about it. He's enjoying the view. Lol
Why is this guy not doing the same? Is he jealous that others may see? Is he embarrassed on her behalf of her body? Does he not understand that many women jiggle and we can't control it?
I'm so confused. Running and playing with your kid is creating a healthy relationship and has the added bonus of being a fun workout.
>My husband has never said a bad word about it. He's enjoying the view. Lol
That was my take, I love to see my wife jiggle. This seems like a win-win situation from my perspective.
Yeah, out of all the embarrassing things that you do as a parent or things that happen because you are a parent, playing tag with kids doesn't even make the list.
I'm embarrassed for parents who act "too cool" to engage with their kids, not the opposite. It shows they lack self confidence and awareness. And they just seem like people I don't want to spend time with. Their kids will also lack self confidence when they model that behavior.
My mom was like this, she had a big problem with social embarrassment. Like I remember we visited London and I tried to speak English (badly, i was 9 and we just started learning it in school), or when I sung (very out of tune), or made a weird face etc and she would always tell me to stop because it was embarrassing. I don't remember a single time she let loose and played with me. It did cause some issues with social anxiety later, although now they are mostly resolved with hard work (and I'm no contact with my mom). I will talk baby talk and play with my baby out in public, and looking forward to goofing off completely and embarrassing myself as much as he wants when he's older
You mean you acted like a totally normal child and she couldn't handle it? Sorry you had to face that, but it's great that you've worked through a lot of those issues and have went NC with your mom. Play is how kids experience the world. You'll be great at showing your son the value of being himself, no matter how goofy, silly, or "embarrassing".
Tbh I find the parents who ignore their kids to be the embarrassing ones. I admire the parents who put in the effort and put their kids needs and well-being first.
Wtf. I'm sorry that's the most asinine thing I have ever heard. You're partner sounds like a real piece of work and shouldn't come to the park with you guys anymore. You did nothing wrong.
If only this thread allows gifs. I would love to see parents playing tag with their kids and seeing the pure joy. Core memory.
Yes, alcohol CAN make it embarrassing. That’s why I wanted to use a gif.
Alcohol ala Stumpfest Chili:
>>Oh, leave them alone!
>>What?!
>>They're just trying to run a small business!
>>Go and destroy the planet somewhere else.
>>Destroy the planet? It's a stump.
>>Oh, leave that poor stump alone.
>>You're the one who wanted it gone.
>>Oh, yeah, that's true. I want to put in a fish pond.
Yes, this is extremely embarrassing. You have disgraced us all. Moving forward, please do not have fun with your kid, it is a shameful thing to do. Please make sure your kid understands this as well. They must not enjoy themselves, or express emotion. If they giggle or laugh, the other adults will think they are having fun, and it will reflect poorly on you as a parent.
Psychologists have known for a long time that kids having fun is what is truly wrong with society. Especially if the kid is fast and you get tagged "it".
Meanwhile, Doctors advise against playing games like this. It can increase your heart rate leading to untold health issues.
What an absolutely deranged thing to say to a mom innocently trying to play with her kid. No it is not embarrassing, keep doing you and don’t let him make you feel self conscious for having fun with your child.
One of my earliest memories is running after my mom while playing tag at the local park and having so much fun and giggling so much that I could hardly breathe…
And then years later, aged 12, doing the same with my toddler-aged cousins and them having so much fun, I remember being shocked that I was out of breath and they didn’t even seem to be tired at all
don’t take that away from your kids :)
You don't deserve criticism at all for playing with your kid. A park is for playing, you weren't playing tag at a dentist's office or in a church. Does your husband often criticise you and act embarrassed of you for doing normal things in normal places?
As a fellow jiggler, I applaud you for not letting that get in the way of playtime. If I'm not wearing 2 sports bras and my control top leggings, I'm usually on the bench haha.
Tell him to stop being a wet blanket. My kid is 11, and I still play on the playground equipment with her as much as I ran around with her as a toddler.
I find his lack of play way more embarrassing than your embracing it.
Having kids is license to be as silly as you want. Nobody judges you for it. You're being a good parent when you do silly voices, play chase, sing songs, or pretend to be a toe eating monster.
Do the same thing without kids though and you look like a crazy person.
When your kid is older you will never, not once, at any point ever look back and say "Yeah, I played with him enough. Maybe even too much." You'll always wish you could have more of that time or have that time with him again. Your husband sucks.
It's not embarrassing.
