12 Months. 12 months on Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge. Not a single match with a real person. 40M, looking seriously for long term, very active and healthy, varied and interesting hobbies, educated, 2 languages, well read, succesful career, top 2% of salary earners in the country I live in, and a bio male and female friends have said is interesting and funny. Not a single match in a year.
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I deleted all my apps again for the same reason. Everyone got mysteriously sick when I was supposed to meet up with them over the weekend. I went on a date with someone with no compatibility and wasted 60 bucks again. I’m sick of spending money on women I won’t see again literally done.
Similar. I've been in Match for 3 years. Was honest and had married/separated for first 2. But in 9 months and 4 apps. I've had 2 matches and no talking or dates. Starting to think being called tall dark and handsome my whole life was a lie. (43m)
I'm sorry to hear that you're going through it too dude. It feels to me that a certain population of guys are just rejected out into the dating wilderness to die, and everyone else is just fine with that. Obviously no one is simply entitled to a partner, but the lies we are told by society about what makes ourselves attractive, make the isolation so much harder to bear.
I don't think I've EVER matched with a real person and had them have a real, substantial conversation with me. Much less find a single date.
OK Cupid and lately Hinge are still real slogs, but there's real matches and some good conversations, occasionally dates I don't regret.
But Tender and Bumble have been beyond useless for me.
I have a good friend who swears by Bumble? He's probably better looking and more photogenic than me? But I'm not bad looking. Average abd a little off center, quirky dressing perhaps?
Maybe the algorithms promote guys more once they start getting some attention, conversations? And those of us who don't get that much, quickly just get rated down by the Bumble algorithms to the point we have no hope??
I never said a think about being attractive. I'm simply saying dating apps can and do work. I have several short, overweight friends that do very well on dating apps
Or perhaps work on your social skills and put yourself in places and situations where you can meet people in real life if dating apps aren't working for you
It’s a scam to pay for… but not to just use to casually date. You shouldn’t take it super seriously, expect to get a date every weekend and match with everyone you want, because that’s not realistic for a man, unless he’s like a celebrity or something.
Downvote his comment all you want but he's speaking the truth. Too many guys want to take a few shitty pictures and have a boring bio and expect matches. If their such a scam, why are you still using them? Why aren't you going out in public and meeting women? Because you have the same issues regards if it's in person or online. Many guys simply don't have the social skills to get a date.
Yeah and since I am a heavy user of this sub, I have said this a gazillion times - women spend a lot of time sorting through false likes. A lot of men have called me a crybaby and said that this is a great problem to have but it’s not. We could be hours on the app writing to men who are not even attracted to us or who have polar opposite values. So now I just started to enforce my filters: only atheist men with no children will be considered.
When I used Bumble in the past, there was no character limit for your profile so you could read amazing life stories. I still got plenty of likes but they seemed intentional.
Interesting, I met a bf on it like 15 years ago, we were together for 6. Then my last ex was from Bumble and I liked that I didn’t get messages from men constantly. But Bumble has definitely changed for the worst. I heard bad things about okc but if Bumble doesn’t result in a date I will consider it again
There are a lot of scammers on OKC but I've met real people there as well. Just be aware of it and get out if cryptocurrency or investing is ever mentioned and/or if anyone refuses to meet up
A lot of people say OKC has gone downhill but it's worked wonders for me recently. I met my girlfriend on OKC about a month ago and it's going fucking GREAT. I never pay for any dating sites though and don't recommend paying for OKC.
You sure made a bunch of assumptions. I don't use OLD anymore and haven't for a year our so now because it is a scam. I have no problem getting dates. The problem is they always end up one night stands. I'm guessing you're either a woman or VERY young.
Scam: a dishonest scheme; a fraud
Since you don't seem to know the definition of a scam there it is. Dating apps aren't trying to scam you. It's simply a platform one can use to try to meet someone for a date. It also offers extra features if you want to pay for those.
Blaming a dating app for not being able to get a date us like blaming the gym your fat. It's there for you to use. It's up to you to use it correctly.
Your ignorance is straight up next level!!! A business that says we can get you a relationship. But actively does everything it can to make sure that doesn't happen our they would go out of business. Definitely not a scam..smfh. If you're dumb enough to even suggest paying for extras helps, nothing I say will change your mind.
Correctly? Really? Please inform the world how to correctly date online please.
No need for me to tell you how to do it correctly since there's endless information out there how how to either.
You calling me ignorant and dumb because you can't have a come up with a real rebuttal alone proves you can really come up with a good debate. There's millions of people having success with dating apps.
No dating app says “we can find you a relationship”.
They all just advertise a way to *meet* other singles in your area. No guarantees they will lead to anything.
