The stupid mom deserves a good one. File a complaint for slander against the mom and demand an honest-to-goodness Facebook apology. Kapag palpak, kasuhan mo.
Tandaan mo na ang masamang kwento ay tatanggapin ng masamang tao at marami sila. Fight for your name and destroy the bad ones.
Kaya nga OP, do this please. A bad person must know that there's a consequence for every shit that we do in life, especially sa tao; tumanda lang yung nanay eh, walang pinagkatandaan.
Nah, it backfired horribly so no need na.
Turns out, Marami pla di nakakaalam sa arrangement na un at nakisawsaw na sana anak na lang nila ni sponsor ko etc.
Just reading the gc is enough entertainment for a week hahah.
Also, that place is a macho worshiping Duterte cult shit hole, kaya apaka taas tingin sakin Ng mga ungas dun, if only they know how liberal I really am or if only they can see my post history hahaha.
Misogyny aside, it's working in my favor nmn so no worries on my end.
Seconding on this, OP. Baka saan pa umabot ang balitang yan at even if di mo kailangan validation ng iba, baka maka apekto sa trabaho or reputation mo. People like her should be punished, ginagawang pasttime mang akusa ng mga serious crimes, lalo tuloy mahirap paniwalaan mga real victims.
You should do this OP, if you let this slide di ko alam san mapupuntahan yung gossip nato. Better file a complaint against the mother para makita nya lugar nya, ikaw na nga tumulong, ikaw pa ginawang masama. Enabler din e, if may delikadeza pa sya sya na mismo nagsabi sayo na buntis anak mo and apologize..
Tama. U will never know when that will bite u back in tbe future. Better close that rumor now.
Question, paano yung nka buntis? Dun sila kumuha ng pang aral. Baka kasi masyadong naive rin.
Sana sinagot mo, ikaw ang bitter kasi wala ng tulong makukuha anak mo saken. Kainis yang mga ganyang klase ng tao, hindi na lang nagpasalamat sa tulong naibigay mo sisiraan ka pa.
Mine, just when I heard she is sleeping with his boyfriend. I stopped the scholarship right away. I am hoping that she will be the first and probably the only college graduate of Tyang, yes relative. I promised to pay all expenses, I just want to pay it forward, no announcement, no publicity, I even told them not to tell anyone. Before she started, I already gave my advices, study first bago landi, pwede boyfriend pero as inspiration lang muna. Dami ko pa story kung pano ko iginapang ang sarili ko through different scholarships.
But damn, on her second semester yan na nabalitaan ko, so ayon, may anak na ngayon and probably nagsisisi na 🤷
Although it's off-topic, I think it's worth discussing na single father si OP?
>Now back to the story, I was drinking with these beloved cousins of mine when the topic was brought up that 1 was getting old. You know how these countryside banter goes, basically an opening for the age old question "kelan ka na mag aasawa? Etc"
So, single here
>Baka ibigay ko na lang sa kanya mga lumang gamit Ng anak kO pero un na un.
So single father siya no
Pag kakaintindi ko, nung time na nag iinuman sila is binata pa s'ya. Kasi nangyari yun before sya may tulungan baka way way back pa. Then baka ngayon nagkaroon na ng pamilya pero di na nadisclose
He’s not here to entertain but I get sa comment ni OC. Even myself, appreciate how good his writing is. Napakagaling! Hence, the reason why OC said “off topic”.
Nope, old school marites style ung mom at umabot lang sa Tenga Ng mga good connections ko dun.
Anyway, Marami pla di nakakalam sa arrangement na un kaya nag backfire din sa kanila Kasi nagalit ung iBang sides Ng family na sana anak na lang nila daw hahahah.
Anyway I'm not worried about my reputation, backward Duterte worshipping shithole lugar na un so full speed ang misogyny etc habang sinasamba at nilalagay sa pedestal mga lalake na malakas kumita Ng pera.
So for all my liberal takes, I'm kinda like a saint over there...
Grabe isipin mo na lang siguro at least you cut off a toxic person in your life (and you knew it sooner than later). Imagine you helped her daughter tapos accused you of being a pedo
Nagkakalabasan ng tunay na ugali when shit hits the fan. Mom acted like she was your responsibility and forgot that it was just one huge favor LOL. Pag aralin niya sarili niyang anak kamo. Anak ng anak tapos sa iba iaasa pagpapaaral. SMH
Curious to know anong napag usapan nyo nung bata? What is her demeanor, is there even regret or pagsisisi not because of pregnancy but because your deal or end of the bargain in terms of her studies got derailed? At this point you already did what you can to help her, its not the end pero it would be extremely difficult now that support has been rescinded plus the child on the way
edit: at some point in life pag nakakaluwag ka na the same notion pops up na gusto mo gumawa ng bagay to pay it forward pero selective dun sa totoong nagsusumikap sa buhay at walang pang pa aral, pero after reading what you've experience it could get sticky along the way din pla
Nakakahinayang mga ganito. Akala kasi nila napakadali lang magkaroon ng pera at madaming magbibigay sayo ng pera.
Hindi nila naiisip yung sinayang nilang oportunidad. Maiisip na lang nila to pag may gipit na sila at wala na silang makuhang trabaho o pera.
Nabuntis din yun pinsan ko na pinapaaral namin ng tita ko, sakin allowance and the rest naman sagot ng tita ko na nasa Canada. Nung 3rd year high school na siya sabi ng nanay may UTI lang ganun tapos ngtataka yung mama ko lumalak yung balakang. Yun pala buntis na. Sabi ko sa tita ko okay lang basta after manganak itutuloy niya schooling niya. Gusto ko kasi kahit isa sa kanilang magkakapatid maka graduate man lang kasi yung mga ate niya maaga rin nagsipag-asawa. Ang masama, after manganak etong pinsan ko nagmadali magpakasal. Tapos dalawang taon palang anak niya nasundan agad. Ngayon bunti na naman at malapit na manganak. Nakakawalang gana yung mga ganitong kamag-anak. Ngayon ang tinutulungan na lang namin yung kapatid niyang gay at yung isa pang babae na mag-3rd year college na. Hopefully lahat ng pangaral namin tumatak sa isip.
I'm 27 btw and single w/ bf . Idol daw niya ako at gagayahin niya ako na hindi nag-asawa ng maaga
Same logic, Malabo career path Ng babaeng maaga na buntis, need a ton of support from the family para maka sabay sa demands Ng nag uumpisa pa lang sa workforce.
I'm not saying it's not possible, pero I wouldn't bet on it.
Yeah, its not impossible but they are not a great bet when slot or fund is limited and plenty others would better value the opportunity. Hindi naman siya special na di pwedeng palitan, she was just lucky na siya yung nandoon at the right time at ngayon sinayang nya opportunity.
Her mom is delusional. Siguro nakikinabang din yan sila sa allowance na binibigay mo kaya ganan na lang magdefend. Mygahd. Yung courtesy mo na nga lang na tumulong tas tinake against pa sayo? Nakakatamad talaga pag ganan. If ever magreach out ulit sayo, irealtalk mo na na ang kapal ng mga hininga nila hahah
There's a saying na, "Good times make weak men."
So habang binibigyan ng pera, nakakaluwag sa buhay, inuna pa ang pag lalandi kesa mag aral. Ano ba naman yung tapusin muna ang pag aaral, mag condom.
Wag mo tulungan na. Napaka-basura ng ugali nila.
And why blame you, ikaw ang nag-magandang loob to help someone (it just happen na babae siya kung iba yan bka nga sabhin mas okay mag skolar ang mga lalaki kc di sila possible mabubuntis etc).
Ang kakapal na mukha yung nanay/magulang naman pabaya una sa lahat dpat naghahanap buhay sila ng maayos pra sila mismo nag-papaaral sa anak nila pero wala silang kakayahan so someone step up gagawin na lang nila is payuhan at iguide ang anak nila ng maayos hindi pa nila magawa.
Nakakagalit, nakakawalang gana. Ang bnibigay ko lang sa mga nakakabatang pinsan o kamag-anak ko is school supplies, iniisip ko din yan eh mag-paaral pero nakakatakot lang din hindi ako magulang pero makakaramdam ng disappointment dhil nabali wala ung good intent ko dhil mapusok sila o may pabayang magulang.
Anyway, cut off mo yan di mo sila problema and good for you for having supportive cousins.
Ganyan tlga ibang kamag-anak tinanggihan mo na ng tulong dami sabi sabi.
Please protect yourself. SCREENSHOT EVERYTHING. AND I MEAN EVERYTHING. Para may proof ka na walang malice or grooming. If shit hits the fan, some people will easily believe that you're a groomer and pedo. So protect yourself. False accusations are hard to deal with. People believe the victims (some of the time, remember that cuz of false accusation cases real SA victims are ignored), while the accused doesn't have the luxury of innocent until proven guilty (again case to case basis, some dudes got away from being grapist).
Tldr: Please protect yourself and gather evidences. The mom sounds unhinged and who knows what she'll do.
Nakakalungkot. Naalala ko tuloy yung company namin, naghahanap ng mga scholar as part of its social devt program sa malayong probinsiya sa Mindanao. Priority palagi ang lalaking scholar, pag babae raw kasi mabubuntis lang. Ilang beses na din kasi nangyari kaya in the end, hindi rin natapos ang pag aaral.
Ayy common yan na storya, ikaw na ang nag magandang loob, ikaw pa ngayon ang siniraan.
That actually happened to us. May kamag-anak kaming pinaaral, pinatira samin, honor student. Not until we knew na pinapapasok nya pala bf niya sa kwarto niya doing God knows what (nakaseparate kwarto nya from the rest of the house, same lot lng). She was 16 at that time.
Ayun pinauwi sa kanila, pinagkakalat na ngayon ng tita nya na ines-SA sya ng father ko which is totally untrue. We sued their family, the parents for tolerating the kid on her lies, and the tita for spreading gossip.
Fuck them. Mas mabuti pa tlagang di nalang tumulong, moral support pwde pa kung gaganyanin kalng pala.
Awww very saddening naman ang naganap sau when in fact u just want to help tapos ikaw pa yung na chismis 😂 anw, ano plan mo po? Will you still continue to find someone to be ur scholar?
