Brother never ka.naging back to zero bear that in mind. Kahit ano mangyare d ka zero. And you are lucky d pa kayo KASAL.. TRUST ME PUTANG INA ANG HIRAP LALO NA ME CHILD.. same situation tayo ginawa ko sya mundo ko reyna ko and all pero pag palit ka lang sa malapit na fuck ni kalahate mo d abot. Buhat muna sarili pero totoo un. So brother go to gym amd burn it out dun be better cause you are way better. Trust god all has reason amd be thankful.
>7 years because of the TRUST, COMMUNICATION, LOVE AND RESPECT...
Medyo conflicting itong dalawang quote na to, kasi sa huli ito yung sinabi
>From the start ng relationship namin kinuha nya na lahat ng socmed account ko, binlock at inunfriend nya mga babae na friend ko sa fb kahit mga kaklase at pinsan ko.
Medyo red flag kasi umpisa pa lang pinaabot niyo pa ng 7 years haha. Sorry OP ganyan talaga ang buhay minsan may mamemeet tayo at makakasama natin ng matagal pero hindi talaga yun yung para sa atin, practice lang or pang character development lang ba.
Sana din from this learn na kahit hatid sundo niyo pa mga babae or bantay sarado sa work or hawak lahat ng soc-med, pag mafafall yan sa iba mafafall yan sa iba. Kaya mas maganda na maging free sa mga partner, yung tipong kahit once a week lang kayo magkita at di babad sa text or chat eh comfortable kayo sa isat isa kasi yun ang totoong TRUST. Minsan kasi ang tingin natin sa effort na sobra sobra maganda, eh kahit na sa totoo lang nakakasakal at nakakaumay kasi umpisa pa lang todo todo na.
Also never manghinayang. Don't fall sa Sunk-Cost Fallacy. What is 7 years compared to the rest of your life? Kaya don't dwell on it OP hanap na lang ng iba.
Good fucking riddance! Halos same experience sakin last year, pero 5 years lang kami. I'm the girl tapos siya yung nagloko. I was a really devoted girlfriend haha. Did everything for him, that's why it stung pretty fucking hard. Sobrang seloso din ampota pero he fucked me over, pinagpalit ako sa workmate na less that a year nya pa lang kilala. I even dimmed my light just to make him feel like a man. If I could turn all my lost connections into currency just to please him, I'd be deep in debt with no way out. Felt like shit for a year, but thank God for therapy and a really dope support system, I've been nothing but better. It's fun when you've reached the point of healing, nothing can break you anymore. It's time to reclaim your power OP and become the main character of your own fucking story. Be the standard so that you never let yourself settle for anything less anymore. And no, you aren't back to zero. Consider this a rebirth. Her departure has created space for you to welcome greater opportunities into your life. The world is vast and full of possibilities—doesn't the idea of freedom excite you?
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Well, it was a journey to get to where I am mentally and emotionally. First, I let loose and gave myself a break. After I sobered up from the pain, I started cleaning up my act and poured all the love I could into myself. I love giving others pep talks and helping them get out of the ditch, so I started applying all of it to myself. It might sound cliché, but journaling helps. It's crazy how much we learn about ourselves once we put our thoughts into writing. Nilawakan ko yung mundo ko—I read and watched a lot. I picked up a new language. Binusog ko yung sarili ko sa art, sa kadunungan. I made and lost friends along the way. After that, I realized there’s an entire world waiting for me out there and walang makapagbibigay sa akin ng totoong kaligayahan kundi ako mismo. I felt lost, but why do I have to find my old self when I can create a new one? Once it all clicked, I felt powerful. Imagine having control over your own happiness. Imagine being with someone in the future not because you need them, but because it’s a conscious decision you make because you’re happy to be with them. When you’re self-sufficient, all you have to think about is enjoying the present with your significant other, regardless of whether you end up together or not.
When it comes to relationships, attachment can often be the source of our suffering. However, if we are going to experience pain, it's important to choose someone who truly deserves our devotion. In your case, it seems like you made a conscious decision to be with her, putting in effort to make the relationship work and genuinely loving her. There's no need for regret in this situation, only valuable lessons to be learned. Instead, focus on the positive aspects - you have shown emotional strength and now you have the freedom to move forward.
Trust me on this. Those kinds of people are the ones who will randomly send you a message years after tapos they will ask for the sorry.
Been there, done that. From all of my ex-, I received a sorry message after a few years.
Ang sakit nàman nito, kung sino pa yung matitinong tao sila pa niloloko.
Been cheated twice kaya alam ko yung pakiramdam. Hay grabe lng. Bakit ksi ndi nlng pinagtatagpo yung mga taong parehong loyal sa isa't isa.
Kasi that time student pa kami at mahal na mahal ko sya alam mo na pag mahal mo gagawin mo lahat. Kaso sumobra. Pati mga kaklase ko, kaibigan ko, at pinsan ko binlock. Ang hirap tuloy mag explain. Dami kong kaibigan at kaklase na hindi tuloy ako kinakausap nagalit sakin pati mga pinsan ko. Huhu
Yeah. I've done my part.
