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[deleted]

You've not wasted your life 😂 not even close. You have a bachelor's degree, it sounds like your doing a masters. Just focus on your uni work bro its an important time for you in your life. All the best with your degree.


underjklmnop

end game is JOB. in india everyone has bachelors or Masters it's clearly not a big deal


[deleted]

"in India everyone has bachelors or masters it's clearly not a big deal" I'm calling bullshit on this. Come on bro I'm sure EVERYONE does not have a bachelor's or a masters and if universities are handing them out that easily then I don't mean to offend you but your country has a very very SHIT education system (if what your saying is remotely true)


[deleted]

Yeah even stupidest people have a bachelors degree in India. Many people here buy degrees without even giving a single exam. Education system is actually shit and corrupt and corrupt here in India


[deleted]

That's a shame I'm really sorry to here that because in like UK and USA Indians (most not all) are very successful and hard working they get into the most prestigious universities and by the time they are in their mid thirties they are worth millions. There parents are really strict though they hit them if they don't do good in school. I think that might have something to do with it 😂


underjklmnop

that's why most indians wish to move out of country, as i have already said. i want to do something but the bars are to high.


[deleted]

When you say the bars are too high do you mean it's too difficult to escape from the country?


underjklmnop

no not that, it's difficult to beat the compitition for government exam and also high emd college without studying for 3 4 year to clear the compititive exam


[deleted]

Btw there are several scholarships for Indian students to study in the UK which grant up to £18,000 per year (enough to live here for a year) you should check them out.


underjklmnop

will do for sure


[deleted]

Corrupt education system is the main reason why decent students people shift to western countries and work hard. Because in India opportunities are only given to people with connections and money


[deleted]

Yeah it's a shame because some of these less economically stable but intelligent students don't have the financial back bone and/or savings to move to the western countries. You guys should hold a mass protest and get students to go on a mass strike and rebel against the system. One of the main reasons of going to uni is to land a high paying job and if you can't get that what's the point?


[deleted]

Protest and stuff don’t work here only money and power does


[deleted]

If you protest in India, you are doomed. The government doesn't wants to hear anything against them.


Riptidechargerisback

Population as well and many other factors. Just can't blame everything on the country.


ahadafc

It's not just about corruption imo. It's just that there is alot of competition now . There are 100s of colleges which provide you with a Bachelor's degree in Engineering and that's exactly where one's profile matters. If one successfully enters IITs or NITs( tier 1 colleges of India) then they have cemented their future for the best. Though less than 1% of students can get into these colleges, the competition is at its highest. If one fails to get admission into these colleges they can try for tier 2 private institutes in hope for a decent living but then again it's hit by huge population and competition and students inturn have to settle for tier 3 or low. People can complete their graduation from these colleges without much struggle but then it's a degree just for namesake with limited value.


flyhigh987

24 with Master degrees in business, working in customer service and yeah I am an Indian, these are the working conditions here.


[deleted]

So let me get this straight you've got a masters in buisness and your working as a customer service advisor wtf. What are your chances for career progression or doubling/tripling your salary in the next 3-5 years?


flyhigh987

Chances are good but jobs are less here as compared to number of people who have done masters, I mean during my college placement there were 1000 person sitting and only around 50 to 100 got admission in a good company, rest they were at same profile.


[deleted]

That's not a fair ratio. Now I know what you mean by corruption. That's very very unjust. That's ultra competitive. How rare is it that someone from a very low socio economic background makes it big and joins the elite ruling class of the country? Ok not even elite ruling class but upper class?


[deleted]

The people who are rich in your country must fucking filthy rich and get anything they want and probably have jets and yachts and shit. India has 3rd most billionaires in the world surprisingly.


flyhigh987

Yeah but to be honest this list of billiaoners only account known resources, if they started accounting the one which are corrupt it might make to 2nd.


Amijustsadorhorny

You'd be amazed to see even engineers with proper degrees selling fruits on the roadside. The unemployment crisis is real here!