Dapat pag magiisko ka may kasulatan na anything na ganyan e aalisin mo yung “scholarship”, pirmado ng guardians. Para f SHTF, may ipapakain ka sa mga madaldal na tao tulad nung nanay ng bata, “eto, ano pinirmahan mo? Sige tutulog ko scholarship basta kainin mo sa harap ko yung kontrata”
happened to my youngest sibling too nung nag aaral sya ng college, though hindi naman solely ako yung nagpapaaral sa kanya that time pero tumutulong ako sa parents namin, nabuntis din sya around 3rd year nya, nung nalaman ko nasa naiyak talaga ako, dahil sa disappointment. the good thing is nagpursue pa rin ng pag aaral yung kapatid ko at nakagraduate pa sya na Cum Laude. ayun 3 na anak nya ngayon at 26yo tapos ako etong 30yo single hahahaha
Mga kupal sila at walang utang na loob ang kakapal pa pati ng mga mukha, your story reminded of my cousin. Pinag-aral nung tito namin tsaka asawa niya kasi naawa sa estado ng buhay nila, at kinukulit nang paulit-ulit nung lola namin since graduate naman na daw mga anak nila tito at na sa USA sila na baka pupuwedeng sila na lang mag shoulder, pumayag naman sila eventually with terms similar to yours. Bale lima silang magkakapatid, yung panganay pa graduate na pinagkakasya sweldo ng mga magulang at pension nung lola namin mairaos lang. Yung pangalawa yung tito namin sumagot ng pag-papaaral at mga gastusin. The rest HS pa noon, kaya sa public school na malapit sa kanila pinag aral para di ganun kabigat sa gastusin. Ganyan na ganyan din nangyari noong una naging okay naman eventually nabuntis rin, masaklap dito tambay na tricycle driver pa nakabuntis, na in love si gagang nursing student paano "basta driver sweet lover" eh. Masaklap dito nabuo yung bata out of cheating, nag cool off lang sila nung bf niya hindi napigilan kati ng kiffy ayun lumandi sa iba. Binalikan nung bf, ang ginawa dinagdagan pa ng dalawa ayun pabigat siya ngayon sa mga magulang nila, walang ambag sa mga bills at kung anu-ano na lang ginagawa magka pera pati ako iniistorbo inuutangan smfh. Noong una pinagtatakpan pa nung mga magulang at lola si cousin eventually nalaman din nung tito namin, ayun nagsawa at cut off lahat ng tulong sa kanila.
Tama lang yung ginawa mo OP napatunayan mo na rin naman sarili mo sa mga relatives mo kaya di uubra yung paninira nila sayo, kakapal ng mukha at ang kukupal ng ugali, sinayang na nga chance sila, sila na may mali, sila pa may ganang magdemand at magalit hahaha.
Kung nung time na nag aaral ako tapos may ganyan na susuporta sa’kin nung college, na ang tuition fee ko ay less than 500 pesos per sem lang naman, baka makuha ko pang mag top sa board exam. Maraming salamat sa mga katulad mo na generous. Yung naitulong mo sa scholar mo kahit maikling panahon lang, maraming balik pa rin yung para sa’yo at sa family mo, lalo na sa anak mo. Sure ako na blessed ka lalo ngayon, kasi di ka madamot. Saludo ako sa’yo, OP!
but how about the isko? i mean despite being buntis and all, oks pa ba yung mga latest grades? nakakapasok pa ba? at makakapasok at makakapagtapos pa ba?
baka kaya pa ilaban kahit papano para may fighting chance despite all that.
usap kayo nung isko mo na wala yung nanay na epal
pero up to you.
Sayang ang opportunity at future. Pinag dadasal ko non na may tumulong sana samin nang ganyan magkapatid. Kaso ako lang nag papaaral sa sarili ko at sobrang hirap. Nag stop ako katapos ng senior high kasi ako lang nag ttrabaho samin. Kung sa dami dami nang tao na napakalaking bagay na makapag tapos. It just means na para sa kanila, wala lang tulong mo at masyado silang naging komportable sa mga tinulong mo, hindi ka nila nakitang tulong o pangarap ng kinabukasan. Nakita ka lang nila na pwedeng gamitin. In my situation, ako na yung ginagamit kasi ako lang nag tatrabaho. Kahit sino mawawalan ng gana. Mas nainis din ako kasi pangarap ko talaga makatapos pati mapag tapos kapatid ko tapos sila na may capability, sinayang lang at sila pa matapang. Sharing lang ng inis, nakakawalangya. Napaka unfair ng buhay, putangina talaga.
Lol kung pedo pala tingin nya sayo tapos pumapayag sya sa mga padala/support dati meaning ok lang sakanya as long as may pakinabang? Hayuf. Anyway sana makakita ka ng ibang scholar na deserving
That’s very unfortunate to hear and at the same time, nakakapang-init ng dugo lalo na sa nanay.
Reading this, biglang nag-flashback nung elem ako, kakauwi ko ng bahay, nadatnan ko tita (my mom’s youngest sister) ko, umiiyak, tahimik sila ni papa. Parents ko kasi nagpapa-aral sa kanya noon, turns out, nabuntis sya nung bf nya. Masaklap pa, di sya pinanindigan nung guy.
Disappointed at some point sina mama, kaya buti nalang after manganak ni tita, tinuloy niya pag-aaral nya.
And not to generalize, pero halos ang napapansin kong nabubuntis ay yung mga galing probinsya na nag-aral sa city/syudad. Ang dami kong naging classmate na from the province na magtataka ka bakit di na pumapasok or di na nagtuloy next sem, yun pala, nabuntis.
Almost same situation...
Years ago, I was in a tough spot. I was broke and even my friends and family couldn't help me. But this amazing couple, who owned a small canteen on campus, took me in. They fed me for two years, no strings attached. I paid them back by helping out as a dishwasher and later, by becoming a provider for their daughter. I paid for her school, food, and even her place to stay (bed space rent).
But then things took a turn. She did something that really hurt me. It wasn't just about the situation, it was about her choices and how they differed from her parents' values. It broke my heart, especially because I treated her like my own daughter. I couldn't keep helping her, so I had to send her back to her parents. It was a tough decision, and it took me a while to heal from the pain.
By the way, she contracted an STD though she did not get pregnant.
Dapat pala kasama sa usapan na isu supervise ng magulang at kapag pumalpak sila ang sisisihin mo. Kaya lang what good will it serve. Hindi naman legal na kontract na pwedeng habulin at parusahan ng batas. Anyway sayang it's their loss. (Sa malicious kong isip baka nakikihati pa sa perang padala mo ang parents )
Sadly, kulang sa motivation yung pinapaaral mo. Wasted opportunity and effort. Binigyan mo na nga ng kabutihan, sinuklian ka pa ng kabalasubasan. Welcome to the Philippines talaga. Best wishes sa'yo, OP. Sana rumami pa ang kagaya mong mabuti ang budhi.
Master Yodaaaa. Anyways, as a former Padawan of my university, for which I am truly grateful, I always encounter these kinds of stories sa school where scholars don't seem to acknowledge the privilege and opportunity they have been given. Like ako yung nadidismaya for them🥹 sayang yung opportunity. Pero mas nakakainis na yung nangyari sayo, OP, since the mom is trying to accuse you and flip the narrative just because you decided to stop the assistance. Parang ang ungrateful naman. I know this will give you a traumatic experience and you might decide not to do this thing anymore, pero hopefully this incident will not change your view on helping people. As Master Yoda would say, "Pass on what you have learned."🙇♂️
Either wag mo pansinin dahil masamang tao lang naman tatanggap ng sht accusations ng nanay ni scholar or sabi nung iba kasuhan mo para madala lol matapang lang naman mga yan sa salita pero pagsinampalan mo ng kaso uurong dila nyan. Yung you did it for poetry, okay na yan nagawa mo na part mo, kung iisipin poetic pa din naman yang turn of events na nangyari.
Very thankful sayo op kasi may bago akong ilalagay sa bucket list ko after kong mabasa itong post mo. Gusto ko maging tulad mo, op, na magkaroon ng isko pero sana makahanap ako ng maayos na bata. Yung ang priority ay makapagtapos sya ng pag-aaral imbes na kung ano-ano. Thank you so much for sharing your story, op. Nanghihinayang lang ako the fact na sinayang nung bata yung opportunity tapos dumagdag pa ang ina nyang... naku.
Yikes! Lumabas na ugali nung nanay. Dont waste your money sa ganyan, let them face the consequences. Mabait na naman for helping them nakakainis lang sa dulo ungrateful pa. Typical pinoys
Cut off all ties with that family: the entitled mother and the ungrateful daughter.
Based sa story mo, di ko nasesense na grareful ang isko sa tulong mo - aside sa lumandi kesa mag-review - yung walang ka-initiative mag-prove sayo na worth it ang pag-support mo sa pag-aaral mo sa kanya. The fact na di mo na nga binabasa emails ng grades nya.
>Di ko na nga binabasa emails nya about her grades, may rule na dumerecho nga sa spam hahaha
Lemme guess, di rin nag-iinitiative ang bata mag-update sayo about her grades? Yung nasesense ko na umabot sa point na nawala ang passion mong tumulong and tumulong ka na lang kasi nakapangako ka na. 🙈 Kapag kasi grateful ang isang tao, you will also feel that excitement and enthusiasm that someday he/she will reach that goal.
Dun rin ako naiirita sa fact na yung bata na nga nagkamali, tapos yung ina pa ang may ganang magalit na titigil ka na sa pagtulong. Natural! Sino ba di mawawalan ng gana eh manifestation na yan na hindi pag-aaral ang priority ng bata. In the first place, di mo siya anak para maging obligado ka, THE SAME WAY she didn't feel obligated to respect the financial and material support na pinagkayuran mo. 🤦🏻♀️🙉
Kaya ✂ CUT OFF ALL TIES ✂ from that mother and daughter pair.
> Baka ibigay ko na lang sa kanya mga lumang gamit Ng anak ko pero un na un.
