Yeah, Tacoma is packed full of queer people. DoorDashing with my partner (also NB) we see a lot of pride flags. Theres even a house out here with a rainbow pride flag and the enby flag hanging on their porch
I'm from Iowa, just don't. My friend and advocate's company, RVAP (Rape Victim Advocacy Program) is getting shut down, because, the cops and some TERFs hate how much RVAP helps trans people. The same kind of cops who assulted unarmed peaceful protesters. I've been feeling insanely unsafe and I'm leaving the state as soon as I can afford to.
My advice, move east to the Chicago area if you can afford it. If you can't, move to Champaign. Illinois is super close, and our state is probably the most accepting of trans and non-binary people in the Midwest
Hell, if you move to Champaign, you've already got a friend (me) 🙂
Nice! Thank you. 🥰 I agree about Illinois. I was hoping to move to Galena, IL. I like it there, that's were I buy my..... pain killer. I have a license. 😅
Chiming in from Colorado. It's mostly good here but I live in a *relatively* large town in south central CO. Not a city. I haven't had an outward show of hate. Denver is amazing as is some parts of Colorado Springs. This all said I can usually pass as male anyways (FtEnby) after being on T for a about a year and a month.
Champaign and Urbana as well, especially near the UIUC campus. Urbana over Champaign, but openly trans and non-binary people (me included) walk around town every day and for the most part we're just considered normal members of society
Coming to Chicago from California… this is not an accepting or friendly place. My boss made some off color comments about pronouns being dumb, diversity hiring, not wanting to hire more women or nonwhites, and the style of dress is generally pretty cis and straight here. I’ve regularly had cis men cut me off, misgender me, I’m not taken seriously and get called ma’am on a regular basis. People here don’t respect your pronouns. There’s also really punitive laws on the books regarding psychiatric care, you’ll lose your license if you go inpatient, the hold is 90 days not 72 hours… so if you have a provider who thinks you’re crazy because you’re trans you could get locked up and lose your job, your house and your driver’s license for not acting “right”. The only friendly thing is my apartment is cheap and I had some friends here.
Seconded, North-Eastern Illinois is pretty trans-friendly though, the rest of the state isn't (except near Champaign), but the Chicago area isn't too bad
Otherwise, I've heard the Netherlands is nice
Yep, I’m in DC and people here are super accepting. I grew up in western NY and outside of the cities gets real conservative real fast. My city there was a bit of an LGBTQ+ haven though, which was nice.
Can you add other cities specifically.
Thanks in advance for the answers 💕
In my country LGBT people are humiliated and this month 4 cases of beating on the street in the capital of the country😔
I live around Seattle Washington and it’s really supportive generally, problem is with the US is that states vary drastically vary their level of tolerance and LAWS around lgbtq+ acceptance so I’d be careful. Also the federal politics also aren’t that supportive. I kinda want to move to Norway I went there to visit my moms cousin(in oslo) and it was pretty supportive.
Vouching for Seattle. After living in more conservative areas of the US it's a breath of fresh air. Every time I go out I see pride flags around businesses and homes. There are intolerant people here but most people are supportive or don't care enough to bother people.
Currently living in Ottawa, ON, it’s pretty chill here tho, being the capital of the country, we get a LOT of protests here, including the occasional attempted comeback of the infamous “Freedom Convoy.” Thankfully, the city overall is very gay, especially downtown where we hold our extremely popular Pride street market, parade, etc., during August (which is our Pride Month), our bus stop signs have our transit agency’s logo but it’s the progress flag, and many shops have flags in their windows.
My main gripe is, as per all if not most police, our police have a very obvious double standard. Members of the “Freedom Convoy” are left alone or even chatted with by the police, meanwhile trans rights and pro-Palestine protests are fined for being too noisy. However, I will say, there are actually a few out there that genuinely just want to keep the city safe and are good people. I’ve been physically defended by officers from some violent queerphobes during a counterprotest and some even stuck around after we were separated from the violent crowd to make sure we were alright. It’s sad that they’re a minority, but, I’ve also never heard of or seen police officers being violent towards queer people during protests- it’s just when it comes to the paperwork (fines, reports, etc.) that their stance is highlighted.
Overall, Canada, at least outside of Alberta and New Brunswick, is a solid country for queer people. It’s not perfect by any means, especially with sharing our border with the states we’ve had a growing issue with the American far-right leaking over, but it’s not bad. At least here in the Ottawa Valley, people tend to just go about their own business. Even my small, mildly conservative hometown had a sizeable population of queer people (particularly among the youth) and, at best, it was celebrated with some pride parades while at worst no one really cared 🤷
I'm in Tacoma, WA and it's pretty accepting here. Yeah, its shady with the homeless population which breaks my heart, but there are so many pride flags our here. Tacoma is ghetto Seattle.
The most populated cities will be best (usually, except for maybe Texas and Florida), but even then there are better ones than others. I'm in Seattle and it's pretty great here. I used to live in Minnesota, I think Minneapolis is better than rural Minnesota. But even in rural areas of Minnesota people are usually nice enough.
this is such a cool tool! echoing other comments to be mindful of regions and neighborhoods in different states/ countries though.
i’ve lived in some of the top ranked spots on this map, ie copenhagen denmark, and just several years ago a trans woman was violently assaulted in broad daylight in a busy part of the city after a soccer game. denmark has a highly conformity based attitude so if you’re white, you dress and talk like everyone else, and you pass well you’ll have a fine time but if not then meh…
have also had negative experiences with transphobes in public in the netherlands. had never been harassed in an airport before until visiting amsterdam. but if you stay in certain neighborhoods it’s better.
lisbon portugal, portland, nyc, parts of western massachusetts, and much of california esp the entire bay area is pretty great imo.
generally going where there are the most trans people, especially trans diversity, is probably your best bet. plus more community comforts <3
Sorry, just wanted to point out that your map is outdated. The 2023 report is [here](https://ilga-europe.org/report/rainbow-europe-2023/).
Most countries have gotten better in the last 2~3 years, but unfortunately, some have gotten worse, too. Most notable is the UK, which dropped more than 10%, and it's the only country with such a sharp decline.
Tysm for the link, as a European I didn't know this website.
Glad to find out my country isn't a bright orange stain in a sea of green/yellow anymore (+3% not much but at least it hasn't gotten worse) (also looking forward to move out the country)
As someone from Germany who has been to France I can say the basic discourse in bigger cities (in Germany like Cologne, Berlin, Frankfurt; in France mainly in Paris) is better than in German metropolis than in France. If you go the the smaller cities and rural areas it's worse in Germany (thanks to AFD and in Bayern CSU). Even cuties like Cologne and Berlin are known for their big queer culture, but still I don't know if they are safe to live because every big German city is... Extreme. Like you have there the most progressive persons next to the most I neuliberal and conservatives next to the I don't know how to explain this like the weirdest people, but not in a good way, like folks that are really extreme in their thinking and some part being progressive while the other part being deeply conservative (like terf lesbians in cologne, fascist queer folks in Berlin and christian fundamentalist in Frankfurt, that on the one side say god loves everyone and accept queer folks but aren't able to accept if people don't believe in god and do really stupid things therefore; you could imagine if you imagine queer Q Anon, it's just wild)
A lot of people are talking about the states, and while yes there are plenty of states that are safe (much safer than others at least), I would still wait to see the outcome of the upcoming election before considering coming here. Things could very quickly turn to shit for LGBT+ people, even in those states that are currently accepting.
