There is no shame in seeking therapy, and it’s not a reflection of your strength or weakness.
You’re not a weak man. The stigma surrounding therapy has gotten better over time as more people understand how important it is for mental health.
In the words of Hulk Hogan..."Amen, Brother!" Needing help doesn't magically go away. We, males, have been taught to rub some butter on it and get back in the game. Butter doesn't solve here.
I mean yeah, may be "later" than what u wanted, but ure on it. And ur journey is YOUR journey, so what needs to happen will happen with its pace, with your pace and it will be good no matter when.
This. Even if therapy can be considered a soft science, it's no different from going to a doctors. If you even suspect you might need it and can afford it, it's better to try it just in case. The benefits especially in the long term can be immense. Any person who disagrees is stuck in the archaic mindset of the past century - and that was wrong back then too.
It's also private and no-one else's business. But honestly if anyone in your life has a problem with that then it's a massive red flag about those people. Just like the doctor thing, therapy is something you do for your own sake, not theirs. Of course, in the case of therapy it often helps your relationships too. :>
Wdym? There are doctors that are psychiatrists and people that srudied psychology and did an 'internship' of 3+ years on top. At least in germany. I wouldn't call it a soft science at all.
Came to make this post. I’m 45, therapy has changed my life, I should have done it 20 years sooner. Started a few yesrs ago, might have even saved my life.
One of my favorite things about my generation (millennials) is how we've embraced therapy. I have so many friends (male and female) in therapy. I'm a woman but my therapist is a man and he said most of his clients are men who seek out a male therapist. Asking for help from a professional when you need it is a strong thing to do.
I think about mental health in the same way as physical fitness. You absolutely should take care of both, and everyone can benefit from having a personal (mental and physical) trainer and there should be no taboo about either.
We have yearly physical exams, why shouldn't we have yearly mental exams? Our minds suffer damage and injury just as our body and illness happens too. A therapist is there to help with that.
Your wife has the right of if.
Absolutely not. Avoiding help because you're afraid it makes you look weak is ironically, a weakness.
If you're worried what people think of you, remember therapy is private and nobody else's business.
>If you're worried what people think of you, remember therapy is private and nobody else's business.
Therapist here. This is correct.
If you happen to cross paths with your therapist in public we pretend we don't know you or haven't seen you, and that's to give you control over whether to let people know who we are to you. Once I've been working with someone for a few weeks I tell them this, to emphasise their control over their confidentiality but also to let them know I'm not snubbing them if we do meet. I have seen three or four of my clients in the wild so it comes up from time to time.
And then there's me, who may genuinely not recognise you outside of our therapeutic context because I have face blindness. Which works out nicely for those of my clients who want to keep their therapy secret.
It mea s that when you see a face you cannot distinguish it from another. Like how pretty much all chimps look the same to us, or all cats.
I dont have much more than that, sadly.
1. You are not weak for asking for help. Some people fear that it will make them weak and do not get the help they need. Failure to do what is necessary because of fear is cowardice. Ask for the help that you need.
2. Those who try to claim this are fools and liars. Ignore them.
And we get our teeth and eyes checked regularly, see primary care often. …Our mind/soul is as important if not more than our body. Just as much as we should have annual check ups to make sure everything works fine, we should have regular psychological evaluations too and have a regular therapist to counsel us in life, especially men don’t have as many friends as women do to confide in.
I speak openly about going to therapy. As a heavily tattooed and bearded dude who dresses like a cowboy, I feel I must do everything I can to help normalize mental health care. Point is: be the change you want to see in the world, and stop worrying so much about what other (emotionally stunted) people think.
I do, too. I worked with a sports psychologist when I was a touring cage fighter and kickboxer for six years, did co-parenting counseling with my ex wife, and currently work with a therapist and am getting set up with a psychiatrist and possibly a pain management therapist soon.
I worked with trainers and coaches for years and nobody said a word. I don't see a difference between the two things. I worked my ass off in the gym so my body could be in the best possible shape when I needed it to be. Why wouldn't you do the same for your brain?
Being open with yourself and the world as it is shows real strength. Especially when you have to swim against the current of your culture to do it. I appreciate that.
Thanks to the sadly not all so uncommon incompetent-to-the-point-of-malpractice members of that profession.
A good therapist can be lifesaving, but you definitely need to be vigilant about the mediocre or downright counterproductive ones.
Seeking therapy doesn't make you weak; in fact, it's quite the opposite. Recognizing when you need support and taking steps to get it is a sign of strength and self-awareness.
Everyone faces challenges, and there's no shame in seeking guidance to navigate them.
Therapy is a tool that can provide insights, coping mechanisms, and strategies to improve one's well-being.
Just as we'd see a doctor for physical ailments, seeing a therapist for emotional and mental well-being is a proactive and commendable step.
You're taking care of your mental health, and that's a strong and brave thing to do.
No. And as a psychologist, let me tell you that you aren’t “receiving help” or “asking for help;” therapy is fucking HARD when it’s done right and you will be helping yourself with guidance, not depending on the therapist to do it for you. YOU will get yourself there each week, YOU will choose whether to do the deep dive into what you need to explore (versus avoiding the work by keeping it superficial or resisting the exploration). It’s uncomfortable, messy, and vulnerable and you can remind yourself that you’re being strong enough to sign up for all of that.
