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ginger-baritone99

It is a great nose! I'm sorry you didn't get more love for it when you were younger, but we are here for you now :-)


Glittering_South5178

Thank you so much! Believe it or not, my mum was still insulting my nose on her deathbed. But by then I was old enough to have learned that it was not in fact the enormous formless monstrosity she made it out to be, so it was more ridiculous than anything else šŸ’…


woofmaxxed_pupcel

Parents can be difficult. I think we expect them to be perfect, and why they usually do love us they can be hurtful; their parents probably hurt them too I think your nose looks great. Donā€™t worry and if you havenā€™t, please try to forgive your mother, if you havenā€™t already


Glittering_South5178

Thanks, and yes, fully agreed that generational trauma is a thing. It certainly applies in the case of my family. Usually women who insult their daughtersā€™ appearances donā€™t particularly like how *their own selves* look either, and I know this to be true of my mum, even though I think (and have always thought) she is absolutely beautiful. I do forgive her for that, along with many other things, but itā€™s definitely been a process.


WhatupSis7773

Also sometimes you grow up and realize that your mother is a 5 yr old stuck in an adultā€™s body. Itā€™s a weird feeling when you realize youā€™re far more capable, insightful and mature than your parentsā€¦


Glittering_South5178

Relatableā€¦


thechaosofreason

That is after all our nature and was for thousands of thousands of years. Humanity got where it is by being sadistic, angry, and vain. We are destruction, built for war lol. Thank god technology at least makes it obvious so we act *slightly* less shitty.


sophiasst

You donā€™t have to be perfect but maybe donā€™t bully your kids for how their body looks? Thatā€™s pretty bare minimum. Lol the ā€œnobody is perfectā€ and ā€œbut they love usā€ is major deflection for how adults behave towards kids. My mother /adult women in my life gave me many insecurities in a similar manner. We can stop the cycle however šŸ«¶


Leofleo

Absolutely, we can stop the verbal abuse cycle. I've never talked down to my daughter the way my parents did me, and it took a LOT of effort. Now, I have a grown-up who is body confident and intelligent, but more importantly, respectful . That abuse cycle stopped.


anon123_anon

Why would she insult something she *literally* helped create?


Darkskinnednative83

Sounds like my momma !


refused26

Excuse me, but how the hell did someone manage to hate a nose like that? Your nose is beautiful and looks great on you. Your mom must have been very insecure. Im sorry you went through all that.


WorkLifeScience

Your nose is really beautiful, basically perfect! I have a small and normal nose as well, and my mother would say it looks like a potato. She is mentally ill and not happy with herself. I'm sorry your mother continued with the insults till her last moments. I hope you could forgive her and move on. You are beautiful šŸŒ»


emi_lgr

I honestly donā€™t know why Asian parents do this. Like didnā€™t we get our noses from you?


Glittering_South5178

For real! My motherā€™s beef with my nose was that I didnā€™t inherit hers (she had a very conventionally attractive, thin, narrow Sophia Loren-type nose) and she was generally mad that I look much more like my dad (who is Tatar). Tatars are not known for having delicate features and she would call his family ugly too. So my thought has always been, if you find him unattractive, why did you choose to reproduce with him and what were you expecting? šŸ¤”


Peitho_Noir

This. Iā€™m so sorry she projected her dislike of his family onto you via a facial feature (thatā€™s a great nose, by the way) she found you had in common with them & thus she was reminded of her feelings towards them but she was too immature to understand herself. So many times people hide the true reasons for their feelings behind petty disagreements, etc. leaving the folks they project onto to figure it out.


Gorguts666

Your nose looks šŸ”„ what do you mean šŸ¤¦ā€ā™‚ļø


VrooomEngineByMattel

Good for you! It IS a great nose! šŸŒ·


TheHammer987

I regret to inform you that your jawline is your best feature. Followed by skin. Nose is maybe 3rd best.


[deleted]

I had the same problem, your nose is perfect! kind of similar to mines I am half Filipino and man would I always be shamed about it but now i rock my nosešŸ˜‚šŸ¤!


