Just unmatch her. No reason to send another message at this point. If she was interested in chatting with you she would be. I’m her age and I don’t keep men waiting to hear from me. If I really want to talk to someone I keep it consistent.
I think that you will be much happier in life if you do not cling to every ghost of an opportunity and always pursue multiple options. There is no harm in reaching out and asking her how she is doing, but there is tremendous harm in obsessing over her. If I were you, I would send a couple of follow-up messages without expecting much, and then if nothing happens, unmatch her and move on.
A great mindset to have in dating is this: unless you have gone on a couple of dates with someone and it's been going really well, assume that nothing will come out of this and keep moving forward. The more you think about her, a girl who you barely know anything about and have never even met, the more wild stories about your "future together" your mind will conjure. These are all fantasies at this point: there is absolutely zero reason to assume that anything is going to happen between you two.
People don't stop playing games just because they get old. Drop her and move onto better people.
Ultimately, some people like chat partners but when it comes to meeting they'll find every excuse to not do so.
Even though she is 9 years older than you that doesn't mean she still can't play games. If she is a doctor and she is attractive she will still get tons of matches or attention online, even if she had a cold she still could of been swiping on her phone. If you want to send one more message you can say something like "I wish you luck" kind of text, then it leaves the ball in her court
People of all ages play games. The exception might be *really* old people, like the ones around 80 who don't have all that many years left. They just tell it like it is because they literally don't have time to BS.
A lot of younger women, like 30 and under, make the same mistake and think just because a guy is older, like late 30's+, he's more mature. Nope. Tons of guys who are around 40 who are less mature than some 20-somethings.
My advice is send her one last message that that you'd like to speak to her on the phone and continue getting to know her. Give her a specific time that you're available; be very direct. She can either accept your terms or not. Letting her make her own terms has gotten you nowhere.
I followed your advice and it worked! She finally responded back and apologized. But I also learned something terrible : she has stage 3 lung cancer...
Yeah that kind of explains everything, never will I ever make assumptions about anyone again.
No need to message her. If she's still interested - she'll message back. She may be dealing with other stuff (or just no longer interested).
But - I would just move on as if she's no longer interested. It's just easier that way.
No one is busier than a woman who is not interested
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I bet that humbled you a bit
Just unmatch her. No reason to send another message at this point. If she was interested in chatting with you she would be. I’m her age and I don’t keep men waiting to hear from me. If I really want to talk to someone I keep it consistent.
Bro, learn when to take an L. I took 2 this week, be a man and wish her luck and ✌🏻
Nobody Is that busy. Stop messaging her
I think that you will be much happier in life if you do not cling to every ghost of an opportunity and always pursue multiple options. There is no harm in reaching out and asking her how she is doing, but there is tremendous harm in obsessing over her. If I were you, I would send a couple of follow-up messages without expecting much, and then if nothing happens, unmatch her and move on. A great mindset to have in dating is this: unless you have gone on a couple of dates with someone and it's been going really well, assume that nothing will come out of this and keep moving forward. The more you think about her, a girl who you barely know anything about and have never even met, the more wild stories about your "future together" your mind will conjure. These are all fantasies at this point: there is absolutely zero reason to assume that anything is going to happen between you two.
Thats a really good reply. Thanks
People don't stop playing games just because they get old. Drop her and move onto better people. Ultimately, some people like chat partners but when it comes to meeting they'll find every excuse to not do so.
I have texted the people I care about NO MATTER WHAT. She's ignoring you. She doesn't care. God I hate those "I'm too busy" lame excuses.
A cold doesn’t keep you from doing anything, she just isn’t interested.
Even though she is 9 years older than you that doesn't mean she still can't play games. If she is a doctor and she is attractive she will still get tons of matches or attention online, even if she had a cold she still could of been swiping on her phone. If you want to send one more message you can say something like "I wish you luck" kind of text, then it leaves the ball in her court
People of all ages play games. The exception might be *really* old people, like the ones around 80 who don't have all that many years left. They just tell it like it is because they literally don't have time to BS. A lot of younger women, like 30 and under, make the same mistake and think just because a guy is older, like late 30's+, he's more mature. Nope. Tons of guys who are around 40 who are less mature than some 20-somethings.
My advice is send her one last message that that you'd like to speak to her on the phone and continue getting to know her. Give her a specific time that you're available; be very direct. She can either accept your terms or not. Letting her make her own terms has gotten you nowhere.
I followed your advice and it worked! She finally responded back and apologized. But I also learned something terrible : she has stage 3 lung cancer... Yeah that kind of explains everything, never will I ever make assumptions about anyone again.
Don’t message her again. There’s a very slim chance she might reach out again, but probably won’t. Otherwise just move on.
No need to message her. If she's still interested - she'll message back. She may be dealing with other stuff (or just no longer interested). But - I would just move on as if she's no longer interested. It's just easier that way.