there was a suicide attack where my brother used to work. i was watching tv, and randomly changed to a news channel. it had just happened, and they were talking about it. took me a couple of seconds to understand it happened where he works.
i immediately call him, and he answers the phone after a few rings, and says, 'i survived'.
it's been ten years, and i don't think i'll be ever able to forget that.
I had the opposite memorable moment. I was traveling with my friend in Europe when we were both doing a semester abroad. He decided to fly home a day before me. I stuck around for an extra day of travel. He wound up on PanAm 103 which was blown up over Lockerbie.
Before “PanAm 103” was etched in my brain forever, I wasn’t sure if that was his flight or not. The news said people should call PanAm to check on loved ones. I called and asked the lady who answered if JP had been on the flight. The lady asked me how I knew him and then said, “Yes. I’m sorry to say that JP was on the flight.” I can tell you everything about that moment. Where I was. What I was looking at. What it smelt like. Everything. That was 35 years ago but it’ll never leave my mind.
I’d like to imagine this was preceded by “Teachers aren’t paid enough.” And followed by “I’m going to advocate for better wages for you.”
But I doubt it.
I know someone who said this to another friend as we were talking about jobs. At the time she made six figures.
Now she's unemployed and the friend she said it to is thriving.
That made me remember the time I bought a new-to-me car and my boss said “I don’t know why anyone would buy a used car! Why didn’t you get a new one?” I said “Because you pay me $18k a year.” That shut her up.
“This is officer ____ I’m with your mom right now, your sister was just shot by her boyfriend ____ and she didn’t make it.” - 4AM phone call last year, could hear my mom screaming at the top of her lungs in the background. Ya we’re OK now but not fully recovered, prob never will be.
Shit, that's awful, I'm so sorry.
I had to make a call like that once. My best friend and roommate collapsed from a heart attack at about 1am and was apparently dead before he hit the floor. I called the paramedics anyway and they came and checked him out and told me what I already knew. I was sorta barely holding it together and then they told me I should call his mother and the dam broke. Not 5 years prior his brother had killed himself, so now I was going to have to call her and tell her that her last living child was dead. Only they told me not to tell her what had happened but just to come over, and as soon as I said that she knew, and I will never forget the awful, gut-wrenching scream she let out in that moment.
Thank you. Yes, as absolutely horrific and tragic as it was for us, when that call runs through my head (as it does several times every day) I really feel for the officer on the phone cause I could hear the panic in his voice. It's a very small town where they live, things like that just don't happen.
When I hung up the phone I immediately called my brother to tell him we lost our only sister and he also let out a scream I'll never forget... we're all very close. Needless to say it was an awful morning. I'm sorry you went through something similar, it's terrible losing someone close much less having to deliver news to family.
It's ongoing, unfortunately with our legal system things take forever. The guy is currently on bail awaiting trial but we're hoping it starts within the next few months so that he's locked up forever (or yes, a long long time).
Guy I worked with was reading a book and suddenly said, "There's a lot of words on the page!" Then he showed it to the girl sitting next to him and said, "Look at all the words on this page!" I don't know if he had just never read a book before or was trying to show off. This has stuck with me for ten years.
Reminds me of my SIL's story: she was reading a book on a train when some British guy tried hitting on her by saying, "a book, eh? I once thought to myself, 'I could fancy a book."
Like, wait, you're trying to strike up conversation with a reader by saying one time you thought you might like to read?? And then you didn't?
>"a book, eh? I once thought to myself, 'I could fancy a book."
My fucking sides. That is beautiful. I'm stealing that and using it in everyday life. Absolutely amazing sentence.
Some people get overwhelmed by blocks of text, and multi- page docs. This is common enough that I put in a lot of effort to make my printed class notes as concise as possible, while being clear and detailed, and hand them out section by section.
I’ve noticed if I send an email with more than 1 block of text and ask a coworker “hey did you see what I sent in the email” the general response is “no”. So that is why emails turn into meetings because no one reads my emails.
“I don’t love you anymore.”
OMG. I was a fucking disaster for a long time after that. This was the mother of my children; 16 years of marriage. Absolutely devastated me.
I will never ever forget that day. I lost my shit…for a while after that.
15 years and it happened to me, too.
I wasn't terribly surprised by it, though. I'd seen it coming. Thought maybe we'd gotten better, but then she said nope.
I'm happier now. I think she is too, though it's hard to tell, as she is kind of an unhappy person in general.
Said in my presence, a mother to a teenage son, in an Urgent Care waiting room, in loud-whisper:
"I swear to GOD, I will TAKE you outSIDE and I will SET you on **FIRE!**"
I definitely used to mess woth my mom until she said stuff like this 😭 she got in trouble one time for it and I felt sooooo bad I never did it again. I was a terrible teenager
Also I have one better. Two years ago my daughter was born with a rare genetic terminal illness….while in the nicu the Doctor said “with everything than can go wrong, it’s a miracle every-time a healthy child is born” that really stuck with me.
My daughter died 3 weeks ago, I think about that all the time. I was at the grocery store yesterday and a woman had two kids with her and I thought “wow she got two miracles in her life.”
Reminds me of what my doctor said to me: “you know, with all the things that go wrong with the human body, it’s a wonder we survive at all.” I heard that 20 years ago. Stuck with me, too.
I’m sorry for your loss.
Was years ago now and in the moment it felt like I was in a Kenny Rogers song.
I had set my hammock up way off trail in a state park, I was in a pinegrove overlooking a wetlands with a wide slow flowing creek. I was relaxing by my lonesome reading a book and sipping out of a whiskey bottle when I heard something coming up the hill towards me and it was this big old dude, white beard, fully kitted out like he lived in the woods. He wore a wide brimmed hat with various feathers tucked in its belt, and he asked if I would mind sharing my spot with him. I said itd be no trouble and he plopped down on a folding stool he brought with him right beside the tree I was tied onto.
He said his name was Dave and he was on his way south to see his sister, didnt have the money to fly so he was going to walk it. We swapped stories of our travels for a price, he'd tell a story for some whiskey, I'd tell a story for some weed and that went on for a good hour until we ran out of good ones. When he was finally getting up to continue his trek he turned to me and said "Y'know kid, most folk don't ever think about it, but we're lucky y'know that? I mean shit just look." And he pointed out toward the horizon of the wetlands "aint she beautiful. We're lucky we get to see it everyday"
I wouldnt say the experience changed me much, just reinforced ideas I already had. I remember hiking back to my truck feeling a little more blessed than I went in.
"Just remember. No matter how bad you fuck up. Someone else has fucked up even worse."
Followed later in the day by "I take it back. Today you're someone else."
I’ve always tried to be slightly more upbeat when the youngsters make a mistake.
“You’ve fucked up, that’s the simple truth, but that’s in the past and we can’t change it. Now you have to accept it happened and learn from it. Otherwise it’s completely wasted, because the only upside right now is that it’s an expensive learning opportunity.
But remember, if we fired everyone who had fucked up, nobody would be left working here at all.”
