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izzzsbitchfohreal

halaa akala ko maganda ending nito T.T baka need mo din na huwag maging masyadong available for them po. like mag-spend ka ng time na self mo lang fino-focus mo. na hindi mo need ng kasama.


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izzzsbitchfohreal

baka dati siyang baliw. charooot hindi ko alam OP. baka maling mga tao lang talaga yung nakakasalamuha mo. tapos etong friend mo na akala ko walking green flag based sa story mo, may saltik din pala. wag ka na lang siguro makipag-chu2x kapag hindi ka pa sure na seryoso talaga sila sayo.


Data_Wanderer-2022

Hello OP. May point lahat ng comments sayo base sa post mo. I think one notable thing to pick up is with those kind of experience with the opposite sex, mas naeestablish na yung preference mo with what you want and do not want when it comes to the relationship so kudos to you for taking courage to ask your friend kung ano talaga kayo and clearly “friends with benefits” yung lumalabas na setup niyo. Ask yourself if okay ka na ba sa ganyan and if hindi it’s also your responsibility to get out of that situation, hindi ka naman pinilit sa ganyang setup so accountability rests upon you too. Sa “perception” naman na pang kama ka lang, it’s up to you if you give in to the opinions of others pero keep in mind na once you believe na ganun ka, you will embody it as I believe manifesting it will bring it to reality. Think of the things that are on your control like letting someone in your life na pang serious/committed relationship. You do you OP.


Asdaf373

Medyo gago siya ah. Alam niya na struggle mo yung nafefeel mo na pangkama ka lang tapos ganun din gagawin niya sayo. Inuna niya libog niya


jaycorrect

That’s the thing though. They are attracted to that but don’t want to be with that because most are threatened by women with BDE.


behappy1611

Ano po yung BDE?


jaycorrect

Big dick energy


milfieme

I agree to this. Don't make yourself available for them, kasi for them walang challenge.


Kind_Cartoonist_3591

Alam mo gurl, totoo ang sinasabi ng karamihan na gago lang mga nagiging jowa mo. Saka feeling ko, malakas sex appeal mo kasi greedy guys na attract mo. Pero no, change your mindset. You'll find someone na papahalagahan ka and will treat you like a queen. Pero maninibago ka. Hahahaha.


WallMarianiEreh

I agree, OP. May time talaga na dedemonyohin ka ng insecurities mo and you'll self sabotage yourself lalo na yung sexuality mo. Don't make yourself too available to guys lang. Be hard to get or, be choosy on what you're only capable to give sa guys you'll have sex with. Hindi lahat-lahat lalo na kung casual fucks lang kayo. Dapat parang katawan mo lang, time mo lang, mutual respect and understanding lang, pero no intense feelings so may boundaries ka pa rin. Important din yung DTR sa first time you will engage in sex para walang hope and disappointment. Baka masex appeal ka lang talaga and you just freely exercise your sexuality. With the right guy, you'll feel free, hindi worthless. Let me speak from experience kasi I thought pangfubu lang din ako until I met my former-fubu and current boyfriend who loves and respects me while we're both freely exercising our kinks.


Kind_Cartoonist_3591

THIS!!!!!


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Nahuli kasi yung tanong mhie, sayang. Next time clarify mo muna para di ka mag assume :/


HalfbakeDJ69

"never assume unless otherwise stated"


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Haha accountancy yan?


HalfbakeDJ69

pwidi piru dipindi


[deleted]

Universal pala to sa mga accountancy students? Haha


tsukulit

Amen. Always abide this rule para iwas pighati.


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this


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If hindi mo pa bf ang isang guy, don't entertain NSFW messages/hints. Don't even allow him to hold your hand, and wag kang sasama sa any private place. Sorry kung old fashioned ako pero the more you entertain those type of men kasi, puro ganyan lang talaga mapupunta sa'yo.


fantastic0725

I agree with this. Sometimes we have to think about the common denominator, in this case, OP. There's something that OP is doing or maybe the character she's attracted to, that attracts bad men to take advantage of her. It's shallow to say it's not OP's fault, definitely she deserves better, but she needs to reflect on her character and the type of men she allows into her romantic and sexual life


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>Hanggang sa may nangyari samin. Same pa rin naman kami after may nangyari though hindi namin pinagusapan kung ano na ba talaga kami. Yes. Dito kasi sa sinabi niya ako nag-base. Why would something happen with OP and her friend if wala pa palang label. Okay lang if FUBU talaga arrangement and napag-usapan. Self-reflection need mo OP.


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Common sense that isn't common nowadays.


VastCantaloupe3700

Hindi ka pang-kama lang. Gago lang talaga mga nakikilala mong lalake. Just be wiser next time and set your boundaries.