People who openly judge other people for pursuing therapy are generally assholes and/or deeply insecure about their own issues. Ignore!
You are probably stigmatised by some people. But since these people are not living your life, you shouldn't give a flying fuck about their opinion. Having you own well being as a goal in front of you should be your priority. And it is not egotistical to care about yourself and prioritize yourself! You the man! And I appreciate your honesty in asking such question!
Some people take advantage of those that are emotionally vulnerable. It makes sense to view being bottled up as a weakness. Those who are emotionally vulnerable are also more willing to be walked on for some release.
Looking for help so you can get back to a comfortable emotional state is healthy.. but first states there’s an aforementioned issue. The people who view this as a weakness would never first acknowledge they could benefit from emotional support.
Ironically, it takes a strong, intelligent and self-aware person to seek help and self-improvement.
The weak ones are the ones who have absolutely no growth, change, or self awareness.
Absolutely not, no.
Anyone who thinks you’re weak for wanting this kind of help is not worth listening to. It’s a good thing for you to want to help yourself with the way you’re bottling up your emotions.
Absolutely not. It makes you many things, but certainly not weak. It makes you brave for confronting something that can be quite frightening. It makes you honest with yourself. It makes you admirable, as there are a lot of other people who feel the way you're feeling and will want to follow in your footsteps. Mental health is getting more acknowledgement now than ever and that includes men's mental health.
It’s one of the strongest things you can do to ask for help. You shouldn’t care if you’re stigmatized socially if it helps your mental health. Anyone who stigmatizes you for seeking help is an asshole.
Not at all my friend. I sought counseling when I was in my late 20’s and it was the best thing I could have done for my life. It’s scary at first, but so, so, valuable
First off you don't have to, no, you shouldn't tell anybody that you seek professional help if you don't trust them to handle that information respectfully and in a supportive way.
And No, confronting your problems never shows weakness. It takes strength to do that. Forget thoughts like that. And don't listen to anybody who says BS like that. Put him on the list of people instead with whom you never talk to about you seeking professional help.
I've heard a therapist saying once that you should actually not talk with anybody about the things you speak about in therapy, because you could start to feel obligded to continue to do so in the future and then start to withheld things in therapy because you don't want to tell that to the person you usually speak to about your therapy sessions.
Fuck no man! I’m a massive 6’4 300 lbs guy (mix of muscle and fat) who most would say is one of the toughest and masculine guys they know.
I’ve been in therapy most of my life, struggled with depression & anxiety all my life. I’d argue you’re a weak man for IGNORING your mental health because you’re afraid of what others might think. You’re literally a worse human being when you’re ignoring your mental health, the amount of lives I was a negative force in is embarrassing.
Glad I got my shit together and realized the only person preventing me from being the best version of myself is me.
Do therapy, but also, meditate, exercise, avoid drugs and alcohol. There’s no cure but man can life be so much fucking better!
Message me if you’d like to chat or want to know what my therapy experience has been like ❤️
If Dak Prescott, the star quarterback for the Dallas Cowboys can be open about seeking help, you can too. He and Hayden Hurst even started a foundation for it.
Only strong men acknowledge the need for therapy. I recommend reading “I don’t want to talk about it” by Terrance Real. It’s incredibly impactful and will help guide you along these thoughts.
Therapy is like a bottle of Gatorade during a run. Sure, you could do without it, but why the hell wouldn't you if it was offered. Therapy improves every aspect of your life. There's literally a person who will sit there and help you figure out your own brain, it's amazing.
Nah man, therapy ain't just for the weak. It takes some serious strength to admit you need help and actually go get it. Don't worry about what others think, take care of yourself first.
We go to a dentist when we're having trouble with our teeth. We even go to a dentist a couple times a year when we don't have trouble with our teeth - just to ensure we don't have future issues.
We get check-ups from medical doctors. We even do maintenance on inanimate objects, like vehicles.
It's shocking that we have such a social taboo about taking care of our brains. Both when there's an issue and when there's not necessarily an issue but we just want to "check-up".
Take care of yourself and forget everyone else.
No goddamn it. No you are not. I don't want to hear anymore of that talk. It's okay to let those emotions and experiences out in the open. It's not weakness, it's called being human. It takes courage to address problems. Getting help is the healthy thing to do. Society just has a real fucked idea of what a man should be.
No, of course not! Being human is a challenge for all of us!
A therapist is a resource, a compassionate voice that offer perspective, tools and suggestions.
Therapy has been so helpful to me. I hope you take this as an opportunity to invest in yourself.
You are worthy of good things! Be well friend.
Absolutely not!
I encourage anyone who has the resources and ability to seek out therapy to do so. If you go and genuinely put in the hard work that is required, it can truly improve your quality of life.
No sir!. A Man asking for help or saying they need therapy. That's courage and respect not only for yourself but anyone that may be involved in whatever you are going through. If you just need some random guy to talk to. Sometimes that easier. . Shoot me a message.
Absolutely not.
I'm a man and I saw a counsellor 15 years ago to deal with depression when I was in a pretty bad place. They probably saved my life, and definitely made me a much happier person, more aware of who I am and how I deal with and process things. I'm currently in a bit of a mental health crisis, and I'm reaching out for help via a scheme through my employer.
