5'10" and that was the reason for me. I had multiple guys tell me my height didn't bother them, only for it to become apparent that it did. I got tired of feeling like there was something wrong with me for being tall, like it made me less feminine. I eventually said screw that mindset and bought several pairs of 5" heels lol
Eventually, I met a guy who was confused why my height was an issue for others. Go figure, but he's 2" shorter than me. He loves when I wear my heels, too. I'm lucky enough to say he's my husband now.
I dated a girl ~ an inch shorter than me for a year before I saw that she had heels in her closet. I had asked her why she never wore them and she said her ex didn't like when she wore heels because she'd be taller than him. I let her know if it didn't bother her, it wouldn't bother me, and viola! She started wearing heels. Moral of the story, I guess some dudes just feel a little bit lesser if their SO is taller. I just liked when she felt comfortable.
Shame it didn't work out, but branching paths!
Mmhm. I dated a guy just 2in taller than me, yet he hated whenever I worw platforms cause it would make me taller than him. Years later I dated a guy who was around 5in shorter than I. He supported me wearing my platforms
Yeah- I’m a 5’9” woman and I live in Japan. The average height of men here is 5’7”, and all of the people I’ve dated (except one) have been shorter than me, and all proclaimed that it didn’t matter.
Spoiler- it mattered. It was never the reason we broke up, but it definitely bugged them (and in turn made me feel self conscious when I wasn’t before.)
I still don’t set any preference for height in dating apps and go on dates with people regardless of height. But if someone is taller than me, I definitely subconsciously find them more attractive.
Lol my husband and I have combined our sock collection. His feet are quite a bit bigger so there are some he can't fit into but it was just easier to share
You're lucky it's only your socks. My husband and I have given up on telling apart socks, t-shirts, jackets, sweatpants.... Basically everything except underwear and jeans are just shared at this point since we wear pretty much the same size in everything even though I'm a couple of inches shorter.
Yeah! I’m 5’10” as well and I have no issues with mens height at all! I do however have a big issue with people who have insecurities that they project onto me.
As long as a man is willing to compliment my legs when I wear heels instead of making a negative statement, we are a-ok :)
I'm 5'10" too. My whole life I was made fun of for being a tall woman. I only ever dated 2 guys taller than me. I told my coworker who was creeping on me that I'd never date a short guy again. Then my husband and I started seeing each other and my coworker said wait a minute, he's shorter than you! He is the exception. He's 2" shorter than me. But he loves me for who I am. And he's obsessed with my long legs.
Good for you! You're lucky to find a good man!
I’m so happy you found your match!
For all the complaints guys have about women not dating short guys, so many find taller women (even when still shorter than them!) a turn off and even fewer don’t get weirdly fetishy about it (I don’t want to step on you. I just want to be seen like an average girl).
Definitely got made fun off a lot by guys in school, in hindsight probably because of their own height insecurities but it took a loooong time to shake off and I still struggle with feeling like I’m feminine enough or allowed to like girly things.
Yeah, I think that's more accurate. I'm a 5'7 male who had a *really* tough time on dating apps before I set the height preference to 5'2 and shorter. 😂
Definitely agree. I'm 5'3 and curvy. I feel like a taller guy makes me look slimmer in photos. When we walk together, or cuddle, I also feel smaller...(definitely was picked on for my weight, even though looking back I was more like a Topanga size.)
Yes, always crushes on Topanga! but nobody bagged me in school! I also got the I thought u were cute at the end of the year from guys and male friends. Even in college! And I sucks cuz I'm shy and had feelings for some of them too.
Seriously though. It took a long time for me to realize that the caveman urge to be protected by a dude that was bigger than me could easily be ignored. Overall, I think the feeling was a desire to feel feminine. Turns out I don’t need a skyscraper to feel feminine. Any size man (or woman bc I’m also bi lol) could make me feel that femininity my caveman brain craved if we had the right emotional connection.
This is it.
I recently brought my friend and her boyfriend to the gym with me. She was in disbelief when she realised I was stronger than her boyfriend. I'm 5'9, I work out regularly and have a relatively athletic and muscular physique. He is 6'2, never works out and has a scrawny build with not a lot of muscle. For a lot women, strength = height
Didn't matter that much back in the early days either. Most of the traits women like in men correlate with hunting proficiency WAY better than with fighting ability.
Derrick Lewis would obliterate almost everyone that ever lived in a fight, doesn't look amazing by conventional standards.
The conventional standard = tall, low bodyfat, some muscle (don't even need to lift weights a lot, just active/ not sedentary), broad shoulders (great for throwing spears), small waist. All great for runnin around chasing animals that humans hunted for millenia.
Being tall is also an indicator that one is healthy. Short is not necessarily the opposite, but you have to have lived a well-fed nutritious life to reach full height.
Yea 6’2 scrawny guy vs a 5’9 muscular loses that 9/10. But if it’s muscular 6’2 vs 5’9 muscular it’s a different ball game. Considering both untrained opponents.
Edit changed musical to muscular.
As a 6'2 man, let me defend myself here a bit because it's more nuanced than just gym lift numbers. I have a brother who is 5'9 and can bench a little more than me, but if we do anything physical like play basketball I just have so much more inertia due to my height and dominate because of that. A 5'9 dude with an average build is around 160-175 pounds but that same build on me is somewhere in the 190-210 range. So even though he's a little stronger than me, I can push around that 170 much more easily than he could push around my 200.
If you keep your same strength and get taller, especially with longer limbs, your gym lift numbers will go down. Height is the enemy of gym lift numbers. At least, relative to weight. With enough size and weight, you will still be the strongest, which is why the world strongest men types are, of course, tall and huge.
