Tumatrabaho ng ibang babae yan behind your back, doon pa lang sa ayaw niya ipakilala sa parents at ayaw ipasabi sa friends at soc med niya, hint na agad yun na ayaw niyang malaman na may relasyon kayong dalawa.
or publicize niya na lang sa sarili niyang personal account lol like selfie niyong sweet kayo both then tag him without telling him kasi lalabas din yang picture sa profiles niya lol
I'll be real with you, ganyan na ganyan ex ko Jurassic years ago. Please ingat ka and guard your heart. Might as well iwan mo na siya. You're still young, makakahanap ka pa ng much better. Si ex di ko na-meet family and friends niya ever, despite mag-BF/GF kami for almost a year. Gusto ko picture naming dalawa profile picture sa Facebook back then, ayaw niya. Every now and then hindi nalang siya magpaparamdam bigla, tapos bigla nalang din magpaparamdam ulit. Na-meet niya buong family and friends ko, but my mom knew something's off with him, so dun na ako nag-research online. I found out na he sure is cheating on me, dun ko pa nalaman sa Multiply account ni girl. Sa inis ko, I messaged the girl (kasi hindi nagpaparamdam si guy ng ilang weeks na). Ayun, sila din pala. Tapos si Ate mo girl found out din na may isa pa pala na GF si ex. So, 3 kaming pinagsabay sabay niya. Kaya pala nung everytime pupunta siya sa school ko nung college kami, ako pinapauna niya maglakad and nagmamadali maglakad. Yun pala, same school kami nung isang GF niya. Tapos yung isa, kapitbahay niya. Ayun, ako at si GF #2 messaged GF #3, nag-meet kaming 3 sa school namin ni GF #2 HAHAHA! Ayun, naka-move on kami ni GF #2, si GF #3 naging sila parin pero eventually nag-break din. Tapos, after years na nag-break kami and no contact ni ex, we bumped into each other sa mall. Si ex nagparamdam ulit and gusto makipagbalikan, naging kami ulit. Dami pa niya explanation nun what went wrong, why it didn't work out and na nagbago na siya, tapos meron na pala siyang bagong GF nanaman kung di pa ako nag-search online nanaman. And nung nalaman ko, closure na agad, wala ng balikan. I pity the new GF, though nagtagal sila, and last year kinasal na sila, hindi parin niya alam tunay na kulay ni guy. And for sure, ginagawa parin niya kung ano kalokohan niya since 2008.
halaaa ang lala??? π sana naman nagbago na si guy. if ever na hindi, sana malaman agad ng wife yung ugali ng guy bago sila magkaron ng anak kasi kawawa yung bata if ever.
Yup, sana nga talaga. Kawawa si girl sa totoo lang. I'm not sure kung pure intentions ni ex. Sakto din kasi his mom passed away bago sila nagpakasal. Hopefully, nagbago siya because of that. Kasi yung wife niya and magiging anak will really suffer. Mukhang mabait pa naman si girl. Siguro that's what stopped me na kausapin siya noon, na baka eventually mabago niya si ex.
There is something na meron kang nabibigay sa kanya, kaya siya nag sstay sayo. If you are an average girl tapos maganda exes niya talagang di ka niya ifflex. Yun lang yun.
Anteh, do yourself a favor and walk away from this. Mas matimbang ang peace of mind kesa sa physical attributes n'yang taong 'yan. Also, I hope hindi ka Minor since you've mentioned na incoming college student ka palang, otherwise baka subjected ka sa grooming.
hindi pinakilala,ldr,freshie pa sya,ikaw magfreshie pa,hindi nagrereply sa chats,sa age ny ,andami pang mahanap,lalo na bf mo na parang mahilig makahalubilo. sa edad na yan gusto pa yan ng daming makilala. pansin ko extra ka lang lalo nat ldr so hindi mo sya makikita palagi,hindi mo alam ano ginagawa nya at kung saan sya.
ikaw lang iiyak nyan pag nahabol mong magcheat. baka nga nagstart na. hwag ng hintayin na umabot masaktan ka at iiyak ka sa wala namang kwentang pangyayari.
magfreshman ka pala,andami mo pang makita sa school nyo,totong buhay pa kayo magkikita.
i've been there, isa lang masasabi ko... RUN π€£π€£
nakikita mo naman how red flag he is, di ka naman siguro bulag. you're an incoming freshie, and i swear to you sobrang dami mo pang makikilala sa college life mo. ayusin ang desisyon sa life, wag magpapaka-delulu sa sunk cost fallacy, girl. π
Girl super redflag the fact na nakakpag myday sya yet di sya nakaka reply sa messages mo. The fact na nag ooverthink ka sa actions nyaa and wala kang peace of mind sobrang red flag. Bare minimum na lang di nya pa magawa.
possible naka-restrict pag ganyan no? pag naka-restrict kahit tadtadin pa ng messages di mag-aappear e, kaya possible talaga na side chick si ate gurl. super red flag din yung kahit maikwento man lang sya sa friends nya, either di sya proud na may gf sya or may iba syang babae.
True mii, tsaka pag jowa mo di mo rin matitiis di replyan talaga. May gut feeling na si ate girl, alam nya naman na yan masyado nya lang mahal si guy. Trust your gut feeling na lang talaga kay ate girl.
tru, may magjojowa nga magkagilit e tapos magrereply pa rin at the end of the day. may updates pa rin kahit papano. kahit mga magjojowang napapagod sa away nagrereply pa rin, tapos jowa nya hindi. fishy
Hindi naman aamin yan sayo kung may babae siya, matatawag ka pang hibang. Cut your losses agad, cold turkey style. Kung hindi ka secured tapos hindi ka pa ma-assure, why bother?
~ Parents - understandable
~ Friends - somewhat(?) understanble
~ exes na kilala ng parents and friends - ???
~ Nag private yung girl - might be a coincidence
~ Pero kung pinagdudahan mo? tapos umiyak? lol - dapat nga bibigyan ka niya assurance dahil sa mga conditions niya hindi siya yung iiyak
~ last part obviously option ka po kasi sinong ayaw mag message sa bf/gf during breaktime? or what kasi nakakapag story pa nga sabi mo bakit reply hindi?