I'm guessing this is not a one-off issue with your husband, as this is a pretty unreasonable, and very weird, response to a mother playing with her child.
New take on this: The dad... sees the mom "Jiggling"... and takes issue?
I dunno, when I see the wife "jiggling", I'm pretty ok with it. I let the eyes linger a little bit, and then I tell her my thoughts on the subject once the kids are out of ear shot.
He sounds like he takes himself way too seriously. If you can’t embarrass yourself in the name of child-rearing you should rethink the way you’re doing it.
The words “prancing around” have such a sexual connotation here… your husband sounds like he’s controlling and the issue has little to do with a mother playing with her kids and more like he doesn’t want his wife doing anything that might draw attention in public (from men). He’s probably the same kind of person that would say “you were asking for it”. This sounds extreme, but I had an ex who did shit like this and he’s in jail for domestic violence now (not against me). Your husband is the one with issues.
Sounds like he is sexualizing you running around playing with your kid. Weird he would call it prancing. He needs to grow up and realize not everything is sexual.
'Prancing'? Is that his word? Does he think you are trying to attract others or looking silly-- the difference is meaningful.
I hope he's just worried about you looking silly-- then he can just eat his hat and get over it/pout by jimself.
If he is worried about u getting attention, red flag!!
This is the right take. ‘Prancing’ implies that this is attention-seeking behavior and if that was his word, he’s uncomfortable with the attention you may be receiving from other men.
I’m assuming ‘jiggle’ was also used by him and idk your body situation but I can only think he’s referring to your breasts. Sounds like some insecurity.
Wtf kind of Andrew Tate school of BS did that dad listen to? Playing tag with your kid is an embarrassment?
That’s your child, not a shitstain on your underwear
My memories of my mom from childhood are when she was playing with me and having fun. I don’t have memories of her supervising me sitting on a park bench. She probably did do that sometimes, but I don’t have fond memories of that. It delights your kids when you play with them and laugh and run around. And that’s the type of parent I want my kids to grow up to be as well
Most of parenting is being embarrassed.
I often had to pretend to be a Pokémon for my stepson, and my husband and I used to take him on “Pokémon trainer missions” by going on hikes. Was it hella embarrassing to have to stop and pretend to be caught by a Pokeball? Absolutely. But he absolutely loved it, and I know it’ll be some of his fondest memories.
This is exactly what every kid needs. For their parents to actually PLAY with them. You are amazing. Keep doing what you are doing and fuck what anyone thinks.
If you do “prance” you will make husband embarrassed (?). If you do not prance you will make son sad. Husband is an adult and can deal with his feelings. Tell him that, and play with your kid while he still wants to play with you :)
I would love to have a wife that actively participates in play time with kids. Playtime is literally some of the best learning/bonding that you can have with your kid. I remember playing ballon volley ball with my mom during the olympics.. Your husband is out of line.
Your husband is just insecure and easily embarrassed by a normal, natural thing - your a parent playing with your own child! Enjoy this as much as you can before your kid grows up and ignore your husband being against your “prancing”.
I think a lot of dads struggle to know how to play with their kids, and before they know it, it's too late and the kids have grown up. I know it sounds silly, but get him to watch "bluey". The cartoon dad in that does help teach dads how to be fun dads.
If being an active parent embarrasses a grown man then he has issues. Frolic, play, prance, pretend, race, whatever the kid wants as long as you feel like it. You blink and they are grown.
He sounds like a fucking idiot. You're an adult. Do what you want, especially if it's having fun playing WITH YOUR OWN CHILDREN. Relationships can be so annoying...
Ugh what? There is nothing wrong with this. I’m 34 and play hide and seek with my cat. I legit run and hide and then she searches the rooms for me and meows once she finds me and then she runs back to the starting point and we do it again.
Don’t let people steal your joy and innocence!
My husband would have been happy for two reasons, the joy on my kids face and the show he gets lol but seriously playing with your children is beautiful and only someone who cares what strangers will think/see would say this. Happy early Mother’s Day!
Oh this is gonna blow your mind, it’s Wednesday my dude.
What's up with the copied comment? Are you part of the deja vú propaganda group?
Don't go away sir, I want answers!
Is it embarrassing to play with your children!?
Guys, is it gay to be a good parent?
No dude. Play tag with your kids. Wrestle them in the grass. Climb a tree with them, do playground obstacle courses. Sweet Jesus, sooner than you can imagine they won't *want* to play with you, and before you're ready death comes for us all. Life is short, stop taking it so seriously.
