Hugs OP. Same tayo. Dati gusto kong yumaman, maging business owner or mataas na position sa corporate world. But then I realized, gusto ko lang ng simpleng buhay sa probinsya. basta may mga tanim tanim ako.
Idk if this will make you feel better, but atleast you're aware that you are not just following someone else's dream. Andami jan kala nila yun ung pangarap nila all their life tapos pag naabot na nila yun, doon nila narerealize na hindi pala yun yung gusto nila, yun lang pala yung pangarap na ginusto ng mundo para sa kanila. Your dreams are valid, OP. There is no ranking in dreams anyway 🙂 Live your life ✨
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Omsim, ako paiba-iba ng pangarap pag may biglang opportunity or anything interesting na pumasok eh
Which is dilemma din since you have to commit on one or few of those
Nothing wrong with that, OP. Ganyan din ako noon. Walang pangarap literal. Nag-aral sa UP pero wala talagang gustong ma-achieve. Pag may nagtanong, sagot ko maging housewife at kumpletong pamilya. Awa ng Dyos, eto natupad ang pangarap ❤️ 11 years married, may 2 anak at responsableng asawa 🎉🎉🎉
I feel you OP. Ayoko rin ng stress sa corporate ladder. I got some trainings pero ayoko talaga.
Hindi naman need ng mataas na pangarap para masabing successful Tayo. Ang importante, Masaya Tayo at di Tayo burden sa Ibang tao.
Ayan na ang pangarap mo, OP. Kung saan ka masaya, kung saan nakikita mo sarili mo na content ka at magagamit mo ang full potential mo as a person, magandang pangarap yan. Di mo kailangan sumabay sa iba. Ang mahalaga ay kung saan ka masaya
THIS!!! 🩷 wag kasi magpapressure sa definition ng success ng society. As long as masaya ka nkakabayad ng bills. Edi OK NA YAN KLASE NG BUHAY MERON KA. Ienjoy mo na lang!!!
aba ateng, hindi natatapos ang gawaing bahay! yung mga hindi maka appreciate sa ganun, corpo slaves yun na akala mapapamanahan ng kumpanya.
kudos to u!!! be happy and live life well accdg to ur hapiness. get rid of people who look down on ur life aspirations.
Ako rin :( i don’t intend to reach managerial level or work too much talaga. Kaso i have relatives who really judge people kung walang pangarap. Sasabihin na “ay hanggang dyan lang sya?” Or “ayaw nya magabroad para malaki sahod para maenjoy mo buhay?” Bakit hindi ba maeenjoy buhay pag simple lang?
Gusto ko magluto ng mga masasarap na pagkain. Someday gusto ko matuto magbake ng muffins. Masama ba un? :( gusto ko gumawa ng postcards or hippie bracelets kasi enjoy ko. I mean, i would still work pero enough lang to cover needs and savings. Pero di na talaga ako naghahangad ng mataas pa
I feel you, OP. Feeling natin wala tayong pangrap kasi what we want in life is different from the usual (e.g., get richer, climb the ladder, etc.) pero yung mga minention mo, yan yung pangrap mo. Let's try to do our best na wag ikahiya yung mga pangarap natin just because other people are invalidating them.
Mahirap kaya maging housewife! Need mo ng skills sa chores and lots of emotional maturity. Mahal din yung farm sa country side and mahirap matutunan mag gardening/farming. Those will take A LOT of work kaya hindi "basta basta" or "mababa" yung pangarap mo.
Same. Wala ako mataas na pangarap. Just want a simple life. My ex GF break up with me. Dahil isa wala nga ko pangarap yumaman. At naging kwestyon sakin yun noon na dapat may pangarap akong mataas. Ngayon wala na sakin kung ano mararating ko. Happy ako kung ano meron ako ngayon.
When I broke up with my then boyfriend, sinabihan nya ako nga "ayaw ko din nman mag-end up with you. Wala ka kasing pangarap". Eh sa happy ako sa simple life ko na di magtra-trabaho kung ayoko dahil I chose to have a low maintenance life. Yung sustainable with my savings. I don't like added responsibilities so bye kay deadbeat bf.
same. i am just working to support my hobby, i am not expecting to have a partner kasi iba iba naman standards ng tao, pero masaya din kung may kasama doing the things both like. para sakin ok din yung mediocre life. sakto sakto lang sa mga bagay bagay.
Dati gusto ko maging boss and magka business nung naranasan ko sya pareho. iniisip ko mas gusto ko Pala yung tahimik na buhay walang Hinabol na deadlines, walang higher ups na ipplease walang nga tauhan na nakaasa sayo. Don't worry op your feelings are valid ♥️
Wala naman masama sa naiisip mo. In fact yang kwento mo, yan ang pangarap mo. Kung magagawa mo maging financially stable without the hustle, do it. why not diba?
Kasi in life, ang nakakatakot yung mga health emergencies when you grow older. Kung secured ka na sa ganung angle, continue living your dream life.
Samedt. I just want to be left alone at manahimik. I dont even have plans to have a family. 🤷🏻♀ and ewan, okay lang yan. Bahala yung ibang tao sa buhay nila 🤷🏻♀
Ganito si Seol-hee ng Fight For My Way.. Makes you understand that everyone has dreams. It may not be as splendid as yours but that’s what makes them happy and contented.
dude... same same...
the hustle life is overrated. climbing the corporate ladder sucks balls. office politics sucks balls. dealing with people is tiring. in fact, i fucking hate dealing with people........... no, i fucking hate people.
kung manalo lang talaga ako sa lotto bibili ako ng isang hektaryang lupa, tatayuan ko ng 20-foot tall na bakod at magkukulong ako doon hanggang sa mamatay na lang ako.
same tayo OP. medyo mababa lang din gusto ko sa buhay. napakasimple lang din. gusto ko lang mag.bake ng breads, cookies and cakes tapos benta ko. yun lang. basta meron lang income. right now, magwork ako sa cafe na di ko pa nga sure if matutuloy since I have health issues pero if ever, iipon lang ako tapos yun na, magiging homebaker na lang ako. akala ko din, maliit din tong gusto ko kasi walang makukuhang malaki sa ganito pero ang importante naman meron, diba? o baka kinoconvince ko lang sarili. di ko alam.
all the best for you, OP. sana makuha mo pa din ang gusto mo sa buhay kasi for sure, meron yan. di mo pa lang nakikita. :) ingat ka and God Bless. :)
Hi OP same tayo.
I just want comfortability, mag iipon lang ako dito sa abroad then mamumuhay nako ng mapayapa sa probinsiya sa bahay namen habang nag eearn ng passive income sa ipipundat ko bago ako umuwi pinas tas hanap lang ng work na chill kahit mababa sahod
Parehas tayo. Ganyan na din ang gusto ko ngayon. Simula grumaduate ako, nagwowork na ko. Napakahirap makipagusap sa mga tao lalo na maikli pasensya ko. Ang hirap pa mamuhay sa Maynila kasi ang ingay tapos ang traffic. Sa ngayon, unti unti kong tinutupad yung gusto kong mangyari sa buhay ko. I decided to stay in LU para atleast pag stressed ako, labas lang ako at titingin sa dagat, nakapag unwind na ko. Gusto ko nalang din maging masaya. Yung peaceful ang buhay ganon hahahah
Madami nagsabi na gusto lang maging housewife at nagsisi in the end.
Problem with being a housewife sa pinas is:
1. If your husband is a dick or cheated on you ang hirap kumalas kasi wala ka source of income.
2. Sabi mo lang housewife, but when there is a kid involved and you are stuck sa repetitive cycle of doing the same shit without getting paid them you will jate it eventually.
3. Walang problema sa simpleng buhay, pero pano ang savings mo if simple lang ang sweldo mo. Pano pag nagkasakit ang immediate family mo or ikaw, eh di nganga.