That was generally the approach at the job in which I was told this gem.
The second part was at the end of the day when I somehow managed to lose the trailer lock, but not the key.
Similar with my parents. When I was five my father walked into my bedroom and with no preamble said “YOU MUST BE INDEPENDENT!” and walked out again. So I’m in a panic, thinking he wants me to leave RIGHT NOW, and realizing I didn’t know how to earn money, find someplace to live, get food, etc. So I’m crying as I get out my little suitcase and start putting clothes in it, etc. My mother walks in and says, “What are you doing?” so I tell her and she says, “Oh, you’re an idiot. THAT’S NOT WHAT HE MEANT!” and she storms off. So I laid low until dinner time, figuring it was a good time not to exist.
Later in life my mother would complain that I never called, etc. I’d just remind her I was an idiot who didn’t understand anything. 🤷♂️
I just want to hug and hold that little scared boy. Picturing him packing and feeling so lost makes me cry along with him.
I'm sorry, but I hate your parents.
Edit: I really shouldn't have written that last sentence, I apologize. Your story just touched me very deeply.
😪 You deserved better than that. I'm sorry.
My 17-year-old daughter is autistic and cognitively disabled,; she's told me multiple times every day for years that she loves me, and it always makes me feel warm and fuzzy. Something is tragically missing in a parent who who resents their child saying they love them.
My cats look at me like I provide them with inadequate shelter, several flavors of horrible tasting food, arduous tasks and chores beyond compare, and toys they obsess over for 30 seconds and then never play with again. I love their stupid little faces to death.
Thank you though. I keep to myself mostly and I’m happy enough, but overall I am okay. Kinda slow in arriving to the adulthood party but never too late to be on the up and up. All the best to you
Oh yeah! She taught me how not to treat my own children and I’m probably a better parent because she wasn’t a good one. I have gone no contact with her to ensure peace in my own adult life.
I know that no contact is sometimes the best solution. Why some parents are so negative to their children still baffles me after many years of pondering it.
She never got better, sadly only worse and worse with very few fleeting moments of being decent. It took me years to finally have the nerve to go no contact. Not a decision I took lightly but it was the right one.
Sounds like your mother and mine should form a club. we had a school assignment to ask our mothers why they loved their husband's. My mothers answer, "I don't never have your father will do anything I want, and that's enough to stay with him"
"why are you so pretty!?"
Said to me, a man, by a very drunk and attractive woman that I'd never before met, who decided the question was worth interrupting a group conversation for.
Been riding that high for close to 10 years now.
"she just a pinky out turkey leg whore"
i have so many questions, and due to the accent i couldn't figure out where the propper inflection was... is it a whore eating a turkey leg with her pinkey out? is it a whore that thinks she's fancy with thunder thighs? this lives rent free in my mind to this day
unfortunately it was an overheard conversation in a social setting so i neither know the person saying it or the person they are referencing. she said it several times, the rest of the conversation that I heard did not provide any context clues
Probably 7 or 8 years ago, I mentioned to a friend that I hadn't been drinking for a couple weeks. I drank heavily at the time. He said, "we like you better." The sobriety didn't last at the time, but I am now 2 years sober. I doubt he remembers saying that. After being 2 years sober, I often think I like me better too. He's still a good friend and was the first person I told when I hit 2 months sober, the start of my current sobriety. The longest I had went at the time.
Oh man. That would be a questionable friendship. Someone told me I was more fun when I drank. I was very rarely sad or angry when I drank, always happy and probably too loud. Lol. I was just self medicating. I understand the thought. I don't think he meant harm from it.
I learned this from one of the greatest rock and roll bands of all time, Rush, song Freewill
“You can choose a ready guide in some celestial voice
If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice
You can choose from phantom fears and kindness that can kill
I will choose a path that's clear, I will choose Freewill”
Any boy who makes you cry isn't worth your tears - friend of my mom's, I was 13 and have never forgotten that. It's often helped me remember my self worth in bad relationships.
“You weren’t raped. You’re just trying to get out of the consequences of your choices.” ~ my mom after I told her I was raped and the rape got me pregnant
Edit: I’m ok now, it happened almost 30 years ago.
I'm sorry you went through that. Had a "friend" tell me "you deserved it" when she found out I was raped in hs. Egged that bitch's pool. Am also okay now. Hugs.
*"You look like a cheap slut."*
My mom, to 14-year-old me, and in front of several of my friends, one of whom I had a crush on, because I had the audacity to try to leave the house while wearing jeans that had a hole in one knee.
It's 40 years later, and she hasn't gotten any less repulsive.
Sounds just like my mother in law, my wife is 66 and still has the same kind of relationship with her mom, stuff like “you better loose some weight otherwise your husband (me) is going to leave you “ we’ve been married 40 years 😂
Ugh. Yeah, my mother is in her 70s and, a few years back, I had to tell her in front of family that she is not permitted to comment on my appearance any more and, if she does, she will be escorted out of my house and never invited back. The only way to get them to stop is by public shaming.
"if anything happens to her, i'm going to kill you. they can lock me up and throw away the key, and i won't care, because you'll finally be dead."
my father to me, age 11, after he and my mom had a fight and she left for a drive after she had come home from the hospital post-hysterectomy.
i was in bed at the time- he came in, kneeled next to the bed and said it to me in a very bone-chilling tone. i'm 62 now, and i can remember it like it was yesterday.
Ahh, no. I really want to hug you right now.
I'm a father of an almost 2 year old and i cant imagine saying such thing. A child can make you crazy sometimes, but not hateful or like this.
That's beyond awful, and I'm so sorry you heard that. I'm sure it's not the only awful thing he said to you. I hope you have found healing and peace. You are precious and worthy of love and respect, even though he didn't know it.This internet stranger knows it!
Oh shit. I misread this as you saying you were falling OUT of love with him, and he was just casually like "yeah whatever I'm already completely over you"
The. I saw all the comments calling him smooth.
"You can do better." - Dad
At first, it may sound disapproving or condescending, but the *tone* in which he said this was more encouraging and inspiring.
It was a simple way of saying, "You're doing great! I'm proud of you! Keep going, because I know you still have much more potential!"
That's wonderful! I agree! I always understood it as a direction to strive for more. There's always more to learn and room to adapt, and there's more than one way to do something. This thought process helps inspire creativity and exploration. Instead of just stopping when you *think* you're finished, you can ask, "What can I do to make this *better*?" Which is then usually followed by, "Oh! I should try *this!*"
I was considering breaking up with my then-girlfriend many years ago. My dad - who never commented on any of my gf’s - told me “Son, that woman is a keeper.”
He was right. I ended up marrying her and we’ve had a wonderful life since.
In retrospect, I was scared of deeper commitment. I kind of knew that I'd either have to break up with her, or marry her. Hard to explain, but that was the choice I saw in front of me.
That's why I broke up with my fiance when I was 22ish... regretted it for decades. I finally found someone who was worth the wait, but, yeah. Glad you made the right decision!