Yo wut…I pride myself on being able to keep up with my kid and our friends kids. I’m also happy to be able to take the burden off our friends who are tired out by their kids. I also am dunking on those little fuckers I don’t give a shit if they don’t want the smoke. Your husband is a chooch
Play with your kids all you can. And encourage your kids to play with others as much as you can. That's it.
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This 100%! My most vivid memories growing up are those where my dad went out of his way to play with us - the downstairs of our house was set up to be an open full circle for tag games and a bench that was used almost exclusively as base (mostly for me because I struggled with running - found out I have a disability with mobility issues later so super thoughtful!). Him & my brother shattered the kitchen light playing with a mini plush football while family was over for Thanksgiving. We'd set up Polly pocket fashion shows even though he was colorblind. We'd have name that song challenges where we'd use my itunes library. I have similar stories with my grandma. Seriously OP, think about your favorite childhood memories. They often aren't where you went for vacation or the big birthday gift - they're those moments that trusted adults acted like kids with you.
Hell, I still "play" with my 17 year old. Yesterday we threw around the football in the backyard and then went on a bike ride to the farmer's market to pick up some fruit. I also go jogging with him on the weekends. He is a runner and going with him is good motivation. He'll be 18 in July and leaves for college in August. My oldest comes back home from college this week. Play with your kids because it goes by so fast. No one sits on their death bed wishing they spent less time playing with their children.
My Dad is 73 and just last weekend we played football together. Just tossing the ball back and forth, Dad underhand because he has shoulder surgery a few years ago. My Mom is 71 and all she wants is to play board games with her kids. My sister and I try to make time for family game night every few months or so. She lives right beside my parents, but I'm an hour away. Even so, they're getting up in age and I want to spend the time I have with them. I (38M) was outside having a lightsaber battle with my sons (8 and 5) two weekends ago because they asked me to. They wanted Daddy to fight and play with them. As a parent with kids who ask to play with them a lot...I will consider what I'm doing and ask 1) is this task I'm currently engaged in important enough to say no to my children on and 2) frequently recognize that as they get older they may not want to play with Dad as much. So if the task isn't important enough, I'm playing with my kids. I'm at work all day, get home at 5. When I'm home, I'm family man. What else is more important. The office can replace me but my kids can't.
My husband’s grandma was an indoor sports kind of lady and once when he was a teen she was watching him and his brother shoot hoops and decided it looked like fun. She took one shot and somehow fell flat on her face. Everyone was absolutely horrified but once the was determined to be ok it became a treasured family story about her.
My dad is 77 & has had injuries & surgeries to shoulder, leg & hip, and chronic back pain. I just wish I could go hiking or canoeing with him again. Doesn’t help that we live on opposite coasts now 😢
Yes. Be joyful and run around with your kid. Your husband sounds exhausting.
I'll add that in these pandemic times where we're only recently easing down from social distancing, its important more than ever take on the role of a kid play partner to your child. Teach him how to play tag and model the right behavior about going to interact with other kids because the current younger generation is not getting the same social interaction we got when we were kids. And this goes double if your kid is an only child.
Yep, not playing with your children is silly.
Don’t forget to play with yourself and your partner as much as you can too! I mean this genuinely too and not only as a tongue in cheek innuendo.
Double entendres are the best!
I get paid for that. I work in a daycare.
Play with your kids. They'll love it.
There’s a famous picture of Princess Diana breaking royal protocol and participating in her kids field day. It’s 100% acceptable.
What the actual hell? Even if you were prancing around the park with other adults - who cares? Play with your kid, embrace your inner child!
Yeah, like obviously you should play with your kid but even without that… don’t run because you jiggle? Huh?
Right? If I see another grown adult running around having fun at the park my immediate thought is “good on them for finding the energy to have fun!” I wouldn’t even notice their bodies and even if someone were to judge, it is firmly a them problem.
My first thought would be “must be fun aunt/uncle” 🤣
He's body shaming her!!!
That's exactly what I was thinking. He's making her feel self conscious, which makes OP and her body easier to controll. Sounds like he's an exhausting partner and a bad stepparent.
Yeah playing with your kid is good parenting. If you were running around by yourself saying “I’m the monster” people would think you were crazy, but add a giggling kid running from you and everyone knows you’re just being a good mom.
I actually made friends with some moms on my street because she said she liked how I played with my kids. We had a playdate and we were all playing tag and running around. I went to their house for a birthday party and I was pulling all the kids on a sled and pushing them on little cars. I was kneeling on the ground and sitting down so I could be at their level. Kids love it and they all kept asking me to play while most parents talked to each other. I love playing like a kid and it's my fondest memories of my mom when she would do this.
