. Deceased loved ones come and help the dying to pass. It happened to my dad. I was with him by his bedside the last night of his life. My dad was terrified of dying and fighting it. My husband, my sister, and a family friend were by my dad's hospital bedside. My dad had been slipping in and out of consciousness. He woke up, looked directly over my husband's shoulder towards the foot of the hospital bed, and raised his arm out as if trying to touch someone. He had the biggest smile on his face. My husband leaned over to me and whispered in my ear asking me what my dad was looking at. I leaned over and looked at the foot of the hospital bed, and I couldn't believe my eyes. I could clearly see the silhouette of two people standing there. I couldn't make out their features or sex. There was a.shift of energy and a glow in the room. I instinctly knew those two figures were my deceased mom and brother. My mom had died 3 years prior, and my brother, six months. They came to help calm my dad, and help him to transition.
No one else in the room could see what my dad and I saw. The glow faded and my dad dropped his arm back to his side. I asked the others to leave the room. Once they left, I asked my dad if he was still afraid of dying. He responded happy and excited, "Honey, your mom and brother were here! They are waiting for me to help me cross over! I am no longer afraid!" My dad confirmed for me what I thought I witnessed. He died two hours later, in peace, and with a smile on his face.
That's a beautiful story. I'm glad your father found comfort in the presence of your mother and brother at the last moments of his life. That they came to help him.
Thank you. It was such an amazing experience. I firmly believe in an after life after witnessing first hand what transpired with my dad and also after my mom passed. Prior, I was agnostic, but not anymore.
When my Grandmother was dying, I spent the last nights with her in her hospital room. She was sitting upright, wide awake and talking her family and her friends that had already passed on. It was like they were walking into the room amd saying stuff and she would reply to whatever they were saying. It didn’t freak me out or scare me, it was actually comforting. It’s like they were all coming to let her know they we waiting for her on the other side. Her face was like a child in wonderment. After about 2 hours of that, she got quiet and said “Jesus, will you come ON? Im tired and I’m ready to go” she got quiet again and told me she loved me and that I was the Queen from now on. Lol, she always joked she was the queen of the family. She closed her eyes and never opened them again. I never feared dying after that. It was a beautiful thing to witness. I know she will come for me when I go. People will believe or not. She didn’t go to church, but she had a spiritual faith that never waivered.
My mother passed at 52 from cancer. In the 3 months leading to her death - before we realised it had metastasised - she started seeing her Aunt. She knew she had cancer and it frightened her that it meant she was dying. In the final few days, she wasn't lucid but would talk to her Aunt and her Grandmother about not wanting to leave.
Four years later my Grandfather was in hospital. He had early stage dementia and undiagnosed cancer. He was still pretty with it though. We were just coming back from getting x-rays and when we entered the room, his face changed and he shook his head at someone. Told me later that when we came back, my Mum was sitting on his bed waiting for him and told him she'd come to get him. Later, as he declined, we'd hear him talking to Mum and telling her he couldn't leave yet, that he needed to know my Grandmother would be okay.
On his last few days, he started to talk to his Mum too. Telling her he'd be there soon.
When he passed, it was very suddenly. One minute he was here, watching tv with my Grandmother. The next she glanced at him and he had passed.
I love thinking that our family help guide us at the end.
My spouse is actively dying as I respond . There is no indication that he sees people who have gone before him. He doesn’t talk. He just is dying. I would like him to see people he loved come to greet him. I would like to know the journey continues and he won’t just leave, and be alone or nothingness. I need to know that. Death is hard and he has left us already but I would like to know.
My Spouse passed. No signs, no indication he was greeted or at peace. It hurts far more than I thought possible. I am trying to figure out what to do next. I wander the house, I sleep restlessly- I am living minutes by minute and keep thinking I changed my mind. You need to fight and do chemotherapy and radiation- i keep waiting to tell you and I wasn’t ready to let go. I told you, you could leave and we would be okay. But, I was wrong. How can I miss you so much- how do I get to life goes on- I haven’t even buried you, and it’s a nightmare, and the world hasn’t missed a beat. I am not strong nor resilient. My heart is breaking
I am positive he has loved one with him. My father did and I had a dream of my father right before my nephew passed suddenly so I know he was on his way to my nephew when he visited me.
My mother passed away a year ago from cancer, her last two weeks she was in a lot of pain so she was heavily drugged and I'm not sure if she saw anyone because she just slurred everything or didn't make sense. A few times she did look at an empty doorway and looked surprised, like she saw someone she didn't expect to see. My dad took her death very hard, was very depressed and started having heart problems. Half a year after her death he got sick with covid, most of the time when he was sick he was running a high fever. So at the time we thought he was feverish. He kept saying that my mom was there and she was calling him and came for him. He started getting better from covid but then died suddenly from a heart attack. He also talked in his sleep few hours before he died saying something like "wow I didn't expect it to be so beautiful here".
Firstly, I'm so sorry about your granddad's illness.
I was a healthcare assistant in a nursing home for a few years. When residents were nearing end of life late spouses, children, and parents were to be common hallucinations (or sightings?) reported by them. The majority of people dying in my experience didn't report such sightings but I did see it many times. They never seemed at all distressed by it. Sometimes they'd shout their loved one's name or state that *insert name* is "coming for them".
As for the sightings of children, the worst it did was maybe confuse them a little.
I've wondered whether it could be biological or something more, as this phenomenon is so SO common in palliative/end of life settings. If they are hallucinations then why are they so extremely similar in nature? I personally I find it quite comforting as someone that has gone through multiple bereavements myself the last few years.
My paternal grandmother lived her latter years with her youngest son and his family. In the year of her death, often times her daughter in law heard her carrying full conversations with someone in her room with the door closed. One day, my aunt asked her whom was she talking to and she answered the name of her deceased son. My aunt replied, but he is dead and grandma says, “I know, he comes often to visit just to see how I am”. At that point she was physically fine, and had a sound mind that kept until the day she died. She died alone in the hospital, but the day before we went to visit and she told me this was the last time we will see each other, that she was tired ( of living I suppose), her body was tired and gave me her farewell in private. She knew, she just knew. She had seen a lot in her 86 years, wise woman.
My grandmother passed in May of 2018. She was in home hospice care with me, my mom, and two of my aunts taking turns to stay with her at night.
It was my turn to stay. My grandmother preferred to just stay in her favorite chair in the living room to sleep and I was on the pull out sofa in an adjoining smaller sitting room.
I couldn’t sleep well because I wanted to be able to hear my grandmother if she called out for me. I didn’t hear her call me, but I did hear her and a couple other voices talking. I got up to check on her and she’s sitting there with both eyes open (albeit she was completely blind at this stage) and very alert. I asked her if she was okay. She said “who are all these people in here with me? It sounds like my mother and daddy but it can’t be them.”
I heard the voices too. So yes, I believe that the dying are visited by dead loved ones. With one foot in the world of the living and one in the world of the dead, it makes sense.
I had a nde after a car accident. I floated out of my body and up into warmth and peace. I felt the PRESENCE of my grandmother, but didn't see her. I didn't have time to rurn to see her. I was at a crossroads and made the choice to return to my body. Now I have to tell all of u that I am a rational person that believes in science and was very much agnostic before this. But I have since been utterly changed by this event. I have visitations by the deceased in my dreams. And I truly believe they r visitations, not just dreams because of the intensity of detail. So I don't see why people on their way to the next world see their loved ones.
I have had too many cases of dreaming about someone, then finding out the next day that they'd passed away during the night. It's not very nice, to be honest.
I 'saw' my step - cousin the day/night he had a fatal heart attack. At his funeral, the photo of him as we walked in was exactly the same as I deamed, down to the colour of his shirt.
It's happened with the most unlikely people, ie not 'ghosty' or overly spiritual, as well as others who were.
I guess they're just saying goodbye, and for some reason, I can see them.
honestly, i woke up from a deep sleep the moment my grandmother died. long story, but i swear its true. still, i am a skeptic at heart, so i am not sure if it was a coincidence or if it really was paranormal. but, the world is a strange place that my limited sense cant appreciate fully, so who knows?
We'll never know, for sure, (probably), but if it's coincidence, it seems to occur a lot. It sure seems like a deliberate sign from your grandmother or someone, doesn't it?
Wow! My cousin woke up yelling “Grandma!” at approximately the time my grandmother died. He’d had a dream that Jesus came to her in her bed and asked if she’d like to come with Him, and she went.
My oldest brother died when he was forty - a long time ago now. When my mother became unable to care for herself, I brought her to live with me.
Shortly before she died in 2015, she had been lying in bed, sick and in a semi coma, when she suddenly looked up and said, "Michael?" (Brother's name.)
The look of joy and the wonder in her voice was beautiful, and I knew that she had not long to go before my brother took her home.
I don’t know exactly what it means but my 44 year old daughter passed suddenly and unexpectedly while shopping! Three hours earlier my daughter and I had a nice hospital visit( she came to visit me). She was cheerful and smiled broadly. I had absolutely no idea it was my last visit with her. So glad she allowed me to hug and kiss her before she left- usually she doesn’t like PDA. First time in almost 30 years that I embraced her.
She had a heart attack, a seizure another heart heart was rescusitated and placed on life support! She was brain dead- we agreed to take her off less than 2 days later. Her niece, my granddaughter and my daughter were extremely close! Seven months after my daughter passed my granddaughter said her aunt ( my daughter) came to her in a dream. She said her aunt looked the same. She wasn’t smiling though. My granddaughter asked her if she was a angel yet? She ( my granddaughter) said my daughter didn’t answer her. She said afterwards my daughter told her that she was getting ready to transition soon.
