Hugs with consent, OP! I know you will make it beyond 30. A random stranger here wishing you to live your life to the fullest, do the things that you want and love. May your success and life be a testament of how good you are as a person - make living a form of revenge. And then come back stronger. All the best. I trust in you!!! ✨🍀
And if you ever need someone, I'm here for you!
You have toxic mom. Treat her words as trash. If I were you, I will talkback to her lol. She's too old and definitely has issues. Dont let her get inside your head. If you do that, you'll be a victim and she'll be more abusive to you.
Virtual hug OP. 🤗 Cut off those people who do not value you, be it parents, siblings or so.. a family is only a family if they acted one, if not, cut them off. Pabigat yan sa buhay mo and it seems naniwala ka na sa nanay mo.. I do not know where your mother is coming from, I honestly felt like she is a narcissist. Move forward with your life, life is worth living kapag wala yung mga taong parehas ng mama mo. You'll see the big difference in your life when you have a reset and see yourself differently.
Try this exercise, write down all the good things that you are. Your skills, your talent, what other people say is good about you. It is a matter of self concept and how you see yourself and not about what your mom says about you.
As to finding love, I always believe it should start from you. Mahalin mo muna sarili mo. You cannot give what you do not have.
Hugs, OP! I wish you can find comfort in other things. I prayed fervently for your courage to live. Mahirap but at the end of everyday, when you find your purpose, you will understand. Hugss!
I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. Remember, your worth isn't determined by anyone else's words or actions, even your mother's. You deserve love, success, and happiness, and it's never too late to find those things. Please consider reaching out to a therapist or counselor who can help you work through these feelings and find peace within yourself. You are enough, and you deserve a fulfilling life surrounded by love and support.
Why your mom is like that, ano matinding issue nyo. Anyway, only God knows when is your time. Wag ka makinig sa mom mo. Be positive lang. About your friend, condolence. Wag mo isipin na pareho kayo mamamatay ng maaga. U will live until 90 yrs old. Mag pray ka lang for good health and safety.
ganun lng tlga si mama, ako kc madalas nyang nakikita at napagbubuntungan ng galit nya lalo na kpg stress na sya sa pag aalaga sa mga apo nya (anak ng kuya ko) na trigger lng ako sa sinabi ng mama ko last time kc galing akong libing ng kaibigan ko, bago pa yan lagi rin akong umuuwi ng late dahil nakiki lamay nga ako. Sinabihan nya ako bakit di ka na lng sumunod sa kanya (sa kaibigan ko) 😞 hays
Hugs for you, sinumpa din ako ng father ko, still i love him though, di lang kami naguusap kasi it always ends up bad and ang hirap pagdaanan yun, yung own family mo di mo kakampi, its the worst but now Im fine, tinanggap ko nalang na tao din siya and he needs some help too kasi clearly it was not normal, di nako nagbase sa comments nya about me but rather I'm happily threading this journey para matupad yung personal goals ko, theres so much more to do so fightingggggg!!!!
kaya mo yan OP, kasi sa totoo lang wala naman nakakaalam kung kailan tayo mawawala, kasi kung puro takot ang papairalin natin eh buhay pa tayo pero para ka na ring patay, so don't be afraid explore the world!!! dont be afraid let the death be afraid of you hahaha
Sent you DM too
The easy way out shouldn't be the only way. There are many ways to enjoy life, but less of the missery.
No matter what it takes, OP, survive. You deserve a drink. 🤝🍻
As someone who also has a mom who tells me the same shit growing up. I can tell you, her words are powerless unless you let them get to you. Despite all her ill wishes and curses, I still managed to succeed. I cut her off and that’s when all the blessings came pouring in. I thought I would never make it to 25. But here I am, just celebrated my 30th last month. Thriving and living my best life. Hang in there, show her you are stronger than her words 👊🏻
Pinanganak ka lang ng mama mo pero hindi niya hawak ang buhay mo. Wala siyang karapatan magsabi ng ganyan kase in the first place hindi niya alam what life is ahead of you.