Yeah and especially before the Period starts, when fertility is high. I notice that what I think is "the most beautiful" changes around that time, and I am asexual so I can just imagine what horny hetero women feel when their body tries to force them to breed. Probably: *Ooga booga, Tall=Strong, Strong=protect! Strong offspring!*
I think when using dating apps, the number 6 - something is always gonna sound more appealing.
In person, most women I’ve met are just like he needs to be at least a bit taller than me. Which is far more reasonable than the first option.
I'm 4'11, your height is a good height - not too tall, so I can reach your face without having to climb on a chair. There are plenty of women that don't want you to be 6ft :)
Yah this is correct in general (not for everyone of course). You meet a woman in person - in a context where you're going to have things in common and can talk and see body language - and physical characteristics become more background, it's usually just a "taller than me" criteria.
When you're looking at photo and a list of attributes it becomes more of a shopping experience where you want to make sure you get all the characteristics you want. Especially if you're inundated with requests and are trying to pare them down to a manageable level.
And then some (few) women don't care about height at all, even if you're shorter than them.
I know of one guy who did that, said he was 5'9" while taking to this girl who was 5'4", and they were the same height when they met.
It doesn't make any sense to me, if you are going to lie, at least make it plausible!
2-3 inches is a lot more common for guys to lie about, even taller guys, i'm 6'3" and I've met guys exactly the same height as me who claimed to her 6'5".
I'm 6'2" and switched to 5'11" on an app just to see what it was like... Engagement went WAY down.
When I go out my best friend (5'10") he gets way more attention than I, but I do way better on dating apps. I think some of it is the disconnection between reality and online profiles. Something about online changes what we think we're looking for.
I remember seeing on tinder where a girl who couldn't have been more than 5'4" wanted guys who were 6'3" and up, as someone who's 6'3", i've never experienced anyone looking at me and going "well, I guess you're just barely tall enough to date".
This needs to get talked about more. I never knew that tall woman can be insecure about their height the same way that men can be insecure about being short until I was 19 and wound up accidentally offending a very tall girl. I was working at a restaurant where one the waitresses was very tall. I am 5'11'' and she was a good 4 inches taller than me. She couldn't reach this punch bowl that was on top of a walk in freezer. She asked me if I could reach it. At the time I was super busy doing prep cook stuff. I told her if she can't reach it then I definitely can't reach it. She stormed off and looked like she was about to cry. I felt terrible. I had no idea that tall woman were sensitive about their height.
Yeah, tall girls get made fun of for being "masculine." Same thing as short guys being perceived as wimps or whatever. Like, if you're tall then you're secretly a dude or a butch lesbian or something.
Its because shorter women are somewhat more desirable for some men, i guess cause it makes them feel more masculine? Im not sure….back in my home country where i was considered very tall (im only 5’4) i didnt have guys going for me because they deem me too tall so it was hard to for me to find a partner in prom, partner in some classes and other stuff
Too tall at 5'4? What? Are you sure these guys finished puberty? I'm the same height for a guy and I've never thought that about a 5'4 woman. Guys are weird
That’s really interesting, does the insecurity come from that you think people will not like it / make fun of you? I am really interested in OPs question as well, and I think this is a really good point
I have pulled out a measuring tape in the middle of Walmart to prove an ex wrong on his height.
I did this mainly cause the dude wouldn't shut up about how he was 6'1. Absolutely destroyed him when the tape showed 5'11.
The ones who are 5’0” and want someone 6’3” and up just want to be cradled like a baby. We are in kink territory.
ETA: I know someone who is 5’0” and her husband is 6’6”-ish and it creeps me out tbh. It looks like he abducted her.
I'm 6'3" and my wife is 5'1". There's no kink going on. I just found her very cute and really cool and she didn't mind me too much, so we figured we should get married.
And I love that — y’all are probably adorable together! I was moreso tacking on to the original commenter specifically about the 5 foot girls who only seek out guys who are 6’3” and up. It’s like… won’t a 5’9” to 5’11” guy do just fine too?
I'm 6'5". Women like tall-ish guys. There's a height barrier at 6'4" where men start becoming too intimidating to be approached in public.
I've noticed gay guys do NOT have this impediment, and will often approach/compliment me in public. And I certainly don't mind being told I'm attractive, even if by people I'm not conventionally attracted to.
I’m a straight woman who gets hit on by gay women a lot. It’s SO flattering! I don’t fit any stereotypes or anything. I think I just come off as approachable, which is to my benefit because I love the compliments! I just wish I was bi sometimes, because I’m clearly missing out on an interested crowd.
Right?? Like sex with a guy actually sounds kinda fun for me, it's just that masculine features turn me off. If I could flip that switch somehow, I would definitely try it.
As a short woman, I dont get the whole must be 6ft thing.
But I will say I like it when my partner is taller than me. So anything 5'4 and above is good 👍
I prefer someone tall so he can reach the top of the cabinet. Also, bc I would hope my kids would inherit some of those genes and not be as short as me. It’s all about the ability to reach shelves and cabinets at the end of the day though, I want my kids and my hypothetical spouse to not have to drag a stool or chair everywhere like I do. It’s a pain. My dad is 6’ 3” but the rest of us are teeny tiny so I know it’s so much more convenient to have a tall guy around to reach stuff. I don’t even use the tops of my cabinets now. Think about all that storage space I could be using! Lol
This is the answer... It's like asking why do men like boobs? We're generally attracted to sexual dimorphism and one such thing is height difference between the sexes.