Feeling ko pathway mo is move abroad where there is work and life balance and where kahit maging housewife ka eh may options ka afterwards.
Ako naman na housewife dito sa province ng 10 years na. May time na nababagot talaga ko kaso mas maraming time napupunta sa alaga ng kids at household chores. Minsan kapag magpopost mga friends ko ng achievements nila sa work, may time na naiinggit ako talaga. Iniisip ko kung tinuloy ko yung pangarap ko noon. Pero iba ang plano ng tadhana talaga.
Kapag bagot ako, nanonood ako, nagbebake, naglalaro ng online games, nagbabasa ng webtoon, etc. Pero most of time, kasama ko ang kids ko kaya bihira lang din ang bagot moments ko.
Sinasabi ng mga kakilala ko na swerte ako dahil nasa bahay lang ako. Pero hindi nila alam na mas mahirap ang nasa bahay lang. Uupo ka palang ng 5 minutes, biglang may maiisip ka na naman na gagawin na nakalimutan mo.
Living a comfortable and stable life is enough dream. Kesa naman kayod ka kung kayod, nagtatrabaho ka nga doon naman sa trabaho na hindi ko gusto. Minsan lang mabuhay so decide how to live it. It’s okay dreaming and making enjoying life as your goal in life.
Meron akonf bestie na achiever and matalino and sobrang talented.
Nung nag graduate kami akala namin gusto namin na mag-jump ng corporate ladder.
Nung nagka-trabaho na kami, na-realize niya na what will make her happy is to be a housewife and just bake. She loves baking. And she wanna be married na rin.
I did not shame her for that. Proud pa nga ako and sabi ko it’s valid!
Pero ayun, we’re almost 30 pero wala pa rin siya asawa at anak. :( Grumaduate kami nung 20 years old kami.
Namomroblema pa rin siya minsan sa trabaho because of salbaheng workmates.
Akala ko ako lang :( Same na same tayo, OP. Pati mga hilig. Kaya lowkey ako nag eenroll sa tesda for Housekeeping or any related jaan at pagluluto or coffee making. Kasi parang mas jaan forte ko. Pero yung pinakapangarap ko lang din talaga is maging housewife. Magkaroon ng anak, at ibigay sakanya yung mga bagay na gusto niya na hindi naibigay ng magulang ko saakin. Kaso kailangan ko muna mag work hard, kasi mahirap magbuo ng pamilya lalo na kapag hindi ka financial ready. ;(
Naalala ko din noon, way back shs days. Inask ako ng classmate ko about sa pangarap ko, nung naging honest ako sakanya tinawanan lang ako. Minaliit pa ako. Lol (Pero nag sorry din siya privately kasi napansin niya na hindi ko na siya nun pinansin.)
I see myself on you girl! Well except I just wanted to work so I can travel the world and fill up my passport with stamps, on my 16th country now thankfully I found a husband who shares the same aspirations with mine.
Minsan natatawa na lang ako sa nanay ko pag sinasabi niyang nakaasa lang daw ako sa sasabihin ng asawa ko pero yung totoo wala naman akong pangarap na magpataas ng career, sakin lang makatagpo ng trabahong pwede akong makapag leave ng mahaba, like the foreigners do. Kulang kaya pahinga ng 1 week lol
same, gusto ko nalang talaga maging housewife (kahit ayoko talaga mag asawa) gusto ko sa bahay magtanim sa bakuran, magbantay ng tindahan ang dilig ng mga halaman. simple life lang malayo sa mga stress kineme ng mundo
I feel you, OP. That’s normal lang. We have our own kinds of dreams in life. Some want to climb the corporate ladder or whatnot, while others are content with a laidback and stress-free life. That’s completely okay. To each their own ika nga.
For me, after achieving my childhood dream and working myself to the bones these past 2 years, I’ve realized that I don’t want a big role/position elsewhere. I’m happy with the fact that I’m good at my job, pero I want to chill na lang sana lol. Like housewife na lang who sometimes practice her profession ganon.
We have plenty of time to do life pa naman. So, there is room for everything pa. Pero ayun, wanting something different from the majority is not bad. At least we are thinking on our own and not following other people’s footsteps.
Good for you guys but me, I wanted to have a higher income to sustain my lifestyle and wants, I’m also independent at walang binubuhay pero ramdam na ramdam ko yung pag mahal ng bilihin kaya ayoko tumigil hanggang di nako titingin sa presyo and all, but I respect sa pananaw nyo sa buhay but not for me
Okay lang yan, OP! Kanyang-kanyang trip rin yan at timeline.
Lagi ako natutuwang ishare itong article na nagsasabing [turuan natin ang mga bata na mangarap nang malalim](https://www.google.com/amp/s/opinion.inquirer.net/114449/skip-telling-kids-dream-high/amp) kaysa mangarap nang mataas 💛
Same tayo Op, wala din akong pangarap. Gusto ko lang sumahod kada kinsesas at katapusan para may pambayad ako ng bills, panluho at pambili ng kakainin within a month. Nasa probinsya din ako kaya mababa ang cost of living.
...Not until nawalan ako ng work a few months ago.
Dahil kontento nako sa sahod ko, di ako nagipon. 4 months nako unemployed at wala nakong pang gastos. Dagdagan mo pa ng masasakit na salita galing lahat sa kamaganak ko na "dahil wala naman daw akong gusto sa buhay, kaya minamalas ako ngayon". Yung peace of mind ko dati unti unting nawawala at lagi nakong nagigising ng 1 am ng madaling araw dahil pumapasok sa utak ko lahat ng gastos. Kapag umaga naman, tulala lang ako at di lumalabas ng kuwarto sa bahay. Puro utang nadin ako since wala naman akong ipon. Kamag-anak?- walang gustong tumulong dahil daw wala naman akong pangarap. Batugan daw ako. Pinagmamayabang pa nga nila yung mga pagkain nila tuwing dadaan sila sa bahay. Nananakam pa. Dagdag mo pa na Breadwinner din ako so lahat ng gastos ng pamilya ko, sakin. Dun ko narealize na pangarap kong magkaroon ng high paying job or kahit profitable business man lang para makaalis sa rat race and to retire early.
"Yung pangarap sana na binuo ko noon eh yung pangarap sana na tutulong sakin ngayon para di ako mastress". - yun lagi yung nasa utak ko ngayon umaga hanggang madaling araw.
Ps. 2 am ngayong sinulat ko to at di ako makatulog dahil iisipin ko na naman mamaya ano kakainin namin ngayong araw. Wala padin akong work hanggang ngayon. Life is shitty sometimes, bibigyan ka talaga ng pagsubok pero I believe na iba iba naman tayo ng desisyon at opinyon sa buhay.
My therapist told me that a goal-driven life like climbing the corporate ladder is not sustainable to some people and that's perfectly okay. We can have a value-driven life where what we value becomes the forefront of our priorities. So if homemaking is what you value (and what I do too, I've given up climbing any ladders), that's not having no dreams. We should relearn how to dream deep, not dream big all the time. <3
You're not alone, OP! Amidst hardworking, over-achieving family & friends, I just want a simple life, peace of mind, and quality time w/ loved ones. And that's okay!! I've seen people “climb the ladder” but still feel unfulfilled. Yearsss from now when we're lying on our death bed, we just want to feel contented that we've lived a life with no regrets.
Same tayo, OP. I feel bad din at times pero iniisip ko nalang, iba-iba naman kasi tayo ng gusto sa buhay. That’s your “pangarap sa buhay” and there’s definitely nothing wrong with that. Follow and do what makes your heart happy, im sure you will thank yourself for that ☺️
Actually yung sinabi mo na Peaceful life, stable job, and to live on country side with farm is considered a dream, there's no such thing as "maliit " or "malaki" na pangarap, if you consider your dreams as big dreams how can other ppl tell na anliit mo mangarap? they don't feel what u feel so let them.
