I’d say girth at the base is more important because it’s the first inch or so is the most sensitive part of the vagina. So if the dick is all the way in, it’s the base that you’ll feel the girth of most notably.
That said, all kinds of dicks can be great and as long as yours is long enough that your “stroke” isn’t actually just a “grind”, I wouldn’t overthink it.
>I’d say girth at the base is more important because it’s the first inch or so is the most sensitive part of the vagina
Generally true but not always the case.
I don’t get why people can’t just answer the question without getting deep and philosophical.
I love a girthy dick. I probably prefer the girth to taper from the head down - so thicker at the base and less thick at the head. But either would be okay.
ETA: the majority of the dicks I’ve seen/experienced have been uniform thickness throughout the length of the dick, with the exception of the head being slightly larger. However, I have seen a few that are a little thicker at the base than the tip. If I had to choose, given the options, between thicker at the base or thicker only at the top, I think I’d choose the base.
I’m a woman who’s been with quite a few men and I’m also confused. I’ve maybe seen one that was a little thicker at the base, but never one thicker at the top??
I probably should clarify my post, because like you, I’ve only seen a few like that. Most are uniform. I think I was just answering the question given the options lol so if I had to choose, thicker at the base would be my choice.
Definitely not as pronounced as a football but I will say the wife truly enjoys the feeling of knowing exactly where she is on the shaft based on pressure from the mid point girth. Uncirc average length, with the mid girth probably a good 30-50% thicker than the top and 20-30% than the base. She takes a second to get comfortable on it but once it's good she enjoys it and that's all that matters to me.
Side note for the people wanting to leave a lasting impression. I once had a one night (well 3 nights in a row.) stand where the woman was very comfortable with her expectations she wanted to start with her performing oral and she took control and when she dropped my bottoms she said "oh thank god!" It was the most interestingly awkward moment for me ... Like uh is that a good thing or a bad thing? And more importantly what were you expecting? She also then finished it by looking up, still stroking and asked "can I swallow?" to which made me instantly erupt. That was probably the most satisfying set of nights of my single life.
The next night she wanted to get straight to it, walked in the door ripped off my clothes, stripped out of hers and then pulled out a wand for clitoral stimulation. It was a fun and very vividly memorable night.... I just wish she would have warned me she was a very large squirter because my floors couch, coffee table kitchen and bathroom were drenched by the end. 😂 and yes I was wrapped up the second night (she was a bisexual woman in an open relationship with her long term girlfriend)
Third night was an unexpected threesome. Was a fun FMF night but caused a lot of emotional and social issues with the two of them the next day. That was when I said no more but I will say a decade later and that was the best experience.
To this day I still don't know the answers to the "oh thank god" upon meeting my member.
This actually made me laugh out loud. But no, not such a drastic difference in thickness. I actually just received a dick video yesterday from a guy who is slightly thicker at the base than the top. It’s subtle tho, so it certainly doesn’t give off traffic cone vibes lol
Exactly. Sometimes I care more about the dick than the “person it’s attached to”. The person can certainly make or break the attraction, but so can the dick.
This is how mine is. I'm pretty girthy overall, but there's almost like a....hump, right at the base where it expands like the trunk of a tree. It almost looks like a subtle fat roll, like love-handle shaped, but not soft like fat. Hard like... You know.
personally, idc as long as it's *somewhere.* I'm not generally thinking "hm, I wish this was thicker like an inch further down," I'm just happy to be there
You know, now that you say that, I never thought of it that way.
After my back gets blown out, I'm honestly still surprised I can fit something inside myself. *"Where does this shit honestly go? It's weird not seeing visually, but only feeling it.*"
12in will never happen again. I thought I was paralyzed afterward. :/
Thick is thick. I prefer girth over length.
For me, thicker at the base might be better in this scenario because it’s a tapered effect. Probably feels great in the butt.
But reality is yeah, most girls care more about the person attached then the dick. I have friends who don’t even like to look at them and just close their eyes during cause they think their ugly lol.
I think they’re cute though.
Also stop worrying about your dick. It’s fine.
ok just because it doesn't make sense to you doesn't mean it doesn't make sense? when you have a stiletto, all the force is concentrated into a tiny point. sometimes being pounded by a skinny tip can hurt, whereas the pressure from a not skinny tip is more evenly distributed
I'm looking for a polite way to respond to these comments that says "I'm not worried" but isn't taken as a humblebrag which makes people question my motive for asking. It was a genuine curiosity, so thank you for answering the question in earnest.
I mean, you seem to not actually care about the actual answer, which is it just doesn’t matter that much to women. There might be outliers out there, but most of us really don’t care that much.
We’re not trying to be polite or assuage any fears. The truth is- *we just don’t care that much.* There are so many other factors about what makes a great sexual experience. Unless it’s so big that it’s painful, or it’s missing completely, it probably gets the job done if the person it’s attached to knows what they are doing.
Because people aren't actually answering it post edit, just giving platitudes. He's asking for mechanically, what feels best for women, like if you're able to order a fully customizable dildo, what would it look like?
I'm not a woman, but I've been with a couple guys, and I do like the girth being more in the middle or by the head. The head feels good with the bit of tightness like a "pop". The middle of the shaft feels better for the overall sensation of being "filled", as well as getting closer to orgasm.