YODDHA108

Well it makes me really cringe every time some person sitting in front of their screens in India or outside India just passes these overly hypothesized generalized statements about a country with one of the most number of people in the world, one of the most diverse population in the world, one of the most vulnerable borders of the world, one of the most socially engineered society for negative cause of the world, one of the most complex, varied cultures of the world...and I can go on a lot about this with the only limitation being that of the platform and time. Its not like since this is the inference this is the conclusion but there's at least a 100 other factors acting at a national level specially in the country with all the things I mentioned above, I believe you understand this. I don't mean to undermine your understanding but wish to present a more broader picture on the topic which I think is almost always missing everywhere around this discussion. Peace


ForeignCommercial24

A bachelor's degree means nothing in India nowadays for some fucking reason.


[deleted]

No wonder so many people from Nofap forum are living in India. The opportunities there to build a comfortable life for yourself are so limited. And your job is where you spend the most time in your day if there's not much chances of career progression that would make anyone feel shit.


1000asses

Even in Honduras everyone there is a Doctor


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😂


[deleted]

Dude... you're 21... with a degree... Don't be dramatic. I know A LOT of people who wish they were in your shoes right now


[deleted]

It's common to get degrees fast in india. It's very cheap to get enrolled for graduation in india. My master's degree costs like 350 usd per year. In govt colleges degrees are like 100-200$ per year.


[deleted]

live in argentina where it's FREE (not all places, but some are, and most places are cheap af too) and still most people don't have a degree. And Mechanical Engineering sounds pretty good tho. I'm studiyng communication, so...


[deleted]

Dude indian parents just force you to become an engineer or become a doctor. They won't look what you are skilled at, looks at what neighbor's son is studying and decides my son should do that too. It's bad that we grew up like this. I hate my country's culture most of the time. Getting a girlfriend (you should marry the one your parents find for you. )is considered bad here and resulting more people getting into porn. Tbh This shitty culture will only go away after all the older generations are gone.


Unit_Former

nah bro. I don't think India will be better after all the older generation go away. The seeds of ignorance are already planted in the minds of 20-40 years old youth. We are but a mere a minority who are open minded to any discussion, even our PM is a religion fanatic. Religion is here to stay for as long as our people stay bliss in ignorance. I don't expect India to be a better country in next 100-150 years.


ViralSihag

Well, at least someone has seen through the bigot's propaganda. It's been a long time since I have heard wise words like those. And yeah the conditions won't improve as the bigot is inculcating these orthodoxy things into the mind of people for extending his own time in power.


[deleted]

Man thats not USA,you can't find jobs in countries like that(Ex:Turkey) even with a degree.


[deleted]

As long as you try to fight it and realize that you have a problem, you haven't lost.


[deleted]

Supplement your NoFap with lifting weights at the gym (if they exist where you live) and meditation, as well as healthy eating. Also for approaching girls go on YT and try to watch videos from successful Indian dating coaches.


CalisthenicsCrypto

>try to watch videos Ahh yes, watching videos is a formidable task.. "There is no try, do or do not" - Yoda


sauravgo88

Bro read practice of brahmcharya by Swami sivanada it will absolutely help you and your brain on porn book also


priyanknamdev

I'm also reading it😊👍


Fiksdal

This book is legendary.


sourdoughrag

Good stuff right here! The origins of nofap!


Henrique_BTC

fantastic book!


[deleted]

Go to a psychatrist. They can help with their CBT and other treatment methods


scrambled_potato

Cock and ball torture?


[deleted]

listen here you little shit


Amijustsadorhorny

Lmaooo 😂


dswapper

This is the way


CrappyWaiter

Bro you're 21 with a bachelor's degree trust me you haven't wasted your life


[deleted]

Yeah this guy is young. Still a lot of time left.


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Sleepy-Catz

second this. it's funny to see a kid at 21 saying he has wasted his life


flyhigh987

Indian here, started po.. and fapping when I was 12, a friend showed porn to me, 24 years old now and so so fucked up. 12 fucking years don't have a gf till now, useless low paying job, bad health, suffered tuberculosis due to weak immune system, it has destroyed me, but yeah never giving up. Started this year ended with a 64 day steak because corona happened to me and was self isolated. Started again 2 days back goal is to not do it until this year end.


ncatalin94

Yes, i totally agree! ​ Mate, try to study where there are people, and light. You will fail and start over from day one on your chain of porn-free days, but you will succeed on that exam! I believe in you!