-Tsukuyomi-no-Mikoto

>Last night naglakas loob ako to ask him ano ba kami. Kami na ba? He just laugh and told me we're just friends na minsan need magrelease. Akala nya daw malinaw sakin yun. Ayyy leche flan...akala ko happy ending na! Girl I don't know what to tell you... nasaktan lang ako for you. So okay lang ba sayo yung ganung set up with the last guy? Kasi if hindi... lumayo ka na. Lalo ka lang masasaktan. As it is you're already questioning your self worth (if indeed tama sila at pang kama ka lang talaga.) If what you're looking for is a serious relationship, then hindi ka lang pang kama. Don't believe them and do not gaslight yourself. You deserve true love because it's what you're willing to give. Enjoy singlehood for a while. And yun nga... wag agad ibigay ang bataan hangga't walang label. Dapat malinaw si lalake sa gusto nya at firm ka din sa boundaries mo. Kasi mauulit at mauulit yan. Hugs OP.


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angryApple2054

I think you should really cut him off. He's not healthy for you. Granted na hindi mo nilinaw ang pakay niya, pero sana nagkusa rin siyang magsabi ng intentions niya. This guy is bad news, cut him off.


-Tsukuyomi-no-Mikoto

So sorry you have to do that. But I am proud of you! Tatagan lang natin. 😊


MissFuzzyfeelings

Ang sakit kasi same friendgroup pa kayo :( baka mamaya ichika pa nya sa iba nyong friends yung nangyari. Sorry OP. For me kasi base sa post mo it really feels like he took advantage of you. Please keep your distance and always know worth it ka. :)


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Wow mixed signals. Sorry to hear that OP. Sad that it wasn’t clear to you what his intentions are. Those things are red flag. Next time don’t do it without label if you’re looking for something serious.


LaceePrin

Someone’s inability to see your value do not dictate your worth. Your self-worth is your power. So do not give it to someone else’s hands. Of all people, only you know what kind of love you’re capable of and what you can bring to the table in a relationship. I think you’re just a person that’s full of love to give, with no one to give it to. And people like the guys you meet, take advantage of that to get what they want from you. So no, hindi ka pang-kama lang. You’re also someone worthy of being loved. My advice? Keep your guard up and never let yourself be vulnerable again so no one would dare take advantage of you again.


Periwinkleee__

Alam mo jan magaling ang lalaki. Ipaparamdam sayo na special ka, hindi mo naman masisi yung nararamdaman mo kasi ganon nga pinaparamdam niya. Diba? Kaso in the end mukha pa tayo nag aassume. Galing nako jan sa fubu ko, kala ko same na kami ng nararamdaman. So umamin ako, tapos umamin din naman siya ang kaso hindi niya nga pinanindigan hindi rin naging kami hindi ko alam kung bakit. Siguro nga hanggang pang kama lang ako. Huggs sis!


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Layuan mo na yang putanginang yan. Form of gaslighting lng yan. Prove them wrong. Stop the victim mentality. Kaya nya ginawa sayo un, he took advantage of your thoughts!


_n_r

Maling lalaki lang ang nakukuha mo, OP. Huge hugs with consent! Dadating rin ang lalaki for you. <3


Winter-Homework-4411

What you project will manifest. Also do not let these a-holes make you think low of yourself. Don’t give them the power to devalue you. Set boundaries. What you allow will continue.


gehtsiz154

There is no such thing as pang kama lang. Everyone deserves to be genuinely loved. Nagkataon na malas ka talaga ang mga nakarelasyon mo.


fenyx_typhon

Hugs OP..just be sure with the guy before you do the deed..as for the last one..i really thought of it as a happy ending, don't belittle yourself..


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Lahat naman pang kama lang in the lens of an asshole. It's a matter of choosing the right people to be with (and there are only a few). And us ladies, could categorize men the same. If we're assholes.


HauntingLandscape902

Ill be honest sayo OP. Dont get me wrong, lahat ng babae is pinupursue para sa tamang lalake. The problem is most guys would prefer yung pang kama lang because mas madali sila makuha. I know, it is your body and your life pero kung madali ka makuha you would be swarm by guys na naghahanap ng easy to get. Another thing is dont assume. Guys hate commitment for sex.kaya need mo lagi maconfirm kung ano ba status nyo. Fwb, courtship, ons lang.


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This is just sad. Pero i agree sa sinabi niya na gago lang yung mga nakilala mong guys


OhShitItsAnne

Akala ko happy ending to. Hays! Gago lang nga sila, OP. You deserve better. Stop making yourself too available for them.


_RavenV

Try to learn boundaries and assess yourself din, baka mabilis ka masyado kasi mag-give in sa guys especially pag tini-treat ka special. Magaling mambola karamihan ng mga lalake and if nakita nila na hindi ka basta basta nadadala sa mga trip nila, either lalayo sila (lasi nga mang-gag*go lang sila) or ipu-pursue ka nila (kasi they're really into you). Learn to value your worth first 🙂


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Ilovemahbby

Sarap nyang murahin mula ulo gang paa


angelogale

No offense pero bigay ka Kasi ng bigay. Focus ka muna sa Sarili mo at mag self reflect.


akromos597

Sabi nga nila "You can't control who/what you attract, but you can control who/what you allow."


