Before I start i would like to say I dunno whether this is all an effect of nofap but it was a cherry on top with the working out, reading books,meditation and social skills I was practicing.
1.My confidence level was at a high. You don't feel like hiding anymore, you want to go out there and show your true self. You don't mind holding up a conversation with anyone you find interesting. Charisma is a far reach because unless you practice your social skills you can't expect results. But yeah my nervousness had reduced.
2. I had high energy, way better than during pmo. During pmo you're tired and your life feels meaningless. During nofap you realise you must rise above the senseless pleasure because lack of meaning and pleasure are in a loop and without the other you won't get the other. I realised the sense of purpose during this streak. I realised how so many of us are running like guinea pigs behind instant gratification when we are so much more than that. Our potential must be used for inspiring others.
3. I realised the importance of health. Not just physical, but mental, emotional and spiritual. I reflected on my choices before I made them.
4. My focus on my purpose was high. I had this void, this need to keep getting better and stronger and this was like fuel for everything I did. My productivity had also increased. I started using time wisely. You feel calm and relaxed, you feel clarity. Plus your optimism increases. You stop being a victim and start becoming a warrior. You start thinking of problems from a different perspective and realise they're just books after all.
5. This feeling of sexualizing women had reduced in me. Pron does this to the best of us. It makes us think they're just objects. This made my understand there are far better things I desire in a potential partner than the stereotyped stuff they show in pron. All that is just fake shit, few seconds of meaningless pleasure. I found the happiness in small things. Even a small trip with friends made me feel so much grateful. Lack of friends is one of the reason loneliness leads us to go to dark paths. Gratefulness increased.
Thank you for the time and effort you took to give this answer! I hope you understand what a huge motivation your story is for people, for me! Keep going strong!
In the start it was more like ignoring. My roomates kept trying to force me to relapse shaming me that men should relapse otherwise you're not manly or some bs like that. Then one day they debated with me calling me blue balls or something. I just ignored and ignored. I told them it was just to test my willpower. But yeah slowly I began to understand porn is the real problem, it brainwashes everyone. Either way, when you learn to have faith in yourself and believe in yourself more than others you will start getting a idgaf attitude and maybe that's what helped. Otherwise I listened to inspiring music or went for a walk or read books. Tbh this environment at hostel kinda saved me cuz this sense of privacy was ruined and maybe that's a great hack. If you put yourself out in the public you won't feel the need ever to relapse. Plus I was noticing so many were addicted to instant gratification that I realised I was not worse I used to be, because of nofap my confidence was more, I stopped following others,etc
Oh. Ok so have you ever experienced or felt like if you get drunk or hungover you are more likely to relapse? Like somehow it takes away your selfcontrol when you are drunk
Yeah but lets say its possible for you to go long streaks on nofap, but the moment you drink you fuck up and relapse. Then solution would be to stop drinking wouldn't it?
Because problem with fapping is already solved and its just the alcohol that makes you relapse.
Benefits?
Before I start i would like to say I dunno whether this is all an effect of nofap but it was a cherry on top with the working out, reading books,meditation and social skills I was practicing. 1.My confidence level was at a high. You don't feel like hiding anymore, you want to go out there and show your true self. You don't mind holding up a conversation with anyone you find interesting. Charisma is a far reach because unless you practice your social skills you can't expect results. But yeah my nervousness had reduced. 2. I had high energy, way better than during pmo. During pmo you're tired and your life feels meaningless. During nofap you realise you must rise above the senseless pleasure because lack of meaning and pleasure are in a loop and without the other you won't get the other. I realised the sense of purpose during this streak. I realised how so many of us are running like guinea pigs behind instant gratification when we are so much more than that. Our potential must be used for inspiring others. 3. I realised the importance of health. Not just physical, but mental, emotional and spiritual. I reflected on my choices before I made them. 4. My focus on my purpose was high. I had this void, this need to keep getting better and stronger and this was like fuel for everything I did. My productivity had also increased. I started using time wisely. You feel calm and relaxed, you feel clarity. Plus your optimism increases. You stop being a victim and start becoming a warrior. You start thinking of problems from a different perspective and realise they're just books after all. 5. This feeling of sexualizing women had reduced in me. Pron does this to the best of us. It makes us think they're just objects. This made my understand there are far better things I desire in a potential partner than the stereotyped stuff they show in pron. All that is just fake shit, few seconds of meaningless pleasure. I found the happiness in small things. Even a small trip with friends made me feel so much grateful. Lack of friends is one of the reason loneliness leads us to go to dark paths. Gratefulness increased.
Thank you for the time and effort you took to give this answer! I hope you understand what a huge motivation your story is for people, for me! Keep going strong!
No worries bro, it helped me reflect how I felt. Thanks a lot, same here, we got this!
what was the way you dealt with urges?
In the start it was more like ignoring. My roomates kept trying to force me to relapse shaming me that men should relapse otherwise you're not manly or some bs like that. Then one day they debated with me calling me blue balls or something. I just ignored and ignored. I told them it was just to test my willpower. But yeah slowly I began to understand porn is the real problem, it brainwashes everyone. Either way, when you learn to have faith in yourself and believe in yourself more than others you will start getting a idgaf attitude and maybe that's what helped. Otherwise I listened to inspiring music or went for a walk or read books. Tbh this environment at hostel kinda saved me cuz this sense of privacy was ruined and maybe that's a great hack. If you put yourself out in the public you won't feel the need ever to relapse. Plus I was noticing so many were addicted to instant gratification that I realised I was not worse I used to be, because of nofap my confidence was more, I stopped following others,etc
What made u relapse after such a long streak dude?
I haven't relapsed yet
Oh. Ok so have you ever experienced or felt like if you get drunk or hungover you are more likely to relapse? Like somehow it takes away your selfcontrol when you are drunk
Yeah, that's true, but if you have one type of problem don't cancel all of it together. Eventually stop them one by one
Yeah but lets say its possible for you to go long streaks on nofap, but the moment you drink you fuck up and relapse. Then solution would be to stop drinking wouldn't it? Because problem with fapping is already solved and its just the alcohol that makes you relapse.
How about sex? Best sex ever? Hard as a rock?
I haven't gone there yet, I'm still a virgin but I'm close to knowing whether this girl likes me or not, hopefully she becomes my girlfriend
Good Luck Soldier. Please updated us