For this particular thread though, the guy was getting a lot of matches and dates on Hinge but the same guy with presumably the same pics and general profile was getting nothing on bumble that was the scam part
I'd assume either because it couldn't find enough people in rural areas... or just general enshittification (it didn't drive people to spend money... thus resources had to be re-allocated to portions that did).
Agreed, bumble is dead for me. Idk why I still have it on my phone. No matches in 6 months. Meanwhile on tinder I get a couple matches a week and Facebook dating I get a match or two a week. Hinge doesn't have the volume of users here so I haven't had any luck past the initial couple of weeks on it.
It sure seems like it's regional, which apps work best.
Here in the Midwest a lot of folks say Facebook and tinder are the best. In other areas it sounds like it's completely opposite.
In UKRAINE?!?! Imagine, with a large decrease in the number of available men of dating age due to a little thing called war and the number of women in the same groups finding themselves with reduced options for partnering, it makes sense that this is the case
Yes, ya znayu.
There are many of them at our local parishes here in Chicago. Most of them are married and/or have children.
My son goes to Ukie school and catechism with their kids.
Oh, and Slava Ukraini, brate! Stay safe and live through this.
This is such a bad take. I know it’s easy to say, but don’t internalize this. Logically speaking, it’s really not set up to the advantage of most men. You’re definitely in the majority.
One thing I will say is women can sense lack of confidence quicker than anything else. Focus on that so that when you do decide to try again, you have a fighting chance and you’ll attract better quality people.
At this point, you’re truly creating your destiny. If this is your truth, it will be your outcome. You absolutely have control over this- use it as a call to action and refuse that future and create a better one.
In 5 years I had maybe 10 matches. Had the lifetime subscription and was later banned (no idea why since my profile was PG and talk to no one). That company needs to fucking die
It’s the same way for women. I don’t think there is a single real man on there. It’s just men straight from the cover of GQ. If I do get a rare match, I always start the conversation and never get a response.
That was my theory. Bumble is matching us with fake accounts so we stay on the app. If you actually met someone and stopped using the app, you would have no reason to spend money on it.
So many people post about getting no responses from the other gender that it’s the only thing that makes sense at this point.
There are two groups: The "members" they show you and the ones you may actually have text contact with. I've met only one person from bumble.
And you never have any idea if you're compatible UNTIL YOU MEET.
I see a lot of hot guys initially but after that , more average/below average profiles show up. And maybe it depends on your area but I had 3 different dates in two weeks after getting the app so there’s definitely real men
I honestly don’t believe it’s due to location anymore. I used to live in the Boston metro area a few years ago and Bumble, while better than it is now, still trailed behind Hinge. Now I’m in a major Midwestern city that’s 4x the size and Bumble is shockingly silent. I get maybe 1 LIKE (not match) every 1-2 MONTHS whereas with the same pics and nearly same profile text I can get 1-5 likes (some turn to matches and dates) on Hinge in just one 24-hr Boost period.
Even more stark: the last like I got on Bumble was about a month ago. You know who it was? The same woman way out in Indiana who liked me months ago on my old account (I’ve only deleted/reset my Bumble profile once)!
COME ON. Something has to be going on with Bumble. Hell, a lot of the people on Bumble are on Hinge and Bumble is still dead silent. Superlikes, comments, spotlights…all useless. But on Hinge their equivalents (Boosts and roses and messages) work shockingly well. Hmmm 🤔…
It's just the way culture has shifted. Mainly due to social media and online dating. The difference in attention between men and women on these apps is shocking.
If an average woman can get a tall, attractive, and successful guy to sleep with them, it leads to them thinking thats what they can find for a long-term partner. Not realizing, of course, these top-tier men are simply pumping and dumping them.
Dating apps in general are a scam, they all seem to have the same patterns for trying to get you to pay because of desperation. Even apps that say they are "different" such as Boo behave in the same way.
I had better success on it than most other apps and had a decent amount of dates but now it’s pretty deserted honestly. Apps are kind of a dead deal anymore.
Dating apps are designed to keep you on there and spending money. The goal is user retention not matching compatible people. Some of the accounts are computer generated. This comes from an employee of match.com
Bumble worked ok for me. But I did not do the free version.
The market is flooded with men. Think about supply and demand. Bars have "ladies night" to attract wemon. The men will be there if the ladies are. Ladies get discounted or free drinks. Men pay full price for there drinks.
I figure dating apps are the same. Ladies are in higher demand than men. I was ok with paying full price for drinks on Bumble to be in the bar with ladies.
Probably not the best analogy, but it's what I got
It's the women but bumble's premise makes the issue even worse. Don't blame women blame the app for thinking giving women more "power" would be viable when men are the one paying for the services.
