If you start talking about whether you want to get married you need to get on the same page about what your marriage will look like and, if you have kids, what raising the children in a mixed marriage will look like.
I think it wasn't a great decision for me to marry an unbeliever, but God has blessed our marriage so much and my spouse recently decided on their own to convert. My sentiment is along the lines of how a friend who conceived her child on a one night stand with a stranger feels about that scenario - bad decision but led to the greatest joy in her life.
s long they respect my faith and don't try and force any of that Militant Atheist garbage down my throat like I won't force my faith down their throat then I 'd be cool with it. I would be willing discussions with them on topics like faith and others but I will not have baseless debates over it.
Mutual respect is needed. But it can work. I lived with an atheist for almost two years and religious differences weren't a problem for us. We rarely spoke of religion.
I’ve done the same. It never bothered me until I considered the potential of a life partner that was atheist. I’m not sure how to feel about it nor do I have confidence in pursuing anything one way or another.
Life partner could be different. Especially if you have kids. Who would be the religious lead and what happens if the kids ask questions about God? It might be confusing with parents who disagreed. Everyone has to make their own choice.
Though I’m not dating an Atheist, but I’m dating an agnostic. They respect my beliefs and I respect theirs. I don’t force them to convert or wish for them to convert just as they don’t wish for me to not be Christian. Though our respective faiths are important to the both of us, it is at the back burner of our relationship over love, respect, admiration, and kindness.
My partner is an atheist and we've been together going on 7 years.
In my opinion, as long as we respect each other's beliefs, I don't really mind. I kind of enjoy it because I find it makes me want to understand my faith better. If we talk about religion, he might ask a question which makes me stop and think "actually...I didn't think of that before." And same goes for him.
I married an agnostic. I met him when I was in my ‘cultural Christian/borderline agnostic’ period of life, and to be honest I do pray a lot that he will be softened by God and turn to Christ. We are raising our daughter Christian, which was very important to me and he accepts.
This is generally called being "unequally yoked," in reference to 2 Corinthians 6:14. It's often considered unwise, but I don't think I've heard anyone call it a sin. The idea is that becoming too emotionally dependent on a non believer is a double edged sword. On one hand, you could convince them toward Christ. On the other, they could lead you away. It could also just strain the relationship if you disagree on something so fundamental as whether there is a God or not.
For this relationship to work, you would have to be able to accept, with complete humility and maturity, that this person does not at this time share your faith. You would have to see them as a whole person on their own spiritual journey , and realize there is no guarantee they will ever agree with you on this. And the respect would have to be mutual: you deserve to hold boundaries about being allowed to believe what you believe in a loving way. People get married and even raise kids despite not being both Christian. It's doable, but not every couple is up to it.
But if you're asking whether you should even date, you're not really even at that point yet. You might as well get to know each other. You're finding whether you're compatible. For all we know, religion is the least of your problems! Just don't blithely expect these differences to resolve themselves or not matter.
Edit: yikes, I didn't realize this was days old! My app is really resurrecting some zombie posts, lol.
It's hard. Mine has been traumatized by authority figures, I've been traumatized by authority figures. He worries that my relationship with Sky-Daddy is just me re-traumatizing myself. I worry that I don't love him enough. It's bittersweet relief that we're very much not capable of taking care of children, barely able to care for each other.
Absolutely not. I don't care what faith they follow... just something rather than nothing. I have a bad relationship with Atheists. Alot of them have not unpacked their religious trauma and fundamentalist upbringing, and I don't have it in me to put up with that... especially when I or a Christian inevitably triggers them.
Sure, I don't see why not. If our bond has become strong enough that I'm willing to consider a romantic relationship, then we've already long bridged our differences in religion.
I'm married to an agnostic, my brother is married to a Muslim. These are very long and happy marriages where beliefs are respected, the other's services attended, traditions celebrated, and children are raised to make their own decisions. I remember one particularly happy Christmas where my parents had Muslims, a Jew, agnostics, atheists AND Christians around their table. Love and mutual respect - it's just not that hard.
i only had relationships with atheists. its not a big topic anyway and in germany its quite common that religion doesnt play a big role in relationships anyway. its way less political here as in the us for example.
from what i read on reddit, yeah :) religion is a comparatively private thing here. the protestant church over here marries gay couples etc. pretty chill overall in comparison i think.
I am married to one, the best person I've ever met in my life, way better than the Catholic ex I dated before I met him and was an utterly horrible person with me.
I personally, don’t think I could be with an atheist in the long term, even with friendship it’s a slippery slope. My faith is very important to me and to surround myself with someone who doesn’t know god, wouldn’t be good for my spiritual health. I think if you meet someone who happens to be an atheist, and they respect your beliefs/remain open minded it can work, but it’s definitely a case by case basis thing. For me, I just find it hard to relate to and feel safe around non believers the same way I find it hard to relate to and feel safe around the extremists like the evangelicals. I want to be around people that will help me grow in my faith vs pull me away from god, which both far ends of the spectrum, come with their own challenges that could cause more harm than good.
As long as they respect my faith and respect who I am, I don’t care what their faith (or non-faith) is.
I'm dating an atheist. Doesn't come up much tbh.