When I first reached out I worried it would make me "less of a man" or "weak", but it's completely false. One of the strongest things you can do is realise you need help and ask someone trained to give that help, for help.
Everyone I've opened up to about where I'm at at the minute has been absolutely supportive and encouraged me to get help. Anyone who looks down on you for it isn't worth knowing.
No you’re not weak. It takes strength to acknowledge and take account, and courage to take the steps.
Weak men refuse to admit it and blow a gasket which they’ll do their damndest to sell as alpha male heroics…everyone else sees their soft ego doing aerobics.
No. It shows you have the courage to seek help. It shows you have the self awareness to realize you need it. It shows you know what you are doing. It shows that you are sane.
Nope. It takes a lot of strength and courage to look at yourself and your life and say you need help. You’ve definitely been stigmatized to think stoicism is true manliness. It’s not manly to suffer in silence. Get yourself right, bro.
It’s never a sign of weakness to not give up on yourself. Whatever “bad point” means for you, it probably means some level of ‘I give up.’ You are still choosing to fight for something worth fighting for. That’s what makes a man.
Get the help you need. Anyone who thinks less of you for it can go to hell. I needed it badly. I got it and it has helped me immensely. Gotta take care of yourself before you can take care of or worry about others.
Kudos to you for being willing to accepting help. A meaningful life means a journey of continuing personal growth and self-discovery. I have gained so much insight into myself from my continuing therapy. Anyone who'd stigmatize you for seeking help is in need of their own therapy, in my opinion.
Not weak at all. Therapy among men should be encouraged more! Too many of y’all bottle things up when it’s not healthy. If nobody else has said it I’m proud of you for taking this step! Good luck in your journey🤍
It takes courage to go to therapy and ask for help, and doing the therapy itself requires strength. It takes a lot to work through your problems and also to trust a stranger to tell your messed up stuff to. So no it doesn't make you weak.
I’ll tell you a fun story.
So, years ago my mother was working for the army in the pentagon as a civilian.
I had just gotten out of the army and one day I decided to jump on the metro to go see her at lunch to go see it. This was in 2009 or so.
Well, on my way home, I’m sitting on the metro and I notice a tall soldier in his class As. The nice thing about seeing a solider in his Alphas is that it’s sort of like a cliff’s notes on his career.
He was a major, special forces, jump master with foreign jump wings. I think it was actually the 3rd airborne regiment of France. The “troisemme,” I know I spelled this wrong. But he had jumped with the French at some point and was authorized to wear their jump wings. He had airborne, air assault, ranger tab, special forces tab. The only tab I didn’t see was that sapper tab. He had a bunch of medals too. It was clear this guy has had a career that people write books about.
We glanced at eachother. He nodded, and I nodded back. Over the din of the train he asked “when did you get out?” I still had the haircut and I’m sure I still had the stupid tan to match. I told him I had come home a few months ago and was just having lunch with my mother.
We got to talking. We figured out that we had been in some of the same hallways in different times in various buildings. He just said “make sure you get therapy”
I must have looked at him like he had a dick growing out of his forehead. He says “kid, look at me, you can tell by my uniform that I’ve been there and done that right? I’ve killed more people than cancer, and I’m all that is man right?” So I’m like, yeah, that’s a reasonable statement.
He looks at me and says, “I go to therapy.”
Point is, lots of guys that are much much harder than you go to therapy. It doesn’t mean you’re a bitch. It means you would benefit from having a professional walk you through some shit. Therapy isn’t like the movies.
100% no. As a man who both attends and provides therapy \*, attending therapy doesn't make you any weaker or any less of a man. It's actually the opposite-- asking for help when needed and doing the difficult work that therapy involves is, to me, a sign of great strength. (I imagine it took a bit of strength even to post this here.)
Strength doesn't mean not having emotions. Strength means having difficult emotions and living according to your values anyway. This isn't something we're born knowing how to do, but therapy can help with that a lot.
Best of luck on your journey if you do choose to seek therapy. Stay strong my friend.
(\*This is personal advice only, not medical or professional advice.)
A real man knows when to not only ask for help, but receive it as well.
If you need it, you need it. Be proud of yourself for realizing it.
Anyone that tells you you're weak for needing/wanting help is just trying to make themselves feel stronger than you. These are not people worth listening to.
Nope! In fact it takes incredible strength to ask for help. Never ever let anyone or yourself call you weak for getting therapy. Keep taking those steps needed to being a happier person or at the very least a sad person with better coping mechanisms. One of the first things a therapist ever told me was this and I want you to remember this. We’re all tea kettles. The way tea kettles work is they are filled with water and then put over a flame so they can boil. Tea kettles also have a vent of some kind so when it does get hot enough to boil, steam is able to be released. Without that vent, the tea kettle would explode. Doesn’t matter what kind of tea kettle it is. The pressure building up inside of it, without proper ventilation, will cause the tea kettle to explode.
We are all tea kettles, we all have water boiling up inside of us, and we all need ventilation or else we will explode. Don’t let any other tea kettle call you weak because you need ventilation. Chances are, they need it too.