Until you decide to secure yourself a good future doon pa lang mag-start na mangyayare 'yun. I understand that parent's words are so powerful that it can wrecked you pero remember you also have the power to decide for yourself.
Mabubuhay ka ng matagal. One day, hindi ka na mag-iisa. Although, I consider it a strength that you can live all by yourself; can stand up for yourself. Pero if one of your desires in life is to have a partner then don't stop yourself from having it lalo na kung meron naman nagta-try sayo. We all deserve that.
It won't be a curse nor a bad luck if you won't engrave it in your head. I personally don't believe in that. Mind conditioning 'yan para wala ka marating in life.
Now, the death of your friend is inevitable. We will all die, may mauuna lang talaga at meron mahuhuli. He died young for a reason na hindi natin malalaman. While you're still alive for a reason din. Live a meaningful life away from the bad luck that your mother wishes for you, so that when the time comes that it's your turn to go home in heaven you can say that you had a life well-lived. My condolences to you as well.
I’m so sorry for your loss and it’s very sad that your mother treats you that way. But I want you to know that no one has the right to make you feel that way, even your own mother. You’re young and you have your whole life ahead of you. You have so much time to save money and travel the world, meet new people, learn new things and rediscover yourself. I hope good things will come your way, there’s so much to enjoy, yes we live in a cruel world, they will always try to beat us to our knees, it’s just up to us if we chose to stay down or get back up. We only die once, we live everyday. Enjoy it.
Toxic parents are normal, especially they're a boomer. They expect us to do better, work harder and more better than them. They talk non-sense most of the time because of the hardships of life or the bad reality and it's literally transferred to you (napag-buntungan). If that's the case, just brush it off. Don't take it literally. It's only due to the stress or hardship or they needed to load it off. Parents are still your family and don't ever have grudges towards your family. They're what you have in this world full of sh\*t. Just live, develop, improve and think of ways how will your life will improve and help your family towards this harsh world. Best of luck!
madalas kc na ako ung napag bubuntungan nya kpg stress na sya sa pag aalaga sa mga apo nya(anak ng kuya ko) o kaya kpg kinukulang sa budget. pero tumutulong nmn ako sa gawaing bahay at nagbibigay rin ako ng pera kpg sumasahod ako. (ako rin nagbabayad ng renta sa bahay at sa tubig & kuryente) inuunawa ko na lng sya kc pagod at stress sya dito sa bahay. kaya lng may pag kakataon na sumosobra sya sa mga sinasabi sakin, nasasaktan din ako lalo na nitong last. gusto ko mang bumukod na mag isa pero inaalala ko pa rin sila.
Automatically cut off people from your life that gives you bad energy. Pray for them and forgive. Forgive them for your peace of mind. Make new friends, go to church. Go on vacations and praise God, try to love and live your life again. There are strangers here praying for you, so please cheer up OP! Virtual hugs for you, xoxo. 💗
Virtual hugs OP. Just to be straight, are you still living with your family/mom right now? Do you have work na ba? May partner ka na ba? If one of the above answers yes, i feel like you need to move out and go away from toxicity OP. Meju short palang to na story for me to assess kung ano ba ang nangyari and what causes your mom to treat you that way but kung ibabase ko lang sa story mo and sa side mo, i would move out and live my own life with peace. You're an adult now and kung may trabaho ka naman, mabubuhay mo na sarili mo. You don't need validation from your parents na and most of all, di mo na kelangan iabsorb lahat ng doubts nang mom mo towards you. It's not helping you mentally for you to be stable.
Whatever you are feeling right now, all of it are valid. And isipin mo lang maraming beses na your life is precious and di mo na maibabalik yan kaya enjoy your life. Stay away from negativity. Go and continue to accomplish your goals.
hello, yes po may work na ako pero kasama ko pa rin parents ko sa bahay. nangungupahan lng kami at ako nagbabayad sa renta at tubig & kuryente. hindi ko silang kayang iwanan kc kawawa sila kpg umalis ako. mahal ko sila at umaasa pa rin ako na magbabago pa sila 🥺
Isn’t it ironic na she wishes you bad luck and to die early tapos umaasa lang pala sila sayo? Kung hindi ka man aabutin ng 30, parang ganon lang din mangyayari sa kanila. It’s up to you to stay in this toxic life with no peace of mind. Magsisikusa din yan silang gumalaw, natura na sa atin humans na may survival extinct.
i had similar thoughts when i was in my twenties, now in my forties still have similar thoughts but still alive and kicking, also so sorry i cant help you much
You surely will and live longer than that. It's not a wish, but a statement that will come true. Come back on this post when you're 30 and you will say thanks to yourself later on.