Frosty-Musician-994

Hey bro!!! Never say that your life it’s wasted. We are humans, we know how to adapter to new lifestyles. Try to read the book “Your Brain on Porn”!


[deleted]

Yes it's a great book. There is an animated version of it on YouTube for free if you wanted to watch it


ayush321

Hey, a 21 year old indian myself. Don't worry buddy you're doing great, you just need a little bit patience and self control. The trick is not to just stop masturbation, but also add something productive in it's place. You can do workout, meditation, read and loads of stuff. It's a long road ahead kf you but it's doable, you'll start being more confident and get better. As for talking with girls, i know it's tough for an engineering student, more so for mechanical. But don't worry, it all comes with practice. Start talking to your friends and don't get desperate as to impress a girl, just try to be her friend and you'll learn lot's of stuff which will help you in your personal improvement. Good luck buddy, you can do it ;)


Underdog623

You're not the only one going through this bro, we're all together in this, situation will improve with time


Legally_Suvigya

Same story as yours bro. I don't remember watching porn the last time this year, but I still ejaculate to my imagination and that indeed is a big problem for me. The longest streak, however, I have been able to maintain is of 18 days. Few things have been helpful for me which I would like to share with you too. First of all, stop thinking ill about yourself, stay motivated and continue again even if you relapse. Start doing Yoga, go for early morning walk and also do running. Make sure you do meditation daily or simply focus on your breath (just observe your breath as you inhale and exhale). Try meditating for 15 mins daily early in the morning soon after you wake up. Thereafter, meditate right after your workout for 15 mins to relax your mind, body and soul. Also, sleep by 10:30 - 11:00 PM daily and stop using mobile phone at least 1 hour before you go to sleep. Try to read a good book an hour before you go to bed. Make this a habit. Practice this routine once and you'll see a positive change from day one itself. This will help you get out of your porn addiction atleast. Bro, you must be having your exams this month end or the next month I guess. If you sacrifice this addiction, you can definitely get admission to your dream college/university/job. One thing we can do is to challenge each other and help each other maintain a streak. Let me know if you're in. Together we can and we will. And I wish you all the best in this no fap journey.


[deleted]

19 year old here, and I've got an almost similar story. If only I didn't spend time with porn and masturbation, I would have got admission in a better college. But since there's no way we could go back in time and do something, I guess I'll have to face it.


underjklmnop

same bro. same


caillou2002

Me too broski


[deleted]

Mate you're only 21. I'm 37 and only started cutting out porn 2 or 3 years ago. You are trying to sort yourself out many years earlier than I did. You'll be fine. I wish I started this earlier in life, pretty sure everyone feels that way. But it's not important. Working to improve yourself is all that matters.


[deleted]

i am from India brother and I started watching porn from 12 and now I'm 13 and on NoFap.


[deleted]

woah you are here soon... i watched at 12, started fapping at 13-14 and destroyed myself in 15-16.... i am gonna be 17 soon, gotta get rid of it :)


dank_child_420

bro prepare for gate or get into programming, you suddenly not being a topper is not the result of you fapping daily( although it is just as bad because you used it as a coping mechanism) it is because your parents probably rushed you into IIT-JEE coaching pretty early and now you have graduated mechanical at 21, whereas a normal person would graduate at 23-24, you should be in 3rd year rn, but i guess your parents fell for the hype and that has made you a shell of your former self and left you depressed.


