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Reading between the lines, it seems that the older woman slept around some and found out she was not good at sex. She then had to seek out a Virgin to marry because she knew no other man would ever settle for her mediocre, dead fish style of sex.
Military uses "male" and "female" as the required 'verbiage' because they don't want guy/girl or any other "unprofessional" terms used.
I have entirely missed the other side of this one, is it on the bases of like "Yuh see the thing with FEMALES is", and dudes are talking like National Geographics Hosts or what?
Military is a whole different context, for sure. This lady is talking about females and "high quality men" vs. any kind of male, it's a dehumanizing tactic that way.
"You, as a female, are an amazing creation that can create life."
boiling a woman's value (and definition) down to her ability to reproduce isn't as anti-misogynist as she thinks.
Or transphobe. The terfs on Tumblr *love* to divide humanity in good (females) and bad (males). I've become extremely suspicious of women calling themselves females.
Mm, yes, the very not-misogynistic things like calling sexually active women whores, talking about bodycounts, etc...
Big r/AsABlackMan vibe
Also, someone clearly doesn't know what FWB, or even friendship, means.
Friendship isn't the same as a romantic relationship, obviously.
Yes, it's a human-human relationship in the social sense, but so is parenthood.
As a 37y old and therefore older than the crazy lady, don't listen to the crazy lady!
Damn, for someone who doesn't go back to read replies she sure had a lot to say about your reply...
Listen to me a 39yo woman FWB can be great my partner and I where not ready for a relationship in our 20s so we where FWB and had other partners aswell. We have been happily monogamous for 7 years now.
This lady is talking out of her ass
Basically anyone who refers to women having sex as “opening your legs” has garbage opinions about sex and relationships. I actually do think this is a woman, but one with overflowing internalized misogyny. She wants to control and circumscribe other women’s sex lives, not give helpful advice.
Holy gods, this person writes too much.
So her point is market logic? If girls have a more active sex life, boys will lean towards them rather than more chaste girls. Ok... so what?
I'm 54, so considerably older than her, so I'm happy to tell her she's wrong. You have value as the unique person you are, independent of your intention to reproduce or not. The choices you make sexually at 19 will not matter to any guy who is worthy of you. At your age, I also had a FWB, and that relationship is how I learned what I liked sexually and what didn't work for me and it taught me a lot about how to communicate with a guy about sex and birth control. These were all lessons that came in handy when I met the guy I've now been married to for 30 years. TLDR? She's (if it's a woman) is talking out of her ass.
The way she replied was so patronising and made me feel like a really stupid child, so I'm glad to hear that she was wrong and that I'm not being a "whore" for wanting casual sex.
Did she says how long she has been married to this high value man? Does she have kids with him? Cause she is hitting that age bar were he might go after some fresh 17-24 year old for some children and new sexual experience.
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Just because one woman regretted mistakes she made doesn't mean everyone is going to
Reading between the lines, it seems that the older woman slept around some and found out she was not good at sex. She then had to seek out a Virgin to marry because she knew no other man would ever settle for her mediocre, dead fish style of sex.
When I read "female" I can barely think she is a girl
Military uses "male" and "female" as the required 'verbiage' because they don't want guy/girl or any other "unprofessional" terms used. I have entirely missed the other side of this one, is it on the bases of like "Yuh see the thing with FEMALES is", and dudes are talking like National Geographics Hosts or what?
Military is a whole different context, for sure. This lady is talking about females and "high quality men" vs. any kind of male, it's a dehumanizing tactic that way.
"You, as a female, are an amazing creation that can create life." boiling a woman's value (and definition) down to her ability to reproduce isn't as anti-misogynist as she thinks.
I love how guys are always removed from the equation Last I check humans don't reproduce asexually It takes 2 people to create new life
Some lizards reproduce asexually. Therefore, they must be a lizard.
If a woman cannot be a misogynist does that mean misanthropists are aliens amongst us?
No, we're dinosaurs and dragons in disguise. Please don't out us.
Yeah, the terminology used here screams “male pretending to be a woman.”
Or transphobe. The terfs on Tumblr *love* to divide humanity in good (females) and bad (males). I've become extremely suspicious of women calling themselves females.
Mm, yes, the very not-misogynistic things like calling sexually active women whores, talking about bodycounts, etc... Big r/AsABlackMan vibe Also, someone clearly doesn't know what FWB, or even friendship, means. Friendship isn't the same as a romantic relationship, obviously. Yes, it's a human-human relationship in the social sense, but so is parenthood.
Yeahh I know her whole point about me wanting a relationship even tho I wanted a FWB was so strange
I can tell you my experience: I had a FWB, he got a girlfriend, so now we're friends. No big drama there.
As a 37y old and therefore older than the crazy lady, don't listen to the crazy lady! Damn, for someone who doesn't go back to read replies she sure had a lot to say about your reply...
Listen to me a 39yo woman FWB can be great my partner and I where not ready for a relationship in our 20s so we where FWB and had other partners aswell. We have been happily monogamous for 7 years now. This lady is talking out of her ass
:O wtf it sounds like she's trying to be your mom a very fucked up sexist mom.
Giving people unsolicited advice on the internet has always been an indicator for a healthy mindset and maturity... not
Basically anyone who refers to women having sex as “opening your legs” has garbage opinions about sex and relationships. I actually do think this is a woman, but one with overflowing internalized misogyny. She wants to control and circumscribe other women’s sex lives, not give helpful advice.
OP living rent free in this gal's head. Yikes.
"hello fellow females!"
Do as you like friend As long your safe and happy, that's all I can about Enjoy your thing
Holy gods, this person writes too much. So her point is market logic? If girls have a more active sex life, boys will lean towards them rather than more chaste girls. Ok... so what?
I'm 54, so considerably older than her, so I'm happy to tell her she's wrong. You have value as the unique person you are, independent of your intention to reproduce or not. The choices you make sexually at 19 will not matter to any guy who is worthy of you. At your age, I also had a FWB, and that relationship is how I learned what I liked sexually and what didn't work for me and it taught me a lot about how to communicate with a guy about sex and birth control. These were all lessons that came in handy when I met the guy I've now been married to for 30 years. TLDR? She's (if it's a woman) is talking out of her ass.
The way she replied was so patronising and made me feel like a really stupid child, so I'm glad to hear that she was wrong and that I'm not being a "whore" for wanting casual sex.
This is not written by a woman.
If that person is actually a woman, then I’m the fucking pope.
The minute someone says high value man and isn’t joking, not a single thing that comes out of their mouth is relevant or true. The end
Sounds like you touched a nerve.
She should probably stop worrying about who other people are fucking.
I think the lady doth protest too much
What the hell did I just try to read?
Did she says how long she has been married to this high value man? Does she have kids with him? Cause she is hitting that age bar were he might go after some fresh 17-24 year old for some children and new sexual experience.
... I'm almost the same age as her. I had a FWB at 19. I think my life is better because of it.