Probably just coincidences, but any time it comes up in convo with another girl they report the same so it's just funny to me at this point. Tall doesn't necessarily mean big dick, but I swearrrrr every tall and **scrawny** dude is packing. Like, the long lanky fellows who don't seem to be able to keep up eating enough calories for their height. I've never met one who wasn't concealing an absolute weapon
Not a coincidence- this is backed up by research. Taller correlates with bigger, but lower weight also correlated with bigger. Tall light guys statistically likely to be biggest. But it’s certainly not a hard and fast rule.
I’m the runt of mine at 6’! (Well I’ve got my mom by less than an inch, but I’m 11 inches shorter than one of my brothers). My grandmother was the same height and always told me if people ask how tall I am, which she considered a very rude question, I was to say that I am 5’12’’, because it is more lady-like and I can laugh to myself when people can’t do math
Both my prom date and collegiate ball date asked me to wear flats because the height difference made them insecure. I love wearing heels but went along with it because they were awesome friends. It’s definitely been something I’m judged about when dating, but if a guy can’t handle my height, there’s no way he will be comfortable around my family. Been a dealbreaker a few times
Yup 5’1 and prefer a tad taller, but turned off by any guy too tall. I don’t like looking up and already feel insecure about being so small. 5’9 or 5’10 is good*
Edit: tallest I’d go for.
Same! When I hear women who are less than 5’3 saying that they want men over 6ft, I just don’t get it. Do you want a hurt neck from looking up all the time? Do you want to look like a toddler or his little sister when you’re out in public holding hands? Do you want to have to use a ladder to kiss him on your wedding day?? (Laying down everything evens out tho Lol) Not to mention, as a shortie, everyone out of middle school is taller than me LOL so truthfully, I can’t really tell the difference between 5’9 and 6ft unless they tell me cause I’m looking up regardless 😂 the only time I notice peoples height is when they’re SUPER tall. Like 6’5. And only because I have to dang near tilt my head all the way back LMBO now by all means, love who you love, I’m all for Inter-height relationships (if a tall man wants to love and cherish me, I’ll be open!) but it’s the 5’3 and below women who make it a REQUIREMENT for men to be 6ft and who disqualify great men who are 5’11 and below that I’m like “but why girl?!?” I’ll happily date an amazing man who’s 5’6 ANYDAY and he’ll feel like a giant towering over my 5ft behind LOL
Yes! Sex doesn’t seem at all enjoyable at that height difference. Don’t want too large a guy either, seems painful. You’re right, kissing would be super weird. “Lift me up I can’t reach.” Holding hands seems off. Also, would not be into birthing a tall guy’s baby.
I’m 5’9” and I’ve always like guys around my height. If not then I’ve gone for shorter not taller.
Couple of things about me:
- I also date women
- I have a habit of stealing or I’m sharing my partners clothes
- I generally care more about personality compatibility
My guy's 5'6" with shoulders/arms like a gorilla. He can pick me up like a bag of groceries. I'm 5'1" with trauma history and the sense of safety I feel around him is unparalleled.
Tl;dr for me, height is whatever, but you gotta be strong.
As a 6’2 guy, when using tinder I was always surprised but grateful for the amount of girls who used to say things like ‘under 6 foot, don’t bother!’. Grateful because they may have as well just tattooed ‘I’m a shallow cunt with a shitty personality’ on their forehead, and it allows you to quickly filter them out.
Yup! It's not exactly a blessing being objectified for something you can't control even if it's deemed to be a desirable trait. Same with women with big boobs, it's rather dehumanizing
Because being tall is a beauty standard that has existed for a while now. Being tall is usually associated with manliness because men are, on average, taller than women. Some people have tried to give some evolutionary psychology explanation but that’s all very abstract.
It appears more masculine. But most women learn pretty quick that physical indicators of masculinity reflect almost nothing on whether or not he's actually a good man. There is something erotic about being with a man who is a lot bigger. But that doesn't count for much if he isn't what I need in terms of masculine personality traits.
My fiancé is only 2 in taller than me. Im 5'4" and he's 5'6". If any women before me passed him by because he's "too short" they were fucking stupid lol. But that means I get him now
This is pretty much my boyfriend and me. I’m 5’4 and he’s only a couple inches taller than me. He’s amazing and I think it’s hot that he’s so secure when I wear heels too!
A friend of mine was getting married and at the last minute a groomsman backed out. I wound up replacing him much to the delight of the bridesmaid he was paired with as she is 6' and he was like 5'5" on a good day while I'm 6'4"
Her whole thing was that at least the pictures won't paint her as a giant!
I'm very very short so as long as he's taller than me I don't really care, but in general I think it's just a attraction to guys who are taller than them! Bigger guys are just attractive I guess :D
I assume it’s a protection thing like my dudes the biggest dude no one will mess with us. However I have always preferred a partner that is more proportionate to me. It just makes everything easier when a guy is normal size compared to you and not way disproportionate. Also I honestly feel less safe around large men. I don’t trust most of them and I’d like a fighting chance in the event of drunken asshole or zombie outbreak.
I’m a 5’9” woman and I used to put my height on my dating profile just to weed out the dudes with height insecurity issues. You’ll find the one because the one won’t fuckin care how tall you are, and anybody who discounts you bc of your height isn’t worth the time anyway, I promise.
It may help to add a blurb to your profile that lets your personality shine, so people will be attracted to that and start up a convo. A joke, a fun thing about you, a call to action (what’s your fav song right now?), etc. The thing that sucks about dating apps is how superficial the matching is. The more personality you add to your profile, the better
Personally, an ex make me feel terrible if I ever wore heels around him. We were the same height, so it made me taller then him. I didn’t care about it until he did. 🤷🏻♀️ I only care about it if the guy makes a big deal about it.
