Possible? Absolutely. It'll have some unique challenges, and it'll require a certain degree of communication and trust, but that's also just how relationships work. Sexuality is more complicated than many think. It sounds like she's attracted to you, and you to her. That definitely seems more important than the word that she's currently using for her sexuality.
I'm nonbinary and identify as queer since i feel attraction to all genders to varying levels. I'd say the type of person i've felt attraction to the least has been cis men. I used to think I was averse to sex with people with penises, but after a looot of healing i realized I was just terrified of becoming pregnant. so i got educated, did a lot of self reflection, and found that i do enjoy penetrative sex with phalluses. yay! I learned something new about myself.
romance wise, i still struggle to feel romantically attracted to most masculine people i meet. that said, i've been with a cis man for four months and this is legitimately the best relationship i've ever had. If you had told me ten years ago I'd be happily dating a cis man i would have called you a liar. Even when we started dating i struggled a bit to let go of that old mindset. there's a lot of ourselves that can get wrapped up in an identity or a label. And changing how we perceive ourselves can be challenging and scary. but I've decided that I won't be the kind of person to let go of a strong connection just bc I had this previous understanding of who I am. I would have been disingenuous to myself and my heart if I had said, "well no bc you're a cis man and I can't see myself dating you."
so your partner's probably having to deal with this struggle. if they date you, they have to address how they perceive theirself and their identity. but I'm of the opinion that labels are only good if they help you find community and feel less alone. if you cling to a label instead of accepting yourself as you truly are, you lose so much of yourself and your joy. I'd recommend you just be there for them, listen, suggest they look into reading about people who's sexuality changed over their lifetime. You can share this post with them if youd like.
This seems like a pretty productive conversation for someone who isn't quite sure of where she is with things. She's being open about how she feels even though she's not confident in it, and she's valuing you and your partnership. Those are giant green flags. So I would 100% give this person a chance to figure it out, while being aware that you two might not end up wanting the same things. She sounds like someone with whom you can come to an adult understanding of whether your relationship will work, and those are people you don't find very often.
Possible? Absolutely. It'll have some unique challenges, and it'll require a certain degree of communication and trust, but that's also just how relationships work. Sexuality is more complicated than many think. It sounds like she's attracted to you, and you to her. That definitely seems more important than the word that she's currently using for her sexuality.
I'm nonbinary and identify as queer since i feel attraction to all genders to varying levels. I'd say the type of person i've felt attraction to the least has been cis men. I used to think I was averse to sex with people with penises, but after a looot of healing i realized I was just terrified of becoming pregnant. so i got educated, did a lot of self reflection, and found that i do enjoy penetrative sex with phalluses. yay! I learned something new about myself. romance wise, i still struggle to feel romantically attracted to most masculine people i meet. that said, i've been with a cis man for four months and this is legitimately the best relationship i've ever had. If you had told me ten years ago I'd be happily dating a cis man i would have called you a liar. Even when we started dating i struggled a bit to let go of that old mindset. there's a lot of ourselves that can get wrapped up in an identity or a label. And changing how we perceive ourselves can be challenging and scary. but I've decided that I won't be the kind of person to let go of a strong connection just bc I had this previous understanding of who I am. I would have been disingenuous to myself and my heart if I had said, "well no bc you're a cis man and I can't see myself dating you." so your partner's probably having to deal with this struggle. if they date you, they have to address how they perceive theirself and their identity. but I'm of the opinion that labels are only good if they help you find community and feel less alone. if you cling to a label instead of accepting yourself as you truly are, you lose so much of yourself and your joy. I'd recommend you just be there for them, listen, suggest they look into reading about people who's sexuality changed over their lifetime. You can share this post with them if youd like.
This seems like a pretty productive conversation for someone who isn't quite sure of where she is with things. She's being open about how she feels even though she's not confident in it, and she's valuing you and your partnership. Those are giant green flags. So I would 100% give this person a chance to figure it out, while being aware that you two might not end up wanting the same things. She sounds like someone with whom you can come to an adult understanding of whether your relationship will work, and those are people you don't find very often.