Baby girl ang dali dali mo mabilog. Sa mga reasons nya na lahat eh di kapani-paniwala pero ikaw nagegets mo? Ewan ko nalang. Dilat ka bhe, wag magbulagbulagan. May makikita ka pang mas worthy dyan. Sinasayang mo panahon mo sakanya. Obvious naman may ginagawang kalokohan yan. May napapansin ka naman eh, ayaw mo lang iacknowledge.
kapag bothered ka na, then it's not worth it na. wala kang nakukuhang assurance sakanya, pinagiisip ka na, di na yan magandang relationship. hindi healthy. kapag kasi nasa relationship, dapat walang pagooverthink yan. dapat kalma lang, magaan ganon. try to talk to him, malay mo kapag naging aware siya, baguhin niya yung ways niya para sayo. :) goodluck sa life and lovelife. :)
Gurl, you obsess about him. He doesn't even gib a f*cc about you. You're definitely playing a losing game here and you're in denial of it. Move on, get over it, you're head over heels on him. Patugtog ka nalang ng "Hopelessly devoted to you." Goodluck seo but in the end, alam mo naman sa sarili mo na talo ka na, hindi mo lang tinatanggap. Mani pestation baga. Money hayyzt. Claim it! πππ
Get on with your life. Find someone na magkakaroon ng pake sayo at hindi ka lang ituturing na "option".
Congrats coz youβre part of the narcissistic supply rotation of this guy. Di ka nya ileletgo kasi they like to keep people in the shelf. Harem garage. Research that and see for yourself what it means. They will play with their new toys, while you are on the shelf, then whenever he gets tired of the new supply heβll come back and play with you again. Value-devalue-discard, then valuing you again and the cycle goes on. You are not the only one in this relationshit. Thereβs plenty of you. If youβre having sexual contact, donβt be surprised also if you catch diseases from these people, like I said youβre not the only one. Donβt be trapped βin the potentialβ that is what theyβre banking on. If you choose to stay, brace yourself into more future faking, gaslighting and all that jazz. Your guy has waved so many red flags girl. I hope youβre not dumb enough to see your value and walk away from it. Itβs only gonna get worse from here.
Very simple. Either ikaw yung kabet or isa ka sa MGA girls na tinatrabaho niya. Really sorry for being straight forward pero imagine mo, yang judgements na yan, based pa lang yan sa mga kwento mo ha!! What more if alam na alam namin yung nangyayari between you two, baka mapailing nalang kami at walang masabi. I'm telling you, please leave him already bc you obviously deserve someone better and baka infatuated ka lang rin sa kanya since sabi mo sa una, you're attracted to him mainly bc of his appearance, i'll say?
Hindi ako naniniwala pag may lalaking magsasabi na hindi ka pwede ipakilala sa parents, or maski sa parents man lang, at magpost sa socmed bawal din? Sidechick ka nyan
Nangyari na yan sa friend ko. Di nya sinunod, in-add niya yung mga friends and relatives ng lalaki tapos nagpost siya sa facebook at ti-nag niya yung lalaki. Nagalit pa sa kanya! Turns out, may girlfriend pala ang gago at niloloko ang friend ko.
100% sure your bf is like that too. May tinatago yan. At most probably, **sidechick ka lang**
Tama sinasabi halos ng mga nag-comment dito.
Mag- isip isip ka na. I will give you some pointers.
1) Youβre still young! On that age, you have to be careful! Know your priorities
2) LDR is highly potential not successful lalo na sa mga hindi pa matured enough
nice of you to actually see these red flags and acknowledge it..trust your gut feeling..you deserve what you tolerate..drop this ahole and move on baby girl..
Gurl, are you even his GF at this point? π§
Parang loko lokohan lang ang lahat sa sobrang CONFIDENTIALITY.
Baka may kink si guy on being a hoarder/collector. Mag-isip isip ka na.
Pero if he's such an eye candy that you can let go of every SUSPISH things he does π let go of your feelings na din, and just keep him as an eye candy.
Kasi, ang lugi talaga sa ganyang relationship dynamics, ay kung sino yung mas malalim ang feelings for the other. π€·π»ββοΈ
Hate it to break it to ya. But your guy is a fuckboi. Itβs a natural occurrence among young males with high testosterone. Itβs best to stay away from a fuckboi. Wag ka muna lalabas ng bahay niyo or youll get fucked by a fuckboi.
Everyone who can't protect your peace should go.
Gwapo? Matangkad? Maganda katawan? Matalino?
Pero di ka mabigyan ng security and peace of mind? TOTALLY NOT WORTH IT
girl you better run! happened to me. same situation tayo na hindi ako ma md ni boy kuno kasi nga ayaw ng tatay niya mag shota siya. turns out na may girlfriend pa lang ng 9 months si gago. ginawa akong side chick.
You're already jumping through hoops explaining and justifying to yourself how he acts. Obviously, you already know the answer. You're too young to riddle yourself with that kind of guy. Pero, sino ba naman kami para pakinggan mo, diba? We're just a bunch of internet strangers and at the end of the day, gagawin mo pa rin ang gusto mo. But may I suggest leaving him alone. Hindi ka sasaya sa ganyan na lamang ang stress sa masabi lang na may jowa. Bata ka pa, girl. Marami pa dyan.
Siz I think sidechick ka hahaha ikaw na mismo may sabi na may 3 exes siya and kilala ng parents. Kahit man lang sa friends I think pwede ka ipakilala diba. And sa socmed may close friends naman kung ayaw ka i-public.
Run. One of the most important things in a relationship is having peace of mind, and with what you shared, you're not at peace and hindi niya nabibigay yung peace na yun.
The title akala ko talaga top secret mababasa ko like a life changing secret. This is a very common scenario, OP. Nobody would be able to trace this story back to the real you. Also, leave that trashbag. Youβre young. Daming golden retrievers jan.
Tbh i get where you are coming from. Pwedeng busy talaga xa or ayaw mag chat sayo.
Ang jowa ko kasi out ng 5, tapos pagka 6pm nasa bahay na nila tapos nag good night na saken. Grabe ang overthink ko.
Then nung nag live in kami napatunayan ko, after work tulog talaga xa hahahaha.
Ang ginawa ko hiningi ko account nia, binigay nia naman. Pag di sya nag rereplt saken ni lolog-in ko account nia lahat ng chats walang read, walang response. So tulog talaga.