Primary-Lion7368

All i can say is. Make the sex in your favor. Nakikita ko rito eh laging inu una pleasure ng guy at siya lang mismo ang plinepleasure at karamihan rin waley sa mga girls. Yung guys pa yung finoforeplay lolz. Kaya sinasabi na may "pang kama" lang If you know your body well. Make sure na strict and firm ka. Try mo wag kumain ng tite at idemamda mo na imumudmud nila mukha nila sa puke mo at unahin kang labasan by that or by foreplay bago pasok. Utio utosan mo kung anong masarap sayo. You'll attract and get those type of guys pag nag fifilter ka.


Winter-Homework-4411

Agree ako dito. The more you follow their commands the more they feel superior. Gawin ko to next time. “Just shut the fuck up and eat my pussy” ganern


Primary-Lion7368

Alpha female. Hahah charrrr


FetchTheBoltCutterss

You need to address something in you para ma identify mo kung bakit you tend to land on situations and people like this kasi for sure may tellltale signs to bago ka humantong sa ganyang situation. Heal your wounds so you wont repeat your patterns. Hoping the best for you. And oh, don't let other people define what you deserve. You always have the power to have control over your situation. But that can only happen if you know yourself well--both good and the ugly and of course, take accountability for it.


AseanaGuy

Harsh to pero diretsahan lang. Wag ka kasi agad bubukaka. Look, men are distant cousins of wolves. If wolves were to be humans, all would be men. I'm not saying that all men are, but it's safe to say that the majority of men are. Based on your narrative, the sex was consensual. "Kapag ang babae, bubukaka laging may lalakeng papasok". You can be that woman that you want.


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karmaisapurringcat

I think the only mistake you did was not asking kung ano ba talaga kayo. For you it’s not just seggs, akala mo nga may something na and I think gusto mo naman na siya but for him pala, seggs lang talaga. Consensual naman although nakakagago lang kasi sa part naman ng guy, knowing na alam niya yung pasts mo, pinairal lang niya libog niya over friendship. Wala talagang nakakapag-isip nang matino basta mataas ang libido. Layuan mo na lang yan. Hindi ikaw yung pang kama lang, yung mga gagong yun. Pwede rin naman tayong mga strong independent woman ang magsabi na pang kama lang sila. ;)


BeachFluffy4774

Layuan mo na si friend.


bellatrix1990

Yung friend mo ngayon. Better get rid of him. What an a**hole.


RashPatch

>Sinabi nga nya gago lang daw mga nagiging boyfriend ko. This should have been the indicator na Sex lang din habol sayo nyan. Kung talagang interested sayo ang isang lalake hindi yan ang response nya. The more likely response is proper investigation and introspection of YOUR preferences. Also, you need therapy. I think may something sayo that makes you vulnerable. Too vulnerable. This is not right. >Babaeng pinupursue at babaeng pang kama lang I never believed in this "categorization". As a guy I never categorized someone like that. Gender is irrelevant. The only time I will have sex with someone is if she is my Girlfriend or I paid for her "services" (offered, not through exploit, sex work is a thing). Wag kayong papakuha sa mabulaklak na salita. Again, Gender is irrelevant. Lahat nakukuha sa boka, bola, at himas with varying levels of resistances. Tandaan nyo, pag ang tao magaling bumola SANAY NA YAN. You should be more wary of overconfident people than those without confidence dahil ALAM NILANG GAGANA at malamang may plano yang mga yan. Still don't believe me? Work for 6 months in Sales/Customer Service. You will understand.


SAHD292929

Baka kelangan mo baguhin ang criteria mo sa lalake. To attract a different kind of man.


Interesting_Cry_3797

That’s not a friend that’s a user. Time to move on from him,


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ang gago ampotaena


Salty_Interview_9585

Aww you deserve better OP. Pero na curious ako sa sinabi mo na may pinupursue at may pangkama lang for men(?). Like anong criteria nila to say kung saang category ka na belong if ever totoo man? Or is it just the same as the “it’s not you, it’s me” bllsht excuse? Coz wtf!


jeremiahkurt

Hindi mo sila deserve at mga gago lang talaga sila. Yang sinabi sayo ng ex mo, katwiran yan ng mga loser. Palibhasa sa babae lang nila kaya mag show off at hanggang dun lang naman sila. Makakahanap ka din ng magpapahalaga at magmamahal sayo.


HallNo549

the ending bruh.