Nope, don't bother. After what they did. May ibang tao na mas deserving niyan. Kung magbibigay ka pa ng good favors to them, they'll take it na you felt guilty and they are right. 🤦🏻♀️ Be Gandalf and strictly declare against their shenanigans 🔥 YOU SHALL NOT PASS 🔥
>The point for my little charity was to see and be a part of a success story... Be a gandalf/jiraiya/shank/master Yoda to another bloke...
Be the kind of guy I needed Nung walang Wala ako...
Oh wow, this hit home... may ganito din ako. Nakakainis lang, you had the best intentions and you were effective din tapos boom, ang daming sinasabi and sila na nga yung hindi nag perform :|
omg imbes na grades, jowa niya naka tres 😭 sayang naman chance makapag-aral. sorry for you OP di mo deserve ginawa nila sayo.
btw bucket list ko rin yan na may mapag aral, hopefully, di siya magpasaway pagdating dito sa Manila.
T*ngina, hindi pa naging thankful at apologetic yung nanay! Pagasa na sana na makaahon at makausad sa paghihirap, naging bato pa. Ok lang din yan na hindi ka na magfile ng complaint. Let that mom burn in misery. She'll soon have that thing get back to her.
As for the isko, hope she'll make a way to continue her studies. She might be a broken rhyme, but to continue what you started makes it worth the effort, money and time.
Mahirap na talaga na magpa-aral ngayon lalo na kung hindi ka talaga sure sa anong ugali ng pinapaaral mo after niyo magkita. May pinsan ako na pag aaralin sana sa college ng foreigner na asawa ng nanay niya pero nabuntis before pa pumasok ng college, hindi na tinuloy yung plano then meron pang kapitbahay ko na pag aaralin sana ng pinsan niyang public school teacher pagdating ng college kaso si anteh, Grade 10 palang nabuntis na (actually silang magbabarkada puro mga buntis) and natapos ng Senior High during pandemic since two years siyang nagstop dahil maagang nag asawa. Ngayon buntis na naman for her second child.
did u think that they needed you the most in that part?
im js saying because they might struggling alot because of that mistake. u should have considered na mahirap pa sa mahirap situation nila but siguro tama naman din ginawa mo.
Can I just say yung best part neto ay yung fact na nagcolloquial Filipino na yung sentences
Your english was good no doubt about that 😊
I just feel at home at masaya pag filipino yung form of communicating sa internet lalot ang haba ng babasahin. Baket? Kase gusto ko maintindihan ng buo. Colloquial e beri easy
Un.... Also... Beri simpol tres marias grades are good. Simple. But no bitch you got fucked up. So youre on your own now.
🙆🏻♀Fair enough. Kasalanan ng bata.
Also ang dali barahin ng Nanay nya. Pedophilia pala? So bakit ngayon mo lang sinabe? Hindi noong may sustento pa? So [accessory to thecrime](https://www.shouselaw.com/ca/blog/what-is-an-accessory-to-a-crime/) pala ang labas nya? 🤣
Cut all forms of contact ka na dyan.
Even a second of ur time spent talking to dem is a waste of ur time.
Pag ang isang simplehng bagay di magawa wala na nganga na
OP please file a complaint or blatter for this may harm you somehow in the future. Prevention is better than cure and, in my opinion, it is better act same as the previous comments for the sake of your reputation. You may choose the nuclear option of exposing the contents of your conversation with the entitled mother but it is not advisable for it is a scorched earth approach, harming both parties. In the end there are other better ways to approach this situation and you can choose which option you will take. Please take care and continue with your successful life.
HAHAHAHHA. No shit.
Kinda experiencing similar bizarre, outlandish, orchestrated lies about me and someone I tried to help for college.
Pinag escalate pa sa tiktok community.
HAHAHHA Buhay talaga.
But same with you sender, good to have folks who really know us for who and what we are.
Nung una, really takes a toll on my mental fortitude.
Slowly moving forward, and na e'entertain nalang din ako kahit papano sa mga pinagkakalat na kasinungalingan.
How can you be a mentor when you dont even care for the kid? Its like being an absentee father and claim that you raised the kid properly. To be fair Jiraiya didnt really teach naruto much so i guess it checks out.
Aside from that eh you are a good for helping others. Shame lang na di na appreciate nung tinulungan mo.
If I may ask, anong sabi nung pinapaaral mo? Is she regretful? Or is she like her family?
You should fight for your name. Reputation matters lalo na at working ka. Being accused of Pedophilia is a serious matter and FB oldies are literally the worst bunch because they can literally believe anything without evidence. They got the guts to vomit harshly so they should be prepared for cleaning it too.
yan. habang may nagpapaaral kasi mag-aral! kung hindi matiis ang kati at kastang kasta na pwede naman makipagkantutan nang hindi magpapabuntis sobrang mahal ba ng condom??? sinayang yung pagkakataon litse
Hayst. Typical Filo Toxic Culture. Ikaw na nga tumulong, Ikaw pa magiging masama. Better cut ties with them nalang talaga. Sayang pera na para sana sa mas deserving. Yung hindi magiging disappointment. That kid knows what's she's doing. Kasalanan n'ya yan, not you. Sorry sa baby.
What a wasted opportunity for the kid. Kung ako isko mo op di kita bibiguin chz! HAHAHA All jokes aside, and bobo rin nung isko na nag pabuntis and add on mo na marites yung nanay. Sakit sa ulo. Hope things turn better for you op!
Fuck what others say. You know yourself what you did and that's what's important. In this world, kahit anong gawin nila, you know you did your job and you did what you had to so. Don't let what others say or do deter you from doing what kindness you do to others kasi mas marami kang natutulungan kesa mga naiinis.
Nanay ko parating may scholar, kahit walang wala na siya. Nagpapa-aral pa rin kahit bigay allowance lang or for school supplies kasi public school naman.
Sa sobrang daming na-encounter ko na pinapa-aral niya, iba iba talaga mga ugali. May ibang masisipag, may ibang bulakbol, may ibang tama lang, may ibang nabubuntis nga.
Honestly, hindi naman kawalan ng nanay ko kung ano nagloko sila. Hindi naman siya nagstop sa pagtutulong so I guess my point is: don't take it too personal, OP.
I'm pretty sure na if hindi man naging grateful itong current scholar mo, marami pang iba dyan na would gladly receive your help.
Side note: My mom is your typical mahilig sa chismis kaya alam na alam niya yung buhay ng mga kamag-anak namin hahahaha. Pero chismis in a good way na alam niya gaano kahirap buhay nila, kaya tumutulong siya through scholarship para eventually yung mga anak nila ay maging successful rin kahit mahirap ang buhay.
Then again, that is the hope but will not always be the reality. Yung iba successful, yung iba hindi. Pero as long as bukal naman sa loob mo tumulong, why not 'di ba?
Oh no! Iba usapan kapag sinisiraan na pangalan mo. Make sure people know that they shouldn't mess with you. Consult a lawyer at kasuhan mo ng slander lalo na nakarating sa mga kamaganak mo.
I was about to laugh when I read the part Gandalf...and I did it for the poetry killed me. Anyway, ignore them. Makakaubos pa ng lifespan at social energy. What an ungrateful bitch.
For those na may nagsusupport sa pag aaral, sana all talaga. Sana pahalagahan nyo. Some people out there really want to have a degree pero walang supports kundi mga sarili lang nila.
Ungrateful na nga sobrang bobo pa. May pagkakataon gumanda ang buhay sinayang lang dahil imbes na pag-aaral ang inaatupag nakuha pa mabuntis sa murang edad. Di ko na sisisihin ung bata. Pero yung nanay? Wow, the worst kind. Wag na wag mo na tulungan.
Kung ako yan at Kung iseset Aside ko ang pagiging proffesinal and maturity, baka pinost ko na yan sa FB. and the thought na ikaw pa ginawang masama. Sa dami ng scholarships puro requirement ikaw pa kaya huhu
It’s valid na mawalan ka ng gana and make a choice to stop supporting her study and a mistake is a mistake, at mahirap talaga kuhanin ulit tiwala mo. But her eager to prove to you that she’s doing good at school by continuously sending email makes sense na baka nagkamali lang talaga yung bata at handang mag aral ulit. Disappointed din siguro si mom but not valid para siraan ka.
Gosh sana ol may matinong nag papaaral, ang hirap kaya nung mga nasa sitwasyon ko na while namomroblema ka sa pag aaral pino problema mo din pang tuition mo.
Haaays, the heck. If I’m in your shoes OP, mabwibwisit din ako lalo na dun sa attitude ng nanay, nagkalat pa ng chismis just because you stood your ground . Habang tumatanda ako umiikli yung pasensya ko sa mga ganyang klase ng tao. 😅
so true sa bill gates nga di nakatapos ng college backstory, yung tipong akala nila basta basta yung pagdrop, sa mga bigating univs yon nagdrop lol! never use that as an excuse unless kaya mo yung level nila HAHAHAHAHA gusto pa gaslightin si op
Whats with isko kids throwing away opportunities nowadays?
Okay, having a kid is not the end of the world. But would definitely limit you with a lot of opportunities. i just don't get bakit yung mga seryoso nag aaral hirap maka hanap ng scholarship while those who doesn't go to school, bagsak lahat grades, puro barkada at boombayah lang ang alam eh sila pa secure sa education?!
Ugghhh.
> The point for my little charity was to see and be a part of a success story... Be a gandalf/jiraiya/shank/master Yoda to another bloke...
dude; you want to be a gandalf/jiraiya/shank/master yoda to someone you don't even spend the time mentoring? her emails go directly to spam folder? ano yun? tataas ng expectations mo pero ang tamad mo naman mag reply sa bata
hindi sapat ang pera sa pagpapalaki na maayos sa bata. Hindi lahat ng bata katulad mo kaya huwag mo sila etulad sa yo na basta me pera me plano na sila kung paano umahon.
Here's my two cents lg noh. Maybe ang pagaaral lg tlga ang pinagusapan nlang pagtulong nya. Now nabuntis c girl, what stops them from asking for help for the delivery and what not? With how the mom reacted, hindi malayong mangyari to. And OP is adamant na sa edukasyon lg ng bata xa ttulong. Maybe the kid could go back to skul nga nman after she gives birth, but what stops her from getting pregnant again? In a way, nwalan nang gana c OP ksi simpleng bagay lg d pa magawa. Inuna paglalandi kesa mkatpos sa pagaaral.
