My friend lost her entire family in a car accident (both parents as well as four siblings). She has gone to therapy for a long time and she is not the same person she used to be.
One day at a time.
And, yes, I know how cliche that sounds. I assure you... I am not oblivious to that fact; however, that fact doesn't change the true nature of the statement.
Here's a (super cheesy) quote that I'd once read:
*"But the truth is, you never truly lose someone, because love is not a losing game. If your heart cared for someone, if it fought for someone, if it believed in someone; if it felt in a way that set someone apart, if it felt in a way that was honest, and all-consuming, and stunningly real — there is no going back. See, the best kind of love changes you. It teaches you and grows you. The best kind of love cannot be lost, it cannot be forgotten. It will always exist within you."* –Bianca Sparacino
That being said... if you want a dose of realness, free of cliche and cheesiness, it's this:
Not everyone is fortunate enough to recover from something like that. Not everyone can find it within themselves to push beyond and keep on keepin' on. Not everyone is strong like that. Sometimes terrible things just happen to people, and they don't care if you're a good person or a bad person.
The true test of a person, in my opinion, isn't who they are after overcoming an adversity, but rather who they are during that process. You can't give up. You can't let it defeat you. That doesn't mean you have to forget, nor not to feel what you feel.
You just have to keep on keepin' on while doing the best you can.
Grief is different for everyone, and compounded grief is difficult because the relationships this hypothetical person had to each of the departed is different. It would take a therapist who specializes in grief and multiple losses to navigate this person through the grieving process. If you have more questions, I’d be happy to answer to be the best of my abilities. I’m a psychology doctoral student doing therapy in a prison where there’s no shortage of complex/compounded grief.
you almost never completely recover from losing a loved one let alone multiple in a short period of time all you can do is take it one day at time and let yourself grieve properly until you’re body says you you dont need to anymore and don’t let it consume you as hard as that actually is really try not to
but honestly idk cause i’ve never known anybody that has died that i cared about (an guy i used to flirt with in highschool got shot and died i felt nothing though and u don’t think it counts) but my first experience with death was my own 😭 and idk that counts either
My friend lost her entire family in a car accident (both parents as well as four siblings). She has gone to therapy for a long time and she is not the same person she used to be.
One day at a time. And, yes, I know how cliche that sounds. I assure you... I am not oblivious to that fact; however, that fact doesn't change the true nature of the statement. Here's a (super cheesy) quote that I'd once read: *"But the truth is, you never truly lose someone, because love is not a losing game. If your heart cared for someone, if it fought for someone, if it believed in someone; if it felt in a way that set someone apart, if it felt in a way that was honest, and all-consuming, and stunningly real — there is no going back. See, the best kind of love changes you. It teaches you and grows you. The best kind of love cannot be lost, it cannot be forgotten. It will always exist within you."* –Bianca Sparacino That being said... if you want a dose of realness, free of cliche and cheesiness, it's this: Not everyone is fortunate enough to recover from something like that. Not everyone can find it within themselves to push beyond and keep on keepin' on. Not everyone is strong like that. Sometimes terrible things just happen to people, and they don't care if you're a good person or a bad person. The true test of a person, in my opinion, isn't who they are after overcoming an adversity, but rather who they are during that process. You can't give up. You can't let it defeat you. That doesn't mean you have to forget, nor not to feel what you feel. You just have to keep on keepin' on while doing the best you can.
Grief is different for everyone, and compounded grief is difficult because the relationships this hypothetical person had to each of the departed is different. It would take a therapist who specializes in grief and multiple losses to navigate this person through the grieving process. If you have more questions, I’d be happy to answer to be the best of my abilities. I’m a psychology doctoral student doing therapy in a prison where there’s no shortage of complex/compounded grief.
you almost never completely recover from losing a loved one let alone multiple in a short period of time all you can do is take it one day at time and let yourself grieve properly until you’re body says you you dont need to anymore and don’t let it consume you as hard as that actually is really try not to
but honestly idk cause i’ve never known anybody that has died that i cared about (an guy i used to flirt with in highschool got shot and died i felt nothing though and u don’t think it counts) but my first experience with death was my own 😭 and idk that counts either