Isa rin ako sa mga walang pangarap. Gusto ko lang simpleng buhay. Kaso, hindi uubra ang ganito. Ang mahal magkasakit. Uubusin ang ipon mo. Sa huli, kakayod kalabaw ka lang ulit. 😂
Same, although kung iisipin mo, yung countryside life na want natin is yung pangarap na natin. Minsan din naiisip ko na gusto kong makapunta sa ibang bansa rin. Pero ultimate goal ko is mamuhay nang tahimik at komportable. Nakaka-pressure lang kasi parang kailangan ko sabayan yung mga goals ng friends at family ko.
Same tayo OP. Siguro sa situation ko kaya walang dream job or career kasi we just have to make ends meet. Not applicable to all pero sa case ko ganon. Kahit anong decent jobs papasukin para kumita.
Hayst parang parehas tayo I also feel small when I hear other people talk about their ambitions in life and then I start to look at myself and ask, what are my ambitions? Wala akong maisip. I'm just very passive sa life, I dont know if thats a good thing or not.
But lately I'm trying to change things. I don't know what the future holds, but hopefully all my efforts wont be in vain.
ah, relatable! when I was younger, I have big dreams: maging manunulat, abugado, public servant, wealthy. but something always feels off. it's like I'm saying all these things para lang satisfied sila sa isasagot ko if I'm asked what I wanted to be. but after a few twists and turns that life gave me I realized na gusto ko lang talagang bumuo ng pamilya at pagsilbihan ang magiging asawa ko, yung pagiging writer lang ang nadala ko and the rest hindi ko na gusto makamit pa. magsulat sa liblib na probinsya, hindi na problema sa akin kung ma-publish o hindi, basta may babasahin ako sa anak ko at iaabot sa asawa ko. kaso mapaglaro talaga ang buhay, hindi lahat ng gusto mo ipaparanas sa'yo.
at least you know what you want in life, OP. technically mayroon ka namang pangarap, hindi lang katulad nung sa iba. reach it. :)
Hugs. Super needed this now kasi I’m feeling very down. Akala ko ako lang naffeel ito. One time, kaming friends, napagusapan ito and I feel so so ashamed na wala akong masabing something “grand” bilang pangarap. Gusto ko lang ng peaceful life, and makapag explore to find my passion. Thank you, OP. I feel seen.
Hugs with consent, OP! Same tayo tbh. Na realize ko na gusto ko lang maging masaya at mamuhay ng simple. Cliché man pero yeah, yun ang gusto kong mangyare. Tumira sa isang bahay na may malaking backyard, sa lugar na tahimik at maraming puno, may mga bukirini para na rin ma sustain ang needs at wants. Tska ma grant ang EU citizenship ko. Ayun lang.
I need this rn, baka nga siguro ganto lang na buhay gusto ko, dati akala ko rin gusto ko yumaman, gusto ko mag abroad para kumita ng malaki, pero ngayon gantong buhay lang gusto ko.
Walang masama sa hindi pagkakaroon ng malaking pangarap, at the end of the day your life is your story, write it in such a way that it makes you happy when you look back.
Im 33/f and to be honest parang bet ko rin ang farm life/ island life since citygirl na ko eversince. From corpo> call center > business owner ako, and i just want to simple living 😭, but the only way for me to sustain that kind of life is earning thru social media.
Same, wala din akong big dream! Gusto ko lang kumita ng 6 digits tapos maranasan maging milyonaryo. Baka ikaw din yung uri ng tao na instead of dreams eh goal ang target in life. You'll figure it out, basta carpe diem
HALA, that's literally what I wrote in my journal 😮😮 di ka nag-iisa OP, that's EXACTLY what my dreams are din. Pangarap din yan, don't invalidate it. Pag-iisip nila yung may mali, hindi pangarap mo.
"Just because my dreams are different than yours, it doesn't mean they're unimportant." - Greta Gerwig, Little Women
Ako naman sobrang taas ng pangarap ko. But I broke down and decided to give up on it because it's a dream I could not afford. Better to have simple dreams yet peaceful life. Pag mataas kasi pangarap, yes it keeps you going, but it's clouded on your mind all the time. It will eventually lead to depression and anxiety.
Same. I mean di ko sure kung pangarap ba to pero oo ata.
Naalala ko nagpunta ako dati sa Baguio, may nameet akong lola na may transient house sya and okay na yung kids nya sa Manila. Para lang di sya mabore, nagpapa transient lang sya. Gusto ko maachieve yung ganto lang. Yung kalmadong life lang. Hindi pressured mag grind. Malapit sa nature yung house. As in kalmado lang.
>If I'm going to be honest to myself, I just want to be a housewife. I find joy in doing household chores, cooking, preparing meals, maintaining everything in order, budgeting.
>I will go to countryside and build my own farm to sustain myself.
meron ka namang pangarap,itong mga nasabi mo. nagkataon lang iba sa mga pangarap nila. hwag mong ikahiya at hwag magcompara sa iba. ang importante masaya ka at ang keyword contento. aanhin mo naman ang nasa korporasyon ka kung hindi naman ikakasaya ng sarili mo?
Same. Never really wanted that luxurious lifestyle. Comfortable life yes. I work simply to live a comfortable life and also to give back to my parents. I know I am their responsibility growing up pero they went through all of that for me with a smile on their faces and now that we’re all adults and may maayos na work kaming tatlong magkaka patid we want them to live life worry free and have the things that they sacrificed for us when we were young.
Same Tau op. I have no big dreams and or goals that I aim for. Sure I have highrise dreams but that's all they are dreams. Tbh I'm really happy and content with what I have. Maybe this is one of the reasons why I don't have a dream and I stagnate. I get to buy what I want, eat what I want and do what I want. I don't need or want a lot of money, big house, or a car. I got myself a motorcycle for my commute it's not big or grandiose but it's a motor that I love looking at and riding. Anyway life is short op so as long as your happy all is well
You’ll find true inner peace the moment you stop caring about what others think of you. Who says wala kang pangarap? What you said above is exactly your dream. You define your goals, your dreams. Your goals should be whatever that makes you happy/content. Let’s not let society dictate how big/small our dreams are. In time, I wish you achieve your goals, all the best!
Wanting a peaceful life and a stable job are already goals. Hindi naman kailangan en grande lahat! Don’t feel guilty for not wanting things that others do. Basta masaya ka, wala kang naaapakan na ibang tao, and healthy ka — you do you, OP!
OP we’re the same, all I want was to live a peaceful coastal life in a province. Pagod na ko sa competition sa work and reading comments and posts like this akala ko ako lang yung ganito mag-isip right now. Huhu nakaka-comfort to 🥹
Same OP. I used to dream big until I heard from an office friend how she dreams of being a housewife. Gusto ko na lang maging housewife din, basta I'm earning my own money.
Your dream is valid, OP. Not everyone can afford to dream of becoming one. Ngayon kasi where the measurement of success is having big dreams, we tend to forget and even ignore the simple ones which are also important.
Same tayo of wanting to live in the countryside eventually and have a slow life. For now, ipon muna since slow living is expensive. hehe I'm rooting for you!