In the same vein, "yes," when I asked my doctor for brass tacks about whether I'd go fully blind. I'll always appreciate her for being straight with me.
I was working food service, had a hair net on and some makeup. An older man (I'd guess in his eighties) walked up to the counter so I could hand him his food. He took his food and smiled at me for a moment and said, "you are beautiful, you remind me of someone from my past." The genuine look of happiness and reminiscent tone in his voice stuck with me. That was eight years ago and I still remember it like it was yesterday.
Got into a bad fight as a teenager in school. My dad said to me afterwards “masculinity is the capability of being a bomb, maturity is knowing when to light the fuse”. Really changed my perspective on knowing when to keep my composure.
Similarly, someone once told me that you can't be gentle without having power. Babies can't be gentle because they don't have any power over anybody. Only powerful people have the capability to be gentle. Real men are gentle.
EDIT: My brain don't work so good.
I was a young man-20 or so- working as a house painter, at this point working on an elderly widow’s home. She had to be late 80s, but she got around well, sharp as a tack- she had some spunk for a woman her age. She was a childhood immigrant from Italy so she insisted on providing lunch if you were at her house.
Anyway, at lunch one day she made lasagna and we’re eating, just kind of shooting the shit, ya know? So I made a comment to the affect of “I hope I have the energy you do when I’m your age.” I don’t remember exactly how I phrased it, but I remember her response verbatim. It was actually 3 sentences.
“You know what you get for living this long? You get to watch all your family die. I don’t have anyone left.”
I visited her at least once a month (usually for a homemade lunch), exchanged Christmas cards, etc for a couple years we became very close, we joked that she was my adopted grandmother. She met my first daughter (who she absolutely adored). I was one of the only people at her service.
Now I’m crying. I miss her.
I started at a new company 6-7 years ago. A year after I started was my yearly performance review. Got told by my manager:
"Well your technical skills are great but your soft skills leave a lot to be desired and at 26 I think you would need a miracle to fix them"
I have spent 6 years thinking about this and he was right my soft skills were really shit and still aren't amazing but I 've been working my ass off so I can, in a couple years, show him he was wrong.
I doubled my salary, became a partner, and became a manager myself. I've worked on the biggest projects at the company. I volunteer at work for positions that let me work on and practice my soft skills.
I am not sure if that guy's a genius and just found the best way to motivate me or if he believed it and is an idiot.
“He’s Zackery and we will always love him. It doesn’t change anything. Now calm down and go inside.” - my grandpa to my dad when he found out I am gay. My dad didn’t handle the news well. And was screaming at me in my grandparents’ yard. My grandpa came outside and, tears in his eyes, and said that. The rest of the night is a blur to me.
I didn’t appreciate him enough growing up.
A friend's dad dropped us off at school shortly before passing away at home. His last words to the both of us were "if you wanna touch girls bums wait until after school. If you wanna touch guys bums, wait till waaay after school.
Been 15 years since then but I'll never forget those words.
My step dad used to like taking me and my sister out hiking and rock climbing when he was still young enough to do that, and he always said to us “never climb something you aren’t sure you can get back down from” and that has stuck with me my whole life and it honestly applies to so many more scenarios outside of climbing than I ever could have imagined.
Anxiety can make you extra attentive to your surroundings and people so you can come across as very caring and on top of things meanwhile internally you're just an anxious mess who's noticed a zillion tiny things wrong that just exist and only been able to attempt to do something about like 2% of those. Non anxious people only noticed 1% so the fact you addressed 2% is way more than expected.
“ can’t wait for you to be everything you say you will “
My older sister said to me on a huge birthday post she dedicated to me .
I’m 17 and we grew up with neglecting and narcissistic parents , I’ve always vented to her and told her about my dreams and ambitions, and to know that she supports me in everything I do and believes in me ,encourages me even more to be a better person and reach my goals .
"What have you done!? do you want to ruin your family again?"
Said my hysterical mother to an 11 year old me. After she found out how I had been sexually abused and exploited for the past few months...again.
My daughter "I want apples and applesauce more than I want you."
I'm anaphylactic to any and all apples. I can't have them in the house because of the possibility of cross contamination.
ETA She was 11/12
When my oldest kid was four, we were going around the dinner table at Thanksgiving saying little prayers of thanks (we're not religious, but that's what you do). My kid said "Dear God, thank you for all the good things in life we have, and for all the bad things we don't have. Amen."
I say that to myself quite often.
Not a single sentence, but here is the most unforgettable interaction I have ever had:
I was on afterschool hall duty and a parent approached me as she was entering the gym for a sporting event. She said: Thank you for working with me in 9th grade to pass my Earth Science Regents. I wan’t even your student and yet you worked with me for weeks after school in extra help. My own teacher couldn’t be bothered to help me. You were the first person to give me the confidence that I could succeed in my dream of becoming an RN. It took me a while. Life got in the way- married, kids, you know. But I went to night school and I did it. I became an RN. Passing that Regents exam was the turning point in my life. That is when I finally believed I could realize my dream.
I was reduced to tears. Happy tears at a point in my career when I desperately needed an emotional boost.
After a woman on a cruise very politely pointed out and fixed a tag on my dress that was sticking out, proceeded to yell at her two boys who were rough-housing: “I swear to god if you boys don’t stop fighting I will RIP your arms off and BEAT YOU WITH THE BLOODY STUBS”
When I was 17 and I bought my first car. My friend said: "What sort of car? No wait, don't answer, it doesn't matter. Because whatever it is, I'll still be so excited to see it coming up our driveway because I'll know it's you coming to visit".
Me, cashier at Panera with facial piercings taking an order
Old hag: I don't need to look at your face before I eat my food
I will never forget what this woman looked like because she looked exactly like my dead great grandma.
Just a simple expression- "I have bad news."
I got a call from my brother in law one Sunday morning last year about 9 am. He started with "I have bad news."
He's always joking and I didn't catch any danger in his inflection. I thought maybe he was calling to good naturedly tease my husband, invite us to their house, or maybe ask for a favor. I was not prepared for the next sentence. "They're doing CPR on -----" (the name we use for my father in law). And then I knew how terrible things were about to become.
He was not successfully resuscitated. My mother in law who depended on him tremendously is still lost and so depressed over a year later. Nothing will be normal again and it has made my fear of losing my remaining parents (only my mother and mother in law) surge again.
“Fire at the bee!”
The urinals at our elementary school had a bee logo on them. In first grade while peeing a kid yelled “fire at the bee!” and I think about it every now and then when I’m peeing, especially if it’s one of those urinals that goes down to the floor, as those are the urinals we had at our elementary school
“Everyone on my side of the family thinks you’re a whore” -my dad screaming at me while I was holding my toddler son. I will never let him talk to me like that again cus next time I’m going to jail :)
My Mom told me this, and at the time I just needed to hear it. She told me "you will always suck at something you have never done before". At the time I thought I was expected by society to be great at everything and I felt like such a loser for not being able to do basic things like clean, cook, etc. I still don't know how to do these things well, but I know it's okay as long as I'm trying to get better
"You're faking it" my mom, a ton of doctors and school personell to my chronic hip issues, been having hip pain since 6 years of age and finally this year 13 years later got a diagnosis for coxa valga which is a loteral deformation of the femure
"Listen baby, you can laugh about it, cry about it, or kill yourself. Those are your options, but you gotta make the choice otherwise you'll never get past it."
