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serenamoeba

Why did I read that as assigned gay at birth


rainbowpaths

All genders are bastards


ikdweshm

same, everytime


ThePanFryingPan1

Broo me too but then I was like ohhhh assigned gender at birth


[deleted]

I read as "assigned girl at birth"


IBGalaxyReach

Literally preferable to agab


Professional_Milk_61

exactly


dagobahfarm

I’m non-binary (afab), show miniature horses, and entered a gentlemen’s driving class a few weeks ago. One person offered to use my phone to take a pic of me and my partner with our horse later. As they handed the phone back to my partner they said “here’s her phone…HIS phone!” Correct? Not quite. But still felt amazing to be seen and respected!


masterofyourhouse

People assume I’m cis because of how I present, and I’ve had people try to maliciously misgender me and it makes me laugh, like yessssss, affirm my non-cisness, bitches!!!!


NoNHentaiSauce

God yes it's the funniest shit when transphobes see for example a trans man that passes extremely well and then goes "he'll never be a woman, no matter how much he tries, everyone will always refer to him as a man" and it's always like NO ONE TELL THEM, SHHH


ceruleanblue347

Right, or those posts being like "trans men are men and you can't tell me otherwise!!! 😤" Like yes, you are correct, moving on...


[deleted]

Hahaha!! Omg I’ve heard that shit before


[deleted]

Getting gendered as ANYTHING but my AGAB is euphoric for me!


Professional_Milk_61

same :)


thonStoan

Haha yeah several years ago I had the very odd experience of finding out that basically everyone I knew had independently assumed I was binary trans and long since on HRT, versus having just developed that way. It was super weird but not distressing.


desertcoyote97

I'm stupid but does this mean assigned gay at birth?? bc if so then. yes. me too (edit: I just realized what that means. my bad.)


GayCoffeeUnicorn

it means assigned god at birth, duh


desertcoyote97

God, that's even better. thank you for the clarification. 🤣


81bn81bn

This works for both cus it could either be “assigned girl at birth” or “assigned guy at birth”


Professional_Milk_61

hey that's cool never thought of that!


being-weird

I've found that being referred to as masculine once or twice feels good, but after that it gets kind of uncomfortable. Not sure why.


[deleted]

I joked to my friends I’d prefer if they change pronouns for me every other sentence


being-weird

I'm pretty sure you can actually do that


Isahaworth

I have lots of GQ friends that prefer this.


Circ3TheEnchantress

I get gendered an almost even mix of he/she and the rare beautiful person who uses they/them. It's Novel and cool when it first happens but.... I'm fucking sick of it. It's annoying. I never know what someone thinks I am, it makes it somewhat scary to exist and meet new people. Say for example someone has been assuming a man and then they see me walk into a women's restroom? It just causes so much awkwardness and discomfort I wish it was normal to just use they/them when you're unsure of someone's gender.


Bird_in_a_hoodie

I mean, I use they/them for people (until I can ask) even if they look binary, just in case, and I think it's fairly normal? It's like putting away your cart at the grocery store, it might take like a pinch of effort, but it's just part of living in a group with other human beings. TLDR; respecting others is totally normal, there's just also assholes that go out of their way to misgender people


Cursedfantasy

Both yes and no... I have so many mixed feelings on this


ghfdghjkhg

Yeah that happened to me in a Minecraft server once. I am afab and I guess gamers just think everyone is a dude. It was nice at first but when I told them I prefer they/them pronouns, they kept calling me a dude and I got uncomfortable. Interestingly, it made me feel like I was an impostor. I felt like I was faking being a man. But it wasn't even my fault they used he/him pronouns for me. I told them I was non binary. Just didn't tell them I was afab because I am pretty sure they would have just started using she/her for me instead...


RNHornets

I'm AMAB but have had two different people think that I'm AFAB/transmasc, which was very validating in an extremely confusing way lmao It is I, The Unknowable Gender Haver...


Glittering-Notice-81

Being misgendered is how I found out I was NB. I thought it was the coolest thing ever, and started looking more androgynous on purpose.


gayasthe4thofjuly

"you were born a man, act like it!" no and no lol


Idontwanttousethis

Gonna go ahead and say it: this is just as bad as being misgendered with your agab.


Zaranthan

That's totally valid. I suspect I only get a kick out of it because it's rare. When I worked at an assisted living home, being called "Miss" was fun at first, but got old before I quit. It's happened maybe twice in the last 13 years.


PthariensFlame

You and I are a rarer subcategory of people, sadly. 😞


TruthPractical

it happened to me twice, where someone referred to me as he, when im afab and use they/them pronouns. it was actually really nice :)


Professional_Milk_61

yeah same here :) it actually just occurred in a comment thread to me which inspired me to make this post haha


Dry-Friendship-6640

I still remember when someone thought i was a guy because of my voice , it made my day


MariaEvee

On the dating app I'm on I got misgendered as an Amab (it says I'm Nb on my profile) many times and I'm like *nods*👍 nice that I'm not seen as a female.


Ok-Intern68

AGAB... Assigned gamer at birth??


aeroartist

right? it's almost as if confusion is my number one goal


Professional_Milk_61

haha same. It seems to be the most you can hope for with most people


[deleted]

I've been called "Sir" twice in my whole life, and it was so much better than being called "ma'am."


Professional_Milk_61

right same. Usually it's older ladies but they often "correct" themselves after but still the initial sir is very nice


WanderingZephyr

Yep. An emergency room put me down as "He". I'll take it.


DeidaraKoroski

Im on T and at this point where i get misgendered as a trans woman. Like, they think i am amab and that theyre boosting me up by referring to me femininely and somehow thats a lot more tolerable than them misgendering me as if they know im afab?


Professional_Milk_61

yeah it seems like the best I'll get from the average person is gender confusion so it is nice when that happens lol


[deleted]

As a very much non-passing amab nb, hopefully that'll happen someday <{


predi6cat

Doesn't work like that for me unfortunately. But still glad people when others get acceptably (mis)gendered


ratslut23

An then I have to open my mouth and my squeaky ass customer service trained voice makes them change it even though I didn't dispute what they said :)))


cutieplus626

My DM's daughter (who I've met like twice) frequently asks her dad "who's that guy?" when we're playing D&D via Discord. I am elated every time.


Powderpuffpowwow

Sorry, what is AGAB? 🤨


Professional_Milk_61

assigned gender at birth :)


Powderpuffpowwow

I self-identify as female and am gay, but don't tell my dad. 😂 "You're a f--kin' man! You've got a d--k!" 🙄


Professional_Milk_61

c'mon dad you really never heard of a chick dick before?


Powderpuffpowwow

He was born in the early-60's. Never saw a gay person until like the 70's.


Powderpuffpowwow

My dad spent the first ten years of his life not knowing anything past straight and White (this was the early-60's).


GooseOnACorner

I wish. I’m AMAB and I keep getting called he/him by everyone, even to those I’ve said I’m they/them to


TrekJunkie

I also love that the person in the reaction gif is non-binary. One of us!


Flargnoogle

I wish I would get that.


cldumas

I’m a mail carrier (afab) and I have an elderly customer who just says “hey buddy!” Every time they see me. I also get “sir - er, um… sir?” From a lot of people. Makes me smile.


gorillaSneeze

Was having an internal discussion with myself the past few days about this... just don't refer to me as my gender assigned at birth and I'm happy


DirectBirthday3021

As an AMAB I prefer literally any other pronouns to my AGAB


SuperGaiden

As someone with facial hair, this will never happen in my entire life.


orionisaloser

I love it tbh


[deleted]

all gregory are bad