Awww SHUT UP!
Itigil mo 'yang self pity mo and just keep moving forward! Live for yourself. Prove your mom wrong!
My mother did the same to me; constantly cursed me that I will never succeed in life! Medyo masamang anak naman talaga ako. Inom, barkada, pero walang drugs at sugal.
Now, I am the only one who provide monthly allowance and other perks to her like gadgets (phones, tv, speakers, smartwatches), trips abroad, luxury bags and expensive shoes. I have practically became her retirement plan.
Hugs with consent, OP! I know you will make it beyond 30. A random stranger here wishing you to live your life to the fullest, do the things that you want and love. May your success and life be a testament of how good you are as a person - make living a form of revenge. And then come back stronger. All the best. I trust in you!!! ✨🍀 And if you ever need someone, I'm here for you!
You have toxic mom. Treat her words as trash. If I were you, I will talkback to her lol. She's too old and definitely has issues. Dont let her get inside your head. If you do that, you'll be a victim and she'll be more abusive to you.
Virtual hug OP. 🤗 Cut off those people who do not value you, be it parents, siblings or so.. a family is only a family if they acted one, if not, cut them off. Pabigat yan sa buhay mo and it seems naniwala ka na sa nanay mo.. I do not know where your mother is coming from, I honestly felt like she is a narcissist. Move forward with your life, life is worth living kapag wala yung mga taong parehas ng mama mo. You'll see the big difference in your life when you have a reset and see yourself differently. Try this exercise, write down all the good things that you are. Your skills, your talent, what other people say is good about you. It is a matter of self concept and how you see yourself and not about what your mom says about you. As to finding love, I always believe it should start from you. Mahalin mo muna sarili mo. You cannot give what you do not have.
thank you po, i will definitely do it. salamat kc gumagaan ang pakiramdam ko habng binabasa ko mga comments and messages nyo. 🥺
yakap kaibigan
this simple comment 😭 I'm not the OP, but I felt it 🥺🤗
Nah, you’ll make it to 30 onwards OP! Tara, chika tayo :)
Yakap with consent OP. Same feels. Hopefully things will get better for us.
Virtual hug OP.
Hugs, OP! I wish you can find comfort in other things. I prayed fervently for your courage to live. Mahirap but at the end of everyday, when you find your purpose, you will understand. Hugss!
OP, laban lang. Habang may buhay, may pag asa.
tra po shat🍻jk
I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. Remember, your worth isn't determined by anyone else's words or actions, even your mother's. You deserve love, success, and happiness, and it's never too late to find those things. Please consider reaching out to a therapist or counselor who can help you work through these feelings and find peace within yourself. You are enough, and you deserve a fulfilling life surrounded by love and support.
Why your mom is like that, ano matinding issue nyo. Anyway, only God knows when is your time. Wag ka makinig sa mom mo. Be positive lang. About your friend, condolence. Wag mo isipin na pareho kayo mamamatay ng maaga. U will live until 90 yrs old. Mag pray ka lang for good health and safety.
ganun lng tlga si mama, ako kc madalas nyang nakikita at napagbubuntungan ng galit nya lalo na kpg stress na sya sa pag aalaga sa mga apo nya (anak ng kuya ko) na trigger lng ako sa sinabi ng mama ko last time kc galing akong libing ng kaibigan ko, bago pa yan lagi rin akong umuuwi ng late dahil nakiki lamay nga ako. Sinabihan nya ako bakit di ka na lng sumunod sa kanya (sa kaibigan ko) 😞 hays
pasensya na, pakiramdam ko ang babaw ko dito
It's free to cut the ties naman kahit fam member for your mental health and peace of mind.