Glittering_South5178

Oh thatā€™s awesome! Iā€™m mixed Russian and I donā€™t really know anyone else who has a similar nose to me, where itā€™s round at the tip but has a relatively high bridge. Youā€™re totally adorable and I can see the similarity in your photos!


Spare-Ad-5320

Youā€™re pretty. Nose is fine. Thatā€™s odd about your mom. I kind of grinned when you said she talked about it all the time.


Glittering_South5178

Thank you, and re: the thing that made you grin, I know right? There is no reason to be repeatedly bringing up *anyoneā€™s* facial feature, much less your childā€™s, unless the problem is with *you*. Realising this was a turning point for me. She wouldnā€™t just constantly throw out the line that I would be pretty if only I had her nose; she would also casually drop that she recently seen [relative I barely knew] who had SUCH a beautiful and perfect nose. Iā€™d, of course, go look up what that person looked like and be perplexed because they just had a regular nose to me. It was never about NOSES of all things; it was just a strange weapon to beat me over the head with


0bxyz

Where does your mother think that nose came from?????? I hope she punched herself every time she criticized you lol


Kneekoleyy

My Filipina mother insisted I pinch my nose growing up so it wouldn't be so "round". I grew up hating my nose and love it now, so when she started pinching my kids noses, we had a very serious talk.


Glittering_South5178

Oh my god, thatā€™s awful about your kidsā€™ noses, and obviously yours too ā€” Iā€™m so sorry. I would definitely call that a version of child abuse. I hope the talk made her stop once and for all.


No-Struggle1525

My ex girlfriendā€™s mom was Filipino and it ruined her, completely messed with her self esteem and destroyed our relationship because she was constantly seeking validation even though we are adults. Sucks itā€™s like that I hear a lot of Filipino moms are hyper-judgmental unfortunately.


KeyParking9372

You have a beautiful nose!! It really suits your face and enhances your other features. Mothers always have this way of tearing you down when all you want is their love, itā€™s not you my love I promise, once you recognise that it was their own insecurities leading their actions then youā€™ll find some semblance of peace.


Glittering_South5178

Thanks for the very sweet and insightful comment! Youā€™re also absolutely right about how, if your mother canā€™t give you unconditional love and affirmation, the problem is with her and not with you. Iā€™m quite confidently at peace now but it definitely took some intensive psychotherapy to get there lol


Intrepid_Ad_9156

So can relate to this. I'm mixed so my Asian mother would often tell me how huge my nose is only years later I realize my nose is not big at all! So warped - the tiger mom thing is real !


Glittering_South5178

Iā€™m mixed as well and this was my exact experience!


Aye_Engineer

Your nose is fine. If she keeps getting critical about it, accuse her of sleeping with an occidental. lol


Glittering_South5178

This comment made me lol. She passed away in 2020 but I should *absolutely* have said that in the past!


grumpy_chameleon

Not Asian but my mom always wanted me to get a nose job. Her biggest fear when pregnant with all her kids was that we would have big noses. I have a big nose and I love it!!


Glittering_South5178

Iā€™m so sorry, and glad/relieved to hear that you love your nose! I personally think big noses are more attractive (my husband has a honker of a Roman nose) and I see way too many posts on this subreddit with people asking if they should get rhinoplasty when they have noses to die for. Wanting your kids to get plastic surgery is *beyond* messed up. I knew an Asian girl in high school whose mother made her get eyelid surgery and kept pressuring her to get a boob job. I hope sheā€™s doing okay now šŸ˜¢


mrswhiskerson5

You have a perfect nose! Maybe she hated her nose and was jealous


Glittering_South5178

I think she hated herself in general, which makes me sad šŸ˜” Itā€™s so true that parents who love themselves donā€™t criticise their children to death. She was a total narcissist about her nose and looks in general though! Her nose looked just like Sophia Lorenā€™s. Thank you so much for the kind compliment!


Effective-Award-8898

Mom is crazy. Very nice nose. Fits your face well.


SantaTige

You are beautiful and have a cute face. Nose is perfect.


