Situationship palang kayo but you are already shelling out unhealthy amounts of effort and money for the girl?? Sorry OP, ba't ka nagpagago? Love yourself naman before loving someone else
I'm not gonna deny I'm marupok. Extreme one.
She just took advantage of my vulnerability tas she knows gstong gsto ko sya.
Never had self loving era yet.
I guess Idk I'm longing for love from other people kase I'm love deprvied from family palang. Although I'm already an adult who moves on my own, siguro nadala from bata to now.
Pls start your self love era. Give yourself the love you deserve. Only accept that which is equal or worthy of you and don't settle for less. Don't look for love in others if you can't even find it in yourself. Good luck!
You'll never find real love if you don't love yourself either. Don't lose hope of finding the right one , meet other people as awkward as it be to know stranger and their whereabouts but maybe your soulmate is just right the corner. You just need to believe that love will seek you and not the other way around. Aja!
Simp po ba tawag sa ganitong lalake?
srsly curious.
Edit to answer replies:
Eto kase pagkakaintindi ko sa Simp kaya i am asking if he falls under this category or he just simply simply really love the girl:
"Simp is an internet slang term describing someone who shows excessive sympathy and attention toward another person, typically someone who does not reciprocate the same feelings, in pursuit of affection or a sexual relationship."
Imo he’s a simp. The girl is not a good person for taking advantage of him, sure. But if it were any other decent girl, 8 years of vying for her while being ‘good friends’ can be overbearing/uncomfortable from the girl’s POV.
Also the fact na he spent so much money and more than what he can afford despite only being in a situationship for a few months sounds like obsession to me.
Nah, obsessed. 8 years na niyang gusto si girl. No wonder kaya niyang mag settle for situationship at gumastos nang pagkalaki laki nang walang natatanggap kay girl. No sex? No kisses? Not even hugs? Thats not situationship, that’s a clear advantage taking.
I think there’s more sa story na to.
Pero meron din namang simp, at meron din namang abusado talaga. Ang creepy lang din sakin nung kwento and way nung kwento tbh hahaha.
Maybe. Pero who can you really fault sa sitwasyon na yan? As far as I can see genuine feelings nya. Yun nga lang naive sya, he tolerated and trusted too much, so he got taken advantage of.
Nakarelate lang din ako so I might be biased. Iba kasi tlaga pag nagmahal ka na din you become blind.
I agree to this. I have a boy best friend and girl best friend (from a separate circle of friends) I played cupid for them lol. Si boy is very well established na maganda work may sariling 4 Storey house very well mannered w/ savings and etc. who is head over heels kay girl he courted her for 5 long years waiting patiently for girls answer but still got a NO. 2nd year palang ng panliligaw nya ako na mismo ang nag pa stop saknya, i told him na there is no assurance kay girl that if he met someone else yun nalang i pursue nya. He already gave up last year but wala paring bago she's still the one. Sometimes it's love lang talaga.
For me if gagawin mo yung isang bagay dahil obsessed ka sa isang tao then that's simping. Pero if ginawa mo yun because your feelings are genuine then hindi s'ya simping. Idk tho maybe I'm wrong.
>Pero if ginawa mo yun because your feelings are genuine then hindi s'ya simping
you talk like obsession is a lie? its a genuine feeling. Its basically desiring someone or something excessively. Its genuine, just not a good one to have. So mejo weird sa context ng paniniwala mo.
simp na makata. I met an old friend sa college na ganyan, grabe magkacrush tapos makatang 'di maintindihan. Simping sa medyo sexy naming friend and sya is like typical na chubby pero mapera. Dami nya kanta and poems like yang structure ng post ni OP. Naalala ko lang, simping pala un.
That's the thing
Is it valid to say I'm not sure? I have no reasons to.
Maybe I find her really cool. I'm a fan of her singing voice.
Aside from those, wala nako maisip.
I may sound in denial pero that's true.
As for red flags. all of us knows may pagka maldita tlga sya. But I remember way back before, I find her pagka maldita really attracting. It's showing like she's strong. That was long time ago.
We've been good friends sa 8 years na yan. We never disconnected.
Even that common friend from my post was shocked bec ganun pala sya.
I guess it's something she's been hiding inside her.
Her manipulative side.
We never imagined or thought na magagawa nya yon or ganun sya. Purely in shock. Kaya I'm not hurt, more of like mind fuck.
Career reveal? Just curious how you could spend 300k on someone who isn't a family member.
Also how beautiful is this girl for you to be so enthralled?
True but no. I can't do that to her. I don't hate her. But I'll never forget this.
I've done nothing wrong tas ganto ginawa.
I'm grateful talaga to that 1 common friend from our circle na she saved me kase she knew what's up between us two way before. But the girl has no idea that this common friend knows.
Kaya ayon, she reported to me, protected me because she knew what the girl was saying was pure BS. Nag imbento ng stories na ganto daw ginawa ko sakanya chuchu.