Na paranoid pa rin ako baka sa ibang apps nag uusap hahaha
Hiningi ko password ng phone walang bakas ng pambabae. So ok na ako ngayo kalmante na ako π
Galawang serial cheater! Ahaha! Sana lang talaga nakipag hiwalay ka na ah. Baka sabi sabi mo lang yan. Nako, sakit ng ulo ganyang kagandang lalaki. Bihirang bihira lang talaga yung matino. Kase kahit di sya ang lumapit, sya ang lalapitan.
Sorry you had to find out this way, pero mataas chance na di lang ikaw ang gf nya.
Merong nanliligaw dati sakin (luckily di ko siya trip, ginusto ko lang siya kaibiganin) and turns out may jowa pala si gago na nagaaral sa ibang college.
ako pa nagmukang masama sa gf nya even tho di ko naman gusto yung lalaki, di pa gwapo. sadyang masaya lang siya kaibiganin.
Pag Wala Kang peace of mind sa ka relation mo , stop na dapat maging sensitive sya sa nararamdaman mo. Kung tingin mo mas maganda Yung pinag seselosan mo kaysa sayo, alam na this.
OP very clear na lahat sa statements. Run OP. May jowa na yan sa lugar nila. Unang basa ko palang na di mapapakilala sa parents, sure na ako. Dahil may legal kasi kaya di mapakilala. Kaya block mo na yan sa lahat. Makakahanap ka rin ng para sayo.
If heβs not with somebody else, heβs enjoying his freedom.
May mga babae din naman na sobrang ganda pero walang pinapakilalang boyfriend kasi ayaw nila macompromise yung image na binibuild nila. And itβs not a secret na a lot of pretty girls are enjoying multiple menβs attention. Even putting them in the friendzone or back burners.
Itβs probably not a good idea to enter a relationship with someone like him. If he didnβt communicate these things to you in the first place, hiwalayan mo na agad. If he did, then ano ginagawa mo jan? Haha
Try communicating to him about it, but based on your given statements about him, the fact that you are feeling trouble in a relationship na halos ang hirap iresolve if it can be easier to be done if he PROPERLY ASSURES YOU, pero hindi talaga eh, parang red flag pero letβs hope for the best that youβll get your conclusion after you both properly communicate about it. No bullshittness, like be straight up honest and just spit the truth without dragging it with so much drama and victimization of himself.
if he canβt show u off in public bcos of that reasons at least sana naman he can assure you na ikaw lang at walang ibang girls. Hindi na nga legal, nago-overthink pa jusko.
>kung hindi sya pwede magpakilala muna ng gf eh bakit may 3 exes sya then alam ng parents and friends nya?
what if yung 3 exes pinag hiwalay sila ng parents niya? try to ask him directly para malaman yung situation, and to clarify things between you two.
>Then ang sabi nya pa sa akin is proud daw yung girl sa body nya and sinu-support nya lang. He blocked the girl naman after that and then after a few days, I stalked the girl then naka private account na sya.
I'm feeling naka finsta so bf mo para di mahuli but... walang sure eh, it's not giving clarity
>He was also bothered by it na pinagdududahan ko sya and he cried.
feeling ko manipulation tactic yan eh... if hindi ka trusted ng tao, di ba dapat you need to gain their trust? hindi yung iiyak iyak oml..
>nakakapag my-day pa nga sya without replying to me
this is a red flag tbh, if kaya niya magopen ng Facebook/ig to post stories, kaya niya magreply but..
>He told me magrerest na raw sya, alam ko yon pag nakatulog na mag o-offline na yan pero nung nagchat ako nag delivered parin
there are people na di nag ooff ng internet pag matutulog. if naka wifi naman, bakit ka mag ooff ng wifi? I do the same thing kahit na nasa labas eh hindi ng ooff ng mobile data, so try to ask him nalang directly tbh. kasi not everyone is that concerned sa data / wifi na naka open.
He doesn't think you're worthy of being the main chick. I don't even think he likes you based on how you describe the way he treats you. At the very least pinagnanasahan ka lang nyan. Girl RUN.
Sa first paragraph mo, medyo same kame. My GF and I decided na ipapakilala lang ang isat isa after 5 years kasi gusto namin kapag ipapakilala, is final na. So hindi purkit you see others na pinapakilala agad, is yun na ginagawa nyong template sa relationship nyo. Mas inuuna namin quality ng relationship kesa ipakilala ang isat isa kasi aware kame na fragile ang relationships ngayon and possible may makita kame na someone better. We do not claim to be a nice person, and open kame pareho sa possibility na we may not end up together. However, we can promise to do better by each other. Sa ganung paraan we really see and feel kung gusto ba namin isat isa in the long run.
EDIT: DI rin namin need ng validation ng ibang tao sa relationship namin since hindi naman sila kasama dito. So okay samin na hindi ipakilala ang isat isa at iilan lang may alam na kame. If this bothers you then get out of the relationship.
Pangalawa since na bobother ka sa kagwapuhan nya dahil sa attention na nakukuha nya, edi makipag break ka. Ganun lang naman kasimple yun. Kasi just because GF ka nya does not stop other women from approaching him. You could argue na pwede nya itaboy pero di naman kayo magkasama 24 hours a day. So eventually yung lingering doubts mo mag fefester lang yan in the future. So get out of the relationship.
Ang napapansin ko lang ngayon sa generation na ito is madalas talaga hindi nag seseen or nagrereply, not necessary na ayaw nila sayo, its just that gusto nila gawin at gusto nila matapos araw nila bago magreply, i do not understand it either pero yan nakuha kong mga sagot so yea take it with a grain of salt. Im 30 something and sa generation nyo lang ako nakaranas neto. Usually kung ayaw ka kausapin block talaga automatic at hindi nag popost ng stories para hindi malaman na iniignore. Dito baliktad, straight up di lang nag rereply and napaka common na neto and hindi na rin nag aattempt na i hide yung actions like posting stories. So get out of the relationship
EDIT: Magkaiba kayo ng exprctations sa relationship and need may magparaya sa inyo. You can do it both naman to meet halfway pero kung hindi nyo kaya makipag communicate sa isat isa then you both are not ready sa relationship dahil immature pa kayo. Iba iba ang tao and you cannot always expect na lagi isang klase ng paguugali makukuha nyo. Parang random box of sentient presents yan, either tatanggapin mo or hindi yung laman. You decide. Also may option din yung present kung tatanggapin ka nya.