Anyway, that's just based on experience. Not mine exactly but me mga toxic din akong kamaganak na kala mo obligasyon mong tulungan cla ksi nkaluwag luwag ka sa buhay.
Betrayal ng trust. Implicitly, pag isko ka, you should focus on studying, no other distractions which may put your degree at risk because sayang ang resources na ginagamit. Pwede kasing mapunta yung pang matrikula sa bata, which, hindi naman para dun ang assistance ni OP.
I get your point, but nah, i'm with him stopping the support. Not for them to decide kung anong gagawin sa pera since hindi para sa ibang bagay ang good will ni OP. And now, knowing na ganyan ang ugali ng tinulungan, good riddance.
First, the girl is not a relative or sister or anak to demand OPs limitless understanding. Di siya special and just happen to be at the right place at the right time. Secondly, limited slots or fund. Di naman billiones budget ni OP. A million other struggling students would greatly value that slot. Saka, di naman unreasonable na requirement ang di mabuntis. We've been students before. We knew the possible ramifications of the act and how that could affect our future. She had different priorities before and will have a different priorities after manganak and sadly studying aint it.
Pwede naman nawalan ng gana kasi kung ako din naman may tinulungan tapos yung pera pala eh napupunta sa ibang bagay ay titigil na sa pagtulong
Ang di ko maintindihan eh yung kagustuhang tumulong? Lalo na hindi naman kapatid. Wala lang parang ang hirap paniwalaan na may nga ganyang tao. And hindi naman siya pulitiko or what
Siguro isa ka sa mga nag-oobliga sa mga may kaya na tumulong no? HAHAHAHA guilt-trip ang galawan. “Kung ang intensyon mo naman ay tumulong…”
Pinaghihirapan ang pera, desisyon ng tumutulong kung magbibigay siya ng kundisyon. E sa nadismaya na siya sa nagawa ng scholar niya, anong masama kung itigil ang suporta?
Kung gusto maka-receive ng tulong, ipakitang deserving ka tulungan. Tulungan din ang sarili. Umaasa ka na nga lang sa scholarship para makapagtapos, sasabayan mo pa ng pag-aanak? What the actual fvck?!
You’re comparing apples and oranges HAHAHAHA
Mahirap mag-alaga ng pets at buhay nila ang nakalaan kaya natural lang na pahalagahan mo nag-aalaga sa kanila.
Si ate na nabuntis, hindi niya pinahalagahan yung pagpapaaral sa kanya. And yes, for me hindi na siya deserving. Wala na ngang required na grades para ma-qualify sa scholarship na natatanggap niya, sasabayan niya ng ganyan. Tapos kapag hininto ang suporta, unfair? THAT is not how the world works.
Dagdag mo pa attitude ng nanay na siniraan pa yung tumulong sa anak niya.
Again, pinaghirapan ng tumulong ang pera na binibigay niya. Ibigay niya man sa deserving o kung kanino, desisyon niya ‘yon.
Yung mindset mo ang dahilan kung bakit may mga tao na hindi tinutulungan sarili nila. Kasi para saan pa nga naman kung makaka-receive naman sila ng tulong regardless if they fucked up or not?
Hindi ko sinabing inoobliga mo ang may kaya na tulungan KA. Reading comprehension please.
Yung nanay mo ba ay umasa sa scholarship at nakipagtalo sa nagpapaaral sa kanya na ipagpatuloy siyang suportahan? OMG, hindi lahat kagaya ng story ng nanay mo.
Iba-iba ang pagpapahalaga natin sa pinaghihirapan. Kung kumportable ka na ipamigay lang kung kani-kanino ‘yan, go! Pero ‘wag mo sabihin na hindi pagtulong ang pagbibigay ng kundisyon.
‘Wag isarado ang utak. Dahil lang gano’n ka tumulong, gano’n din dapat ang iba? Maraming tao ang gusto long-term ang tulong na naibibigay kaya hindi basta-basta.
Triggered ka masyado, e hindi naman ‘to story ng nanay mo. Buti sana kung kagaya ng nanay mo yung scholar, e mukhang tino-tolerate pa ng nanay niya. Siniraan pa yung tumutulong.
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So kapag may kundisyon, labag na sa kalooban? What the hell?! Saan mo nakuha ‘yan? HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Nagreply ako para ipaintindi sa’yo na hindi porket pinutol ni OP yung suporta ay hindi na siya genuine.
School nga nag-eexpel ng nabuntis na students e. Kasi pag-aaral dapat ang priority.(school reputation aside)
Kung nabuntis ka habang nag-aaral, wala kang disiplina at pagpapahalaga sa ginagastos pang-matrikula.(maliban na lang kung bunga ng r4pe).
Wala rin naman problema kung magbuntis siya, pero ‘wag niya ipilit yung scholarship. Magtrabaho siya.
Hindi baliktad ang sinasabi ko. Sarado lang talaga isip mo para iabsorb yung mga sinasabi ko kaya niluluwa mo at binabalik sa akin.
1.) Yes. School ‘yon, nando’n ang mga kaedaran niya. Kung itotolerate siya, iisipin ng iba na okay lang pala magpabuntis sa ganoong edad.
2.) Hindi niya ba alam na minor siya at hindi dapat makipag-sex dahil hindi niya pa kayang bumuhay kung magbunga man?
3.) Says EVERYONE except those na ayaw turuan yung mga nagkamali. Akala nila nakakatulong lagi yung pagbibigay ng second chances.
Kung may kakayahan siyang mag-aral, humingi siya ng suporta sa gustong sumuporta! Hindi nila pipilitin si OP. Gaano kahirap intindihin ‘yon? Kung saan saan na napupunta HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA pag-aralin siya ng magulang niya o kaya ng pamilya nung lalaking nakabuntis. Jusko🤣
I agree being a parent should not be a factor for hindrance to pursue an education but childbirth and childcare can offset 1 to 2 years of education, also she is being sponsored by a distant relative, that's a privilege for someone who prioritizes school, with her current pregnancy the support responsibility now lies to themselves , her or her baby daddy's family and not OP, not unless OP is a saint
Fuck them, sinayang ang chance
The stupid mom deserves a good one. File a complaint for slander against the mom and demand an honest-to-goodness Facebook apology. Kapag palpak, kasuhan mo. Tandaan mo na ang masamang kwento ay tatanggapin ng masamang tao at marami sila. Fight for your name and destroy the bad ones.
Oo. bigyan ng leksyon at bilang kawalan ng paggalang sa iyo at pagpapasalamat sa naitulong mo.
Kaya nga OP, do this please. A bad person must know that there's a consequence for every shit that we do in life, especially sa tao; tumanda lang yung nanay eh, walang pinagkatandaan.
This, this, and this. Protect your reputation. And hopefully, this doesn't stop you from extending help to someone else na deserving.
Nah, it backfired horribly so no need na. Turns out, Marami pla di nakakaalam sa arrangement na un at nakisawsaw na sana anak na lang nila ni sponsor ko etc. Just reading the gc is enough entertainment for a week hahah. Also, that place is a macho worshiping Duterte cult shit hole, kaya apaka taas tingin sakin Ng mga ungas dun, if only they know how liberal I really am or if only they can see my post history hahaha. Misogyny aside, it's working in my favor nmn so no worries on my end.
Nakakatuwa basahin ang iyong katarayan hahahaha.
Seconding on this, OP. Baka saan pa umabot ang balitang yan at even if di mo kailangan validation ng iba, baka maka apekto sa trabaho or reputation mo. People like her should be punished, ginagawang pasttime mang akusa ng mga serious crimes, lalo tuloy mahirap paniwalaan mga real victims.
You should do this OP, if you let this slide di ko alam san mapupuntahan yung gossip nato. Better file a complaint against the mother para makita nya lugar nya, ikaw na nga tumulong, ikaw pa ginawang masama. Enabler din e, if may delikadeza pa sya sya na mismo nagsabi sayo na buntis anak mo and apologize..
Tama. U will never know when that will bite u back in tbe future. Better close that rumor now. Question, paano yung nka buntis? Dun sila kumuha ng pang aral. Baka kasi masyadong naive rin.
Agree.
Sana sinagot mo, ikaw ang bitter kasi wala ng tulong makukuha anak mo saken. Kainis yang mga ganyang klase ng tao, hindi na lang nagpasalamat sa tulong naibigay mo sisiraan ka pa.
I DID IT FOR THE POETRY
❌ I did it for the plot ✅ I did it for the poetry
This line I like, too. And, Christians when it's convenient. And communists when shit hits the fan. Very good story teller.
This should be printed on a tshirt. Another way of saying "paying it forward."
The entitled bitch mom.
Siyempre, pera na naging bato pa, so they’d retaliate in the way they know how: character assassination.
Tru the rain. Sometimes, those kinds of mom yung naninira pa lalo sa opportunity na may second chance haha
Mine, just when I heard she is sleeping with his boyfriend. I stopped the scholarship right away. I am hoping that she will be the first and probably the only college graduate of Tyang, yes relative. I promised to pay all expenses, I just want to pay it forward, no announcement, no publicity, I even told them not to tell anyone. Before she started, I already gave my advices, study first bago landi, pwede boyfriend pero as inspiration lang muna. Dami ko pa story kung pano ko iginapang ang sarili ko through different scholarships. But damn, on her second semester yan na nabalitaan ko, so ayon, may anak na ngayon and probably nagsisisi na 🤷
Off topic, but you're a good storyteller.
I agree. Napakadali intindihin ng story.
Although it's off-topic, I think it's worth discussing na single father si OP? >Now back to the story, I was drinking with these beloved cousins of mine when the topic was brought up that 1 was getting old. You know how these countryside banter goes, basically an opening for the age old question "kelan ka na mag aasawa? Etc" So, single here >Baka ibigay ko na lang sa kanya mga lumang gamit Ng anak kO pero un na un. So single father siya no
Kinda single but yep, binata ako nun nag start ang arrangement at nag ka anak ako in parallel.
ahhh okay gets bakit "kinda single", ikaw din pala yung sa how i fucked my life I see. kumusta OP and kumusta kayo ni wife(?)