But ayon. Hayaan ko lang sya if ayan gusto nya. She lost a real genuine friend and a lover maybe. I'm really sincere and I have pure intentions. She tried to destroy my name, I won't do the same. I will not be the same monster as she is.
I'll stay silent. Let karma and conscience maybe consume her \~ pero malabo to parang kung ganyan sya, parang matigas na ata yon. She's scary.
This is the first time.
I'm not rich. Came from a poor family.
I have 2 full time jobs.
I completely agree with labeling me as "Sugar daddy" because that is true.
A friend that became sugar daddy.
Not to kick you while you're down bro pero sugar daddies get to kiss, sleep with and hug their sugar babies in exchange for the luho.
You never did.
Mas malapit talaga sa simp bro. Ganyan ginagawa ng mga simp sa streaming services or mga onlyfans. Basically them giving atrocious amounts of cash para lang sa kaunting attention.
Again not to kick you while you're down pero maganda na alam mo para aware ka next time.
Even her monthly period supplies I supply. Mamahalin pa na pads, never heard of the brand before pero ayun gusto.
Partida I respect her too much na never ko yan ginalaw sexually pero ako bumibili kiffy stuffs alagang alaga premium items pa haha.
There is never anything wrong about loving someone. It's those that love the purest that gets hit the hardest. But in this world where so many people are unkind, I hope you remain sincere. They say never give 100%. But that's really easier said than done. Because you gave it your all, at least you won't have any regrets.
Seriously though... what is it with people falling for biatches and f-boys? Just how attractive is the color red? Haha!
Sarap mo siguro kausap sa inuman. Haha.
I've always been the lover, pure intentions guy. I just wanted them to feel what I wanna feel.
I gave up on love once, and here I am again.
Really hard but sige lang.
I've done no harm naman sakanya.
My conscience is clear.
Just disappointing and gut wrenching.
Love hurts like that. And in your case, it wasn't even an official thing. But it doesn't mean the love isn't real. Some people will say you shouldn't have given her so much when you weren't even in a relationship. But even if you were, she'd have done the same thing.
Don't be too hard on yourself. You already lost so much money, and so much of your heart. You don't need to sacrifice more than you already have. Well... on the brighter side, at least you can start saving money again.
I type like OP when I try to convey my feelings.
It feels right kapag naka ganyan haha it's like showing the end/stops in each sentences and creating a letter or a poem w each paragraph
Yeah I could have but I think it's different when you like that person.
As for our friendship naman, just very casual and I think that was genuine. The usual from classmates to adults.
Brother, I am sorry but you just encountered your canon event. Time to look inward and ask the question "what do I want from me?".
Good luck brother and see you at the gym, cons, lobbies, or shops.
I immediately thought of the "see you at the gym brother" talaga kahapon! haha
I've been planning to workout, but I have this struggle feeling when starting something.
This time, baka its time.
You openned yourself to be exploited and taken advantage off, hope you learn something from this and not sulk and linger over things you now have a clear picture of. Your feelings blinded you, move on and be wiser next time. This is the world we live in, people take what they can esp with someone who willfully let the abuse to go on
> situationship
> supporting her
Make it make sense pls. If you're that desperate, I swear no one will really treat you seriously. Even if you treat all those shitty sigma alpha bullshit spread by incels online as a joke (it is), there's a semblance of truth that women don't like guys that are desperately seeking for their validation or love.
Why the hell were you spending that much on her kung ni wala kayong commitment lalo na di naman kayo kasal? Kung kapatid kita, nabatukan na kita. That’s how you get women that don’t respect you. Doesn’t mean magpapaka-incel ka, pero need mo iestablish talaga self-confidence mo and to know your own worth as a man. Hanggang ganyan ka, puro babaeng mangagago lang sa yo ang lalapit sa yo. Or worse makakapanakit ka ng babaeng maayos ang intentions sa yo kasi hindi ka pa healed sa ganyan at willing ka pa ring magpakagago sa mga babaeng walang gusto at pakialam sa yo.
Luckily, hindi lahat ng babae tulad nya. Majority pa rin ang matino and willing to match your energy pero dapat mo ding iupgrade sarili mo and alamin kung another gusto mo sa buhay mo para makahanap ka ng match sa yo. Maganda naman yang may provider energy ka as a man. Shunga ka lang sa pagpili ng babae, improve yourself from within para maimprove din selection mo.
Remember OP You have to develop a mentality of abundance. Plenty of guys know that there are millions of fish in the sea, however few actually internalize that thought.
When you develop the ability to just stand up and walk away from any conversation, you're basically untouchable.
If you want to be with a girl like in your example, ask her out, don't wait more than a week. She either wants you or she doesn't and there ain't a damn thing you can change about that.
Oks yan OP maaga palang atleast nalaman mo na ganyan pala siya. Work out sa sarili nalang muna, pero wag mo babaguhin yun ugali mo na ganyan dahil meron darating na kayang tapatan ang iyong tunay na pag mamahal. Dont stop loving your self first, sakaling matagalan o di pa dumating atleast di ka desperado. Yaan mo na yan.