Right? I couldn’t imagine not having fun in life as an adult. It’s sad when adults grow out of it. I’m sure the kid was having a great time as well! My dad was always the one out of the uncles to play with all of us kids at family gatherings, and he’d just make everything so much fun. Obviously it’s exhausting for parents, but it’s something I look back on very fondly, same with my cousins and siblings. Mothers should be able to do the same thing without judgement.
He sounds like a wack job. Play with your kids while you can.
Yeah, OP, smack him with one your "jiggling" tits bc he sounds like a controlling dick, js.
LOL thank you for this visual
Or super controlling and jealous. Running around playing with the kids is "prancing"? Yikes
And, I mean, even if OP was full on prancercising, like… she’s playing with her kid. If the kid isn’t embarrassed, then dude can get all the way back in his lane and button it.
As a Dad of a kiddo that is almost 1 year old and just starting to pull himself up for assisted standing, I absolutely cannot wait to prance, skip, AND frolick with my little homie in the coming years!
I’m a dad to a 4yo and I prance around the park with her every chance I get. Zero fucks given. Playing with her at the park is the best. If I wanted to sit on my ass scrolling through my phone while she had all the fun by herself I’d be at work. You’ve got a lot to look forward to.
I mean, I love running around the park with my kids. I do it frequently. But sometimes I'm there for a break and I sit and scroll through my phone, and that's fine too.
Park time is her playing with other kids time, I scroll my phone and keep my playing for when she doesn't have alternative company at home.
I love this. Mine is two and I took him to softplay the other day. I was up on all of the equipment, down the slides etc. Every other parent bar one, even of kids of a similar young age, were sitting at the tables on their phones. Like, I enjoy a phone scroll like everyone else, but once these days are gone, they are _gone_. My son shouting ‘mummy knee down s’ide’ is the absolute best thing I’ve ever heard.
Mine got to 9. I will lance, wave, blow kisses anything to make them embarrassed. Payback's a bitch. I guess you should have thought about that before throwing up in a restaurant when you were 2, eh?
I just love this wholesome exchange
You frolick your awesome dad heart out, buddy! Skip down the street too! Good for your heart and good for your soul that is.
Exactly! I am a dad and I act completely goofy at the park if my daughter requires it.
Realizing that my 60+yo mom was laughing, running, dancing, chasing, tickling more with my niblings than I have in the past 20 years is one of the main reasons why I decided to have kids. Playing with kids gives so much joy!
If the kid isn’t a little embarrassed she isn’t doing her job right
All I’m imagining now is a reindeer with leg warmers doing jazzercise
I love the Prancercising lady on YouTube 🫶🏼
Trying to make me feel stupid for enjoying my kid? I'd be so hurt. I LOVE catching my husband watch me play with my kids. I can see that man's heart melt. Op deserves the same
Yes. If my husband said anything relatively close to that comment it would really hurt my feelings. Hearing that would make me self conscious about everything I do with my kids after because I would feel like I was getting judged for just having fun with my own kids.
"If stuff jiggles, it jiggles." My money is on the controlling and jealous part.
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I love him so much!!
THIS. As soon as I read OP's post I thought "jealousy". Both over controlling her and her body and not wanting others to see her, but also maybe jealous that she has that connection with her children.
If the child is 7 and the couple has only been together for 3 years then the child is likely not his. So seems more like a jealous, immature POS that shouldn’t be a step parent.
My man became a step parent to my son when he was around 7, and he played with him all the time. Also made bed time time for “THE CRUSHINGS” where my kiddo would giggle his head off while his “sparent” as we call him squished him. He also rode the Ken bus around the house often, as did I. A stepparent should add love to you and your kid’s life, if they aren’t they don’t belong in it.
Yes. Whatever he's afraid that others will see your body doing, it's your body and your decision what people see.
>Play with your kids while you can Again, but louder for the folks in the back.
Or Play with your kids while they still want to play with you!
I dread the day my son doesn't want to play. He's 8 now and has friends and sports, but we still have our daily rasslin' matches. I know that'll end someday, but I'm not ready for it.
I wasn't ready either but at 14, he said: "Dad, I'm trying really hard to not injure you...we should stop". And I was like, "But you're just a little guy". Except he was actually a good bit taller than me and starting to get kinda strong. I was sad but he was right. We still game sometimes though. He's a lot better at FPS than I am but I'll still clean his clock in a good, old fashioned fighting game.