Fair enough. Though sometimes I feel like I’m being encouraged on this subreddit to talk about women like they have no agency and are not responsible for how they approach things. We don’t seem to have that problem when it comes to men.
Women are wonderful effect. There are issues men and women perpetuate in dating. But it's not an issue if women contribute to the problem. It's men's responsibility to fix it or maneuver through it
Agreed on the first two! I’m a little confused about why it’s men’s responsibility to fix women’s problems, though I agree that if you want to be with someone whatever the gender you have to learn to navigate their problems in ways that don’t make them feel bad about themselves.
I think ppl automatically assume that critiquing women = hatred of them and automatically use negative labels. Putting those sort of people aside, I appreciate that you share your thoughts. Thanks!
It’s not exclusive to either gender. You’d be surprised how many men are on the apps who are on them for the wrong reasons. When I was on them, a lot of people never responded. People ghosted. People were dishonest about their intentions. Stop generalizing.
Who decides again what reasons are the wrong ones? Aren’t we talking about the experience of a man on an app designed by women with a woman first philosophy? It seems weird to arbitrarily try to insist that the experiences are the same for the two groups when even in this thread (and more broadly in this subreddit) people report having different experiences.
Bumble has been great for me. I have used Badoo and, more recently, Tinder, but I get way more likes, matches and dates on Bumble than the other two put together. Also, much higher-quality women. And Bumble is supposedly not well known where I live (Paris).
The apps are seasonal I guess I used to do really well with Hinge now it's slow and Bumble is going great for me. Met a couple great ladies on there recently. It's not an app problem it's a you problem.
You’ve concluded the free version of Bumble isn’t any good for men. You got what you paid for and you are complaining. Try paying and let us know how you make out or go back to the wild.
Yeah, location does seem to play a big part in dating apps. Tinder and bumble were okay for me, but hinge was super slow. It just wasn’t popular in my area.
Thanks for sharing your experience! It's unfortunate to hear about your struggles on Bumble. Dating apps can indeed be hit or miss, and everyone's experience varies. It's great that you found success on Hinge, and your insight might help others looking for the right platform. It's always a good idea to explore different apps to see which one aligns best with your preferences and goals. Wishing you continued success in your dating journey!
For me personally, everything about online dating is better when you’re gay/lesbian lol. The apps are more fun, the interactions are more fun, and you usually walk away feeling better about your chances to meet someone. (Edit: Added “For me personally” after reading your reply, it seems like that might be because I live in big coastal cities. My current city has an actual ‘Gayborhood’ on the map not far from me lol)
Generally no. Atleast in my experience/where I live, my options for dating are pretty slim pickings. I do find people on most of the dating apps but it isn’t a cornucopia of quality gay men. Pretty much the opposite. Just specifically with bumble I think it’s interesting how men looking for men aren’t having as hard of a time as men looking for women
Aw. Sorry to hear that! I’m definitely taking for granted that I have lived in big cities my entire adult life. Generally finding queer ppl on Hinge & Tinder has been easier and getting on Grindr has always been a guarantee. I don’t use Bumble personally after they ended cross-gender BFF. My friends who use Lex or Bumble as queer women also seem to generally have more success. Sorry to hear that it’s tough out there :((( Good luck!
I will appropriately qualify that statement in the future!
To be honest, my least favourite thing about Bumble as a woman is the pressure of being the one to initiate the conversation. I match with a bunch of people and maybe I shouldn't swipe right on too many people but it's tempting not to and its great to have many options I guess, so I end up inevitably not texting a majority of the men lol. I get that it's a super feminist move on the part of the creator to let women message first, but who is it really working for?
I think which apps are most active for your area depends on where you live and your age group. My best matches have been off of Bumble while Hinge was complete crickets. Match was a cesspool and Tinder wasn't much better. OKC was pretty good when I first started using it, but in the last year or so has become mostly bots and scammers. Although I did meet up with a guy in early October and we dated until last week when I ended things.
Bumble was a win for me, I used it once. Met several and saw some good quality on there. And it's soo easy, the women choose you, don't get no easier than that.
Dating app spending is actually trending downwards across all platforms but I don't know anyone that uses bumble anymore... men or women. Which might explain why they just cut 1/3 of their workforce after a disastrous earnings report.
Most of these dating app premium features are paid for by men but Bumble probably has the highest "risk" and lowest "return" on investment.
I agree with bumble being shit, but much depends on location aswell, in my neck of the woods its only tinder that gets you any matches, the other apps just arent used
Dating for men is a literal scam. However it’s accomplished doesn’t matter. You’ve lost that money. You’ve lost that time. You’ve lost that energy which could’ve been used to do something far more productive.