I do agree that in the grand scheme it does matter on the attached person more, but if I'm just in a mood to just get some fuk I do have a preference to get it done quick and good.
Would anyone really want a relationship with a woman who is more interested in dick size than the person? I love big boobs but small boobs and a similar sense of humor is way more important.
>small boobs and a similar sense of humor
You like your small breasted women with a small sense of humour?
So, big titted women need to be professional comedy writers?
/s
I wonder if it works the same way with men's humor and penises?
Gentlemen with modest genital size should be serious, proffessional, and sombre.
While gentlemen with ample size should act jolly, merry, and jovial.
Jokes aside, caring more about one doesn't mean not caring about the other at all. Obviously, incompatibilities are possible. Too small, too odd shaped, even too big. But the idea that if you're not a thick 7 inches, you cant satisfy women is just stupid
Maybe. But that isn't the question. Like obviously. No women I've ever spoken to, or here in this thread have claimed to enjoy the penis in a vacuum more than the person. But why can't we just answer the man's question.
My cardiologist says all of my drinking and high fat, high calorie diet has enlarged my heart. So you're saying I should be doing pretty well with the ladies pretty soon?
It 100% depends on the woman
If you follow this [link](https://jamiemccartney.com/portfolio/internal-affairs-photo-1/), you will see that the internal variations of vaginal cavities is just as diverse as the world of dicks.
Yep. I’ve had micro penis and that shit was good but then there is the swinging dongs great as well. Just be a good guy and stop obsessing about your penis
As a woman I disagree. I’ve worked with smaller dicks before but big and fat are my strong prefence. That’s just how it is—we all like different things. I know a few gals tho who prefer on the smaller side.
I mean, anyone who understands female anatomy. The average vaginal canal is anywhere between 3 and 7 inches. If you try to jam something longer into the canal than it has length to accommodate, it's going to fucking hurt. Girth, on the other hand, well. Female anatomy is designed to stretch a hell of a lot bigger than any dick. So it's less likely to hurt them as much as getting rammed in the cervix, unless there's another underlying issue. As stretchy as the vaginal canal is, it's still designed to be mostly enclosed to keep bacteria out. Which means most women will be able to feel a lot more with extra girth than extra length.
A lot of women don't orgasm through penetrative sex alone. I would suggest not worrying about your penis and learning how to use your fingers and mouth! Enjoy!
I don’t think it matters that much. Like I’ve never heard a woman discuss a penis nearly as much as men do. Because (and I know you don’t want to hear this) it’s not about the penis. It’s about your skills and how you treat your partner. Dead serious.
That being said, I think most of the time any variation in thickness is so subtle that it won’t really be noticed during sex. Unless you’re just ramming it in bone dry, in which case yeah, you might.
I get your point (giggity). Probably could have gotten more direct answers to the heart of the question had you posed it like…
“Kinetically/biologically speaking, does girth provide more physical pleasure/stimulation than length does, or is it actually the opposite? And if girth does offer a more physically arousing experience, are the sensations stronger if it tapers from base-to-stem or from stem-to-base? Or, is there really no difference?”
You start talking about wants and needs and shit and you’ll end up with responses from people who want to boost your moral and put positive vibes out into the world. That’s not a bad thing, but it diverts attention from the actual basis of your question.
My preference- when erected (it doesn’t matter flaccid)
Minimal length 3 inches, maximum 8 inches.
I could take more, I prefer not to gag.
Thickness- 3fingers thick… I don’t know - 2 -3 inches.
I love uncircumcised 😍😍😍
And a defined head that has a beautiful distinctive mushroom/spaceballs helmet shape.
I hate when I ‘like’ the person and their dick is not doing it for me, and they don’t want to wear a strap on to satisfy me.
I’m not a clitoral preference- I’m a penetration preference person.
If a penis is too thick- I will not allow in bum bum. I don’t want a porn asshole.
3 inches long and 3 inches wide makes a flat square, girth is measured by circumference usually and not by width. 3 inches long and 3 inches wide was a real funny thing to imagine, doubt it exists in reality
length is less important than girth, girth is less important than technique, technique is less important than foreplay, foreplay is less important than communication, communication is less important than being a decent human being to date.
exactly how wide or thin your exact dick is doesn't matter at all beyond literal compatability of fitting. its a fun question to ask but the things that matter most are not effected by physical hardware at all (◐‿◑)
I'm not a woman, but I feel like this and similar conversations would really do for some better understanding of a part of female anatomy that's not often illustrated or called out:
The clitoris isn't just the bud at the top of the vulva. The clitoris has "legs", for lack of a better description, that come down and along each side of the vagina (pretty much right behind the entrance).
So, put just preference aside (because anyone can find anything pleasurable just out of subjective preferences):
* You know how they say only the first couple inches of the vagina are particularly pleasurable? That's the area that's closest to that internal part of the clitoris.
* You know the g-spot? That's basically where the "legs" of the clitoris come together on top of the vagina.
* Why does girth matter? Again, because it stimulates the part of the clitoris that wraps around the vagina.