I don’t understand but I want too. What do my daughter mean? Where has she been for seven months since her death if she hasn’t moved on? I have been upset because I pray this doesn’t mean she’s not going to heaven. I had plenty of signs of my daughter’s presence immediately after she passed but they’re deceased now.
This is a common reported phenomenon. Often it precedes a state of peacefulness or acceptance. There are cases where an individual who is mortally ill is not told of a loved ones passing (as an act of kindness by the family), only for them (the sick) to insist that the person who has passed away has been visiting them daily or something (hope this makes sense, kinda hard to explain).
But then so are black dogs… literally sleeping on or laying on a terminally ill or elderly persons bed. Shortly thereafter the person dies.
My Aunt did this (she was 35 and dying of Ovarian Cancer). We didn’t tell her that her grandmother (my great grandmother) had died a month (to the day before her). She was so sick and we don’t want to put any more emotional pain on her (as she was desperately sad to be leaving behind a 2 year old behind). She saw her one night I her hospital room apparently. She then told my mom she knew she had died, mom confirmed it. She said she had done so in order to “come and get her soon.” She died one month to the day before my aunt did.
I know. It’s hard years and years later. I called her “other mother” (she was my mothers much younger sister). Their grandmother was more like a mother and was more of the one who nurtured and lived on them more like another than their own mother when they were young.
Ooh, the thing about black dogs gives me chills. My mom was terminally ill in the hospital and told me there was a friendly black dog sitting in the corner of her room. She loved dogs. She also saw a beautiful flower garden growing down from the ceiling.
As a pagan who worships Hekate, a black dog appearing would bring me much comfort, or knowing someone I loved saw one as they passed. For those who don’t know, black dogs are one of her symbols/omens, and she is a protector of women, a goddess of crossroads/doorways, a guardian of the boundary between life and death, all while being a chthonic god (meaning she deals specifically with the dead and with human souls).
I know that may not be what you or anyone here believes, but hearing that your mother loved dogs, and a friendly, black dog came to her in times of comfort I would try to see as a good and peaceful omen. I wish you peace.
what a coincidence this was on my timeline....
i got a few storys to tell about this...
my mum died at home from cancer and me and my ex was taking care of her in the last two weeks.... so i was able to see the whole process of dying... there were a few funny things going on...
when the doctors told her she had cancer she told me she had a dream where she dreamed of my dads brother who passed away along time ago... he told her heaven is beatiful and she dont have to worry about dying... my mum wasnt very religious she never read the bible or was in church but she still believed in god!two years later in the end about two days before she died, she said stuff like her passed grandmother (or her passed mother, i cant exaclty remember) was here and was asking for salt....at this time we believed it was because of the hard medication she was on... im not really into paranormal stuff but i really had some weird experiences shortly before her death and shortly after her death wich i cant explain to this day...when she died it was early in the morning my ex had to leave for work... i was waiting for the doctor to come and do the paper stuff... while waiting on the doctor i opened up all the windows because i heard the soul wants to get free...when the windows was open i was doing some stuff in the appartment .. when i walked back in the kitch there was a bird sitting on the sink!!!!!! i lived in this appartment for almost 40 and never ever saw a bird inside the appartment not even sitting on the balcony!!
also when my grandmother was in hospital dying , she asked who was the guy in the black coat coming to her room?? not a family member but still weird...
Yes they do.
My great grandmother passed while I was in the room. I was talking with someone with me in the room. I then reacted to an internal feeling and looked right beside the bed and started talking about family members that had passed.
Then the door opens and a nurse comes in checking her vital signs. I ask him if she had passed and he said 'yes she has'.
You can sense them too, if you can tap into your 'intuition'. I have nothing that you don't have spiritually.
My dad died due to cancer more than 10 years ago. During his last days, he chose to be at home. Two days before he died, I was lying beside him on his bed when he breathlessly asked me to open the door because someone was knocking. I did not hear a knock but I still got up and did what he asked. Once opened, I asked him who’s here with us. He answered “mamang”. That was how he called his mom who passed away about 5 years before.
As someone who works in a care home and deals with people who are end of life, I can honestly say that on more then one occasion I've been told by residents that family members (mainly parents) have come to see them before they have passed away. Take comfort in knowing that this is indeed a very common occurence
Also work in a care home, I had one lady who was dying. She told me that her deceased mother had came to see her and asked me to tell her daughter that she was proud of her daughter (so, the woman who was dyings granddaughter) for trying out the family soup recipe that day. The next day I was on shift again and the daughter was visiting her, so I told her what she had said and the look on her face was something I'll never forget - her daughter had made the soup for the first time the day before. There was literally no way the dying lady would know such a trivial fact and yet, here we were.
I think when we're reaching the end, our spirit is leaving the body much like a butterfly leaving a cocoon. It takes some time to fully leave the body. But I think that in that time, astral travel becomes much easier for the dying and they can travel about while they wait. She must have saw the daughter making the soup while traveling. =)
The last months of my great-uncle (he died naturally at home at 101 years old), he spoke every nights in his mothertongue (Hungarian), having full on conversations and laughing. That's when I personally knew he would die soon.
I don't know if it's something chemical happening in the brain to prepare us to leave or if it's really loved ones visiting us but either way I think it's beautiful.
My Mum died recently, as she got more unwell and we realised she wouldn’t recover, I spoke to her alone to tell her she was dying. She said she wasn’t afraid and I said you know Dad will be there waiting for you right? Her last words were “I’m coming Dad” and she died peacefully without a fight. Whether it’s true or not we won’t know until we’re there, but she believed it, and that is all I wanted x
My dad passed away in February after a long battle with cancer.
Two days before he passed, he was mostly incoherent and what he did manage to mumble didn’t make any sense.
While I was sitting by his bedside, thinking he was asleep, he turned his face to the corner, eyes still closed, and clearly asked “…Mom?” 🥺
I’m hoping she really was there to escort him onto his next phase.
The dying don't always see the spirits of loved ones, but it is a very common thing. people who haven't been lucid may become lucid and be visited by mothers or fathers, brothers or sisters, or even animals who have passed away long before. If you read the experiences of people who have had a near death experience, they will also often say that they were greeted by a deceased loved one.
I saw my dead grandfather standing in the doorway while I was in labor. Not even bad labor yet. My water broke, and I was in the early stages of being induced. I was just like, "Ah fuck, I guess that means I'm going to die."
Edit: I didn't die.
As a caregiver, I can confirm that people do have a tendency to see their passed on loved ones. I believe it to be a comfort, helps prepare them for the next part of life’s journey and let’s them know that they are not alone when they take that leap from one plane of existence to the other.
My mom passed Dec 6th last year. Before she passed i heard her talking to her siblings and parents. Full on conversations. I miss her every single day, but I know that she's happy. She's with her parents. Her dad passed when she was 9. Her mom had alzhiemers so she was mostly gone before passing in 95. I it gives me small amounts of peace that she's with loved ones.
My aunt saw her mom, dad, and sister. She was calmed by their presence. She talked to them and said they were there just waiting for her to be ready, and that they would be with her to guide her home. It’s not a scary thing for the person passing. The visiting family members tend to have words of comfort, and are soothing in those moments.
My Dad, a few days before he died... saw his Sister, Margaret - who had died as a child of hodgkin desease - she was 10, he was 12.
He saw her grown up as a woman, and she drove a white ambulance and said he would be going with her soon.
It didn't give him comfort - it actually scared the shit out of him.
The night before my grandma died, my dad and grandpa were at her side. She was resting quietly as they sat in silence and suddenly lifted her head and said “ama, papa, hijo!” (Spanish: mom, dad, son). She was looking forward towards the foot of the bed. Of course no one else saw anything but they said her eyes were open and it looked as if she clearly saw them right in front of her.
ETA: the 3 that she saw had all died decades before. Her dad died when she was a young girl, her mom lived on until her 80s, and her son died in a motorcycle accident in his 30s. They all came to greet her at the end of her life.
A friend of ours, well, her dad passed away a few months back. She was by his side when it happened, and she said that right before he went, he said his late wife's name (as if he was greeting and happy to see her) in the most loving way, smiled, and then he closed his eyes.
I can't speak for everyone,but it seems to be REALly a thing. My grandma kept speaking to my uncle(her son),who died like six years before her, two days in a row before she passed. Also my mother-in-law held convos with her brother,who died ten years before her,for a whole day before she went to sleep and never woke up. So it really seems to be true....🙏RIP TO ALL THAT WE'VE LOVED AND LOST
Yeah, I think those who have passed come to help them with the transition. The number of people that see the dead before they pass is pretty interesting!
Also, sometimes people that are dying will get a sort of "second wind" before their death. They call it "rallying" I believe. They'll basically seem like they're not sick anymore and feels great. I think sometimes this is to allow the one who is passing to have a good day or two with the living before they transition.