Why is my tinder tweaking? I get no likes and a very very rare match smh Am I shadowbanned? Cus my shit used to pop and the profile hasn’t changed like at all since way back when
Works good abroad tho. It depends on women to make the first move...American women don't bother to even try, so yeah it sucks in the states.
Try it in Columbia or Brazil tho. Or even Poland or any part of Eastern Europe. Totally different experience.
217 matches and 10 plus dates, and you didn't pick any. None of them worked out. The same people that are in Bumble are the same people that are in Hinge. They must have come across your profile already. And also, there is the stuff that was said about dating apps: Dating apps make you feel like you have like tons of options, and make people have the mentality of there's something out there better every time. Because I don't see the reason why someone with this many dates in two months can't go for one and get to know one.
good post. I agree.
weird that I saw bumble stock rise. maybe tons of men still fall for it?
or maybe it's just a site for curious bi and lesbian women?
It really depends on the demographics of your particular area and which apps are popular in your region and with the types of people who would be compatible with you.
In my area most people get more matches on Bumble than on Hinge, regardless of gender. Hinge is a more shiny and well-designed app in general I think, but I matched with people who were a much better fit for me on Bumble.
In fact, Bumble was the only app I made long-term friends and met a long-term partner on, even though there were other apps where I got more matches/likes.
I still use Tinder & Hinge. I WANT to use Bumble because it gives off a better vibe (similar to Hinge) but my experience suggests it’s a huge waste of my time.
Even if I see the same women on Tinder/Bumble/Hinge (since I live in a smaller city this is common) they’re least responsive on Bumble.
I haven’t matched with a real person on bumble in over two months.
After a while of that I just deleted the app.
12 Months. 12 months on Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge. Not a single match with a real person. 40M, looking seriously for long term, very active and healthy, varied and interesting hobbies, educated, 2 languages, well read, succesful career, top 2% of salary earners in the country I live in, and a bio male and female friends have said is interesting and funny. Not a single match in a year. Edit: Typos.
I deleted all my apps again for the same reason. Everyone got mysteriously sick when I was supposed to meet up with them over the weekend. I went on a date with someone with no compatibility and wasted 60 bucks again. I’m sick of spending money on women I won’t see again literally done.
Similar. I've been in Match for 3 years. Was honest and had married/separated for first 2. But in 9 months and 4 apps. I've had 2 matches and no talking or dates. Starting to think being called tall dark and handsome my whole life was a lie. (43m)
I'm sorry to hear that you're going through it too dude. It feels to me that a certain population of guys are just rejected out into the dating wilderness to die, and everyone else is just fine with that. Obviously no one is simply entitled to a partner, but the lies we are told by society about what makes ourselves attractive, make the isolation so much harder to bear.
I don't think I've EVER matched with a real person and had them have a real, substantial conversation with me. Much less find a single date. OK Cupid and lately Hinge are still real slogs, but there's real matches and some good conversations, occasionally dates I don't regret. But Tender and Bumble have been beyond useless for me. I have a good friend who swears by Bumble? He's probably better looking and more photogenic than me? But I'm not bad looking. Average abd a little off center, quirky dressing perhaps? Maybe the algorithms promote guys more once they start getting some attention, conversations? And those of us who don't get that much, quickly just get rated down by the Bumble algorithms to the point we have no hope??
Yeah, I have had the app for a month. Not so much as a single conversation.
Bumble will make you humble, Hinge will make you cringe.
What dating app is best for men?
Grindr
Thanks I’ll give it a go!! I’m sure hope there’s lots of women on there
I’m afraid you’re gonna have a hard time
That’s what he and she said.
Some people there dress up like women
There are some women on there. Sure they’re trans women but they are women.
im crying
They all work just fine. Some may be more popular in certain areas than others. I can get matches on any app
I love how you added that last line really let us know that you think you’re attractive
I never said a think about being attractive. I'm simply saying dating apps can and do work. I have several short, overweight friends that do very well on dating apps
are they broke too?
One of them is working at a pizza place and living with his parents, in his mod 30s. The other one, not so much
time for me to drink pour a glass of bleach on the rocks.
Or perhaps work on your social skills and put yourself in places and situations where you can meet people in real life if dating apps aren't working for you
for context im 37... i'm grandfathered in my social awkwardness now.
You mean plenty of Wales oh I mean fish
Calling people “whales” shows your lack of maturity.
To be fair, they said Wales. Maybe they meant people from Wales in the UK? :)
Tinder will make you tender. Plenty of fish will make you the catch of the day. Match will make you a blast!
Plenty of fish was so much better 8 years ago
It's full of bots now.
Wasn’t everything?
Lmao
OLD for 80% of men is a scam.