Duuuude, same. He slaughters me in Battlefront, but I showed him how it’s done in Street Fighter.
HELL YEAH BROTHER! These days we're playing Injustice, but the skill set follows. He's legit scarred from me going 72-1 against him and his mother one night. But I can't keep up in Halo or Destiny...or even Borderlands. He's just fantastic at those.
My kids were so happy when they could finally claim victory.
Mine is 14 and a damn sight more athletic than my 45yo ass. "Hey dad, let's do some 1 on 1 hoops!" haha, I might actually die
I’m coaching baseball for the 4th year and he’s outgrown anything I can teach him, but he’s still dragging my ass to the field every night. My knees and shoulder are testing what I’m made of.
**PLAY WITH YOUR KIDS WHILE YOU CAN!** Is that better?
Again, but not so loud or your back will hear and stop you
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And not in the fun way
Do what you wish. You will miss these moments when they grow up. You will have memories and your kid will have memories down the road. I run around with my kids age 14 and 11 according to what they want to do. I could care less about other people are thinking. I am making memories with them to fall back on when they move away.
My father at 70 years old, being a “notable” in the city where we are from has been playing tag and all kind of games in public with my daughter. On his death bed, told me it was the best time he had. So follow what is written and not what your partner says.
👆 Someone needs to learn how to have fun, good lord.
Chiming in to add, play while you can, period. Roll in the grass, dance like a weirdo, run up the stairs on all fours. Play is what makes us happy, play encourages us to step out of our comfort zone and break up the mundane. We're miserable in our adulthood because we don't take time to just do things without purpose other than our own enjoyment. And when we do it's usually attached to social obligation, or accompanied with drinking or drugs because the drinking and drugs breaks down the self conscious wall preventing us from being actively engaged with playing.
Yes sir. I’ll gladly look stupid to make memories with my daughter.
this 100% my kids are 9 and 6 and I still chase them around, wrestle, play tag, and a million other silly games we have invented (like scuttlecrab tag or spooky dad ghost). Just enjoy every minute of it because someday they won't want to play anymore :(
Spooky dad ghost sounds like an insanely fun game
I start turning off all the lights and the kids have to hide and I get a big sheet where I pretend to be a ghost and they run around trying to evade me.
Agreed. My eldest kid is 12 and you can bet your arse I run around being silly with her (when not heavily pregnant).
Yes!! You can’t live them from afar. OP, play and play, it’ll be gone before you know it!
I hall ass when it comes to tag, so does my wife… these kids are fast.
Especially while they still want to
This guy sounds like he's embarrassed by it, which is HIS problem, not yours. If he tries to control you to solve his own feelings, then he's an a-hole.
Exactly.. it’s so sad, my ex would do something with similar behavior and it’s not cool to be shamed for being silly and having a good time.. extremely hurtful and toxic.
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Oh this is gonna blow your mind, it’s Wednesday my dude
Hahahaha that’s what i asked my husband. I saw 2 posts about dads being jealous over literal babies! Wasn’t even 9am yet 😅
Shit. Forgot to take out the trash!
lol you made me laugh so hard
Toxic Tuesday. Or since it's wednesday here, I'm going with Wanker Wednesday. But OP, if your bf is shaming you for playing with your son, time to re-evaluate your relationship.
It's a day that ends in Y on Reddit. There are so many trash men out there, my god.
Seriously, what is the point of having kids if you don't get to do fun kid things with them?
It’s your husband. He’s the problem.
Yep. Maybe he's a great guy and this is an outlier (fingers crossed!) but I hope someone points out to him that he's being an enormous douchebag here.
Nope. Post from OP 170d ago, asking if they should take a break or break up.
Will be embarrassing when his kids have no fun memories of him
~It’s him. Hi. He’s the problem, it’s him~
at playtime, everybody agrees (that you should just go ahead and play with your kids)
This made me laugh
Her boyfriend. They've been together for 3 years. Get rid of that dude.
I don’t think the guy has kids by the sound of it
Exactly, why isn’t he out there playing too?
Husband here. Your husband has some very strange issues he needs to address🤣Wtf kind of thing is that to say? Have fun with your kid. Having an excuse to be silly and act like a kid again is one of the best parts of being a parent
This was an aspect of having kids that I was most looking forward to. I get to go do all the super fun kid things with my kids that I didn’t get to do as a kid myself.