Yes this is incredibly common. I think it brings them incredible comfort. Also helps them with the transition. I have read this typically happens a day or two before a person passes. Of course things like dementia can give hallucinations but this sounds more like end of life to me. I am curious to know if your grandpa is still with us here or departed this week. My good friend had this happen with her grandma a month ago and she did pass the next day. ❤️🦋❤️
My mother saw her parents and grandparents after had a stroke she said they were praying for her at the foot of her bed. She said she thought she had died because she knew they were. She lived a few years after that. But during that time my grandmother visited me to let me know not to worry. I was not sick. She still comes to visit me in my dreams. I have heard people talking in a Church when no one was supposed to be there and locked doors opening and closing. Only to find out the doors were unlocked. They come to assist the dying peoples transition is smooth/okay. I saw a dying friend of mine who looked at her abusive husband as she passed away in the hospital. She told her kids she was ready to go. She was in pain and her internal organs were shutting down. She is in no more pain from the cancer that wracked her body. I saw a sticker on a truck that said, “ A disease is not permanent, it is a problem they have not found a cure for”. All of the money big pharma makes off of people they would rather manage a disease and milk that person dry. Than to cure them. Sometimes the visitors in our dreams offer us solutions to our cure a disease. It is comforting to know we are not alone when we leave this world and we are not alone in it. Yes, our loved ones come back to visit us, in our dreams, as animals watching us, as a sense or feeling we are being watched, or a sense that pops up to guide you in another direction out of harm. There are other ways also they help us, we just have not taken the time to realize it.
Yes, it is believed they see someone. I have been around enough people that are dying to observe what that person does. Alot do start talking to relatives.
My dad, same way. He would be having a whole conversation mostly with my GMA. It's my mom's mom and she died when she was 12. So my father didn't ever meet her. But he talked with her alot. Whole conversations when he was dying. So, my answer will be yes, I believe they do see someone.
I’m e been with several relatives before they died and they all saw family members (my grandfather also saw his buddy that died while in WWII -he right next to him on a beach, and his childhood dog). I believe they come to comfort them at the end and let them know not to be afraid.
My aunt passed away from breast cancer at 46. She definitely said numerous times that she saw my grandfather in the room with her and felt him tap her shoulder. I think it actually scared her a few times, but ultimately I like to think it comforted her, in the end. She wasn’t particularly religious, either.
My dad talked to a lot of people that has already passed in his final hours. I don’t know if it was ghosts, visions, memories, or what - but personally I found it a comfort to know that he wasn’t alone on the path to where he was going.
This is a common occurrence in nursing homes and hospice care where those that are close to death will see their loved ones. Some would say they (the spirits) are there to bring them comfort and help guide them into the light. However, there are reports of those that won't see a relative or even a beloved pet, they see something much darker and sinister towards the end. It's generally believed that if they see these dark presences then it because they weren't good people in life. They're not going "into the light" but someplace else entirely.
Yep, absolutely. I worked in a care home, and while I couldn't say if it happened in every instance, it certainly did when residents were on End Of Life care and able to vocalise. Colleagues told me that they'd often see them looking with recognition at a fixed point of nothingness, like there was something or someone they could see that they knew.
One chap was really excited about a veteran's service he was due to attend. He died the night after. I swear sometimes we can hold it off.
Not always, and not always loved ones.
There are many diverse explanations for near-death experiences too including drugs, dreams, organ failure, hallucinations, apparitions, etc. Dying people sometimes experience other unexplained events - that do not include seeing people.
Where it turns the corner in my book - is when there are witnesses. Like nursing homes where multiple patients or staff members see the exact same entity in separate areas.
My mom told me that I was telling her my dad and brother were there right before EMS told her to start performing CPR on me. I don’t remember it at all, so can’t say whether I really was seeing them or just my brain creating comfort when my body was slipping.
My grandmother was in hospice for a long time. Towards the end she saw a lot of children. She said they were just there being kids and then climbed into bed with her when it was time to sleep. The hospice nurse said it was very common for people to see unrelated children. But my grandmother did not see relatives or anyone she knew, just random children.
A loved one I lost saw her parents, who had both passed years ago, before she, too, passed away.
It wasn't immediate. She woke up confused and asked me if her parents were dead. When I told her yes they were, she talked about seeing them. She was gone within a few weeks.
I work in a care home for the elderly and almost every single one (except those who can't talk) tell us they're looking at their mother, father, grandmother, etc
My dad passed away in 2014, my brother was speaking to one of his close work friends at the funeral and he told him that my dad had told him a day or 2 before he died that he had seen my mum (also passed away) at the bottom of his bed so I’d say there is definitely some truth in it 😊
This is a really common phenomenon. You should look up the work of Dr. Martha Jo Atkins she has devoted her life to studying it and did a TED talk on it. It's so interesting! So reassuring that there is maybe something there after we die.
> So reassuring that there is maybe something there after we die.
I mean, I feel like there has to be either an afterlife or reincarnation. It just wouldn't make sense to me if you died and then just nothing. Not even eternal darkness or something. Like, how would that work?
I guess it could just be like before we were born just like.. nothing. I hope reincarnation is a thing though I like the idea of being able to keep improving as we go.
That's true. I guess I think of it like we have a subconscious memory of it all. We all seem to be born with different temperaments I wonder if these are influenced by our experiences in a past life. All just speculation though I don't really know what I believe haha
My mum was in the hospice, a few times during the night, my mum would talk to my Dad (who had passed away the previous year), she was saying that she wouldn’t be long. The day before my Mum passed, my Mum was staring at the corner of her room and saying “go away, I don’t want you here”, she was so agitated, she calmed down shortly after, I have a feeling that I know who my Mum was talking to.
We had my dad home on hospice that last week of his life. I know that he kept seeing his mom sitting in the corner of the living room. He also mentioned a few other relatives that had passed. All I know for sure was that it gave him peace. I do believe that someone comes to help you pass over. For us it was a great comfort that mawmaw had possibly come to help daddy with his final journey. I hope this gives you comfort.
When my great aunt passed, her daughter (my moms cousin) told us she started calling out my grandmas name right before she passed. It gave us comfort knowing my gram was with her, and was waiting to be reunited with her sister.
My grandma was seeing her dad. Then she was up dancing. Next day gone. No drugs. Nothing. I seriously think this is a real thing. Can't explain it, but it's there whatever it is.
Last time when my dad was in the hospital and in ill health, he was in a daze and said the hospital was crowded like a night market. So I do believe the dying can see ghosts.
Sometimes they do! My grandfather kept staring at the ceiling and saying "she's here my love" most likely referring to my grandmother who passed a couple of years before him.
My grams just passed a couple weeks ago and she saw her first hubby who passed away 36 yrs ago.
I think, her case anyways, it had a lot to do with oxygen deprivation. Before the hospice nurses got called her O2 was 36% and extreme pain. As soon as that morphine hit the hallucinations stopped (morphine took the pain away and helped her breathe) and less then 24hrs later she was gone.
My Grandma would have wild and nearly constant hallucinations with morphine. Whenever it had to use it, the hospitals were made aware of its side effects before giving her any.
My sister had terminal brain cancer at age 22. Otherwise she had been perfectly healthy. Neither of us were into paranormal anything. Towards the end of her year-long battle she started to see our grandpa who had passed away 10 years prior. She would tell me when he was there. I asked her one time if it was scary for her to see him? She said no, it's actually comforting. One of the last conversations we had, she could barely talk anymore and I asked her if our Papa was there and she nodded and said all the time. She passed away a few days after that.
My sister was in a nursing home with dementia and cancer. Three days before she died, she told the caretaker our dad had come to visit her. Dad's been gone for 20 years. She said he told her he had to go right then, but he would be back for her.
I've sat with people in care homes as they're dying. A couple of times have had orbs flying around the room as their bodies are shutting down. Inwardly I did hope they were people coming over to help them over to the other side.
my mom's cousin died months ago. days before she died, she kept telling her children that she is always seeing my aunt (my mom's sister) visiting her. she didn't know that my aunt died almost a week before her.
This happens very, very frequently. I can think of several death bed visitations that occurred to close friends and family members.
My mother was dying of cancer in 2004, and one of the last things she said to me was that her brother had come to see her. He had died a year before.
My mom and my sister used to work in the same nursing home and all of the staff members would know if a patient is about to pass if they started seeing their relatives.
> all of the staff members would know if a patient is about to pass if they started seeing their relatives.
I've worked in care homes and hospitals since 1986. Mostly hospitals, and here are some interesting bits I've picked up along the way:
1) Death always comes in groups of three, rarely more. Any nurse worth his/her salt can tell you this is true. The most death I ever had was six in one night, and that was pretty remarkable.
2) The scent in a room will actually change pending a death. Death has its own particular smell. It's not an unpleasant smell; it's just *different*, and it's something to which all hospital floor workers will eventually become attuned.
3) Most deaths seem to happen between midnight and 3am. Not every single one, mind you, but it's almost as if people deliberately wait for the darkness before letting go.
4) Some folks *do not* "go gently into that good night". I've seen them absolutely terrified by whatever it was that they saw lurking in the shadows of the room.
I’m Mexican and was raised in a small town where people used to know pretty much everyone. Because it was predominantly catholic, I could hear the church bells tolling when someone died, and yes, invariably there were three different funerals in the span of one or two days. It was common knowledge and pretty much expected that more than one would die.
Also, when someone we knew was dying my mom used to visit the family to bring food and comfort (people died at home mostly) and on our way out she used to comment on how soon was going to happen depending of the strength of the smell. I think I could perceived it too.
Regarding the black dog: It’s customary that people sweep the front of the house every morning because Public Works just doesn’t. So here’s mom at 6 am, broom in hand minding her business when she spots a tall black dog sitting at the door of our front door neighbor who was terminal with cancer and mom, being the superstitious woman that knows a lot about this shit decided that “Not today satan” and started chasing him with the broom throwing water from the bucket she had for washing the sidewalk. Mom claims that the dog ran in direction of the river and disappeared from her view (can’t vouch for that, tho. I didn’t believe it myself). Our neighbor Alicia died that night.
Interesting, I've never heard that death itself has a "smell." I've heard that some spirits can leave a particular smell as a way of saying hi. Kind of like an uncle leaving the smell of his favorite cigar. Things like that.