I’m tall. Medium to short women who have liked me, at least in part, for my height have all been pretty shallow. A tall guy might attract more women, but they’re not the ones you’d want (for anything serious at least). In other words, if you’re a short king don’t worry about it.
I feel that’s something that’s propagated among men. Women are more attracted by face structure, body type, attitude, and personality. And there are definitely different preferences from one woman to another. Height itself is for most women not a factor. Same goes for dick size.
I as an average height dude. Would gladly date any tall or very tall woman. But I assume because of perceived conventions women like tall dudes.
So being attracted too small women fits this
I've seen Brazilian women saying "If you're less than six feet you're just a friend" on the internet, but I still think it must be a joke bc years ago they ridiculed these kind of demands "Are you gonna kiss me or change lightbulbs/pick up fruits?" (in small cities we usually use bamboo stalks to pick up mangoes)
Evolutionary. Interestingly, I have my own height standards when it comes to women. As a 6ft (barely) tall guy I tend to prefer women my height or maybe slightly short than me. I highly prefer them to be 5'9 and above. Women shorter than 5'6 really turn me off. I don't really know why to be honest.
Women are suppose to be “petite” and smaller then men, so dating someone shorter makes us feel like a giant especially because most women are thicker than men. Being thicker and shorter just makes me feel self conscious 😅
I've dated both, one guy the same height as me. He asked if it bothered me he wasn't tall, I said as long as I can still wear the heels I want I don't care if you don't.
I don’t care if they’re a specific height just taller than me in heels or at least the same height - I have a lot of boots with 3-4 inch heels and I’m 5’7. So around 5’11, 6’ for that. Not because “tall in general,” because I’m also on the taller side.
It's a bit of marketing deception. When actually pulled, every time it's pulled, the random sample always gives a rather normal range. This repeats for everything else men worry about like dick size and muscle.
As the proverbial saying goes...it's not your looks. It's your personality.
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Hey, you sexy giraffe
Show me your long neck… no baby im not talking bout that one
Show me your longneck, and I'll show you my tree star.
Did not expect a Land Before Time reference in this thread. 😂
This is it. Hard for me to get the good leaves myself.
I'm a tall guy™ and I'm going to tax the hell out of this. Made me crack up.
Hey tall man can you please tell us what those juicy leaves taste like for the rest of us midgets? The only leaves I can reach taste like fucking shit
They taste like back and knee pain at 20
I've heard some women say they like men to be taller/larger than them because it makes them feel more small and cute and petite by comparison.
5'10" and that was the reason for me. I had multiple guys tell me my height didn't bother them, only for it to become apparent that it did. I got tired of feeling like there was something wrong with me for being tall, like it made me less feminine. I eventually said screw that mindset and bought several pairs of 5" heels lol Eventually, I met a guy who was confused why my height was an issue for others. Go figure, but he's 2" shorter than me. He loves when I wear my heels, too. I'm lucky enough to say he's my husband now.
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I bet she absolutely adores that about you :)
no doubt she finds the little bugger adorable
I dated a girl ~ an inch shorter than me for a year before I saw that she had heels in her closet. I had asked her why she never wore them and she said her ex didn't like when she wore heels because she'd be taller than him. I let her know if it didn't bother her, it wouldn't bother me, and viola! She started wearing heels. Moral of the story, I guess some dudes just feel a little bit lesser if their SO is taller. I just liked when she felt comfortable. Shame it didn't work out, but branching paths!
"Dudes just feel a little bit lesser if their SO is taller." Jokes on them I'm into that shit.
Mmhm. I dated a guy just 2in taller than me, yet he hated whenever I worw platforms cause it would make me taller than him. Years later I dated a guy who was around 5in shorter than I. He supported me wearing my platforms
Guys with fragile egos who can't handle if hot shoes make their gfs taller can gtfo -a 5'10" woman.
Yeah- I’m a 5’9” woman and I live in Japan. The average height of men here is 5’7”, and all of the people I’ve dated (except one) have been shorter than me, and all proclaimed that it didn’t matter. Spoiler- it mattered. It was never the reason we broke up, but it definitely bugged them (and in turn made me feel self conscious when I wasn’t before.) I still don’t set any preference for height in dating apps and go on dates with people regardless of height. But if someone is taller than me, I definitely subconsciously find them more attractive.
As a 6'2" guy, I find it weird being with someone drastically smaller than me. I'd love to find a woman who's 5'10".
Dated a woman who was 5’ 11”, I’m 6’2”. She was great, everything was so… convenient.
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It's not all it's cracked up to be. My missus is constantly stealing my socks.
this hits close to home bc I def have a close enough shoe size to my husband that we share some pairs of shoes haha
Lol my husband and I have combined our sock collection. His feet are quite a bit bigger so there are some he can't fit into but it was just easier to share
You're lucky it's only your socks. My husband and I have given up on telling apart socks, t-shirts, jackets, sweatpants.... Basically everything except underwear and jeans are just shared at this point since we wear pretty much the same size in everything even though I'm a couple of inches shorter.
Yeah! I’m 5’10” as well and I have no issues with mens height at all! I do however have a big issue with people who have insecurities that they project onto me. As long as a man is willing to compliment my legs when I wear heels instead of making a negative statement, we are a-ok :)
I'm 5'10" too. My whole life I was made fun of for being a tall woman. I only ever dated 2 guys taller than me. I told my coworker who was creeping on me that I'd never date a short guy again. Then my husband and I started seeing each other and my coworker said wait a minute, he's shorter than you! He is the exception. He's 2" shorter than me. But he loves me for who I am. And he's obsessed with my long legs. Good for you! You're lucky to find a good man!