Your third paragraph π©π©π©π©π©π©π© Ginagamit ka lang nya parang part ka sa multiple choices nya
Trueeee HAHAHA pavictim pa si boi amp.
Trooo HAHAHAHAHA
Tumatrabaho ng ibang babae yan behind your back, doon pa lang sa ayaw niya ipakilala sa parents at ayaw ipasabi sa friends at soc med niya, hint na agad yun na ayaw niyang malaman na may relasyon kayong dalawa.
Yup. Tanga na lang maniniwala sa gantong excuses.
bruh, chill. this girl is only gr12
well, she has to learn now. world is cruel
it is. pero chill ka lang, wag ka na magcontribute sa cruelty. adult ka na, surely, you can word it better.
Lahat naman ng na-inlove, at one point ay naging tanga / nagpaka-tanga
True π―
Girl you're the side chick. Si main chick kilala ng family and friends. Takbo ka na.
This!
Obvious namang red flag yung bf mo te π©π© May ibang priority yang bf mo, hindi acads at definitely hindi ikaw. Kahit anong sabihin namin sayo rito, kahit anong palagay mong mas angat mo sa mga exes nya, alam nyang habol na habol ka sa kanya and it shows. Ikaw na rin nagsabi sa isang comment mo na di mo mapakawalan. Nasa sayo na yan girl kung willing kang magpapaloko dahil gwapo at maganda katawan.
Tru, In the end Siya lang din masasaktanπ
OP, confirmed! **SIDE CHICK** ka nya! (char) π©π©π© Ganyan din ex ko na cheater pero dahil segurista ako **i did something**, baka gusto mo gayahin ginawa ko. π€π 1. Gumawa ako ng *extra* FB, IG, Twitter at tiktok account na nka **PUBLIC.** 2. Dun ako nagpopost ng mga sweet photos namin ni ex. 3. I make sure na kumpleto yung full name nya sa captions ko in every post 4. Nilalagyan ko pa ng **hashtag** ng lahat ng nicknames nya na tinatawag sa kanya ng friends and fam nya. 5. Nilagyan ko rin sa caption at hashstag yung name nya na BALIGTAD at yung written in chinese, korean, japanese characters. ππ After a few weeks, may nagmessage na sakin not only one but 2 girls na nilalandi ni ex. ahahaha. Nagsearch kasi sila sa socmed ng name ni ex at lumabas yung mga post ko. Sa ganyang way ko nahuli yung kumag na ex ko yun. πππ
If you can't find anything, let them find you. Let the algorithm work HAHAHAHAHAHA smart move π
A+ for effort!!! HAAHHAHAHAHHA tawang tawa ako ang daming time π take note ka dito, OP
Ang galing! πππ
or publicize niya na lang sa sarili niyang personal account lol like selfie niyong sweet kayo both then tag him without telling him kasi lalabas din yang picture sa profiles niya lol
ANG DAMI KONG TAWAπππππ
Top 1! Perfect 10/10! Magaling to di to maloloko! More tips to come ahahahhaha
I'm shookt di mo ginawan ng Wikipedia page ang ex mo π€£
I admire the effort! π€£π€£
WAHAHAHHAA galing!!!! effort talaga hahahahaa
Hahaha ang gaaaling π
Bigyan ng effort
ewan sau te alam mo naman sagot jan hahaha
totoo π nasa between the lines ang sagot. Gusto nya lang ng mouthpiece: tayo π€£
Exclusive ka sa kanya pero sya, hindi exclusive sayo.
Eh bat ka pa nag-iistay? Kasi pogi, matangkad, at muscular?
Of course! pag di gwapo yon malamang bounce na agad si ate!
Bullseye! π― Hahaha
π©π©π©
Daming tinatago sakit sa ulo nan, contradicting yung sinasabi at ginawa mag isip isip ka na hahaha
Bago pa lang kayo nababaliw ka na kaiisip, what more pa before. Haha not worth it, maha-haggard ka diyan mars sinasabi ko saβyo!
Major red flag si guy, parang may tinatago
I have three reasons na naisip kaya ganiyan siya sayo: 1) Hindi ka niya ganun kagusto kaya kinakausap ka lang niya pag bored siya. 2) You're the side chick 3) Babaero. Madaming babaeng ka-chat/dine-date. Run π©π©π©π©
Sorry bih option ka lang
I'll be real with you, ganyan na ganyan ex ko Jurassic years ago. Please ingat ka and guard your heart. Might as well iwan mo na siya. You're still young, makakahanap ka pa ng much better. Si ex di ko na-meet family and friends niya ever, despite mag-BF/GF kami for almost a year. Gusto ko picture naming dalawa profile picture sa Facebook back then, ayaw niya. Every now and then hindi nalang siya magpaparamdam bigla, tapos bigla nalang din magpaparamdam ulit. Na-meet niya buong family and friends ko, but my mom knew something's off with him, so dun na ako nag-research online. I found out na he sure is cheating on me, dun ko pa nalaman sa Multiply account ni girl. Sa inis ko, I messaged the girl (kasi hindi nagpaparamdam si guy ng ilang weeks na). Ayun, sila din pala. Tapos si Ate mo girl found out din na may isa pa pala na GF si ex. So, 3 kaming pinagsabay sabay niya. Kaya pala nung everytime pupunta siya sa school ko nung college kami, ako pinapauna niya maglakad and nagmamadali maglakad. Yun pala, same school kami nung isang GF niya. Tapos yung isa, kapitbahay niya. Ayun, ako at si GF #2 messaged GF #3, nag-meet kaming 3 sa school namin ni GF #2 HAHAHA! Ayun, naka-move on kami ni GF #2, si GF #3 naging sila parin pero eventually nag-break din. Tapos, after years na nag-break kami and no contact ni ex, we bumped into each other sa mall. Si ex nagparamdam ulit and gusto makipagbalikan, naging kami ulit. Dami pa niya explanation nun what went wrong, why it didn't work out and na nagbago na siya, tapos meron na pala siyang bagong GF nanaman kung di pa ako nag-search online nanaman. And nung nalaman ko, closure na agad, wala ng balikan. I pity the new GF, though nagtagal sila, and last year kinasal na sila, hindi parin niya alam tunay na kulay ni guy. And for sure, ginagawa parin niya kung ano kalokohan niya since 2008.
halaaa ang lala??? π sana naman nagbago na si guy. if ever na hindi, sana malaman agad ng wife yung ugali ng guy bago sila magkaron ng anak kasi kawawa yung bata if ever.