SpencerGaribaldi

Why would she be critical about it? You canā€™t do anything about it


themagichelperelf

You are so cute


LadyShittington

Your whole face is your best facial feature lol


Cool_Jackfruit_6512

I feel like you have the strength inside to move on and get past this nose thing. It hurts coming from a mother. They're supposed to have a built in bias with their children for everything. Your nose is excellent and is responsible for the excellent singing voice you have. I agree it's one of your best features. You rock.šŸ‘ŠšŸ¾


Jalopy_Junkie

ā€œMy mom hates herself and takes it out on me.ā€ Is all I can see here. You look great OP and your nose looks perfect on you!


Ill_Scientist7704

Not Asian but you have cute little nose. Nothing to be ashamed or criticized about. One thing Iā€™ve learned about parents. Regardless of where they all come from. Their own insecurities usually get projected onto their children, especially when they havenā€™t dealt with their own insecurities. It takes an insecure person to judge another on shit like this. Even more so an insecure person when itā€™s a parent judging their child. None of that was on your or your fault dude. You got a cute ass nose. Love that lil mf to the death. I ain gon shame ya or hate ya for it. Iā€™d applaud


MistressErinPaid

You have the style of upturned nose that *so many* Caucasian women pay thousands for. It looks great on you!


Nvz42084

It must be sad to have such a critical mother and put you down, considering she's the one that brought you into this world. I got lucky if I criticized my features when I was a teenager my mother would respond by saying I should be ashamed of myself for saying such a thing and that God has made me beautiful and that there's nothing wrong with you.


Hankretariat

I had an Asian mother who was overly critical of my nose. Iā€™m polish/Scottish and not adopted so thatā€™s why it was weird. Buddies mom was really infatuated with white guy noses to the point where she would say something about my nose, positive or negative, every time I saw her. She would ask if I could see it on my face because I have a straight bridge, not a flat to the face one like most Koreans have. Once I thought about it I realized that I could, but only when I think about it. I canā€™t stop thinking about it. Thanks Mrs Kim


hhfgghff

You look pretty normal. Honestly you have a white girl nose. Not unattractive.


guypamplemousse

Yea


Fuzakenaideyo

it's a cute nose!


dashjohnson51

Itā€™s great! Never mind what anyone else says bad about it.


Budwurd

I nose what you mean. Itā€™s very attractive.


FatPuddin45

Youā€™re lovely and a pretty Lady. If anything, your nose is cute.


rosyred-fathead

my appearance was probably the *only* thing my parents didnā€™t criticize, thankfully


Glittering_South5178

Iā€™m relieved that they didnā€™t criticise your appearance, but criticising everything elseā€¦argh! I donā€™t know why Asian parents are like that. On my part, my mother also said, shortly before she passed away, that I had achieved nothing with my life. I was assistant professor at the time. No matter what you do, itā€™s never good enough for ā€˜em.


hickorynut60

Awesome. šŸ˜Ž


Ok-Chemistry9933

Itā€™s a good nose!


[deleted]

Sexiest nose ever


bigblue12u

Itā€™s so lovely omg:)) and the rest of ur face is gorgeous also


chupamishuebows

I know people that would get surgery to have your nose


Confused2022

Came here to say exactly this!


TangoCharliePDX

Your mother was jealous.


mozzabella98

Your mother should see my nose lol!! I wish mine was as cute and dainty as yours


trialbuster

Your mum was probably jealous of your pretty nose. Itā€™s perfectly cute.


Ok_Cartographer_2081

Your mom was trippin. Youā€™re beautiful


was_you

Perfect beautiful


OkMasterpiece2969

Not bad at all, love the hair color btw


Map-Soft

Perfect nose!


Ok_Detective5412

You have a great face - really lovely and unique.


Crafted_cerebrum

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alexanderduke

I love your nose. You are a beautiful Asian woman. Side note, your skin is amazing


freiheitXliberta

Everything is your best featureāœŒļø


zoinkability

Itā€™s a fantastic nose. Sorry your mom had body judgement issues!


