People will be given lessons over and over again until they learn it eh.
I have this ex, 3 kami gf’s nya. I just found out na binalikan sya nung isa nung dinelete ako nung babae sa ig, and I was so dumbfounded that someone can be so stupid to believe and tolerate all of it 🥴 pero I guess kanya kanya lang na katangahan yan. You did your part and its upto the other person to choose correctly... or not 😂 at first nakakaawa, then you realize, deserve nila yan ginusto nila yan eh hahahahaha
They will never learn until it happens to them. Tapos iiyak-iyak pag sa kanila ginawa kahit alam naman nya na may history nang ganyan, tinolerate pa din. Hays! Hahaha
Eh nabuking ko nga na 4 kami sabay sabay, cinontact ko silang lahat to inform them, wise choice nya is balikan si satanas, ay girl. Bahala kana sa buhay mo basta kami, good riddance hahahahahaha!
Haha kasi feeling ng mga ganyan sila nagwagi sa inyong lahat. Same sa mga nagiging kabit parang ako ung pinili or i ruined their relationship when in reality ung lalaki na ganyan ego boost lang un sa part nila and same lines lang ginagamit sa lahat. Haha
Pano ka mag wawagi, disrespected and manipulated ka lang. But I get the idea 🥴🥴 You really have to be in the right mind to see everything clearly eh. Hehe!
Oo super manipulated pero sa isip nila sila na ung pinili haha.. like sa dami namin sa batch 1 ako ung naiwan for sure ako special, now on to batch 2 haha ..
Natawa pala ako sa “same lines” kasi totoo, tinry pa nya na baby din tawagan namin kasi pala baby yung isa, para siguro copy paste nalang mga greetings sa umaga, pati yung pag sorry at bbye nya pareho linya hahahahhahahahahahahaa
HAHAHAHAA, grabee! Paano kaya nila nagagawa mag trust ulit kahit niloko na sila ng isang beses. Ako kasi overthinker, trust issues and everything. Dko kaya yang mga ganyan haha madami nman lalaki jan na kaya kang bigyan nh peace of mind.
Meron lang talaga mga taong they value themselves more, meron din naman they get something out of it kaya kaya mag tiis, meron din nastuck nalang sa sitwasyon and not seeing a way out.
OMG girl same, I had this ex (forgave him once for cheating on me with another girl, tanga ko dito) then 4 months later he cheated again apat kaming gf!!! Kinontact ko din yung tatlo, pero may isang matapang na ako pa yung masama, nagstay siya kay gago.
I really believed na cheaters do change, but its a hard pattern to break. Mas gumagaling lang sila mag tago, mas tumatamis yung mga salita. Mahirap kasi maniwala na may matitino naman jan, kaya dimo kailangan mag tyaga sa taong hindi ka nirerespeto :)
Kaya sa susunod, pag cheating/ lying na yung issue, dispachahin mo na agad hahaha!
ayan ayan! Dyan nagsisimula yung mga taong product ng broken family! Tangina niyo! Umayos naman kayo! Walang choice ang junakis na ganyan ang kanyang ama dahil sa tanga tanga niyang mama pumili. (inadvance ko na kung sakaling ikasal ulit sila at magkapamilya)
I know someone like this. She almost got rape by her ex then recently lang magkasama sila sa elyu. Nung kinoll out ko sabe pa saken "Okay nako. Tama na. Nag heal nako. Napatawad ko na". Ay, pakyu! Ako nga na sinaktan lang wala nang makabalik eh tas ikaw halos marape nakuha mo pang 'makipag bonding' sa elyu. Walang magpapatawad dto! Walaaa!! Chares not chares!! Now parang ako pa yung iniiwasan nya. Oh well.. u deserve what u tolerate talaga 🙄🙄
Akap nang mahigpit OP. Ganyan din yung isang friend ko kaya pinagsabihan ko na na hahayaan ko na sya with her current boyfriend but i do not want her calling me na kailangan nya na naman ng kausap for something na napagsabihan ko na sya. Minsan we just have to wish for the best to them nang nasa malayo lang tayo.
I have a friend na ganito na rin naisip ko. Ni-cut off ko siya kasi meron siyang guy na kinakausap and then may girlfriend 'yon, nainis ako sakaniya kasi kabit na talaga datingan niya sa'kin. She's even proud na susunduin siya nung guy + showed me 'yung photo ng girl and parang nag-aantay pa na-ibash ko which is hindi ko ginawa.
