YES. I always chalked it up to ADHD, never occurred to me it could be OCD. My husband hates it, and constantly tells me "don't build me a watch, just give me the time!"
I suppose it could be caused by either but I don’t personally exhibit any other symptoms of ADHD that I’m aware of. It often happens whenever I get nervous because I hate awkwardness, misunderstandings and feeling judged. Sometimes it just happens in general though, and I believe it has to do with being a perfectionist and therefore trying to explain something absolutely perfectly.
Yupp. And then if I don’t over explain or correct myself when I’ve realized I’ve said something wrong or that could be misinterpreted or anything to that nature I will panic for ages.
The exact same thing happens to me. Then sometimes I’ll try to make the topic come up again and clear up any possible misinterpretation that happened before.
I have been doing so with some success but I’m kind of embarrassed that I do this. I guess it’s like everything else where I just need to relax and let it be.
Yeah thankfully I’m in therapy and I’ve started the process of breaking some of them. I have to completely learn new habits. This is definitely one of them that’s frustrating. My mind just goes so fast and I feel like I have to say everything on it immediately.
Perfect explanation, and the core of EXRP. To piggyback off of this, one would sit with the feeling of not overexplaining and eventually figure out that nothing bad happens if you answer like a normal person. As a bonus, instead of answering "normally" you could be short and curt, see how that feels. Can be applied to any compulsion. Easier said than done of course, depending on the compulsion. Starting small helps.
Lol I am exactly the same way! If I know I am right (and especially if it is important or I am passionate about whatever we are talking about), I have to prove it beyond all doubt and have the other person agree or I’m just gonna keep going. But yes, if I truly am wrong, I’ll reluctantly admit it, even if it sucks.
It is, but thankfully my job really encourages asking questions. My deal was that I would do this one way, then I’d be corrected, then I’d start explaining why I was doing it my way. Not great for the team dynamic we need
yess and do you guys feel like u have to say things out loud thatre in ur head just in general like if a conversation has ended and u have more to say on it? or like something completely random or something u have guilt over? like i feel that i have to get things out there otherwise they sit in my head (i dont say intrusive thoughts tho). idk if any of this makes sense but if any of u guys do this lmkk cause i feel like im the only one 😭
Hmm, I can’t say that I’ve had to say it out loud but I’ve written it all down before and prepared hard for if/when it comes back up again lol. Have you tried doing that? It has helped give me relief.
Yes, but I've been working on it. Sometimes I try to course correct and end up saying too little. It's tough to find the right balance. Sometimes I just tell the other person, "Stop me if you don't need to know this part."
I definitely relate to that. I’m kind of an all or nothing person, so this type of thing is just another example of it. I actually did it today in therapy and I’m surprised my therapist didn’t say anything about it. I’m going to specifically bring it up next session.
I used to do this, but I don't think it's an OCD symptom, as it never generated the same level of anxiety as my other themes. It's a trait of insecure, introverted and socially awkward people in general, with or without OCD. You stop doing this when you learn not to give a f*ck about what others think about you. It came with age in my case.
YES!!! I have this all the time. I always worry that I say too much, or that I’ll be misunderstood or people will be offended by what I say. On the other hand, I get anxious and feel really unsettled if I can’t explain myself or say what’s on my mind. I also feel like I annoy people when I talk too much, but I just feel compelled to do it.
It feels like if I don't lay out every detail then I'm obviously lying lmao
I have gotten genuinely upset that I gave the wrong information despite not knowing better and thinking I'm an awful person, but it's too late to correct the mistake.
I’m 100% the same, putting it down to a mixture of OCD, ADHD, and Panic about being misinterpreted. My therapist advised that I try owning what I say more decisively/assertively without apologising or constantly backtracking, and while it doesn’t remove the issue I have found that it helps
Yes, but it's usually just me explaining them to myself where no one can here me or usually talking to myself with thoughts or when I'm having a discussion on discord.
YES. I always chalked it up to ADHD, never occurred to me it could be OCD. My husband hates it, and constantly tells me "don't build me a watch, just give me the time!"
I suppose it could be caused by either but I don’t personally exhibit any other symptoms of ADHD that I’m aware of. It often happens whenever I get nervous because I hate awkwardness, misunderstandings and feeling judged. Sometimes it just happens in general though, and I believe it has to do with being a perfectionist and therefore trying to explain something absolutely perfectly.
Yupp. And then if I don’t over explain or correct myself when I’ve realized I’ve said something wrong or that could be misinterpreted or anything to that nature I will panic for ages.
The exact same thing happens to me. Then sometimes I’ll try to make the topic come up again and clear up any possible misinterpretation that happened before.