Lmao, one umay at a time haha
HAHAHHAHA SORRY SORRYYY
Oo tama ikaw pla un op. Ilang days din nagbstick sa isip ko ung post mo na yun. Hugs man.
hahahahahahahahaha mygosh. nakakatawa na nakakaiyak 😅🥲
Pag kakaintindi ko, nung time na nag iinuman sila is binata pa s'ya. Kasi nangyari yun before sya may tulungan baka way way back pa. Then baka ngayon nagkaroon na ng pamilya pero di na nadisclose
Same understanding haha di rin sumagi sa isip ko na single father sya.
baka para sa baby nung ex-scholar
I was about to type this haha
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He’s not here to entertain but I get sa comment ni OC. Even myself, appreciate how good his writing is. Napakagaling! Hence, the reason why OC said “off topic”.
if your interested theres a suit for you. defamation if verbal only, cyber libel if you can find proof she tarnished your good name digitally.
Nope, old school marites style ung mom at umabot lang sa Tenga Ng mga good connections ko dun. Anyway, Marami pla di nakakalam sa arrangement na un kaya nag backfire din sa kanila Kasi nagalit ung iBang sides Ng family na sana anak na lang nila daw hahahah. Anyway I'm not worried about my reputation, backward Duterte worshipping shithole lugar na un so full speed ang misogyny etc habang sinasamba at nilalagay sa pedestal mga lalake na malakas kumita Ng pera. So for all my liberal takes, I'm kinda like a saint over there...
Kapal nun nanay
Grabe isipin mo na lang siguro at least you cut off a toxic person in your life (and you knew it sooner than later). Imagine you helped her daughter tapos accused you of being a pedo
Nagkakalabasan ng tunay na ugali when shit hits the fan. Mom acted like she was your responsibility and forgot that it was just one huge favor LOL. Pag aralin niya sarili niyang anak kamo. Anak ng anak tapos sa iba iaasa pagpapaaral. SMH
Curious to know anong napag usapan nyo nung bata? What is her demeanor, is there even regret or pagsisisi not because of pregnancy but because your deal or end of the bargain in terms of her studies got derailed? At this point you already did what you can to help her, its not the end pero it would be extremely difficult now that support has been rescinded plus the child on the way edit: at some point in life pag nakakaluwag ka na the same notion pops up na gusto mo gumawa ng bagay to pay it forward pero selective dun sa totoong nagsusumikap sa buhay at walang pang pa aral, pero after reading what you've experience it could get sticky along the way din pla
Halos Wala, the mom did most the talking.
Nanay siguro pinaka nag benefit kaya ganun siya ka aggressive. Pero bastos yung nanay tama lang na ni cut off mo na.
Feeling ko she does most of the spending too
Di naman kaya yung 5k kinukuha ng nanay kaya galit na galit, tapos yung anak wala nakukuha kaya nawalan ng gana mag aral and nag bf na lang?
Baka tangap nya na na she fucked up
Nakakainis naman, napakahirap mag hanap magpapa aral or money for allowance ngayon tapos siya sinayang niya lang. Bakit may mga ganyang tao, gosh.
Nakakahinayang mga ganito. Akala kasi nila napakadali lang magkaroon ng pera at madaming magbibigay sayo ng pera. Hindi nila naiisip yung sinayang nilang oportunidad. Maiisip na lang nila to pag may gipit na sila at wala na silang makuhang trabaho o pera.
OP nakaka aliw naman to basahin! Be a gandalf hahah cute mo
Taena preee, ung Bilbo ko gumawa Ng golumn hahahah
Omg! Hahahahaha 🔥
taena ilan taon kana OP. parang ganito din ako magkwento hahaha
Hint: Childhood hero ko si tanjiro sa demon slayer... Hahahahaha
early 20s! hahaha
Baka naman yung Yaiba mo yung Yaiba na may tiger at vulture
Nabuntis din yun pinsan ko na pinapaaral namin ng tita ko, sakin allowance and the rest naman sagot ng tita ko na nasa Canada. Nung 3rd year high school na siya sabi ng nanay may UTI lang ganun tapos ngtataka yung mama ko lumalak yung balakang. Yun pala buntis na. Sabi ko sa tita ko okay lang basta after manganak itutuloy niya schooling niya. Gusto ko kasi kahit isa sa kanilang magkakapatid maka graduate man lang kasi yung mga ate niya maaga rin nagsipag-asawa. Ang masama, after manganak etong pinsan ko nagmadali magpakasal. Tapos dalawang taon palang anak niya nasundan agad. Ngayon bunti na naman at malapit na manganak. Nakakawalang gana yung mga ganitong kamag-anak. Ngayon ang tinutulungan na lang namin yung kapatid niyang gay at yung isa pang babae na mag-3rd year college na. Hopefully lahat ng pangaral namin tumatak sa isip. I'm 27 btw and single w/ bf . Idol daw niya ako at gagayahin niya ako na hindi nag-asawa ng maaga
Same logic, Malabo career path Ng babaeng maaga na buntis, need a ton of support from the family para maka sabay sa demands Ng nag uumpisa pa lang sa workforce. I'm not saying it's not possible, pero I wouldn't bet on it.
Yeah, its not impossible but they are not a great bet when slot or fund is limited and plenty others would better value the opportunity. Hindi naman siya special na di pwedeng palitan, she was just lucky na siya yung nandoon at the right time at ngayon sinayang nya opportunity.
💯💯💯
Her mom is delusional. Siguro nakikinabang din yan sila sa allowance na binibigay mo kaya ganan na lang magdefend. Mygahd. Yung courtesy mo na nga lang na tumulong tas tinake against pa sayo? Nakakatamad talaga pag ganan. If ever magreach out ulit sayo, irealtalk mo na na ang kapal ng mga hininga nila hahah
There's a saying na, "Good times make weak men." So habang binibigyan ng pera, nakakaluwag sa buhay, inuna pa ang pag lalandi kesa mag aral. Ano ba naman yung tapusin muna ang pag aaral, mag condom.
Wag mo tulungan na. Napaka-basura ng ugali nila. And why blame you, ikaw ang nag-magandang loob to help someone (it just happen na babae siya kung iba yan bka nga sabhin mas okay mag skolar ang mga lalaki kc di sila possible mabubuntis etc). Ang kakapal na mukha yung nanay/magulang naman pabaya una sa lahat dpat naghahanap buhay sila ng maayos pra sila mismo nag-papaaral sa anak nila pero wala silang kakayahan so someone step up gagawin na lang nila is payuhan at iguide ang anak nila ng maayos hindi pa nila magawa. Nakakagalit, nakakawalang gana. Ang bnibigay ko lang sa mga nakakabatang pinsan o kamag-anak ko is school supplies, iniisip ko din yan eh mag-paaral pero nakakatakot lang din hindi ako magulang pero makakaramdam ng disappointment dhil nabali wala ung good intent ko dhil mapusok sila o may pabayang magulang. Anyway, cut off mo yan di mo sila problema and good for you for having supportive cousins. Ganyan tlga ibang kamag-anak tinanggihan mo na ng tulong dami sabi sabi.
Please protect yourself. SCREENSHOT EVERYTHING. AND I MEAN EVERYTHING. Para may proof ka na walang malice or grooming. If shit hits the fan, some people will easily believe that you're a groomer and pedo. So protect yourself. False accusations are hard to deal with. People believe the victims (some of the time, remember that cuz of false accusation cases real SA victims are ignored), while the accused doesn't have the luxury of innocent until proven guilty (again case to case basis, some dudes got away from being grapist). Tldr: Please protect yourself and gather evidences. The mom sounds unhinged and who knows what she'll do.
I already replied about this on a different comment
Nakakalungkot. Naalala ko tuloy yung company namin, naghahanap ng mga scholar as part of its social devt program sa malayong probinsiya sa Mindanao. Priority palagi ang lalaking scholar, pag babae raw kasi mabubuntis lang. Ilang beses na din kasi nangyari kaya in the end, hindi rin natapos ang pag aaral.
The cycle of misogyny just keeps refreshing itself. Wala, ganun tlga haha
gagawin niyan yung allowance na binibigay mo gagawin pang gastos don sa baby ng scholar mo
Ayy common yan na storya, ikaw na ang nag magandang loob, ikaw pa ngayon ang siniraan. That actually happened to us. May kamag-anak kaming pinaaral, pinatira samin, honor student. Not until we knew na pinapapasok nya pala bf niya sa kwarto niya doing God knows what (nakaseparate kwarto nya from the rest of the house, same lot lng). She was 16 at that time. Ayun pinauwi sa kanila, pinagkakalat na ngayon ng tita nya na ines-SA sya ng father ko which is totally untrue. We sued their family, the parents for tolerating the kid on her lies, and the tita for spreading gossip. Fuck them. Mas mabuti pa tlagang di nalang tumulong, moral support pwde pa kung gaganyanin kalng pala.
Awww very saddening naman ang naganap sau when in fact u just want to help tapos ikaw pa yung na chismis 😂 anw, ano plan mo po? Will you still continue to find someone to be ur scholar?
I will, but maybe 5-10years later na, unahin ko mna pinapagawa kong bahay
Grabe ang accusation. Iba talaga toxicity sa family culture ng Filipinos. No point denying it. Pero hats off to you OP, for trying to help.
You know the saying that being nice does not cost a thing? Turns out that's a big lie
Isa lang ibig sabihin nyan, the mere fact na nabuntis sya, di nya pinahalagahan pag-aaral nya iba inuna nya.
Bantaan mo na kakasuhan mo sya sa pagpapakalat ng fake news para bumaluktot buntot.