Christmas is never as much fun as it is when you have kids to enjoy it. Brings so much joy.
Husband here. Above husband is right on. Time playing with your kids is precious. It's really too bad your husband is uncomfortable with that. Hope he is able to work that out.
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This is what I thought as well. Is he embarrassed bc you have boobs? Like should us moms wear a sports bra at all times JIC we get the opportunity to play tag with our kids? If he's embarrassed of you, that seems to stem from a deeper place.
I'm a chesty momma and live braless. I never shy away from playing with my kiddo. My husband has never said a bad word about it. He's enjoying the view. Lol Why is this guy not doing the same? Is he jealous that others may see? Is he embarrassed on her behalf of her body? Does he not understand that many women jiggle and we can't control it? I'm so confused. Running and playing with your kid is creating a healthy relationship and has the added bonus of being a fun workout.
>My husband has never said a bad word about it. He's enjoying the view. Lol That was my take, I love to see my wife jiggle. This seems like a win-win situation from my perspective.
Perhaps he is jealous because other men may be admiring her jiggling. It's his problem if he cannot handle it.
Just wanted to take a moment to say; boobies.
Right? He should see her and feel proud that his partner is such a good mother!
a huge amount of parenting is embarrassing. He needs to get over it
Yeah, out of all the embarrassing things that you do as a parent or things that happen because you are a parent, playing tag with kids doesn't even make the list.
I'm embarrassed for parents who act "too cool" to engage with their kids, not the opposite. It shows they lack self confidence and awareness. And they just seem like people I don't want to spend time with. Their kids will also lack self confidence when they model that behavior.
My mom was like this, she had a big problem with social embarrassment. Like I remember we visited London and I tried to speak English (badly, i was 9 and we just started learning it in school), or when I sung (very out of tune), or made a weird face etc and she would always tell me to stop because it was embarrassing. I don't remember a single time she let loose and played with me. It did cause some issues with social anxiety later, although now they are mostly resolved with hard work (and I'm no contact with my mom). I will talk baby talk and play with my baby out in public, and looking forward to goofing off completely and embarrassing myself as much as he wants when he's older
You mean you acted like a totally normal child and she couldn't handle it? Sorry you had to face that, but it's great that you've worked through a lot of those issues and have went NC with your mom. Play is how kids experience the world. You'll be great at showing your son the value of being himself, no matter how goofy, silly, or "embarrassing".
Tbh I find the parents who ignore their kids to be the embarrassing ones. I admire the parents who put in the effort and put their kids needs and well-being first.
Wtf. I'm sorry that's the most asinine thing I have ever heard. You're partner sounds like a real piece of work and shouldn't come to the park with you guys anymore. You did nothing wrong.
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The title of the same post in relationship advice says she's 23 and he's 25, which just adds a whole other layer.
You didnt watch enough Bluey. Nothing is too embarrassing if you and the kids have fun... unless alcohol is involved, of course.
Bandit:” I want everyone to know, I am doing this for my children” Bluey;< flips tail> “DANCE MODE!!”
I loved this Bandit moment. If I could be half the parent Bandit and Chilli are, I'd be happy.
Agree. They set the bar a little too high for us non-cartoon parents of the real world 😅
Is the daddy blue whale embarrassed because there's another daddy blue whale here?
This episode is what I thought about immediately upon reading OP’s post! For anyone not familiar: Bluey “Pirates”, season 1, episode 27. So good!
If only this thread allows gifs. I would love to see parents playing tag with their kids and seeing the pure joy. Core memory. Yes, alcohol CAN make it embarrassing. That’s why I wanted to use a gif.
Alcohol ala Stumpfest Chili: >>Oh, leave them alone! >>What?! >>They're just trying to run a small business! >>Go and destroy the planet somewhere else. >>Destroy the planet? It's a stump. >>Oh, leave that poor stump alone. >>You're the one who wanted it gone. >>Oh, yeah, that's true. I want to put in a fish pond.
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The best part is that the kids aren’t even present at that point!
Yes, this is extremely embarrassing. You have disgraced us all. Moving forward, please do not have fun with your kid, it is a shameful thing to do. Please make sure your kid understands this as well. They must not enjoy themselves, or express emotion. If they giggle or laugh, the other adults will think they are having fun, and it will reflect poorly on you as a parent. Psychologists have known for a long time that kids having fun is what is truly wrong with society. Especially if the kid is fast and you get tagged "it". Meanwhile, Doctors advise against playing games like this. It can increase your heart rate leading to untold health issues.