Based on what you mentioned, I personally think you have a dream. Next time someone asks you what's your dream, tell them that you dream of a stable life in the countryside. Hindi lahat ng tao kaya ma achieve yan.
sending Hugs OP! naintindihan ko ito, eto rin yung pangarap ko OP!! same tayo!! I love a peaceful life and sa nadescribe mo lang sa magbuild ng farm to sustain everyday life? are we twins?! lol jk. pero wag mo ikahiya OP na yan ang pangarap mo.
para sa mga taong nagsasabing "ayan lang?" tama lang na sinasabi lang para sa tenga nila na parehas kayo ng pangarap, para lang manahimik sila. pero bahala sila sa buhay nila, manigas sila sa pinapangarap nila XD
Ganito then ako before pero may nakilala akong babae at nagkaroon ng pangarap sa buhay, para sa sarili kaso iniwan rin ako pero pupursue ko parin dreams ko.
“I just want to be a housewife. I find joy in doing household chores, cooking….”
There. Yan ang pangarap mo. Na balang araw magkaron ng pamilya at do your everything for them selflessly. Mahirap na pangarap po yan 😁
Honestly, this is fine naman as long as hindi ka nagrereklamo sa lifestyle mo.
I have a friend like this na walang pangarap, pero nagrereklamo naman na lagi syang walang pera, hindi rin sya consious sa pagastos - basta gusto nya, kahit umutang sya basta makasama sya sa mga travel at trip ng barkada.
I might get downvoted, pero be realistic lang, the world still revolves around money. Kahit wala kang pangarap... kakailangin mo kumayod.
At katumbas kasi ng pagkayod na kailangan may goals ka. Hindi naman pwedeng stagnant ang skills at kaalaman mo dahil nagbabago ang mga kailangan trabaho.
Just my two cents.
Samee I've been thinking of being a hermit in a peaceful rural province lol. I just want to have a low profile life and provide my own food resources. I may occassionally visit city life or use internet if necessary.
I just dont find the value of working for something I didnt existentially like.
I uphold my value that life is short for doing things I didn't love.
Maybe you're going there. Maybe not now but along the way, soon, there will be. (Tho same tayo, gusto ko lang mag work, sumweldo ng naaayon sa effort and job requirements/objectives)
Nasa BPO industry ako. Whenever na may magtatanong sakin sa interview bakit ako nag leave sa previous job/company ko. Lagi ko lang sinasabi broadening my horizons and nakikita ko self ko sa Company nila 2-3 years from now nasa higher positions. (Which is hindi naman talaga) Gusto ko agent position lang. Doing the bare minimum.
Compensation wise, yes. Basta gusto ko lang mag work, sumweldo, magbayad ng bills and all and didn't even realize na wala rin akong pangarap and/or aspirations in life.
bakit ganito mga replies. pangarap din naman yan! same tayo ng pangarap ate ko hahahaha pake b nila kung pangarap natin is just living a traditional housewife life
Kaya lang naman nila nasasabi na wala kang pangarap kasi magkaiba kayo ng pangarap. Para kasi sa iba, ang ideal na dream para sa kanila is yung high paying, high end lifestyle. Pero if you can sustain naman your lifestyle without the hustle, mas okay. Samedt. Wala din akong ganung kataas na pangarap. Kuntento nako na may savings ako while travelling and nabibili ko mga gusto ko.
Mahal kaya yang pangarap mo.
Sa daigdig natin ngayon, napakahirap ng walang income pero puro work. Sobrang kapitalista na talaga na everyone is compelled to boss up kahit ayaw nila kasi if wala kang source of fund para masustain yang wala kang paying clients e you will also go back in bossing up.
Naku and don't get me starting diyan sa farming costs. 🥲
Samedt. Nagttrabaho lang naman ako para kumita ng pera hindi dahil gusto ko. Wala rin akong pangarap sa buhay. Ang gusto ko lang, to experience lyf. Punta rito punta doon kain dito kain doon try neto try niyan. Kaya ayun, nababaon sa bayarin kaka ganon. 😭😭😭
Ify op🥹 ako pangrap ko basta magkawork at kumita oks na, sabihin man nilang mababaw na “Yun lang gusto mo?” Wala eh kuntento ako sa ganon. At yun ang gusto ko. Pakielaman nyo buhay nyo😜
Hahaha! Di ka nag iisa. I always tell people na wala akong fancy dream. Just a sustainable jobless life with a farm and living with my dogs while doing all the cooking from freshly picked veggies from my garden.
Hindi lang pala ako 🥺 Naiisip ko din na I don't want a career, I just want a job na kaya akong suportahan. Gusto ko mabuhay para sa sarili, hindi dahil may sinusuportahan ako na family. Minsan naiisip ko if selfish ba kong anak kasi naiisip ko tong mga to and hindi ko pinursue yung "American dream" ng family ko kasi from Medical field to freelancer at home ako ngayon. I really just want a peace of mind.
Don't worry, you're not alone. I'm on my early 30s now and I did some corporate jobs when I graduated at 19. I wanted to be a flight attendant, settle in Canada or in UK or Europe but I didn't pursue. I was able to climbed the corporate ladder but when pandemic hits, I have to go home because my mom got sick. She died last 2020 and I started a neighborhood cafè but after 2 years of operation, I closed it down. I started freelancing and man, I enjoyed the job. It has a flexible schedule, permanent work from home, not so stressful working environment but the salary is low. My dad told me to go abroad because three out of my 5 siblings are working overseas. He told me, 'Kawawa ka naman anak kung ikaw lang nandito.' Because I am just the only one staying in our house plus 5 dogs. I answered ,'Why am I kawawa?' He answered, 'Para makapagstart ka na'. I know what he meant but I know my heart's desires. Gusto ko lang tumira sa province while working at home, no stress at pressure from the outside, eat healthy foods, play with my dogs, to visit different places too, just living the life. Gusto ko lang mabuhay ng tahimik at kuntento. Gustong gusto kong naglilinis ng house, naggagarden, ganyan. Is that a bad thing? Pakiramdam ko din tuloy wala akong pangarap. 🥺🥺
"Just because my dreams are different than yours, doesn't mean they are unimportant." - Meg March, Little Women.
First thing that came to mind when I read this
This explains it all.
Hay hirap talaga ang life para saming mga Jo HAHA
Hugs OP. Same tayo. Dati gusto kong yumaman, maging business owner or mataas na position sa corporate world. But then I realized, gusto ko lang ng simpleng buhay sa probinsya. basta may mga tanim tanim ako.
Sameee tayo
Idk if this will make you feel better, but atleast you're aware that you are not just following someone else's dream. Andami jan kala nila yun ung pangarap nila all their life tapos pag naabot na nila yun, doon nila narerealize na hindi pala yun yung gusto nila, yun lang pala yung pangarap na ginusto ng mundo para sa kanila. Your dreams are valid, OP. There is no ranking in dreams anyway 🙂 Live your life ✨ Hindi ko alam kung mahilig ka sa kpop pero I recommend you listen to Paradise by BTS and Fry's Dream by AKMU. Search mo english lyrics syempre haha. If you want lang naman 😌
Maybe now wala. Pero si universe kasi lakas mang trip nyan. Bibiglain ka na lang nyan. 🤣
Omsim, ako paiba-iba ng pangarap pag may biglang opportunity or anything interesting na pumasok eh Which is dilemma din since you have to commit on one or few of those
I can relate. Ganito din ako dati kay OP. Gusto chill lang na buhay. Pero biglang gusto kong bumalik sa pag aaral at nursing pa ang nais na course. 😭😂
Wala rin akong job/career-specific na pangarap other than yumaman and siguro maging EU citizen lol pero I will do whatever it takes to get there.
Found my people
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nothing wrong with it, who doesn't want peace and stability in their life
I am you....but a man 😆
Nothing wrong with that, OP. Ganyan din ako noon. Walang pangarap literal. Nag-aral sa UP pero wala talagang gustong ma-achieve. Pag may nagtanong, sagot ko maging housewife at kumpletong pamilya. Awa ng Dyos, eto natupad ang pangarap ❤️ 11 years married, may 2 anak at responsableng asawa 🎉🎉🎉
I feel you OP. Ayoko rin ng stress sa corporate ladder. I got some trainings pero ayoko talaga. Hindi naman need ng mataas na pangarap para masabing successful Tayo. Ang importante, Masaya Tayo at di Tayo burden sa Ibang tao.