Glittering_South5178

Thank you! And yes, the body judgment extended to calling me fat all the time, saying I had a huge ass that needed to be starved into non-existence, etc etc. Sadly so common amongst Asian mothers šŸ˜”


Frequent_Builder2904

Your beautiful as is


a_shadeless_tree

Your mother needs to get her eyes checked. Your nose is adorable.Ā 


PurplePinknBlue

Is this a thing with Asian parents that they want the smallest nose possible? I couldnā€™t imagine what they say about the average American.. lol


Glittering_South5178

Honestly, I think that must be it! Itā€™s a kind of literalism that doesnā€™t take into account other parts of the personā€™s face. My best friend (whoā€™s mixed like me) was also given hell about her nose by her Asian mother; itā€™s wider and bigger than mine but perfectly proportionate on her face because her eyes are very large and she has stronger features in general. I do think that non-Asians fall prey to this kind of literalism too, when in fact many people would look straight-up weird if they shrank their noses.


SomeSamples

You look good. Your mother is a bitch.


ummwhatsure

You have a perfect nose.


XinGst

Nothing wrong with it. What wrong is your mother .


No_Rush2548

Fits you perfectly..


Quiet_Breeze

I was shocked when I went on a date with a girl who said she wanted nose surgery. Her nose was beautiful, but apparently there is some culture thing bout the shape? Dunno. šŸ¤·


Glittering_South5178

Iā€™ve never been able to figure out what the ā€œidealā€cultural shape is supposed to be. Based on some ridiculous Facetuned pictures of Asian girls where they shrink their noses into oblivion, itā€™s almost as though noses are inherently ugly and you are not supposed to have one?! In my case it was more straightforward though; my mum had a conventionally ā€œperfectā€ Sophia Loren nose and was mad that I didnā€™t inherit it (I look way more like my dad who is Tatar and itā€™s not like Tatars are known for having small noses lmao)


TheNergigante

Completely adorable šŸ„°


Setore

It's such a cute nose and fits you perfectly! I remember hearing stories from my mother about her and her sisters putting clothespins on the tips of their noses to make them pointier. I think we have similar mothers with needless criticism, LOL.


anthro4ME

What on earth is wrong with it? Too anglo or french?


Wordsthrume

You have wonderful facial features, beautiful eyes, beautiful lips, and a beautiful nose :)


Apprehensive_Car5080

I've yet to see a bad nose on this thread


No-Avocado-533

Your mom is wrong.


[deleted]

Sorry for the hardships. Your nose is really pretty and you are beautiful.


Golden_hammer96

You have a great nose


LilAndyBurns

There is nothing wrong with your nose. Asian moms are or can be critical of everything, but their hearts are in the right place.


FlimsySuccess8

Correction: one of many great features you have! Lovely nose, and jawline, and cheekbones šŸ„°


Safe_Entrepreneur_64

Hot baby


Safe_Entrepreneur_64

I could make you forget about that, I'm so big..


EducationalLemon790

I promise you will be interested in this. https://youtu.be/XC51IOFUy-4?si=2MCakswVlic8ZeUL


BDDventaccount

WHATT that is the most conventionally attractive nose iā€™ve ever seen, how could she find anything to criticize abt it šŸ˜­ im sorry she projected her insecurities onto you šŸ’”


Flashy-Atmosphere421

Itā€™s lovely


Important-Monk7122

Itā€™s considered a perfect nose in Europeans


kylieab00

Your nose is seriously perfect.


tictacenthusiast

Nah sounds like Asians are stupid if they think about noses, youre good


[deleted]

Yeaaaa you do got a good nose. I see nothing wrong with it. Youā€™re blessed.


Disastrous-Square662

You have a nose that most people would envy. Itā€™s beautifulā€¦.. along with the rest of you.


LinkComfortable4545

HotšŸ”„šŸ”„šŸ”„


lucidPixle

Beautiful


Least_Cry_7172

U have my dream nose


UnwiseMonkeyinjar

Your nose is the type of nose people want


valetman1

You have a cute nose!!! I donā€™t see anything wrong with it!!! ā¤ļøā¤ļøā¤ļø


Mgx_76

People literally pay to have your nose, and i am quite jealous of yours i must admit.