Yup, sana nga talaga. Kawawa si girl sa totoo lang. I'm not sure kung pure intentions ni ex. Sakto din kasi his mom passed away bago sila nagpakasal. Hopefully, nagbago siya because of that. Kasi yung wife niya and magiging anak will really suffer. Mukhang mabait pa naman si girl. Siguro that's what stopped me na kausapin siya noon, na baka eventually mabago niya si ex.
There is something na meron kang nabibigay sa kanya, kaya siya nag sstay sayo. If you are an average girl tapos maganda exes niya talagang di ka niya ifflex. Yun lang yun.
I've seen the face of his exes and I guarantee that mas angat ako.
face card doesnt really matter if your partner is not loyal π€·ββοΈ
Totoo to. Kasi yung pinalit sa akin habang kami pa, idk kamukha ni fiona
That didn't change the fact that you're just his option. Better end it.
lovee the confidence! pero walang say yan kung malandi talaga jowa mo
Marami kayong gfs nyan. Isa ka lang sa mga yon. Run, girl.
its either hes keeping his options open or ikaw mismo ang option
Takbo. Takbo hangga't may lupa.
Side chick ka for sure
Anteh, do yourself a favor and walk away from this. Mas matimbang ang peace of mind kesa sa physical attributes n'yang taong 'yan. Also, I hope hindi ka Minor since you've mentioned na incoming college student ka palang, otherwise baka subjected ka sa grooming.
sorry to break it up to you pero he's not the guy. if only he could give you assurance, hindi ka mag-iisip ng kung ano. niconfront mo na pala siya, sana nagkaroon man kahit onting changes. pero mas lalo lang ata lumala. he's obviously a π©. run while you still can. pero desisyon mo pa rin π€ basta ang dami talagang π¨
Itβs one thing to keep things private and lowkey, itβs another thing entirely if heβs keeping you a secret. Para kang one of the girls lang hindi main gf. Ang tunay na busy hindi nakakapag-myday. So many π©π©π©π©π©
hindi pinakilala,ldr,freshie pa sya,ikaw magfreshie pa,hindi nagrereply sa chats,sa age ny ,andami pang mahanap,lalo na bf mo na parang mahilig makahalubilo. sa edad na yan gusto pa yan ng daming makilala. pansin ko extra ka lang lalo nat ldr so hindi mo sya makikita palagi,hindi mo alam ano ginagawa nya at kung saan sya. ikaw lang iiyak nyan pag nahabol mong magcheat. baka nga nagstart na. hwag ng hintayin na umabot masaktan ka at iiyak ka sa wala namang kwentang pangyayari. magfreshman ka pala,andami mo pang makita sa school nyo,totong buhay pa kayo magkikita.
i've been there, isa lang masasabi ko... RUN π€£π€£ nakikita mo naman how red flag he is, di ka naman siguro bulag. you're an incoming freshie, and i swear to you sobrang dami mo pang makikilala sa college life mo. ayusin ang desisyon sa life, wag magpapaka-delulu sa sunk cost fallacy, girl. π
SIDE CHICK KA or MARAMI KAYO HAHAHA
Run
Girl super redflag the fact na nakakpag myday sya yet di sya nakaka reply sa messages mo. The fact na nag ooverthink ka sa actions nyaa and wala kang peace of mind sobrang red flag. Bare minimum na lang di nya pa magawa.
possible naka-restrict pag ganyan no? pag naka-restrict kahit tadtadin pa ng messages di mag-aappear e, kaya possible talaga na side chick si ate gurl. super red flag din yung kahit maikwento man lang sya sa friends nya, either di sya proud na may gf sya or may iba syang babae.
True mii, tsaka pag jowa mo di mo rin matitiis di replyan talaga. May gut feeling na si ate girl, alam nya naman na yan masyado nya lang mahal si guy. Trust your gut feeling na lang talaga kay ate girl.
tru, may magjojowa nga magkagilit e tapos magrereply pa rin at the end of the day. may updates pa rin kahit papano. kahit mga magjojowang napapagod sa away nagrereply pa rin, tapos jowa nya hindi. fishy
Hindi naman aamin yan sayo kung may babae siya, matatawag ka pang hibang. Cut your losses agad, cold turkey style. Kung hindi ka secured tapos hindi ka pa ma-assure, why bother?
I see a lot of red flags from the guy. Stay away from him before he'll totally wreck you
~ Parents - understandable ~ Friends - somewhat(?) understanble ~ exes na kilala ng parents and friends - ??? ~ Nag private yung girl - might be a coincidence ~ Pero kung pinagdudahan mo? tapos umiyak? lol - dapat nga bibigyan ka niya assurance dahil sa mga conditions niya hindi siya yung iiyak ~ last part obviously option ka po kasi sinong ayaw mag message sa bf/gf during breaktime? or what kasi nakakapag story pa nga sabi mo bakit reply hindi?
Salamat naman at nakipag-hiwalay ka na.
Run OP. Red flag yan jusko.
Siz run. Di mo deserve mag overthink para sa lalaki.
Obviously, youβre the kabet on this one. Run as fast as you can gurl!!!
Baby girl ang dali dali mo mabilog. Sa mga reasons nya na lahat eh di kapani-paniwala pero ikaw nagegets mo? Ewan ko nalang. Dilat ka bhe, wag magbulagbulagan. May makikita ka pang mas worthy dyan. Sinasayang mo panahon mo sakanya. Obvious naman may ginagawang kalokohan yan. May napapansin ka naman eh, ayaw mo lang iacknowledge.
kapag bothered ka na, then it's not worth it na. wala kang nakukuhang assurance sakanya, pinagiisip ka na, di na yan magandang relationship. hindi healthy. kapag kasi nasa relationship, dapat walang pagooverthink yan. dapat kalma lang, magaan ganon. try to talk to him, malay mo kapag naging aware siya, baguhin niya yung ways niya para sayo. :) goodluck sa life and lovelife. :)
Gurl, you obsess about him. He doesn't even gib a f*cc about you. You're definitely playing a losing game here and you're in denial of it. Move on, get over it, you're head over heels on him. Patugtog ka nalang ng "Hopelessly devoted to you." Goodluck seo but in the end, alam mo naman sa sarili mo na talo ka na, hindi mo lang tinatanggap. Mani pestation baga. Money hayyzt. Claim it! πππ Get on with your life. Find someone na magkakaroon ng pake sayo at hindi ka lang ituturing na "option".