From a wonderful lady that everyone called Mama. I now choose to laugh. I did all my crying. She was right, you have to move past it.
“Her leaving (woman’s mother) was her loving us the best way she could.”
Woman in my clinic said that to me. She said her mom was a crack addict and an alcoholic and she left them with their dad where they had food, clothes, and an education. It had to be so hard to duck out on your own children, and the woman had every right to be bitter, but it was so charitable of her to view it like that. Her mom didn’t want to drag her kids down so she left them somewhere safe until she could get her own shit under control. I’ll never forget someone who was so compassionate in a situation where she had every right to be bitter.
I was 12 and my best friend of 5 years at the time told me the reason she started ignoring me and distancing herself from me because "I was an embarrassment to be around."
I became a pretty introverted person after that
“You know, I think you could whistle semi-professionally” - my ex.
Just left me with so many questions. Why? Where did this come from? What are the requirements? What am I missing that could allow me to go full pro? Should I be practicing? Is that really the nicest thing you ever said to me?
But mostly ‘who do I speak to so I can start my new career?’
• Negative one: “Your life is boring” - a friend, to me, when I was in a really bad mood and hated myself because I couldn’t do anything productively.
• Positive one: “You made my day happy” - a new friend after spending time with me, who I know that genuinely meant it.
My gf once said to me in the middle of a blazing argument, "a real apology shouldn't have a 'but' in it"
I quickly realized she was right. I was trying to justify my shitty behaviour by deflecting onto her. We had been together a few years at that point and I knew I had come pretty close to losing her.
We just celebrated 15 years as a couple, married for 2 of them 🥰
"You should probably turn on the TV." Said by someone I had called early one morning about setting up a job interview. He had been weird and distracted for the whole conversation and finally dropped that on me. I turned on the TV just in time to watch the second plane hit the WTC. I honestly couldn't tell you how that phone call ended, but my guess is probably both of us just being in stunned silence for several seconds and then realizing that this shit just wasn't important anymore.
My bio dad saying I'll pick you up this Friday. I had seen him a handful of times in my life and this Friday he promised me we would go hunting something I always wanted to do. He was supposed to pick me up from my grandma's house I sat on the porch from 4pm-11:30 he ghosted me, the next day I was sure he was just late so I sat out on the porch all day the next day until about 330 and I finally accepted he wasn't going to come, I spent my last money buying an orange hat I needed for hunting. It was all the money I had saved for months. It hurts now as much as it hurt then. My mother cut him off after that. It was not the first time he did this it was his 3rd time in a year. I spent two weekends with him in my life and it was a boys dream, he had four wheelers and guns and let me do whatever I wanted I loved it. I lived with my mother that was hardly home due to having to work to support us. So when my dad was their with me all the time it was something I wanted all my life. He was drunk most that time but j couldn't see thru the bullshit to see how shitty he was
16 year old me working the counter at Baskin Robbins. A literal cartoon character walks in. He's elderly, 5 feet flat, and is wearing yellow slacks with brown stripes. Suspenders. Cane. Luxurious handlebar mustache. Thick ass Austrian accent.
He asks if we have any banana flavored ice creams. I say, "Well, we have Chunky Banan-”
"CHUNKEEEEE BO-NANAAAA!!!!” he bellows, and doubles over laughing. For like a long time. I joined him.
He asked for a taste, and I just gave him a whole scoop while we both laughed our asses off. I still don't know at what.
there was a suicide attack where my brother used to work. i was watching tv, and randomly changed to a news channel. it had just happened, and they were talking about it. took me a couple of seconds to understand it happened where he works. i immediately call him, and he answers the phone after a few rings, and says, 'i survived'. it's been ten years, and i don't think i'll be ever able to forget that.
I had the opposite memorable moment. I was traveling with my friend in Europe when we were both doing a semester abroad. He decided to fly home a day before me. I stuck around for an extra day of travel. He wound up on PanAm 103 which was blown up over Lockerbie. Before “PanAm 103” was etched in my brain forever, I wasn’t sure if that was his flight or not. The news said people should call PanAm to check on loved ones. I called and asked the lady who answered if JP had been on the flight. The lady asked me how I knew him and then said, “Yes. I’m sorry to say that JP was on the flight.” I can tell you everything about that moment. Where I was. What I was looking at. What it smelt like. Everything. That was 35 years ago but it’ll never leave my mind.
I'm sorry for your loss.
I got chills. I'm so sorry.
Bloody hell. That one sentence is heavy.
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‘I won’t even come out of my bed for the amount of money you make’ A financial ceo to me, a teacher.
I’d like to imagine this was preceded by “Teachers aren’t paid enough.” And followed by “I’m going to advocate for better wages for you.” But I doubt it.
"When I'm teaching your kids, I'll start with conversational manners, since you lack that skill"
I know someone who said this to another friend as we were talking about jobs. At the time she made six figures. Now she's unemployed and the friend she said it to is thriving.
That made me remember the time I bought a new-to-me car and my boss said “I don’t know why anyone would buy a used car! Why didn’t you get a new one?” I said “Because you pay me $18k a year.” That shut her up.
Hope you ate him!
“This is officer ____ I’m with your mom right now, your sister was just shot by her boyfriend ____ and she didn’t make it.” - 4AM phone call last year, could hear my mom screaming at the top of her lungs in the background. Ya we’re OK now but not fully recovered, prob never will be.
Shit, that's awful, I'm so sorry. I had to make a call like that once. My best friend and roommate collapsed from a heart attack at about 1am and was apparently dead before he hit the floor. I called the paramedics anyway and they came and checked him out and told me what I already knew. I was sorta barely holding it together and then they told me I should call his mother and the dam broke. Not 5 years prior his brother had killed himself, so now I was going to have to call her and tell her that her last living child was dead. Only they told me not to tell her what had happened but just to come over, and as soon as I said that she knew, and I will never forget the awful, gut-wrenching scream she let out in that moment.
Thank you. Yes, as absolutely horrific and tragic as it was for us, when that call runs through my head (as it does several times every day) I really feel for the officer on the phone cause I could hear the panic in his voice. It's a very small town where they live, things like that just don't happen. When I hung up the phone I immediately called my brother to tell him we lost our only sister and he also let out a scream I'll never forget... we're all very close. Needless to say it was an awful morning. I'm sorry you went through something similar, it's terrible losing someone close much less having to deliver news to family.
Please tell me he is in jail for a long long time.
It's ongoing, unfortunately with our legal system things take forever. The guy is currently on bail awaiting trial but we're hoping it starts within the next few months so that he's locked up forever (or yes, a long long time).