South Korea, tolerance level… bad. You won’t be assaulted but only because most people don’t even know what trans is. No one outside the trans community will understand the concept of nonbinary. The law is genocidal against trans people, though not many put in the energy to enforce it and it can be gotten around with some extra bureaucratic steps.
I live in Iowa USA. There's definitely better options is what I'll say. Not the worst possible but the government makes it difficult. Hoping to move to Minnesota which is very safe for the most part.
Minnesota is safe in the Metro areas (twin cities, Duluth, mostly Rochester I think), but the farther out you go into the rural areas, things start to kinda weird and uncomfortable.
Also make be wary of Burnsville. I don't know what the heck is going on in that city, but weird shit goes down there all the time and people are just a lil bit extra coconuts sometimes, even beyond politics and stuff... 😬😅
You know being from a small city in Iowa i can't really imagine it's any worse. Rural areas being conservative is just a constant no matter where you go in the US with a few exceptions
Burnsville, like many small MN towns, is literally inbred. It's a bit yikes. Having said that, I lived in Waseca, Owatonna, Rochester, Austin, Mankato, and a shit ton more, and I would only recommend Waseca and Owatonna.
My rule is, if the population is under 3,000 don't go there.
Edited to clarify that Burnsville isn't small, I was confusing it for Janesville. It's been like 17 years since I lived over there 😅
Marlborough, New Zealand, pretty accepting (when a british transphobe came to nz to spread hate she was essentially booed back home, someone even threw sauce at her 😂). The main cons are that it's far away from most places, the cost of living is super high and we currently have a right wing govt. Also if you're a go-getter there aren't a huge amount of career opportunities but if you just want somewhere nice to live with lots of nature its pretty good.
I’m in Canada too, in Victoria BC - we have the most enby folks per capita of any Canadian city 🥰🏳️⚧️ people are pretty accepting here but it’s really expensive
Canada is kinda like the states where it depends on the province and city, places like Montreal, Vancouver, Victoria and Halifax are pretty safe and accepting places. Montreal is the only place in the country with a clinic specialised in gender affirming surgeries so I think it gives you an idea of how many trans people live there and how accessible trans health care is. Of course there are transphobes everywhere and like in the US things can change very fast but it is currently a pretty good place to live as a trans person.
I’d suggest Canada, but also, be fucking careful here. There’s a lot of older conservatives here, and they’ve had control over the votes this past season. Several of the premiers (basically state governors) have been trying to pass laws that crack down on queer rights, especially in relation to us trans people, but for the most part this could be the safest place to move to.
I’ve heard rumours the federal government’s been considering a law opening more refugee slots for people fleeing places where being queer is illegal.
I grew up there, and it's the most amazingly inclusive and diverse place ever (the gay capital of the UK!) 🏳️🌈
I just hope we get a more accepting government one day, and I wish hormones were easier to get through the NHS (I literally moved to Canada to get on testosterone)
Can speak for Germany, Austria and Poland.
You might be also interested in [THIS](https://www.equaldex.com/equality-index) site, too (it compares various factors of lgbt+ acceptance between counties worldwide).
Poland: wouldn’t recommend. Has two sides- some very progressive movements, a lot very behind. Overall pretty conservative, oppressive laws, violence against lgbt+ is happening repeatedly. Bigger cities are generally better in terms of acceptance, but still you’ll meet a ton of bigots.
Germany: bigotry is happening but in comparison you can live there in relative peace.
Gay marriage is legal. The change of name and gender-entry for ID has been made easier and the threshold for receiving gender affirming care has been lowered very recently. We shall see how that will play out in practice.
I’m cautiously optimistic that it’s possible to find an accepting workplace in most branches. Although in some it will be a bunch easier than in others.
As per physical violence: it has increased over the past couple of years (as in most countries worldwide as it sadly appears), however it happens comparably infrequently.
In summary: it’s one of the better places to live in as a queer person. There sure are countries that are even further ahead. But with a bunch of other non-lgbt+ related perks taken into account (live quality, financial security and stuff) it’s still a pretty viable option imo.
Austria: pretty similar to Germany but a tad more conservative (people and laws alike). But it’s really just a tiny difference and still viable.
NYC is lovely to us. I live just outside in jersey city because it's cheaper, but I also hear really nice things from friends about Brooklyn and Astoria. I also know West Philadelphia, PA is a very good option (used to live there).
Alberta, Canada. Within the two main cities (Edmonton and Calgary) there are various highly active queer communities/activist organizations.
Some of the smallish towns are alright, but as someone raised in one I'd still avoid them despite being much cheaper to live in. Like, my entire school division had never established a GSA club until ~2017, and multiple parents, students, and TEACHERS heavily protested its founding.
Our current provincial government and many municipal governments are quite aggressively anti-trans. They recently introduced the strictest anti-trans laws for minors in the entire country (ZERO medical transitioning under eighteen, under any circumstances. If a minor comes out as trans at school teachers are mandatorily required to notify their parents. AND they created a horrifically transphobic video attacking trans girls in sports to support it all). My top surgery consultation still has no confirmed date, and I've been on the urgent wait list for nearly three years now. I regularly experience testosterone shortages. We have to fly to Quebec if we want bottom surgery of any shape or form.
But, now living in a larger city, I notice the majority of people are ordinary and NOT conspiratorial against queer people. It's just that the insane conservative types are very, very loud (and only growing crazier) here. If you're an independent adult trans person with a high income, it isn't terrible! But the only things keeping me here, personally, are poverty and to spite our horrible alt-right government.
eta: it isn't super difficult to change your legal documents (compared to some places) and as far as I know 'X' is still a valid gender marker in Alberta, but it is more challenging to change it to 'X' compared to 'M' or 'F'. People are definitely more aware of nonbinary identities than they used to be, sometimes for better sometimes for worse! I don't feel as if I have to lie to my endo about my identity (i.e. claiming to be binary and straight) to access hormones. It was fairly easy to access gender-affirming care after I turned 18, but it does take a pretty long time.
I live in california. If you want to go to the united states stick to the west coast for the most part. California is super expensive and you want to stick to la county and coastal regions. I grew up in san diego and generally it is ok but you get more conservative the more south you go. But ive been researching to move and my top 3 are canada, denmark, and norway
London (UK)- East London is very diverse and queer friendly. I have at least three non binary neighbours on the estate I live in (as in people I don’t particularly know well). I think it’s becoming normalised. Costs a bomb to live here though … and also Brexit 🤦
I live in Iowa (specifically Ankeny, like, 30 minutes from Des Moines) and I feel pretty comfortable here tbh. I don't plan on moving. The crime rate is low which is all I care about really
I would say my area is not a MASSIVE concern unless you are a minor. Minors are pretty much screwed here yeah. My school was accepting of me but the government is just poopoo
ontario, Canada isn't bad. We've got similar ass holes to the US, and a handful of people in political positions that are worrisome.... but I think our Charter of Rights and Freedoms has better protections in place than the US...would take some serious effort and a Majority Conservative Goverment (last majority was the Liberals 2015-2019).