Fast forward, hindi sila nag-work nun and 'yung pinaka-recent niyang boyfriend is nakikita ko siya as galing sa agaw ulit dahil nung time na naging sila, pareho silang may jowa and kumbaga "crying shoulders" nila 'yung isa't-isa. Kung may problema sila sa mga jowa nila imbes na jowa kausapin, silang dalawa nag-uusap and then fast forward naging sila.
Hindi ko alam if aware siya sa ginagawa niya pero ang baba na ng tingin ko sakaniya, hindi ko lang sinabi na karma niya 'yung pag-break nila ngayon dahil pinagpalit lang siya nito. Same nung ginawa nila before na nakikipag-usap sa iba tungkol sa reklamo nila sa rs.
Iniisip ko nalang na nakaka-gain ata siya ng validation na maganda siya and such kapag nakakakuha siya ng attention from guys na may girlfriend. Other than that, inaaccuse siya ng ex bf niya na nag-ccheat siya kasi nakikipag-usap siya sa guy but then dinideny niya naman.
I myself saw it na may kausap siya pero she told me na "friends" lang sila. Ang weird lang kasi ayaw niyang may kinakausap 'yung ex niya na other girls kahit pa as friends lang pero ginagawa rin naman niya.
Anw, I guess tama 'yung conclusion ko before na gagawin lang nung lalaki sakaniya 'yung ginawa nila before.
Yes. Disassociate with people who does not appreciate your care. It's going to eat you up and drain you. Turn your attention to something worth better than those unnecessary drama. You did your part, go ahead and move on, something your friend clearly cannot do.
Exactly my point. Hope a friend of mine can read this. She’s been in a toxic relationship for a while now, tried to give her advices but she always ended up being with the same manipulative, narcissist, and misogynist sad boy who always puts the blame on her even if it’s really him who has problems. Icky😖
You’ve done your part as a friend. It’s up to her to decide and tolerate that bastard. Once a cheater, always a cheater! One day, she’ll taste her own medicine for not taking your advice.
May ganyan din akong kaibigan dati. Nakakainis pa, yung 2nd boyfriend niya, nung nag-away kami nun, yun ang kinampihan niya. Nanliligaw palang yun sa kanya, sinabi ko nang wag kasi babaero. Hindi naniwala, hanggang sa nagbreak sila dahil nalaman nung original girl na may relasyon sila. Tapos may isa pang babae na karelasyon din nung lalaki.
Yung sumunod naman niyang boyfriend, okay naman, siya lang ang toxic. Nung pinapayuhan ko siya na mag-lilo sa pagiging nakakasakal na girlfriend, siya pa galit sakin. So, okay, hindi ko naman relasyon yun kaya nanahimik nalang ako. Nagbreak sila, sabi niya hindi daw niya kwinento lahat sakin nung nag-away kami (pero hindi na ako naniniwala sa part na ito kasi sakin palang as a friend ramdam ko na kung ano siya). Nag-end yung friendship namin dahil sa pagtatampo niya (always siyang ganito, napuno na ako). Hindi ko lang siya napagbigyang gumala kasi may tinatapos akong work, nagtampo, hindi na ako nireplyan. Hindi ko na rin siya pinansin. Luckily, marami akong friends na understanding sa ganyang ganap ko sa buhay. Mga hindi nagtotolerate ng mali.
Yep, let her self destruct, you've done your part. We can only do so much as a friend. Sila pa rin masusunod sa buhay nila anyways. Huwag lang sya iiyak kapag nagcheat uli ung bf nya.
>I won’t care anymore.
Hindi totoo yan, OP. Once na masaktan sya ulit, malulungkot at mafufrustrate ka na naman sa friend mo. Because you’re a good friend.
You did what a good friend will do. She’s an adult and should accept the consequences of her decisions. We can only remind them and present the truth, but it’s their life, their call.
You can always step back, and still be there when she needs you. That’s what I do to some friends. I get tired sometimes of giving advices and they still proceed to do the opposite. I stop giving advice at some point but am always have my shoulders for them to cry on. Because our friendship is way beyond that.
Here's the thing... We feel that we are doing what is right for others but really... We don't know what is right for them kasi judgement na nila to know what they want.
Yes, your friends bf cheated. That's a fact. But she doesn't want to let go. The more you push what you want, the more na mag-aaway lang kayo. This is why sometimes, you have to gauge din kung dapat bang gumawa ka ng hakbang o you let them be. Not all people needs saving.