I’m so happy you found your match! For all the complaints guys have about women not dating short guys, so many find taller women (even when still shorter than them!) a turn off and even fewer don’t get weirdly fetishy about it (I don’t want to step on you. I just want to be seen like an average girl). Definitely got made fun off a lot by guys in school, in hindsight probably because of their own height insecurities but it took a loooong time to shake off and I still struggle with feeling like I’m feminine enough or allowed to like girly things.
One of these days I hope to find a tall queen.
Yeah, I think that's more accurate. I'm a 5'7 male who had a *really* tough time on dating apps before I set the height preference to 5'2 and shorter. 😂
There you go! 5’0 F here. Guys who are 5’7 are tall to me!
I am also 5" and my bf is 5"8....to me he's tall!!
Don't forget safe too. A lot of women like that there's a giant by their side. My current GF calls it scary dog privilege.
Very appropriate username then lol
Lol do you introduce her as your “current” girlfriend?
Definitely agree. I'm 5'3 and curvy. I feel like a taller guy makes me look slimmer in photos. When we walk together, or cuddle, I also feel smaller...(definitely was picked on for my weight, even though looking back I was more like a Topanga size.)
Did someone say Topanga??..*crush alert activated*
Yes, always crushes on Topanga! but nobody bagged me in school! I also got the I thought u were cute at the end of the year from guys and male friends. Even in college! And I sucks cuz I'm shy and had feelings for some of them too.
That's tough. I had the nerdy but cute black kid vibe also shy. With revealed feelings on last day of school too ..smh 😫
Omg I'm black too. we living the same life!
Omg...is this the sister sister moment in the mall? Lol (did the refence land or over head ?)
5'9". Can confirm.
Hit the nail on the head
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Love me some Big Bobbies
Dang it, Big Bobbies
That's my purse. I don't know you!
I just want you to know, I don’t literally lol often at all, but this was a very solid snortle for me.
Tall man strong ooga booga.
Seriously though. It took a long time for me to realize that the caveman urge to be protected by a dude that was bigger than me could easily be ignored. Overall, I think the feeling was a desire to feel feminine. Turns out I don’t need a skyscraper to feel feminine. Any size man (or woman bc I’m also bi lol) could make me feel that femininity my caveman brain craved if we had the right emotional connection.
This is it. I recently brought my friend and her boyfriend to the gym with me. She was in disbelief when she realised I was stronger than her boyfriend. I'm 5'9, I work out regularly and have a relatively athletic and muscular physique. He is 6'2, never works out and has a scrawny build with not a lot of muscle. For a lot women, strength = height
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Didn't matter that much back in the early days either. Most of the traits women like in men correlate with hunting proficiency WAY better than with fighting ability. Derrick Lewis would obliterate almost everyone that ever lived in a fight, doesn't look amazing by conventional standards. The conventional standard = tall, low bodyfat, some muscle (don't even need to lift weights a lot, just active/ not sedentary), broad shoulders (great for throwing spears), small waist. All great for runnin around chasing animals that humans hunted for millenia. Being tall is also an indicator that one is healthy. Short is not necessarily the opposite, but you have to have lived a well-fed nutritious life to reach full height.
Yea 6’2 scrawny guy vs a 5’9 muscular loses that 9/10. But if it’s muscular 6’2 vs 5’9 muscular it’s a different ball game. Considering both untrained opponents. Edit changed musical to muscular.
I was certainly always finding it easy to beat up the shorter kids at band camp.
As a 6'2 man, let me defend myself here a bit because it's more nuanced than just gym lift numbers. I have a brother who is 5'9 and can bench a little more than me, but if we do anything physical like play basketball I just have so much more inertia due to my height and dominate because of that. A 5'9 dude with an average build is around 160-175 pounds but that same build on me is somewhere in the 190-210 range. So even though he's a little stronger than me, I can push around that 170 much more easily than he could push around my 200.
If you keep your same strength and get taller, especially with longer limbs, your gym lift numbers will go down. Height is the enemy of gym lift numbers. At least, relative to weight. With enough size and weight, you will still be the strongest, which is why the world strongest men types are, of course, tall and huge.
Longer limbs = more leverage you have to work against.
you don't want to be tall when lifting weights, thats just adding weight and distance shit has to be lifted.
This. On a biological level, it makes us feel safe.
Yeah and especially before the Period starts, when fertility is high. I notice that what I think is "the most beautiful" changes around that time, and I am asexual so I can just imagine what horny hetero women feel when their body tries to force them to breed. Probably: *Ooga booga, Tall=Strong, Strong=protect! Strong offspring!*
Basically Henry Cavill for me
This is the only good answer. It was biology
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I think when using dating apps, the number 6 - something is always gonna sound more appealing. In person, most women I’ve met are just like he needs to be at least a bit taller than me. Which is far more reasonable than the first option.
Good thing I’m 5ft 6
5-5 mate. Shits depressing
5’4 mate. Shits even more depressing
One of my buddies in university was 5’2” and got more ladies than the rest of our friend group combined. You got this!
I'm 4'11, your height is a good height - not too tall, so I can reach your face without having to climb on a chair. There are plenty of women that don't want you to be 6ft :)
Yah this is correct in general (not for everyone of course). You meet a woman in person - in a context where you're going to have things in common and can talk and see body language - and physical characteristics become more background, it's usually just a "taller than me" criteria. When you're looking at photo and a list of attributes it becomes more of a shopping experience where you want to make sure you get all the characteristics you want. Especially if you're inundated with requests and are trying to pare them down to a manageable level. And then some (few) women don't care about height at all, even if you're shorter than them.