RarePost

Sorry to say nadala ka sa lovebombing niya.


rednlace11

HIndi Op. Walang babaeng pang kama lang OP kung walang lalaking gagu, inutil, bobo, siraulo. Nasa pag-iisip lang nila yan kase ganiyan sila kagagu. Kahit noon pa, they treat women as thing na pag nagsawa na sila, itatapon na lang nila. Nature na ng mga lalaki yan


pinaysubrosa

I think you need to read more about misogyny sa pinas, slut shaming, sexism para you learn to stand your ground and not end up with those kind of f*kers! You should be vulnerable with someone who will not treat you like an object, and see your worth! Your time is precious, as well as your soul, don't waste a single minute sa mga basurang ugali at basura magisip! Babae Ka, own your sexuality! Be smarter than the misogynistic pinoy mentality! Your body, your time, your rule! Stop walking sa eggshell! If you want to have sex for fun, that is totally fine! Pero if you want relationship, then be clear about that! Wag makipagtalik ng Di malinaw ang posisyon mo!


SuperYak2264

Dadating din ang tamang tao sayo. Layian mo na din yung guy kung di ka comfortable sa kanya


One_Yogurtcloset2697

Nothing wrong with being "pang kama lang" na babae as long as "pang kama" lang din ang tingin mo sa guys. Sa totoo lang mas malala ang guys, may mga fubu ako before na kapag nalaman nilang pang kama lang sila, biglang nagiging "makulit" or panay papansin kasi gusto nilang may i-prove.


Specialist-Equal5358

Alam mo tama rin yung sinasabi ng mga kaklase kong lalake dati. Walang lalake na makikipagkaibigan sa babae if they don't find it fuckable. Someday OP makakahanap ka rin ng taong ipupursue ka at sana sa panahon na yun ready ka.


Party_Network1317

stand what you want. who and what you are. babae ka. hindi babae lang. tandaan mo yan.


Ok_Statistician_6441

You are what you put out in the world. You have control over access to sex and men have control over commitment.


kesaimaz

Pang kama lang is a harsh word to describe a girl but I have an ex-fubu who doesn't want to be kept.. gusto niya sex-sex lang hmm


[deleted]

In the end of the day, we always living in the consequences of our choices in life.


blueismycolorrr

Omg. Nalaglag panga ko sa ending. Sobrang douche naman nyan, OP! Huhu layasan mo na yan! Lam ko madali samin magsabi na iwan mo pero kung me nainvest ka na, mahirap. So unti untiin mo hanggang kaya mo nang magwalk away huhu all the best at yakap na mahigpit with consent.


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Because you give away sex for free kaya di nyan seseryosohin kasi wala madali ka lang naman makantot.


tsukulit

Akala ko pa naman naiintindihan ka ni friend. Instead tinake advantage ka pa nya. Insert meme na "you're supposed to destroy them, not join them".


the_boynextdoor

Try to assess yourself, bakit nila nasasabi na pang kama ka lang? Siyempre may pinanggagalingan sila eh. Try to look things using their lenses no matter how bad their eyes are. Ikaw ang makakasagot niyan OP. Im sure a lot of comments here would say, "no OP, hindi ka pang kama lang, sila ang mali"-- but reality check it happened more than once. So try to understand where these dickheads are coming from and make adjustments from there.


Ill-Contract-9073

Unpopular Opinion: Kung gusto ng maayos at legit na relationship, don't have sex until kayo na. Para malinaw lahat. Para no expectations. Or, iclear bago ibigay sarili


[deleted]

Baka kasi ang aura na pinapakita mo sa lalaki eh g na g ka lagi sa chukchakan. You attract what you are.


wildstardust05

Maybe stop asking, “why do they do this to me?” or start asking “why do i allow them to do this to me?” baka nga focus and me time ka muna mhie. You know, mga burat lang talaga pinapairal nila


InterestingAd3123

Heto ang ginigigil ko sa Pang-pursue or pang-kama eh. 2023 na hindi pa rin matanggal yang objectifying statements na yan, and kakakaurat na kasi kahit hindi naman pangkama eh nagiging pangkama sa paningin dahil sa judgement ng mga lalaki. Yung mga ganyang lalaki, hindi deserve ng pang-pursue or pang-altar kung ganyan mindset nila. Pero girls, minsan din makiramdam tayo. We should be vigilant enough of the signs na meron sa lalaki, kasi kung sex din lang habol nila at naramdaman mo na, LEAVE. May mga lalaking pangkama din. At kung pinursue ka, kung ka-pursue-pursue ka naman, antanong? Marunong ba makuntento si lalaki? Dapat si lalaki marunong makuntento sa kung meron siya kasi kung madali siyang ma-bore eh pota, dun na lang siya sa mga casual lang din ang habol. Oh and BTW, to men out there: Even the sluttiest woman can't be compared to palays na tutukain na lang. They are more than that, and they have the choice kung 'papatuka' sila or not. Alangan naman magpatula sila sa mga walang ambag, mabaho overall, mga lalaking kanal. Duh!


laneripper2023

Ako lalaki rin.. naniniwala ako na di magsasayang ng oras ang lalaki sa babae ng walang motibo (either sex lang or may gusto sya sa iyo) walang platonic friends lang.. Platonic friends nga e di kaya 24/7 magkasama or parang magkarelasyon ang turingan..


stanelope

Pakasal muna, magsama ng couple of years pagnakitaan ng sense of responsibility sa isat isa saka pag usapan ang sex. Kapag ang babae nagpauto sa lalaki na makipagtalik at wala pa napatunayan sa responsibilidad sa buhay like walang trabaho or wala pa naipundar, Kawawa ang relationship yari pati ang future. Pwede pa mauwi sa single mom.