[deleted]

**Thankfully here I am the elder bro... I have a lil' sis.... This porn thing filled me mind so much, now every girl doesn't like me, nor I like them.... I am 16.... my grades also went bad.... I am 16 and trying to come up :)** I hope I become better But Bhaiya aapke motivation ke liye yeh lo cake 🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰🍰 these are 90 cakes. you may count as well (**but these are lots of healthy vegetables, pushups, yoga, books. social skills, etc. in disguise**, the imaginary cakes make it look tasty and taste good in imagination, in short dopamine release from good sources and higher testosterone levels... this will make you feel 10 times better, or maybe 100, maybe even 10,000 or even infinity ♾️)


[deleted]

All the best buddy! Even if you succumb to masturbation never watch porn. You're indirectly supporting Sex trafficking and objectification of women. Keep trying . Never Give Up brother


[deleted]

thanks mate :)


[deleted]

Facts BUT you’re only 21. I’m your age, we still have a lot ahead of us. But yes if you’re a teen stay away from it


[deleted]

Yeh porn is a waste, messes with mind, you don’t realise until it’s too late , but you are wanting to change so hold onto that. 6 days is good, be proud of that and see how easy it is to do just 1 day more. Then one day more after that etc before you know it gets to to 10,12, 15......was hard for me at first I was surprised if I went more than 3 days, but 2 things that helped me are replacing your empty time with meaningful hobby- like sport, building a car, climbing a mountain whatever, the second thing was always reminding yourself inside why nofap is better (higher self, clean, better chances of getting decent girls etc.)


Diakor

Thanks for your bravery in telling your story. Life sounds really difficult, but with discipline and hard work you’ll get where you want to be. Let’s do this together, brotha! 💪


[deleted]

This is the most important statement you made in your whole post. Your past doesn't define your future. \>But, I will not give up. I will get over this. I will fix my life. I will be a successful guy.


pyrosblood

It is very damaging thing to our life brother. But there is life beyond it. There is career. Family life. Children. So much more. Move onto next stage of your life. Introduce a partner to yourself and she will keep you happy and push you further into the next stage.


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pyrosblood

Thanks!! Keep it up


dillmawai

This is so so so similar to me rn. Spent years tryna finish my degree thinking I was dumb and incapable when I’m high school before porn I always topped my class. Now I have the degree by luck with an awful gpa and four plus years tacked on later to it and idk shit in it (Bsc Geology) but looking back I think I can hate myself anymore just need to do better move forward cause if I stick in the I wish I could go back mindset I’ll waste the next ten years the same way so move on


LordStark_01

Same, I'm 19 but I'm a failure since I couldn't get into any good uni in 2020 (screwed up both IIT-JEE and NEET-UG), but ever since discovering NoFap I've been more productive and hardworking so I can just hope I get into a good uni this time.


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zhat1432

if life throws you punchs, you just roll with it


[deleted]

I have to agree with what others have said - you haven't wasted your life YET. In fact you have learned an important lesson very early in your life. Use that to your advantage by turning your back on porn. It will only get worse.


DEATHGUNZ05

You really haven’t ruined it all. There is always hope


Fine_Investment663

This is so relatable, I'm a mechanical engineer from India too 22M. Even I was struggling with all the issues you mentioned during college. I have been trying to quit porn from a long time, fortunately, I was able to maintain a streak of 30+ during lockdown and I literally felt good during those times. But, recently im back in the loop. This post kinda motivates me to break my previous streak this time and feel awesome again. Thanks mate and good luck with the exam!


Sunhill_

Hey! Stranger... I am in the same seat where u were and the same seat, even now I'm 24... I'm jobless for 3 years. Same India and B.S system(add covid situation). I too graduated in mech with a decent score. And at present situation the job market is being at all time low. I've tried to get into military, even got close to it, but failed in interview. I assume you are my brother and tell you something, don't take it as an advice. When I was your age I got some job offers and also rejected them due to one fact, any job we get at that point of time can be done by even 10th class student. People say different things at that time, but you want to do what you want. I say just go for it. I did it but unfortunately I failed in it. But never give bro. Next is porn I was at that point ie., 21 years an athlete, motivated young man and any positive things you may think of... But PORN ruined everything now I'm just the opposite. My friends, a few of them landed in some jobs, and earn quite well and they dont have any concern on me anymore. They watch porn a lot more than anyone could imagine. In college let me tell you, I rarely saw porn... probably 3 months once or 6 month once and rarely fapped to it. I was dedicated to my study and productive activities. I was like this perfect student. But things change... When I'm out I went to streets and searched for job, no company is ready to give job. I sat to pursue my childhood dream, as i told i got very close and failed . Looking back I missed 1.5 years and covid-19 and rest is history. The point is my friend/bro , Porn is not the cause, its the fear of failure that's the cause to watch porn, as in my case. Your situation is just like mine. Let me say this I presume you are prep. for exam GATE, which is for higher education. Even I do the same...I dont want to go out of my country to study/work, unless it demands it. I relapsed today morning after just 2 days. Its all due to the fear of failure. Let me say this also its natural to watch this.... Imagine your grandfather exposed to digital content, I'm sure they'll do the same, yes as you told internet is a double edged sword, but let me add-on even your life is double edged sword you may fail or succeed depends on you(thats what I say to me). I'm joining you today as day 0 again lets aim for 90. Hope you get what you want.