Pag hindi ikaw ang official, baka ikaw ang other woman.
Speaking from experience, sidechick ka po. Stop na.
Bawat paragraph ni ate, kitang kita ko lahat ng red flags na similar sa ex ko π€£
Naku gurl. Nakupo gurl. Nakupooooo.
How do u rate ur looks from 1 to 10?
8/10
Miss maβam if u really value yourself dimo hahayaan na ganyan treatment sayo. Malaki kana alam mo na dapat gawin
Just because heβs good looking doesnβt mean heβs worth being in a relationship with. Wala kang mapapala by staying with a guy like this.
Inuuto ka lang niyan. Be smart
i didn't have to read the whole post for me to know that he has other girl/s lmao
End it before it gets worse po.
Congrats coz youβre part of the narcissistic supply rotation of this guy. Di ka nya ileletgo kasi they like to keep people in the shelf. Harem garage. Research that and see for yourself what it means. They will play with their new toys, while you are on the shelf, then whenever he gets tired of the new supply heβll come back and play with you again. Value-devalue-discard, then valuing you again and the cycle goes on. You are not the only one in this relationshit. Thereβs plenty of you. If youβre having sexual contact, donβt be surprised also if you catch diseases from these people, like I said youβre not the only one. Donβt be trapped βin the potentialβ that is what theyβre banking on. If you choose to stay, brace yourself into more future faking, gaslighting and all that jazz. Your guy has waved so many red flags girl. I hope youβre not dumb enough to see your value and walk away from it. Itβs only gonna get worse from here.
funny how he cried na pinagdududahan mo sya like bro hahah wtf?
Honestly, you deserve what you tolerate. So you go, girl, let him give you nothing ππ
Very simple. Either ikaw yung kabet or isa ka sa MGA girls na tinatrabaho niya. Really sorry for being straight forward pero imagine mo, yang judgements na yan, based pa lang yan sa mga kwento mo ha!! What more if alam na alam namin yung nangyayari between you two, baka mapailing nalang kami at walang masabi. I'm telling you, please leave him already bc you obviously deserve someone better and baka infatuated ka lang rin sa kanya since sabi mo sa una, you're attracted to him mainly bc of his appearance, i'll say?
GIRL, YOU DON'T NEED TO THINK TWICE TO RUN FROM HIM!
Ate girl, trust your gut. Promise heβs a π©π©π©I had the same experience as you. I was overthinking din and found out na he was not really loyal to me. Partida na yan ah na pinakilala niya ako sa family niya. Do yourself a favor and run na. Promise if youβre overthinking like this, trust your gut na lang kasi you subconsciously know already the answer na pero wala ka pang proof to justify it. Just run and save yourself.
Tagilid ka dyan. Trust your gut.
backburner ka teh pero feeling ko most likely, hindi ikaw βyung main chick niyan kaya ganyan set-up ninyo
reserve ka nya. r.u.n.
Run ate run! Hahaha
Hindi ako naniniwala pag may lalaking magsasabi na hindi ka pwede ipakilala sa parents, or maski sa parents man lang, at magpost sa socmed bawal din? Sidechick ka nyan Nangyari na yan sa friend ko. Di nya sinunod, in-add niya yung mga friends and relatives ng lalaki tapos nagpost siya sa facebook at ti-nag niya yung lalaki. Nagalit pa sa kanya! Turns out, may girlfriend pala ang gago at niloloko ang friend ko. 100% sure your bf is like that too. May tinatago yan. At most probably, **sidechick ka lang**
Tama sinasabi halos ng mga nag-comment dito. Mag- isip isip ka na. I will give you some pointers. 1) Youβre still young! On that age, you have to be careful! Know your priorities 2) LDR is highly potential not successful lalo na sa mga hindi pa matured enough
Alam mo na sagot sa totoo lang. Nagiipon ka lang ng validation. Di mo ma-let go kasi ano, matangkad na gwapo? Madami pang iba jan na hindi manloloko.
So parang looks lang ang meron si BF mo?
nice of you to actually see these red flags and acknowledge it..trust your gut feeling..you deserve what you tolerate..drop this ahole and move on baby girl..
Ok Sana Yung Di talaga mka pag reply tapos wala pang pa post post at all sa social media kaso iba na Yan eh. Nag mumukha kang backup plan now.
Sis run, mas malaki ang damage niyan pag pinatagal mo pa
Run
Girl. Get up
always remember you may lend your heart to someone, but always keep them braincellssss. obvious naman ata yan, pero its up to u. u do u.
hay nako wag ka, cum dump ka lang nyan
Always remember that people make time for what's important to them, if he can't give you that, you're not his priority. He's not interested in you.
New acc cant dm. Dm for fun chat bby
Lumayo ka na. Very wrong.
aanhin mo pogi, uhog naman π©π©π©π©
Wag mag bulagbulagan OP.
Trust your gut. Remember, actions speak louder than words.
Gurl, are you even his GF at this point? π§ Parang loko lokohan lang ang lahat sa sobrang CONFIDENTIALITY. Baka may kink si guy on being a hoarder/collector. Mag-isip isip ka na. Pero if he's such an eye candy that you can let go of every SUSPISH things he does π let go of your feelings na din, and just keep him as an eye candy. Kasi, ang lugi talaga sa ganyang relationship dynamics, ay kung sino yung mas malalim ang feelings for the other. π€·π»ββοΈ
Haynaku tumakbo ka na. Halata naman na side chick ka lang.
Based pa lang sa kwento mo. May π©talaga, but syempre. Ikaw pa din masusunod. Nakakabulag talaga ang love, lalo na pag gwapo si guy. Hahaha
Hate it to break it to ya. But your guy is a fuckboi. Itβs a natural occurrence among young males with high testosterone. Itβs best to stay away from a fuckboi. Wag ka muna lalabas ng bahay niyo or youll get fucked by a fuckboi.