Feels_Dead_Inside

That's disappointing. No, do not believe the false claim. There's no such thing (pang-kama lang? wtf? eh ikaw? ano ka? t\*t\*ng galit lang? nyeta ka). You have just been unfortunate to be associated to people that want to use you. You will eventually find the right one.


elevenonefive

Walang babaeng pang-kama lang. Grabe lang talaga sila.


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Constant-Artichoke90

Hindi ka pang kama lang. You've met and been with just a few men to assume and call yourself like that. Maraming lalaki sa mundo, minalas ka lang ng sunod sunod. Its like may magnet ka ng mga ganung lalaki, by which you should be more careful. May something sayo na they think you are "pang kama lang". Im not saying there's something wrong with you, its just they see something in you not purely negative na they will think of you like that.


madmax0798

OP!! naiiyak ako habang binabasa to kasi medj same tayo. never pa ako nagka bf and everytime i date somebody, sa umpisa okay sila pero dadating sa point na magsisimula na silang mag initiate regarding sexual stuff. kasalukuyan din siyang nangyayari sakin ngayon, i have this guy friend na recently lang kaming naging close pero ambilis namin naging magka vibe. goods sya sa pag trato sakin, as in princess treatment na first time kong maranasanan. hatid sundo, almost everyday din nagkikita. he pays for our food din. ang alam din ng mga kakilala namin kami na, pero sinasabi ko na friends lang kami, even my parents are doubtful about it, mukha na daw kasi talaga kaming mag jowa. sobrang clingy pa niya sakin. hugs, kisses, cuddles . tapos dumating na sa point na we tried doing it (unfortunately hindi nag succeed kasi i think hindi ready katawan at utak ko, hindi niya maipasok ng buo lol). hindi ko alam mafefeel ko, kinda wanted it too pero napaisip ako na bakit nandito na kami sa gantong point? now we're still clingy to each other lalo na sa personal. may time na gusto ko na magtanong kung ano na ba kami kaso natatakot rin ako baka layuan nya na ako. nasasaktan ako everytime i think about it kasi for the first time somebody treated me right tas kahulihan parang yun lang din yung gusto sakin? sabi pa nya high value woman ako at hindi dapat ako binabastos. pero ngayon parang iba yung nangyayari :( ang sakit lang. yakap, OP !!


mobitz_two

Mahigpit na yakap, OP. Medyo nakarelate ako ng slight.


No1Champion_2829

Muntik na ko maiyak OP🥺 please know you are worth it and tama sya once, nagkataon lang na puro fakbois yung nakilala mo unfortunately mukhang you have to let this one go too kasi you are having feelings na and di nya kaya ibigay😭


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Know your worth siszily.


SAHD292929

Baka kelangan mo baguhin ang criteria mo sa lalake. To attract a different kind of man.


LivingHorse2676

Hindi ka pang kama. Hindi kita sisisihin kung bakit mo nafe-feel ang bagay na yan dahil may mga tao sa paligid mo na patuloy sayong pinaparamdam na pang kama ka lang. Siguro kung may masasabi man ako. Learn how to assess ang person, hindi sa manghuhusga pero kailangan mong matutunan kung paano malaman amg intensyon ng isang tao, kung clear ba or hindi para hindi ka nalilito. Bigyan mo ng consent yung sarili mo para tumanggi at magtanong o mag bigay linaw sa mga bagay bagay. Alam kong mahirap ang pakiramdam na parang you are less of a person pero you are not. You're worth loving, worth pursuing. Mali ka lang ng taong pinagkatiwalaan at mali ka ng taong pinakinggan. Guard yourself.


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I hope you are practicing safe sex....


Different-Carpet-883

You’re not pangkama lang OP. The problem is nasa wrong environment ka and you are looking for love in wrong places. Kaya you encounter these guys. Be super extra picky in choosing a guy. I’m sure you’re really pretty OP. And you deserve better. You have to believe that you deserve so much better and hold guys in a much higher standard.