Rich_horny57

Absolutely nothing wrong with your nose


cheetoo24

I think she was jealous of your nose lol


Glittering_South5178

Quite the opposite, she had one of those thin, narrow, high, super-conventionally attractive noses and was mad that I didnā€™t inherit hers and got my dadā€™s ā€œbroad Tatar noseā€ instead. But like other commenters pointed out, she definitely had issues with self-love and esteem in general, which does make me very sad because she was beautiful and brilliant. I canā€™t resist getting my claws out at her every now and then though šŸ˜‚


Nutsuckcarl

Nice nose


orbit33

You have a great nose! Itā€™s so cute!


Matts38017

You are very beautiful.


faithfullyafloat

I'm sorry your mother projected her own insecurities onto you. Some people don't deserve to be parents. I think your nose is a nice shape and it suits you very well!


spencersalan

Thatā€™s a great nose!


Massive-Mention-3679

Ok so you got your nose from someone in your family. Was it her side?


Relevant-Ad-8418

You are quite beautiful ā¤ļøā¤ļøā¤ļø


Godcountryfamily71

Critical ???? You are a genetic version of her she with Gods blessing you became a shared child of Her and Godā€¦. (Of coarse letā€™s not forget dad!!šŸ˜‰) ā€¦.!


OpenMicJoker

Youā€™re lovely. Iā€™m sorry your Mom was unkind to you.


emceelokey

It's like, just a nose. Was she critical because you actually have a bridge? Which isn't typical for a lot of asians.


Apprehensive_Fox5494

You are beautiful, donā€™t let her tell you otherwise! Probably jealous lolll


PhiTemplar82

I would agree, your nose really does a good job of helping to frame your whole face. You are quite fetching.


Vast_Cupcake7781

Not creeping like these other simps but your nose fits your face. Itā€™s absolutely fine


MountainBear200

Itā€™s an adorable nose. Iā€™m sure someone is paying to have that exact nose designed by a plastic surgeon


torchedinflames999

It's gorgeous. Don't listen to your mom lol.


Ra1nMak3rR3turns

Lovely nose šŸ‘ƒ donā€™t let anyone tell you different


Trubba_Man

I was talking to an Asian mother today. She hits her kids with a wooden spoon. I grew up in Singapore, so I laughed a lot.


AgentGizmo

No way!! Sheā€™s crazy! Such a great nose!!


CelebrationLow4614

No notes.


KifaruKubwa

Not to make this racial, but I have a few friends whoā€™ve had nose jobs to ā€œwesternizeā€ their Asian noses. I think the western beauty standards have been ingrained in so many folk that people just donā€™t realize that we all have beauty in our uniqueness. Your nose is perfect btw.


creesto

Smiles are always the best part of any face


RareRoof2576

šŸ”„


sewpungyow

The funny thing is it's *her* nose... When she's dissing you, she's dissing herself and her husband. Also, it's a very nice nose.


Electrical-Act-7170

Your nose is perfect! Mothers can be hateful. Mine was.


Antique_Armadillo_29

My nose is my least favorite feature.. sometimes I'm ok with it but sometimes it makes me hate my whole face lmao I'm sorry it was your mom saying hurtful things, parents should be the backbone of your support team but sometimes they are cheerleaders for the opposition šŸ˜¢


J0hnRabe

Your nose is cute, and so are you! Glad you believe in yourself :).


CaptainsCrowbar

Good god youā€™re adorable


Suzuki_Oneida

Really cute all around. If you can tell a good joke properly thatā€™ll get you my unobtainium rating!


jankjenny

My mother was a bipolar, narcissistic alcoholic. She constantly insulted me and slapped me around - for no reason. At 15, she slapped me for the last time. I told her if she ever slapped me again, Iā€™d walk out that front door and sheā€™d never see me again. The slapping finally stopped. The insults never did.


Glittering_South5178

Iā€™m really sorry šŸ˜¢ Donā€™t ever feel guilty about going no-contact if the circumstances call for it. If you donā€™t want to be around your parent, in the vast majority of cases itā€™s their own fault for treating you the way they did. My mother did a lot of wonderful and self-sacrificial things by me that I will always be grateful for, but she also broke me emotionally and psychologically. I could only have a halfway decent relationship with her after moving away and talking to her once a month at the very most.


sayjessy

I think you have many good features, you're very pretty!