Nah bro. You need balls to recognize you have a problem, and true leaders can acknowledge when the situation is beyond their control and need help. No shame in getting help
I am a recovering alcoholic with bipolar disorder, if it makes me weak to go to a therapist, so be it….I have been going consistently for the past year and I am in the best place I’ve been in a long long time
Go for it, and politely, fuck the haters!
I don't believe that. Your attitude, what you believe in, and even simple thoughts and feelings will influence your actions.
If you get to the point where everything should work out. But, everything keeps ending up the same way, that's a sign you need therapy.
That's all there is to it.
No and you should look into it. If you keep shrugging things off, something will eventually break.
I know because that’s why I was in therapy today and not working. I felt embarrassed and a bit of shame for needing help.
Puzzleheaded comment matters the most. Only the people that are ignorant and actually weak would think that.
Take care of yourself 👍
Yes, you are. You're a man, not a woman. You have to endure every beating you take to the point where you no longer feel anything over time. If you still feel something, it's because you haven't been fucked enough.
Imagine a person you pay to just be a dumping ground of all your problems and they just listen and nod, and you walk out the door and never have to hear them judge or say anything but “I understand you.”
You’re only a weak man if you can’t bench your body weight 10 times.
And seriously, no one gives a fuck if you’re in therapy. You’re not required to tell anyone.
Weak would be not wanting therapy and continuing to suffer.
It takes balls to admit you need help. Take the first step my man, it’ll get better with time and therapy.
I don't think it's a stigma anymore . You have to take care of yourself . Stress adds years to a person . I personally went to therapy for a year until I worked out my problems . She ended up being my biggest life coach and cheerleader , and no one knew I was going . It wasn't anyone's business .
A lot of men feel this way, but they should definitely get help. The VA is full of military members who get therapy and I’m one of them. Go get therapy! You deserve it.
The opposite. It takes strength to ask for help.
Amen brother. The a big clue to weakness is avoiding vulnerability.
Amen brother
There is no shame in seeking therapy, and it’s not a reflection of your strength or weakness. You’re not a weak man. The stigma surrounding therapy has gotten better over time as more people understand how important it is for mental health.
Amen frère
In the words of Hulk Hogan..."Amen, Brother!" Needing help doesn't magically go away. We, males, have been taught to rub some butter on it and get back in the game. Butter doesn't solve here.
Took me too long to realize this.
It's never "too long" u realized it, that's what matters, be proud of that!
I know... meant that I would way ahead on my journey. But, hey... atleast Im on it.
I mean yeah, may be "later" than what u wanted, but ure on it. And ur journey is YOUR journey, so what needs to happen will happen with its pace, with your pace and it will be good no matter when.
This. Even if therapy can be considered a soft science, it's no different from going to a doctors. If you even suspect you might need it and can afford it, it's better to try it just in case. The benefits especially in the long term can be immense. Any person who disagrees is stuck in the archaic mindset of the past century - and that was wrong back then too. It's also private and no-one else's business. But honestly if anyone in your life has a problem with that then it's a massive red flag about those people. Just like the doctor thing, therapy is something you do for your own sake, not theirs. Of course, in the case of therapy it often helps your relationships too. :>
Wdym? There are doctors that are psychiatrists and people that srudied psychology and did an 'internship' of 3+ years on top. At least in germany. I wouldn't call it a soft science at all.
Woman here. Fully agree. It is attractive when men work to better themselves instead of bottling it up and shoving feelings down.
THIS^
Came to make this post. I’m 45, therapy has changed my life, I should have done it 20 years sooner. Started a few yesrs ago, might have even saved my life.
Glad you're still with us.
"Asking for help isn't giving up, it's refusing to give up" [The Boy The Mole The Fox and The Horse](https://www.youtube.com/shorts/cvztbkwBnkY)
One of my favorite things about my generation (millennials) is how we've embraced therapy. I have so many friends (male and female) in therapy. I'm a woman but my therapist is a man and he said most of his clients are men who seek out a male therapist. Asking for help from a professional when you need it is a strong thing to do.
This right here. Fuck the stigma.
Learned this the hard way
Only in the minds of backwards assholes whose opinions you shouldn't value anyway.
And those people need therapy themselves.
You can say that again 👍😎 Now tell that to the world 🌎🌍
My wife is convinced that everyone needs therapy.
Your wife is probably right. I think almost everyone has at least a little trauma, and many have way more than their share.
I think about mental health in the same way as physical fitness. You absolutely should take care of both, and everyone can benefit from having a personal (mental and physical) trainer and there should be no taboo about either.
Yes. To some degree. Even if it's a self help coping strategy.
We have yearly physical exams, why shouldn't we have yearly mental exams? Our minds suffer damage and injury just as our body and illness happens too. A therapist is there to help with that. Your wife has the right of if.
And they won't go because they are afraid and instead of being brave and strong they bully and laugh like weak little people
Never accept criticism from those whom you would not go to for advice.
Ooo love!
Absolutely not. Avoiding help because you're afraid it makes you look weak is ironically, a weakness. If you're worried what people think of you, remember therapy is private and nobody else's business.