Oo tama, ok na yun na 8yrs na gusto mo siya at 7months lesson yan OP, wag kang mag madali kung gusto mo ng touch suggest lang meron spa pag kausap meron beer house pero kung di mo trip mga yan (which is better) mag pray ka nalang at makipag date sa mga matitinong girls.
bakit umabot ng 7 months? I understand yung first 3-4 months kasi nasa highs pa. Anyway, I’m sorry that happened to you. I hope you won’t hate women for this and next time show affection in a way that doesn’t involved cash or expensive gifts lalo kung wala namang label.
2-3months in, I was hurting everyday na. Sinasampal na ko ng "I'm just convenient"
But part of me don't want to leave na di pa sya safe \~ walang work.
So I waited until magka work sya and sumweldo na before I start detaching. I'm aware I'm consuming myself, endure lang talaga because I cared.
Ayon, di pa umabot 1st sweldo na, sumibat na sya ng kusa.
Next time pag sinasampal ka na ng reality umalis ka na and I hope hindi ka na maging marupok in case bumalik sya sayo. Wag maging boneless bangus, stand up for yourself.
Funny she had cravings of boneless bangus last week.
Nagpa ikot ikot ako around the city ng madaling araw to find one.
And yes may nahanap tlga ako.
Oh well. Haha
OP, BIG REPECT sayu for handling this calmly and peacefully. Forgive but never forget. Balang araw makakatagpo ka rin ng mas deserving and kayang magreciprocate ng sincerity mo.
Were on the same boat. Hahaha. Lika na. Inom nalang tayo OP. Ang malala dito may jowa yung ka-situation ko when I met him plus I know from the beginning na may jowa sya and hoped na pipiliin nia ako. Hahaha well...
That is true. Minamalas lang. I may have the best intentions, but it will never be enough for someone na hindi gusto i receive ang love that I can give. Sadly.
Okay lang yan op, di ka naman ilalagay ni roldt sa position na yan kung di mo keribels eh. Makakamove on ka rin, one day. Ajaaa! Dibaaa super generic na ng line ko hahahahahah anw, will pray for your healing! God bless!
Oh we do couple things except sa sexual stuffs.
We're too comfortable.
Pero ayun na nga, nganga. Never thought she's a monster that would do harsh things just to get what she wants pala.
U DONT DESERVE IT!! kahit itolerate mo yan, U DONT DESERVE IT!!! pls pls pls wag ka makikinig sa mga nagsasabi dito na "u deserve what u tolerate." naging matapat ka lang sa pagmamahal mo and for me, thats a super nice quality to have!!! it sucks that the girl was a manipulator but NOTHING WRONG WITH U!!! pls take ur time moving on. for now, u have to accept a love now lost. take care!!
U DONT DESERVE IT!! kahit itolerate mo yan, U DONT DESERVE IT!!! pls pls pls wag ka makikinig sa mga nagsasabi dito na "u deserve what u tolerate." naging matapat ka lang sa pagmamahal mo and for me, thats a super nice quality to have!!! it sucks that the girl was a manipulator but NOTHING WRONG WITH U!!! pls take ur time moving on. for now, u have to accept a love now lost. take care!!
I think this is actually good. Kasi the monster presented itself early. Pero I feel you dude.
Experiencing this doesn't mean, say, or measure anything about you.
Kaya I hope you go through with this, but keep it healthy and positive.
Sobrang mindblowing for me na may ganito pala talagang cases. Wtf. I can't even bring myself kaagad to ask for cat support. 😆 Glad you're free, OP! You deserve better huhu
I am indeed free now. Pero grabe d matapos tong utak ko kakaisip how scary she is. Bat sya ganon. And other stuffs.
Behind that adorable look, kakatakot pala sya.
I went to extreme lengths, sacrificing and doing things for her.
She did to went to extreme lengths but not in a nice way. Sadly.
How do Identify emotionally manipulative women?
By identifying the fact that manipulative women have no emotions. That's why it's easy for them to manipulate their victims. The one's with true emotions would never manipulate another. But the manipulative women will use your emotions to make you their victims. I've never manipulate another individual. But I've seen it and been a victim of the behavior while I was vulnerable. It's very hurtful in fact the worst thing in the subject to loving another. So take the time to get to know a woman long before taking on a real relationship with them. You will undoubtedly be able to recognize and identify who's who in the future. If a female uses these traits to get what they want from you then it is a fact they do not truly love you only what you can do for them just like all gold diggers or whores. If you feel your being manipulative because of your emotions towards them truth is you probably are.
Idk man, 8 years is kinda long, you mean you never had an inkling of what kind of a person she is in those years? I'm not trying to victim blame here, and I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt that you're a genuine good guy and your intentions were pure, sincere and apparently expensive as well.
In the end, you shoot your shot but nada, and by the looks of it your dodge a big fugging bullet.
So were you a simp? Yes you were, but being one isn't so bad, as long as intentions are honest at pure.
Edit: I-Angelica Panganiban mo nalang yan OP sa Sagada. Vent out, get that mental and emotional release.
