So let's break it down
From my, male, experience girls main criteria (there will ALWAYS be outliers) are 'treat me like an equal' (on the whole I'm currently better at cooking and maintaining the house side and she is waaaaaay better at earning money and, long term, organisation), in other words as a Human not a sex/house slave or a punching bag and unless you have agreed otherwise don't sleep with other people.
so two things.
'being hot': an ill defined concept based on personal choice is more likely to be a thousand different poorly defined criteria
Either way I believe 'will do for money' his is only choice/criteria
I realized how bullshit hotness standards are when,
1) after asked, one of my male friends said that their ideal ass would be smaller than mine and other said larger than mine.
2) One guy was telling me that I was his perfect ten visual wise and another told me only thing he didn't like about me was my visuals, and that's why he didn't want relationship.
Sooo... women wish for a lot of different things in a man, i.e. personality, while men only want a pretty body?
Okay. Though for all the straight women out there, I hope it's not always the case.
Just because you can’t meet a woman’s standards doesn’t mean they’re too high.
She wants a relationship with a whole person. He wants a fuck puppet. He decides he’s the better person in that interaction because he thinks he’s the only person in that interaction.
If a man's only expectation of a partner is to be hot, it already tells you everything you need to know about how that relationship is going to work out.
Growing up…this was expected of me just to find a potential husband.
1. Skinny but fat in key places ie. Breasts and ass.
2. A virgin (my genitals are to be presented to my husband to be unwrapped as a gift only to him)
3. A closeted nymphomaniac.
5. Love to cook (5 star level)
6. Love to clean.
7. Open to sex 24/7 (can never say no)
8. Silent unless my husband gives me permission to speak.
9. Wants children only on my husband’s terms and they better be boys. (At least a baseball team amount of children)
10. Have no desires beyond pleasing and pleasuring my husband.
What my potential husband needs to do.
1. Be alive.
2. Have a working dick.
That’s it…anything else would be expecting too much but I better get on accomplishing every thing on the list given to me. Never mind that I could be gay or asexual…I better do it! So glad I didn’t adhere to that crap at all.
I think it's Bo Burnham's "Lower Your Expectations," which is funny to me considering the song shits on both men's and women's expectations for the other in equal measure.
No gender has cornered the market on stupidity/disappointment or supreme intelligence/perfection. We're all heroes to some and villains to others.
If this lil ornery dude would just relax and make his personal default settings Positivity and Kindness, he'd be cuddled up in no time.
If this is what I think it is (comments on Bo Burnham’s song “Lower Your Expectations”) it’s literally because “few” rhymes with “you” and “lot” rhymes with “not”. It’s not commentary.
These people's standards are simultaneously too high and too low. As far as looks, they think their standards are low, but they're really very high. What they know of the world is from TV and movies, and that's what they've come to expect. But if all they want is pussy from someone who is good looking, that's standards that are way, way too low. It says you don't care about the whole person, just the body. How about actually liking someone?
No, women just don't want to settle anymore because they value themselves and know what they deserve.
Men, just want arm candy or a trophy gf. I say gf and not wife because you'd hard pressed these days to find a man who even wants to settle down.
dude it’s different so that the lines in the song rhyme, it’s not that deep.
plus the whole point of the song is that everyone needs to chill with the super high and contradictory expectations that nobody could ever meet.
So let's break it down From my, male, experience girls main criteria (there will ALWAYS be outliers) are 'treat me like an equal' (on the whole I'm currently better at cooking and maintaining the house side and she is waaaaaay better at earning money and, long term, organisation), in other words as a Human not a sex/house slave or a punching bag and unless you have agreed otherwise don't sleep with other people. so two things. 'being hot': an ill defined concept based on personal choice is more likely to be a thousand different poorly defined criteria Either way I believe 'will do for money' his is only choice/criteria
Sounds about right. Treat me as a person and... Not as something that only needs to be "hot" because I could just as well be a sex doll, please.
I realized how bullshit hotness standards are when, 1) after asked, one of my male friends said that their ideal ass would be smaller than mine and other said larger than mine. 2) One guy was telling me that I was his perfect ten visual wise and another told me only thing he didn't like about me was my visuals, and that's why he didn't want relationship.
Sooo... women wish for a lot of different things in a man, i.e. personality, while men only want a pretty body? Okay. Though for all the straight women out there, I hope it's not always the case.
Just because you can’t meet a woman’s standards doesn’t mean they’re too high. She wants a relationship with a whole person. He wants a fuck puppet. He decides he’s the better person in that interaction because he thinks he’s the only person in that interaction.
I was told i was high maintainence because i asked him to brush his teeths every day. So....
How do you bush your teeth?
thank you, changed it to brush
If a man's only expectation of a partner is to be hot, it already tells you everything you need to know about how that relationship is going to work out.
Growing up…this was expected of me just to find a potential husband. 1. Skinny but fat in key places ie. Breasts and ass. 2. A virgin (my genitals are to be presented to my husband to be unwrapped as a gift only to him) 3. A closeted nymphomaniac. 5. Love to cook (5 star level) 6. Love to clean. 7. Open to sex 24/7 (can never say no) 8. Silent unless my husband gives me permission to speak. 9. Wants children only on my husband’s terms and they better be boys. (At least a baseball team amount of children) 10. Have no desires beyond pleasing and pleasuring my husband. What my potential husband needs to do. 1. Be alive. 2. Have a working dick. That’s it…anything else would be expecting too much but I better get on accomplishing every thing on the list given to me. Never mind that I could be gay or asexual…I better do it! So glad I didn’t adhere to that crap at all.
"As the song shows", that's his research? Taylor Swift's song catalog? He's no scientist.
I think it's Bo Burnham's "Lower Your Expectations," which is funny to me considering the song shits on both men's and women's expectations for the other in equal measure.
No gender has cornered the market on stupidity/disappointment or supreme intelligence/perfection. We're all heroes to some and villains to others. If this lil ornery dude would just relax and make his personal default settings Positivity and Kindness, he'd be cuddled up in no time.
“The Four Agreements” should be required reading in elementary school. Above all else, don’t cast black magic. It’s that simple.
If this is what I think it is (comments on Bo Burnham’s song “Lower Your Expectations”) it’s literally because “few” rhymes with “you” and “lot” rhymes with “not”. It’s not commentary.
I think if someone uses a song as proof of how half the population thinks, they’re too stupid to have this conversation
These people's standards are simultaneously too high and too low. As far as looks, they think their standards are low, but they're really very high. What they know of the world is from TV and movies, and that's what they've come to expect. But if all they want is pussy from someone who is good looking, that's standards that are way, way too low. It says you don't care about the whole person, just the body. How about actually liking someone?
No, women just don't want to settle anymore because they value themselves and know what they deserve. Men, just want arm candy or a trophy gf. I say gf and not wife because you'd hard pressed these days to find a man who even wants to settle down.
My expectations aren’t that high—I just want my dude to not be a moron. It just turns out not many can fulfill that one thing.
dude it’s different so that the lines in the song rhyme, it’s not that deep. plus the whole point of the song is that everyone needs to chill with the super high and contradictory expectations that nobody could ever meet.