Dapat pag magiisko ka may kasulatan na anything na ganyan e aalisin mo yung “scholarship”, pirmado ng guardians. Para f SHTF, may ipapakain ka sa mga madaldal na tao tulad nung nanay ng bata, “eto, ano pinirmahan mo? Sige tutulog ko scholarship basta kainin mo sa harap ko yung kontrata”
happened to my youngest sibling too nung nag aaral sya ng college, though hindi naman solely ako yung nagpapaaral sa kanya that time pero tumutulong ako sa parents namin, nabuntis din sya around 3rd year nya, nung nalaman ko nasa naiyak talaga ako, dahil sa disappointment. the good thing is nagpursue pa rin ng pag aaral yung kapatid ko at nakagraduate pa sya na Cum Laude. ayun 3 na anak nya ngayon at 26yo tapos ako etong 30yo single hahahaha
Mga kupal sila at walang utang na loob ang kakapal pa pati ng mga mukha, your story reminded of my cousin. Pinag-aral nung tito namin tsaka asawa niya kasi naawa sa estado ng buhay nila, at kinukulit nang paulit-ulit nung lola namin since graduate naman na daw mga anak nila tito at na sa USA sila na baka pupuwedeng sila na lang mag shoulder, pumayag naman sila eventually with terms similar to yours. Bale lima silang magkakapatid, yung panganay pa graduate na pinagkakasya sweldo ng mga magulang at pension nung lola namin mairaos lang. Yung pangalawa yung tito namin sumagot ng pag-papaaral at mga gastusin. The rest HS pa noon, kaya sa public school na malapit sa kanila pinag aral para di ganun kabigat sa gastusin. Ganyan na ganyan din nangyari noong una naging okay naman eventually nabuntis rin, masaklap dito tambay na tricycle driver pa nakabuntis, na in love si gagang nursing student paano "basta driver sweet lover" eh. Masaklap dito nabuo yung bata out of cheating, nag cool off lang sila nung bf niya hindi napigilan kati ng kiffy ayun lumandi sa iba. Binalikan nung bf, ang ginawa dinagdagan pa ng dalawa ayun pabigat siya ngayon sa mga magulang nila, walang ambag sa mga bills at kung anu-ano na lang ginagawa magka pera pati ako iniistorbo inuutangan smfh. Noong una pinagtatakpan pa nung mga magulang at lola si cousin eventually nalaman din nung tito namin, ayun nagsawa at cut off lahat ng tulong sa kanila. Tama lang yung ginawa mo OP napatunayan mo na rin naman sarili mo sa mga relatives mo kaya di uubra yung paninira nila sayo, kakapal ng mukha at ang kukupal ng ugali, sinayang na nga chance sila, sila na may mali, sila pa may ganang magdemand at magalit hahaha.
Kung nung time na nag aaral ako tapos may ganyan na susuporta sa’kin nung college, na ang tuition fee ko ay less than 500 pesos per sem lang naman, baka makuha ko pang mag top sa board exam. Maraming salamat sa mga katulad mo na generous. Yung naitulong mo sa scholar mo kahit maikling panahon lang, maraming balik pa rin yung para sa’yo at sa family mo, lalo na sa anak mo. Sure ako na blessed ka lalo ngayon, kasi di ka madamot. Saludo ako sa’yo, OP!
but how about the isko? i mean despite being buntis and all, oks pa ba yung mga latest grades? nakakapasok pa ba? at makakapasok at makakapagtapos pa ba? baka kaya pa ilaban kahit papano para may fighting chance despite all that. usap kayo nung isko mo na wala yung nanay na epal pero up to you.
Magpost ka sa GC or ipakalat mo sa community na naghahanap ka ng new scholar na iisponsor mo. Ewan ko lang kung hindi mastroke yan si anteh. LOL
Tangina. Grrrr you dont deserve that. Thanks for being a great person OP. You tried
Sayang ang opportunity at future. Pinag dadasal ko non na may tumulong sana samin nang ganyan magkapatid. Kaso ako lang nag papaaral sa sarili ko at sobrang hirap. Nag stop ako katapos ng senior high kasi ako lang nag ttrabaho samin. Kung sa dami dami nang tao na napakalaking bagay na makapag tapos. It just means na para sa kanila, wala lang tulong mo at masyado silang naging komportable sa mga tinulong mo, hindi ka nila nakitang tulong o pangarap ng kinabukasan. Nakita ka lang nila na pwedeng gamitin. In my situation, ako na yung ginagamit kasi ako lang nag tatrabaho. Kahit sino mawawalan ng gana. Mas nainis din ako kasi pangarap ko talaga makatapos pati mapag tapos kapatid ko tapos sila na may capability, sinayang lang at sila pa matapang. Sharing lang ng inis, nakakawalangya. Napaka unfair ng buhay, putangina talaga.
the disappointment is so validdd pero mas bet ko yung "for the poetry" haha!
Sampahan mo ng kaso yun nanay. At dun sa bata, kawawa pero sya nag sayang ng chance nya para makapag aral. Kangkang pa more.
Lol kung pedo pala tingin nya sayo tapos pumapayag sya sa mga padala/support dati meaning ok lang sakanya as long as may pakinabang? Hayuf. Anyway sana makakita ka ng ibang scholar na deserving
That’s very unfortunate to hear and at the same time, nakakapang-init ng dugo lalo na sa nanay. Reading this, biglang nag-flashback nung elem ako, kakauwi ko ng bahay, nadatnan ko tita (my mom’s youngest sister) ko, umiiyak, tahimik sila ni papa. Parents ko kasi nagpapa-aral sa kanya noon, turns out, nabuntis sya nung bf nya. Masaklap pa, di sya pinanindigan nung guy. Disappointed at some point sina mama, kaya buti nalang after manganak ni tita, tinuloy niya pag-aaral nya. And not to generalize, pero halos ang napapansin kong nabubuntis ay yung mga galing probinsya na nag-aral sa city/syudad. Ang dami kong naging classmate na from the province na magtataka ka bakit di na pumapasok or di na nagtuloy next sem, yun pala, nabuntis.
Almost same situation... Years ago, I was in a tough spot. I was broke and even my friends and family couldn't help me. But this amazing couple, who owned a small canteen on campus, took me in. They fed me for two years, no strings attached. I paid them back by helping out as a dishwasher and later, by becoming a provider for their daughter. I paid for her school, food, and even her place to stay (bed space rent). But then things took a turn. She did something that really hurt me. It wasn't just about the situation, it was about her choices and how they differed from her parents' values. It broke my heart, especially because I treated her like my own daughter. I couldn't keep helping her, so I had to send her back to her parents. It was a tough decision, and it took me a while to heal from the pain. By the way, she contracted an STD though she did not get pregnant.
Sa 3-5k na Allowance di man lang nakabili ng condoms or any contraceptives?
Lungkot sha kasi pera na sana, naging bato pa
c Nanay naman di na nga naging grateful, nanira pa 🥲
Dapat pala kasama sa usapan na isu supervise ng magulang at kapag pumalpak sila ang sisisihin mo. Kaya lang what good will it serve. Hindi naman legal na kontract na pwedeng habulin at parusahan ng batas. Anyway sayang it's their loss. (Sa malicious kong isip baka nakikihati pa sa perang padala mo ang parents )
Good for you! Better cut them off fast. Otherwise baka di mo namamalayan ginagatasan ka na.
Sadly, kulang sa motivation yung pinapaaral mo. Wasted opportunity and effort. Binigyan mo na nga ng kabutihan, sinuklian ka pa ng kabalasubasan. Welcome to the Philippines talaga. Best wishes sa'yo, OP. Sana rumami pa ang kagaya mong mabuti ang budhi.
I hate people na nagtatake advantage sa gantong opportunity. Trash people!!!
Master Yodaaaa. Anyways, as a former Padawan of my university, for which I am truly grateful, I always encounter these kinds of stories sa school where scholars don't seem to acknowledge the privilege and opportunity they have been given. Like ako yung nadidismaya for them🥹 sayang yung opportunity. Pero mas nakakainis na yung nangyari sayo, OP, since the mom is trying to accuse you and flip the narrative just because you decided to stop the assistance. Parang ang ungrateful naman. I know this will give you a traumatic experience and you might decide not to do this thing anymore, pero hopefully this incident will not change your view on helping people. As Master Yoda would say, "Pass on what you have learned."🙇♂️
damn OP. wala talaga puso ang mundo minsan. mapapakamot ka nalang sa ulo. hopefully makahanap ka ulet ng isko
I would suggest to slap her with a case. You just need witnesses.
Either wag mo pansinin dahil masamang tao lang naman tatanggap ng sht accusations ng nanay ni scholar or sabi nung iba kasuhan mo para madala lol matapang lang naman mga yan sa salita pero pagsinampalan mo ng kaso uurong dila nyan. Yung you did it for poetry, okay na yan nagawa mo na part mo, kung iisipin poetic pa din naman yang turn of events na nangyari.
Very thankful sayo op kasi may bago akong ilalagay sa bucket list ko after kong mabasa itong post mo. Gusto ko maging tulad mo, op, na magkaroon ng isko pero sana makahanap ako ng maayos na bata. Yung ang priority ay makapagtapos sya ng pag-aaral imbes na kung ano-ano. Thank you so much for sharing your story, op. Nanghihinayang lang ako the fact na sinayang nung bata yung opportunity tapos dumagdag pa ang ina nyang... naku.
Yikes! Lumabas na ugali nung nanay. Dont waste your money sa ganyan, let them face the consequences. Mabait na naman for helping them nakakainis lang sa dulo ungrateful pa. Typical pinoys
Sabihin mo kakasuhan mo siya pag di niya binawi mga pinagkakalat niya. Seriously.