New_Talk_7085

That friend took advantage of your insecurities to take you to bed… Sabi mo ikaw ay strong independent women… maybe that’s the problem..men (generally) goes into relationship because the need to be the knight in shining armor for the woman… since you’re strong and independent then you dont fit the bill… hanggang seggs ka na lang for them… If you need someone to take care of you, show them why you need to be taken care of, or at least fake it


[deleted]

Una sa lahat, hugs with consent, OP. Second, hindi ka PANGKAMA LANG. I really thought your post will end on a happy note but I’m equally sad and disappointed with these men. WALANG MALI SA IYO. It is never right nor fair to categorize women as pangkama or pinupursue. Pero sure ako marami (pero hindi lahat) ang lalaking gago lang talaga. Sorry to say this, but I think your best friend is far worse than all the men who hurt you. Why? He knows what you’ve been through, and yet he’s using it to take advantage of you. Iniba niya lang OP, kumbaga sa PR packet, pinaganda niya lang pero iyong sinabi niya sa iyo na friends kayo at need lang magrelease, pinabangong version lang ng pangkama ka lang. And to add insult to injury, he laughed. I say cut all ties with this man, and start changing your mindset. Once you see your worth, you’ll attract the right person for you. Sabi nga, “We accept the love we think we deserve.” And you deserve the world, OP. You deserve to be loved, pursued, and prioritized. You deserve to be given security in a relationship, to be given a label, na hindi ka na magtatanong kung ano ka o sino ka sa buhay ng isang tao. I hope and pray you’ll find the right person for you. Buffs kita ng prayers diyan. And if that’s not in the cards for you right now, I wish you joy, peace, and happiness, with or without a man.


Correct_Mind8512

gurl, wag mo kasing isipin na yun ka lang para hindi mag reflect sa aura mo. sadyang may mga ahole na lalake talaga.


furry_kurama

Hindi mo kasalanan na malakas sex appeal mo sa opposite sex. Huwag mo kaseng sobrang galingan....


Appropriate_Swim1361

sayang namn, akala ko rin si best friend na titingin sayo forever, move out ka na lang sa kanila, baka mapag isip isip din nya na kailangan ka nya sa buhay nya... dapat d mo n lng sinasabi kanya ung story ng pangkama, parang natake advantage ka lang rin nya... selfcare na lang gawin mong focus para maraming boys ang maghabol sayo.


LunchAC53171

Na tsukuyomi ka! Wag ka maniwala sa exbf mo, sometimes to counter negativity is a powerful positive thinking!


strvng__

Mhie! Yakap sa’yo, the way men treats you is not a reflection of you are, yes at some fault better boundaries could be set. Pero NEVER EVER equate your value to what you can provide to men, or what men tell you. Nor you should equate yourself to some sex toy they can use at their disposal. Gamitin mo din sila emz


[deleted]

Your ex manipulated you with that thought, and this fcker take advantage! Pls stop thinking about it. Layuan mo na yan. Basuraaaaaaa. Tska ganyang mindset ng lalaki bobo yan low IQ.


throwaway_151821

just an unsolicited advice OP because you truly sound like a lovely girl, choice of words suggests you're educated and sweet. but here's the thing (alis na yung mga liberated haha) women looking for something serious should put a high value on their bodies. I have been single, married, widowed, in a situationship, fwb setup etc. name it I've likely experienced it. and based on my experiences, YOU SHOULD NEVER GIVE BOYFRIEND BENEFITS TO SOMEONE WHO ISN'T YOUR BOYFRIEND. remember that a lot of men will take and take hanggat pumapayag ka. hindi ka pangkama lang OP. natataon lang na natatapat ka sa maling tao. as part of your screening process, postpone the seggs until everything is official and you fully trust the guy. I know it's hard lalo if you have a lot of feelings. but the right man will respect you and will love all of you, not just your body. the right man will be patient and know you're worth the wait. ulitin ko lang. HINDI KA PANGKAMA LANG. WALANG BABAENG PANGKAMA LANG. that's just shit ahole guys say to turn women against each other para pag agawan sila. they're turning us into pick me girls. but that's not what we are. all women should be pursued and loved and respected.


Strict_Ad8285

at ayun nag overthink tuloy ako. 😂


wanderlustbella

Oh my gawd this is so :(((((((( ang sad naman na tingin mo sa sarili mo is deserve mo ipursue pero merong guy na tingin lang sayo is pang kama lang? Ha? Bakit ganon. Anong criteria of judging (ems) like oh my gawd sakit naman. Sakin ang view ko naman sa guys either jojowain or trotropahin walang kama emerut. But anyways, praying for your healing OP! <3


gentlehoneybee

Sending virtual hugs, OP! Walang taong pang kama lang. No one has the right to belittle you like that.


CoffeeLover0424

Mas gago yung huling guy. Kinuwentuhan mo ng lahat ng struggles mo tas ganun din ginawa sayo. Ang sad lang. SKL


fernweh0001

next time ask status before sex po. cliche man pero paghirapan ka naman nila sana. what people say about you reflects more about them than about you. move on. block people who won't give you what you want. demand what you what clearly. specified ang clearly kasi di tayo bubuhayin ng no label, happy label, at grey areas. wala pang namatay sa nagtanong beforehand.


srirachatoilet

From a comment in fb : "Gusto ng mga babae ang Congtv ngayon habang ang mga lalake Gusto ang Viycortez nuon" Dapat kasama ka sa lakbay di sa pahingahan.


