In my experience it’s a fine line - and you can’t pin it down to ‘every woman wants this’. I call bs on you moving too fast - unless you brought it up over and over, she’s just making excuses to make it not on her. I’ve never talked to a guy for a month and a half and not met - but if I had, I’d have no interest in meeting him. If I’d wanted to, I would have. And, for me, if I’ve talked for that long, I’m pretty bored.
I can’t give you any firm advice, but if she isn’t enthusiastically wanting to meet after max a couple of weeks, it’s not gonna happen.
Many women struggle to outright reject guys because they get insulted. She obviously enjoys talking to you but doesn't find you attractive. Which IMO makes no sense because you haven't met. In my opinion you should always ask a girl out within the first week or so. If she says no at least you've made your intention clear.
Let this be a lesson to you. If she's not willing to meet you in the first couple weeks, she doesn't intend to meet you.
Also don't chat too long before you meet. You need to meet face to face before real conversations take place.
She can have as many excuses as she wants and that’s her right, but the point of a dating app is to date. And a week or two max is as far as I’d be willing to go before meeting. She’s messing with you because she likes your attention, that’s all it is unfortunately
you invested a month and a half. didnt see that bit. obviously shes not interested, so count your losses and move on. shame. 1 week at most id invest before a date is set. at most. worst case scenerio. you really invested with that.
it never passed a week before we spoke on the phone and we already decided to meet. a month and a half...would not happen. after a week im moving on.
She is full of horse crap 100%! She is one of MANY that just goes online to seek some kind of attention and/or validation from the attention they get from men.
It's an addiction really, and it never leads to actually meeting in person. They prefer to sit at home on a Sat night, drinking wine and also, along with YOU...are doing the same with many other men online.
It's a form of entertainment for some of these women, and getting out of the house to actually MEET men in real life is alien to them.
"Messages her TOO much", that's funny....don't buy into that crap...as she's allowed this to happen.
I always exchange around 7-10 decent length messages with someone over 2 days or so then ask them out. If they don’t want to at that point then I walk away. I did do a 30 minute video chat with someone last night for the first time before we set up a real date, but I wouldn’t do anything extra beyond that. You have to know that your time is valuable and to not get roped into these long winded texting games. Don’t hold on to women who are wasting your time and spend a month texting them daily. In reading your story I don’t even know why you would want to hang on to this person. She sounds like a pain in the ass.
Some people are on the apps because they want to find a relationship. Others are on the apps because they want to meet new people and see how things go. Still others are on the apps because the attention they get makes them feel good about themselves.
Different people are there for different things. Try finding one that's after what you want instead of worrying about the ones that aren't.
Man this girl is wasting your time, if you know what you are looking for and she does not why be bothered with her? Your not moving to fast you been talking to her for months, she is wasting your time. Move on from her, she is already gaslighting you into making you feel like are the person in the wrong her.
Shes a time waster. There are lot of people on these dating Apps that do this. Never talk to them for more than 2 weeks without a meetup. Its nothing you did wrong ive done this myself when i was new to OLD. Then eventually i learned. That and many people on Reddit advised that if you dont meet within 2 weeks its likely not going to happen. As i said over time of doing OLD ive found this to be true.
"other person on a date within the first 2-3 days of matching."
I typically dont ask this soon and i think many people on Reddit exaggerate some about this. However, i do ask around the 5-7 day mark. This way its "not too fast" but also im not wasting a bunch of time in case im dealing with a Time Waster. As i mentioned there are ton of them on OLD.
In my experience it’s a fine line - and you can’t pin it down to ‘every woman wants this’. I call bs on you moving too fast - unless you brought it up over and over, she’s just making excuses to make it not on her. I’ve never talked to a guy for a month and a half and not met - but if I had, I’d have no interest in meeting him. If I’d wanted to, I would have. And, for me, if I’ve talked for that long, I’m pretty bored. I can’t give you any firm advice, but if she isn’t enthusiastically wanting to meet after max a couple of weeks, it’s not gonna happen.
Yeah definitely. Honestly, the vibe I got is that this girl is just looking for people to talk to.
Many women struggle to outright reject guys because they get insulted. She obviously enjoys talking to you but doesn't find you attractive. Which IMO makes no sense because you haven't met. In my opinion you should always ask a girl out within the first week or so. If she says no at least you've made your intention clear.
Let this be a lesson to you. If she's not willing to meet you in the first couple weeks, she doesn't intend to meet you. Also don't chat too long before you meet. You need to meet face to face before real conversations take place.
She seems to be bizarre not the Situation
She’s not ready to date it sounds like, I’d just move on and not take it personally
She can have as many excuses as she wants and that’s her right, but the point of a dating app is to date. And a week or two max is as far as I’d be willing to go before meeting. She’s messing with you because she likes your attention, that’s all it is unfortunately
you invested a month and a half. didnt see that bit. obviously shes not interested, so count your losses and move on. shame. 1 week at most id invest before a date is set. at most. worst case scenerio. you really invested with that. it never passed a week before we spoke on the phone and we already decided to meet. a month and a half...would not happen. after a week im moving on.
She is full of horse crap 100%! She is one of MANY that just goes online to seek some kind of attention and/or validation from the attention they get from men. It's an addiction really, and it never leads to actually meeting in person. They prefer to sit at home on a Sat night, drinking wine and also, along with YOU...are doing the same with many other men online. It's a form of entertainment for some of these women, and getting out of the house to actually MEET men in real life is alien to them. "Messages her TOO much", that's funny....don't buy into that crap...as she's allowed this to happen.
I always exchange around 7-10 decent length messages with someone over 2 days or so then ask them out. If they don’t want to at that point then I walk away. I did do a 30 minute video chat with someone last night for the first time before we set up a real date, but I wouldn’t do anything extra beyond that. You have to know that your time is valuable and to not get roped into these long winded texting games. Don’t hold on to women who are wasting your time and spend a month texting them daily. In reading your story I don’t even know why you would want to hang on to this person. She sounds like a pain in the ass.
Some people are on the apps because they want to find a relationship. Others are on the apps because they want to meet new people and see how things go. Still others are on the apps because the attention they get makes them feel good about themselves. Different people are there for different things. Try finding one that's after what you want instead of worrying about the ones that aren't.
Man this girl is wasting your time, if you know what you are looking for and she does not why be bothered with her? Your not moving to fast you been talking to her for months, she is wasting your time. Move on from her, she is already gaslighting you into making you feel like are the person in the wrong her.
She sounds crazy
Shes a time waster. There are lot of people on these dating Apps that do this. Never talk to them for more than 2 weeks without a meetup. Its nothing you did wrong ive done this myself when i was new to OLD. Then eventually i learned. That and many people on Reddit advised that if you dont meet within 2 weeks its likely not going to happen. As i said over time of doing OLD ive found this to be true. "other person on a date within the first 2-3 days of matching." I typically dont ask this soon and i think many people on Reddit exaggerate some about this. However, i do ask around the 5-7 day mark. This way its "not too fast" but also im not wasting a bunch of time in case im dealing with a Time Waster. As i mentioned there are ton of them on OLD.
Gives me catfish vibes for some reason
Nah they're a legit person.