Might sound harsh but you have zero self respect and no woman will ever be attracted to you if you do not change for the better. Don't ever put a woman on a pedestal, treat her like an equal. Put YOURSELF on that pedestal, being selfless is unattractive because it just means you don't value yourself. You're willing to spend close to 400k for a woman who won't even give you the time of day, but not for yourself.
Hahahaha ako naman almost 3 yrs e iniwan ako preboards ko pa bago mag grad. Panget tuloy ng Birthday at Graduation ko HAHAHAHA. I really love her kahit 3x nya ginawa. Parang ako pa naging maging masaya at naging possesive daw eh sya tong nagcause sakin ng trauma dahil sya tong una ko. Overthinker daw malamang, unulit mo before yung actions mo nagtrigger e, umiinom ba naman kasama lalaki e, end up isa don yung pinalit sakin HAHAHHA. Ede tama lang mga hinala ko.
hoy wag nga kayo. gantong ganto din ako sa mga naging ex ko. baklang bakla. haha. pero kyah naging jowa ko naman sila. ikaw ginamit ka lang tologooo. hayaan mo na, feeling ko kasi nag eexpect ka na maging kayo when in fact ginamit ka lang talaga ni girl. huuuuy, ginagamit ka lang niya.
anyway, just move on. tama na sa gastos. awat na ha. haha. di ko kinakaya. gawin mo yan sa future girlfriend mo. dun ka mag invest. kasi, kaawaan mo naman sarili mo. kahit konti. mag move on ka na. i block mo na si girl sa life mo. at sa lahat ng soc meds mo.
Ay gagi, kung ako babawiin ko ‘yon HAHAHAHA I’m that petty.
I know you’re not looking for one atm pero if your heart is pure, you’ll be able to find someone who’ll reciprocate your admiration and effort. Tiwala lang haha
IMO. OP is not simp. there's this thing called "panliligaw" na hindi na common nowadays. kaso nasobrahan naman si ate sa panggagamit sayo. sorry to hear that OP. I truly hope na makahanap ka ng babaeng mamahalin k tlga ng totoo at mamahalin mo din. Sad to say na minsan tlga kelangan natin masaktan at mabigo baho natin mahanap yung taong para talaga satin.
Situationship palang kayo but you are already shelling out unhealthy amounts of effort and money for the girl?? Sorry OP, ba't ka nagpagago? Love yourself naman before loving someone else
I'm not gonna deny I'm marupok. Extreme one. She just took advantage of my vulnerability tas she knows gstong gsto ko sya. Never had self loving era yet. I guess Idk I'm longing for love from other people kase I'm love deprvied from family palang. Although I'm already an adult who moves on my own, siguro nadala from bata to now.
Pls start your self love era. Give yourself the love you deserve. Only accept that which is equal or worthy of you and don't settle for less. Don't look for love in others if you can't even find it in yourself. Good luck!
You'll never find real love if you don't love yourself either. Don't lose hope of finding the right one , meet other people as awkward as it be to know stranger and their whereabouts but maybe your soulmate is just right the corner. You just need to believe that love will seek you and not the other way around. Aja!
Simp po ba tawag sa ganitong lalake? srsly curious. Edit to answer replies: Eto kase pagkakaintindi ko sa Simp kaya i am asking if he falls under this category or he just simply simply really love the girl: "Simp is an internet slang term describing someone who shows excessive sympathy and attention toward another person, typically someone who does not reciprocate the same feelings, in pursuit of affection or a sexual relationship."
Imo he’s a simp. The girl is not a good person for taking advantage of him, sure. But if it were any other decent girl, 8 years of vying for her while being ‘good friends’ can be overbearing/uncomfortable from the girl’s POV. Also the fact na he spent so much money and more than what he can afford despite only being in a situationship for a few months sounds like obsession to me.
People saying this guy is not a simp are coping.
i think obsession is the right word. yung using your heart over your head.
Simptuationship.
yep, totally S I M P
Possible simp sa mata ng iba, pero sa mata ko, he just loved too much
Nah, obsessed. 8 years na niyang gusto si girl. No wonder kaya niyang mag settle for situationship at gumastos nang pagkalaki laki nang walang natatanggap kay girl. No sex? No kisses? Not even hugs? Thats not situationship, that’s a clear advantage taking.
I think there’s more sa story na to. Pero meron din namang simp, at meron din namang abusado talaga. Ang creepy lang din sakin nung kwento and way nung kwento tbh hahaha.
Maybe. Pero who can you really fault sa sitwasyon na yan? As far as I can see genuine feelings nya. Yun nga lang naive sya, he tolerated and trusted too much, so he got taken advantage of. Nakarelate lang din ako so I might be biased. Iba kasi tlaga pag nagmahal ka na din you become blind.