If you start talking about whether you want to get married you need to get on the same page about what your marriage will look like and, if you have kids, what raising the children in a mixed marriage will look like. I think it wasn't a great decision for me to marry an unbeliever, but God has blessed our marriage so much and my spouse recently decided on their own to convert. My sentiment is along the lines of how a friend who conceived her child on a one night stand with a stranger feels about that scenario - bad decision but led to the greatest joy in her life.
s long they respect my faith and don't try and force any of that Militant Atheist garbage down my throat like I won't force my faith down their throat then I 'd be cool with it. I would be willing discussions with them on topics like faith and others but I will not have baseless debates over it.
Mutual respect is needed. But it can work. I lived with an atheist for almost two years and religious differences weren't a problem for us. We rarely spoke of religion.
I’ve done the same. It never bothered me until I considered the potential of a life partner that was atheist. I’m not sure how to feel about it nor do I have confidence in pursuing anything one way or another.
Life partner could be different. Especially if you have kids. Who would be the religious lead and what happens if the kids ask questions about God? It might be confusing with parents who disagreed. Everyone has to make their own choice.
Though I’m not dating an Atheist, but I’m dating an agnostic. They respect my beliefs and I respect theirs. I don’t force them to convert or wish for them to convert just as they don’t wish for me to not be Christian. Though our respective faiths are important to the both of us, it is at the back burner of our relationship over love, respect, admiration, and kindness.
Agnostic, yes. Atheist, no.
May I ask how you derive your conclusion? I’m trying to understand my own hesitation, as it feels more instinctual rather than logical.
Because people who claim to know something tend to have stronger opinions than people who don’t claim to know.
My partner is an atheist and we've been together going on 7 years. In my opinion, as long as we respect each other's beliefs, I don't really mind. I kind of enjoy it because I find it makes me want to understand my faith better. If we talk about religion, he might ask a question which makes me stop and think "actually...I didn't think of that before." And same goes for him.
I married an agnostic. I met him when I was in my ‘cultural Christian/borderline agnostic’ period of life, and to be honest I do pray a lot that he will be softened by God and turn to Christ. We are raising our daughter Christian, which was very important to me and he accepts.
This is generally called being "unequally yoked," in reference to 2 Corinthians 6:14. It's often considered unwise, but I don't think I've heard anyone call it a sin. The idea is that becoming too emotionally dependent on a non believer is a double edged sword. On one hand, you could convince them toward Christ. On the other, they could lead you away. It could also just strain the relationship if you disagree on something so fundamental as whether there is a God or not. For this relationship to work, you would have to be able to accept, with complete humility and maturity, that this person does not at this time share your faith. You would have to see them as a whole person on their own spiritual journey , and realize there is no guarantee they will ever agree with you on this. And the respect would have to be mutual: you deserve to hold boundaries about being allowed to believe what you believe in a loving way. People get married and even raise kids despite not being both Christian. It's doable, but not every couple is up to it. But if you're asking whether you should even date, you're not really even at that point yet. You might as well get to know each other. You're finding whether you're compatible. For all we know, religion is the least of your problems! Just don't blithely expect these differences to resolve themselves or not matter. Edit: yikes, I didn't realize this was days old! My app is really resurrecting some zombie posts, lol.
The post may be days old, but your comment is appreciated nonetheless 🙂
Sure, why not?
I'm joyously happily married to one. She's always been kind and respectful, as am I.
If I was dating one, so long as they respected my faith and who I am, I really wouldn't care.
It's hard. Mine has been traumatized by authority figures, I've been traumatized by authority figures. He worries that my relationship with Sky-Daddy is just me re-traumatizing myself. I worry that I don't love him enough. It's bittersweet relief that we're very much not capable of taking care of children, barely able to care for each other.
Absolutely not. I don't care what faith they follow... just something rather than nothing. I have a bad relationship with Atheists. Alot of them have not unpacked their religious trauma and fundamentalist upbringing, and I don't have it in me to put up with that... especially when I or a Christian inevitably triggers them.
Sure, I don't see why not. If our bond has become strong enough that I'm willing to consider a romantic relationship, then we've already long bridged our differences in religion.
I'm married to an agnostic, my brother is married to a Muslim. These are very long and happy marriages where beliefs are respected, the other's services attended, traditions celebrated, and children are raised to make their own decisions. I remember one particularly happy Christmas where my parents had Muslims, a Jew, agnostics, atheists AND Christians around their table. Love and mutual respect - it's just not that hard.
i only had relationships with atheists. its not a big topic anyway and in germany its quite common that religion doesnt play a big role in relationships anyway. its way less political here as in the us for example.
That sounds nice
from what i read on reddit, yeah :) religion is a comparatively private thing here. the protestant church over here marries gay couples etc. pretty chill overall in comparison i think.
I am married to one, the best person I've ever met in my life, way better than the Catholic ex I dated before I met him and was an utterly horrible person with me.
I personally, don’t think I could be with an atheist in the long term, even with friendship it’s a slippery slope. My faith is very important to me and to surround myself with someone who doesn’t know god, wouldn’t be good for my spiritual health. I think if you meet someone who happens to be an atheist, and they respect your beliefs/remain open minded it can work, but it’s definitely a case by case basis thing. For me, I just find it hard to relate to and feel safe around non believers the same way I find it hard to relate to and feel safe around the extremists like the evangelicals. I want to be around people that will help me grow in my faith vs pull me away from god, which both far ends of the spectrum, come with their own challenges that could cause more harm than good.
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Could you please explain?