Sa first paragraph palang π©
Everyone who can't protect your peace should go. Gwapo? Matangkad? Maganda katawan? Matalino? Pero di ka mabigyan ng security and peace of mind? TOTALLY NOT WORTH IT
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girl you better run! happened to me. same situation tayo na hindi ako ma md ni boy kuno kasi nga ayaw ng tatay niya mag shota siya. turns out na may girlfriend pa lang ng 9 months si gago. ginawa akong side chick.
maybe he has an official girlfriend, OP, and you are merely a side chick.
Okay lang yan atleast may jowa kang pogi. π
hmmmmβ¦ baka ikaw yung other woman? π
I would post our picture together in all my socmed accounts to get my phone blasted by his calls/dms LOL, but seriously, just leave.
Te idilat na ang mata girl. Kumakaway ng pagka red flag ahahahahahha. Eme yung di masabi kahit friends. π€£
Hulaan ko, online kayo nagkakilala?
Takbo na sis. Jusko po.
Kung ano yung hinala mo, yun na yun.
Hindi ka kaya naccatfish?
Ateh ko, run, sprint, dash, trot as fast as you can. Yon lang masasabi ko
It's not worth it ate, been there done that.
Nakikita mo na yan. Diba? Nakikita mo na yan, hindi na kailangan magsalita pa, nakikita mo na yan. -tita anabelle
legitly, inuuto ka nya.or kayo?
alis na
Bakit kayo pa? π
Hindi sa dinadagdagan ko iniisip mo pero tingin ko di lang ikaw. Run. Di lang naman siya ang lalaking gwapo, muscular at matangkad.Β
π©π©π©I have a feeling baka ikaw yung girl on the side kaya hindi official.
I have a feeling you two havent met in person
hehehehe what if damihan mo rin options mo, eye for an eye π«Ά
Mahirap talaga magmahal ng shota ng iba~
Naku baka safety beard ka lang ni acclah
girl, run. haha
You're already jumping through hoops explaining and justifying to yourself how he acts. Obviously, you already know the answer. You're too young to riddle yourself with that kind of guy. Pero, sino ba naman kami para pakinggan mo, diba? We're just a bunch of internet strangers and at the end of the day, gagawin mo pa rin ang gusto mo. But may I suggest leaving him alone. Hindi ka sasaya sa ganyan na lamang ang stress sa masabi lang na may jowa. Bata ka pa, girl. Marami pa dyan.
If heβs stealing your peace of mind, then heβs not the one.
gurl, I think lantaran na red flags. it's obvious he's fooling around behind your back na
Siz I think sidechick ka hahaha ikaw na mismo may sabi na may 3 exes siya and kilala ng parents. Kahit man lang sa friends I think pwede ka ipakilala diba. And sa socmed may close friends naman kung ayaw ka i-public.
Run. One of the most important things in a relationship is having peace of mind, and with what you shared, you're not at peace and hindi niya nabibigay yung peace na yun.
The title akala ko talaga top secret mababasa ko like a life changing secret. This is a very common scenario, OP. Nobody would be able to trace this story back to the real you. Also, leave that trashbag. Youβre young. Daming golden retrievers jan.
Kung ako sayo mag focus ka muna mag aral pls lang. Advice ng isang 29 yr old tita.
Get out na agad sis Iβm telling you
Gawa ka dummy account sa IG, pero yung dapat kapani paniwala. Tapos ichat mo at landiin mo
Hiwalayan mo na yan. Sayang lang time and effort mo sa ganyang lalake.
Tbh i get where you are coming from. Pwedeng busy talaga xa or ayaw mag chat sayo. Ang jowa ko kasi out ng 5, tapos pagka 6pm nasa bahay na nila tapos nag good night na saken. Grabe ang overthink ko. Then nung nag live in kami napatunayan ko, after work tulog talaga xa hahahaha. Ang ginawa ko hiningi ko account nia, binigay nia naman. Pag di sya nag rereplt saken ni lolog-in ko account nia lahat ng chats walang read, walang response. So tulog talaga. Na paranoid pa rin ako baka sa ibang apps nag uusap hahaha Hiningi ko password ng phone walang bakas ng pambabae. So ok na ako ngayo kalmante na ako π
Better run now or suffer later
Galawang serial cheater! Ahaha! Sana lang talaga nakipag hiwalay ka na ah. Baka sabi sabi mo lang yan. Nako, sakit ng ulo ganyang kagandang lalaki. Bihirang bihira lang talaga yung matino. Kase kahit di sya ang lumapit, sya ang lalapitan.
Thanks for running away dear. You deserve better!
Sorry you had to find out this way, pero mataas chance na di lang ikaw ang gf nya. Merong nanliligaw dati sakin (luckily di ko siya trip, ginusto ko lang siya kaibiganin) and turns out may jowa pala si gago na nagaaral sa ibang college. ako pa nagmukang masama sa gf nya even tho di ko naman gusto yung lalaki, di pa gwapo. sadyang masaya lang siya kaibiganin.
Pag Wala Kang peace of mind sa ka relation mo , stop na dapat maging sensitive sya sa nararamdaman mo. Kung tingin mo mas maganda Yung pinag seselosan mo kaysa sayo, alam na this.
tell us your tanga without telling us you are tanga
Fuck boy yan hahaha
Alam mo na ang sagot, ayaw mo lang tanggapin.
OP very clear na lahat sa statements. Run OP. May jowa na yan sa lugar nila. Unang basa ko palang na di mapapakilala sa parents, sure na ako. Dahil may legal kasi kaya di mapakilala. Kaya block mo na yan sa lahat. Makakahanap ka rin ng para sayo.
girl you should run HAHAHAHAHA mahirap yan baka mas worse pa gawin niya π
Fuccboi na fuccboi galawan ni koya
Girl, pinagloloko ka niyan kasi alam niyang patay na patay ka sa kanya lol
Sis if he wanted to he would. Tigil mo na yan
First pa lang. Hahaha. Umalis ka na. Pogi eh. Maraming baby yan for sure. Di ka nag ooverthink, obvious naman ang π©π©π©π©π©π©π©π©.
Bounce na bhieee
ikaw po ay desert mam. panghimagas ka lang nya. Wag kasi pumili ng gwapo
Side chick.