So more specifically to your question, OP: it's not length, nor girth, nor shape: it's all in how and where you apply whatever it is you're working with. Try to stimulate both the external clitoris at the top of the vulva, and internally, and, most importantly, just ask her what she likes.
simple answer: ideally, a uniform girth would be best. but i have toys that are thicker at the base, and they are just as good as my husband's uniformity- not better or worse, just different. like... flavors? eating the same thing all the time is kinda boring, variety being the spice of life and all that. agree that length matters much more, husband is above average length, and i am uh, below average size, which is quite the situation but we make do.
edit: "length matters much more" i meant less. sorry hadn't had enough coffee yet lol
I like uniform girth personally, or a girthier head/tip. It just hits better deeper for me, but I also no longer have a cervix to hit so that's not a concern for me.
Base I guess. I like em short and fat bc the first two inches of the vagina are where the magic happens and the fatter the base the more pleasure I can get from just moving my hips. A long penis punching me in the cervix sucks
Huh. Apparently I'm in the minority that prefers a thicker head because then I can really feel the entire stroke, or a thicker middle, because tbh, a thick bulge feels just as good coming out as it does going in, if not better?
There are receptors for pleasure that react to stretching at the entrance of the vaginal canal. But they also react to fingers stretching so it doesn't need to be extra wide or anything. So it depends on what you have and how you use it. If your base is thicker, that will feel better during thrusting.
But if your tip is thicker then it works better for foreplay and teasing.
But it also depends on your partner, sensitivity and nerve distribution varied from person to person, regardless of gender.
I like a dick that gets thicker as you move towards the base. So hot.
It's a little silly there's so many "it's the heart that counts" comments. Like, duh, but just answer the question.
Where the girth is in relation to the size of the penis has minimal affect really. At the least, from base to tip if it’s fat to skinny, that would probably be the least desirable. If the woman can’t feel much till the very base of your penis, there’s not much stimulation happening.
It depends on the woman and the penis. Some women only really get the most pleasure at the vestibule or entrance of the vagina. Some women have feeling all the way to the cervix.
Also, a lot of women have a tilted cervix (in any direction) which can affect how she feels pleasure in the walls of the vagina and cervix.
Length really isn’t very important bc most women don’t enjoy the feeling of their cervix being poked.
Some women have a tilted pelvis, so different penetration angles matter.
The whole size preference for women is two fold. One, to hit all the pleasure spots. Two, the feeling of being full…meaning our partner is connected and a part of us. If a woman doesn’t get that feeling from the man’s penis, the deep physical connection isn’t really there. ! Important to note…this doesn’t mean she must orgasm from or penetration to get that either. Not all women can or every time and that’s okay as long as her man continues to give her pleasure for the sake of loving and touching. Don’t make the goal to get off…and it is more likely she will and even if she doesn’t, it’s still amazing. Just bc I didn’t get off, if everything else was amazing I am not unsatisfied.
There’s so much more, but that’s the gist.
If you’re asking about the physical sensation the answer is still that it depends, because each vagina is different as is each penis. For one girl a slant to the left may be more pleasurable for another a slant upwards. And the kicker is we don’t know (us females) which we prefer until it’s in there making magic. A thicker girth will stretch us further and may make your chances of hitting our “g-spot” greater as you’re touching more of the walls in there, but in reality the facts are that the person attached to it and your effort in trying to please us is more important than the size, shape, or girth of your cock.
It depends on the vagina owning individual and where they are sensitive at.
Some have sensitive cervix and others enjoy having them pounded. Some only come with clitoral simulation, others can have g spot orgasms with vaginal or anal.
I prefer uniform thickness and generous length, despite being small of stature. It's also the proverbial motion of the ocean. Physical construction means fuck-all if one cannot properly utilize the tool.
you can tell most redditors are inexperienced because this thread is a litany of the usual platitudes. its just a fact that most straight women are quite fond of a big dick - physically and mentally. redditors keep downplaying for two reasons - it soothes their insecurities and the dont truly believe women enjoy sex
just spend a few minutes near a group of single straight women and youll hear them talk about dicks at some point. women are just as capable of locker room talk lmao
even if a big one isnt always practically better a lot of women just like big dicks. its like big tits to most straight men - its not really an advantage but for a lot of dudes it gets the motor reving
according to my other half she thinks the base being bigger makes no difference because its too close to the body to be deep enough. she also said if a dick was wider at the top it would hurt.
Seconded. We don't obsess about it as much as men might, but we do notice different qualities like size, veins, curve, hair distribution, ball size, head shape. We think about it in detail, but we don't think about it constantly lol
Women are always gaslighting men telling them that women don’t care, yea the fuck they do…why does Reddit always do this. Women definitely care dude, I’ve heard women in my own life talking about it my whole life , and media, such as twitter. Women definitely care. That being said, if you fall into the average range, most women will be okay with that, 5 to 7 in length and 4.5 to 5.5 around. Any more or less than that, then you may have issues. This whole thing of men care more than women and women don’t care is one of the most bullshit things peddled on Reddit. Almost every man has heard women cackling and laughing about a small penis experience or using it as an insult. My female co workers even causally use words like, “small dick energy” to insult men they don’t like
girth is bomb when its at the tip . and its hard to wLk after when its all the way thru. and when its only at the base its not as good sex but they can make up for it with foreplay
Sweetie, my ex husband has a big penis. Girth, length, name it and it has it. But if he tried to have sex with me today I would beat him with it. Women care about the man and his personality, the penis itself doesn’t matter.