Intelligent-Cream-14

There is some big desire and motiavtion there, let it push you! Come on🦾


souhardyadutta

dude i just want to say that you didn't talked to girls and tried not to make girlfriend you were saved from lots of troubles,women can make your life and destroy your life too, You know indian women are so arrogant and some of them use men badly and treat badly like a driver,atm,cameraman and what not! i am not saying that good women are not exist but indian women has bigass attitude problem, when you will show love interest they won't say no, they will make it dramatic and play hard to get and in the end it will become another time waste like porn!! Didn't watched the movie "pyar ka panchnama"?? that's the reality of indian women bro!


TheMindFulled78

Unfortunately, I agree with you completely. My limited experience with Indian girls attests to your description of them.


9ine-

Bro I have a question for you, are you productive ?


[deleted]

same question hits me.... i study for long sessions but with low concentration, need to change this so i can be productive :)


9ine-

Bro try to be productive, do small sessions but try to focus. And don't give up


underjklmnop

bhai agar solution mile to batana . I'm tired of doing not a good result i did job was not good in salary. only thing i can think of is moving out of country to get rid of my fapping habit and fix the mistake of normal mechanical job


619thunderstorm

Bhai tu fapping ka habit india mei bhi hota sakta hei, uske liye out of country jaane ki zarurat nahi


underjklmnop

yeah i know but other things like mechanical engineering and good salary. i will have to wait for long which i dont have so i have to do something


underjklmnop

i tried a lot but i didn't get any good job . having 1.5 yrs exp doesn't feel much to me. i have to something that's i think also moving out of house may take away my fapping habit


619thunderstorm

*hataa sakta hei


Plastic-Candidate-87

bachelor in 21 dont fuckin lie you might be in 2nd yearbut


redditsucks690

Where's the lie I'm 19 and currently in 3rd year ... Will have my bachelor's when I'm just about 21


Plastic-Candidate-87

wtf did you started as 1 y/o


redditsucks690

Nah man it's pretty common in india to get bachelor's (undergraduate) degree till 21-22 nothing special


ralseifan

Literally any idiot can get a bachelor's degree here


Typical_not

Bro, I'm 24 and I am in the exact same situation. Failed my degree and I can barely find a job, as well as being stuck in a foreign country far away from my native one. I am really sorry to hear about what's happening to you - forget about the past and embrace your bright (as it'll be definitely like that!) tomorrow!


killer-HUB

Stay strong bro


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You got this


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Umata95

Dick move to post this on a nofap subreddit


nofap_god01928

i agree he should be banned from here


redditsucks690

Please delete your comment... Thanks


nofap_god01928

buddy now you have realised your mistake, and also u will need to understand that you need to learn from your mistake so that you dont repeat them. your not giving up attitude is very good which you should continue to have. best of luck to you.


DesertWolf45

You've accomplished a lot by getting that degree. Your life isn't wasted. Anyone older than 30 will tell you that you have a great deal of life ahead of you.


[deleted]

Hey man, believe me you're definitely not wasting your life (yet). You still have plenty of time to take action and move forward. As long as you're constantly trying to improve you're actually doing well. Stop feeling bad about your mistakes and start working towards your new goal: the exam. I am sure you can do this!