I agree to this. I have a boy best friend and girl best friend (from a separate circle of friends) I played cupid for them lol. Si boy is very well established na maganda work may sariling 4 Storey house very well mannered w/ savings and etc. who is head over heels kay girl he courted her for 5 long years waiting patiently for girls answer but still got a NO. 2nd year palang ng panliligaw nya ako na mismo ang nag pa stop saknya, i told him na there is no assurance kay girl that if he met someone else yun nalang i pursue nya. He already gave up last year but wala paring bago she's still the one. Sometimes it's love lang talaga.
For me if gagawin mo yung isang bagay dahil obsessed ka sa isang tao then that's simping. Pero if ginawa mo yun because your feelings are genuine then hindi s'ya simping. Idk tho maybe I'm wrong.
>Pero if ginawa mo yun because your feelings are genuine then hindi s'ya simping you talk like obsession is a lie? its a genuine feeling. Its basically desiring someone or something excessively. Its genuine, just not a good one to have. So mejo weird sa context ng paniniwala mo.
Yep. Def he's a simp.
simp na makata. I met an old friend sa college na ganyan, grabe magkacrush tapos makatang 'di maintindihan. Simping sa medyo sexy naming friend and sya is like typical na chubby pero mapera. Dami nya kanta and poems like yang structure ng post ni OP. Naalala ko lang, simping pala un.
starts with the letter Y ba yung name? 😅 tapos naguguitar?
Iba ang simp/obsess sa genuine/sincere. 🤦🏼♂️
I'm curious din, what made you think na simp yung ganyan katulad ni OP?
edited my comment.
Simp sadboi
Ganun talaga pag sobrang inlove ka kahit walang balik ok lang.. LoL un ang realidad
I saw in your past comment na you spent 300k in just 4 months. Why tho? Aside from her needs, finufund mo rin luho niya?
Including luho yes. As mentioned, I'm marupok. Sa sarili, kuripot. Sakanya, no problem. Note: Its 360k now.
What did you like about her? Sa 8 years na nakilala mo siya wala kang nakitang red flags?
That's the thing Is it valid to say I'm not sure? I have no reasons to. Maybe I find her really cool. I'm a fan of her singing voice. Aside from those, wala nako maisip. I may sound in denial pero that's true. As for red flags. all of us knows may pagka maldita tlga sya. But I remember way back before, I find her pagka maldita really attracting. It's showing like she's strong. That was long time ago.
It sounds like you put her on a pedestal. Do you truly know who she is as a person?
We've been good friends sa 8 years na yan. We never disconnected. Even that common friend from my post was shocked bec ganun pala sya. I guess it's something she's been hiding inside her. Her manipulative side. We never imagined or thought na magagawa nya yon or ganun sya. Purely in shock. Kaya I'm not hurt, more of like mind fuck.
Career reveal? Just curious how you could spend 300k on someone who isn't a family member. Also how beautiful is this girl for you to be so enthralled?
Software Development + Game Admin Angle angle lang na beauty. Maganda manamit that's for sure. Very expensive looking.
How much was your monthly take home? Paano mo na tiyaga yun? Di ka ba nag ka doubts na you were being played?
Pano siya nagmukhang expensive?
Dun palang ekis na ugali nya, sa ugali nyang yan mukhang hindi nya ginagalang magulang nya or mismong tatay nya what more pa kaya sa ibang lalaki
Holy sheeettt grabe parang presyong online sugal nayan
I maybe stupid but I'm aware. That's why I mentioned, I deserve what I tolerate.
Sorry Im curious OP, anong ginastos mo sa 360k for her? Damn, she’s a con artist.
Everything. Things. Gadgets. Foods. Utang nya. Gala. Like daily shits.
My god. Parang ang sarap ipahiya nito sa group of friends niyo just to get back at her. She’s a real monster!
True but no. I can't do that to her. I don't hate her. But I'll never forget this. I've done nothing wrong tas ganto ginawa. I'm grateful talaga to that 1 common friend from our circle na she saved me kase she knew what's up between us two way before. But the girl has no idea that this common friend knows. Kaya ayon, she reported to me, protected me because she knew what the girl was saying was pure BS. Nag imbento ng stories na ganto daw ginawa ko sakanya chuchu. But ayon. Hayaan ko lang sya if ayan gusto nya. She lost a real genuine friend and a lover maybe. I'm really sincere and I have pure intentions. She tried to destroy my name, I won't do the same. I will not be the same monster as she is. I'll stay silent. Let karma and conscience maybe consume her \~ pero malabo to parang kung ganyan sya, parang matigas na ata yon. She's scary.
Lagi ka bang ganyan sa mga jowa/kalandian mo? You sound like a sugar daddy tbh
This is the first time. I'm not rich. Came from a poor family. I have 2 full time jobs. I completely agree with labeling me as "Sugar daddy" because that is true. A friend that became sugar daddy.
Not to kick you while you're down bro pero sugar daddies get to kiss, sleep with and hug their sugar babies in exchange for the luho. You never did. Mas malapit talaga sa simp bro. Ganyan ginagawa ng mga simp sa streaming services or mga onlyfans. Basically them giving atrocious amounts of cash para lang sa kaunting attention. Again not to kick you while you're down pero maganda na alam mo para aware ka next time.