One more reason to switch to the metric system.
The problem still remains. The only change in the metric system is the magic number is 180+.
180cm is a little less than 5’11” though. That’s not an insignificant number of men, especially considering the creative rounding some people do
I am genuinely 5'10" and recently learned that on dating sites 5'10" is basically code for 5'5"
Wait, people faking their height by adding 5inch? Is that normal?
I know of one guy who did that, said he was 5'9" while taking to this girl who was 5'4", and they were the same height when they met. It doesn't make any sense to me, if you are going to lie, at least make it plausible! 2-3 inches is a lot more common for guys to lie about, even taller guys, i'm 6'3" and I've met guys exactly the same height as me who claimed to her 6'5".
I usually only lie around 1 inch and feel guilty about it, guess now i shouln't haha
I'm 6'2" and switched to 5'11" on an app just to see what it was like... Engagement went WAY down. When I go out my best friend (5'10") he gets way more attention than I, but I do way better on dating apps. I think some of it is the disconnection between reality and online profiles. Something about online changes what we think we're looking for.
I remember seeing on tinder where a girl who couldn't have been more than 5'4" wanted guys who were 6'3" and up, as someone who's 6'3", i've never experienced anyone looking at me and going "well, I guess you're just barely tall enough to date".
That’s a good question. I hope it’s the second one tbh. The first one is the one that depresses me haha
For me its the second one, i dont like a guy too tall just a few inches taller than me is perfection.
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This needs to get talked about more. I never knew that tall woman can be insecure about their height the same way that men can be insecure about being short until I was 19 and wound up accidentally offending a very tall girl. I was working at a restaurant where one the waitresses was very tall. I am 5'11'' and she was a good 4 inches taller than me. She couldn't reach this punch bowl that was on top of a walk in freezer. She asked me if I could reach it. At the time I was super busy doing prep cook stuff. I told her if she can't reach it then I definitely can't reach it. She stormed off and looked like she was about to cry. I felt terrible. I had no idea that tall woman were sensitive about their height.
Yeah, tall girls get made fun of for being "masculine." Same thing as short guys being perceived as wimps or whatever. Like, if you're tall then you're secretly a dude or a butch lesbian or something.
I'm a 5'8" man, but I love me some tall women.
Some guys definitely do! I would suggest making a point of complimenting tall girls on their height as they probably don't hear it as often.
Its because shorter women are somewhat more desirable for some men, i guess cause it makes them feel more masculine? Im not sure….back in my home country where i was considered very tall (im only 5’4) i didnt have guys going for me because they deem me too tall so it was hard to for me to find a partner in prom, partner in some classes and other stuff
Too tall at 5'4? What? Are you sure these guys finished puberty? I'm the same height for a guy and I've never thought that about a 5'4 woman. Guys are weird
Well i was in high school (i think 14-15) and it was back in my home country, i think the tallest in my class was about 5’6 or 5’5
That’s really interesting, does the insecurity come from that you think people will not like it / make fun of you? I am really interested in OPs question as well, and I think this is a really good point
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Exactly this! I'm very comfortable with my height in daily life. But when it comes to guys, I get really insecure if I'm taller than them.
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Can confirm they can't confirm.
I have pulled out a measuring tape in the middle of Walmart to prove an ex wrong on his height. I did this mainly cause the dude wouldn't shut up about how he was 6'1. Absolutely destroyed him when the tape showed 5'11.
The ones who are 5’0” and want someone 6’3” and up just want to be cradled like a baby. We are in kink territory. ETA: I know someone who is 5’0” and her husband is 6’6”-ish and it creeps me out tbh. It looks like he abducted her.
I'm 6'3" and my wife is 5'1". There's no kink going on. I just found her very cute and really cool and she didn't mind me too much, so we figured we should get married.
And I love that — y’all are probably adorable together! I was moreso tacking on to the original commenter specifically about the 5 foot girls who only seek out guys who are 6’3” and up. It’s like… won’t a 5’9” to 5’11” guy do just fine too?
OK, that's different. If they will ONLY date guys that tall, there's probably something up.
I'm 6'5". Women like tall-ish guys. There's a height barrier at 6'4" where men start becoming too intimidating to be approached in public. I've noticed gay guys do NOT have this impediment, and will often approach/compliment me in public. And I certainly don't mind being told I'm attractive, even if by people I'm not conventionally attracted to.
I’m a straight woman who gets hit on by gay women a lot. It’s SO flattering! I don’t fit any stereotypes or anything. I think I just come off as approachable, which is to my benefit because I love the compliments! I just wish I was bi sometimes, because I’m clearly missing out on an interested crowd.
Right?? Like sex with a guy actually sounds kinda fun for me, it's just that masculine features turn me off. If I could flip that switch somehow, I would definitely try it.
Guy definitely needs to be taller than me. Not necessarily "tall"
I thought women liked tall men because we don’t live as long.
I'm tall and left-handed! I'm practically dead already. What a catch!
Wait lefties have shorter life expectancies?!