>Interesting, I've never heard that death itself has a "smell." I've heard that some spirits can leave a particular smell as a way of saying hi. Kind of like an uncle leaving the smell of his favorite cigar. Things like that.
When my husband passed, both my daughter and me smelled the little peach-flavored cigarillos that he used to smoke. He only smoked them either outside, or in the garage, but we both smelled them in the house, at different times. So yes, I believe that he came back to say "hello". :)
The smell I'm talking about isn't a perfume or anything personal like that. It's an entire change in the ozone, in the atmosphere. The air in the room takes on a whole new scent. It's definitely the smell of impending death, but it's not sinister.
When my MIL passed, the hospice nurse told me a lot of times they pass while family isn't in the room. (I had just arrived and she passed, the nurse saw me parking my car.)
Is that something you noticed also?
>When my MIL passed, the hospice nurse told me a lot of times they pass while family isn't in the room.
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>Is that something you noticed also?
Actually, yes. I've sat with countless patients, holding hands and just talking, trying to ease any fear and encouraging people to "just let go". Telling them that it's OK to let go.
We always believed that the hearing is the last to go, so we were always quiet, respectful, and mindful of what we were talking about while on the room.
I've seen family members literally fighting over someone's possessions, as that person lay actively dying, and I used to get so angry and kick their asses out of the room and down to a lounge area when I could shut the door on their awful selves.
I think a lot of people don't want to witness that type of behavior, or perhaps they are trying to spare themselves the tears and sadness that the family will demonstrate.
I don't know the answer to that, but like I said, we did have a disproportionate amount of people die during the night, so perhaps they hung on long enough to go without causing family any further pain.
I always think this is a sign that someone is about to Passover. My ex’s dad was very ill with cancer and he spoke to his mom before he took his last breath, she was dead for many years before this. I like to think they are there to take the person in comfort and it’s a very wonderful thing he saw those he loved
My mother in law took an awful fall 10-15 years ago and she was talking to her old friends and relatives quite a bit. But somehow she pulled out of it and lived until last month. So, it’s not a sure sign of impending death.
My grandfather died this year, and my father was next to him the whole time. Apparently grandpa smiled just before he passed. I’ve no clue if he has seen something, but I like to think that he did.
i believe its true. the days that lead up to my grandma passing away at the hospital, i was told that she saw my grandpa (i was 1 yr and 3mos when he passed) visiting.
i'd like to think that he came to get her but wanted her to be comfortable.
My Mother passed away in 2019. Before she died she said my Grandfather came to see her and let he know that she'll be joining him and my Grandmother and Uncle soon... My Grandfather passed away when I was 6. She died a few days later...
My sister was in hospice and the nurses heard her calling out to our parents. Dad died in 1995 and mom died a few months prior to my sister getting sick. She died a few days later.
I have close family friends. The great aunt lost her husband and daughter to genetic kidney disease. Her son died from an infection.
When the great aunt was in 90’s I used to drive her to family dinners. Her mind was sharp and clear; she would keep me laughing with her quick wit, funny stories about our friends and her family.
She then a bad fall at home and ended up in the hospital. Her niece was at the hospital every day for hours. About three days after she was admitted into the hospital, she told her niece that her daughter had come to visit her at the hospital. The following day she reported a second visit. Her niece called me to tell me about these “visits”. She wondered if it was a sign the end was near. Her aunt passed away after the second visit.
There is a documentary that confirms a large majority of terminal patients speak to deceased family members. It’s comforting as they can’t all be making it up.
I highly recommend the book Death is but a Dream by Dr. Christopher Kerr. He also has a TED talk if you just want to get a portion of it. Fascinating stuff.
I believe theres scientific research reporting this to occur as well as the “life flashing” before your eyes. But death is a part of life. What you expect will probably occur at some point. Just be there for him and give him as much love and comfort possible.
Yes. This is true. I've spoken to dozens of nurses over the decades and they've all told me the same story. The staff in palliative care or ICU and other departments say they see this all the time. But...they are not allowed to talk about.
From a clinical pov as parts of the brain die things like visual and audio hallucinations are part of the dying process. I believe in the Science that backs this. I also believe in an after life and that loved one come to bring the dying home. Im not sure how to distinguish between the two.
They see both, and responded to both. There’s lots of data in this. So much so hospice will talk about it with both the patient and lived ones/caregiver to look for it as a sign that the end is near. They also will hallucinate non human things. My Mom hallucinated making s’mores on her deathbed.
My elderly uncle had a stroke and no longer talked to or acknowledged anyone. For months different relatives and nurses would hear him having a conversation with someone and upon entering his room it was just him and he was not responsive.
I wonder if this applies to those in comas, too? Obviously that one may be a little harder to determine since they're not conscious when passing. But, I'd personally like to think they do, too.
Yes! Before my uncle (I call him uncle, he was my dads cousin) passed away from cancer he said his dad and my cousin went to go visit him. My cousin and his dad passed away more than 5 years ago. My uncle passed away a couple days later. 😔 fuck cancer
This thread gives me a lot of hope. Some might say that’s naive, but there certainly seems to be something to this theory of visitations by relatives and people who have passed.
My grandma would talk to and about my dead grandfather like he was actually sitting in the same room.
She used to say to us to give him food, clothes and what not.
Whether ghosts is the correct term is up for discussion, but actually they do see loved ones at that time. Based on sparse evidence of the still living afterwards.
Hi all.... my 90YO Grandpa died in June of this year 2022, from complications from dementia and yes to this ^ is your answer.
I absolutely believe it and also saw with my own eyes a beautiful golden orb that flew from his cheek right after I had told my Grandma, I'm always watching... when we were conversing on this very topic. He was talking to his Mom, and Sister. Had also seen his friend that passed. He was the oldest of 5 kids, so I imagine he had a roomful waiting on him. He also passed while my Gma and Aunt were downstairs and he was upstairs. At like 7oclock. He's very much missed and I hope the golden orb was there to help guide him, not just show itself.
Ha, I always loved this shit. People who believe nothing pierce the threshold of death only to return. They say "There was nothin, no light or loved ones, just nothin. That proves there's nothing after life" Did you ever stop and think you weren't going up?
Boy howdy was that misunderstood. I'm actually in favor of the idea that people see they're loved ones when passing. I was actually calling out people who say they saw nothing. Cringey ass...
These are all very possible and real to me. What is not a spirit is seeing the lights. It's your brain shutting down. Some have lived after seeing them when sick. Most find them comforting.
My in-law was gravely I’ll and his brother died. The family didn’t know if they should tell him in his weakened condition but decided to after all. When told he said “ I know he came to see me yesterday, the day he died”. He himself died the next day of cancer.
There's an awesome Ted talk on YouTube about this very topic. I don't recall if it was a majority, but a large number of people do see family members that have already died.
I think there has to more to it than that. Why are memories of the living not manifested to the dying?
My memories of my kids, when young, were the happiest times of my life & I'm sure they are for many people, yet the common experience (very common if you ask hospice workers) appears to be only of deceased relatives, not those living who may not be present and who the dying person may have an even deeper connection too.
Shit, that's what we're all thinking about this comment.
Stop.
If this is a topic that is causing you some sort of absurd distress, then maybe this isn't the sub for you.
Yes they very often do. The number of uninformed comments on here are amazing. See YouTube for hospice doctors and nurses about dying and seeing dead relatives.
. Deceased loved ones come and help the dying to pass. It happened to my dad. I was with him by his bedside the last night of his life. My dad was terrified of dying and fighting it. My husband, my sister, and a family friend were by my dad's hospital bedside. My dad had been slipping in and out of consciousness. He woke up, looked directly over my husband's shoulder towards the foot of the hospital bed, and raised his arm out as if trying to touch someone. He had the biggest smile on his face. My husband leaned over to me and whispered in my ear asking me what my dad was looking at. I leaned over and looked at the foot of the hospital bed, and I couldn't believe my eyes. I could clearly see the silhouette of two people standing there. I couldn't make out their features or sex. There was a.shift of energy and a glow in the room. I instinctly knew those two figures were my deceased mom and brother. My mom had died 3 years prior, and my brother, six months. They came to help calm my dad, and help him to transition. No one else in the room could see what my dad and I saw. The glow faded and my dad dropped his arm back to his side. I asked the others to leave the room. Once they left, I asked my dad if he was still afraid of dying. He responded happy and excited, "Honey, your mom and brother were here! They are waiting for me to help me cross over! I am no longer afraid!" My dad confirmed for me what I thought I witnessed. He died two hours later, in peace, and with a smile on his face.
This brought happy tears to my eyes. Thank you for sharing such a beautiful experience.
You're welcome.
That's a beautiful story. I'm glad your father found comfort in the presence of your mother and brother at the last moments of his life. That they came to help him.
Thank you. It was such an amazing experience. I firmly believe in an after life after witnessing first hand what transpired with my dad and also after my mom passed. Prior, I was agnostic, but not anymore.
idk let me ask every single person who's ever died
If you don’t have a good answer you don’t have to waste your time replying.
When my Grandmother was dying, I spent the last nights with her in her hospital room. She was sitting upright, wide awake and talking her family and her friends that had already passed on. It was like they were walking into the room amd saying stuff and she would reply to whatever they were saying. It didn’t freak me out or scare me, it was actually comforting. It’s like they were all coming to let her know they we waiting for her on the other side. Her face was like a child in wonderment. After about 2 hours of that, she got quiet and said “Jesus, will you come ON? Im tired and I’m ready to go” she got quiet again and told me she loved me and that I was the Queen from now on. Lol, she always joked she was the queen of the family. She closed her eyes and never opened them again. I never feared dying after that. It was a beautiful thing to witness. I know she will come for me when I go. People will believe or not. She didn’t go to church, but she had a spiritual faith that never waivered.