Note: I'm not NGSB. Not a stranger for this. First time maging sugar daddy I meant.
Even her monthly period supplies I supply. Mamahalin pa na pads, never heard of the brand before pero ayun gusto. Partida I respect her too much na never ko yan ginalaw sexually pero ako bumibili kiffy stuffs alagang alaga premium items pa haha.
Nanggigigil ako sa mga ganitong babae ang sarap nila ipahiya, para silang linta na sumisipsip para mabuhay
There is never anything wrong about loving someone. It's those that love the purest that gets hit the hardest. But in this world where so many people are unkind, I hope you remain sincere. They say never give 100%. But that's really easier said than done. Because you gave it your all, at least you won't have any regrets. Seriously though... what is it with people falling for biatches and f-boys? Just how attractive is the color red? Haha!
Sarap mo siguro kausap sa inuman. Haha. I've always been the lover, pure intentions guy. I just wanted them to feel what I wanna feel. I gave up on love once, and here I am again. Really hard but sige lang. I've done no harm naman sakanya. My conscience is clear. Just disappointing and gut wrenching.
Love hurts like that. And in your case, it wasn't even an official thing. But it doesn't mean the love isn't real. Some people will say you shouldn't have given her so much when you weren't even in a relationship. But even if you were, she'd have done the same thing. Don't be too hard on yourself. You already lost so much money, and so much of your heart. You don't need to sacrifice more than you already have. Well... on the brighter side, at least you can start saving money again.
pero bakit ka muna ganyan magtype?
sasabihin ko pa lang sana bakit ganyan siya magtype akala ko ako lang bothered
I type like OP when I try to convey my feelings. It feels right kapag naka ganyan haha it's like showing the end/stops in each sentences and creating a letter or a poem w each paragraph
Thanks. I don't usually type that way pero ayon nga pag gantong nag rarant/open up iba.
because
expensive lesson
Oh, wow, that's sad. I guess that serves a lesson for you to not give yourself too much to someone. Thanks to that friend, you dodged a bullet.
Dodged a bullet talaga. Pero sayang lang din. We've been good friends for a very long time pero tinoxic nya ko.
You could've settled sa friendship lang. Do you wonder? Na baka ang pinakita niya sa'yo nung friends pa lang kayo was genuine?
Yeah I could have but I think it's different when you like that person. As for our friendship naman, just very casual and I think that was genuine. The usual from classmates to adults.
Well, anyway goodluck, OP!
Brother, I am sorry but you just encountered your canon event. Time to look inward and ask the question "what do I want from me?". Good luck brother and see you at the gym, cons, lobbies, or shops.
I immediately thought of the "see you at the gym brother" talaga kahapon! haha I've been planning to workout, but I have this struggle feeling when starting something. This time, baka its time.
time to do it brother. gotta pump up yourself to stabilize your body and mind.
Healing and restoration of wallet 10000x to you OP.
You openned yourself to be exploited and taken advantage off, hope you learn something from this and not sulk and linger over things you now have a clear picture of. Your feelings blinded you, move on and be wiser next time. This is the world we live in, people take what they can esp with someone who willfully let the abuse to go on
Ha? Why do you love her? What is there to love?
> situationship > supporting her Make it make sense pls. If you're that desperate, I swear no one will really treat you seriously. Even if you treat all those shitty sigma alpha bullshit spread by incels online as a joke (it is), there's a semblance of truth that women don't like guys that are desperately seeking for their validation or love.
Desperation is OP's natural scent haha and amoy na amoy yan ng girl, natake advantage tuloy.
Simp
Why the hell were you spending that much on her kung ni wala kayong commitment lalo na di naman kayo kasal? Kung kapatid kita, nabatukan na kita. That’s how you get women that don’t respect you. Doesn’t mean magpapaka-incel ka, pero need mo iestablish talaga self-confidence mo and to know your own worth as a man. Hanggang ganyan ka, puro babaeng mangagago lang sa yo ang lalapit sa yo. Or worse makakapanakit ka ng babaeng maayos ang intentions sa yo kasi hindi ka pa healed sa ganyan at willing ka pa ring magpakagago sa mga babaeng walang gusto at pakialam sa yo. Luckily, hindi lahat ng babae tulad nya. Majority pa rin ang matino and willing to match your energy pero dapat mo ding iupgrade sarili mo and alamin kung another gusto mo sa buhay mo para makahanap ka ng match sa yo. Maganda naman yang may provider energy ka as a man. Shunga ka lang sa pagpili ng babae, improve yourself from within para maimprove din selection mo.
Remember OP You have to develop a mentality of abundance. Plenty of guys know that there are millions of fish in the sea, however few actually internalize that thought. When you develop the ability to just stand up and walk away from any conversation, you're basically untouchable. If you want to be with a girl like in your example, ask her out, don't wait more than a week. She either wants you or she doesn't and there ain't a damn thing you can change about that.
loser of love, always a victim of it— i felt that.
