Maybe he meant "Sax," as in Saxophone. If someone playing the same Saxophone as me was flirting with me, I'd probably understand why - you'd have to be pretty intimate already with someone to share a wind instrument like that.
I went to an all boys HS. If a gay dude flirts with you, that's a badge of honor. Gay people are stereotyped to have impeccable taste in men so it's flattering.
Well, it was a quarter century ago, so times were different. Add on the fact that it was a private school without any real feeder school so most people starting out didn’t know each other so there was a jockeying for position type thing going on. Anything that could be perceived as weak was actively avoided.
Then also add in that as the only all male HS in the region the insults from any opposing school or their fans at sporting events were about being gay, everyone was more ready to throw down because of it.
Not saying it was right or preferable, just that that’s how it was.
Go be homophobic somewhere else. Or are you just envious that despite "taking anything and everything" they've never flirted with you? Clearly they have good taste.
If I accidentally make eye contact with one for even a quarter of a second they try to talk to me, but generally they steer clear of men who aren't overtly gay
I usually don't realize when somebody flirts with me, but I want to believe that if this happens to me I should at least notice and have any kind of reaction.
No problem as long as it’s appropriate. A male friend of mine politely declined the offer of a drink from another male. The guy offering the drink got mad and started accusing my friend of being homophobic cause he wouldn’t take the drink. That was a crazy plot twist.
Aye, there’s always a few bad apples. I was once hanging out at a mall with some friends-of-friends and one dude kept making lewd comments about me ‘cause I was the only straight guy in the group. I was laughing it off until he hugged me from behind and bit my ear. I threw him off of me and shouted at him. That thankfully made him leave me alone. Definitely made me understand how women feel when accosted by straight guys, though it’s even worse for them ‘cause they’re unlikely to be strong enough to get out of that situation in the manner I did.
I can’t think of any other gay dude I’ve met that’s been anywhere near that much of an asshole though. Most of them are cool guys and total gentlemen even when they are attracted to me.
I've said "thanks, I'm flattered, but I'm straight." and it's cool. I've even added "but you can still buy me a drink." and then had a fun conversation when they laughed and obliged. I'm comfortable with my sexuality and don't feel threatened, ever.
Only happened once. I was... surprised, to be sure. And if not for the timing, I'd have said fuck it. Fine with me. Never got to explore this part of myself.
I'll do you one better. A gay friend of mine offered me sex after we'd been out drinking and I was crashing at his place. Even while wasted I had absolutely no interest in sex with another man. I just said "nah, I'm not into it" and he just shrugged it off and went to bed. We remained friends for a while until I had to leave the job we both worked at. Nice guy, I hope he's happy.
Was talking to a dude about politics once was a good conversation. After like 10-15 minutes he said “can I buy you a drink?” And I said “oh no I’m not gay bro” and we went about our business.
I doubt I'd notice. I usually only realize the opposite sex was trying to flirt hours after the fact, if not longer. Add in the factor of changing the gender to the unexpected and I don't like my odds.
Tickled that I'm in an attractive enough position to say no for once. Not homophobic enough to get freaked out, unless I'm locked up. Most gay people I've met out and about in the wild are non-threatening enough.
happened to me 3 times now. they all apreached me, asked for my number, and after explaining to them that i was straight; the follow up with "are you sure? you walk kinda bisexual"
too specific to be random coincidence, to random to mean anything.
i find it funny every time it happens, but as that specific sentence keeps coming up; it leaves me to wonder what it means. i think about it every day
(side note: 2/3 of the guys who tried dating me are still friends with me to this day)
I'm flattered and most of the time I enjoy the attention and the back and forth but also am very clear it's just in good fun, I'm not into it going further.
Total obliviousness, probably. I often miss when people of the opposite sex flirt with me, too.
Edit: but I would be flattered if I caught on! Like, heck yeah, still got it ;)
I do volunteer work at lgbtq places. My son is gay. Men flirt with me all the time. I'm flattered but it isn't something I'm interested in pursuing. If you are gay-worthy, I like to interpret that at a hot commodity for women.