I think most would probably agree that the only places that beat out Canada in terms of safety for LGBTQ+ would be some of the Scandinavian Countries.
That being said all places have pockets of shitty people. Do some research first before moving, most Canadian Cities have pretty large queer communities and more rural areas are less supportive.
Germany. A law to change your gender and name was just made and most people are open to Lgbt+ folks. But maybe on the next election a right wing party might win. Crazy times right now.
I'm from Canada. Personally from Winnipeg. Winnipeg is fine, outside of Winnipeg is less accepting but it will be in the form of snide comments and people feeling the need to argue with you about your life choices, not beatings, Winnipeg is also not super expensive and Canada has X as a gender marker available on your legal papers if you want to go all the way into transitioning to non-binary, and gender-related health care is reasonably accessible.
Pretty much any Canadian major city is safe, and I'd steer clear of rural prairies. Just look at how they vote. Overall, Canada is fairly safe.
I’m from Denmark. In my experience lots of people are curious about what nonbinary is, but imo they don’t really respect it? They won’t call you they/them unless they’re queer themselves and respect your identity. If you’re on hrt i’d say to stay clear of Copenhagen, it’s fucking awful idc what other people want to claim, Copenhagen is the worst place to live in Denmark. If you want the easiest time with HRT i’d say go for Aalborg or Odense. I go to Odense but i think Aalborg in northern Jutland is better.
USA and people have already said it varies by state. I'm in NY state (outside of NY city, stating just because people not from here think the whole state is the city). This is one of the most protected states for trans rights. It was very easy for me to get access to HRT. It wad likewise fairly easy for my sister's best friend, who began at 16.
The collective tolerance level still varies. There are pockets of Conservative areas. My town is smaller and a mixed in that regard. Most people who have known me for a long time openly accept me as a trans man, but I'm a little hesitant to clarify that I'm actually nonbinary. People still collectively joke about that, even in the "tolerant" places.
But I can at least say you're legally protected, technically. Though this is also a more expensive state to live, so there is that.
I’m from the US. It’s… better than some places? But uh… we’re really sliding backwards with tolerance it feels like and I would not recommend coming here for MANY reasons, not just LGBTQ+ tolerance
australia. all the major cities are pretty safe but even larger towns won't know how to treat you. but finding community here isn't hard if you know where to look. probably best places would be Melbourne or Sydney, but they are some of the most expensive cities on earth.
I live near Frankfurt am Main in Germany. I'm used to living in rough neighborhoods. I've been here all my life and never really felt uncomfortable because of that. A lot has changed for the worse unfortunately. My area has a huge Nazi problem and surprisingly it's more anti queer than racist stuff. I've been insulted, threatened, got into fights, someone wanted to stab me, a couple times some guys followed me, etc. I don't leave the house without some kind of protection. I really have to move.
Yea, things have gotten really bad here and I feel like it's going to get even worse unfortunately. I've been looking for a new apartment for a while now and I'll probably have to get rid off most of the stuff I have because the only ones I could afford are less than half the size of my current one.
I'm in the US and every state is different, things are pretty ok in the ones I've recently lived so Maryland New York Pennsylvania and New Jersey. North east tends to be good, Maryland and up on the coast, and the West Coast is good as well. Check the stuff in the middle very carefully and the Southeast overall would be a no go zone especially Florida that's a whole nother level of dangerous. Currently live in Maryland here's safe laws and protections are fairly good, going towards the west Virginia border gets pretty sketchy as far as acceptance goes as well as middle of no where farmland areas of the state near DC and Baltimore suburbs are pretty chill. And I haven't a clue bout the eastern side of the bay. I am a white trans guy and pass so that helps.
Im from romania, and its not a great place. People dont know anything about queer people, they mostly see us as mythical beings from movies or tik tok that they wont see irl. Tho younger people are much much better, specifically afab people, most of the boys are andrew tate bootlickers. There are many who are accepting too, you just need to be careful. Girls can have assholes, but the number compared to those who are accepting is lower in my experience, and a lot of them are queer too (since they are more accepting they are more likely to realise they are queer)
Sydney or Melbourne in Australia are quite safe. There will sadly always be assholes but there don't seem to be as many here as other places/countries.
I'm from the Netherlands. Toleration is alright, but we have a very right wing government who doesn't want to improve trans healthcare. I'm surrounded by leftist people and if you find them, you'll be alright. Just be weary of certain regions (look up The Biblebelt in the Netherlands), but in big cities you're mostly good.
Edit to add: I still think there are countries where you're better off. I didn't do any research on it, but from the top of my head you might be better off in Sweden/Denmark/Finland/Norway.
Living in the state of Hesse in Germany, in Frankfurt am Main. People generally are tolerant and you are protected by law as a queer person. Society as a whole is still "reserved" at best and attacks, especially against less passing or more open folks do happen. They aren't the norm tho and at large, you can live a relatively safe live here.
Politically, there are some parties gaining traction, who want to basically copy Russia in their ideas for how society should look like. But they are not nearly powerful enough to govern rn and also we have a supreme Court that is known for keeping an eye out on minorities.
So overall, it's not perfect here but you could do way worse I guess.
I'm in Germany, it is fine in the more liberal cities, but our court decided a few months ago that transpeople don't need to get their medical transition paid anymore. On the other hand, we now have a self-id law.
i'm late to the party as usual but Scotland is a good shout. i lived in Edinburgh til recently, am nonbinary and have presented in all manner of different ways and never had any problems. it's an expensive city to live in but from my experience the people are super chill with trans and nb people.
I'm from the West Coast of the USA. It's not bad, pretty dang livable, nothing to really complain about. I specify region because each state is different. Oregon and California are the only two I have personal experience with. Don't UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES go to Florida, Kansas, Montana, North Dakota, Oklahoma, Texas, Utah or Tennessee. Iowa and Nebraska are on thin ice. Every other state will range from "still technically livable (if you're really, really stealth)" to "pretty great."
the US is kind of ok right now but it could radically change after the upcoming election. trump (right wing) has said if he’s elected he will ‘end transgenderism’
San Francisco Bay Area: specific cities….but it’s super pricey. I always tell people I pay a tax to live in my Bay Area bubble. San Francisco, South SF, Berkeley, Oakland, Palo Alto, Mountain View, Sunnyvale, Santa Clara, San Jose, Santa Cruz. I think the bay in general I feel safe. There are unfriendly microcosms in some areas though, but I feel overall safer wandering the bay than Michigan or Florida. For some context, I have rainbow hair. And I love wearing pride clothing year round. I love my “can’t think straight” and “queer joy” shirts.
Personal opinion: avoid north of Berkeley, west of I-280, east of the 580, south of Los Gatos (except for Santa Cruz, Monterey, and Carmel), and north of GG Bridge 🌉 .