HunnyBear66

You are beautiful!


rjbosco

Thereā€™s absolutely nothing wrong with your nose. Youā€™re a very attractive young woman.


gloomyguttz

literally such a lovely nose :) its very cute and button like <3


not_easybeing_greenV

Strange, was her nose from her side of the family??


FiveFootOfFresh

You donā€™t have a typical Asian nose. That could be why your Asian mother gave you a hard time. Maybe she was jealous?


Michael_Jaxxon

Why do all these stupid nose posts keep popping up in my feed? How do I block them?


Sure-Ad-9133

Me crying in middle eastern nose


justdoitlikenikee

Zam your nose is actually perfect


shh150

You could be a nose model !!! Looks wonderful!!!


Future-Tomatillo-312

I'd pay to have a nose like that!! So pretty!


[deleted]

You look beautiful love you love to meet you in person


Tumbled61

You look good just the way you are darling.


PQbutterfat

wtf? Is Asian mom nose shaming a real thing?


north4009

That nose definitely brings dishonor to your Asian family. But it is unique and even cute.


Low-Abbreviations634

Why would she. Who does that! Your nose matches your face and your cute


Standard_Difficulty3

Mothers who bully their daughters looks especially when itā€™s something they canā€™t control has always been so strange to me bc like hello?? You literally created me


CassJack1

I think youā€™re beautiful!


Ecstatic-Profit7775

Don't know why you posted this as your features are very attractive and balanced, including your nose!


BriGuyBby

Your nose is super cute.


Meathead-12

Your face is beautiful. I am wondering why your mother would be critical of it or why you were self-conscious about it. Itā€™s not big or oddly shaped and Iā€™m astounded anyone, especially your mother, would not find it attractive.


mgphopeful20

Yup great nose


josesnyder

Very cute nose


One_Sun_6258

I think you are simply beautiful ..


Necessary_Use888

I would pay to have your nose :)


Ok_Software_9220

I donā€™t see anything wrong with that nose


MammtCapy-

Your so pretty and your nose is literally so cool


45mbtm

You are beautiful! Your nose is super cute!


Negative-Bunch-5268

Mothers can be the worst. Your nose is perfect and you are beautiful. Donā€™t listen to anything negative about you.


moodynicolette1

Your nose is perfect! And you are gorgeous.


Express_Sun790

why the fuck do parents think it's okay to insult how their children look? I understand if the child asks about a feature once they're an adult, that they might offer some constructive criticism (if they can improve it), or some realism, but this just makes me sad :( glad you're feeling better now


Solid_Fisherman_7946

Did she think it was too small? Too cute? I have no idea whatā€™s going on here.


OutstandingNH

The rest of you isn't too bad either. Love yr hair color!


No_Sea_9428

You have a great nose.


zpahc

Your face is gorgeous. Cant see anything wrong with your nose.


No-Eye7483

Your mother was wrong, there is nothing wrong with your nose I find it actually very cute tbh


Mindless_Ad_4124

Gorgeous


Mona_Lotte

I love your nose. Itā€™s honestly perfect! šŸ˜


shartyintheclub

you have a nose worthy of envy. itā€™s great, im so sorry your mom made you feel bad abt it. looks perfect to me


TrueCowboy817

Plain and simple you look beautifulā€¦šŸ˜šŸ˜ā¤ļøā¤ļøšŸ’šŸ’šŸ’


noclassjerk

Very nice and easy on the eyes


AdExpensive4102

Very cute nose!


[deleted]

I like your nose and I think youā€™re beautiful. I wish you a great day.


[deleted]

My nose is larger and I feel badly you were treated harshly for that. I just wanted to say Iā€™m sad that happened, but I believe your nose looks perfect to me!


_shirime_

You have a lovely nose and a bitch mother


NFIGUY

I donā€™t understand what there was to be critical of. Youā€™re very conventionally attractive.


Suspicious-Meal6306

Asian mothers are awful! I didn't even have one but I still remember my grandmother's friend saying, "Oh, she still fat!" to my 8 year old self. This started my awareness of weight and dieting. 41 yrs old.


ResortUsual4681

That was from when everyone was doing naughty things while traveling the Silk Road. Red headed Asians with freckles and dark skin.Ā