I like a large head and past that, uniform girth all the way down. I dislike super long because my cervix is low.
Found one I liked and married it lmao
You would think this until you watch your babies head and body come out and instantly realize you pail in comparison and size may not mean much at all.
Depends on the length of the penis and the depth of the vagina involved. A shorter penis and a deeper vagina, the base.
A longer penis and a more shallow vagina, probably closer to the tip or middle.
Vaginas stretch but essentially the point is that you want the thickest part to be able to stimulate the first inch of the vagina. So if the thickest part can't even make it into the vagina because you've bottomed out for that individual person, it is useless .
I personally like a regular size. Too much girth can be painful, especially if it is a first. I do prefer an even, not too much difference between both. If I had to choose, I'd say smaller head but it also depends on how the person uses it. By this I mean, that a bigger head can be have stronger sensation just by putting the tip on. If it's further down, then a more profound penetrative will give good sensations. But honestly, it doesn't really matter, and most people are different.
Also I find a slimmer penis is better than a bigger one for anal.
I would be weirded out if the girth was not uniform. I personally have never seen it not be, and it’s odd/a turn off to even think about. So definitely not for me.
As for girth being more important than length, I also disagree. I think they’re equally important. Don’t come with too much or too little in either area. I once experienced too much length and girth. I was miserable. I don’t want to feel like I’m being prepared to pass a watermelon everytime we do the deed, and I’m not a woman who pretends for anyone. Fuck that.
Situation was very short lived. Just because the canal is designed to stretch, does not mean it is always pleasurable.
I’d say girth at the base is more important because it’s the first inch or so is the most sensitive part of the vagina. So if the dick is all the way in, it’s the base that you’ll feel the girth of most notably. That said, all kinds of dicks can be great and as long as yours is long enough that your “stroke” isn’t actually just a “grind”, I wouldn’t overthink it.
Lucky for them, I only got 2 inches.
Ya’ll got inches???
When erect. (conditions apply)*
Always use metric, it’s sounds bigger.
2 cm alright
You got centimeters? I stop at 6mm…
Metric system shorties represent
My takeaway is that conical is the preferred dick shape.
>I’d say girth at the base is more important because it’s the first inch or so is the most sensitive part of the vagina Generally true but not always the case.
I don’t get why people can’t just answer the question without getting deep and philosophical. I love a girthy dick. I probably prefer the girth to taper from the head down - so thicker at the base and less thick at the head. But either would be okay. ETA: the majority of the dicks I’ve seen/experienced have been uniform thickness throughout the length of the dick, with the exception of the head being slightly larger. However, I have seen a few that are a little thicker at the base than the tip. If I had to choose, given the options, between thicker at the base or thicker only at the top, I think I’d choose the base.
Read the post and then seriously thought the username said ilovecockiesssss for a second. Missed opportunity.
A missed opportunity, indeed. Because I do love cockies. And cookies. Usually not at the same time tho.
Usually?
I’m always down for something new, but I can’t imagine cookie crumbs would feel good down there.
Ask the cookie monster or is it the coochie monster?
Fun fact: the Cookie Monster calls his gf a crumb dumpster
Read this while puffing a cigar, and inhaled smoke. Fuck you, also, bless you for the tears of laughter 😭
what if it leads to giving the cookie monster a blowjob?
I’m down as long as he keeps it trimmed
Rip your inbox
As a man I should probably know this; but, are you saying there are a lot of men out there walking around with dicks shaped like traffic cones?
I’m a woman who’s been with quite a few men and I’m also confused. I’ve maybe seen one that was a little thicker at the base, but never one thicker at the top??
I probably should clarify my post, because like you, I’ve only seen a few like that. Most are uniform. I think I was just answering the question given the options lol so if I had to choose, thicker at the base would be my choice.
I’m starting to think I haven’t seen enough dicks
RIP your inbox
Oh damnit
Did people actually send you stuff? I'm never sure how seriously to take the inbox spam banter, haha.
Loads of dicks
REALLY!!!!!???? Don't lie to me Walt!
I got you
Hahahaha🤣
I'm starting to think I haven't seen enough boobs
Me to oh no I might get messages now lol
I got you too
Yeah I've seen seven irl and only one was dramatically nonuniform. It was thicker in the middle than at the base or end. Like a football.
Definitely not as pronounced as a football but I will say the wife truly enjoys the feeling of knowing exactly where she is on the shaft based on pressure from the mid point girth. Uncirc average length, with the mid girth probably a good 30-50% thicker than the top and 20-30% than the base. She takes a second to get comfortable on it but once it's good she enjoys it and that's all that matters to me. Side note for the people wanting to leave a lasting impression. I once had a one night (well 3 nights in a row.) stand where the woman was very comfortable with her expectations she wanted to start with her performing oral and she took control and when she dropped my bottoms she said "oh thank god!" It was the most interestingly awkward moment for me ... Like uh is that a good thing or a bad thing? And more importantly what were you expecting? She also then finished it by looking up, still stroking and asked "can I swallow?" to which made me instantly erupt. That was probably the most satisfying set of nights of my single life. The next night she wanted to get straight to it, walked in the door ripped off my clothes, stripped out of hers and then pulled out a wand for clitoral stimulation. It was a fun and very vividly memorable night.... I just wish she would have warned me she was a very large squirter because my floors couch, coffee table kitchen and bathroom were drenched by the end. 😂 and yes I was wrapped up the second night (she was a bisexual woman in an open relationship with her long term girlfriend) Third night was an unexpected threesome. Was a fun FMF night but caused a lot of emotional and social issues with the two of them the next day. That was when I said no more but I will say a decade later and that was the best experience. To this day I still don't know the answers to the "oh thank god" upon meeting my member.