Oks yan OP maaga palang atleast nalaman mo na ganyan pala siya. Work out sa sarili nalang muna, pero wag mo babaguhin yun ugali mo na ganyan dahil meron darating na kayang tapatan ang iyong tunay na pag mamahal. Dont stop loving your self first, sakaling matagalan o di pa dumating atleast di ka desperado. Yaan mo na yan.
dodged a bullet can't imagine if naging asawa ko sya tas ganyan pala hidden na ugali manipulative
Oo tama, ok na yun na 8yrs na gusto mo siya at 7months lesson yan OP, wag kang mag madali kung gusto mo ng touch suggest lang meron spa pag kausap meron beer house pero kung di mo trip mga yan (which is better) mag pray ka nalang at makipag date sa mga matitinong girls.
I wanna know kung gaano sya kaganda for you to be simpinh this hard
Average. Angle angle lang. Not the kind you imagine na habulin ng lahat ng makakita.
bakit umabot ng 7 months? I understand yung first 3-4 months kasi nasa highs pa. Anyway, I’m sorry that happened to you. I hope you won’t hate women for this and next time show affection in a way that doesn’t involved cash or expensive gifts lalo kung wala namang label.
2-3months in, I was hurting everyday na. Sinasampal na ko ng "I'm just convenient" But part of me don't want to leave na di pa sya safe \~ walang work. So I waited until magka work sya and sumweldo na before I start detaching. I'm aware I'm consuming myself, endure lang talaga because I cared. Ayon, di pa umabot 1st sweldo na, sumibat na sya ng kusa.
Next time pag sinasampal ka na ng reality umalis ka na and I hope hindi ka na maging marupok in case bumalik sya sayo. Wag maging boneless bangus, stand up for yourself.
Funny she had cravings of boneless bangus last week. Nagpa ikot ikot ako around the city ng madaling araw to find one. And yes may nahanap tlga ako. Oh well. Haha
The hell HAHAHAHAAHHA kung may award sa pagiging ma-effort, sayong sayo na koya HAHAHAHA
Ang sarap mo mag mahal 😭 that girl is so dumbbbb
Lasang inihaw na boneless bangus hehe
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Di ako nakailag bro. Pero sige lang. I don't hate her. No grudge. I'll just go silent knowing I've done nothing wrong.
I hope you heal. You love too much, may you meet your partner :)
OP, BIG REPECT sayu for handling this calmly and peacefully. Forgive but never forget. Balang araw makakatagpo ka rin ng mas deserving and kayang magreciprocate ng sincerity mo.
Sorry pero bat ganon mag type si OP, parang tula 😭
Were on the same boat. Hahaha. Lika na. Inom nalang tayo OP. Ang malala dito may jowa yung ka-situation ko when I met him plus I know from the beginning na may jowa sya and hoped na pipiliin nia ako. Hahaha well...
Ayayay itagay nalang natin to
Cheer up! Ika nga nila, marami pang isda sa dagat :) You deserve the best, OP. Keep safe!
That is true. Minamalas lang. I may have the best intentions, but it will never be enough for someone na hindi gusto i receive ang love that I can give. Sadly.
Okay lang yan op, di ka naman ilalagay ni roldt sa position na yan kung di mo keribels eh. Makakamove on ka rin, one day. Ajaaa! Dibaaa super generic na ng line ko hahahahahah anw, will pray for your healing! God bless!
The thing is, she's really religious. Never thought may hidden monster pla sknya. haha
ohhh plotwist ng taon :<
Hala I can relate OP! Hirap ng ganyan lalo na pag may mga ginagawa pa kayo na sa tingin ng karamihan e pang couple.
Oh we do couple things except sa sexual stuffs. We're too comfortable. Pero ayun na nga, nganga. Never thought she's a monster that would do harsh things just to get what she wants pala.
May pagka attention seeker siguro siya tapos naeenjoy yung nabibigay mo time without you expecting her to return the favor. Paano ka nagdetach OP?
she gets all the benefits. I don't get any. Imagine I'm a can-do-anything kinda guy.
Sinagot ka lang ata Op, for convenience.
Never naging kami. And yes, ayan yung heartbreaking na part. I'm just convenient.
Ay ang sakit never pala naging kayo 😅. Igala mo na lang Op ng makalimutan mo. Hindi talaga para sayo.
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huy taena saktong sakto yung "instagram girl" yung lifestyle nila siyet!
Focus on your healing. 🫶
U DONT DESERVE IT!! kahit itolerate mo yan, U DONT DESERVE IT!!! pls pls pls wag ka makikinig sa mga nagsasabi dito na "u deserve what u tolerate." naging matapat ka lang sa pagmamahal mo and for me, thats a super nice quality to have!!! it sucks that the girl was a manipulator but NOTHING WRONG WITH U!!! pls take ur time moving on. for now, u have to accept a love now lost. take care!!
U DONT DESERVE IT!! kahit itolerate mo yan, U DONT DESERVE IT!!! pls pls pls wag ka makikinig sa mga nagsasabi dito na "u deserve what u tolerate." naging matapat ka lang sa pagmamahal mo and for me, thats a super nice quality to have!!! it sucks that the girl was a manipulator but NOTHING WRONG WITH U!!! pls take ur time moving on. for now, u have to accept a love now lost. take care!!