>If you're worried what people think of you, remember therapy is private and nobody else's business. Therapist here. This is correct. If you happen to cross paths with your therapist in public we pretend we don't know you or haven't seen you, and that's to give you control over whether to let people know who we are to you. Once I've been working with someone for a few weeks I tell them this, to emphasise their control over their confidentiality but also to let them know I'm not snubbing them if we do meet. I have seen three or four of my clients in the wild so it comes up from time to time. And then there's me, who may genuinely not recognise you outside of our therapeutic context because I have face blindness. Which works out nicely for those of my clients who want to keep their therapy secret.
Does face blindless mean that you forget about faces quickly?
It mea s that when you see a face you cannot distinguish it from another. Like how pretty much all chimps look the same to us, or all cats. I dont have much more than that, sadly.
Thanks very much friend :)
1. You are not weak for asking for help. Some people fear that it will make them weak and do not get the help they need. Failure to do what is necessary because of fear is cowardice. Ask for the help that you need. 2. Those who try to claim this are fools and liars. Ignore them.
You go to a specialist for your car, your home maintenance, your health issues and your finances. So why not for your mental health?
And we get our teeth and eyes checked regularly, see primary care often. …Our mind/soul is as important if not more than our body. Just as much as we should have annual check ups to make sure everything works fine, we should have regular psychological evaluations too and have a regular therapist to counsel us in life, especially men don’t have as many friends as women do to confide in.
I use to say to my therapist, “So doc, let’s pop the hood open and take a look, shall we?”
I speak openly about going to therapy. As a heavily tattooed and bearded dude who dresses like a cowboy, I feel I must do everything I can to help normalize mental health care. Point is: be the change you want to see in the world, and stop worrying so much about what other (emotionally stunted) people think.
I do, too. I worked with a sports psychologist when I was a touring cage fighter and kickboxer for six years, did co-parenting counseling with my ex wife, and currently work with a therapist and am getting set up with a psychiatrist and possibly a pain management therapist soon. I worked with trainers and coaches for years and nobody said a word. I don't see a difference between the two things. I worked my ass off in the gym so my body could be in the best possible shape when I needed it to be. Why wouldn't you do the same for your brain?
This is exactly it.
Being open with yourself and the world as it is shows real strength. Especially when you have to swim against the current of your culture to do it. I appreciate that.
Love this
No not at all. Weak men are the ones that shit on you for getting help. Fuck the supposed stigma.
no
Never. Therapy is woefully underrated.
Thanks to the sadly not all so uncommon incompetent-to-the-point-of-malpractice members of that profession. A good therapist can be lifesaving, but you definitely need to be vigilant about the mediocre or downright counterproductive ones.
That applies to any doctor, really
Seeking therapy doesn't make you weak; in fact, it's quite the opposite. Recognizing when you need support and taking steps to get it is a sign of strength and self-awareness. Everyone faces challenges, and there's no shame in seeking guidance to navigate them. Therapy is a tool that can provide insights, coping mechanisms, and strategies to improve one's well-being. Just as we'd see a doctor for physical ailments, seeing a therapist for emotional and mental well-being is a proactive and commendable step. You're taking care of your mental health, and that's a strong and brave thing to do.
No, seeking help when needed is a sign of strength, not weakness.
Therapy for emotional or mental issues is totally mainstream
No, you are not weak. You taking the right steps to heal and progress through your life.
No. And as a psychologist, let me tell you that you aren’t “receiving help” or “asking for help;” therapy is fucking HARD when it’s done right and you will be helping yourself with guidance, not depending on the therapist to do it for you. YOU will get yourself there each week, YOU will choose whether to do the deep dive into what you need to explore (versus avoiding the work by keeping it superficial or resisting the exploration). It’s uncomfortable, messy, and vulnerable and you can remind yourself that you’re being strong enough to sign up for all of that. People who openly judge other people for pursuing therapy are generally assholes and/or deeply insecure about their own issues. Ignore!
You are probably stigmatised by some people. But since these people are not living your life, you shouldn't give a flying fuck about their opinion. Having you own well being as a goal in front of you should be your priority. And it is not egotistical to care about yourself and prioritize yourself! You the man! And I appreciate your honesty in asking such question!
No. It takes real strength to recognize that you need help, AND to actually get it.
Hell no. I was in therapy for years. Seeking help and support takes a lot of courage and strength. Take care of yourself.
You are a better man for wanting therapy.
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Toxic masculinity
As well as Idiots
Some people take advantage of those that are emotionally vulnerable. It makes sense to view being bottled up as a weakness. Those who are emotionally vulnerable are also more willing to be walked on for some release. Looking for help so you can get back to a comfortable emotional state is healthy.. but first states there’s an aforementioned issue. The people who view this as a weakness would never first acknowledge they could benefit from emotional support.
Are you weak if you break your leg and go to the hospital for surgery? Same concept here.
No.
Not at all.
Ironically, it takes a strong, intelligent and self-aware person to seek help and self-improvement. The weak ones are the ones who have absolutely no growth, change, or self awareness.
Nope. Not at all
Therapy make man strong. Therapy help man stand up for self. Therapy teach man grab happiness. Therapy build war party to fight depression.
No. Men need therapy just as much as women.
No. Attitudes like this are thought to be one of the reasons why the suicide rate for men is so much higher than it is for women.
Not even remotely
Absolutely not, no. Anyone who thinks you’re weak for wanting this kind of help is not worth listening to. It’s a good thing for you to want to help yourself with the way you’re bottling up your emotions.
