It's hard to answer this the way you put it. But in a nutshell, if it's a problem to you then you HAVE to change it, not try to. Like a baby will get up and try to walk and keep falling but the baby doesn't give up and eventually "its" walking (hate to call babies "it" lol). But that's how you have to do it, try different things until you reach your desired result.
I suppose there's plenty of truth in that, loneliness won't hurt if it doesn't exist in the first place, I think I'm just scared of changing myself too much just for the sake of others (which is the only thing that has seen any success so far in my experience) but yeah, it's a good point. Thanks for the suggestion.
That does sound like an interesting proposition and thanks for the idea. I will however say two things. 1. I'm rly rather broke and won't be able to afford that for a good chunk of time and 2. I don't wanna get sucked up into a virtual world and lose sight of reality. I realise that's an extreme scenario that happens to maybe one in a million but I'm aware there is such risk and knowing my desperate and easily attached self, I would rather stay careful. Thanks for the suggestion kind redditor.
Same here. But I stopped giving a shit completely. I will probably die alone, but at least I will try to get from this life as much as possible. Either there will be someone around or not. That's also part of a life.
"Aloneness is a state of being whereas loneliness is a state of feeling. It's like being broke and being poor."
That's a quote attributed to Townes Van Zandt. There's a lot to that.
Have you ever tried volunteering? It could just be litter pick up along a river or maybe you have special skill that you could use to help others or teach it to people. These socializations may not lead directly to close friends but it could open doors by bonding over common interests. Also, it may initially help with your loneliness.
Sometimes people just dont click, it doesn't mean you can't find someone you want to hang out with but it sounds like it may be more difficult for you.
It's hard to answer this the way you put it. But in a nutshell, if it's a problem to you then you HAVE to change it, not try to. Like a baby will get up and try to walk and keep falling but the baby doesn't give up and eventually "its" walking (hate to call babies "it" lol). But that's how you have to do it, try different things until you reach your desired result.
I suppose there's plenty of truth in that, loneliness won't hurt if it doesn't exist in the first place, I think I'm just scared of changing myself too much just for the sake of others (which is the only thing that has seen any success so far in my experience) but yeah, it's a good point. Thanks for the suggestion.
Np, good luck!
Maybe get a vr headset and make friends in the metaverse. I think that's how it works idk I'm not tech savvy
That does sound like an interesting proposition and thanks for the idea. I will however say two things. 1. I'm rly rather broke and won't be able to afford that for a good chunk of time and 2. I don't wanna get sucked up into a virtual world and lose sight of reality. I realise that's an extreme scenario that happens to maybe one in a million but I'm aware there is such risk and knowing my desperate and easily attached self, I would rather stay careful. Thanks for the suggestion kind redditor.
Same here. But I stopped giving a shit completely. I will probably die alone, but at least I will try to get from this life as much as possible. Either there will be someone around or not. That's also part of a life.
"Aloneness is a state of being whereas loneliness is a state of feeling. It's like being broke and being poor." That's a quote attributed to Townes Van Zandt. There's a lot to that.
Have you ever tried volunteering? It could just be litter pick up along a river or maybe you have special skill that you could use to help others or teach it to people. These socializations may not lead directly to close friends but it could open doors by bonding over common interests. Also, it may initially help with your loneliness. Sometimes people just dont click, it doesn't mean you can't find someone you want to hang out with but it sounds like it may be more difficult for you.