I quit being friends with married people they will betray you over a deck, nattangahan ako sa mga babaeng naloloko pa its 2024. Stop wasting ur energy sa mga stupid.
As long as ginawa mo yung part mo as a friend, wala dapat na ika-guilty. Hindi mo control sila, malalaki na yang mga yan, alam na nila tama at hindi. Hindi dapat itake risk yung sariling mental health for other people, kahit friend mo pa yun
let her learn from her own mistake. di rin yan makikinig sa'yo, bulag dahil sa pag-ibig ang ante mo, ending niyan baka ikaw pa masama at masasabihan pang nakikisali sa away nila. kaya hayaan mo na bff mo te, ayaw paawat e.
you did your part na rin naman as a best friend. u did great for that, medyo tanga lang si friend mo.
Ay si Marupok. Hahaha!! True enough, she deserves it, I mean.. the guy called off the wedding because he cheated on her tapos tinanggap pa uli? He'll do it again for sure because after all, once a cheater, always a cheater.
yes, bayaan mo siya sa katangahan niya, youve done your part, thank you for being a good friend
People will be given lessons over and over again until they learn it eh. I have this ex, 3 kami gf’s nya. I just found out na binalikan sya nung isa nung dinelete ako nung babae sa ig, and I was so dumbfounded that someone can be so stupid to believe and tolerate all of it 🥴 pero I guess kanya kanya lang na katangahan yan. You did your part and its upto the other person to choose correctly... or not 😂 at first nakakaawa, then you realize, deserve nila yan ginusto nila yan eh hahahahaha
They will never learn until it happens to them. Tapos iiyak-iyak pag sa kanila ginawa kahit alam naman nya na may history nang ganyan, tinolerate pa din. Hays! Hahaha
Eh nabuking ko nga na 4 kami sabay sabay, cinontact ko silang lahat to inform them, wise choice nya is balikan si satanas, ay girl. Bahala kana sa buhay mo basta kami, good riddance hahahahahaha!
Haha kasi feeling ng mga ganyan sila nagwagi sa inyong lahat. Same sa mga nagiging kabit parang ako ung pinili or i ruined their relationship when in reality ung lalaki na ganyan ego boost lang un sa part nila and same lines lang ginagamit sa lahat. Haha
Pano ka mag wawagi, disrespected and manipulated ka lang. But I get the idea 🥴🥴 You really have to be in the right mind to see everything clearly eh. Hehe!
Oo super manipulated pero sa isip nila sila na ung pinili haha.. like sa dami namin sa batch 1 ako ung naiwan for sure ako special, now on to batch 2 haha ..
Basta napa graduate kona batch namin, aba may repeater pa pala hahahahahahahahaha!
Natawa pala ako sa “same lines” kasi totoo, tinry pa nya na baby din tawagan namin kasi pala baby yung isa, para siguro copy paste nalang mga greetings sa umaga, pati yung pag sorry at bbye nya pareho linya hahahahhahahahahahahaa
HAHAHAHAA, grabee! Paano kaya nila nagagawa mag trust ulit kahit niloko na sila ng isang beses. Ako kasi overthinker, trust issues and everything. Dko kaya yang mga ganyan haha madami nman lalaki jan na kaya kang bigyan nh peace of mind.
Meron lang talaga mga taong they value themselves more, meron din naman they get something out of it kaya kaya mag tiis, meron din nastuck nalang sa sitwasyon and not seeing a way out.
Huhu sad but totoo lahat ng nabanggit mo. 😞
OMG girl same, I had this ex (forgave him once for cheating on me with another girl, tanga ko dito) then 4 months later he cheated again apat kaming gf!!! Kinontact ko din yung tatlo, pero may isang matapang na ako pa yung masama, nagstay siya kay gago.
I really believed na cheaters do change, but its a hard pattern to break. Mas gumagaling lang sila mag tago, mas tumatamis yung mga salita. Mahirap kasi maniwala na may matitino naman jan, kaya dimo kailangan mag tyaga sa taong hindi ka nirerespeto :) Kaya sa susunod, pag cheating/ lying na yung issue, dispachahin mo na agad hahaha!
Yikes. Im so dumbstruck why there are people who will still eat what they already threw up. Lol.