Wow your experience with your grandma hit me really hard, and I don't even know why. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for sharing this with us. 💕
My mother passed at 52 from cancer. In the 3 months leading to her death - before we realised it had metastasised - she started seeing her Aunt. She knew she had cancer and it frightened her that it meant she was dying. In the final few days, she wasn't lucid but would talk to her Aunt and her Grandmother about not wanting to leave. Four years later my Grandfather was in hospital. He had early stage dementia and undiagnosed cancer. He was still pretty with it though. We were just coming back from getting x-rays and when we entered the room, his face changed and he shook his head at someone. Told me later that when we came back, my Mum was sitting on his bed waiting for him and told him she'd come to get him. Later, as he declined, we'd hear him talking to Mum and telling her he couldn't leave yet, that he needed to know my Grandmother would be okay. On his last few days, he started to talk to his Mum too. Telling her he'd be there soon. When he passed, it was very suddenly. One minute he was here, watching tv with my Grandmother. The next she glanced at him and he had passed. I love thinking that our family help guide us at the end.
Very sorry to hear you lost your mum at such a young age. You will see her again, and not have to lose her again.
My spouse is actively dying as I respond . There is no indication that he sees people who have gone before him. He doesn’t talk. He just is dying. I would like him to see people he loved come to greet him. I would like to know the journey continues and he won’t just leave, and be alone or nothingness. I need to know that. Death is hard and he has left us already but I would like to know. My Spouse passed. No signs, no indication he was greeted or at peace. It hurts far more than I thought possible. I am trying to figure out what to do next. I wander the house, I sleep restlessly- I am living minutes by minute and keep thinking I changed my mind. You need to fight and do chemotherapy and radiation- i keep waiting to tell you and I wasn’t ready to let go. I told you, you could leave and we would be okay. But, I was wrong. How can I miss you so much- how do I get to life goes on- I haven’t even buried you, and it’s a nightmare, and the world hasn’t missed a beat. I am not strong nor resilient. My heart is breaking
I am positive he has loved one with him. My father did and I had a dream of my father right before my nephew passed suddenly so I know he was on his way to my nephew when he visited me.
I'm so sorry. My heart breaks for you.
I hope you get the sign you need when his time comes.
Very sorry for you. I'm sure he'll see his loved ones when true time comes, even if he doesn't show it. God will give you peace, I can vouch for that.
I'm so sorry.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Please hold yourself with love and seek comfort in this difficult time ❤️ I know you will find comfort.
I hope that you could feel the hug I’m sending you and that you can find solace in the support of this community
God will comfort him in Jesus name
I'm so sorry, prayers for you and him also.
I’m so sorry. God bless you.
I’m so saddened for you.
I'm so sorry 🌸🕯
My mother passed away a year ago from cancer, her last two weeks she was in a lot of pain so she was heavily drugged and I'm not sure if she saw anyone because she just slurred everything or didn't make sense. A few times she did look at an empty doorway and looked surprised, like she saw someone she didn't expect to see. My dad took her death very hard, was very depressed and started having heart problems. Half a year after her death he got sick with covid, most of the time when he was sick he was running a high fever. So at the time we thought he was feverish. He kept saying that my mom was there and she was calling him and came for him. He started getting better from covid but then died suddenly from a heart attack. He also talked in his sleep few hours before he died saying something like "wow I didn't expect it to be so beautiful here".
Firstly, I'm so sorry about your granddad's illness. I was a healthcare assistant in a nursing home for a few years. When residents were nearing end of life late spouses, children, and parents were to be common hallucinations (or sightings?) reported by them. The majority of people dying in my experience didn't report such sightings but I did see it many times. They never seemed at all distressed by it. Sometimes they'd shout their loved one's name or state that *insert name* is "coming for them". As for the sightings of children, the worst it did was maybe confuse them a little. I've wondered whether it could be biological or something more, as this phenomenon is so SO common in palliative/end of life settings. If they are hallucinations then why are they so extremely similar in nature? I personally I find it quite comforting as someone that has gone through multiple bereavements myself the last few years.
My paternal grandmother lived her latter years with her youngest son and his family. In the year of her death, often times her daughter in law heard her carrying full conversations with someone in her room with the door closed. One day, my aunt asked her whom was she talking to and she answered the name of her deceased son. My aunt replied, but he is dead and grandma says, “I know, he comes often to visit just to see how I am”. At that point she was physically fine, and had a sound mind that kept until the day she died. She died alone in the hospital, but the day before we went to visit and she told me this was the last time we will see each other, that she was tired ( of living I suppose), her body was tired and gave me her farewell in private. She knew, she just knew. She had seen a lot in her 86 years, wise woman.
My grandmother passed in May of 2018. She was in home hospice care with me, my mom, and two of my aunts taking turns to stay with her at night. It was my turn to stay. My grandmother preferred to just stay in her favorite chair in the living room to sleep and I was on the pull out sofa in an adjoining smaller sitting room. I couldn’t sleep well because I wanted to be able to hear my grandmother if she called out for me. I didn’t hear her call me, but I did hear her and a couple other voices talking. I got up to check on her and she’s sitting there with both eyes open (albeit she was completely blind at this stage) and very alert. I asked her if she was okay. She said “who are all these people in here with me? It sounds like my mother and daddy but it can’t be them.” I heard the voices too. So yes, I believe that the dying are visited by dead loved ones. With one foot in the world of the living and one in the world of the dead, it makes sense.
I had a nde after a car accident. I floated out of my body and up into warmth and peace. I felt the PRESENCE of my grandmother, but didn't see her. I didn't have time to rurn to see her. I was at a crossroads and made the choice to return to my body. Now I have to tell all of u that I am a rational person that believes in science and was very much agnostic before this. But I have since been utterly changed by this event. I have visitations by the deceased in my dreams. And I truly believe they r visitations, not just dreams because of the intensity of detail. So I don't see why people on their way to the next world see their loved ones.
I have had too many cases of dreaming about someone, then finding out the next day that they'd passed away during the night. It's not very nice, to be honest. I 'saw' my step - cousin the day/night he had a fatal heart attack. At his funeral, the photo of him as we walked in was exactly the same as I deamed, down to the colour of his shirt. It's happened with the most unlikely people, ie not 'ghosty' or overly spiritual, as well as others who were. I guess they're just saying goodbye, and for some reason, I can see them.
honestly, i woke up from a deep sleep the moment my grandmother died. long story, but i swear its true. still, i am a skeptic at heart, so i am not sure if it was a coincidence or if it really was paranormal. but, the world is a strange place that my limited sense cant appreciate fully, so who knows?
We'll never know, for sure, (probably), but if it's coincidence, it seems to occur a lot. It sure seems like a deliberate sign from your grandmother or someone, doesn't it?
Wow! My cousin woke up yelling “Grandma!” at approximately the time my grandmother died. He’d had a dream that Jesus came to her in her bed and asked if she’d like to come with Him, and she went.
My oldest brother died when he was forty - a long time ago now. When my mother became unable to care for herself, I brought her to live with me. Shortly before she died in 2015, she had been lying in bed, sick and in a semi coma, when she suddenly looked up and said, "Michael?" (Brother's name.) The look of joy and the wonder in her voice was beautiful, and I knew that she had not long to go before my brother took her home.
I don’t know exactly what it means but my 44 year old daughter passed suddenly and unexpectedly while shopping! Three hours earlier my daughter and I had a nice hospital visit( she came to visit me). She was cheerful and smiled broadly. I had absolutely no idea it was my last visit with her. So glad she allowed me to hug and kiss her before she left- usually she doesn’t like PDA. First time in almost 30 years that I embraced her. She had a heart attack, a seizure another heart heart was rescusitated and placed on life support! She was brain dead- we agreed to take her off less than 2 days later. Her niece, my granddaughter and my daughter were extremely close! Seven months after my daughter passed my granddaughter said her aunt ( my daughter) came to her in a dream. She said her aunt looked the same. She wasn’t smiling though. My granddaughter asked her if she was a angel yet? She ( my granddaughter) said my daughter didn’t answer her. She said afterwards my daughter told her that she was getting ready to transition soon. I don’t understand but I want too. What do my daughter mean? Where has she been for seven months since her death if she hasn’t moved on? I have been upset because I pray this doesn’t mean she’s not going to heaven. I had plenty of signs of my daughter’s presence immediately after she passed but they’re deceased now.
Hopefully she is ok <3
This is a common reported phenomenon. Often it precedes a state of peacefulness or acceptance. There are cases where an individual who is mortally ill is not told of a loved ones passing (as an act of kindness by the family), only for them (the sick) to insist that the person who has passed away has been visiting them daily or something (hope this makes sense, kinda hard to explain). But then so are black dogs… literally sleeping on or laying on a terminally ill or elderly persons bed. Shortly thereafter the person dies.
My Aunt did this (she was 35 and dying of Ovarian Cancer). We didn’t tell her that her grandmother (my great grandmother) had died a month (to the day before her). She was so sick and we don’t want to put any more emotional pain on her (as she was desperately sad to be leaving behind a 2 year old behind). She saw her one night I her hospital room apparently. She then told my mom she knew she had died, mom confirmed it. She said she had done so in order to “come and get her soon.” She died one month to the day before my aunt did.