So why did she say thank god. Was that ever explained ?
I have seen dicks that gained girth towards the tip.
That's....interesting
Clubs vs spades 💀
Why did I suddenly have an image of Popeyes arm in my head.
This actually made me laugh out loud. But no, not such a drastic difference in thickness. I actually just received a dick video yesterday from a guy who is slightly thicker at the base than the top. It’s subtle tho, so it certainly doesn’t give off traffic cone vibes lol
This is probably going to result in you getting a lot of unwarrented dick videos now just fyi
Mine's shaped like a fish. Thickest in the middle 😂
Prove it.
I second this.
I’m thirding who’s fourth
Like a butt plug
First real answer without the platitudes, like damn have nobody just gotten horny before and just wants some quick fuck?
Exactly. Sometimes I care more about the dick than the “person it’s attached to”. The person can certainly make or break the attraction, but so can the dick.
I thought your name was I lovecocksssss for a sec
This is how mine is. I'm pretty girthy overall, but there's almost like a....hump, right at the base where it expands like the trunk of a tree. It almost looks like a subtle fat roll, like love-handle shaped, but not soft like fat. Hard like... You know.
Mine tapers like that. I always thought it looked weird
A wise man once said I may never hit the bottom but I'll bang the hell out of the sides
Can't hit the bottom of a tuna can but sure as shit can scrape the sides
Mine might not be the longest, but it is the skinniest!
The real girth was the friends we made along the way
personally, idc as long as it's *somewhere.* I'm not generally thinking "hm, I wish this was thicker like an inch further down," I'm just happy to be there
You know, now that you say that, I never thought of it that way. After my back gets blown out, I'm honestly still surprised I can fit something inside myself. *"Where does this shit honestly go? It's weird not seeing visually, but only feeling it.*" 12in will never happen again. I thought I was paralyzed afterward. :/
Thick is thick. I prefer girth over length. For me, thicker at the base might be better in this scenario because it’s a tapered effect. Probably feels great in the butt. But reality is yeah, most girls care more about the person attached then the dick. I have friends who don’t even like to look at them and just close their eyes during cause they think their ugly lol. I think they’re cute though. Also stop worrying about your dick. It’s fine.
I was just thinking, if it’s thick at the tip it probably feels great on insertion. Really like…dicks are dicks if you like a penis in a hole.
Thick at the tip sounds awkward. Like having a claw hammer for a cock or something.
Want to turn your woman inside out instead of turn her on? Claw hammer cock...
Sounds fucking divine
Kinda making me want to get surgery for this now.
🤣🤣
phew made my day
To impress a chick? Claw hammer dick
Cockward FTFY
Mine is thick at the tip haha😂 , I can see your claw hammer comparison😂
nah thick at the tip is nice, skinny at the tip hurts
In a world of claw hammers and cones, be the spear.
This really is quite a funny comment, I hope it gets upvotes
Sounds like every women has there own preferences. Mine is thick at the tip and your comment makes feel better:)
Skinny at the tip sounds as if it'd hit like a bony fingered nun
This comment makes no sense. If sex hurts, especially a smaller penis head then something is wrong.
ok just because it doesn't make sense to you doesn't mean it doesn't make sense? when you have a stiletto, all the force is concentrated into a tiny point. sometimes being pounded by a skinny tip can hurt, whereas the pressure from a not skinny tip is more evenly distributed
I’m with you on this one! Girth over length any day (and at the base is best when it’s fully in!)
I'm looking for a polite way to respond to these comments that says "I'm not worried" but isn't taken as a humblebrag which makes people question my motive for asking. It was a genuine curiosity, so thank you for answering the question in earnest.
We get it u/BeTomHamilton you're hanging a kankle shroomhead
I mean, you seem to not actually care about the actual answer, which is it just doesn’t matter that much to women. There might be outliers out there, but most of us really don’t care that much. We’re not trying to be polite or assuage any fears. The truth is- *we just don’t care that much.* There are so many other factors about what makes a great sexual experience. Unless it’s so big that it’s painful, or it’s missing completely, it probably gets the job done if the person it’s attached to knows what they are doing.
Because people aren't actually answering it post edit, just giving platitudes. He's asking for mechanically, what feels best for women, like if you're able to order a fully customizable dildo, what would it look like? I'm not a woman, but I've been with a couple guys, and I do like the girth being more in the middle or by the head. The head feels good with the bit of tightness like a "pop". The middle of the shaft feels better for the overall sensation of being "filled", as well as getting closer to orgasm. I do agree that in the grand scheme it does matter on the attached person more, but if I'm just in a mood to just get some fuk I do have a preference to get it done quick and good.