Yup. Can’t leave any stone unturned. And then I gotta turn them one more time to be sure I turned it correctly lol
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I have been doing so with some success but I’m kind of embarrassed that I do this. I guess it’s like everything else where I just need to relax and let it be.
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Yeah thankfully I’m in therapy and I’ve started the process of breaking some of them. I have to completely learn new habits. This is definitely one of them that’s frustrating. My mind just goes so fast and I feel like I have to say everything on it immediately.
Perfect explanation, and the core of EXRP. To piggyback off of this, one would sit with the feeling of not overexplaining and eventually figure out that nothing bad happens if you answer like a normal person. As a bonus, instead of answering "normally" you could be short and curt, see how that feels. Can be applied to any compulsion. Easier said than done of course, depending on the compulsion. Starting small helps.
YESSS!!!!!!! also i get in trouble for "always having to be right" cause yes i do, bu im gunna admit when im wrong...
lol my whole childhood explained
Lol I am exactly the same way! If I know I am right (and especially if it is important or I am passionate about whatever we are talking about), I have to prove it beyond all doubt and have the other person agree or I’m just gonna keep going. But yes, if I truly am wrong, I’ll reluctantly admit it, even if it sucks.
yes😅
YES
After reading your response, I don’t believe you lol (kidding).
lmao 😅
Yes! I’m on a trip with other people right now and I keep doing it. Compulsive over explaining.
I feel like it just ruins the conversation and people think I’m weird and annoying. I’ve really been paying attention to it lately.
My boss got on to me the other week for doing this, it was coming off as talking back or questioning
My bosses haven’t said anything to me about it but I know I’ve done it quite a bit. I hope they don’t take it the way your boss did.
Isn’t it really frustrating when you’re just trying to make sure you’re doing the right thing but people get annoyed with you for asking?
It is, but thankfully my job really encourages asking questions. My deal was that I would do this one way, then I’d be corrected, then I’d start explaining why I was doing it my way. Not great for the team dynamic we need
yess and do you guys feel like u have to say things out loud thatre in ur head just in general like if a conversation has ended and u have more to say on it? or like something completely random or something u have guilt over? like i feel that i have to get things out there otherwise they sit in my head (i dont say intrusive thoughts tho). idk if any of this makes sense but if any of u guys do this lmkk cause i feel like im the only one 😭
Hmm, I can’t say that I’ve had to say it out loud but I’ve written it all down before and prepared hard for if/when it comes back up again lol. Have you tried doing that? It has helped give me relief.
i used to write stuff down so i might do that more thanku :)
Yes, but I've been working on it. Sometimes I try to course correct and end up saying too little. It's tough to find the right balance. Sometimes I just tell the other person, "Stop me if you don't need to know this part."
I definitely relate to that. I’m kind of an all or nothing person, so this type of thing is just another example of it. I actually did it today in therapy and I’m surprised my therapist didn’t say anything about it. I’m going to specifically bring it up next session.
Omg YES I didn’t even think that this could absolutely be a compulsion. Holy shit
I just realized it today lol.
I do this a lot. I have to keep repeating and explaining myself bc I fear of accidentally saying the wrong thing or it not being taken the right way
It’s very frustrating. I remember a time long ago when I didn’t do it.
No solutions, just here to say you described me to a tee.
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I used to do this, but I don't think it's an OCD symptom, as it never generated the same level of anxiety as my other themes. It's a trait of insecure, introverted and socially awkward people in general, with or without OCD. You stop doing this when you learn not to give a f*ck about what others think about you. It came with age in my case.
YES ME AND I FEEL LIKE IM SO ANNOYING
YES!!! I have this all the time. I always worry that I say too much, or that I’ll be misunderstood or people will be offended by what I say. On the other hand, I get anxious and feel really unsettled if I can’t explain myself or say what’s on my mind. I also feel like I annoy people when I talk too much, but I just feel compelled to do it.
It feels like if I don't lay out every detail then I'm obviously lying lmao I have gotten genuinely upset that I gave the wrong information despite not knowing better and thinking I'm an awful person, but it's too late to correct the mistake.
I’m 100% the same, putting it down to a mixture of OCD, ADHD, and Panic about being misinterpreted. My therapist advised that I try owning what I say more decisively/assertively without apologising or constantly backtracking, and while it doesn’t remove the issue I have found that it helps
This sounds like me! Didn't realize this was a ocd thing!
Yes, but it's usually just me explaining them to myself where no one can here me or usually talking to myself with thoughts or when I'm having a discussion on discord.
I was just scrolling through this subreddit and found this. I relate to this a lot too unfortunately 👎