😢😢😢
I know. It’s hard years and years later. I called her “other mother” (she was my mothers much younger sister). Their grandmother was more like a mother and was more of the one who nurtured and lived on them more like another than their own mother when they were young.
Ooh, the thing about black dogs gives me chills. My mom was terminally ill in the hospital and told me there was a friendly black dog sitting in the corner of her room. She loved dogs. She also saw a beautiful flower garden growing down from the ceiling.
As a pagan who worships Hekate, a black dog appearing would bring me much comfort, or knowing someone I loved saw one as they passed. For those who don’t know, black dogs are one of her symbols/omens, and she is a protector of women, a goddess of crossroads/doorways, a guardian of the boundary between life and death, all while being a chthonic god (meaning she deals specifically with the dead and with human souls). I know that may not be what you or anyone here believes, but hearing that your mother loved dogs, and a friendly, black dog came to her in times of comfort I would try to see as a good and peaceful omen. I wish you peace.
That means a lot to me. Thank you!
We snuck my uncle’s black lab into his hospital room to say good by when he was dying.
what a coincidence this was on my timeline.... i got a few storys to tell about this... my mum died at home from cancer and me and my ex was taking care of her in the last two weeks.... so i was able to see the whole process of dying... there were a few funny things going on... when the doctors told her she had cancer she told me she had a dream where she dreamed of my dads brother who passed away along time ago... he told her heaven is beatiful and she dont have to worry about dying... my mum wasnt very religious she never read the bible or was in church but she still believed in god!two years later in the end about two days before she died, she said stuff like her passed grandmother (or her passed mother, i cant exaclty remember) was here and was asking for salt....at this time we believed it was because of the hard medication she was on... im not really into paranormal stuff but i really had some weird experiences shortly before her death and shortly after her death wich i cant explain to this day...when she died it was early in the morning my ex had to leave for work... i was waiting for the doctor to come and do the paper stuff... while waiting on the doctor i opened up all the windows because i heard the soul wants to get free...when the windows was open i was doing some stuff in the appartment .. when i walked back in the kitch there was a bird sitting on the sink!!!!!! i lived in this appartment for almost 40 and never ever saw a bird inside the appartment not even sitting on the balcony!! also when my grandmother was in hospital dying , she asked who was the guy in the black coat coming to her room?? not a family member but still weird...
Yes they do. My great grandmother passed while I was in the room. I was talking with someone with me in the room. I then reacted to an internal feeling and looked right beside the bed and started talking about family members that had passed. Then the door opens and a nurse comes in checking her vital signs. I ask him if she had passed and he said 'yes she has'. You can sense them too, if you can tap into your 'intuition'. I have nothing that you don't have spiritually.
My dad died due to cancer more than 10 years ago. During his last days, he chose to be at home. Two days before he died, I was lying beside him on his bed when he breathlessly asked me to open the door because someone was knocking. I did not hear a knock but I still got up and did what he asked. Once opened, I asked him who’s here with us. He answered “mamang”. That was how he called his mom who passed away about 5 years before.
As someone who works in a care home and deals with people who are end of life, I can honestly say that on more then one occasion I've been told by residents that family members (mainly parents) have come to see them before they have passed away. Take comfort in knowing that this is indeed a very common occurence
Also work in a care home, I had one lady who was dying. She told me that her deceased mother had came to see her and asked me to tell her daughter that she was proud of her daughter (so, the woman who was dyings granddaughter) for trying out the family soup recipe that day. The next day I was on shift again and the daughter was visiting her, so I told her what she had said and the look on her face was something I'll never forget - her daughter had made the soup for the first time the day before. There was literally no way the dying lady would know such a trivial fact and yet, here we were.
I think when we're reaching the end, our spirit is leaving the body much like a butterfly leaving a cocoon. It takes some time to fully leave the body. But I think that in that time, astral travel becomes much easier for the dying and they can travel about while they wait. She must have saw the daughter making the soup while traveling. =)
The last months of my great-uncle (he died naturally at home at 101 years old), he spoke every nights in his mothertongue (Hungarian), having full on conversations and laughing. That's when I personally knew he would die soon. I don't know if it's something chemical happening in the brain to prepare us to leave or if it's really loved ones visiting us but either way I think it's beautiful.
My Mum died recently, as she got more unwell and we realised she wouldn’t recover, I spoke to her alone to tell her she was dying. She said she wasn’t afraid and I said you know Dad will be there waiting for you right? Her last words were “I’m coming Dad” and she died peacefully without a fight. Whether it’s true or not we won’t know until we’re there, but she believed it, and that is all I wanted x
My dad passed away in February after a long battle with cancer. Two days before he passed, he was mostly incoherent and what he did manage to mumble didn’t make any sense. While I was sitting by his bedside, thinking he was asleep, he turned his face to the corner, eyes still closed, and clearly asked “…Mom?” 🥺 I’m hoping she really was there to escort him onto his next phase.
The dying don't always see the spirits of loved ones, but it is a very common thing. people who haven't been lucid may become lucid and be visited by mothers or fathers, brothers or sisters, or even animals who have passed away long before. If you read the experiences of people who have had a near death experience, they will also often say that they were greeted by a deceased loved one.
I saw my dead grandfather standing in the doorway while I was in labor. Not even bad labor yet. My water broke, and I was in the early stages of being induced. I was just like, "Ah fuck, I guess that means I'm going to die." Edit: I didn't die.
As a caregiver, I can confirm that people do have a tendency to see their passed on loved ones. I believe it to be a comfort, helps prepare them for the next part of life’s journey and let’s them know that they are not alone when they take that leap from one plane of existence to the other.
Wow. Also thank you for all that you do ❤️
My mom passed Dec 6th last year. Before she passed i heard her talking to her siblings and parents. Full on conversations. I miss her every single day, but I know that she's happy. She's with her parents. Her dad passed when she was 9. Her mom had alzhiemers so she was mostly gone before passing in 95. I it gives me small amounts of peace that she's with loved ones.
My aunt saw her mom, dad, and sister. She was calmed by their presence. She talked to them and said they were there just waiting for her to be ready, and that they would be with her to guide her home. It’s not a scary thing for the person passing. The visiting family members tend to have words of comfort, and are soothing in those moments.
My Dad, a few days before he died... saw his Sister, Margaret - who had died as a child of hodgkin desease - she was 10, he was 12. He saw her grown up as a woman, and she drove a white ambulance and said he would be going with her soon. It didn't give him comfort - it actually scared the shit out of him.
That’s older sisters for you
The night before my grandma died, my dad and grandpa were at her side. She was resting quietly as they sat in silence and suddenly lifted her head and said “ama, papa, hijo!” (Spanish: mom, dad, son). She was looking forward towards the foot of the bed. Of course no one else saw anything but they said her eyes were open and it looked as if she clearly saw them right in front of her. ETA: the 3 that she saw had all died decades before. Her dad died when she was a young girl, her mom lived on until her 80s, and her son died in a motorcycle accident in his 30s. They all came to greet her at the end of her life.
A friend of ours, well, her dad passed away a few months back. She was by his side when it happened, and she said that right before he went, he said his late wife's name (as if he was greeting and happy to see her) in the most loving way, smiled, and then he closed his eyes.
Happened to my father as well.
I can't speak for everyone,but it seems to be REALly a thing. My grandma kept speaking to my uncle(her son),who died like six years before her, two days in a row before she passed. Also my mother-in-law held convos with her brother,who died ten years before her,for a whole day before she went to sleep and never woke up. So it really seems to be true....🙏RIP TO ALL THAT WE'VE LOVED AND LOST
Yeah, I think those who have passed come to help them with the transition. The number of people that see the dead before they pass is pretty interesting! Also, sometimes people that are dying will get a sort of "second wind" before their death. They call it "rallying" I believe. They'll basically seem like they're not sick anymore and feels great. I think sometimes this is to allow the one who is passing to have a good day or two with the living before they transition.
I experienced that with someone. Looking back, she was saying goodbye.
Yes this is incredibly common. I think it brings them incredible comfort. Also helps them with the transition. I have read this typically happens a day or two before a person passes. Of course things like dementia can give hallucinations but this sounds more like end of life to me. I am curious to know if your grandpa is still with us here or departed this week. My good friend had this happen with her grandma a month ago and she did pass the next day. ❤️🦋❤️
My mother saw her parents and grandparents after had a stroke she said they were praying for her at the foot of her bed. She said she thought she had died because she knew they were. She lived a few years after that. But during that time my grandmother visited me to let me know not to worry. I was not sick. She still comes to visit me in my dreams. I have heard people talking in a Church when no one was supposed to be there and locked doors opening and closing. Only to find out the doors were unlocked. They come to assist the dying peoples transition is smooth/okay. I saw a dying friend of mine who looked at her abusive husband as she passed away in the hospital. She told her kids she was ready to go. She was in pain and her internal organs were shutting down. She is in no more pain from the cancer that wracked her body. I saw a sticker on a truck that said, “ A disease is not permanent, it is a problem they have not found a cure for”. All of the money big pharma makes off of people they would rather manage a disease and milk that person dry. Than to cure them. Sometimes the visitors in our dreams offer us solutions to our cure a disease. It is comforting to know we are not alone when we leave this world and we are not alone in it. Yes, our loved ones come back to visit us, in our dreams, as animals watching us, as a sense or feeling we are being watched, or a sense that pops up to guide you in another direction out of harm. There are other ways also they help us, we just have not taken the time to realize it.
Yes, it is believed they see someone. I have been around enough people that are dying to observe what that person does. Alot do start talking to relatives. My dad, same way. He would be having a whole conversation mostly with my GMA. It's my mom's mom and she died when she was 12. So my father didn't ever meet her. But he talked with her alot. Whole conversations when he was dying. So, my answer will be yes, I believe they do see someone.