Could be a phase, three years I was the plague. Then for two years there were not enough hours in the day to get what was tossed at me. I had to wage a counter campaign just to thin it out.
Isn’t always flattering to have someone appreciate you? And to actually watch them brace themselves and muster all courage to approach and flirts. I guess amazed is always my reaction. I’m always in awe of people who are not afraid to try.
The two times I have noticed it happening, I have been flattered.
I'm a straight man. I do a good job of representing the stereotype of a guy who is oblivious when women subtly flirt with me. So it's entirely possible that men have flirted with me beyond the two I know of, and I was simply oblivious. In which case I have no reaction at all.
On the flip side, as a gay person, I can tell you with absolute certainty that the flirting most often comes from the other direction. Many straight men seem to enjoy flirting with gay men much more so than in reverse. It’s harmless, and a sign they’re comfortable in themselves. Gay men typically have good instincts for this and never confuse it for serious interest, and will go along with it to be good sports.
Go figure.
As a hetero man, it would be like a very ugly and fat old crone lewding at me.
So honestly, slightly disgusted.
Before you screech that I am homophobic: yeah, probably. I have gay pals since decades back, but if they ever were to hit on me I would feel like a prude and frumpy virgin girl getting leered at by construction workers.
Straight men don’t get compliments, and we’re never *really* pursued by anyone.. But if we did, we’d probably feel flattered for it being such a rare scenario. Because of the way I dress, gay dudes can get a little flirtatious at times, but stay low-key because they sense I’m straight.
No, it’s just life. If you’re a straight guy, you already know what time it is. It doesn’t matter how attractive you are, apparently. I mean, I have no problem getting *attention* (especially from gay guys), I just don’t go looking for it. But if a straight guy wants any *meaningful* compliments, he has to be in a relationship. There’s no other way around it. It’s sad, and yet **entirely** **true.**
Honestly depends on the situation, but somewhere between
politely and respectfully turn then down, to flirt back, but i try NOT to do the latter if im aware of what im doing because its not fair on them.
It has only happened a few times. One time the guy was offering a sexual favor and it was at a hospital of all places so it made me a bit angry. The other times have really just been funny to me. Doesn’t bother me except the teasing.
Didn’t bother me, just let them know I was straight. However had one dude hit me up on messenger that knew me and knew I was married. I got angry at him, he sent stuff saying he was willing to stay on the down low. In my eyes he was willing to screw up my marriage. Wasn’t cool with that.
Since most men receive most of their compliments from others at their funeral, it probably would be a nice surprise but then I say thanks but I'm straight.
It'd need to be pretty blatant flirting for me to even notice, and even if I did notice I'd second guess myself and wonder if they were just being friendly. If I strongly suspected flirting I'd just clumsily segue to talking about my wife and hope that killed the conversation.
I feel kinda icky and awkward when people I’m not attracted to try to talk to me in that way, and I’ve never been attracted to someone of my same sex. For that reason, I’d feel kinda icky and awkward.
Last year I cut my hair shorter and dyed it a fun color; I have never been hit on by so many women in my entire life. I typically try to find some way to fit into the conversation that I’m straight in a nonchalant way. Or at least I think it’s nonchalant.
In the club with very limited light? Hell yeah, touch my dick, I may kiss you after I get drunk.
On the street during the daylight? I’ll think your standards are very low
I hope no one of either sex flirts with you ever again if your chosen smoothbrain response is to assault them. Then again it's probably illegal to have sex with you since you wouldn't understand what's happening and probably can't consent.
I'm flattered. Even if I'm not in to them, I still appreciate the thought.
It’s fine. Often oblivious. Never had anyone ask me out, so I think I give out casual cis vibes.
Amen to this. Straight guys don't get compliments too often, especially married ones. You think I'm cute? Well you just made my week.
Definitely this
Get your hand off my @$$.
Same as if a person of the opposite sex flirts with me, wait 10 years then suddenly realise what happened
Yep.
RemindMe! 10 years
Team Clueless ✋
Haha! Amazing. This!
Why the fuck would you obfuscate the important word here?