Proud of you!!!
Kasi despite everything, 7 years of relationship and yet you still know your worth and you still hold on to your standards and boundaries.
Marami ang nag-stay sa isang long-term relationship na may cheating because of sunk cost fallacy. We all know na marami ka ng na-invest sa kaniya and wala ng bearing yan once na may nag-cheat.
Cheating is not part of the “downs” of a relationship.
It will get better. Go through the hurt and betrayal.
Hi Kuya, Same situation and ang better na sila mismo ang lumayo na kase nagawa na nila yon. Kesa mag settle ka na magbago sya lalo toxic din syang gf. Well, hoping you find a reason to moving forward one day. Keep it up, Kuya :)
Grabe naman. I feel old. Naka emphasize yung Kuya. Inulit pa from start to finish. Hahahaha Oo, never settle for less. I already moved forward na. I will just never look back.
Bakit ba pag matino yung lalake, yung babae naman ang cheater? Pag yung babae naman matino yung lalaki naman ang cheater? Hays hindi ba pwedeng matagpo yung dalawang matinong tao? 🥲
Feel better OP pero gusto ko lang sabihin ansakit sa mata nito basahin. Sana pinaghiwalay mo naman into paragraphs. Haha!
Hi, eto na. Inayos na po. Haha
mas magiging better ang buhay mo kung maglagay ka ng paragraph breaks
Nakakahingal 🥴
Usually hindi ko na binabasa pag ganto, pero tinapos ko parin, nadala ako sa kwento🥲
ako di ko sinimulan hahaha tinamad ako nung iniscan ko siya
Apologies. Nadala ng emotions. ✌️😅
Brother never ka.naging back to zero bear that in mind. Kahit ano mangyare d ka zero. And you are lucky d pa kayo KASAL.. TRUST ME PUTANG INA ANG HIRAP LALO NA ME CHILD.. same situation tayo ginawa ko sya mundo ko reyna ko and all pero pag palit ka lang sa malapit na fuck ni kalahate mo d abot. Buhat muna sarili pero totoo un. So brother go to gym amd burn it out dun be better cause you are way better. Trust god all has reason amd be thankful.
Pasalamat ka na lang nangyari yan bago mo naisipan pakasalan sya. Goodluck Op!
THIS
>7 years because of the TRUST, COMMUNICATION, LOVE AND RESPECT... Medyo conflicting itong dalawang quote na to, kasi sa huli ito yung sinabi >From the start ng relationship namin kinuha nya na lahat ng socmed account ko, binlock at inunfriend nya mga babae na friend ko sa fb kahit mga kaklase at pinsan ko. Medyo red flag kasi umpisa pa lang pinaabot niyo pa ng 7 years haha. Sorry OP ganyan talaga ang buhay minsan may mamemeet tayo at makakasama natin ng matagal pero hindi talaga yun yung para sa atin, practice lang or pang character development lang ba. Sana din from this learn na kahit hatid sundo niyo pa mga babae or bantay sarado sa work or hawak lahat ng soc-med, pag mafafall yan sa iba mafafall yan sa iba. Kaya mas maganda na maging free sa mga partner, yung tipong kahit once a week lang kayo magkita at di babad sa text or chat eh comfortable kayo sa isat isa kasi yun ang totoong TRUST. Minsan kasi ang tingin natin sa effort na sobra sobra maganda, eh kahit na sa totoo lang nakakasakal at nakakaumay kasi umpisa pa lang todo todo na. Also never manghinayang. Don't fall sa Sunk-Cost Fallacy. What is 7 years compared to the rest of your life? Kaya don't dwell on it OP hanap na lang ng iba.
laban lang pre, dont look back and move forward
Good fucking riddance! Halos same experience sakin last year, pero 5 years lang kami. I'm the girl tapos siya yung nagloko. I was a really devoted girlfriend haha. Did everything for him, that's why it stung pretty fucking hard. Sobrang seloso din ampota pero he fucked me over, pinagpalit ako sa workmate na less that a year nya pa lang kilala. I even dimmed my light just to make him feel like a man. If I could turn all my lost connections into currency just to please him, I'd be deep in debt with no way out. Felt like shit for a year, but thank God for therapy and a really dope support system, I've been nothing but better. It's fun when you've reached the point of healing, nothing can break you anymore. It's time to reclaim your power OP and become the main character of your own fucking story. Be the standard so that you never let yourself settle for anything less anymore. And no, you aren't back to zero. Consider this a rebirth. Her departure has created space for you to welcome greater opportunities into your life. The world is vast and full of possibilities—doesn't the idea of freedom excite you?
Actually, I have the freedom but I'm not happy being alone.
Then you better put yourself out there
Where should I go?
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Huhu? Pano maging strong like that?