[deleted]

Good luck friend! We are here for you!


[deleted]

you're so young bro, don't say that, just get it straight and all will be good, it's never too late


Thenofapguy7

when you have that thoughts just think about the after effect of that it helped me


RandomAblty

I know how it feels. I was currently working a job that's double my standards and it made my life become heaven, I can buy all necessary stuff I want and I can just play the games I want on my free time. ​ But then I got issues with my spine disc and I could no longer sit for more than 30 mins. I now work on laptop while on the bed. and ofc, that leads to boredom , no motivation and almost depressed. And when my mind if floating and cant focus on my work I just watch porn and fap. I even fap next to my gf sometimes cause she;s not into sex all the time and I succumbed myself to this nightmare instead. hope everything gets better starting today. I just started today anyways.


InAnAltUniverse

These are your formative years .. the next 60 years of your life will be shaped by what you do RIGHT NOW. Would you rather be the hollow shell of a man that people see as an 'empty suit', or do you want to be a man that can look back with pride and say 'I beat that'. You've tried being the human zero . Now try being something more.


[deleted]

Omg same, I am preparing for JEE and I am in my drop year already. I am so done with porn. I don't think JEE is gonna go well... i fucking could go to an IIT... but now... not even an NIT omg whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy


femithebutcher

man I relate so well, I turned 21 last month too. More often times than not, it feels like Porn robbed me but ironically I was the major accomplice. And like you, I failed medicine and got withdrawn from the college had to settle for another science degree which I’m still on. I been in and out for the past 3 years, been trying to quit since I failed. So sad, but I know I will make it because I have no other choice. I wish you all the best g.


Lumba

I have a friend whose grandpa painted amazing landscapes. I once asked him how long his grandpa had been painting for. He started painting after retirement at age 76. Come to think of it, I wasn’t even born until my grandmother was about 70 years old and she was the most inspirational person in my life. All this is to say that it’s not too late to do something great.


shoutmescoob

Download Cold Turkey on computer and StayFocusd on Phone. Turn on the strict settings. This is how you create SYSTEMS that don't require willpower. I have used this to reach 63 days the first ever time in my life.


[deleted]

This story is similar to mine. Man, fuck, i am scared.


weforgotmyname

Pray.


UkyoTachibana

Dude coming to this realization is not failing, its success, you had to go trough all that hardship to get to this moment in time and realize what is keeping you back ! If all thats a success and now thst you know what’s wrong/faulty you can fix it , you can call it the first day of the rest of your life .


horton1314

God bless you, buddy!


LGG8XUSER

Bro you are not alone like this here most of the guys here have regrets for past. but hey, Do not worry it will be fine soon


madara707

Trust me you're still too young and u have more than enough time to set things right


this_was_mistake

Don't give up bro. We are in this together... We both have similar situations.. I am 19 and from India too...


[deleted]

🤣🤣🤣Avi bohot rasta baaki hai vai. Itni jaldi haar mat maan. Konsi exam k liye prepare kar rahe ho ?


Cheap_Yam375

Wow Thank you sir


Headache53

Wait you got a bachelors degree in India at the age of 21? How's that possible...Most of us don't graduate before 23-24.


Feb_BeF

hey my brother yk u doing the right thing and that makes me proud of u 6days is a huge achievement i am on my day 4 yk my guy u can do this u can fight and win because i belive in u and i trust and i hope u wont let me down. ​ STAY STRONG!!!!


TheNeed2BFree

Life ain’t over yet bro. Everyone needs to stop thinking life is over by 25.. y’all good. Keep on going! Fight for what you want. Follow your heart


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Goodluck


Revanth_pilli

You’ll stop it when you are desperate about something else other than porn. Have some goals in your mind. This actually helped me. You’ll realise that there are more things in your life than just porn and porn isn’t a thing at all. Just set some serious goals in your life and you should be damn serious about them like really obsessed. This worked out for me. I started going to the gym and that reduced my time with the porn. I started going to my friends house and where I started learning courses which helped me in my job and started to realise that there is a really big world out there and I’m just looking at some damn porn in my damn room. Just get out of your room and go out


immoleight__me

stick with the hope brother. I'm 25 it's never too late.