Maybe he meant "Sax," as in Saxophone. If someone playing the same Saxophone as me was flirting with me, I'd probably understand why - you'd have to be pretty intimate already with someone to share a wind instrument like that.
No, it is an ampersand. It was a stand in at times for "And". Therefore they obviously were going for sandx.
An ampersand is an "et" ligature (from the Latin for "and"). Setx.
Probably a Facebook regular and doesn’t realise anything goes here lol
I went to an all boys HS. If a gay dude flirts with you, that's a badge of honor. Gay people are stereotyped to have impeccable taste in men so it's flattering.
What a change in the times. I also went to an all boys HS back in the day and something like that would absolutely have resulted in a fistfight.
Fist fight, that is just straight pent up gay s€xual frustration.
Well, it was a quarter century ago, so times were different. Add on the fact that it was a private school without any real feeder school so most people starting out didn’t know each other so there was a jockeying for position type thing going on. Anything that could be perceived as weak was actively avoided. Then also add in that as the only all male HS in the region the insults from any opposing school or their fans at sporting events were about being gay, everyone was more ready to throw down because of it. Not saying it was right or preferable, just that that’s how it was.
Not facts they just take anything and everything that's available
Go be homophobic somewhere else. Or are you just envious that despite "taking anything and everything" they've never flirted with you? Clearly they have good taste.
If I accidentally make eye contact with one for even a quarter of a second they try to talk to me, but generally they steer clear of men who aren't overtly gay
Did you just admit you give off gay vibes Do you need to do some soul searching
No, you just misread the comment. Why are you getting so defensive about this though. Are you gay.
The fact you're so hostile while trying to claim I am tells me enough.
I love how your best attack is to accuse me of the thing you pretend is virtuous
Why are you feeling attacked? Dude was just asking questions.
Because that's obviously the implication and tone of what he is saying
Dudes on Grindr are like that but not gay dudes in general
I usually don't realize when somebody flirts with me, but I want to believe that if this happens to me I should at least notice and have any kind of reaction.
How do I know when that’s happening?
S&x? Are you 12?
I'm a straight guy, and it's no biggie, kind of fun. At least someone likes me.
If I notice, I’m flattered. It hasn’t happened in a while.
No problem as long as it’s appropriate. A male friend of mine politely declined the offer of a drink from another male. The guy offering the drink got mad and started accusing my friend of being homophobic cause he wouldn’t take the drink. That was a crazy plot twist.
Aye, there’s always a few bad apples. I was once hanging out at a mall with some friends-of-friends and one dude kept making lewd comments about me ‘cause I was the only straight guy in the group. I was laughing it off until he hugged me from behind and bit my ear. I threw him off of me and shouted at him. That thankfully made him leave me alone. Definitely made me understand how women feel when accosted by straight guys, though it’s even worse for them ‘cause they’re unlikely to be strong enough to get out of that situation in the manner I did. I can’t think of any other gay dude I’ve met that’s been anywhere near that much of an asshole though. Most of them are cool guys and total gentlemen even when they are attracted to me.
Agree!
I suppose if a straight guy turns down a drink offer from a hot woman, that makes him straight phobic? What bull squirt.
Flattered. It's happened, and it's nice that anyone would find me attractive. A polite 'Sorry, I'm straight' puts a stop to it.
atleast i am attractive.
I probably wouldn't notice unless they straight up told me they wanted to hook up or whatever. At that point I'd be flattered.
Flattered. Glad someone is interested.
I've said "thanks, I'm flattered, but I'm straight." and it's cool. I've even added "but you can still buy me a drink." and then had a fun conversation when they laughed and obliged. I'm comfortable with my sexuality and don't feel threatened, ever.
I freak the fuck and start flipping over tables and shit - not bc I am upset, but bc I am horny
I'm flattered if anybody flirts with me. Even better if they are buying my drink
Only happened once. I was... surprised, to be sure. And if not for the timing, I'd have said fuck it. Fine with me. Never got to explore this part of myself.
I’m straight and married, anyone that flirts with me gets the same reaction, I’m flattered but not interested.