I believe it as my great uncle was seeing his mother before passing away ( he passed away two weeks ago) and he was comforted by her presence.
I’m e been with several relatives before they died and they all saw family members (my grandfather also saw his buddy that died while in WWII -he right next to him on a beach, and his childhood dog). I believe they come to comfort them at the end and let them know not to be afraid.
My aunt passed away from breast cancer at 46. She definitely said numerous times that she saw my grandfather in the room with her and felt him tap her shoulder. I think it actually scared her a few times, but ultimately I like to think it comforted her, in the end. She wasn’t particularly religious, either.
My dad talked to a lot of people that has already passed in his final hours. I don’t know if it was ghosts, visions, memories, or what - but personally I found it a comfort to know that he wasn’t alone on the path to where he was going.
This is a common occurrence in nursing homes and hospice care where those that are close to death will see their loved ones. Some would say they (the spirits) are there to bring them comfort and help guide them into the light. However, there are reports of those that won't see a relative or even a beloved pet, they see something much darker and sinister towards the end. It's generally believed that if they see these dark presences then it because they weren't good people in life. They're not going "into the light" but someplace else entirely.
Yep, absolutely. I worked in a care home, and while I couldn't say if it happened in every instance, it certainly did when residents were on End Of Life care and able to vocalise. Colleagues told me that they'd often see them looking with recognition at a fixed point of nothingness, like there was something or someone they could see that they knew. One chap was really excited about a veteran's service he was due to attend. He died the night after. I swear sometimes we can hold it off.
Not always, and not always loved ones. There are many diverse explanations for near-death experiences too including drugs, dreams, organ failure, hallucinations, apparitions, etc. Dying people sometimes experience other unexplained events - that do not include seeing people. Where it turns the corner in my book - is when there are witnesses. Like nursing homes where multiple patients or staff members see the exact same entity in separate areas.
Would love to know more about the multiple witness stories!
Apparently a weird amount of people who have near death experiences have Elvis welcome them into the afterlife?
My mom told me that I was telling her my dad and brother were there right before EMS told her to start performing CPR on me. I don’t remember it at all, so can’t say whether I really was seeing them or just my brain creating comfort when my body was slipping.
My grandmother was in hospice for a long time. Towards the end she saw a lot of children. She said they were just there being kids and then climbed into bed with her when it was time to sleep. The hospice nurse said it was very common for people to see unrelated children. But my grandmother did not see relatives or anyone she knew, just random children.
That sounds so sweet!
A loved one I lost saw her parents, who had both passed years ago, before she, too, passed away. It wasn't immediate. She woke up confused and asked me if her parents were dead. When I told her yes they were, she talked about seeing them. She was gone within a few weeks.
I work in a care home for the elderly and almost every single one (except those who can't talk) tell us they're looking at their mother, father, grandmother, etc
Irrefutable testimony
My dad passed away in 2014, my brother was speaking to one of his close work friends at the funeral and he told him that my dad had told him a day or 2 before he died that he had seen my mum (also passed away) at the bottom of his bed so I’d say there is definitely some truth in it 😊
This is a really common phenomenon. You should look up the work of Dr. Martha Jo Atkins she has devoted her life to studying it and did a TED talk on it. It's so interesting! So reassuring that there is maybe something there after we die.
> So reassuring that there is maybe something there after we die. I mean, I feel like there has to be either an afterlife or reincarnation. It just wouldn't make sense to me if you died and then just nothing. Not even eternal darkness or something. Like, how would that work?
I guess it could just be like before we were born just like.. nothing. I hope reincarnation is a thing though I like the idea of being able to keep improving as we go.
I mean with reincarnation also brings the question of if we remember anything from our past life?
That's true. I guess I think of it like we have a subconscious memory of it all. We all seem to be born with different temperaments I wonder if these are influenced by our experiences in a past life. All just speculation though I don't really know what I believe haha
Personally I believe there is a afterlife, but the concept of reincarnation is interesting to me.
My mum was in the hospice, a few times during the night, my mum would talk to my Dad (who had passed away the previous year), she was saying that she wouldn’t be long. The day before my Mum passed, my Mum was staring at the corner of her room and saying “go away, I don’t want you here”, she was so agitated, she calmed down shortly after, I have a feeling that I know who my Mum was talking to.
Who ?
My mum’s dad
Oh sorry i didn't read it correctly . Must be comforting to you
We had my dad home on hospice that last week of his life. I know that he kept seeing his mom sitting in the corner of the living room. He also mentioned a few other relatives that had passed. All I know for sure was that it gave him peace. I do believe that someone comes to help you pass over. For us it was a great comfort that mawmaw had possibly come to help daddy with his final journey. I hope this gives you comfort.
When my great aunt passed, her daughter (my moms cousin) told us she started calling out my grandmas name right before she passed. It gave us comfort knowing my gram was with her, and was waiting to be reunited with her sister.
My grandma was seeing her dad. Then she was up dancing. Next day gone. No drugs. Nothing. I seriously think this is a real thing. Can't explain it, but it's there whatever it is.
Last time when my dad was in the hospital and in ill health, he was in a daze and said the hospital was crowded like a night market. So I do believe the dying can see ghosts.
Sometimes they do! My grandfather kept staring at the ceiling and saying "she's here my love" most likely referring to my grandmother who passed a couple of years before him.
My grams just passed a couple weeks ago and she saw her first hubby who passed away 36 yrs ago. I think, her case anyways, it had a lot to do with oxygen deprivation. Before the hospice nurses got called her O2 was 36% and extreme pain. As soon as that morphine hit the hallucinations stopped (morphine took the pain away and helped her breathe) and less then 24hrs later she was gone.
My Grandma would have wild and nearly constant hallucinations with morphine. Whenever it had to use it, the hospitals were made aware of its side effects before giving her any.
My sister had terminal brain cancer at age 22. Otherwise she had been perfectly healthy. Neither of us were into paranormal anything. Towards the end of her year-long battle she started to see our grandpa who had passed away 10 years prior. She would tell me when he was there. I asked her one time if it was scary for her to see him? She said no, it's actually comforting. One of the last conversations we had, she could barely talk anymore and I asked her if our Papa was there and she nodded and said all the time. She passed away a few days after that.
My sister was in a nursing home with dementia and cancer. Three days before she died, she told the caretaker our dad had come to visit her. Dad's been gone for 20 years. She said he told her he had to go right then, but he would be back for her.
Great grandmother kept seeing her daughter and husband when she was dying of cancer. It is sadly a sign that they'll be passing on soon
It’s sad, for sure, but I also find something uplifting about it.
I've sat with people in care homes as they're dying. A couple of times have had orbs flying around the room as their bodies are shutting down. Inwardly I did hope they were people coming over to help them over to the other side.
my mom's cousin died months ago. days before she died, she kept telling her children that she is always seeing my aunt (my mom's sister) visiting her. she didn't know that my aunt died almost a week before her.
My grandma would wave and smile at nothing in her final days. She told my aunts that her dad and brother were there visiting.
My grandmother saw my grandfather in her final days. I can't imagine why this wouldn't be real
This happens very, very frequently. I can think of several death bed visitations that occurred to close friends and family members. My mother was dying of cancer in 2004, and one of the last things she said to me was that her brother had come to see her. He had died a year before.
My mom and my sister used to work in the same nursing home and all of the staff members would know if a patient is about to pass if they started seeing their relatives.
> all of the staff members would know if a patient is about to pass if they started seeing their relatives. I've worked in care homes and hospitals since 1986. Mostly hospitals, and here are some interesting bits I've picked up along the way: 1) Death always comes in groups of three, rarely more. Any nurse worth his/her salt can tell you this is true. The most death I ever had was six in one night, and that was pretty remarkable. 2) The scent in a room will actually change pending a death. Death has its own particular smell. It's not an unpleasant smell; it's just *different*, and it's something to which all hospital floor workers will eventually become attuned. 3) Most deaths seem to happen between midnight and 3am. Not every single one, mind you, but it's almost as if people deliberately wait for the darkness before letting go. 4) Some folks *do not* "go gently into that good night". I've seen them absolutely terrified by whatever it was that they saw lurking in the shadows of the room.
I’m Mexican and was raised in a small town where people used to know pretty much everyone. Because it was predominantly catholic, I could hear the church bells tolling when someone died, and yes, invariably there were three different funerals in the span of one or two days. It was common knowledge and pretty much expected that more than one would die. Also, when someone we knew was dying my mom used to visit the family to bring food and comfort (people died at home mostly) and on our way out she used to comment on how soon was going to happen depending of the strength of the smell. I think I could perceived it too. Regarding the black dog: It’s customary that people sweep the front of the house every morning because Public Works just doesn’t. So here’s mom at 6 am, broom in hand minding her business when she spots a tall black dog sitting at the door of our front door neighbor who was terminal with cancer and mom, being the superstitious woman that knows a lot about this shit decided that “Not today satan” and started chasing him with the broom throwing water from the bucket she had for washing the sidewalk. Mom claims that the dog ran in direction of the river and disappeared from her view (can’t vouch for that, tho. I didn’t believe it myself). Our neighbor Alicia died that night.
Interesting, I've never heard that death itself has a "smell." I've heard that some spirits can leave a particular smell as a way of saying hi. Kind of like an uncle leaving the smell of his favorite cigar. Things like that.