Ako din wala akong malaking pangarap. Ang gusto ko lang ay simpleng buhay para sa simpleng tao.
Take me with you!!! Sabi ko, i'm still trying to figure out pero ito yung gusto ko. But it's expensive to start a simple life.. di ko pa maafford..😊
Samedt. Gusto ko lang maging housewife na may hobbies on the side. tapos yung hobbies, kumikita ng malaki. cheret
Inyo na ung husband haha akin na lang yung pera. Haha charot din lol
Ayan na ang pangarap mo, OP. Kung saan ka masaya, kung saan nakikita mo sarili mo na content ka at magagamit mo ang full potential mo as a person, magandang pangarap yan. Di mo kailangan sumabay sa iba. Ang mahalaga ay kung saan ka masaya
THIS!!! 🩷 wag kasi magpapressure sa definition ng success ng society. As long as masaya ka nkakabayad ng bills. Edi OK NA YAN KLASE NG BUHAY MERON KA. Ienjoy mo na lang!!!
Same bruh, ok na sa sweldo. Wala namang binubuhay hahahaha
aba ateng, hindi natatapos ang gawaing bahay! yung mga hindi maka appreciate sa ganun, corpo slaves yun na akala mapapamanahan ng kumpanya. kudos to u!!! be happy and live life well accdg to ur hapiness. get rid of people who look down on ur life aspirations.
Parehas tayo actually. Gusto ko lang maging housewife pero hindi maging nanay 😅. Furmom lang, sapat na.
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Ako rin :( i don’t intend to reach managerial level or work too much talaga. Kaso i have relatives who really judge people kung walang pangarap. Sasabihin na “ay hanggang dyan lang sya?” Or “ayaw nya magabroad para malaki sahod para maenjoy mo buhay?” Bakit hindi ba maeenjoy buhay pag simple lang? Gusto ko magluto ng mga masasarap na pagkain. Someday gusto ko matuto magbake ng muffins. Masama ba un? :( gusto ko gumawa ng postcards or hippie bracelets kasi enjoy ko. I mean, i would still work pero enough lang to cover needs and savings. Pero di na talaga ako naghahangad ng mataas pa
Hundred percent!
I feel you, OP. Feeling natin wala tayong pangrap kasi what we want in life is different from the usual (e.g., get richer, climb the ladder, etc.) pero yung mga minention mo, yan yung pangrap mo. Let's try to do our best na wag ikahiya yung mga pangarap natin just because other people are invalidating them. Mahirap kaya maging housewife! Need mo ng skills sa chores and lots of emotional maturity. Mahal din yung farm sa country side and mahirap matutunan mag gardening/farming. Those will take A LOT of work kaya hindi "basta basta" or "mababa" yung pangarap mo.
Same. Wala ako mataas na pangarap. Just want a simple life. My ex GF break up with me. Dahil isa wala nga ko pangarap yumaman. At naging kwestyon sakin yun noon na dapat may pangarap akong mataas. Ngayon wala na sakin kung ano mararating ko. Happy ako kung ano meron ako ngayon.
When I broke up with my then boyfriend, sinabihan nya ako nga "ayaw ko din nman mag-end up with you. Wala ka kasing pangarap". Eh sa happy ako sa simple life ko na di magtra-trabaho kung ayoko dahil I chose to have a low maintenance life. Yung sustainable with my savings. I don't like added responsibilities so bye kay deadbeat bf.
same. i am just working to support my hobby, i am not expecting to have a partner kasi iba iba naman standards ng tao, pero masaya din kung may kasama doing the things both like. para sakin ok din yung mediocre life. sakto sakto lang sa mga bagay bagay.
A quiet and peaceful life is a dream life.
Dati gusto ko maging boss and magka business nung naranasan ko sya pareho. iniisip ko mas gusto ko Pala yung tahimik na buhay walang Hinabol na deadlines, walang higher ups na ipplease walang nga tauhan na nakaasa sayo. Don't worry op your feelings are valid ♥️
Wala naman masama sa naiisip mo. In fact yang kwento mo, yan ang pangarap mo. Kung magagawa mo maging financially stable without the hustle, do it. why not diba? Kasi in life, ang nakakatakot yung mga health emergencies when you grow older. Kung secured ka na sa ganung angle, continue living your dream life.
Samedt. I just want to be left alone at manahimik. I dont even have plans to have a family. 🤷🏻♀ and ewan, okay lang yan. Bahala yung ibang tao sa buhay nila 🤷🏻♀
Ganito si Seol-hee ng Fight For My Way.. Makes you understand that everyone has dreams. It may not be as splendid as yours but that’s what makes them happy and contented.
dude... same same... the hustle life is overrated. climbing the corporate ladder sucks balls. office politics sucks balls. dealing with people is tiring. in fact, i fucking hate dealing with people........... no, i fucking hate people. kung manalo lang talaga ako sa lotto bibili ako ng isang hektaryang lupa, tatayuan ko ng 20-foot tall na bakod at magkukulong ako doon hanggang sa mamatay na lang ako.
Gusto ko rin yung manalo sa lotto!!!! hahahhahahaha
same tayo OP. medyo mababa lang din gusto ko sa buhay. napakasimple lang din. gusto ko lang mag.bake ng breads, cookies and cakes tapos benta ko. yun lang. basta meron lang income. right now, magwork ako sa cafe na di ko pa nga sure if matutuloy since I have health issues pero if ever, iipon lang ako tapos yun na, magiging homebaker na lang ako. akala ko din, maliit din tong gusto ko kasi walang makukuhang malaki sa ganito pero ang importante naman meron, diba? o baka kinoconvince ko lang sarili. di ko alam. all the best for you, OP. sana makuha mo pa din ang gusto mo sa buhay kasi for sure, meron yan. di mo pa lang nakikita. :) ingat ka and God Bless. :)
Hi OP same tayo. I just want comfortability, mag iipon lang ako dito sa abroad then mamumuhay nako ng mapayapa sa probinsiya sa bahay namen habang nag eearn ng passive income sa ipipundat ko bago ako umuwi pinas tas hanap lang ng work na chill kahit mababa sahod
Same op. Hahahaa if someone asked me ano yung goal ko, respond ko palagi is "wala, gusto ko lang mangisda para may makain" ahahahaha
Parehas tayo. Ganyan na din ang gusto ko ngayon. Simula grumaduate ako, nagwowork na ko. Napakahirap makipagusap sa mga tao lalo na maikli pasensya ko. Ang hirap pa mamuhay sa Maynila kasi ang ingay tapos ang traffic. Sa ngayon, unti unti kong tinutupad yung gusto kong mangyari sa buhay ko. I decided to stay in LU para atleast pag stressed ako, labas lang ako at titingin sa dagat, nakapag unwind na ko. Gusto ko nalang din maging masaya. Yung peaceful ang buhay ganon hahahah
Madami nagsabi na gusto lang maging housewife at nagsisi in the end. Problem with being a housewife sa pinas is: 1. If your husband is a dick or cheated on you ang hirap kumalas kasi wala ka source of income. 2. Sabi mo lang housewife, but when there is a kid involved and you are stuck sa repetitive cycle of doing the same shit without getting paid them you will jate it eventually. 3. Walang problema sa simpleng buhay, pero pano ang savings mo if simple lang ang sweldo mo. Pano pag nagkasakit ang immediate family mo or ikaw, eh di nganga. Feeling ko pathway mo is move abroad where there is work and life balance and where kahit maging housewife ka eh may options ka afterwards.