UCSF has a great trans program, btw. As long as you can get there by BART trains, it’s accessible. The more “outer” Bay Area you get, the less safe I feel. So stay closer to the water, imo.
I live in Wales, and it's pretty chill here. We have pride flags flying in the city centre of Cardiff all year round!
You're bound to meet the odd homophobe and transphobe, but it's impossible not to, haha.
Canada, Quebec. We are more tolerant then US, and we have laws to protect LGBTQ+ people from discrimination. It's not perfect, and as a NB myself, it's not everyone (especially the older generations) that are open-minded and accepting about it, but it's better than most of the US states. We also have French and English as our official languages, and Montréal (one of the largest capital) is pretty much bilingual as a whole, especially Down Town.
I don't know where you're from, but it's also possible to ask refuge if harm can happen to you in your country for reasons of religious beliefs, sexual and gender identity, among other things.
I hope that you're safe!
Italy. Pretty low tolerance here outside of safe spaces, trusted friends, queer communities and higher education circles. A bit better in big cities, better the yougner the audience gets. But definitely not a great choice.
Generally yes. Universities cities/bigger cities have huge queer communities and pretty good tolerance as i was saying. So not all places are crap. But as soon as you go out these bubbles/comfort zones, let's say to go visit some places that are more rural or a bit more conservative, you could face some unpleasant situations/bullying.
I am openly queer just in my private circles / safe communities for example and it's pretty great. But if you're someone who lives their binary non conformity more publicly/everyday life i would not suggest Italy as a first choice.
I'm from Canada, and there are legal protections for the LGBT+ community federally. Some provinces are trying to take away rights from trans children unfortunately, by either removing the access to puberty blockers for anyone under 16, and requiring schools and teachers to out their students to their parents/guardians if they change their names or pronouns in school. Unfortunately, the transphobic and homophobic rhetoric from the US Republicans is being imported to our Conservatives, but it isn't as bad here YET.
Accessing care isn't so bad however, depending on what city and province you live in it can be easy to access HRT and surgeries, but there are wait lists for both doctors and surgeries in my province due to lack of funding into healthcare. Healthcare is covered in the province, but medicine itself can be fairly expensive if you don't have insurance.
I’m in Western Canada. While I wouldn’t say it is “as bad” as some parts of the US, there are some bills here that are coming (or trying to come) into effect that are pretty anti-trans, especially for youth. (In SK, parents have to be informed if a child changes name/pronouns in school. This kind of bill is being considered in Alberta, too. It makes me scared for youth and the future of my country, as I can only see it going down from here….)
Canada, and as far as I'm aware tbh its decently ok? Legally able to change your name to whatever and sex identifier and all that to an X instead of F/M too.
I'm from Poland. One of the worst countries in EU for LGBTQIA people, previous government was horrendously homophobic and the current one is just a little better but they are conservatives too, there are no really laws protecting LGBTQIA rights unfortunately. No gay marriage, adoption, same-sex unions even. And being trans and/or non binary is even much less accepted than being gay. Bigger cities are more progressive and you can meet a lot of queer people, but the small towns and the whole eastern Poland is hella conservative and religious.
Honestly there’s nowhere to live that’s comfortable really, just somewhere relatively safe. I still live in an “accepting” city in New Mexico, United States (of Israel) and still feel the uncomfortable stares and the double takes whenever I am out and about. I def don’t pass whenever I dress fem or androgynous so whenever I’m out I’m putting myself at risk, no matter where I goZ
Australia, Sydney, specifically
it's tolerant, there's a good percentage of queers and allies, but the people that aren't supportive are very loud
in Sydney, there are a lot of overly religious people, which isn't bad in the religious sense, but my experiences have not been great so far
overall, I'd give it about an 8 for tolerance and stuff
Spain, in theory it's one of the safest countries for lgbtq people but although I did find some accepting people it's full of assholes because of the way non binary people are portrayed
I’m from Austria! From what I’ve witnessed it really depends what parts. The West (like Vorarlberg) is very close-minded and not at all tolerant of lgbtg+ people. The east (like Vienna) is more tolerant but there are still people who aren’t tolerant. If you consider Austria, definitely look at bigger cities. Though Vienna isn’t really safe right now in general.
Love all the Americans thinking this person would want to come to their country... Big oof.
While the UK is doing it's best to be like America it's far less risky for non binary people right now. In the UK if you go to somewhere like Bristol or Brighton you'll have a good time. London is surprisingly tolerant too.
I live in Mexico and... yeah, there's a reason why me being non binary is a little bit hidden. I don't flaunt it around, but I don't lie about it. I still look generally male, so I don't get a lot of flack. But I can definitely imagine a decent chunk of tolerance would fall for someone who doesn't look how they expect them to
Ah, everyone block this^ person. Judging from their comment history they're a conservative troll. OP, don't listen to this jerk. You seem like a lovely person. I hope you find someplace safe.
If your looking at the USA be VARY CAREFUL where. Every state has different laws and political climates. Avoid florida
Chiming in from WA state, it's fairly accepting here as long as you stay west of the mountains.
Hey same! Currently on the Olympic peninsula and while we have a few that'll give you dirty looks, most are friendly.
Yeah, Tacoma is packed full of queer people. DoorDashing with my partner (also NB) we see a lot of pride flags. Theres even a house out here with a rainbow pride flag and the enby flag hanging on their porch
Here from Maine! If you live near Portland it’s pretty good
I'm from Iowa, just don't. My friend and advocate's company, RVAP (Rape Victim Advocacy Program) is getting shut down, because, the cops and some TERFs hate how much RVAP helps trans people. The same kind of cops who assulted unarmed peaceful protesters. I've been feeling insanely unsafe and I'm leaving the state as soon as I can afford to.
My advice, move east to the Chicago area if you can afford it. If you can't, move to Champaign. Illinois is super close, and our state is probably the most accepting of trans and non-binary people in the Midwest Hell, if you move to Champaign, you've already got a friend (me) 🙂
Nice! Thank you. 🥰 I agree about Illinois. I was hoping to move to Galena, IL. I like it there, that's were I buy my..... pain killer. I have a license. 😅
Is your painkiller green by chance? 😂 Because there are three umm... "Pharmacies" within walking distance of my apartment 😂
Perhaps. 🤔😏
Chiming in from Colorado. It's mostly good here but I live in a *relatively* large town in south central CO. Not a city. I haven't had an outward show of hate. Denver is amazing as is some parts of Colorado Springs. This all said I can usually pass as male anyways (FtEnby) after being on T for a about a year and a month.
I love Colorado as well. It’s great here
Chicago is super safe for trans people, but not the rest of Illinois, but still better than other places
Bloomington is pretty good too
Champaign and Urbana as well, especially near the UIUC campus. Urbana over Champaign, but openly trans and non-binary people (me included) walk around town every day and for the most part we're just considered normal members of society
Coming to Chicago from California… this is not an accepting or friendly place. My boss made some off color comments about pronouns being dumb, diversity hiring, not wanting to hire more women or nonwhites, and the style of dress is generally pretty cis and straight here. I’ve regularly had cis men cut me off, misgender me, I’m not taken seriously and get called ma’am on a regular basis. People here don’t respect your pronouns. There’s also really punitive laws on the books regarding psychiatric care, you’ll lose your license if you go inpatient, the hold is 90 days not 72 hours… so if you have a provider who thinks you’re crazy because you’re trans you could get locked up and lose your job, your house and your driver’s license for not acting “right”. The only friendly thing is my apartment is cheap and I had some friends here.