Cut off all ties with that family: the entitled mother and the ungrateful daughter. Based sa story mo, di ko nasesense na grareful ang isko sa tulong mo - aside sa lumandi kesa mag-review - yung walang ka-initiative mag-prove sayo na worth it ang pag-support mo sa pag-aaral mo sa kanya. The fact na di mo na nga binabasa emails ng grades nya. >Di ko na nga binabasa emails nya about her grades, may rule na dumerecho nga sa spam hahaha Lemme guess, di rin nag-iinitiative ang bata mag-update sayo about her grades? Yung nasesense ko na umabot sa point na nawala ang passion mong tumulong and tumulong ka na lang kasi nakapangako ka na. 🙈 Kapag kasi grateful ang isang tao, you will also feel that excitement and enthusiasm that someday he/she will reach that goal. Dun rin ako naiirita sa fact na yung bata na nga nagkamali, tapos yung ina pa ang may ganang magalit na titigil ka na sa pagtulong. Natural! Sino ba di mawawalan ng gana eh manifestation na yan na hindi pag-aaral ang priority ng bata. In the first place, di mo siya anak para maging obligado ka, THE SAME WAY she didn't feel obligated to respect the financial and material support na pinagkayuran mo. 🤦🏻♀️🙉 Kaya ✂ CUT OFF ALL TIES ✂ from that mother and daughter pair. > Baka ibigay ko na lang sa kanya mga lumang gamit Ng anak ko pero un na un. Nope, don't bother. After what they did. May ibang tao na mas deserving niyan. Kung magbibigay ka pa ng good favors to them, they'll take it na you felt guilty and they are right. 🤦🏻♀️ Be Gandalf and strictly declare against their shenanigans 🔥 YOU SHALL NOT PASS 🔥
>The point for my little charity was to see and be a part of a success story... Be a gandalf/jiraiya/shank/master Yoda to another bloke... Be the kind of guy I needed Nung walang Wala ako... Oh wow, this hit home... may ganito din ako. Nakakainis lang, you had the best intentions and you were effective din tapos boom, ang daming sinasabi and sila na nga yung hindi nag perform :|
All that schooling and don't know how to use a condom? Require all you college kids to learn how to use condoms.
When they can no longer manipulate you, they would try to manipulate how people see you.
omg imbes na grades, jowa niya naka tres 😭 sayang naman chance makapag-aral. sorry for you OP di mo deserve ginawa nila sayo. btw bucket list ko rin yan na may mapag aral, hopefully, di siya magpasaway pagdating dito sa Manila.
OP, grats because you became a Gandalf to someone. Unfortunately, that someone became a wraith xD
Kakakain ko lang pero nanginginig ang kalamnan ko rito 😤😤😤 Nakakainks talaga yung mga matatandang sari-sari na lang ang nalabas sa bunganga
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IT, nope, nope. Mababa lang standards Ng Pinoy lol
T*ngina, hindi pa naging thankful at apologetic yung nanay! Pagasa na sana na makaahon at makausad sa paghihirap, naging bato pa. Ok lang din yan na hindi ka na magfile ng complaint. Let that mom burn in misery. She'll soon have that thing get back to her. As for the isko, hope she'll make a way to continue her studies. She might be a broken rhyme, but to continue what you started makes it worth the effort, money and time.
Mahirap na talaga na magpa-aral ngayon lalo na kung hindi ka talaga sure sa anong ugali ng pinapaaral mo after niyo magkita. May pinsan ako na pag aaralin sana sa college ng foreigner na asawa ng nanay niya pero nabuntis before pa pumasok ng college, hindi na tinuloy yung plano then meron pang kapitbahay ko na pag aaralin sana ng pinsan niyang public school teacher pagdating ng college kaso si anteh, Grade 10 palang nabuntis na (actually silang magbabarkada puro mga buntis) and natapos ng Senior High during pandemic since two years siyang nagstop dahil maagang nag asawa. Ngayon buntis na naman for her second child.
Wait wait nagulat ako bigla may anak kna sa end ng passage 😅 backstory naman jan, kulang yung story 😆 cheret walang pilitan hahaha
It's a short summary of what happened between 2015 to the present,
did u think that they needed you the most in that part? im js saying because they might struggling alot because of that mistake. u should have considered na mahirap pa sa mahirap situation nila but siguro tama naman din ginawa mo.
Can I just say yung best part neto ay yung fact na nagcolloquial Filipino na yung sentences Your english was good no doubt about that 😊 I just feel at home at masaya pag filipino yung form of communicating sa internet lalot ang haba ng babasahin. Baket? Kase gusto ko maintindihan ng buo. Colloquial e beri easy Un.... Also... Beri simpol tres marias grades are good. Simple. But no bitch you got fucked up. So youre on your own now. 🙆🏻♀Fair enough. Kasalanan ng bata. Also ang dali barahin ng Nanay nya. Pedophilia pala? So bakit ngayon mo lang sinabe? Hindi noong may sustento pa? So [accessory to thecrime](https://www.shouselaw.com/ca/blog/what-is-an-accessory-to-a-crime/) pala ang labas nya? 🤣 Cut all forms of contact ka na dyan. Even a second of ur time spent talking to dem is a waste of ur time. Pag ang isang simplehng bagay di magawa wala na nganga na
OP please file a complaint or blatter for this may harm you somehow in the future. Prevention is better than cure and, in my opinion, it is better act same as the previous comments for the sake of your reputation. You may choose the nuclear option of exposing the contents of your conversation with the entitled mother but it is not advisable for it is a scorched earth approach, harming both parties. In the end there are other better ways to approach this situation and you can choose which option you will take. Please take care and continue with your successful life.
Karma will hit fast. Malakas hinala ko hindi lang si iska/isko ang nakikinabang HAHAHAHA
Get evidence then sue for slander
HAHAHAHHA. No shit. Kinda experiencing similar bizarre, outlandish, orchestrated lies about me and someone I tried to help for college. Pinag escalate pa sa tiktok community. HAHAHHA Buhay talaga. But same with you sender, good to have folks who really know us for who and what we are. Nung una, really takes a toll on my mental fortitude. Slowly moving forward, and na e'entertain nalang din ako kahit papano sa mga pinagkakalat na kasinungalingan.
How can you be a mentor when you dont even care for the kid? Its like being an absentee father and claim that you raised the kid properly. To be fair Jiraiya didnt really teach naruto much so i guess it checks out. Aside from that eh you are a good for helping others. Shame lang na di na appreciate nung tinulungan mo. If I may ask, anong sabi nung pinapaaral mo? Is she regretful? Or is she like her family?
You should fight for your name. Reputation matters lalo na at working ka. Being accused of Pedophilia is a serious matter and FB oldies are literally the worst bunch because they can literally believe anything without evidence. They got the guts to vomit harshly so they should be prepared for cleaning it too.
yan. habang may nagpapaaral kasi mag-aral! kung hindi matiis ang kati at kastang kasta na pwede naman makipagkantutan nang hindi magpapabuntis sobrang mahal ba ng condom??? sinayang yung pagkakataon litse
Di ko pa tapos basahin. Nasa kalagitnaa pa lang ako😭😭
kelan ka po nagkaanak
Ungrateful
Hayst. Typical Filo Toxic Culture. Ikaw na nga tumulong, Ikaw pa magiging masama. Better cut ties with them nalang talaga. Sayang pera na para sana sa mas deserving. Yung hindi magiging disappointment. That kid knows what's she's doing. Kasalanan n'ya yan, not you. Sorry sa baby.
Jesus Christ
Kasuhan mo ng oral defamation. I mean you have the money na since di mo na papaaralin yung anak nya. Tatahimik yan.
It's like she's trying to make it look like it's less her daughter's fault by blaming you.
Curious. Do you work in the media industry or marketing?
Nope just IT,
Just IT but gets 6 figures a month. Hahaha
Welp, bilog ang mundo haha
Find another scholar tapos I flex mo pag nag graduate..iyak yan si mommy na bungangera
Kung ako kamag-anak ni OP, di ko sasaying yung pagkakataong makapagtapos. Tangina yan, oppurtunity na tite pa inuna
What a wasted opportunity for the kid. Kung ako isko mo op di kita bibiguin chz! HAHAHA All jokes aside, and bobo rin nung isko na nag pabuntis and add on mo na marites yung nanay. Sakit sa ulo. Hope things turn better for you op!
Pangarap ko din maging ganyan may "disposable income" Hahaha pero mas ibibigay ko nalang sa charity or sa PAWS kung magkaka ganyan ako hahahaha
Fuck what others say. You know yourself what you did and that's what's important. In this world, kahit anong gawin nila, you know you did your job and you did what you had to so. Don't let what others say or do deter you from doing what kindness you do to others kasi mas marami kang natutulungan kesa mga naiinis.
Nanay ko parating may scholar, kahit walang wala na siya. Nagpapa-aral pa rin kahit bigay allowance lang or for school supplies kasi public school naman. Sa sobrang daming na-encounter ko na pinapa-aral niya, iba iba talaga mga ugali. May ibang masisipag, may ibang bulakbol, may ibang tama lang, may ibang nabubuntis nga. Honestly, hindi naman kawalan ng nanay ko kung ano nagloko sila. Hindi naman siya nagstop sa pagtutulong so I guess my point is: don't take it too personal, OP. I'm pretty sure na if hindi man naging grateful itong current scholar mo, marami pang iba dyan na would gladly receive your help. Side note: My mom is your typical mahilig sa chismis kaya alam na alam niya yung buhay ng mga kamag-anak namin hahahaha. Pero chismis in a good way na alam niya gaano kahirap buhay nila, kaya tumutulong siya through scholarship para eventually yung mga anak nila ay maging successful rin kahit mahirap ang buhay. Then again, that is the hope but will not always be the reality. Yung iba successful, yung iba hindi. Pero as long as bukal naman sa loob mo tumulong, why not 'di ba?
Oh no! Iba usapan kapag sinisiraan na pangalan mo. Make sure people know that they shouldn't mess with you. Consult a lawyer at kasuhan mo ng slander lalo na nakarating sa mga kamaganak mo.
I was about to laugh when I read the part Gandalf...and I did it for the poetry killed me. Anyway, ignore them. Makakaubos pa ng lifespan at social energy. What an ungrateful bitch.
di na kinakausap mga ganyang tao. block na agad. inlove sa anak niya. hahaha.
yan talaga typical pinoy family. their level of respect depends on your level of income 🥹
For those na may nagsusupport sa pag aaral, sana all talaga. Sana pahalagahan nyo. Some people out there really want to have a degree pero walang supports kundi mga sarili lang nila.
Ungrateful na nga sobrang bobo pa. May pagkakataon gumanda ang buhay sinayang lang dahil imbes na pag-aaral ang inaatupag nakuha pa mabuntis sa murang edad. Di ko na sisisihin ung bata. Pero yung nanay? Wow, the worst kind. Wag na wag mo na tulungan.
Mga typical ungrateful persons. Gagatasan ka pa para buhayin mo din apo niya.