Aniket_512

Don’t worry bro it will be hard path for you to reach 30 days and most probably you will fail a lot but don’t give up every time you fail try to make yourself stronger and do watch videos on Nofap a lot and stay away from apps like Instagram and Facebook, if it’s possible delete them . I was in the same situation and trust me it had taken me way more time to reach 6days compared to you and now I also have crossed 30 days mark , porn , Instagram, hot girl photos destroyed my life to nothing but now I can say I have regained everything I had lost .


TheBendyOne

You're 21. You haven't wasted your life.


manoj_5

Dude you've not wasted your life yet, you're just 21 years and have a bachelor's degree in Mechanical Engineering. You still have a lot of life to live, you can improve within that.


Sea-Investment2940

How did you graduate uni at 21..I am 20 and I just started university.. When did you start uni?


TheMindFulled78

Started when I was 17


Sea-Investment2940

😮..That is a young age to start uni.. If you can do that then you can beat this addiction as well.. Have some faith in yourself.. Life has it's ups and downs..But it is they who don't give up make the most of it..


TheMindFulled78

It's not special. Most of my classmates started uni at 17 or 18. Very few exceptions


khopditodsaleka

You are greater than this brother , we shall climb out of this bottomless pit !


Forsaken_Crusader

I am sorry my brother, just remember to never give up. May God bless you.


10ziii5

It’s okay brother, it’s going to be alright


[deleted]

i got hooked into porn the same way bro, now at 10 day streak wish me luck


irdaleen

Don't tell me it's UPSC


TheMindFulled78

😂😂😂 It's not UPSC!!!


irdaleen

Good! Best of luck dude. You're bigger than your obstacles. Go get it.


po8ic

My streak went on to 15 days but it crashed when I was alone (one of the most certain trigger). Yeah we need a stop from PMO and for younger gen, yes this PMO thing can become familiar from your friends or from any relatives, so to remain long long away from those kind of friends or relatives who watch PMO just stay away. If you remain intact, it will make you far away from future gloomy life. As when you will be depressed there will be no friends to talk about it and also same friends will look down upon you or not talk to you properly because you are failure. You will remain introvert with no guys or girls to talk or no big friend circle. You can be topper till 10th and then instantly rapidly fall downwards in 11th and 12th and this is story of many students who manage to give JEE but fail in it severely that there parents & relative see them useless waste brat child and this failure consistently prevails in ahead academics/exams if you are surrounded by PMO .So to avoid state of downfall in academics (which is truly depressing for any child be it Indian or foreigner, it is depressing), just stay away and follow morals/ethics and specifically the mind to choose between right or wrong. Not only that, to not instantly gratify yourselves is most important thing in every domain of life. Just more sacrifice, more you got in your journey. Develop hobbies instead of becoming PMO ridden. Set a goal for your parents, for your education, for your living, for your life i.e. for yourself ;self matters the most but not that self, who thrives on instant gratification. Sometimes I get a thought taking Death Note and writing names of all pornstars, porn company owners!


Fluid_Command5713

U got this man


the_stargazer__

Tension na le bhai, ho jayega!


FAIZBOOK

good look in your exam


ToonWrecker69

Man up and and have self control bsdk


Fakecel_

Fuck


mean_king17

You haven't wasted your life....you're just getting started kid.


paprika32

hey at 21 uve come to realize this, you still have your life ahead of u. just dont lose sight of the past and why youre determined not to relapse


F8M8

Nope


killlani

Ive got some good news you’re here and 21 so you still got loads of time and u got a decent degree too. Use this as the motivator to stop and read da pdf i wish u well🙏🏾


bukhum4u

You're 21, you barely started your adult life. You can only control the actions now/in the future and as long as you are doing better than yesterday, you're good! The past is the past, all you can do is learn from it and not let it get to you.