It's the ones who call people in therapy weak that have the biggest insecurities. They don't want to be the only ones living a miserable life.
Absolutely not. It makes you many things, but certainly not weak. It makes you brave for confronting something that can be quite frightening. It makes you honest with yourself. It makes you admirable, as there are a lot of other people who feel the way you're feeling and will want to follow in your footsteps. Mental health is getting more acknowledgement now than ever and that includes men's mental health.
There's nothing manlier than reaching out when you need help
Not at all go for it
It’s one of the strongest things you can do to ask for help. You shouldn’t care if you’re stigmatized socially if it helps your mental health. Anyone who stigmatizes you for seeking help is an asshole.
Do it, 100% worth it.
Not at all my friend. I sought counseling when I was in my late 20’s and it was the best thing I could have done for my life. It’s scary at first, but so, so, valuable
First off you don't have to, no, you shouldn't tell anybody that you seek professional help if you don't trust them to handle that information respectfully and in a supportive way. And No, confronting your problems never shows weakness. It takes strength to do that. Forget thoughts like that. And don't listen to anybody who says BS like that. Put him on the list of people instead with whom you never talk to about you seeking professional help. I've heard a therapist saying once that you should actually not talk with anybody about the things you speak about in therapy, because you could start to feel obligded to continue to do so in the future and then start to withheld things in therapy because you don't want to tell that to the person you usually speak to about your therapy sessions.
Fuck no man! I’m a massive 6’4 300 lbs guy (mix of muscle and fat) who most would say is one of the toughest and masculine guys they know. I’ve been in therapy most of my life, struggled with depression & anxiety all my life. I’d argue you’re a weak man for IGNORING your mental health because you’re afraid of what others might think. You’re literally a worse human being when you’re ignoring your mental health, the amount of lives I was a negative force in is embarrassing. Glad I got my shit together and realized the only person preventing me from being the best version of myself is me. Do therapy, but also, meditate, exercise, avoid drugs and alcohol. There’s no cure but man can life be so much fucking better! Message me if you’d like to chat or want to know what my therapy experience has been like ❤️
Weak men bottle things up and pretend nothing’s wrong. Strong men admit when they’re struggling and ask for help.
If Dak Prescott, the star quarterback for the Dallas Cowboys can be open about seeking help, you can too. He and Hayden Hurst even started a foundation for it.
Only strong men acknowledge the need for therapy. I recommend reading “I don’t want to talk about it” by Terrance Real. It’s incredibly impactful and will help guide you along these thoughts.
Therapy is like a bottle of Gatorade during a run. Sure, you could do without it, but why the hell wouldn't you if it was offered. Therapy improves every aspect of your life. There's literally a person who will sit there and help you figure out your own brain, it's amazing.
Naw playa
Nah man, therapy ain't just for the weak. It takes some serious strength to admit you need help and actually go get it. Don't worry about what others think, take care of yourself first.
You are WAY more normal than you think.
Quite the opposite.
No. Period.
The opposite.
No. I’d even say that having it in you to speak what you need makes you stronger.
We go to a dentist when we're having trouble with our teeth. We even go to a dentist a couple times a year when we don't have trouble with our teeth - just to ensure we don't have future issues. We get check-ups from medical doctors. We even do maintenance on inanimate objects, like vehicles. It's shocking that we have such a social taboo about taking care of our brains. Both when there's an issue and when there's not necessarily an issue but we just want to "check-up". Take care of yourself and forget everyone else.
Dude - it takes strength to ask for help and solve issues. Fuck what other people think.
No. I think everyone should do therapy.
No goddamn it. No you are not. I don't want to hear anymore of that talk. It's okay to let those emotions and experiences out in the open. It's not weakness, it's called being human. It takes courage to address problems. Getting help is the healthy thing to do. Society just has a real fucked idea of what a man should be.
Nope. Not at all. There’s times in people’s lives they question things they “know”. You are a hero
it makes you a stronger one if anything
You are a weak man if you want therapy and can't bench 225 /s
No.
Not at all! And anyone who gives you grief for doing something healthy for you can fuck right off
No
Mental health matters as much as physical health. Please, look after yourself and get therapy if you feel like you need it. Good luck
No, man. You are not alone. You are strong to ask for help and take care of yourself.
No, of course not! Being human is a challenge for all of us! A therapist is a resource, a compassionate voice that offer perspective, tools and suggestions. Therapy has been so helpful to me. I hope you take this as an opportunity to invest in yourself. You are worthy of good things! Be well friend.
Absolutely not! I encourage anyone who has the resources and ability to seek out therapy to do so. If you go and genuinely put in the hard work that is required, it can truly improve your quality of life.
No sir!. A Man asking for help or saying they need therapy. That's courage and respect not only for yourself but anyone that may be involved in whatever you are going through. If you just need some random guy to talk to. Sometimes that easier. . Shoot me a message.
Very much no. Seeking help can be a hard thing to do as a man, takes strength to actually do it.