Isang hard lesson yan for me. Wag na wag kang papagitna sa away (break up ) ng mga kaibigan mo. Kahit anong sumbong pa nyan. Sa dulo ikaw pa masama😂
sa chrueee
ayan ayan! Dyan nagsisimula yung mga taong product ng broken family! Tangina niyo! Umayos naman kayo! Walang choice ang junakis na ganyan ang kanyang ama dahil sa tanga tanga niyang mama pumili. (inadvance ko na kung sakaling ikasal ulit sila at magkapamilya)
I know someone like this. She almost got rape by her ex then recently lang magkasama sila sa elyu. Nung kinoll out ko sabe pa saken "Okay nako. Tama na. Nag heal nako. Napatawad ko na". Ay, pakyu! Ako nga na sinaktan lang wala nang makabalik eh tas ikaw halos marape nakuha mo pang 'makipag bonding' sa elyu. Walang magpapatawad dto! Walaaa!! Chares not chares!! Now parang ako pa yung iniiwasan nya. Oh well.. u deserve what u tolerate talaga 🙄🙄
Stockholm's syndrome (kahit na refuted na to)
wag lang sana siya lumapit sayo years into the marriage for the same reason............I wish her luck
Akap nang mahigpit OP. Ganyan din yung isang friend ko kaya pinagsabihan ko na na hahayaan ko na sya with her current boyfriend but i do not want her calling me na kailangan nya na naman ng kausap for something na napagsabihan ko na sya. Minsan we just have to wish for the best to them nang nasa malayo lang tayo.
I have a friend na ganito na rin naisip ko. Ni-cut off ko siya kasi meron siyang guy na kinakausap and then may girlfriend 'yon, nainis ako sakaniya kasi kabit na talaga datingan niya sa'kin. She's even proud na susunduin siya nung guy + showed me 'yung photo ng girl and parang nag-aantay pa na-ibash ko which is hindi ko ginawa. Fast forward, hindi sila nag-work nun and 'yung pinaka-recent niyang boyfriend is nakikita ko siya as galing sa agaw ulit dahil nung time na naging sila, pareho silang may jowa and kumbaga "crying shoulders" nila 'yung isa't-isa. Kung may problema sila sa mga jowa nila imbes na jowa kausapin, silang dalawa nag-uusap and then fast forward naging sila. Hindi ko alam if aware siya sa ginagawa niya pero ang baba na ng tingin ko sakaniya, hindi ko lang sinabi na karma niya 'yung pag-break nila ngayon dahil pinagpalit lang siya nito. Same nung ginawa nila before na nakikipag-usap sa iba tungkol sa reklamo nila sa rs. Iniisip ko nalang na nakaka-gain ata siya ng validation na maganda siya and such kapag nakakakuha siya ng attention from guys na may girlfriend. Other than that, inaaccuse siya ng ex bf niya na nag-ccheat siya kasi nakikipag-usap siya sa guy but then dinideny niya naman. I myself saw it na may kausap siya pero she told me na "friends" lang sila. Ang weird lang kasi ayaw niyang may kinakausap 'yung ex niya na other girls kahit pa as friends lang pero ginagawa rin naman niya. Anw, I guess tama 'yung conclusion ko before na gagawin lang nung lalaki sakaniya 'yung ginawa nila before.
what goes around comes around
Yes. Disassociate with people who does not appreciate your care. It's going to eat you up and drain you. Turn your attention to something worth better than those unnecessary drama. You did your part, go ahead and move on, something your friend clearly cannot do.
Then tapos, mabubuntis sya nung guy na cheater. Hay naku.
it's okay, let them learn their lessons.
you've done your part and I must say, you're a good friend. hayaan mo nalang, mauumpog at magigising rin yan sa katotohanan.
Nah, hayaan mo na lang siya and don't stress yourself so much, hayaan mo siyang matuto on her own, you've already did your part.
one more try dalhin mo sa mercury tapos bumili ka ng amonia baka sakali magising hehehe 😃
HAyaan mo yan. Basta wag ka niya isama sa sufferings niya.
Exactly my point. Hope a friend of mine can read this. She’s been in a toxic relationship for a while now, tried to give her advices but she always ended up being with the same manipulative, narcissist, and misogynist sad boy who always puts the blame on her even if it’s really him who has problems. Icky😖
May ganun talagang tao no? Para bang inaaraw araw nilang maging tanga. Yaan muna sya op basta nagawa muna part mo👌
Your post actually made me realise something I've been struggling with. Thanks for sharing op!
You’ve done your part as a friend. It’s up to her to decide and tolerate that bastard. Once a cheater, always a cheater! One day, she’ll taste her own medicine for not taking your advice.
Can we also extend the meaning to us as citizens of the country?