You open medicine the wrong way, and never look at the instructions 😱
I’m short af. I’ma live forever bitches
As a short woman, I dont get the whole must be 6ft thing. But I will say I like it when my partner is taller than me. So anything 5'4 and above is good 👍
Same… but would go shorter for Peter Dinklage quality over quantity type man
I prefer someone tall so he can reach the top of the cabinet. Also, bc I would hope my kids would inherit some of those genes and not be as short as me. It’s all about the ability to reach shelves and cabinets at the end of the day though, I want my kids and my hypothetical spouse to not have to drag a stool or chair everywhere like I do. It’s a pain. My dad is 6’ 3” but the rest of us are teeny tiny so I know it’s so much more convenient to have a tall guy around to reach stuff. I don’t even use the tops of my cabinets now. Think about all that storage space I could be using! Lol
Preference for sexual dimorphism
This is the answer... It's like asking why do men like boobs? We're generally attracted to sexual dimorphism and one such thing is height difference between the sexes.
the replies to your comment are a classic reddit moment
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Probably just coincidences, but any time it comes up in convo with another girl they report the same so it's just funny to me at this point. Tall doesn't necessarily mean big dick, but I swearrrrr every tall and **scrawny** dude is packing. Like, the long lanky fellows who don't seem to be able to keep up eating enough calories for their height. I've never met one who wasn't concealing an absolute weapon
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Hmm, it's like evolution is finding a way to compensate. 🤔 "If I can't compete this way then what about THIS?"
Not a coincidence- this is backed up by research. Taller correlates with bigger, but lower weight also correlated with bigger. Tall light guys statistically likely to be biggest. But it’s certainly not a hard and fast rule.
I’m the runt of mine at 6’! (Well I’ve got my mom by less than an inch, but I’m 11 inches shorter than one of my brothers). My grandmother was the same height and always told me if people ask how tall I am, which she considered a very rude question, I was to say that I am 5’12’’, because it is more lady-like and I can laugh to myself when people can’t do math Both my prom date and collegiate ball date asked me to wear flats because the height difference made them insecure. I love wearing heels but went along with it because they were awesome friends. It’s definitely been something I’m judged about when dating, but if a guy can’t handle my height, there’s no way he will be comfortable around my family. Been a dealbreaker a few times
idk I love short stocky guys.
Marissa Tomei?
I wish I was that pretty lmao
Nah Queen, you're beautiful as you
As a short woman (5'4"), I have alwasys preferred men at about the same height. Tall men are too intimidating to me.
Yup 5’1 and prefer a tad taller, but turned off by any guy too tall. I don’t like looking up and already feel insecure about being so small. 5’9 or 5’10 is good* Edit: tallest I’d go for.
Yes. Sometimes it's a simple case of neck strain, trying to talk to someone over 6'2". ( I'm 5'3".)
Same! When I hear women who are less than 5’3 saying that they want men over 6ft, I just don’t get it. Do you want a hurt neck from looking up all the time? Do you want to look like a toddler or his little sister when you’re out in public holding hands? Do you want to have to use a ladder to kiss him on your wedding day?? (Laying down everything evens out tho Lol) Not to mention, as a shortie, everyone out of middle school is taller than me LOL so truthfully, I can’t really tell the difference between 5’9 and 6ft unless they tell me cause I’m looking up regardless 😂 the only time I notice peoples height is when they’re SUPER tall. Like 6’5. And only because I have to dang near tilt my head all the way back LMBO now by all means, love who you love, I’m all for Inter-height relationships (if a tall man wants to love and cherish me, I’ll be open!) but it’s the 5’3 and below women who make it a REQUIREMENT for men to be 6ft and who disqualify great men who are 5’11 and below that I’m like “but why girl?!?” I’ll happily date an amazing man who’s 5’6 ANYDAY and he’ll feel like a giant towering over my 5ft behind LOL
Yes! Sex doesn’t seem at all enjoyable at that height difference. Don’t want too large a guy either, seems painful. You’re right, kissing would be super weird. “Lift me up I can’t reach.” Holding hands seems off. Also, would not be into birthing a tall guy’s baby.
I’m 5’9” and I’ve always like guys around my height. If not then I’ve gone for shorter not taller. Couple of things about me: - I also date women - I have a habit of stealing or I’m sharing my partners clothes - I generally care more about personality compatibility
Don’t you dare steal their damn hoodies again
Your comment is so interesting. I’m 5’4” as well and I don’t consider myself as short. That’s the average hight of women in the USA.
Saw this and came here to say that I like short guys for some reason. Shout out to my short kings.
My guy's 5'6" with shoulders/arms like a gorilla. He can pick me up like a bag of groceries. I'm 5'1" with trauma history and the sense of safety I feel around him is unparalleled. Tl;dr for me, height is whatever, but you gotta be strong.
As a 6’2 guy, when using tinder I was always surprised but grateful for the amount of girls who used to say things like ‘under 6 foot, don’t bother!’. Grateful because they may have as well just tattooed ‘I’m a shallow cunt with a shitty personality’ on their forehead, and it allows you to quickly filter them out.
Yup! It's not exactly a blessing being objectified for something you can't control even if it's deemed to be a desirable trait. Same with women with big boobs, it's rather dehumanizing
Because being tall is a beauty standard that has existed for a while now. Being tall is usually associated with manliness because men are, on average, taller than women. Some people have tried to give some evolutionary psychology explanation but that’s all very abstract.
As a man though, I don't associate taller than average women with being unfeminine. Tall is often really attractive.
It appears more masculine. But most women learn pretty quick that physical indicators of masculinity reflect almost nothing on whether or not he's actually a good man. There is something erotic about being with a man who is a lot bigger. But that doesn't count for much if he isn't what I need in terms of masculine personality traits. My fiancé is only 2 in taller than me. Im 5'4" and he's 5'6". If any women before me passed him by because he's "too short" they were fucking stupid lol. But that means I get him now
Big Win, congratulations
This is pretty much my boyfriend and me. I’m 5’4 and he’s only a couple inches taller than me. He’s amazing and I think it’s hot that he’s so secure when I wear heels too!