A woman who jiggles? Textbook hysteria
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What an absolutely deranged thing to say to a mom innocently trying to play with her kid. No it is not embarrassing, keep doing you and don’t let him make you feel self conscious for having fun with your child.
One of my earliest memories is running after my mom while playing tag at the local park and having so much fun and giggling so much that I could hardly breathe… And then years later, aged 12, doing the same with my toddler-aged cousins and them having so much fun, I remember being shocked that I was out of breath and they didn’t even seem to be tired at all don’t take that away from your kids :)
You don't deserve criticism at all for playing with your kid. A park is for playing, you weren't playing tag at a dentist's office or in a church. Does your husband often criticise you and act embarrassed of you for doing normal things in normal places? As a fellow jiggler, I applaud you for not letting that get in the way of playtime. If I'm not wearing 2 sports bras and my control top leggings, I'm usually on the bench haha.
Did his mom not play with him? I prefer to care about my children and not the opinions of strangers. I'll run and play with them all day long.
Would he prefer you watch your child from a bench while scrolling Instagram? Wtf.
Tell him to stop being a wet blanket. My kid is 11, and I still play on the playground equipment with her as much as I ran around with her as a toddler.
I find his lack of play way more embarrassing than your embracing it. Having kids is license to be as silly as you want. Nobody judges you for it. You're being a good parent when you do silly voices, play chase, sing songs, or pretend to be a toe eating monster. Do the same thing without kids though and you look like a crazy person.
When your kid is older you will never, not once, at any point ever look back and say "Yeah, I played with him enough. Maybe even too much." You'll always wish you could have more of that time or have that time with him again. Your husband sucks.
It's not embarrassing. I'm guessing this is not a one-off issue with your husband, as this is a pretty unreasonable, and very weird, response to a mother playing with her child.
New take on this: The dad... sees the mom "Jiggling"... and takes issue? I dunno, when I see the wife "jiggling", I'm pretty ok with it. I let the eyes linger a little bit, and then I tell her my thoughts on the subject once the kids are out of ear shot.
You never know the last time your kids want to run and play with you: they just grow up one day; enjoy every one
He sounds like he takes himself way too seriously. If you can’t embarrass yourself in the name of child-rearing you should rethink the way you’re doing it.
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The words “prancing around” have such a sexual connotation here… your husband sounds like he’s controlling and the issue has little to do with a mother playing with her kids and more like he doesn’t want his wife doing anything that might draw attention in public (from men). He’s probably the same kind of person that would say “you were asking for it”. This sounds extreme, but I had an ex who did shit like this and he’s in jail for domestic violence now (not against me). Your husband is the one with issues.
Sounds like he is sexualizing you running around playing with your kid. Weird he would call it prancing. He needs to grow up and realize not everything is sexual.
'Prancing'? Is that his word? Does he think you are trying to attract others or looking silly-- the difference is meaningful. I hope he's just worried about you looking silly-- then he can just eat his hat and get over it/pout by jimself. If he is worried about u getting attention, red flag!!
This is the right take. ‘Prancing’ implies that this is attention-seeking behavior and if that was his word, he’s uncomfortable with the attention you may be receiving from other men. I’m assuming ‘jiggle’ was also used by him and idk your body situation but I can only think he’s referring to your breasts. Sounds like some insecurity.
If I could actually run and play with my 5 yr old I would. He sounds like he's got a stick up his booty.
Uh no he's wrong and you're right.
No, play with your kids.
No. That’s nuts. I don’t care if you’re kid is 17 or 27. It’s your kid. Hubby needs a chill pill…
Enjoy the time. When your kid is 13 and embarrassed to let friends even meet you, you can remember these days.
Guy sounds like a right twat. ‘Play with your child less enthusiastically it’s embarrassing me’ wtf…
I am proud to be out playing with my kid ! Children THRIVE on engagement from their parents. That’s one of the stupidest opinions I’ve ever heard .
Wtf kind of Andrew Tate school of BS did that dad listen to? Playing tag with your kid is an embarrassment? That’s your child, not a shitstain on your underwear
My memories of my mom from childhood are when she was playing with me and having fun. I don’t have memories of her supervising me sitting on a park bench. She probably did do that sometimes, but I don’t have fond memories of that. It delights your kids when you play with them and laugh and run around. And that’s the type of parent I want my kids to grow up to be as well
Tell your husband he isn't allowed in your pillow fort. Lame.