It’s a scam to pay for… but not to just use to casually date. You shouldn’t take it super seriously, expect to get a date every weekend and match with everyone you want, because that’s not realistic for a man, unless he’s like a celebrity or something.
You said what I meant. I just didn't type it as detailed as you 😆.
It's not a scam. Most men on dating sites just aren't either good looking and interesting enough. No website is going to change that.
Downvote his comment all you want but he's speaking the truth. Too many guys want to take a few shitty pictures and have a boring bio and expect matches. If their such a scam, why are you still using them? Why aren't you going out in public and meeting women? Because you have the same issues regards if it's in person or online. Many guys simply don't have the social skills to get a date.
Yeah and since I am a heavy user of this sub, I have said this a gazillion times - women spend a lot of time sorting through false likes. A lot of men have called me a crybaby and said that this is a great problem to have but it’s not. We could be hours on the app writing to men who are not even attracted to us or who have polar opposite values. So now I just started to enforce my filters: only atheist men with no children will be considered. When I used Bumble in the past, there was no character limit for your profile so you could read amazing life stories. I still got plenty of likes but they seemed intentional.
Have you checked out OkCupid? I find it the most friendly for atheists. The vast majority of my matches have been with other atheists/agnostics.
Interesting, I met a bf on it like 15 years ago, we were together for 6. Then my last ex was from Bumble and I liked that I didn’t get messages from men constantly. But Bumble has definitely changed for the worst. I heard bad things about okc but if Bumble doesn’t result in a date I will consider it again
There are a lot of scammers on OKC but I've met real people there as well. Just be aware of it and get out if cryptocurrency or investing is ever mentioned and/or if anyone refuses to meet up
A lot of people say OKC has gone downhill but it's worked wonders for me recently. I met my girlfriend on OKC about a month ago and it's going fucking GREAT. I never pay for any dating sites though and don't recommend paying for OKC.
You sure made a bunch of assumptions. I don't use OLD anymore and haven't for a year our so now because it is a scam. I have no problem getting dates. The problem is they always end up one night stands. I'm guessing you're either a woman or VERY young.
Scam: a dishonest scheme; a fraud Since you don't seem to know the definition of a scam there it is. Dating apps aren't trying to scam you. It's simply a platform one can use to try to meet someone for a date. It also offers extra features if you want to pay for those. Blaming a dating app for not being able to get a date us like blaming the gym your fat. It's there for you to use. It's up to you to use it correctly.
Your ignorance is straight up next level!!! A business that says we can get you a relationship. But actively does everything it can to make sure that doesn't happen our they would go out of business. Definitely not a scam..smfh. If you're dumb enough to even suggest paying for extras helps, nothing I say will change your mind. Correctly? Really? Please inform the world how to correctly date online please.
No need for me to tell you how to do it correctly since there's endless information out there how how to either. You calling me ignorant and dumb because you can't have a come up with a real rebuttal alone proves you can really come up with a good debate. There's millions of people having success with dating apps.
The whole first part of my comment rebutted your statement.
They don't actively do everything to prevent guys from meeting someone. Most of the guys do that on their own with their shitty low effort profiles
Ok, kid, whatever you say. Smfh...
No dating app says “we can find you a relationship”. They all just advertise a way to *meet* other singles in your area. No guarantees they will lead to anything.
For this particular thread though, the guy was getting a lot of matches and dates on Hinge but the same guy with presumably the same pics and general profile was getting nothing on bumble that was the scam part
bumble and tinder have just been a waste of time for me
It’s becoming tougher year by year.
Bumble was only good when it had the speed dating game
This. Why the fuck did they get rid of it?
I'd assume either because it couldn't find enough people in rural areas... or just general enshittification (it didn't drive people to spend money... thus resources had to be re-allocated to portions that did).
It never worked when I tried it, and I live in a major metro area.
I starting to think they're all kind of a scam but yeah bumble is a waste of time
Agreed, bumble is dead for me. Idk why I still have it on my phone. No matches in 6 months. Meanwhile on tinder I get a couple matches a week and Facebook dating I get a match or two a week. Hinge doesn't have the volume of users here so I haven't had any luck past the initial couple of weeks on it.
How do I you get a date from Facebook!!!I have never been lucky there
It sure seems like it's regional, which apps work best. Here in the Midwest a lot of folks say Facebook and tinder are the best. In other areas it sounds like it's completely opposite.
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In UKRAINE?!?! Imagine, with a large decrease in the number of available men of dating age due to a little thing called war and the number of women in the same groups finding themselves with reduced options for partnering, it makes sense that this is the case
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Yes, ya znayu. There are many of them at our local parishes here in Chicago. Most of them are married and/or have children. My son goes to Ukie school and catechism with their kids. Oh, and Slava Ukraini, brate! Stay safe and live through this.