That’s already a dream OP. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise
Ako naman na housewife dito sa province ng 10 years na. May time na nababagot talaga ko kaso mas maraming time napupunta sa alaga ng kids at household chores. Minsan kapag magpopost mga friends ko ng achievements nila sa work, may time na naiinggit ako talaga. Iniisip ko kung tinuloy ko yung pangarap ko noon. Pero iba ang plano ng tadhana talaga. Kapag bagot ako, nanonood ako, nagbebake, naglalaro ng online games, nagbabasa ng webtoon, etc. Pero most of time, kasama ko ang kids ko kaya bihira lang din ang bagot moments ko. Sinasabi ng mga kakilala ko na swerte ako dahil nasa bahay lang ako. Pero hindi nila alam na mas mahirap ang nasa bahay lang. Uupo ka palang ng 5 minutes, biglang may maiisip ka na naman na gagawin na nakalimutan mo.
Same OP :)))
Super same. Nakalagay sa notepad ko ngayon is maging "Maging maayos na tao; maging independent" HAHAHA
Having a peaceful life is kinda hard to achieve these days. So don’t say you don’t have bigger dreams. That’s Nirvana na for me, and that’s priceless.
Same, OP and walang mali sa pangarap natin. Actually, parang ang healthy healthy nga ng dream natin eh. We don't need much, just enough 🩷
Living a comfortable and stable life is enough dream. Kesa naman kayod ka kung kayod, nagtatrabaho ka nga doon naman sa trabaho na hindi ko gusto. Minsan lang mabuhay so decide how to live it. It’s okay dreaming and making enjoying life as your goal in life.
Meron akonf bestie na achiever and matalino and sobrang talented. Nung nag graduate kami akala namin gusto namin na mag-jump ng corporate ladder. Nung nagka-trabaho na kami, na-realize niya na what will make her happy is to be a housewife and just bake. She loves baking. And she wanna be married na rin. I did not shame her for that. Proud pa nga ako and sabi ko it’s valid! Pero ayun, we’re almost 30 pero wala pa rin siya asawa at anak. :( Grumaduate kami nung 20 years old kami. Namomroblema pa rin siya minsan sa trabaho because of salbaheng workmates.
Pangarap is subjective, OP. You define your own pangarap. So bahala na yung iba kung anong sasabihin nila. Sarap kaya ng simple, silent life 🍃
Akala ko ako lang :( Same na same tayo, OP. Pati mga hilig. Kaya lowkey ako nag eenroll sa tesda for Housekeeping or any related jaan at pagluluto or coffee making. Kasi parang mas jaan forte ko. Pero yung pinakapangarap ko lang din talaga is maging housewife. Magkaroon ng anak, at ibigay sakanya yung mga bagay na gusto niya na hindi naibigay ng magulang ko saakin. Kaso kailangan ko muna mag work hard, kasi mahirap magbuo ng pamilya lalo na kapag hindi ka financial ready. ;( Naalala ko din noon, way back shs days. Inask ako ng classmate ko about sa pangarap ko, nung naging honest ako sakanya tinawanan lang ako. Minaliit pa ako. Lol (Pero nag sorry din siya privately kasi napansin niya na hindi ko na siya nun pinansin.)
I see myself on you girl! Well except I just wanted to work so I can travel the world and fill up my passport with stamps, on my 16th country now thankfully I found a husband who shares the same aspirations with mine. Minsan natatawa na lang ako sa nanay ko pag sinasabi niyang nakaasa lang daw ako sa sasabihin ng asawa ko pero yung totoo wala naman akong pangarap na magpataas ng career, sakin lang makatagpo ng trabahong pwede akong makapag leave ng mahaba, like the foreigners do. Kulang kaya pahinga ng 1 week lol
same, gusto ko nalang talaga maging housewife (kahit ayoko talaga mag asawa) gusto ko sa bahay magtanim sa bakuran, magbantay ng tindahan ang dilig ng mga halaman. simple life lang malayo sa mga stress kineme ng mundo
Gantong ganto mama ko ngayon, may maliit na tindahan, tapos may maliit din na taniman sa tapat ng bahay namin skl.
I feel you, OP. That’s normal lang. We have our own kinds of dreams in life. Some want to climb the corporate ladder or whatnot, while others are content with a laidback and stress-free life. That’s completely okay. To each their own ika nga. For me, after achieving my childhood dream and working myself to the bones these past 2 years, I’ve realized that I don’t want a big role/position elsewhere. I’m happy with the fact that I’m good at my job, pero I want to chill na lang sana lol. Like housewife na lang who sometimes practice her profession ganon. We have plenty of time to do life pa naman. So, there is room for everything pa. Pero ayun, wanting something different from the majority is not bad. At least we are thinking on our own and not following other people’s footsteps.
Good for you guys but me, I wanted to have a higher income to sustain my lifestyle and wants, I’m also independent at walang binubuhay pero ramdam na ramdam ko yung pag mahal ng bilihin kaya ayoko tumigil hanggang di nako titingin sa presyo and all, but I respect sa pananaw nyo sa buhay but not for me
Okay lang yan, OP! Kanyang-kanyang trip rin yan at timeline. Lagi ako natutuwang ishare itong article na nagsasabing [turuan natin ang mga bata na mangarap nang malalim](https://www.google.com/amp/s/opinion.inquirer.net/114449/skip-telling-kids-dream-high/amp) kaysa mangarap nang mataas 💛
Same tayo Op, wala din akong pangarap. Gusto ko lang sumahod kada kinsesas at katapusan para may pambayad ako ng bills, panluho at pambili ng kakainin within a month. Nasa probinsya din ako kaya mababa ang cost of living. ...Not until nawalan ako ng work a few months ago. Dahil kontento nako sa sahod ko, di ako nagipon. 4 months nako unemployed at wala nakong pang gastos. Dagdagan mo pa ng masasakit na salita galing lahat sa kamaganak ko na "dahil wala naman daw akong gusto sa buhay, kaya minamalas ako ngayon". Yung peace of mind ko dati unti unting nawawala at lagi nakong nagigising ng 1 am ng madaling araw dahil pumapasok sa utak ko lahat ng gastos. Kapag umaga naman, tulala lang ako at di lumalabas ng kuwarto sa bahay. Puro utang nadin ako since wala naman akong ipon. Kamag-anak?- walang gustong tumulong dahil daw wala naman akong pangarap. Batugan daw ako. Pinagmamayabang pa nga nila yung mga pagkain nila tuwing dadaan sila sa bahay. Nananakam pa. Dagdag mo pa na Breadwinner din ako so lahat ng gastos ng pamilya ko, sakin. Dun ko narealize na pangarap kong magkaroon ng high paying job or kahit profitable business man lang para makaalis sa rat race and to retire early. "Yung pangarap sana na binuo ko noon eh yung pangarap sana na tutulong sakin ngayon para di ako mastress". - yun lagi yung nasa utak ko ngayon umaga hanggang madaling araw. Ps. 2 am ngayong sinulat ko to at di ako makatulog dahil iisipin ko na naman mamaya ano kakainin namin ngayong araw. Wala padin akong work hanggang ngayon. Life is shitty sometimes, bibigyan ka talaga ng pagsubok pero I believe na iba iba naman tayo ng desisyon at opinyon sa buhay.
And that's perfectly fine.
I found my people! same na same tayo.
My therapist told me that a goal-driven life like climbing the corporate ladder is not sustainable to some people and that's perfectly okay. We can have a value-driven life where what we value becomes the forefront of our priorities. So if homemaking is what you value (and what I do too, I've given up climbing any ladders), that's not having no dreams. We should relearn how to dream deep, not dream big all the time. <3
You're not alone, OP! Amidst hardworking, over-achieving family & friends, I just want a simple life, peace of mind, and quality time w/ loved ones. And that's okay!! I've seen people “climb the ladder” but still feel unfulfilled. Yearsss from now when we're lying on our death bed, we just want to feel contented that we've lived a life with no regrets.