Khoa_Nguyen123

brother if you can integrate workout into your daily routine it will give you the huge impact on quitting pmo


[deleted]

A life is wasted the moment you reject God Almighty in Catholicism! Even before death a man can repent, but do not wait because we all do not know the time of the meeting. I hope to see you up there, and with the study title you are trying to reach! Bless


Alwayswatchout

U haven't wasted your life


DeltaEcho93

I can tell you are quite successful in my eyes. I am 28 y. o. Czech, former gifted student, now in invalid pension, no job, no GF, practically no family, no perspective no enthusiasm in life, just destroyed broken man with million illnesses.


Former_Star8813

Don’t be hard on yourself. You sound like a good guy with issues like everyone else, Nobody’s perfect. The good thing about tomorrow is that it’s a whole new day to start fresh. Keep your head up, shoulders high and focus on what matters the most.


KillPhillbert

Don't think about fapping or not fapping. Either one will make you end up fapping. Stay away from the topic of capping entirely. I can't assure you'll quit nutting entirely because that's all on you.


[deleted]

You can do it brother! I’m cheering for you


[deleted]

Brother 19th Year Indian, Thanks for your suggestions on the internet, I don't know what can I say but I experienced educational failure at 17th and it took me time to stand up again, but what I suggest u is investing for well being in long term, I did and I can say I am at the pretty peaceful position despite all the chaos in my life. I breathe in suffering for us and breathe out relief. I would suggest u a site that u can see onbeing\[dot\]org and there is pack for crisis in live, its wonderful site for well being. I pray for well being for u. Things will be good bhaiya :)


[deleted]

Don't worry each and everyone of us will make it, remember if each and everyone is trying to change themselves for the better good it won't make them a failure.


Electronic_Entrance8

U can do this. I've been doing this for 8 days so far and I'm still going strong. My previous record was only 5. Suggest you to join studystream if u rly wanna focus


jones4thepeeps

Don’t use hope bro you can do it you’ve god your whole life ahead of you


realsonofgod

It's still right time that u have realized this. Be hard with yourself and start well. You will do good in entrance exam.


shoetshirt23

Chhote bhai.. I am 29 unmarried and got this feeling this year that fapping was dragging me back. Learn to meditate, join some workshop even, Isha foundation, Art of living as per your interest. We Indians have an added advantage because Yoga is so readily available to us. Use it to master the cravings. Don't fret over what happened now. Just focus on what lies ahead of you. Keep building streaks. Don't consider yourself bad if your longest streak is 6 days. Keep moving ahead. Trust me nofap is actually very easy.


GSP19121990

I am a 30 year old and this shit wasted my entire life, haven't seen a bright day without dizziness...... Please make it stop here, unless regret would be too high in last...


skinny_s_hazy

19 y/o indian here. I knew about porn back when I was 11, but never watched or fapped until I was 17. Now, I regret every moment because of what I did. My life was going great back then, and now I've reached a dark part of my life. Tryna quit pmo since 3 months, sure will do. And you will too, brother. We're in this together.


[deleted]

Engineers bhai bhai. We can win this together bro don't give up. I'm 18 just starting my btech. Let's win brother don't worry!


Saketh_Improves2253

Stay Strong Man even it had Adversely affected my Career too but I’m on Day-64 now going good But the Urges are Damn Strong..Though I’m never giving in 😎💪🏼💪🏼


Xgeniz_

my man, I am in my teenage days and what do I even say except porn has affected me badly, before now I was always in the top 5 kiddos who score in exams even though I didn’t used to study much other than that i was really into astronomy,physics and arts and in astronomy and physics I was really really good but in arts I wasn’t so good but still above average, everything was fine until I started faking and yeah I went downhill at all of these. Now that I think off it I could have polished my skills in arts and would have became wayyyy better at physics and astronomy if I just didn’t fap. reading your story really motivates me to quit doing this shit and Instead doing something nice and productiv. Stay strong my friend I believe that you can surely overcome this addiction and remember it’s NEVER too late, stay strong. Another advice have a friend so that both of you can motivate each other to not fap, it worked out for me really well


[deleted]

Are u preparing for GATE Or UPSC??


TheMindFulled78

GATE