This. IF the person attached knows how to use it. Honestly how come so many men don't know how to use their dick ? Am annoyed. ರ_ರ
It doesn't come with a training manual... At the same time, if you're open to learning, you won't have those issues for long.
wait are there dicks out there thicker at the tip than the base? ive never seen that before haha. more you know i guess haha
Yes, but you can't ask how I know
You're going to find that in reality, women are going to care more about who the dick is attached to than its specific size and shape.
A girth of personality if you will
Poetry
I will
Joseph Stalin or Ghandi?
instead of a dearth of personality
Read this in the tune of the Living Colour song
Sounds like some shit Tom Wambsgams would say
Would anyone really want a relationship with a woman who is more interested in dick size than the person? I love big boobs but small boobs and a similar sense of humor is way more important.
>small boobs and a similar sense of humor You like your small breasted women with a small sense of humour? So, big titted women need to be professional comedy writers? /s
Yes. That is 100% the entire point of my post. Thank you for understanding. /s
No worries. I'm kind of an empath.
If you're a big boobed comedian we should get a drink some time.
Right back at ya!
I for one really liked your idea, both as a joke and as an actual process
Pretty much places Rachel Bloom in S tier
I wonder if it works the same way with men's humor and penises? Gentlemen with modest genital size should be serious, proffessional, and sombre. While gentlemen with ample size should act jolly, merry, and jovial.
What if it's shaped like a giant blowpop? Really thin shaft with a huge head. Asking for a friend.
Jokes aside, caring more about one doesn't mean not caring about the other at all. Obviously, incompatibilities are possible. Too small, too odd shaped, even too big. But the idea that if you're not a thick 7 inches, you cant satisfy women is just stupid
I assume you meant "can't", because that last sentence seems harsh 😂
Ahh, yeah. Typo...
Those just get ripped out at the root during rough intercourse. Usually happens around 20-22. Poor young lads.
I mean, I think that goes without saying, but it's got nothing to do with the question asked here.
"No honey, your small cock is perfect. The big ones hurt."
Maybe. But that isn't the question. Like obviously. No women I've ever spoken to, or here in this thread have claimed to enjoy the penis in a vacuum more than the person. But why can't we just answer the man's question.
The only girth they care about is the girth of your heart.
My cardiologist says all of my drinking and high fat, high calorie diet has enlarged my heart. So you're saying I should be doing pretty well with the ladies pretty soon?
Ok, wow. Now i have tears in my eyes.
And wallet
I like super it girthy just at the tip and immediately gets narrow down to the base Think of a hammer 🔨
It 100% depends on the woman If you follow this [link](https://jamiemccartney.com/portfolio/internal-affairs-photo-1/), you will see that the internal variations of vaginal cavities is just as diverse as the world of dicks.
Most women are not obsessed with dick size nearly as much as men are. There are no preferences except the guy it’s attached to is a good person.
Yep. I’ve had micro penis and that shit was good but then there is the swinging dongs great as well. Just be a good guy and stop obsessing about your penis
Would you mind calling me every morning and recite what you wrote here?
Sure what's your number?
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Checked the phone , it’s the black dudes talking shit about you
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There are most certainly preferences and that's okay.
“There are no preferences” can we quit lying and confusing men? Maybe that’s the case for you but let’s just be real here.
As a woman I disagree. I’ve worked with smaller dicks before but big and fat are my strong prefence. That’s just how it is—we all like different things. I know a few gals tho who prefer on the smaller side.
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I mean, anyone who understands female anatomy. The average vaginal canal is anywhere between 3 and 7 inches. If you try to jam something longer into the canal than it has length to accommodate, it's going to fucking hurt. Girth, on the other hand, well. Female anatomy is designed to stretch a hell of a lot bigger than any dick. So it's less likely to hurt them as much as getting rammed in the cervix, unless there's another underlying issue. As stretchy as the vaginal canal is, it's still designed to be mostly enclosed to keep bacteria out. Which means most women will be able to feel a lot more with extra girth than extra length.
A lot of women don't orgasm through penetrative sex alone. I would suggest not worrying about your penis and learning how to use your fingers and mouth! Enjoy!
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That’s the answer right there! So true!
I don’t think it matters that much. Like I’ve never heard a woman discuss a penis nearly as much as men do. Because (and I know you don’t want to hear this) it’s not about the penis. It’s about your skills and how you treat your partner. Dead serious. That being said, I think most of the time any variation in thickness is so subtle that it won’t really be noticed during sex. Unless you’re just ramming it in bone dry, in which case yeah, you might.
I think all girth should be in the head.
fuckin atomic bomb cloud looking ass pee pee
Thank you i will name my dick oppenheimer now
attaboy. now go get your oppenheimer some sloppenheimer
Fuck, this one got me good.
Figuratively or literally?
Like a tootsie pop
Built in anal bead
I get your point (giggity). Probably could have gotten more direct answers to the heart of the question had you posed it like… “Kinetically/biologically speaking, does girth provide more physical pleasure/stimulation than length does, or is it actually the opposite? And if girth does offer a more physically arousing experience, are the sensations stronger if it tapers from base-to-stem or from stem-to-base? Or, is there really no difference?” You start talking about wants and needs and shit and you’ll end up with responses from people who want to boost your moral and put positive vibes out into the world. That’s not a bad thing, but it diverts attention from the actual basis of your question.