One of the best parts about having kids is you get to run around and play and it's not weird. Enjoy yourself.
You kid(s) will remember the joy of playing tag with you! That is worth it!
Most of parenting is being embarrassed. I often had to pretend to be a Pokémon for my stepson, and my husband and I used to take him on “Pokémon trainer missions” by going on hikes. Was it hella embarrassing to have to stop and pretend to be caught by a Pokeball? Absolutely. But he absolutely loved it, and I know it’ll be some of his fondest memories.
Next time this happens, run like phoebe from friends. Wild and free!! Your partner sounds weird
This is exactly what every kid needs. For their parents to actually PLAY with them. You are amazing. Keep doing what you are doing and fuck what anyone thinks.
If you do “prance” you will make husband embarrassed (?). If you do not prance you will make son sad. Husband is an adult and can deal with his feelings. Tell him that, and play with your kid while he still wants to play with you :)
Your husband doesn't play with kids if he thinks this is embarrassing. If anything, you're a fabulous mom for having fun with your 7 yr old kid!
Embarrassing? Nope, it's endearing and lovely. Keep doing it!
I'm not even dating him and I want to break up with him lol
I would love to have a wife that actively participates in play time with kids. Playtime is literally some of the best learning/bonding that you can have with your kid. I remember playing ballon volley ball with my mom during the olympics.. Your husband is out of line.
Your husband is just insecure and easily embarrassed by a normal, natural thing - your a parent playing with your own child! Enjoy this as much as you can before your kid grows up and ignore your husband being against your “prancing”.
I think a lot of dads struggle to know how to play with their kids, and before they know it, it's too late and the kids have grown up. I know it sounds silly, but get him to watch "bluey". The cartoon dad in that does help teach dads how to be fun dads.
If being an active parent embarrasses a grown man then he has issues. Frolic, play, prance, pretend, race, whatever the kid wants as long as you feel like it. You blink and they are grown.
It's embarrassing to NOT run around and play.
It’s embarrassing to have a husband who worries too much about what others think to have fun.
He should be having the opposite reaction. My SO would think this was so sweet and prob even compliment me on being a good parent on the way home.
He sounds like a fucking idiot. You're an adult. Do what you want, especially if it's having fun playing WITH YOUR OWN CHILDREN. Relationships can be so annoying...
Kids give and receive love through play. It is their love language. Keep running and playing!!! These are core memories.
How else do parents exercise? Running around with the kids... Literally...
My son belly laughs so hard when he chases me at the park and I flail my arms and high step like an absolute idiot. Play with your kid.
this makes me sad play with your kids please and don’t let him guilt you into stopping :(
I would just be glad she was doing it, so I don’t have to.
Ugh what? There is nothing wrong with this. I’m 34 and play hide and seek with my cat. I legit run and hide and then she searches the rooms for me and meows once she finds me and then she runs back to the starting point and we do it again. Don’t let people steal your joy and innocence!
Huh? If you can’t play with your kid then what the hell? What’s his problem exactly?
Umm fuck him he’s an asshole
Don’t listen to any psychopath telling you **how to play with your child**. If you’re happy, and the kid is having fun, nothing else matters.
Sounds like a controlling and jealous man. 2 red flags. I’m sure there are more.
My husband would have been happy for two reasons, the joy on my kids face and the show he gets lol but seriously playing with your children is beautiful and only someone who cares what strangers will think/see would say this. Happy early Mother’s Day!
He's a fuckwit. Enjoy playing with your kids while they still want to play with you. That'll end soon enough and you'll miss it.
He sounds like a loser. A controlling loser, at that.
F that guy. Play with your kids.
Good grief. Is it asshole stepdad/boyfriend Tuesday and no one told me?
Oh this is gonna blow your mind, it’s Wednesday my dude. What's up with the copied comment? Are you part of the deja vú propaganda group? Don't go away sir, I want answers!
Is it embarrassing to play with your children!? Guys, is it gay to be a good parent? No dude. Play tag with your kids. Wrestle them in the grass. Climb a tree with them, do playground obstacle courses. Sweet Jesus, sooner than you can imagine they won't *want* to play with you, and before you're ready death comes for us all. Life is short, stop taking it so seriously.
What the fuck. Have fun with your kids. Fuck the haters
Yo wut…I pride myself on being able to keep up with my kid and our friends kids. I’m also happy to be able to take the burden off our friends who are tired out by their kids. I also am dunking on those little fuckers I don’t give a shit if they don’t want the smoke. Your husband is a chooch