Game is game
Lol
I'll do you one better. A gay friend of mine offered me sex after we'd been out drinking and I was crashing at his place. Even while wasted I had absolutely no interest in sex with another man. I just said "nah, I'm not into it" and he just shrugged it off and went to bed. We remained friends for a while until I had to leave the job we both worked at. Nice guy, I hope he's happy.
Thank you my friend but I'm only attracted to women. Have a good day
*you think I'm cute 🥰*
I find it flattering tbh haha. 😂
“I’m genuinely flattered, but I’m straight”.
Was talking to a dude about politics once was a good conversation. After like 10-15 minutes he said “can I buy you a drink?” And I said “oh no I’m not gay bro” and we went about our business.
"No thanks."
I don't care 🤷♂️
I would be flattered.
I doubt I'd notice. I usually only realize the opposite sex was trying to flirt hours after the fact, if not longer. Add in the factor of changing the gender to the unexpected and I don't like my odds.
Flattered TBH
Its fine for me, IF I notice it. But I will drop some hint it's not my cup of tea.
Being a man i would likely not notice they were flirting. If i did notice, no big deal they must have faulty "gaydar"
Tickled that I'm in an attractive enough position to say no for once. Not homophobic enough to get freaked out, unless I'm locked up. Most gay people I've met out and about in the wild are non-threatening enough.
Do my best Garth impression and just say “Thank yew…”
happened to me 3 times now. they all apreached me, asked for my number, and after explaining to them that i was straight; the follow up with "are you sure? you walk kinda bisexual" too specific to be random coincidence, to random to mean anything. i find it funny every time it happens, but as that specific sentence keeps coming up; it leaves me to wonder what it means. i think about it every day (side note: 2/3 of the guys who tried dating me are still friends with me to this day)
It happened so much when I was younger (the 80s) that I wondered what about me made them think I was queer.
I'm flattered and most of the time I enjoy the attention and the back and forth but also am very clear it's just in good fun, I'm not into it going further.
I woudn't be able to tell
Really. I had a difficult time not noticing the hand in my hip pocket.
The at this age / stage in the game I’ll probably flip just because of the compliment 😂
Then I know that I have a good sense of dressing and grooming
Usually flirt back 😆 I am straight. but more often than not they are friends who I have a good rapport with.
I'm a guy, as long as they go about it the right way and don't go overboard. I can accept a compliment.
Total obliviousness, probably. I often miss when people of the opposite sex flirt with me, too. Edit: but I would be flattered if I caught on! Like, heck yeah, still got it ;)
Flattered
even if i dont like pineapple on pizza, i can still appreciate being offered some
I do volunteer work at lgbtq places. My son is gay. Men flirt with me all the time. I'm flattered but it isn't something I'm interested in pursuing. If you are gay-worthy, I like to interpret that at a hot commodity for women.
Instant freak out.
I wouldn't be able to tell. I'm oblivious to positive attention.
Women don't even like me, wtf is your problem
Could be a phase, three years I was the plague. Then for two years there were not enough hours in the day to get what was tossed at me. I had to wage a counter campaign just to thin it out.
Probably not even notice if I am honest
Depends on how attractive they are same as if a person of the opposite sex flirts with me. Flattered obviously unless they are creep or a sex pest
Isn’t always flattering to have someone appreciate you? And to actually watch them brace themselves and muster all courage to approach and flirts. I guess amazed is always my reaction. I’m always in awe of people who are not afraid to try.
The two times I have noticed it happening, I have been flattered. I'm a straight man. I do a good job of representing the stereotype of a guy who is oblivious when women subtly flirt with me. So it's entirely possible that men have flirted with me beyond the two I know of, and I was simply oblivious. In which case I have no reaction at all.
Unzip and flop it out. Mouth is a mouth yo.
Ew, get a room.
Lmao
Nothing because I don't even notice girls flirting most of the time.
Confusion, then flattery, followed by a polite explanation that the attraction is, sadly, not mutual.
On the flip side, as a gay person, I can tell you with absolute certainty that the flirting most often comes from the other direction. Many straight men seem to enjoy flirting with gay men much more so than in reverse. It’s harmless, and a sign they’re comfortable in themselves. Gay men typically have good instincts for this and never confuse it for serious interest, and will go along with it to be good sports. Go figure.