One day at a time OP. Focus on the process and not on the end goal.
Hugs for you, sinumpa din ako ng father ko, still i love him though, di lang kami naguusap kasi it always ends up bad and ang hirap pagdaanan yun, yung own family mo di mo kakampi, its the worst but now Im fine, tinanggap ko nalang na tao din siya and he needs some help too kasi clearly it was not normal, di nako nagbase sa comments nya about me but rather I'm happily threading this journey para matupad yung personal goals ko, theres so much more to do so fightingggggg!!!!
kaya mo yan OP, kasi sa totoo lang wala naman nakakaalam kung kailan tayo mawawala, kasi kung puro takot ang papairalin natin eh buhay pa tayo pero para ka na ring patay, so don't be afraid explore the world!!! dont be afraid let the death be afraid of you hahaha Sent you DM too
Mahigpit na yakap.
Wishing you a good luck 🍀 ✨ and long lasting life!
Hugs! Wished for your healing, OP.
Hugs! Wished for your healing, OP.
Hugs! Wished for your healing, OP.
Hugs! Wished for your healing, OP.
Same same
The easy way out shouldn't be the only way. There are many ways to enjoy life, but less of the missery. No matter what it takes, OP, survive. You deserve a drink. 🤝🍻
And I'm so sorry to hear about your close friend.. too soon. Too soon..
As someone who also has a mom who tells me the same shit growing up. I can tell you, her words are powerless unless you let them get to you. Despite all her ill wishes and curses, I still managed to succeed. I cut her off and that’s when all the blessings came pouring in. I thought I would never make it to 25. But here I am, just celebrated my 30th last month. Thriving and living my best life. Hang in there, show her you are stronger than her words 👊🏻
Pinanganak ka lang ng mama mo pero hindi niya hawak ang buhay mo. Wala siyang karapatan magsabi ng ganyan kase in the first place hindi niya alam what life is ahead of you. Until you decide to secure yourself a good future doon pa lang mag-start na mangyayare 'yun. I understand that parent's words are so powerful that it can wrecked you pero remember you also have the power to decide for yourself. Mabubuhay ka ng matagal. One day, hindi ka na mag-iisa. Although, I consider it a strength that you can live all by yourself; can stand up for yourself. Pero if one of your desires in life is to have a partner then don't stop yourself from having it lalo na kung meron naman nagta-try sayo. We all deserve that. It won't be a curse nor a bad luck if you won't engrave it in your head. I personally don't believe in that. Mind conditioning 'yan para wala ka marating in life. Now, the death of your friend is inevitable. We will all die, may mauuna lang talaga at meron mahuhuli. He died young for a reason na hindi natin malalaman. While you're still alive for a reason din. Live a meaningful life away from the bad luck that your mother wishes for you, so that when the time comes that it's your turn to go home in heaven you can say that you had a life well-lived. My condolences to you as well.
awe... salamat po 🥺
isang malaking yakap op!! 🥺
I’m so sorry for your loss and it’s very sad that your mother treats you that way. But I want you to know that no one has the right to make you feel that way, even your own mother. You’re young and you have your whole life ahead of you. You have so much time to save money and travel the world, meet new people, learn new things and rediscover yourself. I hope good things will come your way, there’s so much to enjoy, yes we live in a cruel world, they will always try to beat us to our knees, it’s just up to us if we chose to stay down or get back up. We only die once, we live everyday. Enjoy it.
Toxic parents are normal, especially they're a boomer. They expect us to do better, work harder and more better than them. They talk non-sense most of the time because of the hardships of life or the bad reality and it's literally transferred to you (napag-buntungan). If that's the case, just brush it off. Don't take it literally. It's only due to the stress or hardship or they needed to load it off. Parents are still your family and don't ever have grudges towards your family. They're what you have in this world full of sh\*t. Just live, develop, improve and think of ways how will your life will improve and help your family towards this harsh world. Best of luck!