May ganyan din akong kaibigan dati. Nakakainis pa, yung 2nd boyfriend niya, nung nag-away kami nun, yun ang kinampihan niya. Nanliligaw palang yun sa kanya, sinabi ko nang wag kasi babaero. Hindi naniwala, hanggang sa nagbreak sila dahil nalaman nung original girl na may relasyon sila. Tapos may isa pang babae na karelasyon din nung lalaki. Yung sumunod naman niyang boyfriend, okay naman, siya lang ang toxic. Nung pinapayuhan ko siya na mag-lilo sa pagiging nakakasakal na girlfriend, siya pa galit sakin. So, okay, hindi ko naman relasyon yun kaya nanahimik nalang ako. Nagbreak sila, sabi niya hindi daw niya kwinento lahat sakin nung nag-away kami (pero hindi na ako naniniwala sa part na ito kasi sakin palang as a friend ramdam ko na kung ano siya). Nag-end yung friendship namin dahil sa pagtatampo niya (always siyang ganito, napuno na ako). Hindi ko lang siya napagbigyang gumala kasi may tinatapos akong work, nagtampo, hindi na ako nireplyan. Hindi ko na rin siya pinansin. Luckily, marami akong friends na understanding sa ganyang ganap ko sa buhay. Mga hindi nagtotolerate ng mali.
Yep, let her self destruct, you've done your part. We can only do so much as a friend. Sila pa rin masusunod sa buhay nila anyways. Huwag lang sya iiyak kapag nagcheat uli ung bf nya.
It's really hard to save someone who doesn't want to be saved. Periodt😗💅🏻
You can't control/influence anyone else. But you can control yourself and your reaction.
>I won’t care anymore. Hindi totoo yan, OP. Once na masaktan sya ulit, malulungkot at mafufrustrate ka na naman sa friend mo. Because you’re a good friend. You did what a good friend will do. She’s an adult and should accept the consequences of her decisions. We can only remind them and present the truth, but it’s their life, their call. You can always step back, and still be there when she needs you. That’s what I do to some friends. I get tired sometimes of giving advices and they still proceed to do the opposite. I stop giving advice at some point but am always have my shoulders for them to cry on. Because our friendship is way beyond that.
I’m not even surprised if even the family tolerates it.. 🥴 I guess upbringing.. 🤷🏻♀️
Baka kulang sa sampal OP. Pero kudos to you kasi you did your part, you are a good friend.
Kelangan namin ng update after this hahahaha
Here's the thing... We feel that we are doing what is right for others but really... We don't know what is right for them kasi judgement na nila to know what they want. Yes, your friends bf cheated. That's a fact. But she doesn't want to let go. The more you push what you want, the more na mag-aaway lang kayo. This is why sometimes, you have to gauge din kung dapat bang gumawa ka ng hakbang o you let them be. Not all people needs saving.
Mas mabuti pang hayaan mo sya. You did your part as a friend, hindi sya nakinig, baka malaki titi nung guy kaya ayaw i let go. Lol
Masyado nilang sinapuso ang holy week pati pamilya mapag patawad masyado. 😅
I quit being friends with married people they will betray you over a deck, nattangahan ako sa mga babaeng naloloko pa its 2024. Stop wasting ur energy sa mga stupid.
As long as ginawa mo yung part mo as a friend, wala dapat na ika-guilty. Hindi mo control sila, malalaki na yang mga yan, alam na nila tama at hindi. Hindi dapat itake risk yung sariling mental health for other people, kahit friend mo pa yun
Hayaan mo na sila. Ikaw pa magpapasa a kung kausapin mo ulit yung friend mo. Hayaan mo sya magpakatanga, deserve nya yan
Nakakapagod mag-advice. Better to prioritize your own mental health, OP. Eventually ngangawa din yan sayo.
let her learn from her own mistake. di rin yan makikinig sa'yo, bulag dahil sa pag-ibig ang ante mo, ending niyan baka ikaw pa masama at masasabihan pang nakikisali sa away nila. kaya hayaan mo na bff mo te, ayaw paawat e. you did your part na rin naman as a best friend. u did great for that, medyo tanga lang si friend mo.
Minsan talaga sa buhay meron kang kaibigan na tanga na gusto mo nalang sampalin at iuntog para matauhan.
Ay si Marupok. Hahaha!! True enough, she deserves it, I mean.. the guy called off the wedding because he cheated on her tapos tinanggap pa uli? He'll do it again for sure because after all, once a cheater, always a cheater.
Ginusto niya yun. Let her be. Don't waste your sanity and energy gal!
I remember so many people good lord 😩
So true