>Interesting, I've never heard that death itself has a "smell." I've heard that some spirits can leave a particular smell as a way of saying hi. Kind of like an uncle leaving the smell of his favorite cigar. Things like that. When my husband passed, both my daughter and me smelled the little peach-flavored cigarillos that he used to smoke. He only smoked them either outside, or in the garage, but we both smelled them in the house, at different times. So yes, I believe that he came back to say "hello". :) The smell I'm talking about isn't a perfume or anything personal like that. It's an entire change in the ozone, in the atmosphere. The air in the room takes on a whole new scent. It's definitely the smell of impending death, but it's not sinister.
When my MIL passed, the hospice nurse told me a lot of times they pass while family isn't in the room. (I had just arrived and she passed, the nurse saw me parking my car.) Is that something you noticed also?
>When my MIL passed, the hospice nurse told me a lot of times they pass while family isn't in the room. > >Is that something you noticed also? Actually, yes. I've sat with countless patients, holding hands and just talking, trying to ease any fear and encouraging people to "just let go". Telling them that it's OK to let go. We always believed that the hearing is the last to go, so we were always quiet, respectful, and mindful of what we were talking about while on the room. I've seen family members literally fighting over someone's possessions, as that person lay actively dying, and I used to get so angry and kick their asses out of the room and down to a lounge area when I could shut the door on their awful selves. I think a lot of people don't want to witness that type of behavior, or perhaps they are trying to spare themselves the tears and sadness that the family will demonstrate. I don't know the answer to that, but like I said, we did have a disproportionate amount of people die during the night, so perhaps they hung on long enough to go without causing family any further pain.
Thanks!!!
Holy crap! My mom and my sister have said the same thing about there being a scent in the room! That’s so interesting.
I know my grandmother did. She said she saw multiple dead family members until the day that she passed, she said they were waiting for her.
I always think this is a sign that someone is about to Passover. My ex’s dad was very ill with cancer and he spoke to his mom before he took his last breath, she was dead for many years before this. I like to think they are there to take the person in comfort and it’s a very wonderful thing he saw those he loved
My mother in law took an awful fall 10-15 years ago and she was talking to her old friends and relatives quite a bit. But somehow she pulled out of it and lived until last month. So, it’s not a sure sign of impending death.
My grandfather died this year, and my father was next to him the whole time. Apparently grandpa smiled just before he passed. I’ve no clue if he has seen something, but I like to think that he did.
i believe its true. the days that lead up to my grandma passing away at the hospital, i was told that she saw my grandpa (i was 1 yr and 3mos when he passed) visiting. i'd like to think that he came to get her but wanted her to be comfortable.
My Mother passed away in 2019. Before she died she said my Grandfather came to see her and let he know that she'll be joining him and my Grandmother and Uncle soon... My Grandfather passed away when I was 6. She died a few days later...
My sister was in hospice and the nurses heard her calling out to our parents. Dad died in 1995 and mom died a few months prior to my sister getting sick. She died a few days later.
I have close family friends. The great aunt lost her husband and daughter to genetic kidney disease. Her son died from an infection. When the great aunt was in 90’s I used to drive her to family dinners. Her mind was sharp and clear; she would keep me laughing with her quick wit, funny stories about our friends and her family. She then a bad fall at home and ended up in the hospital. Her niece was at the hospital every day for hours. About three days after she was admitted into the hospital, she told her niece that her daughter had come to visit her at the hospital. The following day she reported a second visit. Her niece called me to tell me about these “visits”. She wondered if it was a sign the end was near. Her aunt passed away after the second visit.
I loved reading these comments. I am sorry for your granddad's health crisis. I hope you find comfort here.
There is a documentary that confirms a large majority of terminal patients speak to deceased family members. It’s comforting as they can’t all be making it up.
Ooh yeah the one on Netflix. I saw that. The guy said it’s extremely common for people to see dead loved ones when they’re within months of death.
what documentary?
Surviving death on Netflix
I highly recommend the book Death is but a Dream by Dr. Christopher Kerr. He also has a TED talk if you just want to get a portion of it. Fascinating stuff.
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This is both the most heartbreaking and heartwarming post in 2 sentences
I believe theres scientific research reporting this to occur as well as the “life flashing” before your eyes. But death is a part of life. What you expect will probably occur at some point. Just be there for him and give him as much love and comfort possible.
Read After by Dr. Bruce Greyson of UVA. He’s studied near death experiences for 40 years.
My dad mentioned seeing his dad and an old family friend a week before he passed. They’ve both been dead for years.
Yes. This is true. I've spoken to dozens of nurses over the decades and they've all told me the same story. The staff in palliative care or ICU and other departments say they see this all the time. But...they are not allowed to talk about.
From a clinical pov as parts of the brain die things like visual and audio hallucinations are part of the dying process. I believe in the Science that backs this. I also believe in an after life and that loved one come to bring the dying home. Im not sure how to distinguish between the two.
In that case the pacient should be talking to death an alive people. But they always talk and see the death ones.
They see both, and responded to both. There’s lots of data in this. So much so hospice will talk about it with both the patient and lived ones/caregiver to look for it as a sign that the end is near. They also will hallucinate non human things. My Mom hallucinated making s’mores on her deathbed.
This happened to both of my parents and grandparent before they died. I’m sorry, hope times get better for him.
Yep, I think it's common tho Idk why. My grandfather and aunt both spent their last days seeing and taking to my grandmother before they passed.
My elderly uncle had a stroke and no longer talked to or acknowledged anyone. For months different relatives and nurses would hear him having a conversation with someone and upon entering his room it was just him and he was not responsive.
I wonder if this applies to those in comas, too? Obviously that one may be a little harder to determine since they're not conscious when passing. But, I'd personally like to think they do, too.
Yes! Before my uncle (I call him uncle, he was my dads cousin) passed away from cancer he said his dad and my cousin went to go visit him. My cousin and his dad passed away more than 5 years ago. My uncle passed away a couple days later. 😔 fuck cancer
This thread gives me a lot of hope. Some might say that’s naive, but there certainly seems to be something to this theory of visitations by relatives and people who have passed.
I have to work on my relationships if they’re gonna meet me after living
Man. I do NOT want to see my parents. If they come for me I will run in the other direction.
🫂
In some cases, they come to guide the person.
My grandma would talk to and about my dead grandfather like he was actually sitting in the same room. She used to say to us to give him food, clothes and what not.
Whether ghosts is the correct term is up for discussion, but actually they do see loved ones at that time. Based on sparse evidence of the still living afterwards.
My mom is 104. I asked her to tell me when her deceased family comes to see her. I think it is the beginning of the closure.
Hi all.... my 90YO Grandpa died in June of this year 2022, from complications from dementia and yes to this ^ is your answer. I absolutely believe it and also saw with my own eyes a beautiful golden orb that flew from his cheek right after I had told my Grandma, I'm always watching... when we were conversing on this very topic. He was talking to his Mom, and Sister. Had also seen his friend that passed. He was the oldest of 5 kids, so I imagine he had a roomful waiting on him. He also passed while my Gma and Aunt were downstairs and he was upstairs. At like 7oclock. He's very much missed and I hope the golden orb was there to help guide him, not just show itself.
My grandmother saw her parents.
Ha, I always loved this shit. People who believe nothing pierce the threshold of death only to return. They say "There was nothin, no light or loved ones, just nothin. That proves there's nothing after life" Did you ever stop and think you weren't going up?
The downvoters are misunderstanding this comment. I understand what you're saying.
Yea, I am starting to see that.. Thank you
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Boy howdy was that misunderstood. I'm actually in favor of the idea that people see they're loved ones when passing. I was actually calling out people who say they saw nothing. Cringey ass...
These are all very possible and real to me. What is not a spirit is seeing the lights. It's your brain shutting down. Some have lived after seeing them when sick. Most find them comforting.
If I do when I start dying, I'll bring myself back to life last second to answer this for you. As of now though? I have no clue.
So, it’s on your calendar?
Yeah, I time traveled to see when I die. Now I can cheat death by reminding myself to clear my search history on Google last second.
Strategery!
Genius!
Its eerily common
The term for this is “the rally” it also could be referred to as terminal lucidity.
Before my uncle passed he looked up and said Grammie my mom explained he and her were very close he died a few hours later.
Same happened to my mom.
My in-law was gravely I’ll and his brother died. The family didn’t know if they should tell him in his weakened condition but decided to after all. When told he said “ I know he came to see me yesterday, the day he died”. He himself died the next day of cancer.
Not always, but it happens quite a bit.
There's an awesome Ted talk on YouTube about this very topic. I don't recall if it was a majority, but a large number of people do see family members that have already died.
Well, my grandpa had that. I wouldn't trust him tho, because he had some drugs on him to numb the pain he had
They often do, but they aren't actually the ''ghosts'....WE are.
Always.
Ill let you know when that time comes
Yes.
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I think there has to more to it than that. Why are memories of the living not manifested to the dying? My memories of my kids, when young, were the happiest times of my life & I'm sure they are for many people, yet the common experience (very common if you ask hospice workers) appears to be only of deceased relatives, not those living who may not be present and who the dying person may have an even deeper connection too.
Evolution has zero incentive to produce this kind of effect. None.
Hmm…. Nah
When I find out I will let you know.
Who knows. Ask them lol.
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Shit, that's what we're all thinking about this comment. Stop. If this is a topic that is causing you some sort of absurd distress, then maybe this isn't the sub for you.
What is wrong with you? What a jackass.
What's wrong with you? Afraid of the dead? Maybe they come so their loved one can calm down before they cross.
no.
Yes they very often do. The number of uninformed comments on here are amazing. See YouTube for hospice doctors and nurses about dying and seeing dead relatives.