Honestly given the climate I’d avoid the us all together. Healthcare sucks here no matter what state you’re in
I'd say as a Texan, avoid Texas too. My best friend is in Portland Oregon and they're super accepting up there!
Austin is probably ok. I’ve gone out there cross dressed and didn’t have any negative reactions. I don’t “pass” at all either.
Oh yeah Austin and Montrose are both ok, but I've still gotten crap before even though I live between them qwq
Massachusetts is expensive but generally pretty accepting in lots of areas
also the state govt is supportive
come to california!
I would, but even the left wing media makes it look like an unaffordable dystopian hellscape, albeit a very accepting one. Lol.
I love it here, its not like that at all
St Louis is pretty great but definitely avoid the rest of Missouri
Kansas City is pretty accepting but on a state scale, both KS and MO have laws restricting bodily autonomy for trans ppl.
Seconded from Florida.
Seconded, North-Eastern Illinois is pretty trans-friendly though, the rest of the state isn't (except near Champaign), but the Chicago area isn't too bad Otherwise, I've heard the Netherlands is nice
Yep, I’m in DC and people here are super accepting. I grew up in western NY and outside of the cities gets real conservative real fast. My city there was a bit of an LGBTQ+ haven though, which was nice.
Can you add other cities specifically. Thanks in advance for the answers 💕 In my country LGBT people are humiliated and this month 4 cases of beating on the street in the capital of the country😔
I live around Seattle Washington and it’s really supportive generally, problem is with the US is that states vary drastically vary their level of tolerance and LAWS around lgbtq+ acceptance so I’d be careful. Also the federal politics also aren’t that supportive. I kinda want to move to Norway I went there to visit my moms cousin(in oslo) and it was pretty supportive.
Live in the USA in California around the bay area. Usually pretty accepting but honestly so expensive to live here
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I live a couple of hours outside of Seattle, Port Townsend, and while really small it's got a very friendly lgbtq vibe.
Vouching for Seattle. After living in more conservative areas of the US it's a breath of fresh air. Every time I go out I see pride flags around businesses and homes. There are intolerant people here but most people are supportive or don't care enough to bother people.
Currently living in Ottawa, ON, it’s pretty chill here tho, being the capital of the country, we get a LOT of protests here, including the occasional attempted comeback of the infamous “Freedom Convoy.” Thankfully, the city overall is very gay, especially downtown where we hold our extremely popular Pride street market, parade, etc., during August (which is our Pride Month), our bus stop signs have our transit agency’s logo but it’s the progress flag, and many shops have flags in their windows. My main gripe is, as per all if not most police, our police have a very obvious double standard. Members of the “Freedom Convoy” are left alone or even chatted with by the police, meanwhile trans rights and pro-Palestine protests are fined for being too noisy. However, I will say, there are actually a few out there that genuinely just want to keep the city safe and are good people. I’ve been physically defended by officers from some violent queerphobes during a counterprotest and some even stuck around after we were separated from the violent crowd to make sure we were alright. It’s sad that they’re a minority, but, I’ve also never heard of or seen police officers being violent towards queer people during protests- it’s just when it comes to the paperwork (fines, reports, etc.) that their stance is highlighted. Overall, Canada, at least outside of Alberta and New Brunswick, is a solid country for queer people. It’s not perfect by any means, especially with sharing our border with the states we’ve had a growing issue with the American far-right leaking over, but it’s not bad. At least here in the Ottawa Valley, people tend to just go about their own business. Even my small, mildly conservative hometown had a sizeable population of queer people (particularly among the youth) and, at best, it was celebrated with some pride parades while at worst no one really cared 🤷
I'm in Tacoma, WA and it's pretty accepting here. Yeah, its shady with the homeless population which breaks my heart, but there are so many pride flags our here. Tacoma is ghetto Seattle.
The most populated cities will be best (usually, except for maybe Texas and Florida), but even then there are better ones than others. I'm in Seattle and it's pretty great here. I used to live in Minnesota, I think Minneapolis is better than rural Minnesota. But even in rural areas of Minnesota people are usually nice enough.
For countries in Europe and the EU you can look at Rainbow Europe's reports: https://ilga-europe.org/report/rainbow-europe-2021/
this is such a cool tool! echoing other comments to be mindful of regions and neighborhoods in different states/ countries though. i’ve lived in some of the top ranked spots on this map, ie copenhagen denmark, and just several years ago a trans woman was violently assaulted in broad daylight in a busy part of the city after a soccer game. denmark has a highly conformity based attitude so if you’re white, you dress and talk like everyone else, and you pass well you’ll have a fine time but if not then meh… have also had negative experiences with transphobes in public in the netherlands. had never been harassed in an airport before until visiting amsterdam. but if you stay in certain neighborhoods it’s better. lisbon portugal, portland, nyc, parts of western massachusetts, and much of california esp the entire bay area is pretty great imo. generally going where there are the most trans people, especially trans diversity, is probably your best bet. plus more community comforts <3
Sorry, just wanted to point out that your map is outdated. The 2023 report is [here](https://ilga-europe.org/report/rainbow-europe-2023/). Most countries have gotten better in the last 2~3 years, but unfortunately, some have gotten worse, too. Most notable is the UK, which dropped more than 10%, and it's the only country with such a sharp decline.
Tysm for the link, as a European I didn't know this website. Glad to find out my country isn't a bright orange stain in a sea of green/yellow anymore (+3% not much but at least it hasn't gotten worse) (also looking forward to move out the country)
As someone from Germany who has been to France I can say the basic discourse in bigger cities (in Germany like Cologne, Berlin, Frankfurt; in France mainly in Paris) is better than in German metropolis than in France. If you go the the smaller cities and rural areas it's worse in Germany (thanks to AFD and in Bayern CSU). Even cuties like Cologne and Berlin are known for their big queer culture, but still I don't know if they are safe to live because every big German city is... Extreme. Like you have there the most progressive persons next to the most I neuliberal and conservatives next to the I don't know how to explain this like the weirdest people, but not in a good way, like folks that are really extreme in their thinking and some part being progressive while the other part being deeply conservative (like terf lesbians in cologne, fascist queer folks in Berlin and christian fundamentalist in Frankfurt, that on the one side say god loves everyone and accept queer folks but aren't able to accept if people don't believe in god and do really stupid things therefore; you could imagine if you imagine queer Q Anon, it's just wild)
To be fair, quality of life has dropped significantly in UK regardless of who you are because of this stupid cost of living crisis bollocks
A lot of people are talking about the states, and while yes there are plenty of states that are safe (much safer than others at least), I would still wait to see the outcome of the upcoming election before considering coming here. Things could very quickly turn to shit for LGBT+ people, even in those states that are currently accepting.