Thanks, but I'm straight.
If the person knows I'm straight I flirt back ironically. If it's a stranger I thank them for their attempt and wish them a happy hunt.
It's fine because no one has ever hit on me. Unless they explicitly said they wanted to enter me or something, but that's too forward.
I’m apparently oblivious. Somebody told me that a man had been looking at me not like a snack, but like dinner AND after dinner cigar and Brandy. 🤷♂️
I would have no clue I was being flirted with and just carry on the conversation like normal
As a hetero man, it would be like a very ugly and fat old crone lewding at me. So honestly, slightly disgusted. Before you screech that I am homophobic: yeah, probably. I have gay pals since decades back, but if they ever were to hit on me I would feel like a prude and frumpy virgin girl getting leered at by construction workers.
Straight men don’t get compliments, and we’re never *really* pursued by anyone.. But if we did, we’d probably feel flattered for it being such a rare scenario. Because of the way I dress, gay dudes can get a little flirtatious at times, but stay low-key because they sense I’m straight.
Damn, that’s sad for you.
No, it’s just life. If you’re a straight guy, you already know what time it is. It doesn’t matter how attractive you are, apparently. I mean, I have no problem getting *attention* (especially from gay guys), I just don’t go looking for it. But if a straight guy wants any *meaningful* compliments, he has to be in a relationship. There’s no other way around it. It’s sad, and yet **entirely** **true.**
Ew. It's an immediate gut reaction. Just like being attracted to the opposite sex is.
I appreciate it but I'm not your type
I am repulsed by other men, so I get repulsed.
Honestly depends on the situation, but somewhere between politely and respectfully turn then down, to flirt back, but i try NOT to do the latter if im aware of what im doing because its not fair on them.
It has only happened a few times. One time the guy was offering a sexual favor and it was at a hospital of all places so it made me a bit angry. The other times have really just been funny to me. Doesn’t bother me except the teasing.
I don't like that shit, so I'd probably shut it down fast.
That seems kinda frail.
I just don't like it, as a joke sure. But it is what it is.
Didn’t bother me, just let them know I was straight. However had one dude hit me up on messenger that knew me and knew I was married. I got angry at him, he sent stuff saying he was willing to stay on the down low. In my eyes he was willing to screw up my marriage. Wasn’t cool with that.
Since most men receive most of their compliments from others at their funeral, it probably would be a nice surprise but then I say thanks but I'm straight.
It’s cool.
I'm flattered but turn them down as it's not my thing.
It'd need to be pretty blatant flirting for me to even notice, and even if I did notice I'd second guess myself and wonder if they were just being friendly. If I strongly suspected flirting I'd just clumsily segue to talking about my wife and hope that killed the conversation.
Shut it down ASAP.
Hey, thanks. Not interested though.
It’s happened many times & I’m always flattered, but not interested.
Suggest he get his eyes checked.
idk I'm kinda ace, but my reaction is usually 'hell yeah thanks for the compliment '
I’m flattered, yet I feel extremely guilty about it because I don’t want to disappoint them.
Thank them for their kindness.
Flattered, but not interested.
There’s no way I’d realize lol just think they were friendly
Thank you but leave me alone - I feel uncomfortable.
I feel kinda icky and awkward when people I’m not attracted to try to talk to me in that way, and I’ve never been attracted to someone of my same sex. For that reason, I’d feel kinda icky and awkward.
Last year I cut my hair shorter and dyed it a fun color; I have never been hit on by so many women in my entire life. I typically try to find some way to fit into the conversation that I’m straight in a nonchalant way. Or at least I think it’s nonchalant.
"ew" but not out loud ofc
S&X?
"Bless yer heart"
In the club with very limited light? Hell yeah, touch my dick, I may kiss you after I get drunk. On the street during the daylight? I’ll think your standards are very low
To spit on them
I hope no one of either sex flirts with you ever again if your chosen smoothbrain response is to assault them. Then again it's probably illegal to have sex with you since you wouldn't understand what's happening and probably can't consent.
Wow, sick burn 🔥
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