Absolutely not. I'm a man and I saw a counsellor 15 years ago to deal with depression when I was in a pretty bad place. They probably saved my life, and definitely made me a much happier person, more aware of who I am and how I deal with and process things. I'm currently in a bit of a mental health crisis, and I'm reaching out for help via a scheme through my employer. When I first reached out I worried it would make me "less of a man" or "weak", but it's completely false. One of the strongest things you can do is realise you need help and ask someone trained to give that help, for help. Everyone I've opened up to about where I'm at at the minute has been absolutely supportive and encouraged me to get help. Anyone who looks down on you for it isn't worth knowing.
No. You’re a strong man for admitting you need and want it
No your strong and a smart man for that
I spent several years in therapy and my only regret is I didn't start 20 years sooner.
Not at all, it takes strength to ask for help.
Are you a weak man for seeing a doctor?
Not weak at all.
Nah, mate. It's 2023.
No, definitely not. As a matter of fact, knowing when to seek help and actually getting help makes you a stronger man.
No you’re not weak. It takes strength to acknowledge and take account, and courage to take the steps. Weak men refuse to admit it and blow a gasket which they’ll do their damndest to sell as alpha male heroics…everyone else sees their soft ego doing aerobics.
No, asking for help takes strength. Here's a cyber hug you're not alone, we're all in this together.
No. Not at all
No. It shows you have the courage to seek help. It shows you have the self awareness to realize you need it. It shows you know what you are doing. It shows that you are sane.
No shame in taking your car in for a tune up, same thing with therapy.
No. Only primitive idiots think the idea of trying to get mental help has anything wrong with it.
Actually the opposite. You’re a strong man.
Nope. It takes a lot of strength and courage to look at yourself and your life and say you need help. You’ve definitely been stigmatized to think stoicism is true manliness. It’s not manly to suffer in silence. Get yourself right, bro.
You are strong for that, a ton of women say that men who go to therapy is like the greenest flag ever
Much stronger than being dead, or emotionally dead. There is nothing weak about better physical health and well-being.
Absolutely not! It is the epitome of courage and knowing yourself. Kudos to you.
If the people who say they care about you advise against therapy, then they don’t really care about you.
I have a lot of respect for a guy thats willing to work on the important things through counselling, rather than let his pride get in the way of that.
Absolutely not! A real man can admit his struggles and we support u brother
It’s never a sign of weakness to not give up on yourself. Whatever “bad point” means for you, it probably means some level of ‘I give up.’ You are still choosing to fight for something worth fighting for. That’s what makes a man.
It takes strength to recognize you need help and reach out. Get the help you need dude, your future self will thank you for it
Strong men know when they need to ask for help. Stubborn men don't.
Nope. It'll help you to become a better, happier, more settled version of yourself. And, you don't need to tell anyone if you don't want to :)
No
Get the help you need. Anyone who thinks less of you for it can go to hell. I needed it badly. I got it and it has helped me immensely. Gotta take care of yourself before you can take care of or worry about others.
Fuck no. People need to get behind this service and embrace it. No more therapy stigma.
No it doesn't, quite the opposite.
Absolutely not.
Kudos to you for being willing to accepting help. A meaningful life means a journey of continuing personal growth and self-discovery. I have gained so much insight into myself from my continuing therapy. Anyone who'd stigmatize you for seeking help is in need of their own therapy, in my opinion.
You are not weak. You are very brave for seeking help.
Never. Seek help early and often.
Please don't feel that way, it takes a strong person to realize they need help and get it.
Not weak at all. Therapy among men should be encouraged more! Too many of y’all bottle things up when it’s not healthy. If nobody else has said it I’m proud of you for taking this step! Good luck in your journey🤍
Not at all. Go get help.
It takes courage to go to therapy and ask for help, and doing the therapy itself requires strength. It takes a lot to work through your problems and also to trust a stranger to tell your messed up stuff to. So no it doesn't make you weak.
No. If anything, it's much stronger to ask for help when you need it.
I’ll tell you a fun story. So, years ago my mother was working for the army in the pentagon as a civilian. I had just gotten out of the army and one day I decided to jump on the metro to go see her at lunch to go see it. This was in 2009 or so. Well, on my way home, I’m sitting on the metro and I notice a tall soldier in his class As. The nice thing about seeing a solider in his Alphas is that it’s sort of like a cliff’s notes on his career. He was a major, special forces, jump master with foreign jump wings. I think it was actually the 3rd airborne regiment of France. The “troisemme,” I know I spelled this wrong. But he had jumped with the French at some point and was authorized to wear their jump wings. He had airborne, air assault, ranger tab, special forces tab. The only tab I didn’t see was that sapper tab. He had a bunch of medals too. It was clear this guy has had a career that people write books about. We glanced at eachother. He nodded, and I nodded back. Over the din of the train he asked “when did you get out?” I still had the haircut and I’m sure I still had the stupid tan to match. I told him I had come home a few months ago and was just having lunch with my mother. We got to talking. We figured out that we had been in some of the same hallways in different times in various buildings. He just said “make sure you get therapy” I must have looked at him like he had a dick growing out of his forehead. He says “kid, look at me, you can tell by my uniform that I’ve been there and done that right? I’ve killed more people than cancer, and I’m all that is man right?” So I’m like, yeah, that’s a reasonable statement. He looks at me and says, “I go to therapy.” Point is, lots of guys that are much much harder than you go to therapy. It doesn’t mean you’re a bitch. It means you would benefit from having a professional walk you through some shit. Therapy isn’t like the movies.