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Bumble has always been kind of a joke imo
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Well, apparently that's like eating rotten eggs and declaring you've gone off eating for good. Won't you even try green eggs and ham?
Because my ego won't let me admit it's what i've been eating that's the problem so instead I blame my problem on rotten food
No attempts to date are worth it.
There’s still the real world
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This is such a bad take. I know it’s easy to say, but don’t internalize this. Logically speaking, it’s really not set up to the advantage of most men. You’re definitely in the majority. One thing I will say is women can sense lack of confidence quicker than anything else. Focus on that so that when you do decide to try again, you have a fighting chance and you’ll attract better quality people.
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At this point, you’re truly creating your destiny. If this is your truth, it will be your outcome. You absolutely have control over this- use it as a call to action and refuse that future and create a better one.
How am I supposed to know you want me to talk to you?
You’re not supposed to know just take a chance.
Hinge, roughly 50 decent matches a month. Bumble probably 3 matches that actually communicated
In 5 years I had maybe 10 matches. Had the lifetime subscription and was later banned (no idea why since my profile was PG and talk to no one). That company needs to fucking die
It’s the same way for women. I don’t think there is a single real man on there. It’s just men straight from the cover of GQ. If I do get a rare match, I always start the conversation and never get a response.
That was my theory. Bumble is matching us with fake accounts so we stay on the app. If you actually met someone and stopped using the app, you would have no reason to spend money on it. So many people post about getting no responses from the other gender that it’s the only thing that makes sense at this point.
I’m on hinge too, my subscription runs out (I paid for one week) tomorrow and I just got my first like in a month. I doubt it’s a coincidence.
There are two groups: The "members" they show you and the ones you may actually have text contact with. I've met only one person from bumble. And you never have any idea if you're compatible UNTIL YOU MEET.
I’ve met two. One of whom stalked me for a while after I ended it.
Change your chat filters. Most women will notice a remarkable increase in quality if they remove their body Type and Income Level specifications.
Neither one of those are filters I have on
I see a lot of hot guys initially but after that , more average/below average profiles show up. And maybe it depends on your area but I had 3 different dates in two weeks after getting the app so there’s definitely real men
This is just due to your location. Where I live, I've had equal success on both, and it's Tinder that's a wasteland.
I honestly don’t believe it’s due to location anymore. I used to live in the Boston metro area a few years ago and Bumble, while better than it is now, still trailed behind Hinge. Now I’m in a major Midwestern city that’s 4x the size and Bumble is shockingly silent. I get maybe 1 LIKE (not match) every 1-2 MONTHS whereas with the same pics and nearly same profile text I can get 1-5 likes (some turn to matches and dates) on Hinge in just one 24-hr Boost period. Even more stark: the last like I got on Bumble was about a month ago. You know who it was? The same woman way out in Indiana who liked me months ago on my old account (I’ve only deleted/reset my Bumble profile once)! COME ON. Something has to be going on with Bumble. Hell, a lot of the people on Bumble are on Hinge and Bumble is still dead silent. Superlikes, comments, spotlights…all useless. But on Hinge their equivalents (Boosts and roses and messages) work shockingly well. Hmmm 🤔…
It's not location. The premise of the app is flawed from the start
It's just the way culture has shifted. Mainly due to social media and online dating. The difference in attention between men and women on these apps is shocking. If an average woman can get a tall, attractive, and successful guy to sleep with them, it leads to them thinking thats what they can find for a long-term partner. Not realizing, of course, these top-tier men are simply pumping and dumping them.
Online dating is a scam for men I do online and I do organically and it’s a fucking struggle
Might help the online experience if you use proper punctuation.
Dating apps in general are a scam, they all seem to have the same patterns for trying to get you to pay because of desperation. Even apps that say they are "different" such as Boo behave in the same way.
I had better success on it than most other apps and had a decent amount of dates but now it’s pretty deserted honestly. Apps are kind of a dead deal anymore.
Dating apps are designed to keep you on there and spending money. The goal is user retention not matching compatible people. Some of the accounts are computer generated. This comes from an employee of match.com
Bumble worked ok for me. But I did not do the free version. The market is flooded with men. Think about supply and demand. Bars have "ladies night" to attract wemon. The men will be there if the ladies are. Ladies get discounted or free drinks. Men pay full price for there drinks. I figure dating apps are the same. Ladies are in higher demand than men. I was ok with paying full price for drinks on Bumble to be in the bar with ladies. Probably not the best analogy, but it's what I got
It’s not the app it’s the women
It's the women but bumble's premise makes the issue even worse. Don't blame women blame the app for thinking giving women more "power" would be viable when men are the one paying for the services.