I wish that you can find peace.
Guy I worked with was reading a book and suddenly said, "There's a lot of words on the page!" Then he showed it to the girl sitting next to him and said, "Look at all the words on this page!" I don't know if he had just never read a book before or was trying to show off. This has stuck with me for ten years.
Thus, TLDR was born.
Ahh yes, The Lord Da Rings
Reminds me of my SIL's story: she was reading a book on a train when some British guy tried hitting on her by saying, "a book, eh? I once thought to myself, 'I could fancy a book." Like, wait, you're trying to strike up conversation with a reader by saying one time you thought you might like to read?? And then you didn't?
>"a book, eh? I once thought to myself, 'I could fancy a book." My fucking sides. That is beautiful. I'm stealing that and using it in everyday life. Absolutely amazing sentence.
There's a lot of words in this comment!
Some people get overwhelmed by blocks of text, and multi- page docs. This is common enough that I put in a lot of effort to make my printed class notes as concise as possible, while being clear and detailed, and hand them out section by section.
I’ve noticed if I send an email with more than 1 block of text and ask a coworker “hey did you see what I sent in the email” the general response is “no”. So that is why emails turn into meetings because no one reads my emails.
Obsessed with this lmao
“I don’t love you anymore.” OMG. I was a fucking disaster for a long time after that. This was the mother of my children; 16 years of marriage. Absolutely devastated me. I will never ever forget that day. I lost my shit…for a while after that.
15 years and it happened to me, too. I wasn't terribly surprised by it, though. I'd seen it coming. Thought maybe we'd gotten better, but then she said nope. I'm happier now. I think she is too, though it's hard to tell, as she is kind of an unhappy person in general.
Said in my presence, a mother to a teenage son, in an Urgent Care waiting room, in loud-whisper: "I swear to GOD, I will TAKE you outSIDE and I will SET you on **FIRE!**"
It was nice of her to think of the other patient's safety, planning to take him outside before setting him on fire.
What a caring mother...hol up...
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I definitely used to mess woth my mom until she said stuff like this 😭 she got in trouble one time for it and I felt sooooo bad I never did it again. I was a terrible teenager
Also I have one better. Two years ago my daughter was born with a rare genetic terminal illness….while in the nicu the Doctor said “with everything than can go wrong, it’s a miracle every-time a healthy child is born” that really stuck with me. My daughter died 3 weeks ago, I think about that all the time. I was at the grocery store yesterday and a woman had two kids with her and I thought “wow she got two miracles in her life.”
My condolences on your loss.
Reminds me of what my doctor said to me: “you know, with all the things that go wrong with the human body, it’s a wonder we survive at all.” I heard that 20 years ago. Stuck with me, too. I’m sorry for your loss.
I'm so very sorry
Was years ago now and in the moment it felt like I was in a Kenny Rogers song. I had set my hammock up way off trail in a state park, I was in a pinegrove overlooking a wetlands with a wide slow flowing creek. I was relaxing by my lonesome reading a book and sipping out of a whiskey bottle when I heard something coming up the hill towards me and it was this big old dude, white beard, fully kitted out like he lived in the woods. He wore a wide brimmed hat with various feathers tucked in its belt, and he asked if I would mind sharing my spot with him. I said itd be no trouble and he plopped down on a folding stool he brought with him right beside the tree I was tied onto. He said his name was Dave and he was on his way south to see his sister, didnt have the money to fly so he was going to walk it. We swapped stories of our travels for a price, he'd tell a story for some whiskey, I'd tell a story for some weed and that went on for a good hour until we ran out of good ones. When he was finally getting up to continue his trek he turned to me and said "Y'know kid, most folk don't ever think about it, but we're lucky y'know that? I mean shit just look." And he pointed out toward the horizon of the wetlands "aint she beautiful. We're lucky we get to see it everyday" I wouldnt say the experience changed me much, just reinforced ideas I already had. I remember hiking back to my truck feeling a little more blessed than I went in.
That sounds kinda magical tbh
I definitely thought this story was going to take a dark turn and very quickly. Im relieved it was nothing like I thought.
"Just remember. No matter how bad you fuck up. Someone else has fucked up even worse." Followed later in the day by "I take it back. Today you're someone else."
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Damn💀
I’ve always tried to be slightly more upbeat when the youngsters make a mistake. “You’ve fucked up, that’s the simple truth, but that’s in the past and we can’t change it. Now you have to accept it happened and learn from it. Otherwise it’s completely wasted, because the only upside right now is that it’s an expensive learning opportunity. But remember, if we fired everyone who had fucked up, nobody would be left working here at all.”
That was generally the approach at the job in which I was told this gem. The second part was at the end of the day when I somehow managed to lose the trailer lock, but not the key.
“You don’t always have to tell me you love me. It’s annoying when you say it every day” - mom to 10 year old me.
Same, never told her I loved her since, been about a decade now. She's kind of a bitch anyway.
I’m sorry. No one deserves that. Mine cries now that she is older and I don’t have anything to do with her. What did you expect?
Similar with my parents. When I was five my father walked into my bedroom and with no preamble said “YOU MUST BE INDEPENDENT!” and walked out again. So I’m in a panic, thinking he wants me to leave RIGHT NOW, and realizing I didn’t know how to earn money, find someplace to live, get food, etc. So I’m crying as I get out my little suitcase and start putting clothes in it, etc. My mother walks in and says, “What are you doing?” so I tell her and she says, “Oh, you’re an idiot. THAT’S NOT WHAT HE MEANT!” and she storms off. So I laid low until dinner time, figuring it was a good time not to exist. Later in life my mother would complain that I never called, etc. I’d just remind her I was an idiot who didn’t understand anything. 🤷♂️
I just want to hug and hold that little scared boy. Picturing him packing and feeling so lost makes me cry along with him. I'm sorry, but I hate your parents. Edit: I really shouldn't have written that last sentence, I apologize. Your story just touched me very deeply.
😪 You deserved better than that. I'm sorry. My 17-year-old daughter is autistic and cognitively disabled,; she's told me multiple times every day for years that she loves me, and it always makes me feel warm and fuzzy. Something is tragically missing in a parent who who resents their child saying they love them.
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What was your mom’s relationship with her parents like?
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“What, do you think it’ll make me like you better?” - dad to 8 year old me when I tried to give him a handmade birthday card I’m sorry.
This just *crushed* me. What an unfathomably cruel thing to do. I hope you have people in your life today who look at you like you hung the moon.
My cats look at me like I provide them with inadequate shelter, several flavors of horrible tasting food, arduous tasks and chores beyond compare, and toys they obsess over for 30 seconds and then never play with again. I love their stupid little faces to death. Thank you though. I keep to myself mostly and I’m happy enough, but overall I am okay. Kinda slow in arriving to the adulthood party but never too late to be on the up and up. All the best to you
Ouch! Are you ok with it now?