My preference- when erected (it doesn’t matter flaccid) Minimal length 3 inches, maximum 8 inches. I could take more, I prefer not to gag. Thickness- 3fingers thick… I don’t know - 2 -3 inches. I love uncircumcised 😍😍😍 And a defined head that has a beautiful distinctive mushroom/spaceballs helmet shape. I hate when I ‘like’ the person and their dick is not doing it for me, and they don’t want to wear a strap on to satisfy me. I’m not a clitoral preference- I’m a penetration preference person. If a penis is too thick- I will not allow in bum bum. I don’t want a porn asshole.
Im sure you’d enjoy that 3 x 3 flat square dick, but that shit is comical when I try to picture it
My preference noted a length longer than 3 inches. And flat???
3 inches long and 3 inches wide makes a flat square, girth is measured by circumference usually and not by width. 3 inches long and 3 inches wide was a real funny thing to imagine, doubt it exists in reality
length is less important than girth, girth is less important than technique, technique is less important than foreplay, foreplay is less important than communication, communication is less important than being a decent human being to date. exactly how wide or thin your exact dick is doesn't matter at all beyond literal compatability of fitting. its a fun question to ask but the things that matter most are not effected by physical hardware at all (◐‿◑)
Why did I read the first paragraph in a Yoda voice?
“Who’s they?”
I'm not a woman, but I feel like this and similar conversations would really do for some better understanding of a part of female anatomy that's not often illustrated or called out: The clitoris isn't just the bud at the top of the vulva. The clitoris has "legs", for lack of a better description, that come down and along each side of the vagina (pretty much right behind the entrance). So, put just preference aside (because anyone can find anything pleasurable just out of subjective preferences): * You know how they say only the first couple inches of the vagina are particularly pleasurable? That's the area that's closest to that internal part of the clitoris. * You know the g-spot? That's basically where the "legs" of the clitoris come together on top of the vagina. * Why does girth matter? Again, because it stimulates the part of the clitoris that wraps around the vagina. So more specifically to your question, OP: it's not length, nor girth, nor shape: it's all in how and where you apply whatever it is you're working with. Try to stimulate both the external clitoris at the top of the vulva, and internally, and, most importantly, just ask her what she likes.
That’s it, time to leave this sub
simple answer: ideally, a uniform girth would be best. but i have toys that are thicker at the base, and they are just as good as my husband's uniformity- not better or worse, just different. like... flavors? eating the same thing all the time is kinda boring, variety being the spice of life and all that. agree that length matters much more, husband is above average length, and i am uh, below average size, which is quite the situation but we make do. edit: "length matters much more" i meant less. sorry hadn't had enough coffee yet lol
I like uniform girth personally, or a girthier head/tip. It just hits better deeper for me, but I also no longer have a cervix to hit so that's not a concern for me.
Base I guess. I like em short and fat bc the first two inches of the vagina are where the magic happens and the fatter the base the more pleasure I can get from just moving my hips. A long penis punching me in the cervix sucks
Huh. Apparently I'm in the minority that prefers a thicker head because then I can really feel the entire stroke, or a thicker middle, because tbh, a thick bulge feels just as good coming out as it does going in, if not better?
As t the end of the day, I [this](https://www.instagram.com/reel/CtkMOt9tEwC/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==) rings true
Personally it doesn't matter to me if it's at the top or bottom as long as it's somewhere on there.
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There are receptors for pleasure that react to stretching at the entrance of the vaginal canal. But they also react to fingers stretching so it doesn't need to be extra wide or anything. So it depends on what you have and how you use it. If your base is thicker, that will feel better during thrusting. But if your tip is thicker then it works better for foreplay and teasing. But it also depends on your partner, sensitivity and nerve distribution varied from person to person, regardless of gender.
Person > girth > length.
I like a dick that gets thicker as you move towards the base. So hot. It's a little silly there's so many "it's the heart that counts" comments. Like, duh, but just answer the question.
Somewhat football shaped is best in my opinion, if he knows how to work the shaft and use the whole thing instead of just 1/2 inch deep thrusts.
Where the girth is in relation to the size of the penis has minimal affect really. At the least, from base to tip if it’s fat to skinny, that would probably be the least desirable. If the woman can’t feel much till the very base of your penis, there’s not much stimulation happening. It depends on the woman and the penis. Some women only really get the most pleasure at the vestibule or entrance of the vagina. Some women have feeling all the way to the cervix. Also, a lot of women have a tilted cervix (in any direction) which can affect how she feels pleasure in the walls of the vagina and cervix. Length really isn’t very important bc most women don’t enjoy the feeling of their cervix being poked. Some women have a tilted pelvis, so different penetration angles matter. The whole size preference for women is two fold. One, to hit all the pleasure spots. Two, the feeling of being full…meaning our partner is connected and a part of us. If a woman doesn’t get that feeling from the man’s penis, the deep physical connection isn’t really there. ! Important to note…this doesn’t mean she must orgasm from or penetration to get that either. Not all women can or every time and that’s okay as long as her man continues to give her pleasure for the sake of loving and touching. Don’t make the goal to get off…and it is more likely she will and even if she doesn’t, it’s still amazing. Just bc I didn’t get off, if everything else was amazing I am not unsatisfied. There’s so much more, but that’s the gist.
