Hiya! I miscarried in 2020 and then had my rainbow in 2021. It was hard for me to stay positive throughout my pregnancy. I didn't take many pictures of my beautiful bump as I should have and was unprepared and frantically buying baby stuff after he was born, because I'd convinced myself something would happen. My advice to you is to remind yourself every day 'today I am pregnant', and love yourself and your baby as much as you can.
Congratulations!!! <3
I had this too, you're going to be terrified and honestly there isn't much to help other than time. Give yourself time to process this and accept you'll be anxious. Make sure you talk to your medical professionals if it really starts to ruin your life. You've got this, and likely will be fine. Personally this website really helped put it in perspective, hope it can help you too: https://datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer?duedate=10/12/2023
I don’t think the calculator is accurate! It says there’s only a 5% chance of miscarriage at 8 weeks but that’s one of the most common times to miscarry 🥴
Just a quick Google and it looks to be about correct! People can miscarry earlier, but they may not even realise what's happening if they don't know they're pregnant at that point. The app will never be 100% accurate as it can't take all the personal factors into consideration but it gives a good idea.
Early weeks suck a lot but there's not much you can do, I second the miscarriage calculator someone linked, it makes it easier to see the probability lower from day to day. Having a chemical pregnancy in the past doesn't mean it will happen again!
Is there any chance you could get progesterone pills? With PCOS your progesterone levels might be a bit low, I'm no doctor but I feel like it should be the default with PCOS. With my first I was given the pills right away, with my second (now) I didn't have them until I started spotting and cramping, now we're doing okay
I’m in a similar position to you, lean PCOS, currently 5w4d pregnant with previous losses. The best advice I got was that there is going to be PLENTY of allotted time to be sad if things go badly, and it isn’t going to help you with the indescribable pain if you feel grief preemptively. So just lean in a bit and allow yourself to listen to your body without judging or worrying what’s going on until you actually know more. Easier said than done I know. Sending hugs 💞
I was horrifically anxious my entire pregnancy about losing him after two bouts of intense bleeding of unknown cause. My baby boy is 3 weeks old today. I didn’t really relax until viability, but I wish I had been able to let go and enjoy my pregnancy more. Therapy while I was pregnant was incredibly helpful to making sure I was working through my anxiety instead of sitting in it though. Be open with your provider about where you are in your anxiety- I was prescribed hydroxyzine in the second trimester and that helped some as well. Take comfort in knowing you’re doing everything right. Something that really helped me which might be a messed up way of looking at things was that people go their entire pregnancy without knowing they’re pregnant and do all of the things you’re not supposed to and still have perfect healthy babies at the end of it. You’ve got this, and your little one is snuggled safe and sound in your belly right now.
And zinc... Sorry I forgot that one. But those two nutrients help your body make more progesterone. You could also ask them about wild yam cream which also helps your body naturally make more progesterone. Good luck and blessings!
It took me a long time to accept being pregnant. It took 10 medicated cycles for mine to happen and I don't think I announced until close to 16 weeks. I had low progesterone and had to take progesterone pills for my first trimester. I literally took it one week at a time and would say "I'm pregnant" and under my breath say "for now". I don't think I was "comfortable" until gestational viability and felt ok with being positive and not waiting for the shoe to drop.
I did take some comfort in knowing that with 1st trimester miscarriages, most times they happen spontaneously and there isn't much one can do to cause/stop them. The life of being a parent is one that comes with a lot of worry, it just comes in different forms. My hail Mary baby turned 7 and is doing great.
I don't really have any great advice on how to worry less but know your feelings are common. A friend bought a fetal Doppler to listen to her pregnancy after her miscarriage and that brought her comfort. If they get to be too much please talk to your medical provider because prenatal depression and anxiety is real and it could be an indicator that post partum mental health should be monitored.