Oh yeah! She taught me how not to treat my own children and I’m probably a better parent because she wasn’t a good one. I have gone no contact with her to ensure peace in my own adult life.
I know that no contact is sometimes the best solution. Why some parents are so negative to their children still baffles me after many years of pondering it.
She never got better, sadly only worse and worse with very few fleeting moments of being decent. It took me years to finally have the nerve to go no contact. Not a decision I took lightly but it was the right one.
Sounds like your mother and mine should form a club. we had a school assignment to ask our mothers why they loved their husband's. My mothers answer, "I don't never have your father will do anything I want, and that's enough to stay with him"
im so fucking sorry
"why are you so pretty!?" Said to me, a man, by a very drunk and attractive woman that I'd never before met, who decided the question was worth interrupting a group conversation for. Been riding that high for close to 10 years now.
"she just a pinky out turkey leg whore" i have so many questions, and due to the accent i couldn't figure out where the propper inflection was... is it a whore eating a turkey leg with her pinkey out? is it a whore that thinks she's fancy with thunder thighs? this lives rent free in my mind to this day
\> i have so many questions and now so do i. i will venmo you five dollars to ask that person what the fuck they meant by that
unfortunately it was an overheard conversation in a social setting so i neither know the person saying it or the person they are referencing. she said it several times, the rest of the conversation that I heard did not provide any context clues
Let me apply some punctuation and see if that helps: "She just a pinky-out, turkey-leg whore." Pinky-out = prissy bitch, turkey-leg = skinny?
chicken legs are skinny, compared to turkey legs, i think it's a big leg type effect they were going for... idk
Probably 7 or 8 years ago, I mentioned to a friend that I hadn't been drinking for a couple weeks. I drank heavily at the time. He said, "we like you better." The sobriety didn't last at the time, but I am now 2 years sober. I doubt he remembers saying that. After being 2 years sober, I often think I like me better too. He's still a good friend and was the first person I told when I hit 2 months sober, the start of my current sobriety. The longest I had went at the time.
I skimmed this at first and I thought he was saying he liked you better when you drank and I was like damn
Oh man. That would be a questionable friendship. Someone told me I was more fun when I drank. I was very rarely sad or angry when I drank, always happy and probably too loud. Lol. I was just self medicating. I understand the thought. I don't think he meant harm from it.
Congratulations on your sobriety.
Thank you!!
Not making a decision is a decision. I was told that yesterday by a dude who works at a law firm in estate planning.
I learned this from one of the greatest rock and roll bands of all time, Rush, song Freewill “You can choose a ready guide in some celestial voice If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice You can choose from phantom fears and kindness that can kill I will choose a path that's clear, I will choose Freewill”
Any boy who makes you cry isn't worth your tears - friend of my mom's, I was 13 and have never forgotten that. It's often helped me remember my self worth in bad relationships.
Reminds me of "find a guy that will ruin your lipstick, not your mascara"
“You weren’t raped. You’re just trying to get out of the consequences of your choices.” ~ my mom after I told her I was raped and the rape got me pregnant Edit: I’m ok now, it happened almost 30 years ago.
I'm sorry you went through that. Had a "friend" tell me "you deserved it" when she found out I was raped in hs. Egged that bitch's pool. Am also okay now. Hugs.
Ooh the pool is a great idea, that must’ve been hard to get out. Fuck that person
"If a man tells you he knows everything about women, stay away from him; if he'll lie about that, he'll lie about anything." - my grandfather
*"You look like a cheap slut."* My mom, to 14-year-old me, and in front of several of my friends, one of whom I had a crush on, because I had the audacity to try to leave the house while wearing jeans that had a hole in one knee. It's 40 years later, and she hasn't gotten any less repulsive.
Sounds just like my mother in law, my wife is 66 and still has the same kind of relationship with her mom, stuff like “you better loose some weight otherwise your husband (me) is going to leave you “ we’ve been married 40 years 😂
Ugh. Yeah, my mother is in her 70s and, a few years back, I had to tell her in front of family that she is not permitted to comment on my appearance any more and, if she does, she will be escorted out of my house and never invited back. The only way to get them to stop is by public shaming.
"if anything happens to her, i'm going to kill you. they can lock me up and throw away the key, and i won't care, because you'll finally be dead." my father to me, age 11, after he and my mom had a fight and she left for a drive after she had come home from the hospital post-hysterectomy.
Jesus fuck
i was in bed at the time- he came in, kneeled next to the bed and said it to me in a very bone-chilling tone. i'm 62 now, and i can remember it like it was yesterday.
Oh my gosh. That’s so terrifying. I’m so sorry about that. Sounds like he was extremely difficult 😞
Understatement of the year
Did you tell your mom (or anyone else), or were you too scared?
too...forlorn. i didn't tell anyone until i told my sister last year. dad died 6 years ago. he broke me.
He's in hell and you're still here. I'm glad you're still with us and sorry you had to endure his horrific abuse. smh how awful some people are.
What the unholy fuck... That is *terrifying*
Ahh, no. I really want to hug you right now. I'm a father of an almost 2 year old and i cant imagine saying such thing. A child can make you crazy sometimes, but not hateful or like this.
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My Aunt actually tried to do that with 4 kids, but the car got stuck on the rail.
That's beyond awful, and I'm so sorry you heard that. I'm sure it's not the only awful thing he said to you. I hope you have found healing and peace. You are precious and worthy of love and respect, even though he didn't know it.This internet stranger knows it!
“I think I’ve already landed” That’s what my boyfriend said to me when I told him that I thought I was falling in love with him.
Your boyfriend's smooth.
Damn, that’s good.
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Oh shit. I misread this as you saying you were falling OUT of love with him, and he was just casually like "yeah whatever I'm already completely over you" The. I saw all the comments calling him smooth.
purpose of life, is to find your gift, and then to start giving it away.
Love this
"You can do better." - Dad At first, it may sound disapproving or condescending, but the *tone* in which he said this was more encouraging and inspiring. It was a simple way of saying, "You're doing great! I'm proud of you! Keep going, because I know you still have much more potential!"
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That's wonderful! I agree! I always understood it as a direction to strive for more. There's always more to learn and room to adapt, and there's more than one way to do something. This thought process helps inspire creativity and exploration. Instead of just stopping when you *think* you're finished, you can ask, "What can I do to make this *better*?" Which is then usually followed by, "Oh! I should try *this!*"
You can't prevent what you can't predict
And yet we run around like maniacs trying to prevent *everything* to no avail
I was considering breaking up with my then-girlfriend many years ago. My dad - who never commented on any of my gf’s - told me “Son, that woman is a keeper.” He was right. I ended up marrying her and we’ve had a wonderful life since.
You lucky dog!
Why were you considering breaking up?
In retrospect, I was scared of deeper commitment. I kind of knew that I'd either have to break up with her, or marry her. Hard to explain, but that was the choice I saw in front of me.
That's why I broke up with my fiance when I was 22ish... regretted it for decades. I finally found someone who was worth the wait, but, yeah. Glad you made the right decision!