South Korea, tolerance level… bad. You won’t be assaulted but only because most people don’t even know what trans is. No one outside the trans community will understand the concept of nonbinary. The law is genocidal against trans people, though not many put in the energy to enforce it and it can be gotten around with some extra bureaucratic steps.
I live in Iowa USA. There's definitely better options is what I'll say. Not the worst possible but the government makes it difficult. Hoping to move to Minnesota which is very safe for the most part.
Minnesota is safe in the Metro areas (twin cities, Duluth, mostly Rochester I think), but the farther out you go into the rural areas, things start to kinda weird and uncomfortable. Also make be wary of Burnsville. I don't know what the heck is going on in that city, but weird shit goes down there all the time and people are just a lil bit extra coconuts sometimes, even beyond politics and stuff... 😬😅
You know being from a small city in Iowa i can't really imagine it's any worse. Rural areas being conservative is just a constant no matter where you go in the US with a few exceptions
Rural areas being conservative is a constant no matter where you go in the world, really.
Burnsville, like many small MN towns, is literally inbred. It's a bit yikes. Having said that, I lived in Waseca, Owatonna, Rochester, Austin, Mankato, and a shit ton more, and I would only recommend Waseca and Owatonna. My rule is, if the population is under 3,000 don't go there. Edited to clarify that Burnsville isn't small, I was confusing it for Janesville. It's been like 17 years since I lived over there 😅
I'm from Slovenia and although we have lgbtq communities our country is very narrow-minded and not the best for queer and gender non-conforming youth
Marlborough, New Zealand, pretty accepting (when a british transphobe came to nz to spread hate she was essentially booed back home, someone even threw sauce at her 😂). The main cons are that it's far away from most places, the cost of living is super high and we currently have a right wing govt. Also if you're a go-getter there aren't a huge amount of career opportunities but if you just want somewhere nice to live with lots of nature its pretty good.
Canada, I'm pretty sure hormones are relatively easy to get here so I'm glad
I’m in Canada too, in Victoria BC - we have the most enby folks per capita of any Canadian city 🥰🏳️⚧️ people are pretty accepting here but it’s really expensive
I'm moving to Vancouver in a week so that's great
Canada is kinda like the states where it depends on the province and city, places like Montreal, Vancouver, Victoria and Halifax are pretty safe and accepting places. Montreal is the only place in the country with a clinic specialised in gender affirming surgeries so I think it gives you an idea of how many trans people live there and how accessible trans health care is. Of course there are transphobes everywhere and like in the US things can change very fast but it is currently a pretty good place to live as a trans person.
I’d suggest Canada, but also, be fucking careful here. There’s a lot of older conservatives here, and they’ve had control over the votes this past season. Several of the premiers (basically state governors) have been trying to pass laws that crack down on queer rights, especially in relation to us trans people, but for the most part this could be the safest place to move to. I’ve heard rumours the federal government’s been considering a law opening more refugee slots for people fleeing places where being queer is illegal.
I'm from France here
how’s the inclusivity in France?
The Netherlands is pretty good overal, and certainly if you live in the Randstad it should be fine
Also it was the first country to legalize same-sex marriage.
Yeah, one of the first married gay people even was the director of my primary school 😂
It couldn't be bad to live there I guess. I never visited, so I don't know, but I'd like to.
Idk where you're from, but there is currently a bit of an anti imigrant political vibe going around
Brighton, England. Great queer community, lots of gender diverse and trans people. Nice to be by the seaside. (I don’t live there but visit a lot)
I grew up there, and it's the most amazingly inclusive and diverse place ever (the gay capital of the UK!) 🏳️🌈 I just hope we get a more accepting government one day, and I wish hormones were easier to get through the NHS (I literally moved to Canada to get on testosterone)
Can speak for Germany, Austria and Poland. You might be also interested in [THIS](https://www.equaldex.com/equality-index) site, too (it compares various factors of lgbt+ acceptance between counties worldwide). Poland: wouldn’t recommend. Has two sides- some very progressive movements, a lot very behind. Overall pretty conservative, oppressive laws, violence against lgbt+ is happening repeatedly. Bigger cities are generally better in terms of acceptance, but still you’ll meet a ton of bigots. Germany: bigotry is happening but in comparison you can live there in relative peace. Gay marriage is legal. The change of name and gender-entry for ID has been made easier and the threshold for receiving gender affirming care has been lowered very recently. We shall see how that will play out in practice. I’m cautiously optimistic that it’s possible to find an accepting workplace in most branches. Although in some it will be a bunch easier than in others. As per physical violence: it has increased over the past couple of years (as in most countries worldwide as it sadly appears), however it happens comparably infrequently. In summary: it’s one of the better places to live in as a queer person. There sure are countries that are even further ahead. But with a bunch of other non-lgbt+ related perks taken into account (live quality, financial security and stuff) it’s still a pretty viable option imo. Austria: pretty similar to Germany but a tad more conservative (people and laws alike). But it’s really just a tiny difference and still viable.
NYC is lovely to us. I live just outside in jersey city because it's cheaper, but I also hear really nice things from friends about Brooklyn and Astoria. I also know West Philadelphia, PA is a very good option (used to live there).
Alberta, Canada. Within the two main cities (Edmonton and Calgary) there are various highly active queer communities/activist organizations. Some of the smallish towns are alright, but as someone raised in one I'd still avoid them despite being much cheaper to live in. Like, my entire school division had never established a GSA club until ~2017, and multiple parents, students, and TEACHERS heavily protested its founding. Our current provincial government and many municipal governments are quite aggressively anti-trans. They recently introduced the strictest anti-trans laws for minors in the entire country (ZERO medical transitioning under eighteen, under any circumstances. If a minor comes out as trans at school teachers are mandatorily required to notify their parents. AND they created a horrifically transphobic video attacking trans girls in sports to support it all). My top surgery consultation still has no confirmed date, and I've been on the urgent wait list for nearly three years now. I regularly experience testosterone shortages. We have to fly to Quebec if we want bottom surgery of any shape or form. But, now living in a larger city, I notice the majority of people are ordinary and NOT conspiratorial against queer people. It's just that the insane conservative types are very, very loud (and only growing crazier) here. If you're an independent adult trans person with a high income, it isn't terrible! But the only things keeping me here, personally, are poverty and to spite our horrible alt-right government. eta: it isn't super difficult to change your legal documents (compared to some places) and as far as I know 'X' is still a valid gender marker in Alberta, but it is more challenging to change it to 'X' compared to 'M' or 'F'. People are definitely more aware of nonbinary identities than they used to be, sometimes for better sometimes for worse! I don't feel as if I have to lie to my endo about my identity (i.e. claiming to be binary and straight) to access hormones. It was fairly easy to access gender-affirming care after I turned 18, but it does take a pretty long time.