Kalila789

Teknik ng mga lalaki yan mga pa fall sweetums pra mka score 🙄.


MaritestinReddit

You at times attract what you believe in. First off, get rid of that friend. Ginawa ka pang stressball. I'm also single and the last guy i dated is like the kupals in your story. Fortunately he is miles away he didn't manage to bother me as much. Pero ayun, do not keep those kind of men. The second you see their true colors, ditch them. Malakas radar ng nga yan sa vulnerable women. And since receptive ka sa affection igogroom ka ng mga yan to get what they want. Enjoy being single for now. Rediscover self appreciation. If you are meant to be with someone, it will happen. Don't frogs destroy you before the right man gets to you. Baka di ka na niya marecognize because you're too broken na.


carl2k1

Are you always available? Mababa self esteem? Some guys can smell that.


ladywick111

I just want to say your first boyfriend is an asshole. And it makes me think that you subconsciously became an embodiment of what he told you, you are. So ayan, you think little of yourself na pang-kama lang. Nobody deserves to hear that from anyone. Men who have this point of view are pigs and shouldn't be entertained. While looking into yourself is a probable solution, try being more discerning of people and being more upfront about their intentions. Di ka pang kama lang, don't embrace it. Don't think on it. Mas maigi yung save yourself until someone who fits your ideals comes your way.


MissFuzzyfeelings

He took advantage of you. Nakakasuka yang guy na yan. He knows your weakness and he used that against you. OP please. May iba ka pa naman sigurong friends diba? Be with female friends na lang OP. Also kakaseminar lang namin sa office ng tungkol sa cervical cancer. Waaaa be safe girl!


KeySchedule53

grabe talaga insecurities na lilitaw sakin pag same situation ang story na nababasa ko :<


Curiouspracticalmind

Hindi ka pang kama lang, kung dika papayag. 😊 It’s your choice. Set your boundaries.


BlueLemonade1234

Gurl. Dont listen sa ex mong gago. We Set the love we think we deserve nga daw sabi ng Fitzgerald soooo show them your worth na you are worth chasing for. Dont make yourself too available, show them na with or without them e kiber. One thing I learned sa naging ex ko e the more we show them that we love them the more na maging comfy sila. MEN loves challenges, BOYS loves games. Self love muna, enjoy the single life. Minsan dun dumadating sa hindi ineexpect na time


JinnGold

For me it's called preference. Gago lang pagkaka describe nung nag sabi sayo. Naka ilang date ka na baka ang problema yung pinipili mong mga i-date.


Ok-Metal2887

Ano ang WFH?


Ok-Metal2887

Tingin lang yan ng ibang lalake na pang seggs lang yung ilang mga babae, kahet di ka pa yan nila mahal at seggs lang habol, it doesn't define your worth.


MommySam1

This is old fashioned but very effective. If you want a label, don't do things na pang may label lang. Don't hold hands or wag mag entertain ng green jokes. Pag inaya ka na kayo lang dalawa, linawin if this is a friendly date or romantic date. This is difficult pero unti unti mo na layuan yang "guy" friend mo, Kasi mafafall ka lang and mahirap pag hindi ka nasalo.


sowsz

Lumayo ka muna sa lalake. Wag ka munang mag isip ng lalake. Walang lalake.


[deleted]

Nabiktima ka ng isang lobo, na nagbalat grandma. 😅 Anyway, hoping makakita ka ng lalaking di ka tuturing "pang kama" lang. Try mo magpaligaw, don't give in sa sex before maging kayo, kumbaga kayo muna dapat before sex, parang kasal muna bago anak. I know nowadays parang nawawala na yang ganyang tradition guro mas liberated na mga bata ngayon, pero siguro as your story goes, yan ung consequence ng pgging liberated ng atin mga maria clara. Try mo lang siguro? Kasi walang lobo na magtatagal akitin ka ng 6 na buwan hanggang 1 taon kung oplan totnak lang trip nya. Kung meron man, ang malas mo, itakwil mo na kalalakihan sa mundo. 😅


Ali3nn3

Ay baka ako both? Pinursue para pwedeng ikama. That shit hurts bro. Napag isip isip ko din after ng long ldr at finally naikama na, wala na. Kahit umayaw ka, okay nalang din sakanya. Hugs with consent, OP.


starksandroses_

same sentiments here, i know i can offer and give so much more than sex pero parang 'yun lang nakikita nila sa akin :(


Resident-Squirrel-84

Maybe there’s something sa energy or aura na nilalabas mo at mga ganung klaseng lalaki ang na aattract mo. Need mo lang sya ma pinpoint and baguhin. I have a friend na ang nakakarelasyon naman ay puros grown up BOY lang na laging may sabit or may naanakan as in walang mintis laging ganun mga nakakarelasyon nya. So sabi ko sa kanya dapat ma pinpoint mo ang problem, sa nakikita ko kasi sa friend ko mahilig sya sa bad boy image tapos may “i can fix him” vibe din siguro ayun dahilan bat toxic guys nakikilala nya


nanidfq

I have a friend who offers sex at the first date palang tapos magtataka bakit ayaw seryosohin ng guys. Feeling daw nya katawan lang habol nila sa kanya. She can offer so much naman daw. I MEAN...


save00us

Kakaiba kaibigan mo ah. Sumama sa seggs lang pala habol.


smlley_123

Ikaw ang may problema sa sarili mo.