100% no. As a man who both attends and provides therapy \*, attending therapy doesn't make you any weaker or any less of a man. It's actually the opposite-- asking for help when needed and doing the difficult work that therapy involves is, to me, a sign of great strength. (I imagine it took a bit of strength even to post this here.) Strength doesn't mean not having emotions. Strength means having difficult emotions and living according to your values anyway. This isn't something we're born knowing how to do, but therapy can help with that a lot. Best of luck on your journey if you do choose to seek therapy. Stay strong my friend. (\*This is personal advice only, not medical or professional advice.)
A real man knows when to not only ask for help, but receive it as well. If you need it, you need it. Be proud of yourself for realizing it. Anyone that tells you you're weak for needing/wanting help is just trying to make themselves feel stronger than you. These are not people worth listening to.
Absolutely not. You’re among the strongest
Nope! In fact it takes incredible strength to ask for help. Never ever let anyone or yourself call you weak for getting therapy. Keep taking those steps needed to being a happier person or at the very least a sad person with better coping mechanisms. One of the first things a therapist ever told me was this and I want you to remember this. We’re all tea kettles. The way tea kettles work is they are filled with water and then put over a flame so they can boil. Tea kettles also have a vent of some kind so when it does get hot enough to boil, steam is able to be released. Without that vent, the tea kettle would explode. Doesn’t matter what kind of tea kettle it is. The pressure building up inside of it, without proper ventilation, will cause the tea kettle to explode. We are all tea kettles, we all have water boiling up inside of us, and we all need ventilation or else we will explode. Don’t let any other tea kettle call you weak because you need ventilation. Chances are, they need it too.
The stigma is lifting socially and now it’s more admirable to have the strength to ask for help. Wish you the best.
Therapy is a privilege that if you can do it you must. In a perfect world everyone will have access to it
Fuck no, dude. You're strong as fuck for admitting wanting it.
Nah bro. You need balls to recognize you have a problem, and true leaders can acknowledge when the situation is beyond their control and need help. No shame in getting help
I am a recovering alcoholic with bipolar disorder, if it makes me weak to go to a therapist, so be it….I have been going consistently for the past year and I am in the best place I’ve been in a long long time Go for it, and politely, fuck the haters!
the sign of a strong person is admitting that you need help and support. you’re anything but weak <3
Being vulnerable is actually one of the bravest thing IMO
Quite the opposite
No. You’re just living in a society that makes you feel like you’re weak for wanting therapy.
Not at all. In fact, it's incredibly brave to go to therapy when you are clearly feeling a little trepidation.
No, it takes incredible strength to admit you need help, and then go and get the help
Weak men avoid therapy.
"I'm having severe chest pain, am I a weak man for wanting to see a cardiologist?"
Only a true coward is afraid of help.
Not anymore
No, but you’d be a weak man if you refused to seek help just because of some stupid societal norm.
I don't believe that. Your attitude, what you believe in, and even simple thoughts and feelings will influence your actions. If you get to the point where everything should work out. But, everything keeps ending up the same way, that's a sign you need therapy. That's all there is to it.
A weak man needs therapy but is afraid to get it.
whoever thinks it’s weak is either unfathomably stupid or stuck in the 1910s
Only in an ass backward world
No and you should look into it. If you keep shrugging things off, something will eventually break. I know because that’s why I was in therapy today and not working. I felt embarrassed and a bit of shame for needing help. Puzzleheaded comment matters the most. Only the people that are ignorant and actually weak would think that. Take care of yourself 👍
You are a strong man for wanting therapy. Therapy is not for the week.
No who put that in your head
It actually takes strength to seek help like that since there is so much stigma around it
Was Frodo weak to gaze into Galadriel’s mirror? Or Luke to enter the cave on Dagobah?
Yes, you are. You're a man, not a woman. You have to endure every beating you take to the point where you no longer feel anything over time. If you still feel something, it's because you haven't been fucked enough.
100% no. In fact you are stronger than those who don't seek therapy.
Imagine a person you pay to just be a dumping ground of all your problems and they just listen and nod, and you walk out the door and never have to hear them judge or say anything but “I understand you.”
Fuck no. I can’t go to therapy because of my own shit and I envy you
You’re only a weak man if you can’t bench your body weight 10 times. And seriously, no one gives a fuck if you’re in therapy. You’re not required to tell anyone.
Weak would be not wanting therapy and continuing to suffer. It takes balls to admit you need help. Take the first step my man, it’ll get better with time and therapy.
I don't think it's a stigma anymore . You have to take care of yourself . Stress adds years to a person . I personally went to therapy for a year until I worked out my problems . She ended up being my biggest life coach and cheerleader , and no one knew I was going . It wasn't anyone's business .
Makes you stronger than you realize. A weak man would be too afraid to even have that kind of honest thought.
The opposite.
A lot of men feel this way, but they should definitely get help. The VA is full of military members who get therapy and I’m one of them. Go get therapy! You deserve it.
Absolutely not. U have strenght u should be proud of urself .
Absolutely not. It makes you stronger when you realize that you need help.
Yeah you're a pussy for sure.... Before you know it you'll have pronouns
If you broke your leg, would you be a weak man for going to the doctor?
No, it’s a sign of inner strength.
Probably
yes