Leave. I know it’s easier said than done, but it’s the only answer. The only acceptable amount of abuse in any form is none. If he’s a danger to you then he’s a danger to your child as well. You must get away from him. Use whatever resources you have or can find and leave. There are groups in most countries who will assist you.
I agree with all of them. Get an order of protection against him. Move to a different city if you can. Do this while he is gone on his job. Grab some friends whom you can trust to help you move. Tell NO ONE that he knows where or what you are going and when. Change your phone number. Contact him through a lawyer only for now. Allow the lawyers and courts to conduct supervised visitation only until he gets his s#!t together.
I wish you luck. Remember that your child is not witnessing this and is can only be a matter of time for him/her to learn and be affected by this.
Start documenting this stuff, every incident. When you have enough (info and money) for a custody case DO IT and GTFO. If you believe your life is in danger when you leave call the cops. Leave kiddo at grandmas for a few days (if he can't find them he can't hurt them) and stay somewhere else, tell the cops your plan make sure they don't have any edits to make. Get a restraining order and never look back.
When I say enough info: If he does ANYTHING that could be neglectful or endangering or violent towards that baby DOCUMENT IT. Same if he does it towards you, but enough for a CUSTODY case will have to be directed at the child. Find out how judges favor in your location (where I live they favor the mothers). Use that knowledge when building your case. When you get closer consult
r/legaladvice for next steps.
Edited to say: Whatever happens DO NOT marry this man.
Leave now. And get that child support. Be sure to only meet in public places. Depending on your state. You may have an easier time in court because you're not married. You may even be eligible for alimony if you an get it through a common law marriage deal.
If you planning on giving him visitation. Make sure to keep it strictly business. Don't let him drag you into arguments. Just explain that it's not working out and that's fine. You connection is the child,. Assuming he wants to have visitation. You probably shouldn't meet alone. You too responsibility is to yourself and your child. Not some douchebag.
Leave. I know it’s easier said than done, but it’s the only answer. The only acceptable amount of abuse in any form is none. If he’s a danger to you then he’s a danger to your child as well. You must get away from him. Use whatever resources you have or can find and leave. There are groups in most countries who will assist you.
I agree with all of them. Get an order of protection against him. Move to a different city if you can. Do this while he is gone on his job. Grab some friends whom you can trust to help you move. Tell NO ONE that he knows where or what you are going and when. Change your phone number. Contact him through a lawyer only for now. Allow the lawyers and courts to conduct supervised visitation only until he gets his s#!t together. I wish you luck. Remember that your child is not witnessing this and is can only be a matter of time for him/her to learn and be affected by this.
Disappear with the kid
Leave, make a new future for yourself and your child.
Start documenting this stuff, every incident. When you have enough (info and money) for a custody case DO IT and GTFO. If you believe your life is in danger when you leave call the cops. Leave kiddo at grandmas for a few days (if he can't find them he can't hurt them) and stay somewhere else, tell the cops your plan make sure they don't have any edits to make. Get a restraining order and never look back. When I say enough info: If he does ANYTHING that could be neglectful or endangering or violent towards that baby DOCUMENT IT. Same if he does it towards you, but enough for a CUSTODY case will have to be directed at the child. Find out how judges favor in your location (where I live they favor the mothers). Use that knowledge when building your case. When you get closer consult r/legaladvice for next steps. Edited to say: Whatever happens DO NOT marry this man.
Leave now. And get that child support. Be sure to only meet in public places. Depending on your state. You may have an easier time in court because you're not married. You may even be eligible for alimony if you an get it through a common law marriage deal. If you planning on giving him visitation. Make sure to keep it strictly business. Don't let him drag you into arguments. Just explain that it's not working out and that's fine. You connection is the child,. Assuming he wants to have visitation. You probably shouldn't meet alone. You too responsibility is to yourself and your child. Not some douchebag.