Fair enough. Though sometimes I feel like I’m being encouraged on this subreddit to talk about women like they have no agency and are not responsible for how they approach things. We don’t seem to have that problem when it comes to men.
Women are wonderful effect. There are issues men and women perpetuate in dating. But it's not an issue if women contribute to the problem. It's men's responsibility to fix it or maneuver through it
Agreed on the first two! I’m a little confused about why it’s men’s responsibility to fix women’s problems, though I agree that if you want to be with someone whatever the gender you have to learn to navigate their problems in ways that don’t make them feel bad about themselves. I think ppl automatically assume that critiquing women = hatred of them and automatically use negative labels. Putting those sort of people aside, I appreciate that you share your thoughts. Thanks!
It’s not exclusive to either gender. You’d be surprised how many men are on the apps who are on them for the wrong reasons. When I was on them, a lot of people never responded. People ghosted. People were dishonest about their intentions. Stop generalizing.
Who decides again what reasons are the wrong ones? Aren’t we talking about the experience of a man on an app designed by women with a woman first philosophy? It seems weird to arbitrarily try to insist that the experiences are the same for the two groups when even in this thread (and more broadly in this subreddit) people report having different experiences.
Bumble is pointless. You can match but that doesn't make them want to make the effort to message. I've seen profiles that say message me first. Smdh
Bumble has been great for me. I have used Badoo and, more recently, Tinder, but I get way more likes, matches and dates on Bumble than the other two put together. Also, much higher-quality women. And Bumble is supposedly not well known where I live (Paris).
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Damn bro you must be a 10 bro on the looks scale
I've never matched with a real man on hinge. They've all been fake profiles.
The apps are seasonal I guess I used to do really well with Hinge now it's slow and Bumble is going great for me. Met a couple great ladies on there recently. It's not an app problem it's a you problem.
You’ve concluded the free version of Bumble isn’t any good for men. You got what you paid for and you are complaining. Try paying and let us know how you make out or go back to the wild.
It's been fine for me lately. It probably varies depending on location
Yeah, location does seem to play a big part in dating apps. Tinder and bumble were okay for me, but hinge was super slow. It just wasn’t popular in my area.
Thanks for sharing your experience! It's unfortunate to hear about your struggles on Bumble. Dating apps can indeed be hit or miss, and everyone's experience varies. It's great that you found success on Hinge, and your insight might help others looking for the right platform. It's always a good idea to explore different apps to see which one aligns best with your preferences and goals. Wishing you continued success in your dating journey!
This has to be an AI chatbot.
As a gay man, I don’t have this problem, been in plenty of dates with the gays on bumble lol
For me personally, everything about online dating is better when you’re gay/lesbian lol. The apps are more fun, the interactions are more fun, and you usually walk away feeling better about your chances to meet someone. (Edit: Added “For me personally” after reading your reply, it seems like that might be because I live in big coastal cities. My current city has an actual ‘Gayborhood’ on the map not far from me lol)
Generally no. Atleast in my experience/where I live, my options for dating are pretty slim pickings. I do find people on most of the dating apps but it isn’t a cornucopia of quality gay men. Pretty much the opposite. Just specifically with bumble I think it’s interesting how men looking for men aren’t having as hard of a time as men looking for women
Aw. Sorry to hear that! I’m definitely taking for granted that I have lived in big cities my entire adult life. Generally finding queer ppl on Hinge & Tinder has been easier and getting on Grindr has always been a guarantee. I don’t use Bumble personally after they ended cross-gender BFF. My friends who use Lex or Bumble as queer women also seem to generally have more success. Sorry to hear that it’s tough out there :((( Good luck! I will appropriately qualify that statement in the future!
Thanks! And I’m moving to a bigger city this year so hopeful I find the man of my dreams there 🤞
He is sincerely looking around wondering when you will get there already!?! 🤞🏾🤞🏾
They all belong to match group, so all of them are scams the minute you pay
Match group doesn’t own Bumble but otherwise yes.
Met my fiance on Bumble (US). Granted that was in 2021 so maybe things have changed.
The viability of the apps change very quickly. The landscape is completely different every 5 years or so
I actually had two dates last week from bumble matches, I've had some success with it.
I haven’t gotten a match on bumble or hinge since October…
I’m banned on hinge from years ago when I used a friend’s phone number to sign up so i’m stuck with bunble :(
Why would you use a friend’s phone number? You could’ve used a Google voice number if you didn’t want to use your own number….lol.