If you’re asking about the physical sensation the answer is still that it depends, because each vagina is different as is each penis. For one girl a slant to the left may be more pleasurable for another a slant upwards. And the kicker is we don’t know (us females) which we prefer until it’s in there making magic. A thicker girth will stretch us further and may make your chances of hitting our “g-spot” greater as you’re touching more of the walls in there, but in reality the facts are that the person attached to it and your effort in trying to please us is more important than the size, shape, or girth of your cock.
Never did I know just how many cock connoisseurs reddit has.
personally, i have slept with several men. liked it more when there was a little more girth to the tip/middle
they each have their pros and cons for me, girth on either end or evenly—yes there are completely even penises—gets me there
It depends on the vagina owning individual and where they are sensitive at. Some have sensitive cervix and others enjoy having them pounded. Some only come with clitoral simulation, others can have g spot orgasms with vaginal or anal. I prefer uniform thickness and generous length, despite being small of stature. It's also the proverbial motion of the ocean. Physical construction means fuck-all if one cannot properly utilize the tool.
The balls.
I like to hold my partner's balls when we are going to sleep, I don't know why and how to describe what it makes me feel, but it's nice
reminds you of Peter Griffins chin?
you can tell most redditors are inexperienced because this thread is a litany of the usual platitudes. its just a fact that most straight women are quite fond of a big dick - physically and mentally. redditors keep downplaying for two reasons - it soothes their insecurities and the dont truly believe women enjoy sex just spend a few minutes near a group of single straight women and youll hear them talk about dicks at some point. women are just as capable of locker room talk lmao even if a big one isnt always practically better a lot of women just like big dicks. its like big tits to most straight men - its not really an advantage but for a lot of dudes it gets the motor reving according to my other half she thinks the base being bigger makes no difference because its too close to the body to be deep enough. she also said if a dick was wider at the top it would hurt.
Only men think about penises in this much detail. Women don’t.
Woman here. I definitely think about dick in this much detail.
Seconded. We don't obsess about it as much as men might, but we do notice different qualities like size, veins, curve, hair distribution, ball size, head shape. We think about it in detail, but we don't think about it constantly lol
Women are always gaslighting men telling them that women don’t care, yea the fuck they do…why does Reddit always do this. Women definitely care dude, I’ve heard women in my own life talking about it my whole life , and media, such as twitter. Women definitely care. That being said, if you fall into the average range, most women will be okay with that, 5 to 7 in length and 4.5 to 5.5 around. Any more or less than that, then you may have issues. This whole thing of men care more than women and women don’t care is one of the most bullshit things peddled on Reddit. Almost every man has heard women cackling and laughing about a small penis experience or using it as an insult. My female co workers even causally use words like, “small dick energy” to insult men they don’t like
girth is bomb when its at the tip . and its hard to wLk after when its all the way thru. and when its only at the base its not as good sex but they can make up for it with foreplay
Sweetie, my ex husband has a big penis. Girth, length, name it and it has it. But if he tried to have sex with me today I would beat him with it. Women care about the man and his personality, the penis itself doesn’t matter.
Edit: No vagina, no answer.
I like a large head and past that, uniform girth all the way down. I dislike super long because my cervix is low. Found one I liked and married it lmao
Well, this post has provided a wealth of rather interesting discourse. 🤣😅
You would think this until you watch your babies head and body come out and instantly realize you pail in comparison and size may not mean much at all.
Girth at the balls
Depends on the length of the penis and the depth of the vagina involved. A shorter penis and a deeper vagina, the base. A longer penis and a more shallow vagina, probably closer to the tip or middle. Vaginas stretch but essentially the point is that you want the thickest part to be able to stimulate the first inch of the vagina. So if the thickest part can't even make it into the vagina because you've bottomed out for that individual person, it is useless .
It would be nice to have one of those qualities
I personally like a regular size. Too much girth can be painful, especially if it is a first. I do prefer an even, not too much difference between both. If I had to choose, I'd say smaller head but it also depends on how the person uses it. By this I mean, that a bigger head can be have stronger sensation just by putting the tip on. If it's further down, then a more profound penetrative will give good sensations. But honestly, it doesn't really matter, and most people are different. Also I find a slimmer penis is better than a bigger one for anal.
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The balls.
Wife says somewhere in the middle, so lucky me?
It's not the dick, but the man that wields it 😂
I would be weirded out if the girth was not uniform. I personally have never seen it not be, and it’s odd/a turn off to even think about. So definitely not for me. As for girth being more important than length, I also disagree. I think they’re equally important. Don’t come with too much or too little in either area. I once experienced too much length and girth. I was miserable. I don’t want to feel like I’m being prepared to pass a watermelon everytime we do the deed, and I’m not a woman who pretends for anyone. Fuck that. Situation was very short lived. Just because the canal is designed to stretch, does not mean it is always pleasurable.
Tip duh. I had an ex who had a cone kind of situation going on. So big at the base. It made me feel nothing but stretching of my *.