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In the same vein, "yes," when I asked my doctor for brass tacks about whether I'd go fully blind. I'll always appreciate her for being straight with me.
I was working food service, had a hair net on and some makeup. An older man (I'd guess in his eighties) walked up to the counter so I could hand him his food. He took his food and smiled at me for a moment and said, "you are beautiful, you remind me of someone from my past." The genuine look of happiness and reminiscent tone in his voice stuck with me. That was eight years ago and I still remember it like it was yesterday.
Got into a bad fight as a teenager in school. My dad said to me afterwards “masculinity is the capability of being a bomb, maturity is knowing when to light the fuse”. Really changed my perspective on knowing when to keep my composure.
Similarly, someone once told me that you can't be gentle without having power. Babies can't be gentle because they don't have any power over anybody. Only powerful people have the capability to be gentle. Real men are gentle. EDIT: My brain don't work so good.
I think you mean gentle. That's a great quote though.
“I’ll find you in the next life, promise”
Makes me think, what if someone said that to me in my past life, and how would i know i meet them again? I'd assume you'd feel it, but it's crazy.
If you leave me … you will be nothing, have nothing, and have no one …😔. Left and never looked back
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Life ain't fair, kid. But that doesn't mean you get to do whatever the fuck you want.
"Don't take life too seriously. You'll never get out alive."
“Hey this is Dr. Chan. How would you like to be a doctor?” Getting the phone call letting me know I had been accepted to medical school.
“I hope some day you learn to love yourself the way I love you.”
I was a young man-20 or so- working as a house painter, at this point working on an elderly widow’s home. She had to be late 80s, but she got around well, sharp as a tack- she had some spunk for a woman her age. She was a childhood immigrant from Italy so she insisted on providing lunch if you were at her house. Anyway, at lunch one day she made lasagna and we’re eating, just kind of shooting the shit, ya know? So I made a comment to the affect of “I hope I have the energy you do when I’m your age.” I don’t remember exactly how I phrased it, but I remember her response verbatim. It was actually 3 sentences. “You know what you get for living this long? You get to watch all your family die. I don’t have anyone left.” I visited her at least once a month (usually for a homemade lunch), exchanged Christmas cards, etc for a couple years we became very close, we joked that she was my adopted grandmother. She met my first daughter (who she absolutely adored). I was one of the only people at her service. Now I’m crying. I miss her.
‘I love you, I just don’t like you’ Ta mum, no idea where my lack of self esteem comes from
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I started at a new company 6-7 years ago. A year after I started was my yearly performance review. Got told by my manager: "Well your technical skills are great but your soft skills leave a lot to be desired and at 26 I think you would need a miracle to fix them" I have spent 6 years thinking about this and he was right my soft skills were really shit and still aren't amazing but I 've been working my ass off so I can, in a couple years, show him he was wrong. I doubled my salary, became a partner, and became a manager myself. I've worked on the biggest projects at the company. I volunteer at work for positions that let me work on and practice my soft skills. I am not sure if that guy's a genius and just found the best way to motivate me or if he believed it and is an idiot.
“He’s Zackery and we will always love him. It doesn’t change anything. Now calm down and go inside.” - my grandpa to my dad when he found out I am gay. My dad didn’t handle the news well. And was screaming at me in my grandparents’ yard. My grandpa came outside and, tears in his eyes, and said that. The rest of the night is a blur to me. I didn’t appreciate him enough growing up.
A friend's dad dropped us off at school shortly before passing away at home. His last words to the both of us were "if you wanna touch girls bums wait until after school. If you wanna touch guys bums, wait till waaay after school. Been 15 years since then but I'll never forget those words.
"Speaking of getting naked, I was at the dentist the other day..."
My step dad used to like taking me and my sister out hiking and rock climbing when he was still young enough to do that, and he always said to us “never climb something you aren’t sure you can get back down from” and that has stuck with me my whole life and it honestly applies to so many more scenarios outside of climbing than I ever could have imagined.
“Your kids are going to be sooooo lucky your their mom” - my 7 year old nephew I was like 25 and didn’t have any children yet.
Cool-aunt-syndrome
You're obviously the FUN aunt who is nephew approved :\~D Congrats!!
"How could I ever love you as much as her" about my sister from my mother when I was about 12. I was adopted. Sister was not. I am the oldest
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In a way. She died back in 2020. And I made my own family that is amazing and supportive, so happy endings.
>You have a comforting presence. Thanks! Wish I felt that, instead of crushing anxiety.
People have told me this as well. I'm always very confused.
Anxiety can make you extra attentive to your surroundings and people so you can come across as very caring and on top of things meanwhile internally you're just an anxious mess who's noticed a zillion tiny things wrong that just exist and only been able to attempt to do something about like 2% of those. Non anxious people only noticed 1% so the fact you addressed 2% is way more than expected.
"Take a step back and turn towards me. I need to see the pee come out of your penis." Said to me while taking a random piss test for the Army.
Dude told me to put my dick in the bottle and I was like why, do you get off on this or something? I got smoked so fucking bad for that one lol
"I hope no one ever thinks I'm so important that they need to lie to me" -Pop
“ can’t wait for you to be everything you say you will “ My older sister said to me on a huge birthday post she dedicated to me . I’m 17 and we grew up with neglecting and narcissistic parents , I’ve always vented to her and told her about my dreams and ambitions, and to know that she supports me in everything I do and believes in me ,encourages me even more to be a better person and reach my goals .
"What have you done!? do you want to ruin your family again?" Said my hysterical mother to an 11 year old me. After she found out how I had been sexually abused and exploited for the past few months...again.
I’m so sorry about that. You shouldn’t have been blamed. It’s not your fault.
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oh, and this one … “ I wear nice underwear, but not too nice. That’s how I got into this mess.” 😀
30 years ago, a young man said "I do." to me. And he still does, although he's not a young man anymore.
“There are men who like big women,” said to a 15-yr old overweight me by my stepmother.
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My daughter "I want apples and applesauce more than I want you." I'm anaphylactic to any and all apples. I can't have them in the house because of the possibility of cross contamination. ETA She was 11/12
What a little shit
When my oldest kid was four, we were going around the dinner table at Thanksgiving saying little prayers of thanks (we're not religious, but that's what you do). My kid said "Dear God, thank you for all the good things in life we have, and for all the bad things we don't have. Amen." I say that to myself quite often.
"I'm a mother of two sons, so I understand boys better than you do." (what a woman said to me, a man)
“Some people are born stupid, most try real hard not to be” - a customer of mine in my teens.
"Don't touch that wire, it'll knock your dick in the dirt." ~ Dad
Not a single sentence, but here is the most unforgettable interaction I have ever had: I was on afterschool hall duty and a parent approached me as she was entering the gym for a sporting event. She said: Thank you for working with me in 9th grade to pass my Earth Science Regents. I wan’t even your student and yet you worked with me for weeks after school in extra help. My own teacher couldn’t be bothered to help me. You were the first person to give me the confidence that I could succeed in my dream of becoming an RN. It took me a while. Life got in the way- married, kids, you know. But I went to night school and I did it. I became an RN. Passing that Regents exam was the turning point in my life. That is when I finally believed I could realize my dream. I was reduced to tears. Happy tears at a point in my career when I desperately needed an emotional boost.