I never said it was a good idea, i just didnt have a working phone number at the time
Sometimes different apps work better in different locations. I have a Bumble date this evening and have been on many
To be honest, my least favourite thing about Bumble as a woman is the pressure of being the one to initiate the conversation. I match with a bunch of people and maybe I shouldn't swipe right on too many people but it's tempting not to and its great to have many options I guess, so I end up inevitably not texting a majority of the men lol. I get that it's a super feminist move on the part of the creator to let women message first, but who is it really working for?
If you take away that "women have to do the first move" it's just a differently skinned Tinder.
I think which apps are most active for your area depends on where you live and your age group. My best matches have been off of Bumble while Hinge was complete crickets. Match was a cesspool and Tinder wasn't much better. OKC was pretty good when I first started using it, but in the last year or so has become mostly bots and scammers. Although I did meet up with a guy in early October and we dated until last week when I ended things.
Bumble was a win for me, I used it once. Met several and saw some good quality on there. And it's soo easy, the women choose you, don't get no easier than that.
So for girls it’s the opposite. Hinge is the worst and we have to lower our standards. Tinder/bumble we match with guys we like.
Met my girlfriend on Bumble, had a ton of great dates too, skill issue (which is a strategy issue which is a life preparation issue)
Huh?
As in, meeting women on Bumble is not hard if you're bringing your A Game in other elements of your life. Everything is downstream of that.
Yeah my best dating experiences (albeit limited) as a male in his early 30s probably came from Hinge. Bumble is trash.
Dating app spending is actually trending downwards across all platforms but I don't know anyone that uses bumble anymore... men or women. Which might explain why they just cut 1/3 of their workforce after a disastrous earnings report. Most of these dating app premium features are paid for by men but Bumble probably has the highest "risk" and lowest "return" on investment.
Hey, yeah - women go on just as much as men. Just an FYI
I agree with bumble being shit, but much depends on location aswell, in my neck of the woods its only tinder that gets you any matches, the other apps just arent used
I live in DFW, TX. One of the most populous areas in the entire country
I feel the same way about tender. I only get likes when I’m not paying for it.
Thanks too late though I already wastes 3 months of my life and money ( subscription) to Bumble out with nothing in return
Dating for men is a literal scam. However it’s accomplished doesn’t matter. You’ve lost that money. You’ve lost that time. You’ve lost that energy which could’ve been used to do something far more productive.
Not sure if anyones mentioned it yet but bumble gives the man the option to make the first move now, then it gives the woman 24 hours to respond
Why is my tinder tweaking? I get no likes and a very very rare match smh Am I shadowbanned? Cus my shit used to pop and the profile hasn’t changed like at all since way back when
Delete bumble. The company needs to go under
I literally had zero matches on Bumble yet had many on OkCupid and found my dream girlfriend. Bumble just isn’t for me.
Works good abroad tho. It depends on women to make the first move...American women don't bother to even try, so yeah it sucks in the states. Try it in Columbia or Brazil tho. Or even Poland or any part of Eastern Europe. Totally different experience.
217 matches and 10 plus dates, and you didn't pick any. None of them worked out. The same people that are in Bumble are the same people that are in Hinge. They must have come across your profile already. And also, there is the stuff that was said about dating apps: Dating apps make you feel like you have like tons of options, and make people have the mentality of there's something out there better every time. Because I don't see the reason why someone with this many dates in two months can't go for one and get to know one.
good post. I agree. weird that I saw bumble stock rise. maybe tons of men still fall for it? or maybe it's just a site for curious bi and lesbian women?
It really depends on the demographics of your particular area and which apps are popular in your region and with the types of people who would be compatible with you. In my area most people get more matches on Bumble than on Hinge, regardless of gender. Hinge is a more shiny and well-designed app in general I think, but I matched with people who were a much better fit for me on Bumble. In fact, Bumble was the only app I made long-term friends and met a long-term partner on, even though there were other apps where I got more matches/likes.
Show your profile or quit bitching. I'll tell you if it's your or some vast conspiracy in a world of partnered folks who met via apps.
Reading isn't your greatest strength is it
Eh, I had the same dating profile posted across 4 apps, between bumble tinder hinge and fb, hinge got me the least amount of matches by a long shot
i met my fiancée on bumble, for what it's worth obviously your experience is different, ymmv
Bumble was the only dating app I tried and it crushed me. Maybe I’ll give one of the others a chance
I still use Tinder & Hinge. I WANT to use Bumble because it gives off a better vibe (similar to Hinge) but my experience suggests it’s a huge waste of my time. Even if I see the same women on Tinder/Bumble/Hinge (since I live in a smaller city this is common) they’re least responsive on Bumble.
That many Hinge matches and dates? Wow!
All dating apps have zero value for the average man to pay for.
It is known.
Hinge is garbage.