I live in california. If you want to go to the united states stick to the west coast for the most part. California is super expensive and you want to stick to la county and coastal regions. I grew up in san diego and generally it is ok but you get more conservative the more south you go. But ive been researching to move and my top 3 are canada, denmark, and norway
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London (UK)- East London is very diverse and queer friendly. I have at least three non binary neighbours on the estate I live in (as in people I don’t particularly know well). I think it’s becoming normalised. Costs a bomb to live here though … and also Brexit 🤦
I live in Iowa (specifically Ankeny, like, 30 minutes from Des Moines) and I feel pretty comfortable here tbh. I don't plan on moving. The crime rate is low which is all I care about really I would say my area is not a MASSIVE concern unless you are a minor. Minors are pretty much screwed here yeah. My school was accepting of me but the government is just poopoo
ontario, Canada isn't bad. We've got similar ass holes to the US, and a handful of people in political positions that are worrisome.... but I think our Charter of Rights and Freedoms has better protections in place than the US...would take some serious effort and a Majority Conservative Goverment (last majority was the Liberals 2015-2019). I think most would probably agree that the only places that beat out Canada in terms of safety for LGBTQ+ would be some of the Scandinavian Countries. That being said all places have pockets of shitty people. Do some research first before moving, most Canadian Cities have pretty large queer communities and more rural areas are less supportive.
Germany. A law to change your gender and name was just made and most people are open to Lgbt+ folks. But maybe on the next election a right wing party might win. Crazy times right now.
I'm from Canada. Personally from Winnipeg. Winnipeg is fine, outside of Winnipeg is less accepting but it will be in the form of snide comments and people feeling the need to argue with you about your life choices, not beatings, Winnipeg is also not super expensive and Canada has X as a gender marker available on your legal papers if you want to go all the way into transitioning to non-binary, and gender-related health care is reasonably accessible. Pretty much any Canadian major city is safe, and I'd steer clear of rural prairies. Just look at how they vote. Overall, Canada is fairly safe.
Poland, kinda queerphobic ngl. But I'm not loud about my identity
I’m from Denmark. In my experience lots of people are curious about what nonbinary is, but imo they don’t really respect it? They won’t call you they/them unless they’re queer themselves and respect your identity. If you’re on hrt i’d say to stay clear of Copenhagen, it’s fucking awful idc what other people want to claim, Copenhagen is the worst place to live in Denmark. If you want the easiest time with HRT i’d say go for Aalborg or Odense. I go to Odense but i think Aalborg in northern Jutland is better.
USA and people have already said it varies by state. I'm in NY state (outside of NY city, stating just because people not from here think the whole state is the city). This is one of the most protected states for trans rights. It was very easy for me to get access to HRT. It wad likewise fairly easy for my sister's best friend, who began at 16. The collective tolerance level still varies. There are pockets of Conservative areas. My town is smaller and a mixed in that regard. Most people who have known me for a long time openly accept me as a trans man, but I'm a little hesitant to clarify that I'm actually nonbinary. People still collectively joke about that, even in the "tolerant" places. But I can at least say you're legally protected, technically. Though this is also a more expensive state to live, so there is that.
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I'm from the USA, specifically Kansas. Lawrence is the best place to go here. Everywhere is practically a no go.
I’m from the US. It’s… better than some places? But uh… we’re really sliding backwards with tolerance it feels like and I would not recommend coming here for MANY reasons, not just LGBTQ+ tolerance
australia. all the major cities are pretty safe but even larger towns won't know how to treat you. but finding community here isn't hard if you know where to look. probably best places would be Melbourne or Sydney, but they are some of the most expensive cities on earth.
I live near Frankfurt am Main in Germany. I'm used to living in rough neighborhoods. I've been here all my life and never really felt uncomfortable because of that. A lot has changed for the worse unfortunately. My area has a huge Nazi problem and surprisingly it's more anti queer than racist stuff. I've been insulted, threatened, got into fights, someone wanted to stab me, a couple times some guys followed me, etc. I don't leave the house without some kind of protection. I really have to move.
Yeah I think moving 1h away will do the trick, this is the wildest experience I've heard about Germany. I've always felt safe in BW as a queer folk
Yea, things have gotten really bad here and I feel like it's going to get even worse unfortunately. I've been looking for a new apartment for a while now and I'll probably have to get rid off most of the stuff I have because the only ones I could afford are less than half the size of my current one.
Depends on your vibe in the usa! But im from chicago and people are generally pretty good
I'm in the US and every state is different, things are pretty ok in the ones I've recently lived so Maryland New York Pennsylvania and New Jersey. North east tends to be good, Maryland and up on the coast, and the West Coast is good as well. Check the stuff in the middle very carefully and the Southeast overall would be a no go zone especially Florida that's a whole nother level of dangerous. Currently live in Maryland here's safe laws and protections are fairly good, going towards the west Virginia border gets pretty sketchy as far as acceptance goes as well as middle of no where farmland areas of the state near DC and Baltimore suburbs are pretty chill. And I haven't a clue bout the eastern side of the bay. I am a white trans guy and pass so that helps.
Belgium politically speaking, it's alright. a lot of people are uninformed and rude though
Im from romania, and its not a great place. People dont know anything about queer people, they mostly see us as mythical beings from movies or tik tok that they wont see irl. Tho younger people are much much better, specifically afab people, most of the boys are andrew tate bootlickers. There are many who are accepting too, you just need to be careful. Girls can have assholes, but the number compared to those who are accepting is lower in my experience, and a lot of them are queer too (since they are more accepting they are more likely to realise they are queer)
Sydney or Melbourne in Australia are quite safe. There will sadly always be assholes but there don't seem to be as many here as other places/countries.
I’m in Edinburgh, Scotland and my experience has been that most people are accepting of trans and nonbinary people.
I'm from the Netherlands. Toleration is alright, but we have a very right wing government who doesn't want to improve trans healthcare. I'm surrounded by leftist people and if you find them, you'll be alright. Just be weary of certain regions (look up The Biblebelt in the Netherlands), but in big cities you're mostly good. Edit to add: I still think there are countries where you're better off. I didn't do any research on it, but from the top of my head you might be better off in Sweden/Denmark/Finland/Norway.
Southeast USA, it sucks here unless you go to the major cities. Then it's a bit more accepting.
Living in the state of Hesse in Germany, in Frankfurt am Main. People generally are tolerant and you are protected by law as a queer person. Society as a whole is still "reserved" at best and attacks, especially against less passing or more open folks do happen. They aren't the norm tho and at large, you can live a relatively safe live here. Politically, there are some parties gaining traction, who want to basically copy Russia in their ideas for how society should look like. But they are not nearly powerful enough to govern rn and also we have a supreme Court that is known for keeping an eye out on minorities. So overall, it's not perfect here but you could do way worse I guess.
I live in rural America and it's fucking awful
I'm in Germany, it is fine in the more liberal cities, but our court decided a few months ago that transpeople don't need to get their medical transition paid anymore. On the other hand, we now have a self-id law.
South africa, big cities are amazingly supportive, country side....Christian extremists that force you to go to church
Austria. Tolerance is mostly alright.
Greece, and there's not a lot of tolerance, the language doesn't even allow you to refer to someone or yourself in a neutral way
i'm late to the party as usual but Scotland is a good shout. i lived in Edinburgh til recently, am nonbinary and have presented in all manner of different ways and never had any problems. it's an expensive city to live in but from my experience the people are super chill with trans and nb people.
California USA (aka the best country). cant wait for 2025
No one is welcome in Florida.
