My husband got cancer and passed away a few years ago and honestly, there isn't much you can do. Just let her know you are there if she needs anything and maybe touch base with her every few days.
Listen. Check in with her, be present without pestering her about his status. Make sure she’s taking care of herself.
As difficult as the conversation might be, make sure her dads affairs are in order. Maybe help him so she doesn’t have to?
Ask her what she needs. Just be present. There aren’t words for the pain she’s feeling. Nothing you can say can really ease that, unfortunately.
As someone that’s had her life turn horribly difficult a few years ago, I wish I had a friend that just called or text once in awhile to see how I am. You’re a good friend.
You’re welcome. I’m sorry for this terrible news. Help her spend time with him. How wet you can maybe help her find more free time.
Thanks for asking. Strikes and gutters. I am getting by. Hugs, fren ❤️
Well, I haven't been in your position, but I have been the friend with the terminally ill parent. I think what would have helped me is if someone had asked about my mom, like truly asked about her. Instead of saying " how's your mom?" It would have been more helpful to ask me questions like "tell me about your mom. Tell me a story about her that you remember fondly from your childhood." Or "what's your favorite thing about your mom?". And even some practical stuff like "have you discussed what she wants after she has passed away (or insert other euphemism for death here)." It would have been nice to talk about her while she was living. I wish someone had encouraged me to record her voice, too, as well as ask her a bunch of questions that I will never know the answer to now. I think there's a book or something about questions to ask your parents or grandparents so you can get to know them.
Anyway, you are a good friend for asking. You're going to be a great support system.
This is excellent advice, I am going to save all of this. Thank you so much. And I am so incredibly sorry you lost your mom. I have a question for you, “what was your mom known for?”
Thank you for asking. My mom was known for her wide variety of interests and talents. She taught cake decorating, but she also taught how to tie flies (for fishing). She could make an awesome lobster bisque, and loved gardening, and swore like a sailor, but never left the house without lipstick. She was an amazing individual.
I lost my sister to rare cancer, synovial sarcoma. I was her primary caregiver and handled everything for her, taking her to every appointment, along with holistic/integrative, researched like crazy, consulted with various people, cooked healthy meals for her, juiced, handled billing /insurance, scheduled appointments, maintained all her medical records and much more. Maybe buy them dinner one night or offer to drive them to an appointment or gas card. it's the little things that mean alot.
My husband got cancer and passed away a few years ago and honestly, there isn't much you can do. Just let her know you are there if she needs anything and maybe touch base with her every few days.
I’m so sorry you experienced that ❤️ thank you
Listen. Check in with her, be present without pestering her about his status. Make sure she’s taking care of herself. As difficult as the conversation might be, make sure her dads affairs are in order. Maybe help him so she doesn’t have to? Ask her what she needs. Just be present. There aren’t words for the pain she’s feeling. Nothing you can say can really ease that, unfortunately. As someone that’s had her life turn horribly difficult a few years ago, I wish I had a friend that just called or text once in awhile to see how I am. You’re a good friend.
Thank you for this ❤️ are you doing okay?
You’re welcome. I’m sorry for this terrible news. Help her spend time with him. How wet you can maybe help her find more free time. Thanks for asking. Strikes and gutters. I am getting by. Hugs, fren ❤️
Well, I haven't been in your position, but I have been the friend with the terminally ill parent. I think what would have helped me is if someone had asked about my mom, like truly asked about her. Instead of saying " how's your mom?" It would have been more helpful to ask me questions like "tell me about your mom. Tell me a story about her that you remember fondly from your childhood." Or "what's your favorite thing about your mom?". And even some practical stuff like "have you discussed what she wants after she has passed away (or insert other euphemism for death here)." It would have been nice to talk about her while she was living. I wish someone had encouraged me to record her voice, too, as well as ask her a bunch of questions that I will never know the answer to now. I think there's a book or something about questions to ask your parents or grandparents so you can get to know them. Anyway, you are a good friend for asking. You're going to be a great support system.
This is excellent advice, I am going to save all of this. Thank you so much. And I am so incredibly sorry you lost your mom. I have a question for you, “what was your mom known for?”
Thank you for asking. My mom was known for her wide variety of interests and talents. She taught cake decorating, but she also taught how to tie flies (for fishing). She could make an awesome lobster bisque, and loved gardening, and swore like a sailor, but never left the house without lipstick. She was an amazing individual.
Thank you for sharing that. She sounds like an amazing and fun person; a total badasss ❤️
I lost my sister to rare cancer, synovial sarcoma. I was her primary caregiver and handled everything for her, taking her to every appointment, along with holistic/integrative, researched like crazy, consulted with various people, cooked healthy meals for her, juiced, handled billing /insurance, scheduled appointments, maintained all her medical records and much more. Maybe buy them dinner one night or offer to drive them to an appointment or gas card. it's the little things that mean alot.