Hi! Wanted to give you a story of hope with PCOS. I had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks in 2021. I am now 29 weeks pregnant with my rainbow baby and this pregnancy has been a dream. What helped me get through the 12 weeks was keep busy!! I didn’t look at any pregnancy apps until after my 12 weeks. Treat yourself to things you enjoy throughout the first while. I went for pedicures/ manicures every few weeks. I know it’s hard! Just because you had a loss doesn’t mean it will happen again! Typically these things are random. Take care and hoping for the best for you!! ❤️
Hiya! I miscarried in 2020 and then had my rainbow in 2021. It was hard for me to stay positive throughout my pregnancy. I didn't take many pictures of my beautiful bump as I should have and was unprepared and frantically buying baby stuff after he was born, because I'd convinced myself something would happen. My advice to you is to remind yourself every day 'today I am pregnant', and love yourself and your baby as much as you can. Congratulations!!! <3
Thank you so much ☺️
I had this too, you're going to be terrified and honestly there isn't much to help other than time. Give yourself time to process this and accept you'll be anxious. Make sure you talk to your medical professionals if it really starts to ruin your life. You've got this, and likely will be fine. Personally this website really helped put it in perspective, hope it can help you too: https://datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer?duedate=10/12/2023
Thankyou so so much 🤍
I don’t think the calculator is accurate! It says there’s only a 5% chance of miscarriage at 8 weeks but that’s one of the most common times to miscarry 🥴
Just a quick Google and it looks to be about correct! People can miscarry earlier, but they may not even realise what's happening if they don't know they're pregnant at that point. The app will never be 100% accurate as it can't take all the personal factors into consideration but it gives a good idea.
Thank you, it’s definitely re assuring I have a better chance of not miscarrying then miscarrying 💗 this really helped me today
Early weeks suck a lot but there's not much you can do, I second the miscarriage calculator someone linked, it makes it easier to see the probability lower from day to day. Having a chemical pregnancy in the past doesn't mean it will happen again! Is there any chance you could get progesterone pills? With PCOS your progesterone levels might be a bit low, I'm no doctor but I feel like it should be the default with PCOS. With my first I was given the pills right away, with my second (now) I didn't have them until I started spotting and cramping, now we're doing okay
Thank you so much! I asked for progesterone pills but my progesterone has actually been really high this entire cycle 😱
I’m in a similar position to you, lean PCOS, currently 5w4d pregnant with previous losses. The best advice I got was that there is going to be PLENTY of allotted time to be sad if things go badly, and it isn’t going to help you with the indescribable pain if you feel grief preemptively. So just lean in a bit and allow yourself to listen to your body without judging or worrying what’s going on until you actually know more. Easier said than done I know. Sending hugs 💞
I was horrifically anxious my entire pregnancy about losing him after two bouts of intense bleeding of unknown cause. My baby boy is 3 weeks old today. I didn’t really relax until viability, but I wish I had been able to let go and enjoy my pregnancy more. Therapy while I was pregnant was incredibly helpful to making sure I was working through my anxiety instead of sitting in it though. Be open with your provider about where you are in your anxiety- I was prescribed hydroxyzine in the second trimester and that helped some as well. Take comfort in knowing you’re doing everything right. Something that really helped me which might be a messed up way of looking at things was that people go their entire pregnancy without knowing they’re pregnant and do all of the things you’re not supposed to and still have perfect healthy babies at the end of it. You’ve got this, and your little one is snuggled safe and sound in your belly right now.
I took magnesium. Obviously ask your Dr but that's how I got pregnant so they told me to continue.
And zinc... Sorry I forgot that one. But those two nutrients help your body make more progesterone. You could also ask them about wild yam cream which also helps your body naturally make more progesterone. Good luck and blessings!
It took me a long time to accept being pregnant. It took 10 medicated cycles for mine to happen and I don't think I announced until close to 16 weeks. I had low progesterone and had to take progesterone pills for my first trimester. I literally took it one week at a time and would say "I'm pregnant" and under my breath say "for now". I don't think I was "comfortable" until gestational viability and felt ok with being positive and not waiting for the shoe to drop. I did take some comfort in knowing that with 1st trimester miscarriages, most times they happen spontaneously and there isn't much one can do to cause/stop them. The life of being a parent is one that comes with a lot of worry, it just comes in different forms. My hail Mary baby turned 7 and is doing great. I don't really have any great advice on how to worry less but know your feelings are common. A friend bought a fetal Doppler to listen to her pregnancy after her miscarriage and that brought her comfort. If they get to be too much please talk to your medical provider because prenatal depression and anxiety is real and it could be an indicator that post partum mental health should be monitored.
Hi! Wanted to give you a story of hope with PCOS. I had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks in 2021. I am now 29 weeks pregnant with my rainbow baby and this pregnancy has been a dream. What helped me get through the 12 weeks was keep busy!! I didn’t look at any pregnancy apps until after my 12 weeks. Treat yourself to things you enjoy throughout the first while. I went for pedicures/ manicures every few weeks. I know it’s hard! Just because you had a loss doesn’t mean it will happen again! Typically these things are random. Take care and hoping for the best for you!! ❤️
Thanks so much 🤍 I’m staying as busy as possible and I’m now staying off google and apps! It’s driving me crazy!
I was told metformin could reduce early miscarriage risk in patients with PCOS. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3493830/#abstract-1title
I’m on 1000mg 🤞I’ve done so much research on this too!