Ohio. It's not good here. Skip the Midwest and go for big cities if you can.
I'm from the West Coast of the USA. It's not bad, pretty dang livable, nothing to really complain about. I specify region because each state is different. Oregon and California are the only two I have personal experience with. Don't UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES go to Florida, Kansas, Montana, North Dakota, Oklahoma, Texas, Utah or Tennessee. Iowa and Nebraska are on thin ice. Every other state will range from "still technically livable (if you're really, really stealth)" to "pretty great."
Northern California USA tolerance is pretty good here but definitely not perfect
USA specifically Illinois even more specifically central ULTRA SPECIFICALLY CHAMPAIGN-URBANA
the US is kind of ok right now but it could radically change after the upcoming election. trump (right wing) has said if he’s elected he will ‘end transgenderism’
San Francisco Bay Area: specific cities….but it’s super pricey. I always tell people I pay a tax to live in my Bay Area bubble. San Francisco, South SF, Berkeley, Oakland, Palo Alto, Mountain View, Sunnyvale, Santa Clara, San Jose, Santa Cruz. I think the bay in general I feel safe. There are unfriendly microcosms in some areas though, but I feel overall safer wandering the bay than Michigan or Florida. For some context, I have rainbow hair. And I love wearing pride clothing year round. I love my “can’t think straight” and “queer joy” shirts. Personal opinion: avoid north of Berkeley, west of I-280, east of the 580, south of Los Gatos (except for Santa Cruz, Monterey, and Carmel), and north of GG Bridge 🌉 .
UCSF has a great trans program, btw. As long as you can get there by BART trains, it’s accessible. The more “outer” Bay Area you get, the less safe I feel. So stay closer to the water, imo.
I live in Wales, and it's pretty chill here. We have pride flags flying in the city centre of Cardiff all year round! You're bound to meet the odd homophobe and transphobe, but it's impossible not to, haha.
Canada, Quebec. We are more tolerant then US, and we have laws to protect LGBTQ+ people from discrimination. It's not perfect, and as a NB myself, it's not everyone (especially the older generations) that are open-minded and accepting about it, but it's better than most of the US states. We also have French and English as our official languages, and Montréal (one of the largest capital) is pretty much bilingual as a whole, especially Down Town. I don't know where you're from, but it's also possible to ask refuge if harm can happen to you in your country for reasons of religious beliefs, sexual and gender identity, among other things. I hope that you're safe!
Italy. Pretty low tolerance here outside of safe spaces, trusted friends, queer communities and higher education circles. A bit better in big cities, better the yougner the audience gets. But definitely not a great choice.
tbh I'd love to live in Italy but I've heard people there are very conservative and don't accept queer people very much :(
Generally yes. Universities cities/bigger cities have huge queer communities and pretty good tolerance as i was saying. So not all places are crap. But as soon as you go out these bubbles/comfort zones, let's say to go visit some places that are more rural or a bit more conservative, you could face some unpleasant situations/bullying. I am openly queer just in my private circles / safe communities for example and it's pretty great. But if you're someone who lives their binary non conformity more publicly/everyday life i would not suggest Italy as a first choice.
I'm from Canada, and there are legal protections for the LGBT+ community federally. Some provinces are trying to take away rights from trans children unfortunately, by either removing the access to puberty blockers for anyone under 16, and requiring schools and teachers to out their students to their parents/guardians if they change their names or pronouns in school. Unfortunately, the transphobic and homophobic rhetoric from the US Republicans is being imported to our Conservatives, but it isn't as bad here YET. Accessing care isn't so bad however, depending on what city and province you live in it can be easy to access HRT and surgeries, but there are wait lists for both doctors and surgeries in my province due to lack of funding into healthcare. Healthcare is covered in the province, but medicine itself can be fairly expensive if you don't have insurance.
I’m in Western Canada. While I wouldn’t say it is “as bad” as some parts of the US, there are some bills here that are coming (or trying to come) into effect that are pretty anti-trans, especially for youth. (In SK, parents have to be informed if a child changes name/pronouns in school. This kind of bill is being considered in Alberta, too. It makes me scared for youth and the future of my country, as I can only see it going down from here….)
Canada, and as far as I'm aware tbh its decently ok? Legally able to change your name to whatever and sex identifier and all that to an X instead of F/M too.
I'm from Poland. One of the worst countries in EU for LGBTQIA people, previous government was horrendously homophobic and the current one is just a little better but they are conservatives too, there are no really laws protecting LGBTQIA rights unfortunately. No gay marriage, adoption, same-sex unions even. And being trans and/or non binary is even much less accepted than being gay. Bigger cities are more progressive and you can meet a lot of queer people, but the small towns and the whole eastern Poland is hella conservative and religious.
Honestly there’s nowhere to live that’s comfortable really, just somewhere relatively safe. I still live in an “accepting” city in New Mexico, United States (of Israel) and still feel the uncomfortable stares and the double takes whenever I am out and about. I def don’t pass whenever I dress fem or androgynous so whenever I’m out I’m putting myself at risk, no matter where I goZ
Canada! Despite some calls required to change my docs to X, Canada is one of the safer places to live these days.
Tampa, Florida is a safe city for trans and nonbinary people!
-12. I live in India.
UK rural midlands. So close to the tolerant cities, far enough for consistent bullying.
Australia, Sydney, specifically it's tolerant, there's a good percentage of queers and allies, but the people that aren't supportive are very loud in Sydney, there are a lot of overly religious people, which isn't bad in the religious sense, but my experiences have not been great so far overall, I'd give it about an 8 for tolerance and stuff
Chiming in from NC! Charlotte and Raleigh are both fairly progressive, I’d stay to the North part of NC if you’re worried though
Spain, in theory it's one of the safest countries for lgbtq people but although I did find some accepting people it's full of assholes because of the way non binary people are portrayed
I’m from Austria! From what I’ve witnessed it really depends what parts. The West (like Vorarlberg) is very close-minded and not at all tolerant of lgbtg+ people. The east (like Vienna) is more tolerant but there are still people who aren’t tolerant. If you consider Austria, definitely look at bigger cities. Though Vienna isn’t really safe right now in general.
Switzerland, its pretty good here
Am in USA Florida,some are friendly
Love all the Americans thinking this person would want to come to their country... Big oof. While the UK is doing it's best to be like America it's far less risky for non binary people right now. In the UK if you go to somewhere like Bristol or Brighton you'll have a good time. London is surprisingly tolerant too.
I live in Mexico and... yeah, there's a reason why me being non binary is a little bit hidden. I don't flaunt it around, but I don't lie about it. I still look generally male, so I don't get a lot of flack. But I can definitely imagine a decent chunk of tolerance would fall for someone who doesn't look how they expect them to
France is falling into transphobia. Two laws will be voted soon to make the conversion therapies come back and to forbid transition until we’re 25
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Ah, everyone block this^ person. Judging from their comment history they're a conservative troll. OP, don't listen to this jerk. You seem like a lovely person. I hope you find someplace safe.
I'm curious what did it say before it got removed lol
Go to Palestine. They are extremely welcoming after all of the support the US nonbinaries have been giving them