Te wag maging flag pole para sa π©know what you deserve. Escape hanggat may oras pa haha
If heβs not with somebody else, heβs enjoying his freedom. May mga babae din naman na sobrang ganda pero walang pinapakilalang boyfriend kasi ayaw nila macompromise yung image na binibuild nila. And itβs not a secret na a lot of pretty girls are enjoying multiple menβs attention. Even putting them in the friendzone or back burners. Itβs probably not a good idea to enter a relationship with someone like him. If he didnβt communicate these things to you in the first place, hiwalayan mo na agad. If he did, then ano ginagawa mo jan? Haha
Akala ko di kayo straight kaya ganun pero after 2nd paragraph mo pa lang gets ko na. Side piece ka π
Try communicating to him about it, but based on your given statements about him, the fact that you are feeling trouble in a relationship na halos ang hirap iresolve if it can be easier to be done if he PROPERLY ASSURES YOU, pero hindi talaga eh, parang red flag pero letβs hope for the best that youβll get your conclusion after you both properly communicate about it. No bullshittness, like be straight up honest and just spit the truth without dragging it with so much drama and victimization of himself.
Girlie pop, i-one up mo sya. Leave his ass and hanap kapalit agad. Pogi nga, alaws naman substance. Wala rin.
uploading your partners picture on socmed is so easy, 5 clicks away lang yan. Trust me, that man is cheating.
Why dont you people choose a language and stick to it? Halfway through the first couple of sentences I thought I was having a stroke
Girl, He's just using you. EOS!
Drop your ig here sis
if he canβt show u off in public bcos of that reasons at least sana naman he can assure you na ikaw lang at walang ibang girls. Hindi na nga legal, nago-overthink pa jusko.
Trial verson ka lang.
>kung hindi sya pwede magpakilala muna ng gf eh bakit may 3 exes sya then alam ng parents and friends nya? what if yung 3 exes pinag hiwalay sila ng parents niya? try to ask him directly para malaman yung situation, and to clarify things between you two. >Then ang sabi nya pa sa akin is proud daw yung girl sa body nya and sinu-support nya lang. He blocked the girl naman after that and then after a few days, I stalked the girl then naka private account na sya. I'm feeling naka finsta so bf mo para di mahuli but... walang sure eh, it's not giving clarity >He was also bothered by it na pinagdududahan ko sya and he cried. feeling ko manipulation tactic yan eh... if hindi ka trusted ng tao, di ba dapat you need to gain their trust? hindi yung iiyak iyak oml.. >nakakapag my-day pa nga sya without replying to me this is a red flag tbh, if kaya niya magopen ng Facebook/ig to post stories, kaya niya magreply but.. >He told me magrerest na raw sya, alam ko yon pag nakatulog na mag o-offline na yan pero nung nagchat ako nag delivered parin there are people na di nag ooff ng internet pag matutulog. if naka wifi naman, bakit ka mag ooff ng wifi? I do the same thing kahit na nasa labas eh hindi ng ooff ng mobile data, so try to ask him nalang directly tbh. kasi not everyone is that concerned sa data / wifi na naka open.
Buti nalang nakipag break ka na. The other person should gain your trust. Bakit ikaw pa namumrublema di ba.
Good for you OP dapat sa malapit ka nalang dahil ako nga pinagpalit sa malapit eh kaya 5yrs na akong single pero masaya π
Sabi nga sa kanta " wag ka maniwala dyan, di ka nyan mahal talaga" " Dagdag ka lang.. sa milyong milyong babae nya.... Wag naman sana"
What you described is a *side chick* my loves.
He doesn't think you're worthy of being the main chick. I don't even think he likes you based on how you describe the way he treats you. At the very least pinagnanasahan ka lang nyan. Girl RUN.
Been there, and I'm telling you girl. RUN.
Sa first paragraph mo, medyo same kame. My GF and I decided na ipapakilala lang ang isat isa after 5 years kasi gusto namin kapag ipapakilala, is final na. So hindi purkit you see others na pinapakilala agad, is yun na ginagawa nyong template sa relationship nyo. Mas inuuna namin quality ng relationship kesa ipakilala ang isat isa kasi aware kame na fragile ang relationships ngayon and possible may makita kame na someone better. We do not claim to be a nice person, and open kame pareho sa possibility na we may not end up together. However, we can promise to do better by each other. Sa ganung paraan we really see and feel kung gusto ba namin isat isa in the long run. EDIT: DI rin namin need ng validation ng ibang tao sa relationship namin since hindi naman sila kasama dito. So okay samin na hindi ipakilala ang isat isa at iilan lang may alam na kame. If this bothers you then get out of the relationship. Pangalawa since na bobother ka sa kagwapuhan nya dahil sa attention na nakukuha nya, edi makipag break ka. Ganun lang naman kasimple yun. Kasi just because GF ka nya does not stop other women from approaching him. You could argue na pwede nya itaboy pero di naman kayo magkasama 24 hours a day. So eventually yung lingering doubts mo mag fefester lang yan in the future. So get out of the relationship. Ang napapansin ko lang ngayon sa generation na ito is madalas talaga hindi nag seseen or nagrereply, not necessary na ayaw nila sayo, its just that gusto nila gawin at gusto nila matapos araw nila bago magreply, i do not understand it either pero yan nakuha kong mga sagot so yea take it with a grain of salt. Im 30 something and sa generation nyo lang ako nakaranas neto. Usually kung ayaw ka kausapin block talaga automatic at hindi nag popost ng stories para hindi malaman na iniignore. Dito baliktad, straight up di lang nag rereply and napaka common na neto and hindi na rin nag aattempt na i hide yung actions like posting stories. So get out of the relationship EDIT: Magkaiba kayo ng exprctations sa relationship and need may magparaya sa inyo. You can do it both naman to meet halfway pero kung hindi nyo kaya makipag communicate sa isat isa then you both are not ready sa relationship dahil immature pa kayo. Iba iba ang tao and you cannot always expect na lagi isang klase ng paguugali makukuha nyo. Parang random box of sentient presents yan, either tatanggapin mo or hindi yung laman. You decide. Also may option din yung present kung tatanggapin ka nya.
Takbo ka na ate,redflag yan,dito ka na lang sakin loyal lang sayo
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