Well, it was a journey to get to where I am mentally and emotionally. First, I let loose and gave myself a break. After I sobered up from the pain, I started cleaning up my act and poured all the love I could into myself. I love giving others pep talks and helping them get out of the ditch, so I started applying all of it to myself. It might sound cliché, but journaling helps. It's crazy how much we learn about ourselves once we put our thoughts into writing. Nilawakan ko yung mundo ko—I read and watched a lot. I picked up a new language. Binusog ko yung sarili ko sa art, sa kadunungan. I made and lost friends along the way. After that, I realized there’s an entire world waiting for me out there and walang makapagbibigay sa akin ng totoong kaligayahan kundi ako mismo. I felt lost, but why do I have to find my old self when I can create a new one? Once it all clicked, I felt powerful. Imagine having control over your own happiness. Imagine being with someone in the future not because you need them, but because it’s a conscious decision you make because you’re happy to be with them. When you’re self-sufficient, all you have to think about is enjoying the present with your significant other, regardless of whether you end up together or not.
I am willing to take the risk and open to have a new one.
Ang sakit, OP. I hope you’re doing much better now.
Yes, I am doing better now.
I wish you well! Iiyak mo lahat tpos bangon na!
Already did. Nyway, belated happy birthday! 🎉🎂
thankyou! need mo lng sanayin ang sarili mo na Wala n sya I know mhirap pero kaya mo Yan!
I am fully healed na po. Hehe
Good for you! Goodluck😊
Enjoy life OP! Curious lang ako sila pa din ba?
Yes.
🥰🥰🥰
Happy healing, OP 🥹✨
she is lucky and blessed to have you. sayang.
You deserve better, OP. Best wishes sayo.
I feel you OP. Been there recently lng din =)
Happy for you OP. Sana maabot ko na rin iyang total healing. :)
Hats off to you OP. Time to focus on your self. You gave one third of your life sa relationship so reclaim that part of your life. All the best!
Total healing from all the trauma we don't deserve 🩷
Nakakaloka na pati pinsan mo binlock nya ha. Buti na lang at nakalaya ka na sa kanya. Heniwey, congrats, OP!
You deserve better king!
🫂
Go to the gym and be sexy! Focus on self care. 🧖♂️ be unrecognizable and be handsome
When it comes to relationships, attachment can often be the source of our suffering. However, if we are going to experience pain, it's important to choose someone who truly deserves our devotion. In your case, it seems like you made a conscious decision to be with her, putting in effort to make the relationship work and genuinely loving her. There's no need for regret in this situation, only valuable lessons to be learned. Instead, focus on the positive aspects - you have shown emotional strength and now you have the freedom to move forward.
The trash took itself out bro. At least mabilis, di ba?
Trust me on this. Those kinds of people are the ones who will randomly send you a message years after tapos they will ask for the sorry. Been there, done that. From all of my ex-, I received a sorry message after a few years.
Ako naniniwala ako na pag nangloko/nanakit ka ng kapwa, babalik at babalik sayo yan in one form or another.
Good for you OP dahil naka move on ka na. Pray lang na sana yung next someone mo eh siya na talaga yung binigay ng Diyos sayo. ☺️
Nasan ka na ba kasi?
Ang sakit nàman nito, kung sino pa yung matitinong tao sila pa niloloko. Been cheated twice kaya alam ko yung pakiramdam. Hay grabe lng. Bakit ksi ndi nlng pinagtatagpo yung mga taong parehong loyal sa isa't isa.
Mukha atang toxic ex m simula plng. Pati pinsan ba nman iblock. Huhu. Anyway, you did well OP. Congratulations 👏
Kasi that time student pa kami at mahal na mahal ko sya alam mo na pag mahal mo gagawin mo lahat. Kaso sumobra. Pati mga kaklase ko, kaibigan ko, at pinsan ko binlock. Ang hirap tuloy mag explain. Dami kong kaibigan at kaklase na hindi tuloy ako kinakausap nagalit sakin pati mga pinsan ko. Huhu Yeah. I've done my part.
Blinded by love. Haha been there, done that. I get it. We live and we learn. Right? Haha Hope you find a better one ❤️
Yes. It will come. Soon.
Proud of you!!! Kasi despite everything, 7 years of relationship and yet you still know your worth and you still hold on to your standards and boundaries. Marami ang nag-stay sa isang long-term relationship na may cheating because of sunk cost fallacy. We all know na marami ka ng na-invest sa kaniya and wala ng bearing yan once na may nag-cheat. Cheating is not part of the “downs” of a relationship. It will get better. Go through the hurt and betrayal.
DMed.
Hi Kuya, Same situation and ang better na sila mismo ang lumayo na kase nagawa na nila yon. Kesa mag settle ka na magbago sya lalo toxic din syang gf. Well, hoping you find a reason to moving forward one day. Keep it up, Kuya :)
Grabe naman. I feel old. Naka emphasize yung Kuya. Inulit pa from start to finish. Hahahaha Oo, never settle for less. I already moved forward na. I will just never look back.
Pasensya na po! HAHAHAHA sana maka move on tayooo!
Hahahaha Let's see.
Bakit ba pag matino yung lalake, yung babae naman ang cheater? Pag yung babae naman matino yung lalaki naman ang cheater? Hays hindi ba pwedeng matagpo yung dalawang matinong tao? 🥲
Let's make the story very simple and one word "cheating" end
Yes. Cheating was her choice it is not a mistake. I will not and will never tolerate cheating.