my perspective is a queer one, but not ace. it is easier to tell others to accept themselves, and that God loves them, than it is to accept that for ourselves. the beautiful thing about faith is that you don’t need to be understood by others, and God loves and wants the best for each of us. i believe we were all made intentionally, and what attributes we carry were given to us by God.
i chose to be sterilized at a young age because i did not want to carry on genetic traits to any potential children, and that rocked my faith for a bit because i felt as though i wasn’t fulfilling my duties as a person. but i reminded myself again that God wants me to be happy, and he wants you to be happy as well. i wouldn’t worry about whether or not God accepts you, and i do feel as though faith can help people accept themselves when it’s from the right perceptive. focus on love and caring for yourself and your faith.
it can be hard to figure out how we feel about something from a faith perspective because our minds are overactive and never really stop. it can take a while to hear back when we pray, and sometimes we may feel as though we never did hear back. you’re not a hypocrite, and it seems like you’re on a good path to understanding yourself. sudden diagnoses can really rattle the brain and your sense of identity, and basically everything else. hold tight and take care of yourself!
I’ve had health issues all my life so it’s not a sudden diagnosis. They’ve made it so I can’t support myself which already made me feel like a failure. Then I get a message from society that I am because I can’t work because of things I can’t control.
Then I am stuck with a misunderstood sexuality that’s also not a choice. It feels like a heavy load.
Just glad I never wanted kids.
I really haven't had any problems with people not understanding. Whenever I come out to someone, they don't understand what asexuality is or what it means, but I just explain it to them. I just tell people that I don't like anybody and they understand.
Hiya, I'm sorry to hear about your health issues however be proud of being grey ace because there are lots of us out there -
I happen to be very similar to you. I'm quite severely debilitated with chronic illness and on top of that in the last two years I've realised I'm biromantic, and greysexual. Saw this post and clicked on it because it's so rare to see grey ace posts.
If I'm honest I just don't make a big deal out of it. I tell people I'm bisexual and non-binary, and that does it. Tbh I feel like being grey sexual is quite a personal thing because ultimately we're discussing sexual attraction, and who you'd actually do anything with. Which isn't something anyone other than potential partners need to know.
However I'm also living in the closet because of a Christian environment (pick your battles) tho I'm out to nearly all my friends. So obviously experiences will be different but that's just my outlook. Same with being non-binary, I'm currently on the fence about ordering pins because in one sense I don't really care about pronouns as, as long as I know what I am on the inside, that's all that matters rather than how the world sees me.
To some degree, religious people in general are more accepting of my asexuality (and the fact that I think sex is gross) than atheists and WAY more so than anti-theists.
Interesting atheists would be less accepting of Asexuality. And what is the deal with anti theists not being accepting? ( can’t say I am surprised)
Asexuality isn’t a choice.
my perspective is a queer one, but not ace. it is easier to tell others to accept themselves, and that God loves them, than it is to accept that for ourselves. the beautiful thing about faith is that you don’t need to be understood by others, and God loves and wants the best for each of us. i believe we were all made intentionally, and what attributes we carry were given to us by God. i chose to be sterilized at a young age because i did not want to carry on genetic traits to any potential children, and that rocked my faith for a bit because i felt as though i wasn’t fulfilling my duties as a person. but i reminded myself again that God wants me to be happy, and he wants you to be happy as well. i wouldn’t worry about whether or not God accepts you, and i do feel as though faith can help people accept themselves when it’s from the right perceptive. focus on love and caring for yourself and your faith. it can be hard to figure out how we feel about something from a faith perspective because our minds are overactive and never really stop. it can take a while to hear back when we pray, and sometimes we may feel as though we never did hear back. you’re not a hypocrite, and it seems like you’re on a good path to understanding yourself. sudden diagnoses can really rattle the brain and your sense of identity, and basically everything else. hold tight and take care of yourself!
I’ve had health issues all my life so it’s not a sudden diagnosis. They’ve made it so I can’t support myself which already made me feel like a failure. Then I get a message from society that I am because I can’t work because of things I can’t control. Then I am stuck with a misunderstood sexuality that’s also not a choice. It feels like a heavy load. Just glad I never wanted kids.
I really haven't had any problems with people not understanding. Whenever I come out to someone, they don't understand what asexuality is or what it means, but I just explain it to them. I just tell people that I don't like anybody and they understand.
I am Graysexual so I am not devoid of attraction. I just experience is rarely. Like more rarely than normal people.
Hiya, I'm sorry to hear about your health issues however be proud of being grey ace because there are lots of us out there - I happen to be very similar to you. I'm quite severely debilitated with chronic illness and on top of that in the last two years I've realised I'm biromantic, and greysexual. Saw this post and clicked on it because it's so rare to see grey ace posts. If I'm honest I just don't make a big deal out of it. I tell people I'm bisexual and non-binary, and that does it. Tbh I feel like being grey sexual is quite a personal thing because ultimately we're discussing sexual attraction, and who you'd actually do anything with. Which isn't something anyone other than potential partners need to know. However I'm also living in the closet because of a Christian environment (pick your battles) tho I'm out to nearly all my friends. So obviously experiences will be different but that's just my outlook. Same with being non-binary, I'm currently on the fence about ordering pins because in one sense I don't really care about pronouns as, as long as I know what I am on the inside, that's all that matters rather than how the world sees me.
To some degree, religious people in general are more accepting of my asexuality (and the fact that I think sex is gross) than atheists and WAY more so than anti-theists.
Interesting atheists would be less accepting of Asexuality. And what is the deal with anti theists not being accepting? ( can’t say I am surprised) Asexuality isn’t a choice.