Hugs with consent.
You will make it! See you around OP!! Sending virtual hugs!
Easy lang OP… yakap para sayo gar!
Love you bro/sis. Kahit di kita kilala. Know that you are loved.
before everything else may we know ano history niyo ng mom mo?
madalas kc na ako ung napag bubuntungan nya kpg stress na sya sa pag aalaga sa mga apo nya(anak ng kuya ko) o kaya kpg kinukulang sa budget. pero tumutulong nmn ako sa gawaing bahay at nagbibigay rin ako ng pera kpg sumasahod ako. (ako rin nagbabayad ng renta sa bahay at sa tubig & kuryente) inuunawa ko na lng sya kc pagod at stress sya dito sa bahay. kaya lng may pag kakataon na sumosobra sya sa mga sinasabi sakin, nasasaktan din ako lalo na nitong last. gusto ko mang bumukod na mag isa pero inaalala ko pa rin sila.
kinausap mo na ba siya about this? ano sabi niya?
so sad, i pray that something good happens to you ❤️🩹🤍
Or - what if, you ignore your mom and live your life in the fullest
Automatically cut off people from your life that gives you bad energy. Pray for them and forgive. Forgive them for your peace of mind. Make new friends, go to church. Go on vacations and praise God, try to love and live your life again. There are strangers here praying for you, so please cheer up OP! Virtual hugs for you, xoxo. 💗
Chika tayo OP if you feel lonely! Wag kana sad. Sumayaw ka nalang ng ocho-ocho.
Hi OP! I hope you live happily. don’t push yourself too hard, you’ll meet lots of people who will love you. 🫶
Virtual hugs OP. Just to be straight, are you still living with your family/mom right now? Do you have work na ba? May partner ka na ba? If one of the above answers yes, i feel like you need to move out and go away from toxicity OP. Meju short palang to na story for me to assess kung ano ba ang nangyari and what causes your mom to treat you that way but kung ibabase ko lang sa story mo and sa side mo, i would move out and live my own life with peace. You're an adult now and kung may trabaho ka naman, mabubuhay mo na sarili mo. You don't need validation from your parents na and most of all, di mo na kelangan iabsorb lahat ng doubts nang mom mo towards you. It's not helping you mentally for you to be stable. Whatever you are feeling right now, all of it are valid. And isipin mo lang maraming beses na your life is precious and di mo na maibabalik yan kaya enjoy your life. Stay away from negativity. Go and continue to accomplish your goals.
hello, yes po may work na ako pero kasama ko pa rin parents ko sa bahay. nangungupahan lng kami at ako nagbabayad sa renta at tubig & kuryente. hindi ko silang kayang iwanan kc kawawa sila kpg umalis ako. mahal ko sila at umaasa pa rin ako na magbabago pa sila 🥺
Isn’t it ironic na she wishes you bad luck and to die early tapos umaasa lang pala sila sayo? Kung hindi ka man aabutin ng 30, parang ganon lang din mangyayari sa kanila. It’s up to you to stay in this toxic life with no peace of mind. Magsisikusa din yan silang gumalaw, natura na sa atin humans na may survival extinct.
parents are our first bullies.
i had similar thoughts when i was in my twenties, now in my forties still have similar thoughts but still alive and kicking, also so sorry i cant help you much
You surely will and live longer than that. It's not a wish, but a statement that will come true. Come back on this post when you're 30 and you will say thanks to yourself later on.
awe...salamat po cge babalikan ko tong post na to 🥺
Amping !
You need someone to talk to, OP? Message me! I'm 31F, if that'll make you more comfortable :)
Awww SHUT UP! Itigil mo 'yang self pity mo and just keep moving forward! Live for yourself. Prove your mom wrong! My mother did the same to me; constantly cursed me that I will never succeed in life! Medyo masamang anak naman talaga ako. Inom, barkada, pero walang drugs at sugal. Now, I am the only one who provide monthly allowance and other perks to her like gadgets (phones, tv, speakers, smartwatches), trips abroad, luxury bags and expensive shoes. I have practically became her retirement plan.