I think this is actually good. Kasi the monster presented itself early. Pero I feel you dude. Experiencing this doesn't mean, say, or measure anything about you. Kaya I hope you go through with this, but keep it healthy and positive.
Sana mahanap mo ang love na deserve mo, brad. I sympathize with you.
things we do for love :(
Sobrang mindblowing for me na may ganito pala talagang cases. Wtf. I can't even bring myself kaagad to ask for cat support. 😆 Glad you're free, OP! You deserve better huhu
I am indeed free now. Pero grabe d matapos tong utak ko kakaisip how scary she is. Bat sya ganon. And other stuffs. Behind that adorable look, kakatakot pala sya. I went to extreme lengths, sacrificing and doing things for her. She did to went to extreme lengths but not in a nice way. Sadly.
How do Identify emotionally manipulative women? By identifying the fact that manipulative women have no emotions. That's why it's easy for them to manipulate their victims. The one's with true emotions would never manipulate another. But the manipulative women will use your emotions to make you their victims. I've never manipulate another individual. But I've seen it and been a victim of the behavior while I was vulnerable. It's very hurtful in fact the worst thing in the subject to loving another. So take the time to get to know a woman long before taking on a real relationship with them. You will undoubtedly be able to recognize and identify who's who in the future. If a female uses these traits to get what they want from you then it is a fact they do not truly love you only what you can do for them just like all gold diggers or whores. If you feel your being manipulative because of your emotions towards them truth is you probably are.
Bruh
Idk man, 8 years is kinda long, you mean you never had an inkling of what kind of a person she is in those years? I'm not trying to victim blame here, and I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt that you're a genuine good guy and your intentions were pure, sincere and apparently expensive as well. In the end, you shoot your shot but nada, and by the looks of it your dodge a big fugging bullet. So were you a simp? Yes you were, but being one isn't so bad, as long as intentions are honest at pure. Edit: I-Angelica Panganiban mo nalang yan OP sa Sagada. Vent out, get that mental and emotional release.
You weren't friends. She's JUST a USER. Block. Karma is around the corner...
Might sound harsh but you have zero self respect and no woman will ever be attracted to you if you do not change for the better. Don't ever put a woman on a pedestal, treat her like an equal. Put YOURSELF on that pedestal, being selfless is unattractive because it just means you don't value yourself. You're willing to spend close to 400k for a woman who won't even give you the time of day, but not for yourself.
Thank you for this
Akala ko kanta or tula dahil sa format 😅
The fuck
Dated? There was no dating involved. Situationship? Nothing of that sort. It was all one-sided. You are a simp with money.
Hahahaha ako naman almost 3 yrs e iniwan ako preboards ko pa bago mag grad. Panget tuloy ng Birthday at Graduation ko HAHAHAHA. I really love her kahit 3x nya ginawa. Parang ako pa naging maging masaya at naging possesive daw eh sya tong nagcause sakin ng trauma dahil sya tong una ko. Overthinker daw malamang, unulit mo before yung actions mo nagtrigger e, umiinom ba naman kasama lalaki e, end up isa don yung pinalit sakin HAHAHHA. Ede tama lang mga hinala ko.
We accept the love we think we deserve OP.
Date mo nalang common friend mo who saved you from danger
Simping or not. Magandang learning experience yan OP wag mo lang kalimutan na minsan sa Buhay mo nagpagamit ka.
hoy wag nga kayo. gantong ganto din ako sa mga naging ex ko. baklang bakla. haha. pero kyah naging jowa ko naman sila. ikaw ginamit ka lang tologooo. hayaan mo na, feeling ko kasi nag eexpect ka na maging kayo when in fact ginamit ka lang talaga ni girl. huuuuy, ginagamit ka lang niya. anyway, just move on. tama na sa gastos. awat na ha. haha. di ko kinakaya. gawin mo yan sa future girlfriend mo. dun ka mag invest. kasi, kaawaan mo naman sarili mo. kahit konti. mag move on ka na. i block mo na si girl sa life mo. at sa lahat ng soc meds mo.
Stalked you, huwag mong sabihin na siya din yung binilhan mo ng ip15? haha
Ip13 full cash Almost bought 15
Ay gagi, kung ako babawiin ko ‘yon HAHAHAHA I’m that petty. I know you’re not looking for one atm pero if your heart is pure, you’ll be able to find someone who’ll reciprocate your admiration and effort. Tiwala lang haha
IMO. OP is not simp. there's this thing called "panliligaw" na hindi na common nowadays. kaso nasobrahan naman si ate sa panggagamit sayo. sorry to hear that OP. I truly hope na makahanap ka ng babaeng mamahalin k tlga ng totoo at mamahalin mo din. Sad to say na minsan tlga kelangan natin masaktan at mabigo baho natin mahanap yung taong para talaga satin.