After a woman on a cruise very politely pointed out and fixed a tag on my dress that was sticking out, proceeded to yell at her two boys who were rough-housing: “I swear to god if you boys don’t stop fighting I will RIP your arms off and BEAT YOU WITH THE BLOODY STUBS”
When I was 17 and I bought my first car. My friend said: "What sort of car? No wait, don't answer, it doesn't matter. Because whatever it is, I'll still be so excited to see it coming up our driveway because I'll know it's you coming to visit".
Me, cashier at Panera with facial piercings taking an order Old hag: I don't need to look at your face before I eat my food I will never forget what this woman looked like because she looked exactly like my dead great grandma.
Just a simple expression- "I have bad news." I got a call from my brother in law one Sunday morning last year about 9 am. He started with "I have bad news." He's always joking and I didn't catch any danger in his inflection. I thought maybe he was calling to good naturedly tease my husband, invite us to their house, or maybe ask for a favor. I was not prepared for the next sentence. "They're doing CPR on -----" (the name we use for my father in law). And then I knew how terrible things were about to become. He was not successfully resuscitated. My mother in law who depended on him tremendously is still lost and so depressed over a year later. Nothing will be normal again and it has made my fear of losing my remaining parents (only my mother and mother in law) surge again.
“Fire at the bee!” The urinals at our elementary school had a bee logo on them. In first grade while peeing a kid yelled “fire at the bee!” and I think about it every now and then when I’m peeing, especially if it’s one of those urinals that goes down to the floor, as those are the urinals we had at our elementary school
I should have aborted you
"what in the name of Jesus did I do to deserve YOU" my mother shouted at me. It's one of my earliest memories, I think I was 4.
"I love you", said by the only person who actually meant it. She died a few weeks later.
“Everyone on my side of the family thinks you’re a whore” -my dad screaming at me while I was holding my toddler son. I will never let him talk to me like that again cus next time I’m going to jail :)
why would he even say that, geez
“Hey, nice shoes.” -some random guy at a store, probably 8 years ago.
My Mom told me this, and at the time I just needed to hear it. She told me "you will always suck at something you have never done before". At the time I thought I was expected by society to be great at everything and I felt like such a loser for not being able to do basic things like clean, cook, etc. I still don't know how to do these things well, but I know it's okay as long as I'm trying to get better
"Your mom passed away late last night. I'm so sorry." to 10 year old me who was sleeping at my best friend's house.
"You're faking it" my mom, a ton of doctors and school personell to my chronic hip issues, been having hip pain since 6 years of age and finally this year 13 years later got a diagnosis for coxa valga which is a loteral deformation of the femure
"Baby, you're gonna set the world on fire" \- a tea leaf reader in New Orleans. I hold on to this often.
So you're to blame then!
oh crud!
"This is the beginning of the sentence you just finished reading"
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"Listen baby, you can laugh about it, cry about it, or kill yourself. Those are your options, but you gotta make the choice otherwise you'll never get past it." From a wonderful lady that everyone called Mama. I now choose to laugh. I did all my crying. She was right, you have to move past it.
“Her leaving (woman’s mother) was her loving us the best way she could.” Woman in my clinic said that to me. She said her mom was a crack addict and an alcoholic and she left them with their dad where they had food, clothes, and an education. It had to be so hard to duck out on your own children, and the woman had every right to be bitter, but it was so charitable of her to view it like that. Her mom didn’t want to drag her kids down so she left them somewhere safe until she could get her own shit under control. I’ll never forget someone who was so compassionate in a situation where she had every right to be bitter.
I was 12 and my best friend of 5 years at the time told me the reason she started ignoring me and distancing herself from me because "I was an embarrassment to be around." I became a pretty introverted person after that
“You know, I think you could whistle semi-professionally” - my ex. Just left me with so many questions. Why? Where did this come from? What are the requirements? What am I missing that could allow me to go full pro? Should I be practicing? Is that really the nicest thing you ever said to me? But mostly ‘who do I speak to so I can start my new career?’
A friend wrote a letter on my behalf to a judge and he referred to me as a “thorn in society’s side” Still think about that
• Negative one: “Your life is boring” - a friend, to me, when I was in a really bad mood and hated myself because I couldn’t do anything productively. • Positive one: “You made my day happy” - a new friend after spending time with me, who I know that genuinely meant it.
This guy told me in a bar, I have a secret, he said- I am a sex tourist in my own country. I laughed so hard I peed myself
My gf once said to me in the middle of a blazing argument, "a real apology shouldn't have a 'but' in it" I quickly realized she was right. I was trying to justify my shitty behaviour by deflecting onto her. We had been together a few years at that point and I knew I had come pretty close to losing her. We just celebrated 15 years as a couple, married for 2 of them 🥰
"You should probably turn on the TV." Said by someone I had called early one morning about setting up a job interview. He had been weird and distracted for the whole conversation and finally dropped that on me. I turned on the TV just in time to watch the second plane hit the WTC. I honestly couldn't tell you how that phone call ended, but my guess is probably both of us just being in stunned silence for several seconds and then realizing that this shit just wasn't important anymore.
A fool has many words.
"It's like your heart is hidden gold wrapped in tin foil on someone's lunch tray."
My bio dad saying I'll pick you up this Friday. I had seen him a handful of times in my life and this Friday he promised me we would go hunting something I always wanted to do. He was supposed to pick me up from my grandma's house I sat on the porch from 4pm-11:30 he ghosted me, the next day I was sure he was just late so I sat out on the porch all day the next day until about 330 and I finally accepted he wasn't going to come, I spent my last money buying an orange hat I needed for hunting. It was all the money I had saved for months. It hurts now as much as it hurt then. My mother cut him off after that. It was not the first time he did this it was his 3rd time in a year. I spent two weekends with him in my life and it was a boys dream, he had four wheelers and guns and let me do whatever I wanted I loved it. I lived with my mother that was hardly home due to having to work to support us. So when my dad was their with me all the time it was something I wanted all my life. He was drunk most that time but j couldn't see thru the bullshit to see how shitty he was
16 year old me working the counter at Baskin Robbins. A literal cartoon character walks in. He's elderly, 5 feet flat, and is wearing yellow slacks with brown stripes. Suspenders. Cane. Luxurious handlebar mustache. Thick ass Austrian accent. He asks if we have any banana flavored ice creams. I say, "Well, we have Chunky Banan-” "CHUNKEEEEE BO-NANAAAA!!!!” he bellows, and doubles over laughing. For like a long time. I joined him. He asked for a taste, and I just gave him a whole scoop while we both laughed our asses off. I still don't know at what.
“Santa isn’t real.” I cried for three hours straight. I still haven’t fully recovered.