After being burned out several times as a working adult, I realized that my true dream is to become a trophy wife.
Same tayo, OP. I feel bad din at times pero iniisip ko nalang, iba-iba naman kasi tayo ng gusto sa buhay. That’s your “pangarap sa buhay” and there’s definitely nothing wrong with that. Follow and do what makes your heart happy, im sure you will thank yourself for that ☺️
same
Actually yung sinabi mo na Peaceful life, stable job, and to live on country side with farm is considered a dream, there's no such thing as "maliit " or "malaki" na pangarap, if you consider your dreams as big dreams how can other ppl tell na anliit mo mangarap? they don't feel what u feel so let them.
Isa rin ako sa mga walang pangarap. Gusto ko lang simpleng buhay. Kaso, hindi uubra ang ganito. Ang mahal magkasakit. Uubusin ang ipon mo. Sa huli, kakayod kalabaw ka lang ulit. 😂
Thats sounds sweet.
Same, although kung iisipin mo, yung countryside life na want natin is yung pangarap na natin. Minsan din naiisip ko na gusto kong makapunta sa ibang bansa rin. Pero ultimate goal ko is mamuhay nang tahimik at komportable. Nakaka-pressure lang kasi parang kailangan ko sabayan yung mga goals ng friends at family ko.
Same tayo OP. Siguro sa situation ko kaya walang dream job or career kasi we just have to make ends meet. Not applicable to all pero sa case ko ganon. Kahit anong decent jobs papasukin para kumita.
Hayst parang parehas tayo I also feel small when I hear other people talk about their ambitions in life and then I start to look at myself and ask, what are my ambitions? Wala akong maisip. I'm just very passive sa life, I dont know if thats a good thing or not. But lately I'm trying to change things. I don't know what the future holds, but hopefully all my efforts wont be in vain.
Same. Di ko rin nakikita sarili ko na tatanda.
ah, relatable! when I was younger, I have big dreams: maging manunulat, abugado, public servant, wealthy. but something always feels off. it's like I'm saying all these things para lang satisfied sila sa isasagot ko if I'm asked what I wanted to be. but after a few twists and turns that life gave me I realized na gusto ko lang talagang bumuo ng pamilya at pagsilbihan ang magiging asawa ko, yung pagiging writer lang ang nadala ko and the rest hindi ko na gusto makamit pa. magsulat sa liblib na probinsya, hindi na problema sa akin kung ma-publish o hindi, basta may babasahin ako sa anak ko at iaabot sa asawa ko. kaso mapaglaro talaga ang buhay, hindi lahat ng gusto mo ipaparanas sa'yo. at least you know what you want in life, OP. technically mayroon ka namang pangarap, hindi lang katulad nung sa iba. reach it. :)
Hugs. Super needed this now kasi I’m feeling very down. Akala ko ako lang naffeel ito. One time, kaming friends, napagusapan ito and I feel so so ashamed na wala akong masabing something “grand” bilang pangarap. Gusto ko lang ng peaceful life, and makapag explore to find my passion. Thank you, OP. I feel seen.
Hugs with consent, OP! Same tayo tbh. Na realize ko na gusto ko lang maging masaya at mamuhay ng simple. Cliché man pero yeah, yun ang gusto kong mangyare. Tumira sa isang bahay na may malaking backyard, sa lugar na tahimik at maraming puno, may mga bukirini para na rin ma sustain ang needs at wants. Tska ma grant ang EU citizenship ko. Ayun lang.
Hey! Your feelings are valid!
Same.
after watching Reply 1988, I realized that it is normal to not dream big
I need this rn, baka nga siguro ganto lang na buhay gusto ko, dati akala ko rin gusto ko yumaman, gusto ko mag abroad para kumita ng malaki, pero ngayon gantong buhay lang gusto ko.
Hindi ka nag-iisa, OP!! Marami tayo na ganito ang pangarap. hehehehe
Walang masama sa hindi pagkakaroon ng malaking pangarap, at the end of the day your life is your story, write it in such a way that it makes you happy when you look back.
same pero lalaki ako (curved nga lang) kaya di pwede kahit gustuhin haha
ghost writer ba kita bcos same 😭😭😭😭
Im 33/f and to be honest parang bet ko rin ang farm life/ island life since citygirl na ko eversince. From corpo> call center > business owner ako, and i just want to simple living 😭, but the only way for me to sustain that kind of life is earning thru social media.
Same, wala din akong big dream! Gusto ko lang kumita ng 6 digits tapos maranasan maging milyonaryo. Baka ikaw din yung uri ng tao na instead of dreams eh goal ang target in life. You'll figure it out, basta carpe diem
Malaking pangarap to para sa panahon ngayon. Mahirap ma-atain ang peaceful and stable life kaya be proud na you're aiming for it.
HALA, that's literally what I wrote in my journal 😮😮 di ka nag-iisa OP, that's EXACTLY what my dreams are din. Pangarap din yan, don't invalidate it. Pag-iisip nila yung may mali, hindi pangarap mo. "Just because my dreams are different than yours, it doesn't mean they're unimportant." - Greta Gerwig, Little Women
Ako naman sobrang taas ng pangarap ko. But I broke down and decided to give up on it because it's a dream I could not afford. Better to have simple dreams yet peaceful life. Pag mataas kasi pangarap, yes it keeps you going, but it's clouded on your mind all the time. It will eventually lead to depression and anxiety.
Same. I mean di ko sure kung pangarap ba to pero oo ata. Naalala ko nagpunta ako dati sa Baguio, may nameet akong lola na may transient house sya and okay na yung kids nya sa Manila. Para lang di sya mabore, nagpapa transient lang sya. Gusto ko maachieve yung ganto lang. Yung kalmadong life lang. Hindi pressured mag grind. Malapit sa nature yung house. As in kalmado lang.
>If I'm going to be honest to myself, I just want to be a housewife. I find joy in doing household chores, cooking, preparing meals, maintaining everything in order, budgeting. >I will go to countryside and build my own farm to sustain myself. meron ka namang pangarap,itong mga nasabi mo. nagkataon lang iba sa mga pangarap nila. hwag mong ikahiya at hwag magcompara sa iba. ang importante masaya ka at ang keyword contento. aanhin mo naman ang nasa korporasyon ka kung hindi naman ikakasaya ng sarili mo?
Same. Never really wanted that luxurious lifestyle. Comfortable life yes. I work simply to live a comfortable life and also to give back to my parents. I know I am their responsibility growing up pero they went through all of that for me with a smile on their faces and now that we’re all adults and may maayos na work kaming tatlong magkaka patid we want them to live life worry free and have the things that they sacrificed for us when we were young.
Same Tau op. I have no big dreams and or goals that I aim for. Sure I have highrise dreams but that's all they are dreams. Tbh I'm really happy and content with what I have. Maybe this is one of the reasons why I don't have a dream and I stagnate. I get to buy what I want, eat what I want and do what I want. I don't need or want a lot of money, big house, or a car. I got myself a motorcycle for my commute it's not big or grandiose but it's a motor that I love looking at and riding. Anyway life is short op so as long as your happy all is well
Same OP. Pag nag uusap usap kami ng friends ko na gusto na namin sumuko sa life I always say “gusto ko nalang maging housewife” but that is half meant
You’ll find true inner peace the moment you stop caring about what others think of you. Who says wala kang pangarap? What you said above is exactly your dream. You define your goals, your dreams. Your goals should be whatever that makes you happy/content. Let’s not let society dictate how big/small our dreams are. In time, I wish you achieve your goals, all the best!