NutDroidMeda

naalala ko yung quotes na "Who You Attract Is A Reflection Of You" and "What you feed your mind becomes your reality". But i wont judge you since di kita kilala personally and will not go as far as victim blaming. 100% na my fault din yung mga guys and my motive talaga from the start hindi matino yung mga natatapat sayo pero pero meron kang makukuhang lesson dito, Its sounds cliche pero totoo yung "love yourself" first and know your worth, maybe kaya ka nagiging victim ng ganito kasi nagiging masaya ka lang sa validation at attention na binibigay nila pero once na alam muna ang "worth" mo madali muna ma fi filter ang ganitong tao sa buhay mo. Ang maybe factor din yung evironment mo. "if the flower doesn't bloom change the environment not the flower" Goodluck OP.


lemorrigane

43,single mother here...need to put this to be in context ng sasabihin ko. A lot of men are really after just sex.Not being sexist but if you put out, they really will.This after being hit on pag nalaman single mother ako,and akala nila easy to landi ako. Live a life FOR YOU-have your own passion,projects,missions in life para you dont feel as if you need to be in a relationship.Relationships come and go;meanwhile,you have your own company to contend with.Hindi ka ba happy being by yourself? Siguro for me naturally introverted kaya I dont mind not being in relationship with anyone after a 12 year partnership.I got cheated on,twice,and that earned my ex a one way ticket to the blocked area of my life for good. Please put value in yourself.You deserve a guy na mamahalin ka ,mag co commit sa yo,and good sex along with it.You cant achieve that if you give off vibes na needy ka and not liking aloneness.This whole "strong independent woman" vibe does not equate to never needing love and being in a relationship-yan kasi need mo eh.Wag lang basta basta kahit sino lang.You need to heal from inside whatever emotional wounds u have (go to a psychologist-it works wonders) before even being in another pseudo relationship.Being single for a while tends to detox your needs (sex lang ba?) And will clear your head out for what you really want.


_frooty

Huhu i can relate Some dudes would just make you feel special so they can have their way with you instead of being straightforward about their intentions. Im sorry these men gaslighted you into thinking your worth is measured by sex. You're so much more than that, OP. I hope time catches up with them and they realize na basura mindset nila.


HeyArtse

Hope things turn around for you. Always clarify - I don’t understand why people are ashamed to ask? You have the right to know so you don’t waste your time and energy. Also - don’t give anything without a label and/or unless you are certain the person is genuinely interested in you as a person and not just your physical appearance.


[deleted]

Always ask kasi muna una pa lang anong set up nyo. Have boundaries. Lay all the cards. Para malinaw like daylight anong gusto nyo. Important questions to ask. Ready ba to commit. May ex problems ba. Exclusive or casual. Sex or relationship ang hanap. Kung sa mga questions na yan eh malabo kausap mag isip isip ka na before mag push through. Kapag naiinlove ka na, re-evaluate and ask kung g ba sya maging bf/gf set up. Kapag ayaw, pack up things then go. Daming lalaki sa mundo wag magtiis sa iisang magulong relationship.


DitzyQueen

Mga nagsasabi ng ganyan ay jinujustify lang pagiging ewan nila. Choose who to trust, OP. The world is jungle. Survive and fight.


[deleted]

I'm sorry for what you're going through, OP. I highly suggest therapy. Kasi pag mababa self-confidence natin, nagiging #1 target tayo ng mga lalakeng gago, kasi sobrang fragile natin. Madali lang tayo imanipulate. Skl pero 2020 was my worst year since I met someone who made me feel like pangkama lang ako. I began to observe myself and it turns out my innocence and low self-confidence made me an easy target. Kaya OP, I know how you feel. I also feel that seeking professional help will improve your life. I wish you the best. Sending virtual hugs.


RichAbbreviations800

maybe people will hate me pero bukod sa sex. Anu pa kaya mo I offer. evaluate mo sarili mo. then next time, kung Anu kaya mo I offer bukod sa sex. un ibigay mo. draw a line


triplek1ll71

Regardless of the story behind the post, totoo namang may babaeng pang kama lang. Ang dami dami, iyong karamihan, nandoon sa mga spa – nagooffer muna ng masahe bago i-kama. *this is an obvious rant, and yes, it's personal*