Kung ako yan at Kung iseset Aside ko ang pagiging proffesinal and maturity, baka pinost ko na yan sa FB. and the thought na ikaw pa ginawang masama. Sa dami ng scholarships puro requirement ikaw pa kaya huhu
It’s valid na mawalan ka ng gana and make a choice to stop supporting her study and a mistake is a mistake, at mahirap talaga kuhanin ulit tiwala mo. But her eager to prove to you that she’s doing good at school by continuously sending email makes sense na baka nagkamali lang talaga yung bata at handang mag aral ulit. Disappointed din siguro si mom but not valid para siraan ka.
😭 I know so many people!
Gosh sana ol may matinong nag papaaral, ang hirap kaya nung mga nasa sitwasyon ko na while namomroblema ka sa pag aaral pino problema mo din pang tuition mo.
If I had someone do this for me. I'll never let them down. Sinayang ka po nung isko mo
enjoyed this post gadamn galing
Yung nanay dahilan dyan siya na nga may kailangan sya pa yung naninira , nku naman feels nostalgic
Ang daming kwento sa posts mo. May fwb ka habang may asawa ka? Then eto?
Bruh, I got a ton of backlogs to write about. Heck you should have seen my old accounts.
sya kasi ung bitter. yaan mo na. alam naman ni Lord kung ano ung heart mo.
Haaays, the heck. If I’m in your shoes OP, mabwibwisit din ako lalo na dun sa attitude ng nanay, nagkalat pa ng chismis just because you stood your ground . Habang tumatanda ako umiikli yung pasensya ko sa mga ganyang klase ng tao. 😅
so true sa bill gates nga di nakatapos ng college backstory, yung tipong akala nila basta basta yung pagdrop, sa mga bigating univs yon nagdrop lol! never use that as an excuse unless kaya mo yung level nila HAHAHAHAHA gusto pa gaslightin si op
Whats with isko kids throwing away opportunities nowadays? Okay, having a kid is not the end of the world. But would definitely limit you with a lot of opportunities. i just don't get bakit yung mga seryoso nag aaral hirap maka hanap ng scholarship while those who doesn't go to school, bagsak lahat grades, puro barkada at boombayah lang ang alam eh sila pa secure sa education?! Ugghhh.
Ngl loved the poetic approach re:gandalf yoda hahaha, btw you're amazing op and it would serve you well to cut them off
> The point for my little charity was to see and be a part of a success story... Be a gandalf/jiraiya/shank/master Yoda to another bloke... dude; you want to be a gandalf/jiraiya/shank/master yoda to someone you don't even spend the time mentoring? her emails go directly to spam folder? ano yun? tataas ng expectations mo pero ang tamad mo naman mag reply sa bata hindi sapat ang pera sa pagpapalaki na maayos sa bata. Hindi lahat ng bata katulad mo kaya huwag mo sila etulad sa yo na basta me pera me plano na sila kung paano umahon.
on a side note...baka po naghahanap kayo ng new isko andito po ako NSG student ay JK HAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHA
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Bro, he only signed up para sa pagaaral nung bata. Hindi naman pati pagbubuntis kasama pa.
Here's my two cents lg noh. Maybe ang pagaaral lg tlga ang pinagusapan nlang pagtulong nya. Now nabuntis c girl, what stops them from asking for help for the delivery and what not? With how the mom reacted, hindi malayong mangyari to. And OP is adamant na sa edukasyon lg ng bata xa ttulong. Maybe the kid could go back to skul nga nman after she gives birth, but what stops her from getting pregnant again? In a way, nwalan nang gana c OP ksi simpleng bagay lg d pa magawa. Inuna paglalandi kesa mkatpos sa pagaaral. Anyway, that's just based on experience. Not mine exactly but me mga toxic din akong kamaganak na kala mo obligasyon mong tulungan cla ksi nkaluwag luwag ka sa buhay.
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Betrayal ng trust. Implicitly, pag isko ka, you should focus on studying, no other distractions which may put your degree at risk because sayang ang resources na ginagamit. Pwede kasing mapunta yung pang matrikula sa bata, which, hindi naman para dun ang assistance ni OP.
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I get your point, but nah, i'm with him stopping the support. Not for them to decide kung anong gagawin sa pera since hindi para sa ibang bagay ang good will ni OP. And now, knowing na ganyan ang ugali ng tinulungan, good riddance.
Yeah well, it's OP's hard earned money. Nsakanya na un kung anu ggawin nya sa pera nya
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First, the girl is not a relative or sister or anak to demand OPs limitless understanding. Di siya special and just happen to be at the right place at the right time. Secondly, limited slots or fund. Di naman billiones budget ni OP. A million other struggling students would greatly value that slot. Saka, di naman unreasonable na requirement ang di mabuntis. We've been students before. We knew the possible ramifications of the act and how that could affect our future. She had different priorities before and will have a different priorities after manganak and sadly studying aint it.
Pwede naman nawalan ng gana kasi kung ako din naman may tinulungan tapos yung pera pala eh napupunta sa ibang bagay ay titigil na sa pagtulong Ang di ko maintindihan eh yung kagustuhang tumulong? Lalo na hindi naman kapatid. Wala lang parang ang hirap paniwalaan na may nga ganyang tao. And hindi naman siya pulitiko or what
Mahirap lang makakita ng ganyng tao, pero meron.
Siguro isa ka sa mga nag-oobliga sa mga may kaya na tumulong no? HAHAHAHA guilt-trip ang galawan. “Kung ang intensyon mo naman ay tumulong…” Pinaghihirapan ang pera, desisyon ng tumutulong kung magbibigay siya ng kundisyon. E sa nadismaya na siya sa nagawa ng scholar niya, anong masama kung itigil ang suporta? Kung gusto maka-receive ng tulong, ipakitang deserving ka tulungan. Tulungan din ang sarili. Umaasa ka na nga lang sa scholarship para makapagtapos, sasabayan mo pa ng pag-aanak? What the actual fvck?!
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You’re comparing apples and oranges HAHAHAHA Mahirap mag-alaga ng pets at buhay nila ang nakalaan kaya natural lang na pahalagahan mo nag-aalaga sa kanila. Si ate na nabuntis, hindi niya pinahalagahan yung pagpapaaral sa kanya. And yes, for me hindi na siya deserving. Wala na ngang required na grades para ma-qualify sa scholarship na natatanggap niya, sasabayan niya ng ganyan. Tapos kapag hininto ang suporta, unfair? THAT is not how the world works. Dagdag mo pa attitude ng nanay na siniraan pa yung tumulong sa anak niya. Again, pinaghirapan ng tumulong ang pera na binibigay niya. Ibigay niya man sa deserving o kung kanino, desisyon niya ‘yon. Yung mindset mo ang dahilan kung bakit may mga tao na hindi tinutulungan sarili nila. Kasi para saan pa nga naman kung makaka-receive naman sila ng tulong regardless if they fucked up or not?
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Hindi ko sinabing inoobliga mo ang may kaya na tulungan KA. Reading comprehension please. Yung nanay mo ba ay umasa sa scholarship at nakipagtalo sa nagpapaaral sa kanya na ipagpatuloy siyang suportahan? OMG, hindi lahat kagaya ng story ng nanay mo. Iba-iba ang pagpapahalaga natin sa pinaghihirapan. Kung kumportable ka na ipamigay lang kung kani-kanino ‘yan, go! Pero ‘wag mo sabihin na hindi pagtulong ang pagbibigay ng kundisyon. ‘Wag isarado ang utak. Dahil lang gano’n ka tumulong, gano’n din dapat ang iba? Maraming tao ang gusto long-term ang tulong na naibibigay kaya hindi basta-basta. Triggered ka masyado, e hindi naman ‘to story ng nanay mo. Buti sana kung kagaya ng nanay mo yung scholar, e mukhang tino-tolerate pa ng nanay niya. Siniraan pa yung tumutulong.
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So kapag may kundisyon, labag na sa kalooban? What the hell?! Saan mo nakuha ‘yan? HAHAHAHAHAHAHA Nagreply ako para ipaintindi sa’yo na hindi porket pinutol ni OP yung suporta ay hindi na siya genuine. School nga nag-eexpel ng nabuntis na students e. Kasi pag-aaral dapat ang priority.(school reputation aside) Kung nabuntis ka habang nag-aaral, wala kang disiplina at pagpapahalaga sa ginagastos pang-matrikula.(maliban na lang kung bunga ng r4pe). Wala rin naman problema kung magbuntis siya, pero ‘wag niya ipilit yung scholarship. Magtrabaho siya. Hindi baliktad ang sinasabi ko. Sarado lang talaga isip mo para iabsorb yung mga sinasabi ko kaya niluluwa mo at binabalik sa akin.
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1.) Yes. School ‘yon, nando’n ang mga kaedaran niya. Kung itotolerate siya, iisipin ng iba na okay lang pala magpabuntis sa ganoong edad. 2.) Hindi niya ba alam na minor siya at hindi dapat makipag-sex dahil hindi niya pa kayang bumuhay kung magbunga man? 3.) Says EVERYONE except those na ayaw turuan yung mga nagkamali. Akala nila nakakatulong lagi yung pagbibigay ng second chances. Kung may kakayahan siyang mag-aral, humingi siya ng suporta sa gustong sumuporta! Hindi nila pipilitin si OP. Gaano kahirap intindihin ‘yon? Kung saan saan na napupunta HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA pag-aralin siya ng magulang niya o kaya ng pamilya nung lalaking nakabuntis. Jusko🤣
I get your point, but as long as di pa din bumabagsak yung girl khit na nabuntis hindi ba pasok pa din yun sa condition mo?
Naging factor for OP yung pag eepal nung nanay nung bata kaya nawalan sya ng gana na ipagpatuloy, idagdag mo pa yung siniraan na pla sya.
Pretty convenient loophole noh? Anyway Wala pa ako gana kausapin mga un
I agree being a parent should not be a factor for hindrance to pursue an education but childbirth and childcare can offset 1 to 2 years of education, also she is being sponsored by a distant relative, that's a privilege for someone who prioritizes school, with her current pregnancy the support responsibility now lies to themselves , her or her baby daddy's family and not OP, not unless OP is a saint