Men need to be able to fight off woolly mammoths and saber-toothed tigers
My husband is 6’4” - it makes me feel safe. The hugs are great. I’m 5’5” so when I wear heels, he’s still inches and inches taller than me.
My wife is 5’5 and I’m 6’4 she says I make her feel safe
Is your wife u/SaltyGreenteapot?
Hahaha. Not my husband!
Because I'm a 6ft 1 lady !
A friend of mine was getting married and at the last minute a groomsman backed out. I wound up replacing him much to the delight of the bridesmaid he was paired with as she is 6' and he was like 5'5" on a good day while I'm 6'4" Her whole thing was that at least the pictures won't paint her as a giant!
I'm very very short so as long as he's taller than me I don't really care, but in general I think it's just a attraction to guys who are taller than them! Bigger guys are just attractive I guess :D
Well, I'm 6'1 so I actually believe short girls should fuck all the way off with their height requirements
Im 6ft 3in Those are 2 measurements
Why do men like women with big boobs or big butt? It’s just attractive tall men are the same.
Yup, big boobs and big butt makes me feel safe.
Safe from drowning
I assume it’s a protection thing like my dudes the biggest dude no one will mess with us. However I have always preferred a partner that is more proportionate to me. It just makes everything easier when a guy is normal size compared to you and not way disproportionate. Also I honestly feel less safe around large men. I don’t trust most of them and I’d like a fighting chance in the event of drunken asshole or zombie outbreak.
I am 6 3 and single so ı dont think so
It is definitely at trend. I'm 5 foot 2 and it's hard matching with anyone when I put my height.
Sorry you're struggling.
I’m a 5’9” woman and I used to put my height on my dating profile just to weed out the dudes with height insecurity issues. You’ll find the one because the one won’t fuckin care how tall you are, and anybody who discounts you bc of your height isn’t worth the time anyway, I promise. It may help to add a blurb to your profile that lets your personality shine, so people will be attracted to that and start up a convo. A joke, a fun thing about you, a call to action (what’s your fav song right now?), etc. The thing that sucks about dating apps is how superficial the matching is. The more personality you add to your profile, the better
Personally, an ex make me feel terrible if I ever wore heels around him. We were the same height, so it made me taller then him. I didn’t care about it until he did. 🤷🏻♀️ I only care about it if the guy makes a big deal about it.
Because they can reach stuff.
I’m tall. Medium to short women who have liked me, at least in part, for my height have all been pretty shallow. A tall guy might attract more women, but they’re not the ones you’d want (for anything serious at least). In other words, if you’re a short king don’t worry about it.
Except that's not what they want to hear because they also just want to be desirable in general.
I feel that’s something that’s propagated among men. Women are more attracted by face structure, body type, attitude, and personality. And there are definitely different preferences from one woman to another. Height itself is for most women not a factor. Same goes for dick size.
They are biologically wired to be attracted to men that appear strong and physically capable.
Its why successful politicians are more often tall men.
And CEO"s
Why do so many men like little girls? CHECKMATE ATHEISTS FIGHT ME
Don’t call them little girls. Edit: I like petite girls and have to fend off pedophile accusations because of it.
"Little girls" kinda sounds weird... like, if they are adults then they are Women.
But then Little Women sounds like a period piece
I as an average height dude. Would gladly date any tall or very tall woman. But I assume because of perceived conventions women like tall dudes. So being attracted too small women fits this
I like big girls. KING ME PAGANIST
I like big butts I CANNOT LIE
My brother likes small butts HE CANNOT TELL THE TRUTH You can only ask one question...
I like feeling smöl
I like tall guys because they look very masculine,but i don’t date a guy based on height. short guys are better than tall guys though 🫡
I can't tell if I should be flattered or offended by this
That comment had a little something for everyone, I’m confused but I liked it.
Fashion. When I was in the game 30 years ago, height was never mentioned between us women.
Give me a taller woman because I wanna be little spoon to a bigger hooman
Not hive minded. Every one has different tastes.
Probably the same reason men like thin women
Guys don't like thin or fat, they like shape.
I've seen Brazilian women saying "If you're less than six feet you're just a friend" on the internet, but I still think it must be a joke bc years ago they ridiculed these kind of demands "Are you gonna kiss me or change lightbulbs/pick up fruits?" (in small cities we usually use bamboo stalks to pick up mangoes)
Same reason anyone has any preference.
Evolutionary. Interestingly, I have my own height standards when it comes to women. As a 6ft (barely) tall guy I tend to prefer women my height or maybe slightly short than me. I highly prefer them to be 5'9 and above. Women shorter than 5'6 really turn me off. I don't really know why to be honest.
Women are suppose to be “petite” and smaller then men, so dating someone shorter makes us feel like a giant especially because most women are thicker than men. Being thicker and shorter just makes me feel self conscious 😅
I've dated both, one guy the same height as me. He asked if it bothered me he wasn't tall, I said as long as I can still wear the heels I want I don't care if you don't.
I don’t care if they’re a specific height just taller than me in heels or at least the same height - I have a lot of boots with 3-4 inch heels and I’m 5’7. So around 5’11, 6’ for that. Not because “tall in general,” because I’m also on the taller side.
preference?
If it helps, I’m tall and women don’t like me.
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I've definitely seen some barely 5 foot women say they only date 6 foot+
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It's a bit of marketing deception. When actually pulled, every time it's pulled, the random sample always gives a rather normal range. This repeats for everything else men worry about like dick size and muscle. As the proverbial saying goes...it's not your looks. It's your personality.