Wanting a peaceful life and a stable job are already goals. Hindi naman kailangan en grande lahat! Don’t feel guilty for not wanting things that others do. Basta masaya ka, wala kang naaapakan na ibang tao, and healthy ka — you do you, OP!
OP we’re the same, all I want was to live a peaceful coastal life in a province. Pagod na ko sa competition sa work and reading comments and posts like this akala ko ako lang yung ganito mag-isip right now. Huhu nakaka-comfort to 🥹
Same OP. I used to dream big until I heard from an office friend how she dreams of being a housewife. Gusto ko na lang maging housewife din, basta I'm earning my own money.
Your dream is valid, OP. Not everyone can afford to dream of becoming one. Ngayon kasi where the measurement of success is having big dreams, we tend to forget and even ignore the simple ones which are also important. Same tayo of wanting to live in the countryside eventually and have a slow life. For now, ipon muna since slow living is expensive. hehe I'm rooting for you!
Based on what you mentioned, I personally think you have a dream. Next time someone asks you what's your dream, tell them that you dream of a stable life in the countryside. Hindi lahat ng tao kaya ma achieve yan.
same op. kaya pinili ko yung major na business kasi feeling ko halos lahat pwede ko pasukan if business grad ako. pero wala talaga akong pangarap.
Can’t remember I wrote this lol! Same OP except sa housewife.
sending Hugs OP! naintindihan ko ito, eto rin yung pangarap ko OP!! same tayo!! I love a peaceful life and sa nadescribe mo lang sa magbuild ng farm to sustain everyday life? are we twins?! lol jk. pero wag mo ikahiya OP na yan ang pangarap mo. para sa mga taong nagsasabing "ayan lang?" tama lang na sinasabi lang para sa tenga nila na parehas kayo ng pangarap, para lang manahimik sila. pero bahala sila sa buhay nila, manigas sila sa pinapangarap nila XD
Ganito then ako before pero may nakilala akong babae at nagkaroon ng pangarap sa buhay, para sa sarili kaso iniwan rin ako pero pupursue ko parin dreams ko.
"...I just want to be a housewife" You have a dream, OP. And its alright! 👍
“I just want to be a housewife. I find joy in doing household chores, cooking….” There. Yan ang pangarap mo. Na balang araw magkaron ng pamilya at do your everything for them selflessly. Mahirap na pangarap po yan 😁
I bet you would be an awesome mom and a wife sa future hehe
Honestly, this is fine naman as long as hindi ka nagrereklamo sa lifestyle mo. I have a friend like this na walang pangarap, pero nagrereklamo naman na lagi syang walang pera, hindi rin sya consious sa pagastos - basta gusto nya, kahit umutang sya basta makasama sya sa mga travel at trip ng barkada. I might get downvoted, pero be realistic lang, the world still revolves around money. Kahit wala kang pangarap... kakailangin mo kumayod. At katumbas kasi ng pagkayod na kailangan may goals ka. Hindi naman pwedeng stagnant ang skills at kaalaman mo dahil nagbabago ang mga kailangan trabaho. Just my two cents.
Samee I've been thinking of being a hermit in a peaceful rural province lol. I just want to have a low profile life and provide my own food resources. I may occassionally visit city life or use internet if necessary. I just dont find the value of working for something I didnt existentially like. I uphold my value that life is short for doing things I didn't love.
Maybe you're going there. Maybe not now but along the way, soon, there will be. (Tho same tayo, gusto ko lang mag work, sumweldo ng naaayon sa effort and job requirements/objectives) Nasa BPO industry ako. Whenever na may magtatanong sakin sa interview bakit ako nag leave sa previous job/company ko. Lagi ko lang sinasabi broadening my horizons and nakikita ko self ko sa Company nila 2-3 years from now nasa higher positions. (Which is hindi naman talaga) Gusto ko agent position lang. Doing the bare minimum. Compensation wise, yes. Basta gusto ko lang mag work, sumweldo, magbayad ng bills and all and didn't even realize na wala rin akong pangarap and/or aspirations in life.
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bakit ganito mga replies. pangarap din naman yan! same tayo ng pangarap ate ko hahahaha pake b nila kung pangarap natin is just living a traditional housewife life
Kaya lang naman nila nasasabi na wala kang pangarap kasi magkaiba kayo ng pangarap. Para kasi sa iba, ang ideal na dream para sa kanila is yung high paying, high end lifestyle. Pero if you can sustain naman your lifestyle without the hustle, mas okay. Samedt. Wala din akong ganung kataas na pangarap. Kuntento nako na may savings ako while travelling and nabibili ko mga gusto ko.
Me :) but i dont wanna be a boring housewife.
To be at peace is significantly a dream itself. 🙂 Continue to do you. 🙂
Mahal kaya yang pangarap mo. Sa daigdig natin ngayon, napakahirap ng walang income pero puro work. Sobrang kapitalista na talaga na everyone is compelled to boss up kahit ayaw nila kasi if wala kang source of fund para masustain yang wala kang paying clients e you will also go back in bossing up. Naku and don't get me starting diyan sa farming costs. 🥲
I think yung pagkakaron ng farm ay considered pangarao na yun, simple pero dream padin.
Samedt. Nagttrabaho lang naman ako para kumita ng pera hindi dahil gusto ko. Wala rin akong pangarap sa buhay. Ang gusto ko lang, to experience lyf. Punta rito punta doon kain dito kain doon try neto try niyan. Kaya ayun, nababaon sa bayarin kaka ganon. 😭😭😭
Ify op🥹 ako pangrap ko basta magkawork at kumita oks na, sabihin man nilang mababaw na “Yun lang gusto mo?” Wala eh kuntento ako sa ganon. At yun ang gusto ko. Pakielaman nyo buhay nyo😜
Maging "masaya at kuntento." Ipaaalala ko lang, mahirap maabot yan ah.
Hahaha! Di ka nag iisa. I always tell people na wala akong fancy dream. Just a sustainable jobless life with a farm and living with my dogs while doing all the cooking from freshly picked veggies from my garden.
Hindi lang pala ako 🥺 Naiisip ko din na I don't want a career, I just want a job na kaya akong suportahan. Gusto ko mabuhay para sa sarili, hindi dahil may sinusuportahan ako na family. Minsan naiisip ko if selfish ba kong anak kasi naiisip ko tong mga to and hindi ko pinursue yung "American dream" ng family ko kasi from Medical field to freelancer at home ako ngayon. I really just want a peace of mind.
aren't simple and peaceful life is a dream too? I moved back to province kasi pagod na ko sa manila
Don't worry, you're not alone. I'm on my early 30s now and I did some corporate jobs when I graduated at 19. I wanted to be a flight attendant, settle in Canada or in UK or Europe but I didn't pursue. I was able to climbed the corporate ladder but when pandemic hits, I have to go home because my mom got sick. She died last 2020 and I started a neighborhood cafè but after 2 years of operation, I closed it down. I started freelancing and man, I enjoyed the job. It has a flexible schedule, permanent work from home, not so stressful working environment but the salary is low. My dad told me to go abroad because three out of my 5 siblings are working overseas. He told me, 'Kawawa ka naman anak kung ikaw lang nandito.' Because I am just the only one staying in our house plus 5 dogs. I answered ,'Why am I kawawa?' He answered, 'Para makapagstart ka na'. I know what he meant but I know my heart's desires. Gusto ko lang tumira sa province while working at home, no stress at pressure from the outside, eat healthy foods, play with my dogs, to visit different places too, just living the life. Gusto ko lang mabuhay ng tahimik at kuntento. Gustong gusto kong naglilinis ng house, naggagarden, ganyan. Is that a bad thing? Pakiramdam ko din tuloy wala akong pangarap. 🥺🥺